Ngā Wāhanga e 7 o te Ture Kore-Papa Hinengaro Tāne

Kei te ngana koe ki te neke atu i tētahi wehenga kino, i tētahi hononga kino rānei? Kei te ngana koe ki te pana atu i tētahi tāne, ki te whakahoki mai rānei i a ia ki a koe? Mehemea ka kī atu mātou ki a koe he kotahi te otinga mō ēnei raruraru whanaungatanga noa katoa—ko te ture kore-pā? Engari me pēhea e taea ai e tētahi rautaki te āwhina i a koe ki te wareware i tētahi, me te whakahaere i te houhanga rongo? Āe, ina mārama koe ki te ture kore-pā, te hinengaro tāne, ka mārama katoa ki a koe. Koinā te mahi a mātou i konei.

E whai hua ana te ture kore-pā ki ngā tāne? Ka kore rānei e pā atu ki a ia, ka nui ake rānei tōna ngaro i a koe? He aha ngā mea e puta ana i roto i te hinengaro o te tāne i te wā e kore ai e pā atu? Mēnā kua noho ēnei pātai ki roto i tō hinengaro mai i tō pēhitanga i te pātene aukati, kua tae ki te wā ki te ruku hohonu ki tēnei rautaki hinengaro e kōrerohia whānuitia ana mō te whakatau i ngā kare ā-roto uaua. Me ngā māramatanga mai i te kaiwhakaora hinengaro Tākuta Aman Bhonsle (Ph.D., MBA, PGDTA), he tohunga ki te tohutohu whanaungatanga me te Whakaora Whanoke Ā-roto, kia kite tātou me pēhea te urupare a ngā tāne ki te kore whakapā atu.

Te Mārama ki te Hinengaro Kore-Papa

I mua i tā tātou kōrero mō ngā pānga o te kore pā ki te tāne, kia kotahi te whakaaro mō te ture kore pā me tōna mahi. Ko te ture kore pā he rautaki hinengaro e whakamahia ana hei whakatau i te... ora ake i te wehenga te mamae o te ngākau. Ko te mea nui i konei ko te tapahi i ngā whakawhitiwhiti kōrero katoa ki tētahi hoa o mua, ka huri ki te whakaora me te tipu whaiaro. Ko te whakaaro nui kei muri i tēnei, mā te wehe atu i a koe i tētahi hoa o mua, ka taea e koe te whakamutu i tō whakawhirinakitanga kare ā-roto, ā, ka āwhina tēnei ki te whakahoki mai i te māramatanga hinengaro, ā, ka hoatu he wāhi me te wā ki a koe ki te mahi i tō whakaaro mōu ake, tō whakaaro nui ki a koe anō, me tō whakaaro nui ki a koe anō.

E whakamārama ana te tohunga hinengaro a Tākuta Ramani Durvasula, "Kāore he hononga e hoatu he wāhi ki a koe ki te wehe me te whakaora i te mamae o te whanaungatanga, ina koa he paitini." E tautoko ana hoki ngā rangahau ka taea e te tawhiti atu i a koe mai i tō hoa o mua te whakaiti i te ahotea me te raruraru kare ā-roto. E ai ki tētahi ako i whakaputaina i roto i te Journal of Neuroscience, ka whakahohehia e te whakakorenga aroha ngā rohe roro rite tonu ki te mamae tinana, ka noho ko te tawhiti kare ā-roto he mea nui mō te whakaoranga.

Ko te wā kore-pā i muri i te wehenga ka tiaki i a koe mai i te mamae me te whara anō mā te tiaki i a koe mai i ngā taunekeneke kare ā-roto. E ai ki te tohunga hinengaro a Tākuta Guy Winch, "Mā te whakamutu i ngā whakapā katoa, ka whakaitihia e koe ngā mea e whakaroa ana i te mamae kare ā-roto, ka hoatu he wā ki a koe anō ki te kimi anō i te mana o koe anō me te hanga anō i te whakaaro nui ki a koe anō."

Te Hinengaro Tāne i te Wā Kore Whakapā Mai

Ahakoa ko te whāinga taketake o te ture kore-pā he āwhina i te tangata kia neke whakamua me te whakaora i muri i te wehenga, he maha tonu ngā wā ka whakamahia ngā rautaki hinengaro whakamuri hei hoki tahi me tō hoa o mua. Mena kei te whakaaro koe, "He aha ngā mea e puta ana i roto i te hinengaro o te tangata i te wā kore-pā?", tera pea nā te mea kei te tumanako koe kia houhia te rongo. He wāhanga rānei o koe e pena ana. Ki te kore, kāore koe i konei, e ngana ana ki te mārama ki te pānga o te ture kore-pā ki tō hoa o mua. Engari, ka arotahi koe ki te whakaora me te neke whakamua, kāore?   

I a ia e kōrero ana mō te kaupapa, e kī ana a Tākuta Bhonsle, "Ina te ture kore whakapā i muri i te wehenga "I te mea kei te mana tonu, ka pā pea te riri, te whakama, me te wehi ki te tangata, i ētahi wā i te wā kotahi. I runga i te wā o te rā, ka taea e te tangata te rongo i tētahi o ēnei kare ā-roto takitahi, i ngā kare ā-roto katoa rānei." Nō reira, ki te taea e koe te uru ki roto i tōna hinengaro, ka kite koe kei te mamae ia pērā i a koe. Kei te hiahia koe ki te mōhio atu? Me ruku hohonu atu tātou ki te hinengaro kore-pā.  

7 Ngā Wāhanga Matua o te Ture Kore-Papā Hinengaro Tāne

"Kei te whakaaro ia ki ahau i a ia e kore ana e whakapā mai? Nā taua pātai ahau i kore ai e moe i muri i taku whakarērea i taku hoa tāne o mua, a Caleb. Te āhua nei kāore ia i aro ki a māua e kore e kōrero," te kōrero a Jollene ki a mātou, "Kua tata ki te kotahi wiki, ā, he maha ngā wā ka kite ahau i a ia e kata ana i te kāreti. Nā tōna waiaro ahau i whakaaro ai kāore au i te tino hira ki a ia. Engari i ngana ahau ki te arotahi ki taku whakaora me taku tipu."

"I tētahi rā, ka tuku karere mai te hoa pai o Caleb, ka tono kia tukuna atu he wā anō ki a ia. I reira ka mōhio ahau he rerekē rawa te pānga o te ture kore-pā ki ngā tāne. I whakapau kaha ia kia kaua e āhua ngoikore engari i pōuri ia. I taua rā, ka tuku karere mai a Caleb i te 2 karaka i te ata e pātai ana me pēhea ia i whara ai i ahau. I reira ka mōhio ahau kei te oma noa ia i ōna kare ā-roto. Ae ra, kāore au i whakautu," tāna tāpiri.

Mena kei roto koe i tētahi wā rite i muri i te wehenga, he pai pea te mārama ki te hinengaro o te tāne i te wā kāore he hononga. Kia maumahara ahakoa he tauhohenga ia tāne he rerekē i muri i te wehengaheoi, ko te nuinga ka pāngia e ngā kare ā-roto ōrite i tētahi wā. Ko ēnei kare ā-roto e whakaata ana i te āhua o te hinengaro tāne i te wā kāore he whakapā:

1. Te whakaiti, te whakamāmā rānei, i runga i te tangata nāna i tīmata te ture kore-pā

Ki te whakarērea tetahi tāne, kātahi ka tukuna ki te rohe kore-pā, ka pā kino pea ki tōna whakapehapeha. E kī ana a Tākuta Bhonsle, "Ko tētahi o ngā wāhanga tuatahi o te kore whakapā mō te tāne ko te whakaiti i a ia. E whakaaro ana ia kua makahia ia ki tahaki, pērā i tētahi whanonga kino, me te mea he mea whakarihariha kei roto i a ia, he mea whakarihariha ki tana hoa o mua. Ahakoa tāna i mahi ai, kāore rānei, kāore tetahi e pai ki te tukinotia. Nō reira, ka pā kino te whakaiti i a ia ki a ia anō." 

I tētahi atu taha, ki te mea ko ia te tangata i tīmata i te wehenga, ā, i hiahia ia ki te whakamutu i ngā whakapā katoa, tērā pea ka māmā ake, ka marino ake ia i ngā rā tuatahi o te wā kore whakapā. I tēnei wā, kua tino marino ia ki āna whakatau. Koinei tētahi o ngā mea nui ngā rerekētanga wehenga tāne me te wahine e whakahaere ana tēnā i ōna kare ā-roto i muri i te wehenga me te āhua o tana whakahaere i aua kare ā-roto.

2. Te wāhanga whiriwhiri: Ka tīmata ia ki te ngaro i a koe

Ahakoa nāna i tīmata te ture kore-pā, i akiakihia rānei ki a ia, i muri i ētahi rā, ka tīmata tō hoa o mua ki te ngaro i a koe. Tērā pea ka tīmata tēnei i te wāhanga whiriwhiri i muri i te wehenga. Mā te whakamārama i tēnei āhuatanga o te hinengaro tāne i muri i te wehenga, he Reddit I tuhituhi te kaiwhakamahi, "I inoi ahau, ā, i whakakino i ahau anō, nō reira ki taku whakaaro he nui ake te tūponotanga ka hoki mai te hoa o mua mā te kore aro ki a ia i te tono. I kino ia ki ahau i te mutunga." Koinei tētahi o ngā wāhanga noa o te kore whakapā atu mō te tāne, arā:

• I roto i te ngana nui ki te whakatika i te hē, ka kōrero pea te tangata i ngā mea katoa e hiahia ana koe ki te whakarongo i taua wā tonu
• Nā te mea kāore e taea e ia te aro atu ki te korenga ohorere o te whakawhitiwhiti kōrero, ka whakamahi pea ia i ngā rautaki tino uaua.
• Tērā pea ka kite koe i tētahi panonitanga 180-tohu o tōna waiaro, me tōna rite ki te mahi i ngā mea katoa e tika ana kia riro mai anō i a koe.

Ki te hiahia koe kia kite mēnā ko te kei te mahi te ture kore-pā, ko te whānuitanga o tana wā whiriwhiri he tohu pai. E kī ana a Tākuta Bhonsle, "I te wā kore-pā, ka huri pea te tāne ki te whiriwhiri hei ngana ki te hoki ki te oranga o tana hoa o mua. Ka ngana pea ia ki te inoi kia hoki ki te oranga o tana hoa o mua mā te hoko atu ki a ia me te kī atu i ngā mea pēnei i te "Ka huri ahau hei tangata", "Ka pai ake taku mahi" "Ka huri ahau māu". Nā tēnei, ka nui ake te whakama, nā te mea ehara i te mea ngāwari te huri." 

3. Ka tīmata te mataku kei mokemoke, kei ngaro te aroha

Kia tīmata te ngaro o tō hoa o mua i a koe i roto i tōna ao, ka tere te huri o aua kare ā-roto hei wehi kei ngaro te aroha, ā, ka mutu ko koe anake. Reddit I tuhituhi te kaiwhakamahi, "I muri i te wehenga, i tino kaha rawa taku tuku karere kuputuhi, he hoa tonu tāua? Kei te hiahia koe ki te mahi i ā tāua raruraru? Kei te kite tāua i ētahi atu tāngata ināianei? He aha tō tāua tūnga? Whakautua mai, tēnā koa!" Koinei tonu te wā mokemoke, arā:

• Ko te ture kore-pā he tirotiro i te pono o tō hoa o mua, e hoatu ana ki a ia he tirohanga ki te āhua o tōna ao me te kore koe
• Ko te mōhiotanga ko te ture kore-pa ehara i te mahi tinihanga e whakamahia ana e koe mō ētahi rā.
• He mataku ohorere pērā i te "He aha ahau i takakau tonu ai? "Ka mate ko au anake" tērā pea ka mau

I tēnei wā, i te wā kāore he hononga, ka mau te hinengaro tāne i te wehi o te mea ngaro me te hiahia ki te anga atu ki te mea kua mōhiotia. "Ina tīmata te wehi, ka arahi pea ki ētahi whakatau kino ka kino ki te whakaaro nui o te tangata ki a ia anō. Ka tīmata te hinengaro rawakore, ā, ka tīmata pea te tangata ki te mahi i roto i te ngakaukore," te kī a Tākuta Bhonsle.

4. Ka riri ia, ā, ka rapu huarahi hei whakatau i tōna raruraru 

Ki tonu te hinengaro o te tāne i te mamae me te pōuri i te wā kāore he hononga. Tērā pea ka puta tēnei i te riri me te kawa o tō hoa o mua ki a koe. I tēnei wā, me whai huarahi ia ki te wikitoria i ngā kare kino. Ka tīmata ētahi tāne ki te rapu anō i te hoa, ā, ka hoki whakamuri ki te tango i ō rātou hinengaro i ngā kare ā-roto whakamā e pupuhi ana i roto. Ko ētahi, ka rapu piringa i te pito o te pounamu, ka tīmata rānei ki te whakawhanui me te whakanoho i ngā wāhine ki tētahi kāwai. Ka tīmata pea rātou ki te whakaatu i ngā tohu āwangawanga o ngā raruraru whakawhirinaki, me te kī i ngā mea pēnei i te "Kāore he wahine e pono ana."

Mena kei te wātea tonu te urunga (arā, mēnā kāore koe i aukati i tō hoa o mua i te wā kāore he whakapā), ka tukuna pea e ia he karere riri, he īmēra rānei hei whakaputa i tōna riri. Mēnā rānei ka tukuna atu e ia he waea pō ki a koe, ka kōrero pōrearea ia mō ngā huarahi katoa i hē ai koe ki a ia. Kei ia tangata te nui o te riri, engari tata ki te katoa o ngā tāne ka pāngia e tēnei. E ai ki a Tākuta Bhonsle, "Mā te noho hei kaiwhiwhi o te ture kore-pā ka arahi pea ki te riri me te mauahara. I te wā roa, ka arahi pea te riri ki te hanga i ngā momo whakaaro, ka arahi ai ki ngā whakaaro pākiki. Tērā pea ka uru te tāne ki ngā whanaungatanga ā muri ake nei me ngā whakaaro pākiki i runga i te mea i whakakahoretia ia." 

"Ka arahi tēnei ki tētahi huringa kino o te whakaiti me te whakakorenga," te kī a Tākuta Bhonsle mō ngā tūponotanga o te hinengaro tuku iho ka taea e ngā tāne te whakamahi, "Tērā pea kei te whakauru ia i a ia anō ki roto i tētahi porowhita. Tērā pea ka mea te wahine e whai ake nei, "He tangata kawa, he riri, he pōuri hoki ia", ā, ka arahi atu tēnei ki te whakakorenga, ki te kore rānei e pā atu anō. Mai i te mea e pa ana ki te whakakore ehara i te mea ngāwari, ka huri hei huringa kino o te mamae.”

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5. Ka pāngia ia e te pouri i a ia e whakaaro ana ki ngā mea i ngaro i a ia

He mea mārama, nā te ture kore-pā ka puta he wā tangihanga i te tīmatanga o te māramatanga ki a ia mō te nui o ngā mea kua ngaro i a ia. Ko tēnei wā o te kore-pā mō te tāne e pā ana ki te aro ki te aroha ki a ia anō, te pouri, me te pouri. Ka whakaaro ia ki te kore tika o te ao ki a ia. Ka noho tonu ia ki ngā mea i taea te tupu, ka aro ki ngā mea i hē ai te whanaungatanga me ngā mea katoa i taea e ia te mahi rerekē.

Koinei pea tētahi o ngā wā tino whakararuraru o te wā kore-pā mō te tāne. E kī ana a Tākuta Bhonsle ka taea te whakaiti i ēnei kare ā-roto mēnā ka tika te whakahaere i te ture kore-pā, ā, ka haere tonu tana whakamārama, "Ka taea e koe te wehe atu i a koe i tētahi me te kore e whakaute. Ko te huarahi pai ki te mahi i tēnei ko te kaua e whakamāori i te tangata ā, ka ngaro atu i te hau. Ka taea e koe te kī, "Kāore au e hiahia ana ki te haere tonu i tā tāua hononga, ā, e hiahia ana ahau ki te neke atu." Mēnā he tika ake tāu kōrero, ka māmā ake mā te tangata te mitimiti i ōna patunga me te neke atu. Ahakoa te roa o taua mahi." 

6. E hiahia ana ia ki te whakamatau i tōna aroha

Ko te hinengaro o te tāne i te wā kāore he hononga ka taea te hanga e ngā mea i kitea e ia i tōna tipu ake. I runga i te mata nui, kua whakaahuahia ngā kōrero mō ngā tāne pouri, waipiro, me te ngākau pouri. Nō reira, e whakapono ana ētahi tāne he mea tēnā me pā ki a rātou hei whakaatu i tō rātou aroha.  

Nō reira, ina kore koe e whakapā atu ki a ia, ka rapu huarahi ia ki te ka hoki anō ki te aroha ki a koe i muri i te wehengaE mea ana a Tākuta Bhonsle, "He maha ngā kiriata e whakaatu ana i ngā tāne e whakararuraru ana i a rātou anō nā te mea he wahine. Nō reira, he maha ngā tāne ka tīmata ki te whakapono ko te whakararuraru he wāhanga o te tukanga o te tāne me te mea he huarahi tēnei ki te whakaatu i te pono o tō rātou aroha."

I tana whakamārama i te korenga o te whai hua o tēnei rapunga whakaaro hē, ka tāpiri atu ia, "He tino whakarihariha te piko noa, kāore e neke atu nā te mea e whakapono ana koe koinei te mea me pā ki a koe. Ahakoa kei roto i ngā kiriata, kāore e whakamanahia, engari ka whakatairangahia he whakaaro kino. Ka pāngia ō tupono ki te ora e taua momo whanonga whakangaro me te aroha ki a koe anō."

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7. Te tumanako kia houhia te rongo, kia neke atu rānei

Kia oti i te tāne te whai i ngā wāhanga katoa o te kore whakapā, me te aro atu ki ngā kare ā-roto whakararuraru katoa e whakaohokia ana e rātou, ka kitea ia i te huarahi whakamutunga: te houhanga rongo, te neke atu rānei. I tēnei wā, ki te mea kei te mau tonu ōna kare ā-roto ki a koe, ā, kua ngaro koe i te wā o te kore whakapā, ka hoki mai tō hoa o mua, me te tumanako kia houhia te rongo. I tētahi atu taha, mā te wā wehe ka kite ia he pai ake kōrua te noho tahi me te kore tetahi i tetahi, ā, ka hiahia pea ia ki te pupuri tonu i te ture kore whakapā mō ake tonu atu nā te mea kua neke atu ia, e hiahia ana rānei ki te neke atu.

E mea ana a Tākuta Bhonsle, "Ka wehe atu tātou i te hononga ki tētahi tangata nā te mea e whakaaro ana tātou he tūmomo mōrearea rātou ki tō tātou āhua noho. Ki te mōhio tētahi tāne he rangatira, he piripono, he tinihanga tana hoa o mua, he tukinotia rānei ia e ngā ture." te whakamātao hau i roto i te whanaungatanga, kāore pea ia e hiahia ki te titiro whakamuri.” Mena kei te whakamahi koe i te hinengaro tāne ki te whakahoki mai i tētahi hoa tāne o mua, koinei te wā e mōhio ai koe mēnā ka tutuki taua hiahia. Ki te kite koe kua whakatau ia he pai ake ia ki te kore koe, he tohu tēnā kia mutu anō hoki koe.

Te Hua: Ngā Pānga o te Kore Pa ki te Tāne

Nā te mea kua whakamāramahia e mātou te ture kore-pā mō te hinengaro tāne māu, ko te pātai, he aha te mea e whai ake nei? Me pēhea te roa o te kore whakapā atu? Ka hoki mai anō ia i muri i te kore whakapā atu, ka kore rānei e āwhina i a ia kia neke atu? Āe, ka taea e tētahi o ēnei. Ko te mutunga kei runga i ō āhuatanga - te āhua o te whanaungatanga, te take i wehe ai te whanaungatanga, ko wai i whakatau ki te whakamutu i ngā mea me te whakatinana i te ture kore-pā, me te āhua o tā kōrua whakatau. I runga i ēnei āhuatanga, ka puta pea tētahi o ēnei mea e rua:

Horopaki 1: E hiahia ana ia kia hoki mai koe

Ka taea e te ture kore-pā te mahi i roto i ngā huarahi whakamiharo. Ka taea e ia te ārahi i a kōrua kia mōhio ki te uara o tētahi ki tētahi. Mā te tango i tētahi wāhi ka arahi pea ki te puea ake o ō kōrua kare ā-roto mō tētahi ki tētahi i mua. Heoi anō, kei reira ngā momo wehenga e arahi ana ki te houhanga rongoMena kei te whakaaro koe e hia ōrau o ngā wehenga ka hoki anō ki te noho tahi me te pupuri i taua whanaungatanga, anei ētahi raraunga māu. Akoranga kia mōhiotia ko te 15% o ngā tāngata i hoki mai anō ki tā rātou hoa o mua, ko te 14% i hoki anō ki te wehe anō, ā, ko te 70% kāore i hoki anō ki tā rātou hoa o mua.

Nō reira, tera pea ka hiahia ia ki te whakaara anō i te whanaungatanga. I roto i ēnei āhuatanga, he aha te mea tuatahi me mahi e koe? Kia pono ki a koe anō, me pātai atu ki a koe anō ēnei pātai nui:

• He aha ngā mea nui i ngā raruraru i puta ai te wehenga?
• He aha ngā otinga me ngā rautaki hei whakatika i aua raruraru?
• Ka taea e māua ko taku hoa o mua te whakaoti i ēnei raruraru me te manawanui?
• He rārangi tāku mō ngā mea e kore e taea te whakatika hei whakakore i ngā whakaaetanga?
• He rerekē rawa atu rānei ō tātou uara matua?

Kia oti i a koe te whakaaroaro hohonu ki ngā pātai o runga ake nei, whai i ēnei mahi:

• Kōrerohia ki tō hoa o mua ngā mea kua akohia e kōrua i te wehenga
• Kia mau tonu te kōrero ki ō hoa aroha, kaua e huna.
• Whakaarohia koe hei tangata tuatoru (ka tohutohu koe i tō hoa pai kia hoki mai?)
• Whakamātauria te angitu o te houhanga rongo ki tō hoa o mua
• Kia tino āta haere ngā mea
• Kaua e whakahua anō i ngā take o mua; whakaarohia tēnei aroha hei papa kua oti kē te whakarite

Horopaki 2: E hiahia ana ia ki te neke atu

I mea mai taku hoa a Sarah ki ahau, "I motuhia e au te kore whakapā, ā, ka whakautu mai ia. Engari, i ohorere ahau i tana whakautu. I mea mai ia e hiahia ana ia ki te neke atu, ā, i tono mai kia kaua ahau e whakapā atu anō ki a ia." Tērā pea ka kite tō hoa o mua i ngā take katoa e pai ake ai kōrua te noho tahi me te kore tetahi i tetahi, ā, kāore pea ia e hiahia ki te whakaara anō i te whanaungatanga.

He tino pā kino tēnei mēnā i tumanako koe ka hoki mai tō hoa o mua i te ture kore-pā, ā, ka tīmata koe ki te pātai i tō whakaaro nui ki a koe anō, me te whakaaro he aha koe i kore ai e pai mōna. Mō tēnei, ka mea te kaiārahi Ridhi Korekāha i kōrero i mua ki a Bonobology, "Ko tētahi o ngā whanonga tino noa e whakararuraru ana i a koe anō ko te pupuri i a koe anō kia haepapa mō ngā mea katoa. Hei whakatau i te wehenga, whakamahia te murunga hara me te aroha ki a koe anō. Ko te nui ake o tō murunga hara i a koe anō, ko te nui ake o tō rangimārie. Me titiro koe ki ngā taha e rua o te moni, te wāhi e whakaae ai koe ki tō hapa me te hiahia kia neke whakamua koe."

"Kāore he he o koe mēnā kei te raru koe ki te wareware i tētahi. Kaua e kino ki a koe anō, tukua ō whakaaro kia haere mai, kia haere atu pērā i ngā kapua. Puta atu i te tauira o te whakatau i a koe anō. Kia mōhio ko wai koe. Whakanuia koe mō te tangata ko koe tonu." Anei ngā tohutohu mō te whakatau i te neke atu o tō hoa o mua i muri i te wā kore whakapā:

• Ko tētahi huarahi ki te whakaora ko te puta atu i te wāhanga whakakahore me te titiro ki ngā mea e rite ana ki tō rātou āhua o nāianei.
• Tuhia ngā meka mō te āhua o te whakarerekētanga o tō whārite ki a koe anō nā tēnei whanaungatanga.
• Kaua e totohu i a koe ki roto i ngā raau taero/waipiro/hikareti hei whakamama i tō āhuatanga o nāianei
• Ka taea e te whakaaroaro me te whakakori tinana te āwhina i a koe ki te whakatikatika i tō oranga i muri i te wehenga
• Kōwhiria ngā tikanga hauora hei āwhina i a koe, pērā i te whakapai ake i tō mahi/te whakawhanake i ngā mahi whakangahau hou
• Rapua he tautoko ngaio, ā, whakawhirinaki ki ngā tāngata pono mō te tautoko
• Akohia te akoranga me kaha ake tō whakaute i a koe anō i ō kare ā-roto
• Ka puta noa te tukanga whakaora i tōna ake wā; kaua e akiaki i tetahi mea

Pātai Auau

Thoughts Final

Hei whakamutunga, ko te ture kore-pā, ko te hinengaro tāne he huihuinga uaua o ngā kare ā-roto, ā, ka uaua ki te tāne te mārama. Ko te kore o te kati te mea tino pā mai, nā te mea he mea whakararuraru te kore e mōhio ki ngā take o te whakamutu ohorere o te whakapā. Nā te mea kua mārama ake koe ki te urupare a ngā tāne ki te kore whakapā, ko te tumanako kua ea katoa ō pātai i roto i tō hinengaro.

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