Ngā Take 10 hei Mārena, hei Whai Oranga Harikoa

Kia hipa atu koe i te rua tekau mā rima tau, ka kite koe i te pakarutanga mai o te hiahia mō te marena i roto i tō taiao. Te āhua nei ka pāngia te katoa e te hiahia mō te marena i tētahi wā, i tētahi wā rānei. Kī tonu ō pāpāho pāpori i ngā whakaahua marena. Ā, ko koe te tangata takakau, harikoa (te tangata rānei e whakaatu ana i te hiahia mō ngā whanaungatanga uaua) kei te tautohetohe koe ki ō mātua, "Homai he take tekau mōku ki te marena."

I tēnei wā, tera pea ka rongo koe i ētahi kupu whakakatakata pēnei i ō mātua, pēnei i te, "He tau motuhake mō ngā mea katoa o te ao. Nō reira, me marena ahakoa kua kitea e koe te aroha, kāore rānei," e hiahia ana rānei tō hoa pai kia marena koe nā te mea e hiahia ana ia ki te hoko kakahu mō ngā hoa wahine marena. Haunga te whakatutuki i ngā tumanakohanga koretake a ētahi atu, he maha ngā take whai hua hei kimi hoa rangatira mō te ao, hei whakatau i a koe anō, ā, koinei tonu te mea ka kōrerohia e tātou i tēnei rā.

He aha te marena?

Kia whakarērea te kōrero tawhito ngā whakamāramatanga o te marena Me te mea he whare pāpori, he hononga ture rānei, kātahi ka peke atu ki te wāhanga pai. He aha te āhua o te marena harikoa, hauora hoki? Kei te aroha koe! Ā, e hiahia ana koe ki te whakanui i te hononga ataahua kei a koe me tō hoa, me te whakapuaki i taua harikoa ki ngā whanaunga me ngā hoa. Nō reira, ka herea e koe te pona kia mana ai i te tirohanga a te ao me te ture.

Ko te mea e hangai ana ki tētahi marena harikoa ko te wāhanga e whai ake nei i muri i te hui marena – te pai o te urutau a te tokorua ki tēnei ao hou, te whakahaere i ngā arai e haere mai ana, me te noho tahi mō te wā roa. rangahau a-motu I roto i tētahi rangahau i whakahaerehia i roto i ngā whenua 50 o Amerika, i kitea ko ngā kaha matua e rima o tētahi marena hauora ko te whakawhitiwhiti kōrero, te piripono, te ngāwari, te hototahi o ngā tuakiri, me te whakatau pakanga.

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tatauranga E whakaatu ana ngā pakeke kua moe (58%) he nui ake te harikoa o te hunga kua moe i roto i te whanaungatanga i te hunga e noho tahi ana (41%). He rerekē te hiranga o te marena i ia tangata, i ia tangata, i runga i ō rātou whāinga me ō rātou whakaaro i te ao. Heoi, ki te mea kei konei koe e rapu ana i tētahi tirohanga pai mō te marena, ka hoatu e mātou ki a koe ētahi take e rima he aha te hiranga o te marena, ā, he mea nui tonu i roto i tō tātou hapori, ahakoa te ira tangata me te moepuku:

• Ka hoatu he hoa mōu i roto i te hauora me te mate mō te wa katoa
• Te harikoa me te te whanaungatanga kare ā-roto i roto i te marena pā ki tō hauora tinana mō te wā roa
• Mā te marena ka huaki te kuaha ki ngā painga ture me ngā painga ōhanga maha
• Ko te noho tahi o ngā mātua e rua i roto i te marena tētahi o ngā huarahi pai rawa atu hei whakatipu i te tamaiti
• He haerenga mōrearea te marena – he haerenga e kitea ai e kōrua ko tō hoa rangatira i roto i tētahi tirohanga hou i ia rā, i ia rā.

10 Ngā Take hei Marena (He Tino Pai!)

Tērā pea e rua, e toru rānei ngā tau e noho tahi ana kōrua ko tō hoa. Te āhua nei kua tae kōrua ki tētahi wāhi e whakaaro ana kōrua mō te taahiraa e whai ake nei mō tēnei whanaungatanga. Ā, kāore e taea te karo i te whakaaro mēnā he mea tino tika kia whakamanahia tēnei hononga me te tohu o te marena, ina hoki mā te neke tahi noa iho ka taea e kōrua te whiwhi i tētahi oranga whai hua.

I te mea he whakatau nui te marena i roto i te oranga o te tangata, he tokomaha o tātou e mataku ana kei tango i taua peke. Ngā take whakapau kaha, ko te manukanuka mō te ngaronga o te herekoretanga, ko te wehi rānei kei ngaro ngā mea hou ka whakapōrearea i tō tātou whakaaro. Engari he maha atu anō ngā āhuatanga o te marena i tua atu i te hokohoko kai me te tāpiri atu i ngā manga ki te whakapapa. Nō reira, hei whakauru atu i a koe ki te whakaaro, ka hoatu e mātou ki a koe ngā take pai e 10 mō te marena:

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1. Kei te aroha koe

Haunga te aroha, he maha ngā take e hiahia ana te tokomaha ki te marena, engari i runga i te raupapa o ngā take, ko te aroha tonu te mea nui. Mā te aroha tō ao e huri. Ka tīmata koe ki te whakaaro i te whakaaro o kōrua ko tō hoa rangatira i roto i ō kōrua tūranga hou hei hoa rangatira.

He uaua ki a tātou katoa te aro atu ki ō tātou feaa me ō tātou āwangawanga mō ngā arai o te oranga hou e haria mai ana e te marena. Engari ko te mea anake e hiahiatia ana ko te tangata tika kia puta mai, kia kore ai e whai hua aua kare ā-roto kino. Kei taua momo aroha te mana ki te pana i a koe kia tata atu ki te marena o ō moemoeā.

 2. Ka whiwhi koe i tētahi pūnaha tautoko pai

Kāore he wā whakamā, kāore he wā e mōhio ai ki tētahi tangata mai i te tīmatanga, kāore he mamae o te wehenga – i roto i te poto, ko te marena tētahi atu ingoa mō te pumau. Ko te tikanga o te marena ko te urunga atu ki ngā ngoikoretanga, te harikoa, me ngā mamae o tētahi ki tētahi i runga i te taumata hohonu. Ka taea e te hoa rangatira tautoko te noho hei awe nui i roto i ō wā pai me ō wā kino. Mena kei te rapu koe i ngā take aroha hei marena, ka taea e koe te whakawhirinaki ki tēnei.

• Mai i te haereere ki ngā koha iti ki ngā kai i mahia i te kāinga, te hunga kua marenatia kia pai ki ngā mea ngāwari o te ao tetahi ki tetahi ake tonu atu
• Ko te hunga kua marenatia e maioha ana tetahi ki tetahi, e whakapono ana ki te whakawhitiwhiti kōrero hauora, ā, e whakapono ana ki tā rātou marena, ka taea e rātou te mahi hei rōpū kaha o te tokorua.
• Mai i te tiaki i ngā mātua kaumātua me ngā tamariki ki ngā mahi o te kīhini, ka nui ake te āwhina ka riro i a koe nā te mea kāore koe i te mokemoke i tēnei āhuatanga.

3. Ka tohaina e koe tō oranga ki tētahi

Te moe tahi me te oho ake, te whakarite hararei me ngā wiki mutunga, te whakatau rānei i te mea hei tunu ki te kāinga – koinei ngā mea tino pai i roto i te marena. Mō te tini o ngā tāne me ngā wāhine, ko te inu kawhe i te ata te tikanga tino nui e mau tonu ana i a rātou mō ō rātou oranga katoa. Kei te whakaaro koe i muri i te noho takakau roa, kua rite koe ki te tuku i te punga me te whakapuaki i tō oranga ki tētahi? Āe, kua rongo tātou i ngā pere marena.

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4. Mā te marena koe e whakanui ake ai i tō kawenga

Ahakoa pai, ahakoa kāore, i tētahi wā o te ao, me pakeke koe, me tīmata ki te whakatau i ngā whakataunga pakeke. Ā, ko tētahi o ngā take whaitake e moe ai te tangata, nā te mea ka ako te marena i a koe ki te noho hei pakeke haepapa. Ko taku hoa a Dan he tangata nanakia tonu – te moe pō roa, ngā hākinakina morearea, me ērā atu mea! Ā, nā tēnā i tino miharo ai ahau ki te kite i a ia e tau ana ki te tūranga o te tāne pono hei tāne kua moe. Te kawenga i roto i te marena te tikanga:

• Te hiahia ki te atawhai me te manaaki i tētahi atu tangata i tua atu i a koe anō
• Te mahi kaha ake kia nui ake te moni hei oranga mō te whānau
• Te whakatutuki i ngā mahi ōrite hei whakahaere i tētahi whare noho humarie
• Kia mau ki te pono ki tō hoa rangatira, me te whakapau kaha ki tētahi hononga pumau ka taea anake e te marena te kawe mai

5. E hiahia ana koe ki te hanga whānau

E titiro ana koe ki ngā mātua kua moe i roto i te porowhita o tō hoa, ā, e hiahia ana koe kia aroha ki tētahi tamaiti iti? E ​​whakaaro ana mātou, i a koe e tipu ake ana, kua whakatipu tonu koe i te whakaaro mō tētahi whānau me ngā tamariki, ā, e kite ana koe i a koe e ngāwari ana ki te uru atu ki ngā tūranga mātua. Mena koinā, ko te huarahi māmā me te huarahi ataahua rawa atu ki te tāpiri atu ki te rākau whānau ko te marena. Kāore he mea e nui ake ana te whai hua i te whakatipu i tētahi tamaiti me te aroha o tōu ora. He mōkai rānei, mena koinā te wāhi e takoto ai tō ngākau.

6. Ka koroheke koe me tētahi atu

Ko tētahi o ngā take tino whaitake mō te marena ko te whai pou kaha i roto i tō koiora i a koe e koroheke ana. Rangahau a te Kura Hauora o Harvard e whakaatu ana he pai ake te hauora me te roa o te ora o ngā tāne kua mārena i te hunga kāore i mārena, i te hunga rānei i mutu ai ā rātou mārenatanga ki te whakarere. Ina wehe atu ngā tamariki, ka taea e te hunga kua mārena te whakawhirinaki tetahi ki tetahi.

I roto i te wā, i a koe e mōhio hohonu ana ki tō hoa rangatira, ka mōhio koe ki te toi o te kōrero puku, pērā i te mārama ki ngā mea kei roto i ō rātou hinengaro me te kore e kōrero mai rātou. He pai ake anō ngā maharatanga maha ka taea e koe te hanga me tētahi i roto i te marena me te whanaungatanga ka taea e koe te hanga mārire i roto i ngā tau.

7. He take pūtea kei muri i te marena

Ahakoa te ahua tino whaihua o tēnei, kāore e taea te wareware i ngā painga pūtea e puta mai ana i te marena. He mārama, he nui ake te moni ina honoa ō moni whiwhi me ō hinengaro, ā, ko te tikanga he oranga watea ake. He rerekē ki te whakapono rongonui e pau ana ō moni i te marena, ka whiwhi moni koe ina marena koe. Hei tauira,

• Me utu e koe he moni taake iti iho mō ō whiwhinga moni katoa hei tangata kua marenatia.
• Ka whiwhi koe i te urunga ki ngā kaupapa here inihua iti ake te utu, ā, ka nui ake tō āheinga ki te whiwhi mokete hei tokorua
• Mena he tangata mahi kōrua, ka taea e kōrua te whiriwhiri i ngā momo inihua hauora e rua
• Ano hoki, ka taea e koe pūtea wehewehe kaua e tukua kia kotahi te tangata hei pikau i te kawenga katoa

8. Ka whiwhi koe i ngā painga ture

Ehara pea i te mea ko tētahi o ngā take tino aroha mō te marena, engari he nui ake tōna hiranga ki te tokomaha atu i tō whakaaro. Hei tauira, ko ngā tāne me ngā wāhine ira-takirua, i roto i ngā whenua maha e whawhai tonu ana mō ngā tika ture ki te marena, e hiahia ana kia mōhiotia tō rātou hononga ki te aroaro o te marea. Ko te marena te mahi tino aroha mō te maha o ngā tāne me ngā wāhine kāore e taea te noho tahi mō te visa, mō tētahi atu ture manene rānei. Hei tāpiri, he maha atu ngā painga ture o te marena ina tae mai ki te whakamahere whenua, te haumarutanga pāpori, tae noa ki te whāngai tamariki.

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9. Ka taea e koe te pārekareka ki te whanaungatanga ā-tinana

E kīia ana ka tangohia e te marena te mura o tō whanaungatanga nā te mea ka tau tō kōrua ki tētahi manawataki, engari ka taea hoki te rerekē. Mēnā he hototahi ā-ira tā kōrua marena, ka kitea e kōrua te harikoa i roto i te whanaungatanga piripono ahakoa kei roto koe i ōu tau 50. He mea hono tonu te taatai ​​i roto i tō kōrua whanaungatanga.

10. Mā te whanaungatanga kare ā-roto ka tau te pumau

O ngā take tekau katoa mō te marena, ko te whakatutuki i te whanaungatanga kare ā-roto te mea nui rawa atu. Ka tutuki i a koe te whanaungatanga kare ā-roto mā te whakawhitiwhiti kōrero, ā, ka hoatu he wairua nōu, he hononga ki tēnei tangata aroha e karangatia ana e koe ko tāu wahine/tāne. Ina kei te te hononga ki tō hoa rangatira i te taumata hohonu ake, e tino mārama ana kōrua tetahi ki tetahi, ā, ka taea e kōrua te whakahaere ngātahi i ngā piki me ngā heke o te ao, ano he rōpū.

10 Ngā Take Hē mō te Marena

Kua hoha koe ki ngā rā whakamā, ā, kāore he hononga tūturu e hanga ana? E tino whakarihariha ana koe ki te hoki ki tētahi whare mokemoke, ki te kai tina ko koe anake? Kei te noho mokemoke koe nā te mea kei te moe tāne te hunga katoa i tō taha? Tae noa ki tēnei wā, kua kōrerohia e tātou te... ngā take whai hua mō te marena ā, ehara ēnei i te mea kotahi o aua mea. Tena koa whakaarohia i mua i te tīmatanga o te tono i ngā kaihoko marena, i te tango rānei i aua taupānga marena mēnā he pai ki a koe tētahi o ēnei take:

1. E hiahia ana koe ki te marena kia kitea ai ō raruraru whanaungatanga

Kāore he mea e tika ana i roto i tō whanaungatanga aroha, ā, kei te ngau tonu ngā feaa i a koe. E whakaaro ana koe mā te noho hei tokorua marena e whakaiti i te āwangawanga, te ahotea, me ngā feaa me tō hoa, ā, ka whakapūmau i te pumau. Kei te tumanako koe mā te ao i muri i te marena ka whakangawari i ētahi o ngā hapa o tō whanaungatanga aroha.

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 2. Kāore koe e hiahia ki te aro atu ki ō raruraru whaiaro

E whakaakona ana tātou e tō tātou hapori kia kite i te marena hei otinga kotahi mō ō tātou raruraru katoa. He tokomaha o tātou e hiahia ana ki te whakapono ki tēnei moemoeā ahakoa kāore anō kia tūtaki ki ō tātou ake rewera. Ko te nuinga, e hiahia ana tātou ki te mawhiti i tō tātou ake wehi kei pāngia e te mamae o te tamarikitanga, te wehenga kino, te korenga o te mahi, ngā raruraru hohonu rānei ki ō tātou mātua, ā, e tumanako ana ki te marena me te hoa rangatira hei mahi mā tātou. Engari i te mutunga, ka whai wāhi noa iho ki te teitei o te... te auau whakarere o te 35%-50%.

3. Nā te mea "kei te mahi te katoa i tēnei"

Ki te hunga takakau, ka tino hoha te noho hei hoa wahine, hei hoa tāne pai rānei i ia marena. Ka nui ake ngā marena e haere atu ana koe, ka nui ake te tūtaki ki ngā whanaunga pākiki e pātai ana ki ō mahere noho tahi. Kāore te oranga takakau e mau tonu te ataahua o mua. Kei te pukumahi katoa ō hoa kua moe ki te hono atu i a koe ki te tautuhinga hoahoa kia taea ai e koutou te whakawhanaunga tahi i ngā pō takirua. He mea noa iho, ka puta ake ngā whakaaro mō te marena i roto i tō hinengaro ināianei, he maha atu i mua.

4. Kei te piki haere te taumahatanga o te whānau

I tētahi atu rā, i a māua e kōrero ana ki taku hoa mahi, ki a Rolinda, ka mea ia, "Ko ia waea mai a tōku māmā i ēnei rā he amuamu noa iho mō te marena. Kei te uaua haere te pupuri i te manawanui me te atawhai i te whānau." Ka taea e te pēhanga mai i ngā whanaunga te noho hei kawenga nui i muri i tētahi tau. Kei te kitea tonu te marena hei tikanga whakawhiti i roto i tō tātou hapori. Ina he take āwangawanga tō tō whānau, kei a koe te tikanga mēnā ka tū tonu koe ki tō whakaaro, ka tuku rānei i ā rātou tono.

5. Kei te hiahia nui koe ki te marena moemoeā

Kī tonu tō whāngai pāpāho pāpori i ngā whakaahua marena tino ataahua me ngā ataata kanapa. E tika ana, ka whakamatautauria hoki koe ki te whakamaherehia he marena ataahua o Hune, tū mō aua whakaahua ataahua, ka haere ki te haerenga honi. He āhua ataahua tōu i muri i te marena, ā, e hiahia ana koe ki aua whāinga wawata mō te tokorua i roto i ngā marama tuatahi, pērā i ngā tāngata kua marenatia i tō taha.

 6. Kua mārena tō hoa o mua, tō hoa o mua rānei

Kia pono tātou, ko wai kāore e pāngia e te hae ina tūtaki ki ngā whakaahua marena o tētahi hoa o mua me tētahi hoa hou e titiro ana ki te noho tahi mō te wa roa, i a kōrua anake he wehenga hou me tā kōrua kohinga DVD? Tērā pea ka meinga koe e te marena kia anga whakamua i roto i tēnei kēmu whakahihiri o te 'tākaro hou i runga i te poraka'.

7. Te mokemoke me te hoha

I te ngaromanga haere o ana hoa, ka kite a Anne, tā mātou kaipānui nō LA, he rerekē ngā kaupapa matua o te hunga kua marenatia, ā, ka waiho ia hei mea rerekē. Kua roa rawa ia ki te kimi hoa hou, ā, kāore i rite te pai o te whakaipoipo ki ngā wā o mua. Nā te iti o ana hoa mō te whakahoahoa, he maha āna wā mokemoke, ā, i whakaaro ia ko te hoa rangatira te rongoā tino pai hei ārai i tōna mokemoke. He waimarie, i a ia tana hoa pai hei kukume i a ia i taua wāhi hinengaro, ā, kei konei mātou hei mahi i taua mea anō māu.

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8. Me kawe e koe te whakapapa ki mua

He tini ngā tāngata o tō whānau e whānau ana, e whakatupu ana i ō rātou whakapapa, ā, māu anō hoki e whakatakoto. Ki te hiahia koe ki tētahi pēpi nā te whakaaro mātua, he pai tēnā. Engari ki te mea ko te titiro ki ngā mātua kua moe i roto i tō rōpū pāpori te take e whakararuraru ana i a koe i te pēpi, i te whānautanga rānei o tētahi tamaiti, ko koe anake. te kaupapa o tēnei marena, kātahi ka hiahia koe ki te mōhio he nui atu i tērā te marena.

9. E hiahia ana koe ki te whakahaere i tētahi

Ki te mea he āhua whakahaere tōu, ka hiahia pea koe ki tētahi hoa ngohengohe e whai ana, e ngohengohe ana ki a koe. Kia maumahara atu mātou ko te whakahaere he mahi tukino i roto i tētahi whanaungatanga. Me marena noa mēnā ka taea e koe te noho hei hoa ōrite, ki te kore kaua e whakaaro ki tēnā.

10. Me whai hoa koe ki te mahi i ngā mahi o te whare

Kua hoha koe ki te noho pōrearea o tō whare, e kino ana koe ki ngā mahi o te whare me te aroturuki i ngā pire, ā, e hiahia ana koe kia mahia e tō hoa māu. E hiahia ana koe kia whakatauhia tēnei raruraru e te marena. Tukua mātou kia kī atu ki a koe, ka hanga e koe he tane mangere he wahine mangere rānei, ā, ka whakarihariha tō hoa ki a koe mō tō koretake me tō koretake. He hononga mahi te marena e mahi ai ngā hoa tokorua i ngā momo mahi katoa, nō reira kaua e tumanako ka pupuri tō hoa i te whare māu.

Ko tā mātou tumanako ka whakamāramahia e ēnei take tekau mō te marena (kaua hoki e marena) ō whakatau. Hei whakamutunga, me kī koe "Ae" ina rite koe – kaua nā te pēhanga a te whānau, a te hoa rānei, kaua hoki e pehi i ō ngoikoretanga, i ō āwangawanga rānei, nā te mea mā te pera, ka tinihanga noa koe i a koe anō me tō hoa.

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