Ko te mea anake e kino atu ana i te mamae o te wehenga, te whakapouri i te ngākau, te mamae o te ngākau, ko te pōhēhē me te paitini o te whanaungatanga e haere tonu ana, e haere tonu ana. Ki te kore koe e hiahia ki te noho tonu i roto i te raruraru "Kei hea tāua i roto i tēnei whanaungatanga?" mō ngā tau e rua e whai ake nei, ko te ture kore-pā te mea pai rawa atu māu.
Ae, ko te mea anake e hiahia ana koe i te tīmatanga ko te whakautu i te waea a tō hoa o mua, me te whakapau i ngā hāora ki te kōrero ki a rātou, engari i muri i te wā e pakari ana koe, ā, i muri i te noho mō ētahi rā kāore e whaiwhai ana i ā rātou pāpāho pāpori, ka pai ake ngā mea, ā, ka kite koe i ngā tohu e rima e whai hua ana te ture kore-pā. Heoi, i mua i tā tātou tirotiro he aha tēnei mahi te mea pai rawa atu māu, me ruku hohonu tātou ki te ariā, me pēhea te tīmata, me tōna whai huatanga.
He aha te Ture Kore-Pa?
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Ko te tikanga o te ture kore-pā atu ko te whakamutu i ngā whakapā katoa ki tētahi hoa o mua i muri i te wehenga. Ko te tikanga tēnei kāore koe e waea atu, e tuku karere kuputuhi, e whaiwhai rānei i a rātou i runga i ngā pāpāho pāpori, engari me tapahi hoki i ngā hononga katoa ki tōna whānau me ōna hoa. Kāore, kāore e taea e koe te tīmata anō i tētahi wā whakapā ki a rātou ahakoa kei te hiahia noa koe ki te whakahoki mai i te ture. He tikanga noa iho tēnei hei āwhina i a koe ki te tukatuka i te mamae e pā ana ki a koe i muri i te wehenga.
Ko te whakaaro kia arotahi ki te whakaora me te whakapai ake i a koe anō. Ka warewarehia e te tangata te wāhanga tiaki i a koe anō o te ture, ā, ka tīmata te whakaaro nui kia ngaro te aroha o tā rātou hoa o mua ki a rātou. Ka hinga te kaupapa katoa o tēnei mahi. Me whakamahi koe i tēnei hei wāhi ki te tangi mō te ngaronga o tō whanaungatanga , kia tika te wāhi o tō hinengaro, me te whakaaro ki te heke mai. Ka taea e tēnei mahi te hoatu ki a koe te wā me te wāhi e hiahiatia ana e koe hei kimi ko wai koe hei tangata takitahi me te aha e hiahiatia ana e koe mai i tō oranga.
Ahakoa ka whakatau koe ki te hoki anō ki tō hoa o mua, he whakatau whai whakaaro taua whakatau. Ki te tīmata te mārama haere o ngā mea, ā, ki te mea kua hē koe i te tuku i a rātou, ka mōhio koe ki tāu e mahi ai i muri mai. Whakapono mai ki a mātou, ka mārama haere ngā mea ina hoki whakamuri koe, ā, ka mutu te whakawhitiwhiti kōrero. Koia te mea nui kia whai i te wātaka ture kore-pā, me te kore e tukua koe kia taka atu i te waka o te whakahaere i a koe anō.
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Kia pēhea te roa o te mahi a te ture kore-pa?
Ahakoa te whai huatanga, ehara i te mea ngāwari te whai i te wātaka ture kore-pā. I a koe e takoto ana i te moenga me te mau i te koti o tō hoa o mua, me te whakapoke i tō urunga ki ngā roimata, he mea maori noa te whakaaro kia pēhea te roa o te wā e whai hua ai te ture kore-pā? Kia mōhio koe kāore he wātaka ture kore-pā kua whakaritea. Hei tāpiri, kei te wāhi e arahina ai koe e tō haerenga, ahakoa ki tētahi oranga hou, ki tētahi hiahia anō rānei ki te whakahoki mai i ngā mea i a koe i mua, me te whakatika i ngā mea.
Tērā pea ka roa te wā kotahi, e rua rānei i mua i te rite ki te whakapā atu ki tētahi hoa o mua, me te kore e pāngia e ngā raruraru kare ā-roto . Tērā pea ka whakatau koe ki te hoki tahi anō i muri i ētahi marama. Tērā pea mā te wā kore whakapā atu koe ka mōhio koe he pai ake tō noho me te kore o rātou i roto i tō ao. Mēnā ka pērā, ka whakatau pea koe ki te mutu te noho tahi me rātou mō ake tonu atu. Mēnā ka pērā, ko te whakatakoto i tētahi wātaka mō tō whakaoranga, mō ngā kitenga rānei o te hiahia ki te whakaora i ngā mea, kāore e tino tika mōu, mō tō hoa o mua rānei.
Heoi anō, ka taea e koe te kī pono ka neke atu tō hoa i tā rāua wehenga kino i roto i te wā tino tika o ngā marama e toru? He tino whakaaro takitahi te 'whakaora', ā, ka ārahi i ia tangata i roto i tētahi haerenga ahurei. Waihoki, ko te māramatanga mō te hiahia ki te whakaora i ngā mea ka puta noa i te wā e memeha haere ana te pōrearea o roto.
Tērā pea ka kōrero koe ki ō hoa, ki a koe anō, me tūtaki pea koe ki ngā kare ā-roto i huna e koe i roto i a koe i a koe e takakau ana, e mokemoke ana , ā, tērā pea ka tīmata koe ki te whakapau i te wā ki te mahi i ngā mea hei āwhina i a koe kia tipu hei tangata, ā, mā ēnei katoa koe e āwhina ki te whakatau i te whakatau e tika ana māu. I runga i te tangata takitahi, ka rerekē pea te 'wā kore whakapā'.
Ahakoa rā, ki te mea he tangata noa iho koe i haere mai ki konei, koinei pea te āhua o tētahi rārangi wā kore-pā:
- Mena kei te ngana koe ki te neke whakamua:
- Ka roa pea te neke atu i te wehenga o te tokorua i te marama kotahi, e rua rānei
- E rua ki te ono marama pea te roa o te wā hei neke atu i tētahi whanaungatanga nui me te wheako ture kore whakapā atu.
- Tērā pea e toru ki te waru marama te roa o te neke whakamua mēnā he tino kino te wehenga.
- Ka roa pea te wā ki te neke atu i tētahi whanaungatanga tino kino
- Mena kei te hiahia koe ki te hono anō:
- Tērā pea ka roa te wiki, e rua rānei, i mua i te whakapā atu anō ki tō hoa o mua ki te ngana ki te whakaoho anō i te whanaungatanga.
- Tērā pea ka roa te wā ki te whakaaro he aha tāu e hiahia ana māu ake i mua i te tīmatanga o te mahi i tēnei. whakapā atu ki tō hoa o mua ano
He mea nui kia mārama ko ēnei tatauranga he whakatau tata noa iho, ā, kaua rawa e tere te whakatau, te neke atu rānei. He rerekē te wheako ture kore whakapā atu mō te tangata. Mena he roa ake te wā e pau ana i tō whakaaro ki te whakamutu i ngā pō pouri, kia mōhio koe kāore he he o tōu.
Hei tāpiri, he rerekē ngā wāhanga rerekē e pā ana ki te tangata i roto i tēnei whakamātautau katoa mō te tangata i whakarerea me te tangata i whakarerea, ā, i runga anō hoki i ngā whanaketanga o te whanaungatanga. Hei tauira, ko te tangata i whakarerea, tera pea ka pāngia e ngā tohumate o te kore whakapā atu, kātahi ka pāngia e te pouri me te whakapai ake, ā, i te mutunga, ka tīmata te ora.
Tērā pea ka pāngia te hunga e whakamāmā ana i te wehenga atu i te hononga, ā, ka pāngia rātou e te wā pōhēhē o ngā kare ā-roto, tae atu ki te whakaaro nui ki tā rātou hoa o mua me te pouri, i mua i te whakatau i te rangimārie ki te āhuatanga. He rerekē te pānga o ngā wāhanga motuhake ki ia tangata, koia pea koe ka whakaae kāore he whakautu tūturu ki te pātai: Āhea ka tīmata te kore hononga?
Nā, i mua i te tīmatanga o te rapu i ngā tohu e rima e whai hua ana te ture kore whakapā, me titiro tātou ki ngā pānga o tēnei wā whakapā ki ngā tāne. Ko ētahi e whakapono ana he hunga ngākau kore ngā tāne i muri i te wehenga , ā, kāore he pānga o te wā noho puku ki a rātou.
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He whai hua te ture kore-pā ki ngā tāne?
Ko te ture kore-pā, te hinengaro tāne, me tīmata tātou ki te kōrero. I muri i te wā kore whakapā, tera pea ka puta te whakaaro "He aha tāna e whakaaro ana?" i roto i tō hinengaro. Ki te hiahia koe ki te whakamahi i tēnei tikanga hei huarahi ki te hoki tahi me tō hoa o mua, he pono ka whai hua te ture kore-pā ki ngā tāne. Anei te āhua o ngā mea:
- Te takaro i te mea pai: Ka āta noho ia, ka meinga kia whakapono ia kāore ia e māharahara ki te kore whakapā atu, ā, ka noho pea ia me ō hoa hei "whakamātautau" i tēnā.
- Nga raruraru: I muri i tētahi wā poto, ka tīmata tō whanonga ki te whakapoauau i a ia, ā, ka ngaro i a ia te wā whakapā atu.
- Mīharo: Ka ngana ia ki te rapu i te aha e pā ana ki a koe, me te take i ngaro atu ai koe i tōna ao i te pō kotahi. Ka nui ake tō whakatōtō i a ia, ka nui ake tōna whakaaro he aha te take i puta ai tēnei whakatau.
- Te riri: Ka riri ia i te wahangu o te reo irirangi. Tērā pea ka uru atu ia ki tētahi whanaungatanga whakaora hei whakaatu noa ki a koe kāore ia e aro ki ngā wā katoa i noho tahi ai kōrua
- Hiahia: Ka tīmata ia ki te ngaro i a koe, me te hiahia kia hoki mai koe ki tōna ao, tera pea ka tukuna atu ētahi karere riri ki a koe.
- Pouri: Ka riro te mana o te pouri mō te tuku i a koe. Ka pouri ia mō ngā mea katoa i hē ai ia i roto i tō kōrua whanaungatanga i mua.
- E ngana ana ki te hoki tahi: Ka mahi ia i ngā mahi tuturu hei whakaatu i tōna hiahia kia hoki mai koe ki tōna ao. I tēnei wā, ko tana arotahi ko te whakatū i tētahi whanaungatanga hauora.
"I te wā i whakarērea ai taku hoa pai e tana hoa o mua, a Susan, i whakamātau ia i te ture kia hoki mai ia. Kāore i tino whai hua ki a Susan, i te mea i tirotirohia ia e ia nā te mea i āwangawanga ia mō tōna hauora, engari koinā noa iho. Heoi anō, i āwhina i a ia kia neke atu," te kōrero a Jackson ki a mātou, e kōrero ana mō tana hoa pai, a Kyle.
"I te tau i muri mai, i tana wehenga atu i tana hoa hou, i a Gracie, ka whakamātau ia i te mahi kotahi i mahia e ia ki a Susan. Heoi, kāore i rite ki a Susan, nā te korenga o te wā whakapā i tino mōhio ai ia e hiahia ana ia ki te hoki mai o Gracie. Ki taku whakaaro he rerekē te mahi a te ira tangata!" tāna tāpiri. Mena ko te hoki tahi te mea i hiahia ai koe i mua, koinei tō wā ki te whakatutuki.
Ae, tera pea he tohu kei te whakaaro ia ki a koe i a koe e kore e whakapā atu. Heoi, he mea nui kia mōhio koe kāore ngā tāne katoa e whakautu mai i te huarahi kotahi. Mena he nui rawa tōna whakahīhī ki te whakaae kei te pouri ia, tera pea ka teka noa ia, ka kī atu ki a ia anō ka pai ake ia i te korenga o koe. Tērā pea kua ki tonu ia i te riri, ā, nā ngā tohu whakarērea o te kore whakapā atu ka tukuna atu e ia aua karere kuputuhi "Kāore au i hiahia ki a koe" i te 2 i te ata. Heoi, kotahi te mea e tino mārama ana, tera pea ka puta he 'tauhohenga' mai i a ia.
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Ehara i te mea ngāwari te wehe atu i tētahi tangata kua noho hei wāhanga nui o tō oranga o ia rā. Ahakoa kua mutu te whanaungatanga i runga i te whakaaro kotahi, ko te mahi me te mea kua ngaro whakarere te tangata i noho tahi ai kōrua i te wā katoa ka puta he momo pouri roa e kore e taea te whakakore.
Mā te whakararuraru i a koe ki tētahi mahi whakangahau hou, mā te huna rānei i a koe ki te mahi, ka tae noa mai tō taumata. Nō reira, ki te whai koe i tēnei huarahi e whakamātautau ana i tō kaha me tō whakatau i ia taahiraa, me tino mohio koe kei te anga koe ki te huarahi tika. Ki te hiahia koe ki te whakamanawa, tirohia ēnei tohu e 5 e whai hua ana te ture kore-pā:
1. Kei te ngana tō hoa o mua ki te whakatū hononga
Kua ngaro atu koe i tō rāua ao. Tērā pea ka waiho tō hoa o mua kia pōhēhē, kia hiahia hoki, ā, ka kite koe i a ia e whakaatu ana i ngā whanonga wera me ngā whanonga makariri ki a koe . Ina koa mēnā ko rātou te hunga i whakamutu i te whanaungatanga, ā, i tumanako rātou kia noho pōuri koe mō rātou. Ko tētahi o ngā tohu mārama kei te pai haere ngā mea ki a koe ko te wā e kaha ake ai te noho puku o tō hoa o mua i te reo irirangi, ā, ka akiaki i a ia ki te whakapā atu ki a koe. Ko ngā karere kuputuhi, ngā waea, ngā tae atu rānei ki tō tatau he tohu kei te tika tō ara.
I whakatau a Azel ki te tapahi i te hononga ki te tāne i piri noa rāua i ngā marama kua taha ake nei, whai muri i tana huna i a ia i muri i te kōrero "Kei hea tēnei?". I mua i tana putanga i ngā wāhanga, i hangaia e ia he kōtaha hou ki Instagram, ā, ka uru atu ki ana karere whaiaro.
I whakapāha ia, ā, i inoi kia whakahokia mai ia e ia. Heoi, kāore a Azel i hiahia ki te mahi tere i tēnei wā. Ahakoa kei te mau tonu ōna aroha ki a ia, kei te noho tonu ia ki te rohe poraka, ā, kei te whakamahi ia i tēnei wā hararei hei aromatawai i tana e hiahia ana māna ake. I roto i ngā tohu e 5 e mahi ana te ture kore whakapā, koinei te mea ngāwari (me te mea tere) ki te kite.
Ko te huarahi e ngana ai tō hoa o mua ki te whakapā atu ki a koe mā roto i tētahi o ēnei e whai ake nei:
- Ka tukuna atu he karere ki a koe kia "tirohia mai" ōu āhua
- Ka tuku kōrero rātou ki ō pou pāpāho pāpori
- Ka tukuna e rātou ngā whakaahua o kōrua ki runga i ā rātou pāpāho pāpori
- Ngā waeatanga anō, i raro i te whakapae mō te whakarite kia kati te whanaungatanga i muri i te wehenga, e pātai ana rānei kei te pēhea koe
- Te pātai atu ki ō hoa me tō whānau mō tō oranga me tō āhua whanaungatanga
- Te haere ki tō wāhi mahi, ki ngā wāhi rānei e haere pinepine ana koe
- Te tono atu ki tētahi e tata ana ki a koe kia tukuna atu he karere ki a koe
- Ko te whakahoahoa ki te hunga e tata ana ki a koe hei whakapā atu ki a koe he tohu pai kei te whai hua
2. Ka tīmata koe ki te mahi i te aroha ki a koe anō
Mā te ture nei koe e hoatu ki te wāhi e tino hiahiatia ana hei arotahi ki a koe anō. Me uaua te wehenga atu i a koe. Whai muri i te haere i roto i ngā wā o te riri, te whakakorekore, te whiriwhiri, me te pouri, kua whakaaetia koe, ā, kua tīmata te neke atu i tētahi whanaungatanga nui . Ko tētahi o ngā tohu tēnei e whai hua ana te ture kore-pā ina ko tō oranga me tō harikoa te kaupapa matua māu.
Ka whakapau kaha koe ki te manaaki me te whakapai ake i a koe anō. Ahakoa he whakatipu i te mōhiotanga ki a koe anō mō te momo oranga e hiahia ana koe māu ake, he tiaki rānei i tō hauora tinana me te hauora hinengaro, ka uru koe ki te aroha ki a koe anō. Ko tēnei panonitanga o te arotahi tētahi o ngā tohu ngaro kāore he hononga e mahi ana.
Ahakoa ka whakatau koe ki te hoki anō ki tō hoa o mua, ka tino mohio koe ki te mahi i tēnei, me te mōhio koinei tonu te mea e hiahia ana koe māu ake. I tētahi atu taha, ki te whakapā atu tō hoa o mua ki a koe, ā, kua whakatau koe ki te tuku i te whanaungatanga, ka nui ake tō maia ki ō whiringa, ā, e kore koe e whakaaro ki ngā mea kua taea. Ki te mea ka mōhio koe nā te wā kore whakapā atu kāore tō hoa o mua i te pai mōu, ka taea e koe te neke atu me te kore e whakaroa, e pouri rānei, nā te whakapono hou ki a koe anō. He mea whakamīharo, mā tēnā ka nui ake te hiahia o tō hoa o mua ki a koe.
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Hei tētahi o ngā tohu e rima e whai hua ana te ture kore whakapā, koinei te āhua o te aroha ki a koe anō e puta ai i roto i tō koiora:
- He nui ake te wā e pau ana ki te whakaaro ki a koe anō i te whanaungatanga
- Te whakapau kaha ki te whakapai ake i tō hauora hinengaro/tinana
- Kei te harikoa koe mō ngā mahi whakangahau hou me ngā mahi pāpori, ā, kei te hihiri hoki koe
- Te kaha ki te whakaae ki tō pouri me te mahi tahi me taua pouri, kaua ki te whakahē i taua pouri
- Te tono āwhina me te whakaaro kei te ahu whakamua koe
- Te arotahi nui atu ki tō Hauora hinengaro hei utu mō te noho tonu ki ngā rā o mua
- Te hono atu ki ngā tāngata hou me te kimi hoa hou
- Te kōrero nui atu ki te hunga tino nui o tō ao
- Te whakaae ki te meka ka pai ake ngā mea
- Kāore ō pūkete pāpāho pāpori e waiho hei taputapu noa iho māu ki te tutei i tō hoa o mua
- Ka mutu tāu ngana ki te aroturuki i te wā whakapā atu ki tō hoa o mua
3. Ka tīmata koe ki te whakautu ki ngā tono a ētahi atu
Kei te whai hua ngā mahi katoa i mahia e koe ki a koe anō i te wā kāore he whakapā atu. Ka tīmata ētahi ki te kite i a koe he tino ātaahua. Ki te taea e koe te whakautu ki ā rātou tono, ki te koa rānei ki te aro atu me te kore e whakakīia e tō hoa o mua te wāhi katoa o tō hinengaro, he tohu mārama tēnei kei te mahi te ture kāore he whakapā atu.
Kua wetekina koe i te paitini o mua . Ko tētahi o ngā tohu e rima e whai hua ana te ture kore-pā, ko te kore e whakaroa i tō oranga, e tatari ana kia ora anō tō whanaungatanga tawhito. Kei te tuwhera tō hinengaro ki ngā mea hou. Ahakoa ko tētahi o aua mea ko te hoki anō ki tō hoa o mua, ka taea e koe te tīmata hou me te pono, me te kore he raruraru, he tauira raruraru rānei o mua.
Anei te āhua e kitea ai te hinengaro o te ture kore pa i tēnei wāhanga:
- Ka taea e koe te whakaaro i a koe anō me tētahi atu hoa
- Kāore koe e tatari kia hoki mai anō te whanaungatanga tawhito, ahakoa ka whakapā atu tō hoa o mua, ka mau tonu tō manawanui.
- Kāore koe e taimaha i ngā taumahatanga o tō whanaungatanga o mua
- Kei te tumanako koe ki te whakaaro o tētahi whanaungatanga hou
- Ka taea e koe te whakaaro kia hoki anō ki tō hoa o mua i muri i te whakatau whai whakaaro
- Ka tīmata koe ki te whakapono ki a koe anō, me te whakahaere i ō āwangawanga
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4. Ka tere ake te aro o tō hoa o mua
Ko tētahi o ngā tohu e whai hua ana te ture ki a koe ko te pikinga ohorere o te aro o tō hoa o mua. Ka ngana tonu rātou ki te tīmata whakapā atu, ā, ko rātou tētahi o ngā tuatahi ki te whakautu ki ō mahi pāpāho pāpori katoa. Ko te tumanako katoa kia kitea tō rātou aroaro, kia whakahokia mai hoki e koe. Ka huri te wā kore whakapā atu ki tā rātou whakautu ki a koe, ā, ka kite koe i a rātou e whakapau kaha ana.
I te kitenga o Azel kei te whai hua te ture, ka mutu te hononga o tana hoa pai, a Joe, i mau i roto i te whanaungatanga werawera me tana hoa tāne o mua mō ngā tau e rua neke atu i muri i te wehenga. I muri i te tata ki te toru marama o te noho puku i te reo irirangi mai i ngā taha e rua, ka tīmata te hoa o mua o Joe ki te tono kia hoki tahi rāua.
"Ina tirohia koe e tō hoa o mua i runga i ngā pāpāho pāpori , me te mea kua ara ake he manu pīniki i te pungarehu. Koinā hoki te mea i tupu i konei. He kaha ake ōna kare ā-roto mōku i mua. Ahakoa he roa ake te wā mōku mō te ture kore-pā atu i a Azel, i whai hua i te mutunga. Engari kāore au i te hiahia ki te hoki tahi, nō reira kei te tangohia e māua i ia rā, i ia rā," tana kī.
Mena kei te whakamahi koe i te ture kore whakapā hei whakahoki mai i a ia (ki a ia rānei), ko te huarahi pai ki te kite i te ahunga whakamua ko te aro ki ngā taipitopito e whai ake nei:
- Ka whakapau kaha rātou ki te kōrero ki a koe
- Ka nui ake tō rātou aro ki ō hiahia
- Ka tuku karere rātou, ka waea atu rānei ki a koe i taua wā tonu
- Kāore rātou e hoatu i tetahi mea tohu whakauru
- He māmā ake te whakapā atu ki tō hoa o mua nā te mea he tere ake tā rātou urupare.
- Ka kī atu rātou ki a koe te nui o tō rātou hiahia ki te kōrero anō ki a koe
5. Kei te hiahia tō hoa o mua kia hoki tahi anō
Ko te tohu tino pai kei te pai ngā mea katoa māu ko te whakapau kaha o tō hoa o mua ki te hoki tahi me koe. Ko te tikanga o tēnei, nā tō ngaronga atu i mōhio ai rātou ki tō hiranga i roto i tō rātou ao. He rerekē te āhua mēnā ka tuku karere noa mai rātou ki a koe i raro i te kākahu "e tirotiro ana" i a koe, engari ki te kī mārama mai rātou e hiahia ana rātou ki te hoki tahi, whakaarohia koinei te tohu kaha rawa atu i roto i ngā tohu e rima e whai hua ana te ture kore-pā. Mai i te pōhēhē ki te hiahia ki te pouri, tata ki ngā wāhanga katoa o te kore-pā ka akiakihia e te hiahia ki te whakahoki mai i te āhua o mua.
Kia tae rā anō rāua ki te wā e hiahia ana ki te hoki tahi, he whakatau nui kei mua i a kōrua. Me hoki tahi anō, me neke atu rānei. Me hoatu rānei he whai wāhitanga tuarua ki a ia? Kaua e tukua kia maumauria ō mahi uaua katoa i mahia e kōrua mā te tuku i ngā kare ā-roto kia hinga i a koe. Kia ata noho, kia whakaaroaro, ā, me mahi i te mea pai mōu.
Ki te mea kua tīmata koe ki te pai ake te āhua i te korenga o rātou i roto i tō ao, ko te huarahi pai pea ki te noho harikoa ko te haere tonu i taua ara. Heoi, ki te mea kua mōhio koe ki te hiahia anō ki te whakamātau i ngā mea nā te whakapā atu ki tō hoa o mua, ā, ki te whakaaro koe ka pai ngā mea i tēnei wā, me whakamātau koe.
Ina hiahia tō hoa o mua ki te hoki ki a koe, koinei tā rātou e mahi ai:
- Tērā pea ka kī rātou kua rerekē rātou
- Ka inoi rātou kia hoki mai koe ki te tīmata anō i te whanaungatanga
- Ka kōrerotia e rātou ngā āhuatanga katoa i ngaro ai koe i a rātou, me tō hiranga ki a rātou.
- Ka kī atu rātou ki a koe he rerekē te āhua i tēnei wā
- Kāore e taea e rātou te aro atu ki te whakaaro kei te noho tahi koe me tētahi atu tangata
Tohutohu Matua
- Ko te arotahi matua o te ture he āwhina i a koe ki te tukatuka i te mamae e pā ana ki a koe i muri i te wehenga.
- Ka taea e te ture te āwhina i a koe ki te neke atu, ki te whakahoki mai rānei i tō hoa o mua ki tō ao
- Ko ngā tohu kei te whakaaro ia ki a koe i te wā kāore he whakapā atu ko te whakapā atu anō ki a koe ki te tirotiro i a koe, te pātai atu ki ō hoa mōu, te mahi i tetahi mea hei whakahoki anō i te whakapā atu.
- He motuhake te whakautu ki te pātai "Āhea ka tīmata te kore hononga?" mō ia tangata, ā, e whakawhirinaki ana ki te putanga e hiahiatia ana me te haerenga.
Ko tēnei huarahi te huarahi tapu ngaro o te aro atu ki te mamae o te ngākau. Ka whakapakari ake i a koe i roto i te hinengaro, ā, ka pai ake hoki tō rite ki te aro atu ki ngā kare ā-roto kino katoa e puta mai ana i muri i te wehenga. Heoi, āhea te kore whakapā atu e kore e mahi? Ina hinga koe ki te whakamatautauranga. Nō reira, ki te mea kei te raru koe ki te neke atu i muri i te wehenga, ā, e hiahia ana koe ki te āwhina, ka taea e te rōpū kaiwhakaora hinengaro o Bonobology te āwhina i a koe ki te mārama me pēhea te aro atu ki ngā kare ā-roto taumaha e pā ana ki a koe.
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FAQs
E mōhio ana koe kei te mahi i a koe ina hinga koe i tō pouri, ā, ka kitea koe i tētahi wāhi e hiahia ana koe ki te whakahoahoa me te aroha ki a koe anō. E mōhio ana koe kei te mahi i te wā ka tīmata te tangata nāna koe i whakarērea te āwangawanga mō tō wahangu, ā, e hiahia ana ki te whakatū hononga anō.
Kia mutu te whakapā atu, ka rerekē ngā wāhanga ka pā ki a koe. Tuatahi, ka puta te pouri me te riri. Kātahi, ahakoa ka ngana tō hoa o mua ki te whakapā atu ki a koe, kāore koe e whakautu mai, ā, ka titiro koe ki tō whanaungatanga mai i tētahi tirohanga rerekē. Koinā te wā ka neke atu koe. Ki te mea rānei kei te whakaaro tonu koe he pai tonu te whakaora i tō whanaungatanga, ka hoki anō kōrua.
I te wā kāore he whakapā, ka tīmata te hunga whakarērea te ngākau mārie kua mutu te whanaungatanga. Kātahi ka tīmata te hiahia ki te mōhio he aha i kore ai tā rātou hoa o mua e waea mai. Kātahi ka tīmata te whai i te hoa o mua i runga i ngā pāpāho pāpori kia kite ai me pēhea rāua e noho ana i te korenga o rāua. Kātahi ka noho pōuri ki te hoa o mua. Hei whakamutunga, ina kite rātou kāore te hoa o mua e whakautu mai, ka pouri rātou kua mutu te whanaungatanga.
Mena nā tō hoa o mua i tīmata te wehenga, tera pea ka marino rātou, ka koa ki tō rātou oranga takakau i te tīmatanga. Engari ina puta te mooni kāore koe i ngana ki te whakapā atu ki a rātou, ka tīmata rātou ki te ngaro i a koe. Tērā pea he mea e pā ana ki ētahi wiki, ki ētahi marama rānei ka riro mai ai tēnei kare ā-roto.
Ki te hiahia kōrua ki te hoki tahi, he pono ka whai hua te ture mō ngā tāne. Ka hiahia te tāne ki te mōhio ki tō wahangu, kātahi ka tīmata te ngaro i a koe, ka ngana anō ki te whakapā atu ki a koe.
Kāo, kāore ia e pena. Ka noho tonu koe i roto i tōna hinengaro. Heoi anō, nā te mea ka whakaaro tonu ia mēnā he tino koretake tōna tūranga i roto i tō koiora, ā, kāore koe i whakapā atu ki a ia ahakoa kotahi. Ka pupuri ia i te whakapehapeha mamae, ā, kāore rawa e wareware ia i a koe.
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