12 Ngā Tohu Whakamōhio Kua Tae ki te Wā ki te Kihi i te Kōtiro

Kei te whakaipoipo koe i tētahi kōtiro e tatari ana koe kia kihi, engari kei te pōhēhē koe mēnā koinei te wā tika? Ko te mea kei te whakaroa koe e whakaatu ana kāore koe e hiahia ki te whakararuraru i ngā mea. Ahakoa ko te kihi te mea tino makutu hei tīmatanga i tō whanaungatanga, ka taea hoki te waiho hei take mō te hinganga o tō rārangi wā whakaipoipo.

Nō reira, me mōhio koe ki te wā e rite ana ia kia kihihia kia kore ai e raru. Engari kei te toe tonu te pātai miriona tāra: me pēhea te mōhio mēnā kei te hiahia tētahi kōtiro ki te kihi i a koe? Ko tētahi huarahi, ko te pātai atu ki a ia i mua i te wā. Heoi, kāore pea te huarahi tika e pai. Me pēhea mēnā ka mutu ka whakamā koe i ngā mea? Me pēhea mēnā kāore ia i te tino rite ki te tango i te peke engari kāore e mōhio me pēhea te kī atu?

A, mehemea kei te hiahia ia ki te kihi i a koe engari kei te ruarua ia ki te whakapuaki i ana hiahia? Koia te take i mua i te neke, me rapu koe, me pānui hoki i ngā tohu e hiahia ana te kōtiro ki te kihi i a koe. Mai i tana reo tinana ki tana whanonga, he maha ngā tohu e tohu ana i tana rite mō taua raka ngutu e tatarihia ana. Me tūhuratia ēnei tohu hei āwhina i a koe ki te mārama me pēhea te mōhio āhea me kihi i te kōtiro.

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He raruraru noa te wā e kihi ai i tētahi kōtiro ina tīmata koe ki te whakaipoipo i tētahi tangata hou. Me kihi koe i a ia i te mutunga o te rā tuatahi mēnā ka pai ngā mea katoa? Ka whakanui ake rānei te pātai 'ki te kihi, kāore rānei' i tō manawa pāwera i te rā tuatahi ? Me tatari koe mō tētahi wā i mua i te mahi i tēnei nekehanga? Āe, kāore he whakautu tika, he whakautu hē rānei mō te wā e kihi ai i tētahi kōtiro mō te wā tuatahi.

Ko te mea anake e hiahiatia ana ko te whakaae tahi i te whakaaro o te tokorua. Ki te neke wawe rawa atu, tera pea ka puta he whakaaro "I ngana ahau ki te kihi i tētahi kōtiro, ā, kua neke atu ia". Kāore tēnā e pai ki a kōrua, ā, he tino ārai i te ahunga whakamua o ngā mea mai i reira.

I taua wā anō, he uaua pea te whakatau mēnā e hiahia ana ia kia kihi koe i a ia. He aha te mea e hiahia ana tētahi kōtiro whakama kia kihi koe i a ia engari kāore koe e kite i ngā tohu huna e tukuna ana e ia? He kino atu rānei, me pēhea mēnā kei te whakaaro koe e hiahia ana ia kia kihihia engari kāore anō ia kia rite? Nō reira, he mea nui kia kotahi te whakaaro o kōrua tokorua. Mā te kihi i a ia i te wā hē ka pā mai ēnei hua pea:

• Ka hoki atu ia, ka mea ka waea atu ahau ki a koe (e mōhio ana mātou e kore rawa ia e mahi)
• Pō mārie, kātahi ka ngaro atu
• Ka noho hei mea whakamā, hei mea whakama hoki mā kōrua
• Ka haere atu ia, kāore he kupu i kōrerotia e ia

Nō reira, ki te kore koe e hiahia kia kiia koe ko te tangata whakarihariha i haere tahi rāua, ko te tangata whanoke rānei e tatari ana ki te tuku i tōna arero ki roto i tōna korokoro, tirohia ngā tohu e hiahia ana ia ki te kihi i a koe. Anei ngā pātai me pātai atu koe ki a koe anō:

• Me pēhea te mohio mena kei te hiahia tetahi kotiro ki te kihi i a koe
• Āhea koe me kihi i tētahi kotiro?
• Me pēhea te kihi i tētahi kotiro i tētahi rā
• Me pēhea koe e mōhio ai āhea koe e piko atu ai mō te kihi?

Pānui e pā ana: 5 ngā whakaaro o tētahi kōtiro i muri i tana kihi tuatahi

Rapua noa ngā tohu tika mēnā kei te hiahia te kōtiro ki te kihi i a koe, ā, ka whiwhi koe i ō whakautu katoa. He aha ēnei tohu, e pātai ana koe? Me titiro tātou kia āwhina i a koe ki te mārama me pēhea te mōhio mēnā kei te hiahia te kōtiro ki te kihi i a koe:

1. Ka titiro moemoeā ia ki a koe

I a kōrua e kōrero ana ki a ia, kei te titiro moemoeā mai ia ki ō kanohi? Āe, tera pea kei te aro noa mai ia. Koinei te wā hei aro atu ki ngā taipitopito. Tirohia mēnā kei te titiro matatau mai ia ki a koe me te hiki i tōna kaki, me te tākaro rānei ki ōna makawe. Ki te pērā, he tino hiahia nui tōna ki a koe, ā, tera pea he nui atu i te kapu kawhe anake tana e hiahia ana.

He maha ngā wā, ehara ēnei titiro moemoeā i te mea i āta whakaarohia, engari he whakaaturanga ā-ture o tōna hiahia ki a koe. Nō reira, ahakoa kei te rapu koe i ngā tohu e hiahia ana tētahi kōtiro whakama kia kihi koe i a ia, me mahi tonu tēnei. I mua i tō whakatau ki te whakamātau i ōna ngutu, kia aro ki tana titiro ki a koe.

2. Ka tukuna e ia mā roto i tana reo tinana

Me pēhea te mōhio āhea te kihi i tētahi kōtiro? Āe, ko ngā tohu o te hiahia o te wahine he tohu mate, nō reira kia aro ki tana urupare ki tō aroaro me tō tata. Ki te kata ia ki ō katakata, ki te piko mai rānei hei whakaatu i tōna hiahia nui ki ō kōrero, he tohu tēnā kei te hiahia ia ki a koe.

Ki te noho noa ia, kaua e tiaki i tōna tū, he tohu tēnā kei te pai ia. Mā te paraihe noa i ōna ringa, tera pea kāore ia e māharahara ki te pā atu ki a ia. Ki te tuwhera, ki te manaaki hoki tōna tū, koinei tētahi o ngā tohu tino pai e hiahia ana te kōtiro ki te kihi i a koe.

3. Te pānga tapatoru

"I ngana ahau ki te kihi i tētahi kōtiro, ā, kua neke atu ia" he raru nui e hiahia ana koe ki te karo i ngā huarahi katoa. Koinei te wāhi e taea ai e 'te pānga tapatoru' – arā, te titiro a ia ki ō kanohi, kātahi ka titiro ki ō ngutu i mua i te titiro anō ki ō kanohi – te āwhina i a koe.

He take anō hoki e kiia ai ngā kanohi he whakaata o te wairua. Kāore ngā kanohi e teka. E whakaata ana i ō tātou hiahia me ngā kare ā-roto pono. Koia tēnei he tohu mārama e hiahia ana ia kia kihi koe i a ia. Ka taea e koe te whakawhirinaki ki tēnei hei whakatutuki i tō nekehanga.

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4. Ka whiua e ia ōna makawe

I waenganui o tō kōrua rā, ki te ata whakatakoto ia i ōna makawe ki te taha, kia kitea ai tōna kaki, nā te mea e hiahia ana ia kia kite koe i a ia. Mā te whakaatu i tōna kaki me te whakapiko paku i tōna kaki, ko te tikanga e hiahia ana ia kia aroha koe ki a ia. He maha hoki ngā wā, he whakaaturanga huna tēnei o tōna hiahia me tōna hiahia, nō reira e kore e taea e ia te huna, te whakahaere rānei i taua mea.

Ki te mea kei te whakaaroaro koe me pēhea te mōhio mēnā kei te hiahia tētahi kōtiro ki te kihi i a koe, koinei pea te otinga. Nō reira, kia aro mai, kaua hoki e tukua kia ngaro noa atu ēnei tohu ngawari o tōna hiahia ki te anga whakamua.

5. Ngau ngutu manukanuka

Ki te kite koe i a ia e ngote ana, e ngau ana i ōna ngutu me te mataku, ko te tikanga kua whakaaro ia ki te kihi i a koe engari kāore ia i te mōhio me pēhea te whakamōhio atu ki a koe. Koinei tētahi o ngā tohu e hiahia ana te kōtiro ki te kihi i a koe, mena he hononga mārama kei waenganui i a rātou, ā, ka taea e koe te rongo kei te hiahia ia ki a koe.

Ki te kore, tera pea kei te manukanuka ia mō tētahi atu mea. Tērā pea kei te mataku ia kei tāpirihia atu tēnei ki ana kōrero tino kino mō te rā whakaipoipo , me te kimi huarahi hei puta atu. Tērā pea kei te manukanuka ia mō te momo whakaaro e puta mai ana i a ia, me te nui o te hihiri me te hononga hei arahi i tētahi atu rā whakaipoipo.

6. Te āhua nei kei te pai ia ki a koe

Mā tana pā atu i a koe i ngā wā katoa, mā tana pēhi mārire rānei i tō ringa, he tohu tēnei kei te pai ia ki a koe. Tērā pea ka tukua koe e ia kia okioki i tō ringa ki runga i tōna pakihiwi, kāore rānei e āwangawanga ki te pupuri i tōna ringa. E tohu ana ēnei tohu kua rite ia ki te wikitoria i te whakama, ā, kei te tuwhera ki te whiwhi i tētahi atu mea.

Mena kua hono kē kōrua ki a ia, ā, kua kite koe i a ia e māhana haere ana ki tō aroaro, kei te tatari pea ia kia tīmatahia e koe te kihi tuatahi. Haere mai, ā, e kore koe e puta i te pouri "I ngana ahau ki te kihi i tētahi kōtiro, ā, kua neke atu ia".

7. Ka takaro ia

Tērā pea ko ia te tangata māia, e whakapuaki ana i ōna kare ā-roto. Ko ngā tohu o tana takaro pōrearea ka tohu pea kei te tumanako koe ki te kihi, ka mea noa rānei ia, "Ka kihi noa koe i ahau?" Kia āta whakaaro, kaua hoki e hohoro te whakatau me te kore e tino mōhio kei te pono ia.

Ki te mea he pono te kōrero a te kōtiro kei a koe mō tāna e hiahia ana, kāore koe e hiahia ki te pātai me pēhea te mōhio mēnā e hiahia ana te kōtiro ki te kihi i a koe mō te wā roa rawa. Tatauhia ō manaakitanga, ā, piko mai!

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8. Ka tere ia ki te whakatikatika tere

Ki te tomo puku ia ki te wharepaku mō te whakatikatika tere ahakoa kua mutu te rā, nā te mea kei te tumanako ia kia tata te kanohi ki a ia. E hiahia ana ia kia ātaahua tōna āhua, ā, mā te whakatikatika tere i te kiri me te paura ka āwhina i a ia ki te whakatutuki i tēnā. Ki te kore āna mahere kē atu, e mōhio ana koe ko koe te tangata e mahi ana ia i tēnā māu.

Nō reira, kati te whakaaro nui me pēhea te mōhio āhea me kihi i tētahi kōtiro, me mahi noa i tā kōrua nekehanga. Koinei tonu te mea e hiahiatia ana e kōrua, he aha rā te take e whakaroa ai, e whakakorikori ai i te tumanako.

9. Ka whakaroa i te rā

Kua mutu tō kōrua rā, engari kāore anō kōrua kia kihi. Kei te tono atu ia kia haere tahi kōrua ki te kāinga me te haere tahi me ia, kaua ki te tuku i a ia ki te tekesi? Kāore rānei ia e puta i te motuka ahakoa kua tae ki te kāinga, ā, kei te kōrero tonu ki a koe. Tērā pea ka tono atu ia kia haere tahi kōrua mō tētahi wā poto. Nā te mea kei te rapu huarahi ia hei whakaroa i te rā kia whai wāhi ai kōrua ki te kihi i a ia.

Kua tae ki te wā kia mārama koe ki ana mahi – he tohu tēnei kei te hiahia tetahi kōtiro ki te kihi i a koe, ki te pupuri i ōna ngutu. Ki te kore koe e pena, ka waiho ia e koe me te pouri, ā, i muri mai, ka whakahe koe i a koe anō mō ​​te kore e neke i te wā i whai wāhi ai koe.

10. Mā te awhi poroporoaki koe e mōhio ai mēnā e hiahia ana ia kia kihihia

Me pēhea te mōhio mēnā kei te hiahia tētahi kōtiro ki te kihi i a koe? Ki te kore koe e kite i tētahi tohu mārama, ā, kāore e taea e koe te whakatau mēnā ka kihi koe i a ia, mā te awhi poroporoaki koe e mahi. Ina awhi koe i a ia, tirohia mēnā ka hoki whakamuri ia i roto i ngā hēkona, ka noho roa rānei. Tērā pea ka whakatata atu ia i a koe, ka pa atu tōna ringa ki raro. Kāore e ranea te awhi inaianei, e hiahia ana te kōtiro kia kihi koe i a ia. Kei tō kōti te pōro inaianei, tākaro tika.

11. Ka tono atu ki a koe kia tomo mai

I muri i te rā whakaipoipo, ka karanga ia i a koe ki tōna whare ina he tekau mā rua ngā wāhi ka taea e koe te haere. E pai ana ia ki te whakapuaki i tōna oranga whaiaro ki a koe. E mea ana ia e hiahia ana ia kia pānuihia e koe tana blog, kia kite rānei koe i tana kohinga pukapuka. E tohu ana ēnei tohu e hiahia ana ia ki te kawe i tēnei ki tētahi taumata e whai ake nei.

I muri i aua kōrero mahana tuatahi, āta haere, ka kihi i a ia. He nui ake ngā tūponotanga ka whakahoki mai ia i a koe nā te mea kei roto ia i tōna rohe whakamarie. I runga i te horopaki, he nui te tūponotanga ka piki ake ngā mea i tua atu i te kihi engari kaua e tumanako ka tupu, engari tukua ia kia ārahi.

12. Pātai atu i mua i te kihi i tētahi kōtiro

Ahakoa kua mōhio koe inaianei ki te mōhio mēnā kei te hiahia tētahi kōtiro ki te kihi i a koe, he pai tonu te rapu i tana whakaae. Mā te pātai atu ki a ia mēnā ka taea e koe te kihi i a ia e whakaatu ana i te nui o tō whakaute ki tana whakaae, me te whakaatu hoki i te kaha o te wairua. Heoi anō, ka taea e koe te noho marino i te wā e kihi ana i a ia, me te kore e ruarua mēnā i tika tāu mahi, ā, ka tino pārekareka ki te wā.

Ina kite koe i ētahi tohu e hiahia ana tētahi kōtiro ki te kihi i a koe, kia rangatira koe, ka pātai atu ki a ia mēnā ka taea e koe. Kāore rawa he tūponotanga ka kī ia kāo i tēnei wā. Ahakoa rā, ka maioha ia ki te tohu. Kia pōkaikaha ia, kia whakaae rānei, ka taea e kōrua te whakapuaki i tētahi kihi aroha, e piki ake ai te huruhuru, ka waiho māua kia hiahia atu anō.

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Ngā tohutohu hei whakarite kia motuhake te kihi tuatahi

Me motuhake te kihi tuatahi nā te mea he whakaahua ka maumahara ia i a kōrua e whakaipoipo ana. Ehara i te kihi noa iho. Ko te taahiraa tuatahi tēnei ki tō kōrua aroha me te whanaungatanga piripono hei tokorua. Kei a koe te pēhanga, nā te mea kāore koe e hiahia kia kī atu ia ki ana hoa, "Āe, kua pai ake taku inu". Ki te mea ko te wā tuatahi tēnei e kihi ana koe i tētahi kōtiro, kia mōhio koe ki tāu e mahi nei. Anei ētahi tohutohu hei whakatika i te mahi:

1. Tirohia tō manawa: Kāore koe e hiahia kia pakaru tō kihi tuatahi i te manawa riki. Hoatu he mea whakamakuku waha, he pepa rānei hei ārai i a koe.
2. Āta karohia ngā wāhi tūmatanui haruru: Kia tino kihi i a ia ki tētahi wāhi motuhake kia taea ai e kōrua te rongo i te wā me te kore he mea hei whakararuraru i a kōrua
3. Kaua e kōrero i waenganui i ēnei: Whakaaturia te aroha mā roto i ngā nekehanga. Kaua e whakakino i te wā mā te kōrero i waenganui
4. Kia puhoi: Kāore koe e hiahia ki te hohoro ki te mahi i tō kihi tuatahi. Kihia ia mārire, me te aroha hoki.
5. Kaua e tukua kia nui rawa te kopikopiko o ō ringaringa: Ka taea e koe te pupuri i tōna kaki, me te mirimiri i tōna tuara. Kaua e heke ki raro ki ōna papa. Ka meinga koe kia rite ki tētahi wahine whanoke.
6. Hoki whakamuri i roto i ētahi meneti: Me pupuri tonu te hiahia ā-ira. Mēnā ka piko mai ia, me kihi poto kia maha ngā kihi, engari kaua e nui rawa.

He mea tino nui te kihi i roto i tētahi whanaungatanga, nō reira he mea nui kia rapua te wā tino tika hei hanga i tētahi whanaungatanga makutu. I taua wā anō, kaua e warewarehia ngā tohu e tukuna ana e tō hoa wahine ki a koe, ki te kore ka whakaaro ia he tangata takatāpui koe, he kino atu rānei, he takatāpui. Ko te kihi i tētahi mō te wā tuatahi he wā e mau tonu ana ki te mahara ake ake, nō reira kia ata haere, kia motuhake, kia whai hua - ā, me mahi i tēnei i te wā tika.

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