15 Ngā Uara Matua o te Hononga mō te Here Harikoa, me te Here Pūmau

E arohaina ana e tātou katoa ngā whanaungatanga hauora, engari he maha ngā wā ka warewarehia e tātou ngā uara matua o ngā whanaungatanga e whakapakari ana i te ārai mate me te roa o te ora. Ka whakaae katoa tātou ko ngā whanaungatanga hauora he wāhanga matua o te oranga harikoa, tika? Heoi anō, he nui ake ngā whakapae mō tēnei kaupapa i te mākete hea tonu. Kei roto i te katoa e mōhiotia ana e tātou he kaiwhakaora whanaungatanga, ā, he mea whakakatakata, ko te hunga pai rawa atu he takakau.

He aha ngā uara matua o te whanaungatanga e pupuri ana i te poti o te aroha kia mānu? He anga pumau hei whakarite i te tere maeneene? He aha kāore he marautanga hei āwhina i a tātou ki te kimi i ngā whakautu tika mō tētahi whainga nui o ō tātou oranga? Mena kei te raru koe i ēnei pātai, ehara i te mea ko koe anake. Tukua mātou kia wetewete i tēnei raruraru, kia ārahi i a koe i roto i ngā uara matua 12 o ngā whanaungatanga ka taea te mahi hei kāpehu, hei ārahi i a koe i roto i ngā wai tino uaua.

He aha ngā Uara Matua?

Ko ō tātou uara te mea e whakatau ana i ō tātou ara i te ao. Ā, he tino uaua ki te kimi i tētahi hoa aroha e rite ana ōna whakapono me ōna uara matua ki ō tātou. Ina hoki, he rerekē ngā whakaaro o te tangata. Heoi anō, kei reira ētahi uara matua o te whanaungatanga e whakarite ana i te harikoa me te marena angitu te whanaungatanga rānei. Ko ngā uara matua ko ngā whakapono me ngā uara matua e whakaponohia ana e tātou. Mā rātou tātou e hanga ko wai tātou, e hanga hoki i tō tātou tuakiri, tō tātou āhua, me tō tātou ara matatika.

Ka taea hoki e ngā uara matua o te tangata te whakatau i ngā momo whakataunga o te ao me ngā manakohanga whaiaro, pēnei i te hiahia ki te marena, ki te whānau tamariki rānei, he aha ngā mea e kitea ana e rātou he mea ātaahua, he aha ngā mea e whakarihariha ana ki a rātou, me te ara mahi e pai ana ki a rātou. Ā, ki te mea he hoa aroha tā tātou kāore e rite ana ki ō tātou uara matua, tera pea ka puta he raruraru i roto i te whanaungatanga.

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Te Hiranga o ngā Uara Whakawhanaungatanga

I mua i te haerenga atu ki te kaupapa matua, me mārama tātou ki te hiranga o ngā uara o te whanaungatanga. Kua whawhai kē koe ki tō hoa, ā, ka whakaaro koe, "He aha i nui ake ai te hiranga o ngā whawhai i ngā whanaungatanga?" Ae, kua pērā koe!

Nā, ki te hohonu ake te titiro whakamuri, ka kite koe nā te taupatupatu o ngā uara i puta ai. He rerekē pea ngā tohu, engari ko te mate pea he rerekētanga o ngā tikanga matatika, o ngā whāinga rānei o te ao. Nō reira, me titiro tātou he aha te hiranga o ngā uara whanaungatanga noa:

• Ka āwhina i ngā tāne me ngā wāhine ki te whakatau tere. Nā te mea kāore he wā e moumouhia ana ki ngā tautohetohe koretake mō te wāhi e noho ai, ngā ara mahi hei whai, me ērā atu.
• Ka āwhina rātou i ngā hoa faaipoipo ki te whakatau ngā tautohetohe i roto i te whanaungatanga tere tonu, nā te mea ka tūpono pea rātou ki te whakawhirinaki ki ō rātou uara ōrite hei whakatau i tētahi otinga whānui mō ngā raruraru
• He māmā ake, he tere ake hoki te tipu o te whanaungatanga, nā te mea kua mōhio te tokorua ki tā rāua e hiahia ana hei tokorua mō te wā roa.
• Ka piki ake te kukume me te makona o te whanaungatanga mēnā he rite ngā uara whanaungatanga o ngā tāne me ngā wāhine, ā, kua whakamātauhia tēnei e tētahi rangahau.
• Ka whai wāhi atu rātou ki te whakataurite i te whanaungatanga whānui — te piripiri o te whakaae me te whakapau kaha e herea ai ngā tāne me ngā wāhine i muri i te mutunga o te wā honi.

He mea whakamīharo, ka taea e tātou te whakaaro i ngā momo uara hei rapu i roto i te whanaungatanga. Waihoki, ko ngā mea hei whakanui i roto i te whanaungatanga, kei runga anō i ngā whiringa a te tokorua. Engari he uara noa ētahi e āwhina ana i ngā tokorua ki te wikitoria i ngā arai o te whanaungatanga. Nō reira, he aha ngā uara matua hei rapu i roto i te whanaungatanga? Āe, kua tuhia e mātou ngā uara matua 15 i roto i ngā whanaungatanga he mea nui ki te hononga hauora me te pumau. I te wāhanga e whai ake nei, ka tirohia e tātou ngā mea e pā ana ki aua uara.

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15 Ngā Uara Hira o te Whakawhanaungatanga me Whai e te Tokorua

He hua aroha ngā whanaungatanga katoa. Ahakoa te ahua rotarota o tēnei, kāore e taea te tautuhi i te aroha, tika? Tērā pea ka ngana koe ki te ine i te uara o te aroha mā roto i ngā tirohanga rerekē. He rerekē te tirohanga a ia tangata ki tēnei mea. I tētahi atu taha, he mea tūturu, he mea taea te kite ngā uara matua o te whanaungatanga, nō reira he mea nui ki te whakarite kia angitu.

I roto i tēnei tuhinga, ka tirohia pai ngā mātāpono matua e tika ana hei pupuri i te mura o te aroha i roto i te whanaungatanga. Kia mataara ki te whanaungatanga o ēnei mātāpono me ngā uara ārahi. Nā, ki te mea kei runga koutou katoa i te kaipuke, me whakatangi te tetere, me te rere, me te titiro ki ētahi o ngā uara tino taketake o ngā whanaungatanga:

1. Whakanuia

Ko te kukume tetahi o ngā uara tino nui o te whanaungatanga. Ko te mura o te titiro kanohi roa, ko te ngā āwangawanga mō te rā tuatahi, te makariri o te pā, te reka o taua kihi tuatahi — Te kukume e pā ana ki taua tangata kotahi, ā, e pā ana hoki rātou ki tēnā. Ehara ianei tēnei i tētahi o ngā kare ā-roto tino whakamiharo? Ka pēhea ēnei kare ā-roto i te roanga o te wā? Ka memeha haere. Ka mau tātou i roto i te hoha o te ao.

Ko te harikoa me te ngākau nui ngā pūtake o ngā whanaungatanga katoa. Me reka, me tiaki, me hanga hou kia mau tonu ai te mura o te aroha. Ko te kukume tonu te mea tino kaha o ngā uara whanaungatanga katoa.

Ko Jack Canfield, te kaituhi me te kaiwhakaū o te Kohuatia heihei mo te wairua raupapa, i kōrero i tētahi tikanga ā-tau e mahia ana e ia me tana wahine. I ia tau, i te Thanksgiving, ka whakarārangihia e rāua ngā mea tekau e arohaina ana e rāua tetahi ki tetahi. He tino aroha mō te 'aww', engari he tino whai hua hei whakakī i a mātou ki te miharo.

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2. Te hononga kare ā-roto me te hononga hinengaro

He maha ngā wā ka whakamāramahia te hononga i te taumata tinana anake. Ahakoa he maha ngā hononga ka tīmata i reira, ka puta te hononga tūturu i te taumata hohonu o te kare ā-roto me te hinengaro. Whakaarohia ngā hononga whai tikanga katoa kei a koe. I roto i ia hononga, ko te mea piri he kare ā-roto, he tukanga whakaaro rānei. Ina rapua, ina manaakitia hoki tēnei hononga, te āhua nei he māmā noa iho ngā mea katoa. Nō reira, ko te pupuri i ngā hononga kare ā-roto me te hinengaro tētahi o ngā uara matua o te whanaungatanga.

3. Whakapono

He mea tino nui te whakawhirinaki ki te oranga o te tangata, ā, ko tētahi o ngā kaha nui rawa atu o te whanaungatanga. Koinei hoki tētahi o ngā kupu e whakamahia whānuitia ana i roto i te papakupu aroha i ēnei rā. Kei te taha tonu o "Whakapono mai!" te kupu "Aroha mai!" ina tae mai ki ngā kīanga kua ngaro te pānga nā te nui rawa o te whakamahi. Ko tā tātou e kore e kite ko te kawe mai a tātou katoa i ngā utanga tawhito hoha o ō tātou hītori ki roto i ō tātou whanaungatanga. Mā tēnei utanga e tautuhi tō tātou tirohanga ki ngā uara whanaungatanga, ka uaua ai te whakatipu whakawhirinaki ahakoa i roto i ō tātou whanaungatanga tino piripono.

Koinei te take hanga whakawhirinaki Ko tētahi o ngā uara tino nui o te whanaungatanga i ēnei rā. Nō reira, kei roto koe i tētahi whanaungatanga hou, ā, e hiahia ana koe ki tētahi hoa haere mō te wā poto engari kāore anō kia puta he marena i roto i ngā wā e tata mai ana? Kāore rānei koe e hiahia ki te whakatipu tamariki, engari kia aro nui atu ki ngā whakataunga pūtea i roto i tētahi whanaungatanga mō te wā roa? Kaua e teka, kaua hoki e nui rawa te whakapau kaha.

Engari, ka taea e koe te hanga whakawhirinaki mā te:

• Kia pono ki ō whakaaro me ō whāinga o te ao
• Te whakapuaki i ō tātou āwangawanga mō ngā wāhi e hapa ana te whanaungatanga
• Kaua e whakapehapeha rawa, engari me piri tonu ki ō pūkenga
• Kia kotahi te whakaaro mō ngā tumanakohanga

4. Te whanaungatanga

Ko tētahi o ngā uara tino nui hei rapu i roto i tētahi whanaungatanga ko te whanaungatanga piripono. Pērā i te kukume, he maha ngā wā kua hē te mārama ki te whanaungatanga piripono. Ko te whanaungatanga ā-tinana he pito noa iho o te hukapapa. Tērā pea kei te moe koe me tētahi, engari kāore koe e tino mōhio ki a rātou. Ko te whanaungatanga piripono he mea whakaraerae, engari he mea haumaru. Ko te whanaungatanga pono ko te kaha ki te whakamarie i tō hoa ina pakaru ana rātou. He āhua tēnei ka tukua e koe ō tiaki katoa, ā, ka tino kite koe tetahi i tetahi mō tō āhua tūturu.

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5. Pono

He maha ā tātou rongonga mō te hiranga o te pono me te te māramatanga i roto i ngā whanaungatangaMā te pono ka tere ake te whakatau i ngā take, ā, ka āwhina i ngā hoa ki te aromatawai mēnā e rite ana ō rātou hiahia me ā rātou whāinga tetahi ki tetahi. Engari me pēhea te whakanui i tēnei uara ki roto i te whanaungatanga? Anei te mahi:

● Kia pono, kaua ko ō painga anake, engari me ō ngoikoretanga anō hoki
● Kaua e huna tō hītori, ahakoa te kino o mua. Tukua kia puta katoa, kia kite ai mēnā e maioha ana tō hoa ki tō tipu ake
● Kia pono ki ngā mea taketake pēnei i ngā tumanakohanga pūtea i roto i te whanaungatanga, ngā hiahia tinana, ngā rerekētanga whakapono, me ngā take hauora, mēnā he mea kei roto
● Kia pono ki ō tikanga matatika. Nā te mea, ka taea e ngā tikanga matatika rerekē i roto i te whanaungatanga te whakangaro tere atu i tetahi atu mea
● Kia pono ki ngā mea e tumanakohia ana e tō whānau mai i tō hoa rangatira
● Kaua e whakapae, kaua hoki e whakama tō hoa mēnā i kōrero pono rātou ki a koe mō rātou, ahakoa te koretake o te pono

6. Te Whakawa

Ko te whakaae tētahi o ngā uara tino nui o te whanaungatanga. Ko te wā i tata rawa atu ai taku whakamārama i te aroha ko taku hononga ki te whakaae. He hanganga tino koretake tātou katoa o te taiao, he āhua ataahua, he āhua ahurei hoki ō tātou. Ka kitea tō tātou whakapono ki te oranga ina whakaae mai tētahi ki a tātou me aua hapa. E hiahia ana tātou katoa kia whakaaetia mai, kia whakanuia mai hoki. Waihoki, ina kī tātou e aroha ana tātou ki tētahi, ā, ka whakahe i a rātou mō ō rātou hapa, kāore tātou i whakaae katoa ki a rātou. Nō reira, kāore e taea te kī he aroha.

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7. Te murunga

He wāhanga o te kēmu ngā pakanga. Ina haina koe mō tētahi hononga aroha, ka uru mai ēnei hei wāhanga o te kete. Engari he maha ngā wā ka warewarehia te arorau i te urunga mai o te whakapehapeha uaua ki te ao. I roto i ēnei āhuatanga, ko te murunga hara, tētahi o ngā uara tino nui o te whanaungatanga, ka waiho hei patu hei whawhai ki te whakapehapeha.

Ina hoki, ki te nekehia e koe te whakaae ki tētahi atu taahiraa, ka huri hei murunga hara. Ko tētahi o ngā mea matua e whai wāhi ana ki te whakaora i ngā whanaungatanga, ā, i te mutunga, i ngā tāngata. Nō reira, he mea nui te whakatipu i te murunga hara mēnā kei te tumanako te tangata ki tētahi hononga roa. Ahakoa rā, he iti noa ngā mea kāore e tika kia murua. Ko ēnei:

● Te tutu ā-tinana
● Te whakahaere
● Te hanga pakitara kōhatu, te maimoatanga puku
● Te tukino ā-hinengaro

8. Te whakaute i te takitahi

Ko te ariā o te aroha e hono pinepine ana ki te ngaro o koe ki te whanaungatanga, me te hōhonu rawa atu kia kotahi ai kōrua ko tō hoa. Engari ko tēnei ariā, kua whakamīharohia ake e ngā rotarota me ngā waiata, he tauira matarohia o te whakawhirinakitanga o te tangata ki te tangata.

Me mārama tātou e rua ngā tāngata motuhake e whai wāhi ana ki tēnei hononga. He tuakiri motuhake, he ara, he uara anō hoki tō rāua i te ao. Ā, he rite tonu te hiranga o te whakaute ki te oranga o ia hoa. Nō reira, ko ngā uara ōrite me te whakaute tetahi ki tetahi he āhuatanga noa o te hononga hauora me te kaha. Inaa, ka whakanui te whakaute i te uara o te aroha, ā, he mea nui anō hoki.
tētahi o ngā mea tino nui hei whakanui i roto i tētahi whanaungatanga.

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9. Tupu

I roto i te whanaungatanga roa, he mea nui kia mau tonu te wehenga o te aroha o te tokorua e aroha ana. Ina kōrero tātou mō te wehenga, ehara i te mea ko te kore hiahia te tikanga. Tokorua ngā tāngata e tautoko ana i te tipu o te whanaungatanga, me te tango i te kawenga katoa mō tō rātou tipu whaiaro, kei roto i tētahi o ngā whanaungatanga hauora rawa atu.

Ko te tipu pono tētahi o ngā uara matua tino nui o ngā whanaungatanga. Ā, ka taea e te tangata tipu i roto i te whanaungatanga na:

● Te whakatenatena i tō hoa ki te whakatutuki i ā rātou whāinga, i a koe e whakatutuki ana i āu whāinga
● Te tirotiro i te pono mō te korenga o ngā patunga tapu taha kotahi e whai wāhi ki te whanaungatanga
● Te mahi tahi kia tutuki ai he whakaaro whānui, me te kore e pā ki te oranga o tō hoa

10. Ko te kawenga

Ko te tikanga o tāu e kōrero nei, ko te mahi i tāu e kōrero nei, me te tango i te kawenga mō āu mahi, koinei te tunu mō te angitu nui hononga wā roa. Ka rite te āhua o te kawenga i roto i tētahi whanaungatanga ki ēnei:

● Te mahi i te tūranga e tumanakohia ana kia mahia e koe i roto i te whanaungatanga, pērā i te noho hei kaimahi mō te whānau, te mahi rānei i ngā mahi o te whare
● Te whakaae ki ō hapa me te whai kawenga mō ō mahi
● Te pupuri i ngā tikanga matatika o te whanaungatanga i whakaaetia e ngā hoa e rua, pērā i te kore tuku karere kuputuhi ki ētahi atu wāhine, te kore takaro ki ētahi atu tāne, me ētahi atu.

11. Te noho hei hoa piripono

Whakaarohia te harikoa o te whai hoa rangatira ka taea e kōrua te haurangi, te kōrero mō ngā mea katoa mō ngā hāora, te whai wāhi atu ki ngā mahi ngahau me te piripono. Ehara ianei tēnei i te kete harikoa tino whakahihiri? Ā, koinei te mea ka riro i a koe ina noho koe hoa pai me tō hoa. Ina hoki, ki te mea kei te whakaaro koe he aha te mea e kiia ana he whanaungatanga hauora, he tino tika te whakaahuatanga o te hononga i hangaia i runga i te turanga o te whakahoahoa. Ka kaha ake, ka pakari ake hoki ngā turanga matua o te whanaungatanga ina hangaia i runga i te hononga hohonu o te whakahoahoa.

12. Whakatau

He uara matua te whakarerekē me te whakaae tahi me te hoa rangatira kia tipu ai te whanaungatanga. Nā te mea ahakoa he uara ōrite ō te tokorua, tera pea he iti noa ngā rerekētanga, nā te mea kāore he tangata e rite ana.

Nō reira, ina noho te whakaae tetahi ki tetahi hei uara matua o te whanaungatanga, kāore te tokorua e uaua ki te kimi i te huarahi waenga ina he tautohetohe. Ka taea e ēnei whakaae te whai hua i ngā take iti, pērā i te whiriwhiri i tētahi wāhi haere, ki ngā take nui, pērā i te tāone e hiahia ana te tokorua ki te neke atu. Engari kia mahara, me mahi ēnei whakaae i runga i te huarahi hauora, kaua e āwangawanga, ā, me mahi tahi tonu.

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13. Whakapono

Kia maumahara, kāore he huarahi kē atu i tētahi whanaungatanga ponoKo te nuinga o ngā tāne me ngā wāhine e pāngia ana e ngā piki me ngā heke o te ao ka taea tēnei mahi nā te mea kua whakatau rāua kia noho pono tetahi ki tetahi. Inaa, kāore te pono e whakamatautauria i ngā wā pai engari i ngā wā tino ngoikore. Ka angitu te whanaungatanga mēnā ka noho pono te tokorua tetahi ki tetahi ahakoa ngā raruraru, ngā huihuinga ohorere, ngā wā uaua rānei e pā ana ki a rāua. Nō reira, ahakoa he mate whakamate, he whakatairanga e hiahia ana kia nekehia, he ngaronga ohorere rānei o te mahi, mēnā he pono te tokorua tetahi ki tetahi, ka taea e rāua te wikitoria i te nuinga o ngā arai o te ao.

14. Te Panui

Ko tētahi o ngā uara matua hei rapu i roto i tētahi whanaungatanga ko korero tuwhera. Mā te hiahia ki te kōrero ka whakatauhia te haurua o ngā raruraru e pā ana ki ngā tāne me ngā wāhine. Kōrerohia pinepine, whakarongo hoki ki a rātou, ahakoa he rerekētanga o te āhua noho i roto i ngā whanaungatanga, he take nui rānei, pērā i te pūtea (ahakoa kei te hiahia koe ki te haumi, ki te penapena moni rānei) te whānau rānei (ahakoa kei te hiahia koe ki ngā tamariki). Tērā pea he rerekē ngā mea e hiahiatia ana e ngā hoa i te ao, he rerekē rānei ngā huarahi e hiahia ana rātou ki te wheako i te ao. Nō reira, mā te kōrero mārama me te hauora tetahi ki tetahi ka āwhina i ngā tāne me ngā wāhine ki te:

● Whakatauhia ngā take kia tere ake
● Kia mārama ki ō rātou rerekētanga, mēnā he rerekētanga, ā, kia aro atu ki aua rerekētanga
● Ārai i ngā māramatanga hē anō

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15. Tauritenga

He uara matua te ōritetanga, ā, ngā whanaungatanga kore taurite kāore i te tino angitu. Ina rite te āhua o ngā hoa ki a rātou anō, he maha ngā raruraru whanaungatanga ka taea te whakatau. Ā, ko te 'rite' i konei, ehara i te mea me whiwhi rātou i ngā utu ōrite, me haumi ōrite rānei ki ngā whakapaunga katoa. Ko te tikanga me rite te āhua o te tangata ki a rātou anō.

Ae, he rerekē ngā tūranga o ngā tāne me ngā wāhine i roto i te whanaungatanga. Tērā pea he rerekētanga pūtea i roto i ngā whanaungatanga. Hei tauira, ko te tāne te kaiwhakawhiwhi moni, ko te wahine te kaitiaki kāinga, engari ko te mea nui mēnā kei reira:

● Te ōritetanga i roto i te whakatau kaupapa
● Te ōritetanga o ngā kōwhiringa, pērā i te whakarite kia kaua tetahi hoa e akiaki i ā rātou kōwhiringa ki tētahi atu
● Te ōritetanga o te whai wāhitanga ki te whai i te wawata o te tangata
● Te ōritetanga o te whakapuakitanga o ō rātou hiahia tinana

Ko te tumanako kua mōhio koutou inaianei ki te hiranga o ngā uara o te whanaungatanga, ā, kua mōhio hoki koutou ki ētahi o ngā uara matua o te whanaungatanga me mau tonu i ngā tāne me ngā wāhine. Heoi, kāore he mahere pumau mō te whanaungatanga hauora, ā, ko ngā mea hei whakanui i roto i te whanaungatanga ka whakawhirinaki ki te tokorua. Inaa, ko te mea nui ko ngā mea e tino whakanuia ana e kōrua i roto i te whanaungatanga.

Me whao e tātou ō tātou ake ara i roto i tana rapunga. Koinei te ataahua o taua mea. Ka taea e ēnei uara te mahi hei huinga taputapu whai hua hei whai hua i tēnei haerenga. Inaa, ka taea hoki te whakamahi hei uara whakaipoipo, i mua i te tīmatanga o te here, te marena rānei. He pono, kāore e taea e mātou te whakarato i tētahi rārangi uara marena whānui. Engari ki te mea he mea nui ki a koe tō whanaungatanga, kia tino aro koe ki ēnei uara matua e 15 i roto i ngā whanaungatanga.

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