I a au e tere ana i te ao tae noa ki te 38 o oku tau, e harikoa ana ki te marena, e koa ana ki te aroha o taku tāne, e tiaki ana hoki i ā māua tamariki tokorua, kāore rawa au i whakaaro i roto i aku moemoeā ka pērā te nanakia me te ohorere o taku nekehanga atu i taku rohe whakamarie. I mate taku tāne i te toto toto i roto i te roro i a ia e mahi ana i te mahi hōia i te Rawhiti, ā, ka tino pakaru ahau me ā māua tamariki.
Ko te mārenatanga anō i muri i te matenga o te hoa rangatira he mea kāore anō kia whakaarohia e au i mua, ā, kāore hoki au i whakaae kia pērā - i tahuri katoa taku arotahi ki aku tamariki me tō rātou heke mai.
Te neke haere I muri i te matenga o te hoa rangatira, he rite ki te oho ake i te āhua kino. I akiakihia ahau ki te arotake i tō mātou oranga pōuri, me te haere tonu me taku tamāhine me taku tama taiohi. I neke mātou ki ngā tāone, i uru taku tama ki te whare wānanga, ā, i uru atu māua ko taku tamāhine ki te kura, ko ia hei ako, ko ahau hei whakaako. Ahakoa i roa te wā, i noho tahi mātou tokotoru, ā, i āta noho tō mātou oranga ki tētahi tikanga pai. Engari he nui te āputa i roto i tōku ao.
He tino oraora, he harikoa, he whakahihiri hoki tōku marena (ko te kitenga noa i a ia e hoki mai ana i muri i tētahi rā mahi, i whakaohooho i ahau), ā, ināianei, he tino hoha tōku oranga, kāore he mea hei tumanako atu i tua atu i te whakatipu i aku tamariki me te noho i roto i a rātou. Kāore he mea i nui atu te pouri i tēnā, engari kāore he huarahi kē atu i ahau.
Te Marena Tuarua i Muri i te Matenga o te Hoa Rangatira
Ripanga o Ihirangi
Kāore i roto i ahau te whakaaro ki te marena tuarua i muri i te matenga o taku hoa rangatira, engari kāore i whakaarohia te kaha o taku whaea ki te 'noho anō'. ngā tohutohu mō te angitu o te marena tuaruaheoi anō, i aro atu ahau ki tēnei mea nā te mea kua rua āna marenatanga.
Nō reira, i whakaaroaro ahau, i te mea i wehi ahau ki te noho ko au anake i muri i te pakeketanga me te haerenga atu o ngā tamariki (he mea kāore e taea te karo). I muri i taku whakaaroaro, i whakatakoto ahau i ētahi tikanga e toru.
Tuatahi, me i mate hoki tana hoa rangatira, nā te mea i mōhio ahau mai i aku wheako ka karo te tangata i te kōrero mō tō hoa rangatira kua ngaro i mua i a koe, engari kei te hiahia nui koe ki te kōrero mōna, ā, ka taea e tāua te whakapuaki i ā tāua maharatanga whakamiharo; tuarua, me whānau anō hoki tana tamāhine, nā te mea i whakaaro ahau ka nui ake te haumaru o māua ko taku tamāhine, ā, ka rite ia ki tētahi tamāhine ki a ia.
Hei whakamutunga, me mārama ia ehara i te mea mō ngā take pūtea taku marena (he mahi, he whare, he motuka taku) engari mō te hoa me te oranga. I hiahia ahau ki te tomo ki tēnei whanaungatanga hou i muri i te matenga o taku hoa rangatira me taku hoa rangatira. whakaute whaiaro i ora tonu, ā, kāore i hiahia kia whakaaro tetahi e hiahia ana ahau ki te whakaiti i taku taumahatanga, kia kite i a ia hei kai māku mō te wā katoa!
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Te tango i te wero
I mate te wahine a taku tāne tuarua i te mate pukupuku, ā, ko ia anake i waiho hei whakatipu i āna tamariki tokotoru - tokorua ngā tamāhine me te tama kotahi. I noho tata ōna mātua, ā, i āwhina mai rātou, engari he uaua. He tangata ia te mahi, kua rukuhia e ia ki tana pakihi, ā, kua waiho iho e ia ngā mahi kāinga me te whakatipu tamariki ki tana wahine.
Nō reira, i tino ngaro ia, ā, kei te ngana tonu ki te mōhio ki tōna āhua i mua i tana moe anō i muri i te matenga o tana hoa rangatira. Nā tōna ataahua me tōna ngākau ngawari, i kite ahau i ahau e noho tahi ana me ia, ā, mā māua tahi e tango te kawenga ki te whakatipu i ā māua tamariki tokorima, me te whakapakari i a rātou kia kaha ki te noho pai, ki te noho motuhake, ki te noho pūmau hoki i te taha pūtea.
Ki te titiro whakamuri ahau, i ētahi wā ka whakaaro ahau me pēhea rā taku tiaki i ētahi atu tamariki tokotoru, me te kore e manukanuka mēnā ka taea e au te tiaki i ō rātou oranga hinengaro me te oranga tinana. Te whakaipoipo i tētahi tāne me āna tamariki He maha ngā wero kei roto i tēnei mahi. Ki taku whakaaro i āwhina taku mahi kaiako, nā te mea i karapotia tonutia ahau e ngā tamariki, ā, kua taunga ahau ki te noho tahi me rātou.
I whakatakoto ahau i ētahi ture māmā māku ake; e kore ahau e wehewehe i ngā tamariki, e aroha ana, e whiu ana i te katoa, e kore e whakahāwea i tetahi, ā, e kore rawa e whakahāwea i tetahi mea. Mōku, mai i taua wā, ehara i te mea ko 'nāna', ko 'nōku' rānei, engari ko 'tā tātou'.
"Kāore ia i whakaaro ka aroha anō ia, tae noa ki tōna mōhio he wāhi kei roto i tōna ngākau mō ngā mea o mua me ngā mea o muri mai."
He mea āwhina te korenga o taku tāne i pokanoa, i whakahē i aku whakataunga me taku whiu; he tautoko nui ia, ā, he mātakitaki puku engari he kaingākau ki ngā mahi o ia rā. Ehara i te mea ngāwari ina huihui ngā whānau rerekē ahurea e rua ki te hanga i te oranga kotahi, engari kua rite māua ko ia ki te aro atu ki ngā wero.
Te wehewehe i te mātua
He tino manaakitanga mā mātou nā te mea kāore he raruraru i waenganui i ngā tamariki, ā, i aroha rātou tetahi ki tetahi. I pai te haere o tō rātou oranga, ā, i whānau mai ngā tuahine tokorua a taku tamāhine, ā, i kitea e tana tama he tuakana. Ko te pakeketanga o rātou tokorima i te wā e tamariki ana, e miharo tonu ana ahau.
Kāore mātou i pāngia e tetahi raruraru e pā ana ki ngā tamariki mai i te rā tuatahi. Kāore ia i pokanoa ki taku whakatipuranga, whakawhirinaki i roto i tana kī ka mahi ahau i te pai mō āna tamariki, ā, ka waiho māku e whakahaere ngā mahi o ia rā, o ia rā.
Mōku nei, i ngana ahau kia noho hei whaea, hei hoa hoki mō āna tamariki, me te whakamārama anō hoki kāore he tangata e taea te tango i te tūranga o tō rātou whaea; kei konei ahau i ngā wā katoa e hiahiatia ana ahau e rātou, ā, ka whai kāinga rātou hei hokinga atu mō ake tonu atu. Ko te tukanga o hinga i roto i te aroha i muri i te matenga o te hoa rangatira i rite ki ahau me te mea he māmā noa iho.
Te āhua nei i whai hua ngā tohutohu katoa a ngā mātua mō te whakatipu taiohi, nā te mea ko te pono ki ngā tamariki te huarahi pai hei whakapakari i a rātou, hei tangata mārama ki te ao e karapoti nei i a rātou. Me mōhio rātou ki te kawenga mō ā rātou mahi.
"Ka taea e te pouri me te aroha te noho tahi, ā, nā tana haerenga o te marena anō i whakaatu mai he maha ngā āhua o te whakaora."
I tēnei rā, whai muri i ngā tau 13 o te noho tahi, e tino whakapono ana ahau i huihui māua ki te hoatu ki ā māua tamariki he oranga whai hua me te heke mai kanapa. Kua moe tā māua tamāhine, ā, he mahi whakamiharo āna, kei te mahi tā māua tama matamua, ā, kua moe tā māua tama, ā, kei te kūaha mai tā māua tama pōtiki ki tētahi oranga hou, ki te US.
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Whakaaetia ngā rerekētanga
Ahakoa ehara i te moenga rōhi, he rerekē rawa te āhua (he marino, he marino ia, ko au he kōrero nui, he tangata whakawhitiwhiti kōrero), i whakaaetia e māua ō māua rerekētanga, ā, i whakangāwari i a māua anō. I roto i ngā tau, i ako ia ki te whakarongo, ā, i ako ahau ki te noho puku ina kite ahau i tana hiahia ki te whakaaro.
Ko te karo i ō māua āhua rerekē ka puta aunoa mai ki a māua tokorua, ā, kua taea e māua te hanga i tētahi oranga tahi, ā, kua kino ki a māua te wehe mō te wā poto noa iho. Ae, i te tīmatanga, i te mārena anō i muri i te matenga o tētahi hoa rangatira, ki ahau nei he ahua rerekē, he ahua hē hoki, engari e tino mōhio ana ahau ko te mea pai rawa atu māku me ngā tamariki te mea i hiahiatia e taku tāne tuatahi. Ā, koinei te taiao pai rawa atu mō rātou.
Ka taea e te ao te hoatu i tētahi wero nui ki a koe. Kei a koe te tikanga me pēhea e tū atu ai koe, ahakoa ka hinga koe, ka anga atu rānei ki te aroaro o te kanohi! Kaua e panaia te whakaaro o te aroha i muri i te matenga o te hoa rangatira, nā te mea kāore koe e mōhio ana āhea ka ohorere koe i te ao. Ā, he ara rerekē tō te aroha ki te puta.
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FAQs
1. He mea noa te whakaaro ki te mārena anō i muri i te matenga o te hoa rangatira?
Ae, he mea noa iho. I muri i te matenga o te hoa rangatira, ka rite ētahi tāngata ki te whakatuwhera anō i ō rātou ngākau. Ka taea e te mārena anō te noho hei wāhanga o te tukanga whakaora, ā, he huarahi hoki ki te awhi i te aroha me te hoa kotahi ano.
I muri i te matenga o tana tāne mō ngā tau 20, i whakaaro a Meera ka mau tonu tōna ao i te pouri. Mō ngā tau, i aro nui ia ki āna tamariki, ā, i kitea he whakamarie i roto i ōna maharatanga. Kātahi ka tūtaki ia ki a Vikram, he pouaru me te kōrero rite. Ko te mea i tīmata hei hoa rangatira, ka puāwai hei mea nui ake. I tautoko rāua tetahi i tetahi i roto i te pouri tahi, engari i kitea hoki te harikoa i roto i te kitenga i tētahi momo aroha hou. I tā rāua marena, i whakapuaki a Meera i tētahi whaikōrero hei whakanui i tana tāne kua mate rāua ko Vikram, me te kī, "Kāore te aroha e mutu - ka huri noa."
2. Kia pēhea te roa e tika ana kia tatari te tangata i mua i te whakaaro ki te mārena anō?
Kāore he wā kua whakaritea mō te wā "tika" ki te moe anō. Ka pouri, ka ora te katoa i runga i tōna ake tere. Tērā pea ka roa ētahi tau, ko ētahi ia ka tere ake te whakaaro kua rite. Ko te mea nui ko te whakaaro kua rite te tangata ki te taha hinengaro mō tētahi upoko hou.
3. Ka taea e te marena hou te whakahonore i te maharatanga o te hoa rangatira kua mate?
Ae, ka taea te noho tahi me te whakanui i te maharatanga o te hoa rangatira kua mate. Ko te anga whakamua ehara i te mea ka wareware i te aroha i ngaro. He maha ngā tāngata e kimi huarahi ana ki te manaaki i ō rātou hītori me te awhi i tētahi whanaungatanga hou.
Thoughts Final
He haerenga whaiaro hohonu te mārenatanga anō i muri i te matenga o te hoa rangatira, e kawe mai ana i ōna ake kare ā-roto, wero, me ngā hua. Ahakoa kāore e memeha katoa te pouri o te matenga o te hoa rangatira, he tokomaha e kite ana he mana tō te aroha ki te hoki mai i ngā huarahi ohorere. Mō te hunga kua rite, ka tukuna e te mārenatanga anō te whai wāhitanga mō te whakaora, te whakahoahoa, me te tīmatanga hou? Ā mātou kaiwhakaora aroha Kei konei mātou hei tautoko i a koe i roto i te tūhuratanga o te marena anō, te pouri, me te ara ki ngā tīmatanga hou. Whakaritea he wā i tēnei rā hei tīmata i tō haerenga whakaora ki tētahi heke mai whai hua.
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He harikoa kua tae mai koe. Ko te nuinga kāore. He papa maina kare ā-roto te marena anō me ngā tamariki. Ngā mihi nui ki a koe me tō whānau. Kia manaakitia koe e te Atua ki te hari nui <3
Harikoa ahau kua kitea e koe tētahi hei tīmatanga hou i te ao. Kia ora tonu koe.