Zifukwa 8 zomwe zimakupangitsani kumangokhalira kugwera munthu wolakwika

Funsani katswiri aliyense wodziwa maubwenzi, ndipo adzakuuzani kuti palibe chabwino ndi cholakwika posankha bwenzi. Othandizana nawo, monga zolinga za moyo, sangakhazikike muchilungamo komanso cholakwika. Chofunika kwambiri kumvetsa apa n’chakuti chikondi cha pakati pa anthu awiri chiyenera kukhala chomangirira ndipo chiyenera kuthandiza winayo kuti asinthe ndi kukula. Ndipo ngati izi sizikuchitika, ndiye kuti mwina tinganene kuti muli ndi munthu wolakwika. Tiyeni tiwerenge pang'ono za zifukwa zomwe mnyamatayo angalakwitse.

Kuchokera ku dziko la kusimidwa

Nthawi zambiri, maubwenzi omwe timagawana ndi ena amakhala chiwonetsero cha ubale wathu ndi ife eni. Tonse tili ndi ziwalo zomwe zawonongeka, zosapola komanso zosowa. Nthawi zina timasindikiza, kutchinga ndi kukwirira mbali izi, ndipo potsatira kusimidwa kumatitsogolera ife kupeza chikondi ndi chikondi kunja kwa ife. Magwero a chikondi chamtunduwu ndi mwachibadwa, koma tikayamba kufunafuna kuchokera kumalo osimidwa timakopa anthu omwe awonongeka, osapezeka komanso osachiritsidwa m'miyoyo yathu.

Wangwiro, koma osadziwika

Chikondi, chikakhala chochita osati lingaliro, chimafunika zifukwa zodziwika bwino kuti zifotokoze. Ngati muli mwana chilankhulo chokondana ndi inu changokhala nkhanza, mtunda komanso mawu oyipa, ndiye kuti ndi malo omwe mumadziwa. Zomwe ndikutanthauza kunena ndikuti, timayankha kumalingaliro odziwika bwino achikondi osati kumitundu yabwino yachikondi. Ngati makolo anu (makamaka makolo ochokera kwa amuna kapena akazi anzawo) anali osapezeka, otalikirana komanso 'oipa', ndiye njira yokhayo yachikondi yomwe mungapezere. Pambuyo pake m'moyo, simungakonde kukhazikika ndi mnyamata yemwe amatha kukupatsani chikondi changwiro, ndipo mungakonde kukhazikika ndi mnyamata yemwe mumadziwa kuti mumamukonda. Kwenikweni, munthu woyipa.

Mukuganiza kuti mukhoza kumusintha

Ichi ndi chowonjezera cha nsonga yachiwiri. Ngati ndi kholo lomwe lili ndi khalidwe loipa limene mwakwanitsa kupeza mu umunthu wa mnzanuyo, ndiye kuti mukhoza kufuna kupitiriza 'kuwongolera' mbali 'yolakwika' ya moyo wanu. Mwa kuyankhula kwina, mumamva kuti mungathe ndipo muyenera kumusintha. Ndipo izi zikapanda kuchitika, mumapita kwa munthu wina woyipa, kuti mumalize ntchitoyi.

Kuwerenga kofananira: Osayesa kusintha mnzanu

Kudzipereka ndi chikumbumtima

Nthaŵi zina kudzipereka kumatanthauza ntchito yochuluka, ndipo ntchito yochuluka ingatanthauze kutopa ndi kutopa. Zoona zake n’zakuti, ambiri pakati pathu amakhala otopa m’maganizo. Tikhoza kukhala mantha kwambiri kuti aganyali mu ubwenzi mokwanira ndi kudzuka ku tulo. Zitha kutanthauza kuwononga zikhulupiliro zathu momwe moyo uyenera kukhalira wodzaza ndi zowawa, zowawa ndi mikangano! Ndipo zonsezo, mosiyana ndi zimene anthu ambiri amakhulupirira, sizili kanthu koma bodza. Koma kuvomereza kungafunike kuti titengere udindo ndipo chifukwa chake tidzafuna kuti tithetse ulesi komanso kuzunzidwa.

Nanga bwanji kukhala Drama Queen?

Ena aife sitingakhale ndi moyo popanda sewero. Timafunikira zowawazo, ndewu, zotukwana nthawi zonse. Mwinanso titha kusangalala ndi njira yopangira ndikukumbatirananso ku chikondi choipitsitsa. Kukhala ndi mnyamata wabwino kungangochotsa sewero m'miyoyo yathu. Ndipo zimenezo zingamveke zosapiririka. Kuposa chikondi, timalakalaka sewero!

Kodi mukuyenera?

Kwa anthu omwe ali muubwenzi wankhanza, atha kudziwa kuti ndizowopsa ndipo amayenera kuchita bwino. Ndipotu, m’zochitika zisanu ndi zinayi mwa khumi, kudzidalira kwawo ndi kudzilemekeza zimaphwanyidwa kwambiri kotero kuti amayamba kukhulupirira kuti iwo ayenera kuchitidwa zoipa basi. Ena angaganize kuti ngakhale wokondedwa wawo atawachitira nkhanza, kwa iwo omwe amawakonda nthawi yochepa amawakondanso, ndipo mwina ndizo zonse zomwe akuyenera kulandira. Ndi funso lodziona kukhala wofunika ndiye, kuposa kusankha kukhala ndi munthu woyipa. Kudzidalira ndi kudzidalira zikagwiritsidwa ntchito, amuna oterowo amachoka pakhomo.

Ndi mantha ati omwe mukubisala pansi?

Ichi ndiye chodziwika kwambiri koma chosowa kwambiri kuti chiwululidwe. Tikukhala m’nthawi imene chilichonse chimakhala chongofuna kukhutiritsa nthawi yomweyo kapena kukhala ndi moyo wosakhalitsa. Ndipo ngakhale nthawi zonse pamakhala kuchuluka komanso kupezeka kwakukulu, izi sizikuthandizira kuchiritsa funso lathu lokhala panokha, mwinanso kufa. Pogwidwa ndi mantha osazindikira, sitidziwa kuti tingangodzipeza tagwira munthu wolakwika. Tikudziwa kuti sizigwira ntchito, komanso kuti sizidzagwira ntchito mtsogolo, komabe timapitirizabe.

Tikudziwa kuti sizigwira ntchito, komanso kuti sizidzagwira ntchito mtsogolo, komabe timapitirizabe.

Chifukwa timachita mantha kwambiri moti sitingathe kuvomereza kuti timachita mantha ndi zam'tsogolo.

Choyenera chiri kuti?

Mwina kamodzi mwa kakhumi, zitha kungochitika mwangozi ndipo mwina simunapeze yoyenera. Ngakhale kuti nthawi zonse pamakhala chifukwa chamalingaliro kumayendedwe otere obwera ndi munthu wolakwika, nthawi zina zitha kukhala nkhani yofunafuna ndi kuphunzira. Kuphunzira kukatha ndikuyimitsa, munthu woyenera akhoza kuwoneka momasuka monga momwe amayenera kuchitira. Chikondi mwachibadwa chimakhala chosavuta komanso mwina osati nkhawa yakugwa m'menemo, nthawi zina ngakhale nkhope pansi!

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