Ngā Kōrero a te Kaiwhakaora Tāne me te Wahine mō ngā Painga me ngā Huakore o ngā Hononga Tuwhera

Kei te huri haere te ao i ngā whanaungatanga. Ehara i te mea ngāwari noa iho, pērā i te pai ki tētahi, kātahi ka haere tonu ki te marena. He maha ngā wā ka pāngia te tangata e te... noho tahi Ā, tirohia te nui o te hototahitanga o rāua hei tango i te taahiraa e whai ake nei ki te marena, ki ētahi rānei kāore e tango i tēnā. I ēnei rā, e whakarihariha ana ētahi tāngata ki te marena kotahi, nō reira e hiahia ana rātou ki ngā whanaungatanga tuwhera engari ko ngā painga me ngā huakore o ngā whanaungatanga tuwhera te mea kāore e whakaarohia ana e rātou i ngā wā katoa. He maha tonu rātou e uru atu ana ki tētahi whanaungatanga tuwhera me te kore e whakaaro nui.

Tērā pea ka whakaaro koe he aha rawa ngā whanaungatanga tuwhera? I roto i te whanaungatanga tuwhera, ka tuwhera te tokorua ki a rāua anō, ā, ka whakamōhio atu rāua tetahi ki tetahi mō ngā whanaungatanga e uru atu ana rāua. Engari ka pumau tonu, ka mau tonu hoki tō rāua whanaungatanga, ka whakakahangia e te aroha me te whakaute.

I patai atu matou ki to matou tohunga Prachi Vaish tāna tirohanga ki ngā whanaungatanga tuwhera i roto i te hanganga pāpori Īnia o nāianei, ā, anei āna kōrero mō ngā painga me ngā huakore o ngā whanaungatanga tuwhera.

Te pānui e pā ana: He mea hou te whanaungatanga rere, ā, kei te pakaru te ipurangi i tēnei tokorua.

He aha te ōrau o ngā whanaungatanga tuwhera e whai hua ana?

He tino uaua ki te whakatū i te ōrau o te maha o ngā whanaungatanga tuwhera e whai hua ana nā te mea kāore i te rawaka ā mātou raraunga. He maha ngā tāne me ngā wāhine i roto i ngā whanaungatanga tuwhera pono kāore e puta mai ki te kōrero mō tā rātou whārite nā te whakama o te hapori. Engari e whakaatu ana ētahi rangahau me ngā rangahau i mahia i te US me Kanata e 4 ōrau o ngā tāne me ngā wāhine katoa e 2000 i uiuitia kei roto i ngā whanaungatanga tuwhera, arā, ko te kore-mono-wahine whakaae (CNM) te ingoa.

I roto i tenei tuhinga E whakaatu ana ngā tatauranga whanaungatanga tuwhera kua neke atu te tini o te tangata i te moe tāne me te wahine, ā, kua pai ake ki te CNM.

I roto i te rangahau hou rawa atu, he rangahau tuihono i runga i tētahi tauira māngai o te 2,003 o ngā Kānata, i kitea ai e 4 ōrau te whai wāhi ki te CNM. E whakaae ana ētahi atu rangahau—e whakaputa ana rānei i ngā whakatau tata teitei ake:

• I rangahauhia e ngā kairangahau o Te Whare Wānanga o Temple ngā pakeke o Amerika e 2,270, ā, i kitea e 4 ōrau i kōrero mō te CNM.
• I whakaatuhia i roto i tētahi rangahau a Te Whare Wānanga o Indiana i roto i ngā pakeke e 2,021 o Amerika, 10 ōrau o ngā wāhine me te 18 ōrau o ngā tāne i kī mai i moe tahi rāua, neke atu rānei, kotahi te moe takirua.
• I runga anō i ngā tauira Tatauranga o te 8,718 o ngā pakeke takakau o Amerika, i kitea e tētahi atu rōpū kairangahau o Indiana e 21 ōrau—kotahi i roto i te rima—i kī mai i te iti rawa kotahi te wheako o te CNM.

Tērā ētahi whetu rongonui kua noho tuwhera tonu ā rātou hononga. Ko ētahi o ngā ingoa o ngā tāne me ngā wāhine ko Megan Fox rāua ko Brian Austin Green, ko Will Smith rāua ko tana wahine ko Jada Pinkett, ko Ashton Kutcher rāua ko Demi Moore (i te wā i noho tahi ai rāua) me te tokorua o mua a Brad Pitt rāua ko Angelina Jolie kua whakamātau i te herekoretanga ā-ira tangata.

He hauora ngā whanaungatanga tuwhera?

Ka taea e tetahi whanaungatanga te noho hauora mēnā e mārama ana ngā tāngata e rua ki tā rāua e hiahia ana. Mō ngā whanaungatanga tuwhera, he maha ngā momo:

1. Te wā e mōhio ai ngā hoa tokorua ko rāua te momo tangata e pai ana ki te kite i ētahi atu tāngata, me te pupuri tonu i te hononga piripono tetahi ki tetahi

2. E hiahia ana tētahi hoa ki te kite i ētahi atu tāngata engari e aroha pono ana ki tā rātou hoa ture/pūmau, ā, e whakaae pono ana te hoa ki tēnei āhuatanga o te tuakiri o tā rātou hoa, me te tino haumaru hoki i roto i tā rātou whanaungatanga (he tino onge tēnei)

3. He take matua tēnei (hauora/kare ā-roto) e kore ai e taea e tetahi hoa te whai wāhi ki te whanaungatanga, ā, ka taea e tetahi atu te rapu i te whakatutukitanga i waho o te whanaungatanga.

4. He whanaungatanga tuwhera e ahu mai ana i te taha tinana, e 'takaro' ana ngā hoa ki ētahi atu tāngata o waho engari e hono ana ki te taha wairua me te hoa ture/pūmau anake.

5. Te whanaungatanga maha, te wā e mārama ai, e whakaae ai hoki ngā hoa ka taea e rātou te aroha ki te neke atu i te kotahi te tangata, me te pupuri i te neke atu i te kotahi te whanaungatanga aroha piripono.

He ariā hou tēnei i Inia, he nui te tūponotanga o te tukino me te whara. He maha ngā tāne me ngā wāhine kua tūtaki ahau ki a rātou e kī ana kei te pirangi rāua ki ngā momo āhua moepuku whānui, engari ko ia tonu te tangata e hiahia ana ki te takaro noa i ngā mea moepuku, ā, ka tukua e te wahine/te hoa wahine te whakaaro nā te mea e wehi ana ia kei whakarērea ia e ia mēnā kāore ia e takaro, ka whakarērea ia e ia.

He kōrero pono ēnei mō te whanaungatanga tuwhera e kore e taea te whakakore. Kei te noho tonu ēnei, ā, ka nui te taumahatanga hinengaro e pā ana ki te hunga e whai wāhi ana ki tēnei momo whanaungatanga.

Waihoki, kei reira ngā wāhine/ngā hoa wahine e pai ana ki te herekore ki te kite i ētahi atu tāne, me te "tuku" i ā rātou tāne ki te whakawhanaunga ki ētahi atu wāhine i ētahi wā, kia kore ai e taea e rātou te whakahē i te wahine. He tauira katoa ēnei o te rerekētanga i waenga i te tukino me te whanaungatanga tuwhera pono. Koinei ngā painga me ngā huakore o ngā whanaungatanga tuwhera.

Ko te whanaungatanga tuwhera, hauora, tūturu, e ahu mai ana i te whakaae, te whakaute tetahi ki tetahi, ngā rohe me te aroha nui tetahi ki tetahi, e harikoa ai te tangata i te kitenga i tōna hoa e harikoa ana, me te kore e whakarērea ōna ake kare ā-roto.

He aha ngā painga me ngā huakore o ngā whanaungatanga tuwhera?

Ko te mea tuatahi me mārama ngā tāne me ngā wāhine, ehara te whanaungatanga tuwhera i te mea hanga tuturu. Kei runga i te kaupapa whānui. Ko te aha, te nui rānei o tō haerenga ki tētahi whanaungatanga tuwhera, kei a KOE tonu te tikanga, ko koe te whakatau i ngā ture e hiahia ana koe kia whai – he ngāwari noa iho pea pērā i te kihi noa i tētahi atu, ā, he uaua rawa atu pērā i te noho tahi me te tokorua.

Ko tētahi atu mea hei maumahara ko te whakatau ki te whakamātau i tētahi whanaungatanga tuwhera he kāore i rite ki te tahuritanga kāore e taea te huri. Ehara i te mea kāore e taea e koe te hoki whakamuri mēnā ka mōhio koe ehara i te mea māu. Nā, he aha ngā painga me ngā huakore o ngā whanaungatanga tuwhera?

Ngā Painga, Ngā Painga rānei o ngā Hononga Tuwhera

• Mā tēnei ka kite ngā hoa i tā rātou hoa e maiohatia ana, ka aro atu ai rātou ki te āhua e hiahia ana te hoa kia maiohatia.
• Ka hoatu he whai wāhi ki a koe ki te wheako i te harikoa o tētahi whanaungatanga hou, me te kore e pā ki te mamae me te mamae o te ngākau korekore.
• I roto i ngā wā maha, kua tata ake ngā tāne me ngā wāhine ki te mahi i te mea tika nā te mea ka whakatuwhera i ngā mea hou ngā taumata whakawhitiwhiti kōrero kāore anō kia wheakohia e rātou i mua.
• He whakamaumahara tēnei he mea ngahau te moepuku, he rite ki te hākinakina, ehara i te mea he oati, he mea nui, he mea herekore.
• I ētahi wā, he harikoa ake ngā marena o te hunga e tuwhera ana ngā hononga, he nui ake ā rātou kōrero i ngā āhuatanga kore-ira tangata o te ao, ā, he iti ake te hae.

Hei tauira, ki te tākaro tēnehi koe, ā, he hoa tākaro pūmau tāu, ki te tākaro rua, toru rānei āu tākaro me ētahi atu kaitākaro i runga i te papa tākaro, ka whakaitihia rānei tō kēmu, ka puta rānei he raruraru ki tō hoa tēnehi pūmau? Kāo. Ko te tikanga o te moepuku he rite tonu ki tēnā. Nō reira, ki te titiro tātou ki ngā painga me ngā huakore o ngā whanaungatanga tuwhera, koinei ngā painga hei tirotiro.

Ngā Huakore, Ngā Huakore rānei o ngā Hononga Tuwhera

• He tino uaua ki ngā hoa tokorua te noho tahi taua whārangi ōrite tonu mō ngā mea e hiahiatia ana e rātou mai i tētahi whanaungatanga tuwhera; hei tauira, ko te tāne pea e hiahia ana ki ngā momo taunekeneke moepuku rerekē, ko te wahine ia e rapu ana i tētahi hononga ki tētahi atu, i te ritenga kē rānei.
• Ki te kore he whakawhitiwhiti kōrero mārama, e kore e taea te karo i te hae me te kore whakawhirinaki
• Kua whakaritea tātou e te hapori mō te moe tāne, te moe tāne, nō reira he tino uaua ki te ngana ki te wehe atu i tēnā, ā, ka hua ake pea he raruraru pēnei i te raruraru tuakiri, te pouri rānei. manukanuka.
• I ētahi wā ka tīmata te tangata me te hihiri nui, engari kātahi ka puta he hoa rangatira ka noho hei rangatira ā, e kore e pai ki te haere tonu, engari kāore te hoa kē e pai ki te tuku.
• Ka taea e ngā whanaungatanga tuwhera te whakararu i te hinengaro me te pouri nui mēnā kāore e taea e ngā hoa tokorua te whakahaere i ngā hoa maha me ō rātou awe ki tō rātou whanaungatanga matua.

Ki te tirohia ngā painga me ngā huakore o ngā whanaungatanga tuwhera, ka kitea e tātou ko ngā ngoikoretanga e puta ake ana i te meka ka ngaro te tirohanga a ngā tāne me ngā wāhine ki ā rātou whāinga, ā, ka pōhēhē rawa rātou mō ō rātou kare ā-roto me ō rātou hiahia ina awhi rātou i te momo noho whanaungatanga tuwhera. Koia te take ko ngā ture whanaungatanga tuwhera te mea me whai e rātou. Koinā taku e whai ake nei.

Te pānui e pā ana: Anei te āhua o te whakahaere a tēnei tokorua i te uauatanga o tētahi whanaungatanga tuwhera

He ture kei reira mō ngā whanaungatanga tuwhera?

Ka taea te whakahaere i ngā raruraru whanaungatanga tuwhera mēnā ka piri te tangata ki ngā ture. Ae! Ko ngā kiritaki katoa e āwhinahia ana e au ki te whakawhiti ki ngā whanaungatanga tuwhera, Ka hoatu e au he huinga ture ki a rātou, he mea tino nui ēnei, ā, me āta whai. I ētahi wā ka pātai mai te tangata he aha i kore ai e angitu ngā whanaungatanga tuwhera?

Ko nga tikanga ko:

1. Tīmata āta rawa

Noho mai, kōrero ki a kōrua, kia mārama ai ō whakaaro mō te ariā; he aha ngā mea kei roto i ō mōhiotanga moepuku, he aha ngā mea e mārama ana koe ki tēnā, he aha ngā arai hinengaro ki a koe, he aha ngā mea e whakamā ai koe ki tēnā?

2. Tīmata ki te wawata

Engari i te peke atu ki te whakauru atu ki ētahi atu tāngata mai i te tīmatanga, kawea mai te wawata o ētahi atu tāngata i roto i te rūma moe; mātakihia ngā kiriata pakiwaitara tokotoru, tokowhā rānei; waihangahia he wawata kei reira tētahi atu tangata e whai wāhi ana. Ki te aro nui kōrua, mā te reo tinana o tētahi ki tētahi e whakaatu ki a koe te wāhi e kore ai e pai. Kātahi ka whai wā ki te wetewete i ēnei here.

3. Kia tino mōhio koe ki ō take

Kia mārama tonu te take e hiahia ana koe ki te mahi i tēnei, ā, me kōrero aua take ki tō hoa. Kātahi ka whakaute i ngā urupare a tō hoa ki aua take, ahakoa he pai, he kino rānei, ngana ki te whakaoti tahi i aua take.

4. Kia mohio ki te wa ka mutu

Te whana o te tūtaki ki tētahi tangata hou i ngā wā katoa e hiahia ana koe, me te whiwhi i tētahi whakanui i te ego he tino waranga. Engari ehara i te mea he pai mōu i ngā wā katoa.

Ki te tīmata te raru ki a koe pērā i te pā ki tō whakahaere wā, ki tō mahi, ki ō kawenga (ina koa he tamariki āu) me tō oranga pāpori 'noa', kua tae ki te wā ki te okioki.

He ture te marena tuwhera i Inia?

Kāo, ā, ki taku whakaaro kāore he koki ture mō ngā whanaungatanga tuwhera. Ehara i te mea kei te moe koe i te tangata tuatoru. Nā te mea kei te noho tonu rātou, ko ngā whanaungatanga tuwhera he herekore ki te tūhura i ngā pae tawhiti hou.

Mā te kōrero mō ngā mea pēnei i te whakamana i a rātou, kei te hanga koe i tētahi atu ngana ki te whakatakoto rohe mō rātou, e whakakore ana i te kaupapa matua o te whai hononga tuwhera. Ko te mea me mahi ko te whakarato i te whakaae pāpori ki a rātou.

Ahakoa tokorua ngā tāngata i roto i te whārite, tokotoru rānei, tokowhā rānei, neke atu rānei, kaua e whakahaweatia nā te mea nā te tokorua te whiringa, ā, nā rāua anō hoki ngā hua ka puta mai.

He aha te hiranga o tētahi whanaungatanga tuwhera?

E taunaki ana koe i tētahi hononga tuwhera hei whakaora i tētahi marena? He mea tēnei e rangona pinepinetia ana e au, ā, ko taku whakautu, KĀORE rawa. Kaua rawa te whakaaro o tētahi hononga tuwhera e whakamahia hei whakatika i tētahi marena pakaru.

Mena kei te pakaru te marena, nā te mea kua motu te whakawhitiwhiti kōrero i waenganui i ngā hoa tokorua, ā, e kore rawa e taea te whakatau i taua raruraru mā te kawe mai i tētahi atu tangata ki tētahi āhuatanga kua pakaru kē. Ko taku mahi he whakatika i te marena i te tuatahi, ā, ina hono anō rāua, kua whakatūria he turanga pakari mō rāua anō, kātahi ka taea e rāua te tākaro me ētahi atu tāngata.

Ko te kaupapa o tētahi whanaungatanga tuwhera he pupuri i te turanga o te whanaungatanga matua kia mau tonu, kia kaha ake hoki, i a kōrua e rapu ana i tētahi momo rerekē i waho o te marena me te whakaae tahi.

He pai, he kino hoki ngā whanaungatanga tuwhera, engari he mea nui te whai i ngā ture whanaungatanga tuwhera mēnā ka whakatau te tokorua ki te noho tahi. Me mōhio hoki te hunga e hiahia ana ki te uru atu ki tētahi whanaungatanga tuwhera kei reira anō ngā raruraru, ā, ka tīmata te hononga kare ā-roto. Ahakoa ngā kōrero me ngā whakawhitiwhiti kōrero auau ki te hoa, kāore e taea te whakakore i te hae me te raruraru kare ā-roto. Engari mēnā ka taea te whakatau i ngā mea i waenganui i te hoa, ka pai te haere o tētahi whanaungatanga tuwhera.

Mō ngā tohutohu mō te marena, whakapā atu ki:

He tohunga hinengaro haumanu a Prachi S Vaish, he kaiwhakaora takirua hoki, ā, kua whai wāhi nui ia ki te whakatutuki i tētahi kaupapa motuhake – arā, te āwhina i ngā takirua e hiahia ana ki te whai i tētahi momo noho moepuku rerekē pērā i te whakawhiti, te whakawhiti, te whanaungatanga maha-ira me ngā whanaungatanga tuwhera.

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