22 Ngā Tohu o te Tāne Kua Mārena e Whakaipoipo Ana—Ehara i te mea he Ataahua Noa Ia!

He maha ngā wā ka pā mai he raruraru me ngā whārite pōrearea ki tētahi tāne kua moe tāne, he mea whakataki ki tētahi atu. Kāore e kore, ka pōhēhē pea koe. Nā te kore e tino mōhio ki āna whakaaro, tera pea ka raru koe i ngā pātai pēnei i,

• He tika taku pānui i tēnei?
• He pā whakawaiwai i āta whakaarohia, he tangata whanoke rānei ahau?
• I tukuna atu e au te karere hē ki a ia i tētahi ara?
• Me pēhea taku whakautu ki āna tono whakamua?
• Ka taea e au te mahi i tetahi mea hei karo i tēnā?

Ahakoa he pai ki a koe te aro me te pai ki te takaro ki tētahi tāne kua mārenatia, he uaua ki te mōhio kei hea te rohe. Ki te kore koe e tūpato, tera pea ka kitea e koe te aroha ki tētahi tāne kua kōrerotia kētia mōna. He aha mēnā kei te takaro noa ia i tētahi mahi takaro kino, kāore i te hiahia kia haere tonu? Tērā pea ka whara koe.

I tētahi atu taha, me pēhea mēnā kei te takaro ia me te ngākau nui, ā, mā tō whakautu ia e whakatenatena kia whiti i te rohe o te pono? Āe, ka mutu ko koe te wahine kē atu i roto i tōna ao, ā, ka tū tonu koe ki te mamae. Ahakoa te āhua o te āhua, tera pea ka uaua haere te āhuatanga. Nō reira, he mea nui kia mōhio ki ngā tohu ngaro e takaro ana te tāne kua moe tāne ki a koe, kia taea ai e koe te whakahaere i te āhuatanga me te whai hua.

22 Ngā Tohu o te Tāne Kua Mārenatia e Whakataetae Ana ki a Koe

E ai ki te ako, he nui ake te tūponotanga o ngā tāne kua marena ki te tinihanga i ā rātou hoa rangatira i ngā wāhine kua marena. He rite ngā raraunga ki te whakaaro noa - ehara i te mea onge kia marena te tāne, ā, e rapu ana i te aro, i te nui atu rānei. Nō reira, ko taua hoa mahi kua marena e titiro matatau ana ki a koe, tera pea kei te tinihanga i a koe. He aha, e whakaaro ana koe? Āe, he maha ngā take e takaro ai ngā tāne kua marena:

• Akene ka hiahia rātou ki te whakanui ake i tō rātou whakaaro nui ki a rātou anō me te whakapono ki a rātou anō, me te ine mēnā he ātaahua tonu rātou.
• Tērā pea kua hoha ētahi ki tō rātou oranga marena, ā, e hiahia ana ki te tāpiri i ngā momo mea rerekē me ngā mea kakara.
• Tērā pea ētahi e mahi tahi ana me te kore hototahitanga ā-ira tangata me tā rātou hoa rangatira, me te rapu i tētahi atu wāhi moepuku
• Ko ētahi ka takaro takaro hei kukume i te aro o ngā wāhine, hei rongonui hoki i waenga i a rātou
• Tērā pea ka tino aro atu ētahi ki tētahi kōtiro, ka takaro ki a ia hei whakawhanake i tētahi whanaungatanga ki a ia.

Ahakoa te take, kotahi te mea e mārama ana, kua piripono te tāne ki tētahi hononga. He wāhi morearea tonu tēnā hei takahi atu, ahakoa te ataahua, te ngawari rānei o te tāne e whakaatu ana i tōna hiahia ki a koe. Tērā pea ka kī ngā tāne kua moe tāne e takaro ana he kōrero noa iho, he mahi whakangahau noa iho rānei. Engari ki te whakahoki koe mā te takaro ki tētahi tāne kua moe tāne, tera pea ka hopukina e ia te whai wāhi ki te tinihanga. Nā reira he mea nui kia taea te wehewehe i te whakahoahoa me te takaro. Hei āwhina i a koe ki te wehewehe, anei ngā tohu e 22 o tētahi tāne kua moe tāne e takaro ana ki a koe:

1. Ka amuamu ia ki a koe mō tana wahine

"Kei te takaro mai tētahi tāne kua moe tāne ki ahau?" Mena he maha ngā wā ka raru koe i tēnei raruraru, anei tētahi tohu e kore e taea e koe te hē te mārama: ka amuamu ia mō tana wahine ki a koe, ahakoa he kore whakama, he kore rānei he mārire. Whakaarohia,

• E pouri ana rānei ia mō tōna oranga marena, ā, e kōrero ana ki a koe mō ōna raruraru me tana hoa rangatira?
• E whakanui ana rānei ia i ana kōrero, e tito noa ana rānei i ngā take i ia rā, i ia rā?
• Kei te kōrero tonu ia ki a koe me pēhea kāore ia i te harikoa i roto i tana marena ā, me pēhea hoki ia e kore ai e noho i te rangimārie?
• Ka tukuna atu rānei e ia he karere ki a koe i muri tonu i tā rāua tautohetohe me tana wahine, hei kōrero atu ki a koe mō taua mea?
• E mea pinepine ana rānei ia, “Kāore taku wahine e mārama ki ahau”?

Ki te pērā, he tino ngana ia ki te takaro ki a ia anō. Ko te mea pai rawa atu i roto i tēnei āhuatanga ko te whakawhirinaki ki tō puku. Ki te whakaaro koe kei te tinihanga ia i a ia, ā, kei te ngana ki te whakamahi i te kōrero tawhito mō te "oranga marena whakarihariha" hei kukume i tō aro, kātahi ka whakawai i a koe ki ana mahi takaro, whakawhirinaki ki tō pūmanawa, ā, me noho tawhiti atu i te mea ka taea.

2. Kāore ia e mau i tana mowhiti ina tata koe

Ia wā ka tūtaki ia ki a koe, ka kite koe kua ngaro tana mowhiti marena. Tērā pea kei te kī ā-waha atu ia ki a koe kāore tana marena i te tino hira ki a ia, ā, e hiahia ana ia kia kite koe i a iaTērā pea i tae ia ki te tango i tana mowhiti hei tohu māu kia rite ai koe ki a koe anake te mea nui. Kia pono tātou, kāore ia e pupuri ana i roto i tana pōke hei tiaki, koia rā? Tērā pea kei te tīmata ia i tētahi hononga.

I pāngia a Susana, 29 tau te pakeke, e mahi ana i tētahi umanga ture, e tētahi raruraru ōrite i te tīmatanga o tētahi hoa mahi kua mārenatia ki te tino piripono ki a ia. E mea ana ia, "Ko tētahi hoa mahi kua mārenatia, kua pai te whanaungatanga ki a māua, kua āhua hiahia mai ki ahau. Ki taku whakaaro kei te hiahia ia. I ngā wā whakamutunga i haere māua ki te tiki kawhe i te wharekai o te tari, i kite ahau kua tangohia e ia tana mowhiti. E whakaaro ana ahau, he aha te take e hiahia ai tētahi tāne kua mārenatia ki ahau i a ia he wahine ataahua? Kei te takaro ia ki ahau, kei te nui rawa rānei taku whakaaro ki te āhuatanga?"

Kāore a Susana e tino mārama ana ki te whakaaro nui ki te āhuatanga. Ina kore te tāne kua moe tāne e kōrero mō tana wahine, e huna rānei i tōna aroaro i roto i tōna ao i ētahi atu huarahi, ka hiahia ia kia noho wātea ki ngā wāhine e karapoti ana i a ia. Kāore he huarahi pai ake hei mōhio mēnā kei te takaro te tāne kua moe tāne ki a koe!

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3. Ka huri ia i tōna whakaaro ki a koe i mua i tana wahine

Ko tētahi atu tohu e whakaatu ana mēnā kei te takaro te tāne kua moe tāne, kei te atawhai noa rānei, ko tana whanonga ki a koe i mua i tana wahine. Mēnā kei te takaro ia, ka rerekē tana whanonga i te aroaro o tana wahine.

• Ka noho tawhiti ia, ā, ka iti ake tana atawhai ki a koe
• Ka whakarerekē anō hoki ia i te reo o tōna reo kia kore ai tana wahine e hopu i a ia e takaro ana ki a koe.
• Kāore ia e wātea i ngā wiki mutunga me ngā pō roa
• Tērā pea ka kī atu ia kia kaua e tuku karere kuputuhi, kaua hoki e waea atu i muri i tētahi haora kua whakaritea

Tērā pea ka nui ake tō pōhēhē mō āna whakaaro. "Ka takaro te tāne kua moe tāne, kātahi ka wareware ki ahau. Kei te whakaaro ahau he aha kei roto i tōna hinengaro," tērā pea ka kitea e koe e whakaaro ana. Kotahi te mea e whakaatu ana āna mahi: kāore ia e hiahia kia mōhio tana wahine mōu. Tērā pea ēnei ngā tohu e tino pai ana ia ki tētahi atu wahine, arā, ko koe, ā, e tumanako ana ki te whakatū puku i tētahi hononga aroha ki a koe. Tērā pea he tikanga tēnei ahakoa he ātaahua koe ki a ia, kāore ia e hiahia ki te whakararu i tana marena i tētahi ara.

4. He rerekē tana whanonga ki a koe ina ko ia anake, kaua ina tūtaki ki te marea

"Ka takaro te tāne kua mārena, kātahi ka warewarehia ahau" — he mea noa tēnei i waenga i ngā wāhine e arohia ana e te tāne kua mārena, nā te mea he rerekē pea āna whanonga i ngā wā rerekē. I te aroaro o te marea, tera pea ka noho rangatira, ka noho tawhiti pea ia.

Ki te mahi tahi kōrua, tera pea ka kite koe kāore ia e whakaatu i ngā tohu katoa o te tāne kua marenatia e takaro ana i te mahi i mua i ētahi atu hoa mahi. Engari ina noho ko ia anake me koe, ka ngana ia ki te noho piripono, kia tino reka hoki. Ina takaro te tāne kua marenatia ki a koe, ā, kāore koe i te tino mōhio me pēhea tana whanonga, mā te aro ki tana whanonga me tana waiaro e huri haere ana ka āwhina pea ki te whakamārama i te pōhēhētanga.

5. Ka tino whaiaro rawa ia i a ia e kōrero ana ki a koe

He mea tino pai te kōrero noa mō ō hiahia, whānau, me ērā atu mea hei hanga kōrero poto, ahakoa te āhua o te marena o te tangata. Engari, ki te mea he nui rawa te aro o te tangata ki tō oranga whaiaro, ka taea e koe te tino mohio kei te aro nui ia ki a koe. Engari he aha te tikanga o te "tino whaiaro"? Anei ētahi tohu:

• Tērā pea ka pātai atu ia ki a koe i ngā mea pēnei i te mea e pouri ai koe, mō ō wehi rānei
• Ka ngana ia ki te keri hohonu ki roto i tō hītori me tō oranga aroha, ā, ka ngana ki te aroha ki a koe
• Ka hiahia ia ki te mōhio mō tō kai tino pai, mō tō hinu kakara tino pai, mō ō kākahu tino pai, mō ō hiahia rānei
• Tērā pea ka pātai atu ia ki a koe mō ō hiahia ā-ira tangata, ō āhua rerekē, ō tūranga tino pai, ō whanaungatanga ā-ira tangata o mua, me ērā atu mea pera.

Tērā pea ka kitea e koe he maha ngā kōrero whakaipoipo i roto i āna kōrero ki a koe. He tohu mārama ēnei e hiahia ana te tāne kua moe tāne ki a koe ā, e hiahia ana ki te moe tahi me koe.

6. Ka rapu huarahi ia hei noho tahi me koe

Ko tētahi o ngā tohu e whakaatu ana kei te takaro te tāne kua moe tāne ki a koe, ko tana rapu huarahi hei āwhina i a koe, hei tono āwhina rānei māu. Ahakoa kāore ia e pā ana ki a koe, ka ngana ia ki te whakapau i te wā ki a koe.

• Tērā pea ka whakahoahoa ia ki ō hoa kia uru atu ai ia ki roto i tō porowhita o roto, kia taea ai hoki e ia te whakawai i a rātou kia whiwhi tohu tahi me koe.
• Ka kite tonu koe i a ia e whakapau kaha ana ki te noho tahi me koe, ahakoa he roa ake tana taenga mai ki te kāinga i te wā noa.
• Tērā pea ka tukuna koe e ia ki te kāinga ahakoa e 20 maero te tawhiti o tana haerenga ki te kāinga.

te ngā tohu o te kukume i te tāne Kaua e whakarerekē i te āhua o te marena o te tangata. Nō reira, ki te mea he tāne kua mārenatia e takaro ana ki a koe nā te mea e pai ana ia ki a koe, ka kite koe kua rite ia ki te mahi i ngā mea katoa kia tata ai ki a koe.

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7. Ka tīmata tonu ia i ngā kōrero ki a koe

Ko tētahi o ngā tohu tino mārama e aroha ana te tāne kua moe tāne ki a koe, nui atu i te hoa, ko tana kore e tuku i tētahi wā ki te tīmata kōrero. Tērā pea ka kite koe he rerekē tana kōrero ki a koe i tana kōrero ki ētahi atu. Ka tino atawhai rawa ia. Ka pātai ia me pēhea tō rā, me pēhea ō mahere mō te mutunga wiki, me pēhea ngā mea i tō wāhi mahi, ka pātai rānei mō ngā mea e whakararuraru ana i a koe.

He mea whakamīharo ake, ka rere pai ēnei kōrero puta noa i te wiki, kātahi ka heke ohorere i ngā wiki mutunga. Koinei tētahi o ngā tohu rongonui e whakaatu ana kua mārena te tāne, ā, e rapu ana i tētahi hononga i waho atu i tana mārenatanga. Koia te take e hiahia ana ia ki te mahi i ngā mea katoa i roto i tōna kaha kia kore ai koe e kitea e tana wahine.

8. Ka hiahia ia ki te mōhio ko wai tāu e whakaipoipo ana

Kei te whakaaro koe me pēhea te mōhio mēnā kei te aro atu tētahi tāne kua mārena ki a koe? Kia aro ki ngā mea e kōrerohia ana e ia ki a koe. Mēnā he hiahia huna āna, ka tino hiahia ia ki tō kōrua oranga whakaipoipo. Mēnā he hoa tāne tāu, tera pea ka hiahia ia ki te mōhio me pēhea kōrua e noho tahi ai, me te haere tonu o te whanaungatanga.

Tērā pea ka tohu ia i ngā ngoikoretanga o tō hoa tāne, hei ngana ki te kia āhua paitini tō whanaungatanga ā, me te whakaatu i a ia anō he tangata pai ake i te whakataurite. Ka āta whakaaro ia ki tēnā, kia kore ai e ara ake te whakapae mō āna kaupapa. Ko tēnei hiahia ki te whakauru ki tō oranga aroha me te hae e kitea ana e koe ina kōrero koe ki a ia mō tō hoa, mō ngā hiahia aroha rānei, he tohu ngaro anō hoki tēnei e kukume ana te tāne kua moe tāne ki a koe.

9. Ka mihi tonu ia ki a koe

Ko tētahi atu tohu rongonui tēnei o te kukume i te tāne, ā, ka kite koe i tēnei ina neke atu te tāne kua mārena ki a koe. Ka mihi ia ki a koe, ā, ka nui hoki ana mihi. Mai i tō ataata ki tō kākahu me ngā āhuatanga katoa o tō tuakiri, ka kitea e ia he huarahi hei maioha ki ngā mea katoa e pā ana ki a koe.

Tērā pea ka miharo ia ki ngā mea katoa e pā ana ki a koe, ā, ka whakarite pea i a koe ki tana wahine, ka kī mai he pai ake koe. Ahakoa he mea whakapati tēnei, he mea nui kia kaua e wareware kei te whakahē ia i tana hoa i a ia e whakataurite ana i a ia ki a koe, ā, he tohu kino tēnā e tika ana kia tahuri ke atu koe.

10. Ka ngana ia ki te mea i a koe kia kata

Ko ngā tāne kua mārenatia e takaro ana i te whanoke he tino ataahua, ā, he nui te wāhi o te whakakatakata i roto i tēnā. Ko tētahi o ngā kōrero māmā mō te tāne kua mārenatia e takaro ana i a koe ko tana whakapau kaha ki te kia kata koeTērā pea ka tito mai ia i ētahi kupu whakakatakata hei whakamīharo i a koe, i ētahi atu kōrero whakakatakata rānei hei whakamā i a koe.

Ina kore ia i a koe, tera pea ka tukuna atu e ia ētahi meme hei ngana ki te whakahaere i te kōrero. Ko te mea nui, e hiahia ana ia ki te whakaatu ki a koe he tangata auaha ia, he tangata ngahau ki te noho tahi, he tangata ngākau māhaki, he tangata ngāwari hoki. Mena ka puta tonu tēnei whanonga, me hoatu he whakaaro ki a koe mō āna whāinga.

11. Ka whakarongo puku ia ki tāu e kōrero ai

Ina rapu tohu ana te tāne kua moe tāne ki a koe, he rautaki pai te aro ki tana urupare ina he mea tāu hei kōrero. Ki te hiahia ia ki a koe, ka mahia e ia ngā mea katoa hei whakaatu kei te aro nui ia ki tāu e kōrero ai ki a ia. Ka ataata tonu ia i a ia e kōrero ana ki a koe, ā, ka whakarongo puku ia ki ia kupu e kōrerotia ana e koe. Ka whakautu ia i te wā tika, ka pātai i ngā pātai tika hei whakaatu he mea nui ki a ia tāu e kōrero nei. E whakaatu ana tēnei kei te hiahia pono ia, ā, kei te kukume puku atu ki a koe.

12. Ka tuku karere pinepine ia ki a koe

Ko te rerekētanga mārama i waenga i te takaro pōrearea me te noho atawhai noa iho ko te nui o tana ngana ki te pupuri i te hononga ki a koe. Mā te tuku karere kuputuhi ki a koe i ngā wā maha i te rā ka puta noa mai ki te whakaaro o te tangata e takaro pōrearea ana nā te mea e aro nui ana ia ki a koe, ahakoa ka whiriwhiri koe ki te waiho i a ia kia pānui. Ka hiahia ia ki te mōhio ki tāu e mahi ana, kei hea koe, āhea koe e hiahia ana ki te tūtaki ki a ia, te iwa iāri katoa. Tērā pea ka tukuna atu e ia ngā tuhinga whakakatakata me ngā tohu huna, ngā karere huna rānei o te aroha hei whakamātautau noa iho. Heoi anō, ko ngā tāne kua marenatia e takaro ana me te ngākau pono, e ngana tonu ana ki te aromatawai mēnā he wāhi kei reira hei kawe i ngā mea ki tētahi taumata e whai ake nei.

13. Ka whakakiia e ia tō kōtaha pāpāho pāpori ki ngā kōrero me ngā pai

Kei te takaro mai tētahi tāne kua mārena ki ahau, e pātai ana koe? Hei kimi i tētahi whakautu tino tika, tahurihia tō aro ki te āhua o tana taunekeneke ki a koe i runga i ngā pāpāho pāpori. Mena ka whakakiia e ia ō pou, ō whakaahua, me ō kōrero ki ngā kōrero me ngā "like", ā, ka uru puku atu ki ō DM i ia wā ka taea e ia, kāore e kore kei te ngana ia ki te whakaatu i tōna hiahia ki a koe.

Ko te whakawhitiwhiti kōrero ki a koe i runga i ngā pāpāho pāpori te huarahi tino māmā ki te whakapuaki i te karere me te whakaatu i a ia kia harakore, nā te mea kei te whakakitea katoatia e ia ki te aroaro o te marea. Heoi anō, kāore he he o te "like" me te "comment" kino, tika? Ki te kore ia e pai ki ō whakaahua hararei 245 katoa, mai i te 5 tau ki muri. Āe! Ina mahi ia i tēnei ara, ehara i te mea uaua ki te mārama ki ana whakaaro engari he mea porangi pēnei pea te tikanga. kei te aro nui ia ki a koe.

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14. Ka ringihia e ia he taonga ki a koe

E mōhiotia ana ngā tāne kua moe tāne e takaro ana me te ngākau nui ki te mahi i ngā mahi whakahirahira. Mena he tāne pēnei kei roto i tō ao, tera pea ka kitea e koe kei te ngana ia ki te whakawai i a koe mā te hoko koha māu me te whakapau moni ki a koe. He nui, he iti, he mea whakarite, he utu nui, he mea ohorere rānei, ko te tikanga o ēnei koha he whakamōhio atu kei te whakaaro ia ki a koe. Hei tauira, ki te mea kei te haere ia ki te mahi, tera pea ka hoki mai ia me te hinu kakara utu nui, he whakapaipai, he mea rānei i hiahia koe, ā, i kōrerotia atu e koe ki a ia. Kaua e whakapoauau i tēnei whakaaro nui mō te whakahoahoa pono. Pātai atu ki a koe anō, "Kei te mahi ia i tēnei mō ētahi atu hoa, kei te takaro mai rānei tēnei tāne kua moe tāne ki ahau?"

15. Ka karanga tonu ia i a koe mō ngā tina me ngā tina iti

E hiahia ana ia kia mau tonu tana whakapā atu ki a koe, kia noho tahi hoki me koe i ngā wā katoa e taea ana. Hei whakatutuki i tēnei, ka tūtohu ia kia haria koe ki waho mō te tina, te inu, te kai pō rānei i ngā wā e wātea ana koe. I te mea koinei tētahi o ngā tohu mamae e kitea ana kei te whai mai tētahi tāne kua mārena i a koe, he rite tonu te kai me te haere ki ngā kai utu nui ki te hoari mata rua. Ahakoa ka pai pea koe ki te aro atu, e mōhio ana hoki koe ki te huarahi e pai ai te manaaki i ana mahi whakahihiri me te whakahoki mai mā te takaro ki tētahi tāne kua mārena.

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16. E whakanuia ana e ia ō mea e pai ana ki a koe, me ō mea e kore e pai ki a koe

I ngā wā katoa e kōrero ana koe ki a ia, tera pea ka aro ia ki te kimi i ō mea katoa e pai ana ki a koe, e kore ai e pai ki a koe, kia rite ai ki a koe anake te mea nui ki a ia. Ko tētahi atu tēnei o ngā taputapu e whakaatu ana i te ataahua i roto i ngā tāne kua marenatia e takaro ana. Heoi, kia tūpato, tera pea ka whakamahia e ia ēnei mōhiohio hei whakaatu i a ia anō kia rite ai ia ki a koe. Tērā pea ka whakaari ia i ngā mea e pai ana ki a koe, ngā mea hoki e kino ana ki a koe, hei whakaatu i te pai o tō kōrua noho tahi.

Pātai atu ki a ia mō taua mea e kīia ana e ia he hiahia nui. Mātakihia tana kōrero pōturi me tana kīkī i a ia e ngana ana ki te rapu whakautu tika, kia kore ai ia e whakararu i ana tūponotanga ki a koe. Nā wai i kī kāore e taea te ngahau i tēnei whakamātautau katoa?

17. Ka tere pea tana hae

Mena kei te whakataetae ia mō tō aro i a ia e noho tahi ana me tētahi atu tāne, tera pea ka kite koe he tere tōna hae. He pono rawa tēnei mō tētahi tāne kua mārenatia e takaro ana ki tētahi wahine kua mārenatia, engari ka taea hoki te tupu mēnā kei te piri koe ki tētahi atu, ki tētahi atu rānei e hiahia ana koe ki te aroha. Nā te mea kua mārenatia ia, ā, e hiahia ana ki te hanga hononga ki a koe, ā, i te wa ano, kāore e taea e ia te piri atu ki a koe, ka tino hae ia ki tō oranga aroha. Ko tēnei hae me te whanonga pupuri he tohu anō hoki kei te hiahia te tāne kua mārenatia ki a koe, ā, ehara i te mea he harakore ngā takaro katoa a ia e ārahi ana i a koe.

18. Ka tono ia i ngā manaakitanga ki a koe

Kei te whakaaro koe me pēhea te mōhio mēnā kei te takaro te tāne kua moe tāne ki a koe? Tirohia mēnā ka tono ia kia mahi koe i ētahi mea māna. Mā te whakaaro noa ki a koe e mahi ana i tētahi mea māna ka puta he ahua harikoa ki a ia. Ka tono ia i ngā manaakitanga ki a koe i roto i tētahi huarahi ataahua e kore e taea e koe te whakakore. Hei tāpiri, nā te mea ka piki ake tōna whakapehapeha i tēnei haerenga mana rerekē e pai ana ki a ia, tera pea ka piki ake te auau o ēnei tono.

19. Ka whakakatakata tana reo tinana

Ki te hiahia koe ki te mōhio me pēhea te mōhio mēnā kei te pai tētahi tāne kua mārena ki a koe, me aro koe ki te āhua o te whanonga a te tangata whakaipoipo i a koe. Anei ētahi momo whakaipoipo ngā tohu reo tinana me ētahi atu huarahi ā-tinana e takaro ai ngā tāne:

• Ka titiro matatau mai ia ki a koe i te nuinga o te wā, ka pupuri i ō kanohi, ā, ka whakama hoki mēnā ka kite koe i a ia e titiro matatau mai ana ki a koe
• Ina kōrero ia, ina whakarongo mai rānei ki a koe, ka piko mai ia ki a koe
• Tērā pea ka tū ia i tētahi āhua e teitei ake ai ia i a koe, ka hoatu ki a koe he whakaaro nui rawa atu mō tōna kaha
• Ka mau tonu tana titiro kanohi ki a koe
• Tērā pea ka pā atu ia ki ōna makawe, ā, ka kimo haere i a ia e kōrero ana ki a koe
• I roto i te huihuinga rōpū, ka titiro tonu pea ia ki a koe
• Ka ngana ia ki te whakatū hononga tinana hei whakaatu i tōna aroha
• Ka ngana ia ki te whakaata i ia nekehanga e mahia ana e koe

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20. Ka ngana ia ki te miharo i a koe ki ōna āhua

Ko tētahi atu tohu kei te mārena ia, ā, e rapu ana i tō aro, ko tana tīmatanga ki te aro ki tōna āhua. E mōhio ana ia kei te whakataetae ia ki ngā tāne takakau e tika ana. Nō reira, ka kaha ake tana whakapau kaha kia ātaahua tōna āhua, kia kite hoki koe i ngā huringa e mahia ana e ia ki tōna āhua tinana. Ahakoa he hinu kakara hou, he kākahu hou, he momo whakapaipai makawe rerekē rānei, ka ngana ia ki te miharo i a koe ki ōna āhua me tōna āhua.

21. Tērā pea ka āhua mataku ia i a koe

Ki te mea kei te rapu koe i ngā tohu e pai ana tētahi tāne kua mārena ki a koe engari kei te huna ia i a ia, kia aro ki ōna io manukanuka! Nā te mea kāore ia e hiahia ki te whakapataritari i a koe, ki te pana atu rānei i a koe, ka kitea e koe he tino tupato, he āhua mataku hoki ia i a koe e noho tahi ana me koe. Ka ata whakaarohia e ia āna kupu kia kore ai ia e whakaatu i tētahi mea e whakapae ai koe i ana whakaaro. Tērā pea he mea whakakatakata te kite i tētahi tāne pakeke, kua mārena e werawera ana i a koe e noho tahi ana me ia. Engari tōna aroha ki a koe ka pai ake i a ia.

22. Ka taea e koe te rongo noa

He kaha rawa te kare ā-tuaono o tātou katoa e rongo ana i te wā e hē ana tetahi mea i mua noa atu i te wā e mōhio ana tātou. Mēnā kei te takaro te tāne kua moe tāne ki a koe, ka kī mai tetahi mea i roto i tō puku kia tūpato koe. Tērā pea ka puta he āwangawanga, ā, kāore pea koe e kite i tōna aroaro kia pai. Mēnā ka tupu tēnā, whakawhirinaki ki tō puku, kaua hoki e ngana ki te pehi i ngā kare ā-wangawanga kei roto i a koe. Tērā pea kāore e taea e koe te mahi i tetahi mea mō āna mahi whakamātau i runga i ō kare ā-roto anake, engari me ngana koe ki te whakaiti i te whakapā atu me te noho tawhiti atu i a ia.

Me pēhea te whakahaere i tētahi tāne kua mārenatia e takaro ana ki a koe?

Ko tēnei tangata e whakaatu ana i te aro nui ki a koe, ahakoa ko wai, ahakoa he aha. He hoa mahi, he rangatira rānei, he hoa noho tata, he hoa o tō hoa rangatira, he hoa rangatira rānei o tō hoa. I runga anō i tōna āhua, tērā pea ka iti ake, ka nui ake rānei te uaua o te aro atu ki ana nekehanga. Me pēhea tāu whakahaere i tēnā?

I tētahi atu taha, tera pea ka pai anō koe ki a ia. Mēnā koinā, he mea whakamātau pea te takaro ki tētahi tāne kua mārenatia, me te whakahoki atu ki āna mahi whakahihiko. Āe, e mōhio ana koe, pērā i a mātou, he te whanaungatanga ki te tangata kua marenatia ka raru pea koe, ā, ka pōuri rawa koe. Heoi anō, ko te mutunga iho, nāu te whakatau. Hei āwhina i a koe ki te whakatau tika, anei ētahi whakaaro mō te whakautu ki tētahi tāne kua mārenatia e takaro ana ki a koe i roto i ngā āhuatanga rerekē:

Ki te kore koe e aro ki ana mahi whakatairanga

Kia matara atu koe. Kia tupato kei whakahoki koe i ana kupu whakatenatena. Ki te kore e hoatu he tohu ki a ia, kōrero ki a ia, ka whakapuaki i tō kore aro ki roto i ngā kupu mārama, mārama hoki. He whakama, he whakamā hoki, engari he kōrero e kore e taea te karo.

Mena he kare ā-roto tōu mōna

He maha ngā whakatau hei mahi māu mēnā kei te hiahia koe ki tētahi tāne kua mārenatia. Ko te mea tuatahi, me mārama koe ki ngā mea e tumanakohia ana e koe mā te mahi i runga i ō kare ā-roto me te whakautu ki āna tono.

• Kei te rapu koe i tētahi hononga noa hei whakamama i tō tinana?
• Kei te hiahia rānei koe ki tētahi hononga roa ki a ia?
• Kei te kotahi te whakaaro o kōrua mō tā kōrua e rapu nei mai i tēnei hononga?
• Kei te pai koe ki te wawahi i te marena?
• Ka taea e koe te pikau i te taumahatanga o te noho hei wahine atu?

Whakaarohia, tātarihia, me te kōrero i mua i tō whakatau me pēhea te whakautu ki ngā mahi whakawai a tētahi tāne e uaua ana ki a koe te ātete.

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Mena kei a koe ngā kare ā-roto mōna engari kua marenatia koe

Ka taea e te tāne kua mārena te takaro ki te wahine kua mārena te whakatuwhera i te kēne kutukutu. Nō reira, kia tino tūpato. Tērā pea ka pai koe ki a ia anō engari he nui rānei tēnā hei whara i tō whānau, i tō hoa rangatira, me tana hoa rangatira anō hoki? Kei te takaro koe ki ngā kare ā-roto o te tini tāngata i tēnei take. Me tino mōhio koe i mua i tō nekehanga. Kāore e ranea te takaro noa, te tuku tohu rerekē rānei.

Ki te kore ia e hoki whakamuri ina hiahia koe

Mena kei te raru koe ki te kī "kāo", ki te whakapuaki rānei i tō whakaaro, me āwhina pea koe e ētahi atu tāngata, pērā i tētahi hoa tata, i tētahi tohunga rānei. Mēnā ka whakatau tētahi hoa mahi kei runga ake i a koe ki te whakamahi hē i tōna mana, me ripoata e koe te take ki te HR. Ahakoa ko wai ia, ki te rongo koe i te tūponotanga o te mōrearea, ko te mea nui ko te tiaki i a koe anō. Ahakoa ko te tikanga me haere koe ki ngā mana whakahaere.

Thoughts Final

Ka pōhēhē pea koe mēnā he tāne kua mārenatia e tuku tohutohu ana ki a koe. Tērā pea kei te whakaaro koe mēnā kei te tuku tohu rerekē te tāne kua mārenatia. Tērā pea he mea whakamīharo te tūponotanga o te aroha me te aroha. Engari, tera pea ka pā mai ngā āhuatanga pēnei i te wā e tata mai ana, ā, ka pā kino ki te hunga katoa e whai wāhi ana. Ko tā mātou tohutohu kotahi? Kia tūpato!

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