9 Ubwino Wotsimikiziridwa Wauphungu - Osavutika Mukukhala Chete

Nthawi zonse tikakumana ndi zovuta m'moyo ndipo tikufuna kupeza thandizo la akatswiri, mafunso okhudza ubwino wa uphungu, chithandizo, ndi chitsogozo chimativutitsa maganizo. Kodi chingakhale chosintha moyo chomwe chimapangidwira?

Choyamba, ndikuuzeni kuti kukhala ndi maphunziro ndi luso la moyo ndi zinthu ziwiri zosiyana. Ngakhale kuti sukulu imatipatsa maphunziro, ndi kwathu komwe timaphunzira maluso amoyo monga kugwira ntchito zapakhomo, kuphika, kulipira mabilu ndi kukambitsirana zinthu ndi wokonza mipope ndi wokonza magalimoto.

Koma ngakhale titaphunzitsidwa kunyumba komanso m'masukulu, nthawi zina timadzipeza tili pamikhalidwe ina m'moyo pomwe timamva kuti tikufunika thandizo kuti tithe kuthana ndi vutolo koma osadziwa kuti ndani atithandize. Ndipamene mlangizi wa zamaganizo kapena mphunzitsi wa moyo amabwera.

Mlangizi akhoza kukulozerani njira yoyenera yomwe mungathetsere nokha nkhani zanu ndikupeza phindu la uphungu. Ndipo m'dziko lamakono, ndizotheka kupeza upangiri pa intaneti.

Zomwe zapezedwa mu meta-kuwunikaku zimapereka chithandizo champhamvu pakukhazikitsidwa kwa njira zamaganizidwe pa intaneti ngati ntchito yovomerezeka yochizira ndikuwonetsa zidziwitso zingapo zokhuza kugwiritsa ntchito kwake.

Kaya zikhale zapaintaneti kapena chithandizo chamaso ndi maso cholinga chathu ndikukambirana zaubwino wa upangiri ndi chitsogozo m'nkhaniyi. Mudzawona momwe chithandizo chamaganizo chimatha kutulutsa zabwino mwa anthu.

Kodi Uphungu Ndi Wofunika Chiyani?

Tinkacheza ndi Sushant Sharma wazaka 9 tsiku lina. Anasangalala kwambiri kuti bwenzi lake Dikhsha anali ndi khadi lamwayi m'kalasi chifukwa cha khalidwe labwino. Sushant anali bwenzi lapamtima la Diksha ndipo zinkamuwawa kuti nthawi zonse ankadumphadumpha, amadzudzulidwa m’kalasi, amapeza magiredi otsika kwambiri koma anali mwana wachifundo yemwe nthawi zonse ankagawana ndi Sushant tiffin yake ndipo ankamubweretsera mphatso zing’onozing’ono monga mapensulo ndi zofufutira.

“Koma chiyambire pamene anayamba kupita ku misonkhano ya uphungu kusukulu wakhala wodekha, magiredi ake apitako bwino ndipo ndili wokondwa kuti lero walandira khadi lamwayi,” anatero Sushant.

Ubwino wotsimikiziridwa wa uphungu kusukulu ndi kusintha kwa kulankhulana, kukhazikika komanso kuchita bwino pamaphunziro. Uphungu umathandizanso kuphatikizika m'magulu a anzawo, kuthana ndi kunyalanyazidwa kapena kuzunzidwa kunyumba komanso kuthana bwino ndi mkwiyo ndi kupsa mtima.

Mphunzitsi wa moyo Joie Bose anati, "Ndinayendetsa mlandu posachedwapa pamene kamtsikana kanabwera kwa ine chifukwa anali ndi vuto lalikulu la khalidwe. Sanali wabwino pa maphunziro koma ndinazindikira chomwe amadana nacho chinali chakuti analembedwa m'banja lake logwirizana kuti ndi wosachita bwino yemwe angangokwatiwa.

“Pambuyo pa miyezi yopatsidwa uphungu, tsopano akulemba ndakatulo, ndi mlembi wa kalabu yake yoŵerenga mabuku kusukulu, ndipo ali m’gulu la 10 apamwamba m’kalasi mwake.”

Kuwonjezera pa ubwino wa uphungu kwa achinyamata, ambit imafalikira ku zochitika zambiri za moyo, mikhalidwe yovuta, ndipo ndithudi, nkhani zamaganizo. Ubwino waukulu wa chitsogozo ndi upangiri ndikuti mumagwira ntchito ndi akatswiri ophunzitsidwa bwino kuti muthe kuthana ndi izi.

Kufunika kwa uphungu kwagona pa mfundo yakuti kumathandiza anthu kuthana ndi zovuta komanso kuthana ndi zopinga monga kuchotsedwa ntchito, maubwenzi oipa, imfa ya wokondedwa, kusudzulana, ntchito kapena kupsinjika maganizo chifukwa cha sukulu, ndi zina zambiri.

Mlangizi wanu, pang'onopang'ono koma motsimikizika, amakupatsirani zidziwitso zofunikira ndi zida zomwe zimakuthandizani kuthana ndi mikhalidwe yotere bwino ndikuthana ndi zovuta zamaganizidwe monga kukhumudwa ndi nkhawa moyenera. Mwachidule, zimakupatsani mphamvu kuti mukhale ndi moyo wathanzi komanso wokhutiritsa, ngakhale zinthu zitakhala zovuta kwambiri.

Ndani akufunika uphungu?

Kupatula funso loti chifukwa chiyani muyenera kupita ku upangiri, chinthu china chofunikira kuwongolera ndi omwe angapindule ndi upangiri. Nthawi zambiri, anthu amangokhalira kulimbana ndi mavuto awo poganiza kuti mavuto awo sali aakulu kapena akukakamizika kuti athandizidwe ndi akatswiri.

Aliyense amene akukumana ndi zovuta pamoyo wawo waumwini kapena wantchito komanso anthu omwe akulimbana ndi mafunso omwe alipo, kufunafuna malo awo padziko lapansi, atha kupeza phindu la uphungu.

Ubwino wa uphungu wapayekha ndikuti utha kukuthandizani kuthana ndi malingaliro anu, kuzindikira zomwe zingakupangitseni kuti mukhale ndi khalidwe linalake, kuphwanya machitidwe osayenera, ndi kubwereranso kumapazi anu, kudzimva kuti ndinu wamphamvu komanso wolamulira.

Kuti tidziwe zochitika zenizeni zomwe uphungu ungakhale wopindulitsa, tinalankhula ndi psychotherapist Dr Aman Bhonsle. Nazi zochitika zisanu zapamwamba zomwe akufotokoza zomwe anthu angapindule ndi uphungu:

1. Mikangano ya m’banja

Tikamalankhula za ubwino wopereka uphungu pa maubwenzi, kuchuluka kwake kumapitirira kuposa maubwenzi apabanja ndi maubwenzi achikondi. Mkangano wamtundu uliwonse pakati pa achibale, makamaka makolo ndi ana kapena abale, ukhoza kuthetsedwa bwino ndi chithandizo cha chitsogozo choyenera.

Nthawi zina makolo amakhumudwa ndi ana awo, kapenanso ana amaona kuti makolo awo sakuwamvetsetsa. Kusiyana kwa mibadwo ndi kusiyana kwa kawonedwe kungapangitsenso kukwiya.

Mlangizi atha kukhala ngati mlatho wotseka mipata. Kapenanso thandizani onse awiri kuti amasuke ku zovuta zomwe amayembekeza, maudindo, kuvomereza ndi kutsimikizira.

2. Mikangano ya m’banja

Kumene, chithandizo cha banja ali pamwamba pakati pa ubwino wa uphungu wa maubwenzi. Pamene okwatirana sali pa tsamba lomwelo kapena katundu wa zinthu zakale akuyendetsa mkangano pakati pawo, kupita kuchipatala kungathandize kuthetsa malingaliro mwanzeru.

3. Kuda nkhawa

Nthawi zambiri, zovuta pamoyo monga mavuto azachuma, thanzi labwino, mavuto a ubale, kusweka kwa maubwenzi, kusamvana ndi mnzako kapena wachibale zimatha kuyambitsa nkhawa. Katswiri wa zamaganizo wophunzitsidwa bwino angakuthandizeni kuthana ndi malingalirowa motsindika, ndikukupatsani malingaliro atsopano pazochitika zoterezi.

Ndi zida zoyenera, zolimbitsa thupi komanso njira zothanirana nazo, mutha kuphunzira kuthana ndi nkhawa bwino ndikuyamba ntchito yomanganso moyo wanu mutatayika kapena kubweza m'mbuyo.

4. Chisoni kapena zoopsa

Ubwino wa uphungu wa kupsinjika maganizo ukhoza kukhala wovuta kwambiri pamene uyambitsidwa ndi zochitika zina zosintha moyo. Imfa ya wokondedwa, kutaya ntchito, kupititsa padera, ngozi yomwe imakhudza luso lanu lakuthupi - zochitika zoterezi zingakhale ndi zotsatira zakuya komanso zozama kwambiri pamaganizo a aliyense.

Nthawi zambiri, anthu amakhala opanda zida zokwanira kuti athane ndi kuchuluka kwachisoni, chisoni kapena kutayika komwe kumabwera chifukwa cha zopinga zotere. Kuyimitsa zonse ndikuwongolera si njira yoyenera nthawi zonse.

Mlangizi angakuthandizeni kudziwa zowawa kapena kutaya zomwe mukupewa, kuzikonza, ndi kuphunzira kuzitsatira m'njira yomwe sizikusokoneza moyo wanu watsiku ndi tsiku.

5. Kusakayikira kapena kusokonezeka

Tikamalankhula za ubwino wopereka uphungu kwa achinyamata, udindo wake pothana ndi vuto lodzikayikira ndiwofunika kuutchula. Nthawi zambiri, achinyamata amavutika ndi chisokonezo pa zosankha za ntchito, mapulani a moyo komanso masomphenya amtsogolo.

M’zaka za kukula kwa munthu, zosankha zimenezi zimasonkhezeredwa ndi maganizo a makolo ndi mmene anakulira. Pamene munthu amabwera mwa iye yekha ndikukulitsa malingaliro ake a dziko lapansi, zosankha zake zimatha kutsutsana ndi zomwe adaphunzitsidwa kuti zikhale zolondola kapena zokhumba.

Izi zingayambitse vuto la kukhalapo komwe anthu amayamba kukayikira malo awo padziko lapansi ndi zina zotero. Mofananamo ngati wina akumva ngati ali ndi vuto lalikulu m'moyo kapena sanapatsidwe chifukwa chake, chisokonezo ndi malingaliro okhumudwa amatha kulowa.

Kulangizidwa kungakukonzekeretseni kuti muyike malingaliro osokoneza kwambiri, omwe nthawi zambiri amatsutsana.

Kodi Ubwino Wauphungu Ndi Chiyani?

Ubwino wa uphungu ndi zazikulu. Ngakhale kuti masukulu ndi masukulu ena azindikira kufunika kwa uphungu, anthu akugwiritsanso ntchito uphungu kuti atsimikizire kuwongolera maphunziro m'moyo.

Uphungu ukhoza kukhala wamitundu yosiyanasiyana - uphungu wamaganizo, uphungu wa maanja, uphungu musanalowe m’banja, ana ndi makolo uphungu ndi uphungu pa nkhani zapamtima ndi zogonana.

Kodi ndi sayansi yotani yomwe imayambitsa ubwino wa uphungu? Mu a phunziro, zolemba zonse zoyeserera zomwe zidasindikizidwa mpaka Marichi 2006 zomwe zikuwunika momwe chithandizo chamankhwala chapaintaneti chamitundu yosiyanasiyana chinasonkhanitsira ndipo kusanthula kwamaphunziro onse omwe adanenedwa kunachitika.

Maphunzirowa adakhudza makasitomala onse a 9,764 omwe adathandizidwa kudzera m'njira zosiyanasiyana zamaganizidwe okhudzana ndi intaneti pamavuto osiyanasiyana, omwe mphamvu zawo zidawunikidwa ndi mitundu yosiyanasiyana.

Mphunzitsi wa moyo Joie Bose akuti, "Ndikukhulupirira kuti ntchito yanga ndiyo kuyendetsa mawu amkati mwa munthu amene wabwera kwa ine. Ndiyenera kudziwa zomwe munthuyo akufunadi. Nthawi zambiri amasokonezeka ndi maganizo awo ndipo ndi ntchito yanga kubweretsa kufotokoza momveka bwino. Kukhala wosaweruza ndiye chinsinsi komanso kukhalapo kuti awathandize kukambirana nkhaniyi ndi mbali ina ya uphungu, "adatero.

Mlangizi ndi munthu amene akugwira dzanja lanu ndikukuthandizani kuthana ndi vuto lomwe mulili. Anthu omwe adapita kukalandira uphungu nthawi zambiri amafotokoza zotsatira zabwino.

Deepa Sarkar adapeza mwana wake wamkazi wazaka 10 akutuluka mu chipolopolo atasudzulana. Anayendera mlangizi pamodzi ndi mwana wake wamkazi.

Anandipatsa lingaliro la zomwe mwana wanga angakumane nazo ndipo ndinamumvetsetsa bwino ndipo anathandiza mwana wanga wamkazi kuthana ndi malingaliro osautsa onse. Uwu ndi umboni kuti uphungu wa chisudzulo angathandize kwambiri okwatirana ndi ana.

Dr John M. Gottman, yemwe wapulumutsa maukwati ambiri ku US ku chisudzulo mwa uphungu waukwati, adati mabanja amatha chifukwa anthu samapeza uphungu msanga. Akamachita nthawi zambiri amakhala mochedwa kwambiri.

Gawo labwino kwambiri ndiloti anthu angathe kupeza upangiri waukwati pa intaneti mseri m'nyumba zawo kotero nthawi zonse pali mwayi wolowererapo panthawi yake ngati munthuyo akufuna.

9 Kafukufuku Wothandizira Ubwino Wotsimikiziridwa Wauphungu

Psychology yabwino akuti pali maubwino otsimikizirika a uphungu. Anthu ochulukirachulukira akusankha uphungu. Ngakhale makampani akupita kukalandira uphungu wa ntchito kwa antchito awo, sukulu zikupeza zotsatira zabwino ndi uphungu wa ophunzira.

Popeza mliri wa COVID-19 udachitika ndipo masukulu adasamukira pa intaneti, aphunzitsi akupatsidwanso upangiri wapaintaneti kuti athe kuthana ndi ndandanda zawo zatsopano komanso kusintha njira zophunzitsira. M'malo mwake, kuyambira pomwe vuto la coronavirus lidachitika ndipo anthu akhala akulimbana ndi zovuta zamaganizidwe potseka, akhala akugwiritsanso ntchito upangiri wapaintaneti kuti athe kuthana ndi vutoli bwino.

Uphungu wa mabanja ndi makolo ukuthandiza makolo kuthana ndi ana awo bwino ndipo uphungu wamagulu wathandiza kwambiri anthu omwe akuvutika ndi nkhawa, kuvutika maganizo, matenda osachiritsika komanso kuledzera & kugwiritsa ntchito mankhwala osokoneza bongo.

Ubwino wa uphungu ndi wochuluka koma apa tikuyang'ana pa maubwino 9 ofunikira a uphungu:

1. Kupititsa patsogolo luso loyankhulana

Monga tikudziwira kuti maubwenzi ambiri kapena nkhani zamaganizidwe zimayamba chifukwa cha kusokonekera kwa kulumikizana. Pamene anthu sangathe kulankhulana ndi kufotokoza zakukhosi kwawo pamakhala mikangano yolakwika yomwe ingayambitse kukhumudwa, nkhawa komanso kukhumudwa.

Kupereka uphungu kumakuthandizani kuti muwongolere luso lawo loyankhulirana, kudziikira malire a ubale wanu, ndikudzifotokoza bwino. Ndi luso loyankhulana bwino anthu amamva kuti ali ndi mphamvu. Nkhokwe zimayamba kusonkhana muubwenzi chifukwa cha zinthu zomwe sizinatchulidwe.

Kulankhulana bwino kumathandiza kuchotsa maukondewo. Mutha kuyamba ndi kuyankhulana kosavuta ndi okondedwa wanu kuti mugwiritse ntchito nkhani zanu zoyankhulirana.

Katswiri wa zamaganizo Kavita Panyam anati: “Kulankhulana mogwira mtima kumatanthauza kuti mumasankha mawu oyenerera oti mulankhule. Muyenera kukumbukira kuti mukuyankha osati kuchitapo kanthu.” Posachedwapa mwamuna wina anabwera kwa ine ndi mkazi wake ndipo pakati pa madandaulo ambiri anali akuti sanakonde kamvekedwe ka mawu ake.

2. Kudzidalira bwino

Kudziyang'anira pansi nthawi zambiri zimabweretsa kudzikayikira kokhazikika komanso nkhawa zantchito. Ophunzira sangachite bwino m'maphunziro chifukwa chodzikayikira ndipo nthawi zambiri izi zimabweretsa zovuta zamakhalidwe komanso kulephera kukhala pagulu la anzawo. Kudzikayikira kumabweretsa nkhani za kuntchito komanso kumawonetsa maubwenzi pakati pa anthu ndipo nthawi zina kumabweretsa kulephera kukhazikitsa maubwenzi apamtima.

Kupereka uphungu kumathandiza kwambiri kukulitsa chidaliro ndi kudzidalira kotero kuti kuchita bwino m'mbali zonse za moyo.

Dr Aman akupereka chitsanzo cha ubwino wa uphungu wa munthu payekha pothana ndi nkhani zodzidalira. "Nthawi ina ndinali ndi wodwala yemwe amafuna kukhala katswiri wojambula pakompyuta koma analibe chidaliro chokwanira kuti akhazikitse ntchitoyi pa intaneti, chifukwa ankaganiza kuti ingakhale yodzitamandira.

“Pamene ndinkagwira naye ntchito, tinavumbula kuti kusafuna kudziika patali kumeneku kunali chotulukapo cha kudzidetsa kumene kunayambika kunthaŵi yaubwana wake.” Amayi ake anali kum’dzudzula mopambanitsa.

"Pakapita nthawi, ndinamuthandiza kuphunzira momwe angadziyimire yekha pamaso pa makolo ake. Panthawi imodzimodziyo, ikani malire ndikusiya kukhala 100% momveka bwino ndi iwo ndikuwuza amayi ake chitukuko chaching'ono m'moyo wake. Chofunika kwambiri, ndinamuthandiza kuyamwitsa kufunikira kovomerezeka kuchokera kwa amayi ake, omwe sanawapeze, "akutero.

3. Kuthana ndi zizindikiro za nkhawa ndi kupsinjika maganizo

M’dziko lamakonoli, palibe amene savutika ndi kupsinjika maganizo ndi nkhaŵa. Nthawi zina zinthu zimafika poipa kwambiri. Ku US pafupifupi anthu 46.6 miliyoni akudwala matenda amisala, zomwe zikutanthauza kuti m'modzi mwa akulu asanu aliwonse ali ndi vuto lamisala.

A lipoti Bungwe la World Health Organisation (WHO) linanena kuti 7.5 peresenti ya anthu aku India ali ndi vuto lamisala ndipo akuti afika 20 peresenti chaka chino (2020). Ku India, anthu ambiri samapita kwa akatswiri chifukwa chakusalidwa kotero kuti upangiri wapaintaneti ukhoza kukhala njira yopezera phindu la upangiri.

Nkhawa ndi nkhani yamasiku ano yomwe anthu ambiri akukumana nayo ndipo kuyambira pa chibwenzi mpaka kutumizirana mameseji nkhawa, nkhani zake ndi zochuluka. Ubwino wa chithandizo ndi chitsogozo ndi chachikulu pothana ndi nkhawa.

Kavita Panyam adatiuza kuti ndi mantha a zosadziwika, mantha omwe amachititsa nkhawa. M'malo mwake munthu ayenera kuganizira za nthawiyo. "Nkhawa imatha kuthana ndi malingaliro ndipo timagwiritsa ntchito njira zochiritsira zomwe mantha amachotsedwa ndipo kuganiza bwino kumaphatikizidwa m'malo mwake."

Dr Aman akufotokoza momwe uphungu unathandizira mayi kuthetsa nkhawa bwino. “Mwamuna wake ankamuchitira zachipongwe ndipo ankakonda kumumenya nthawi ndi nthawi.

Iye anati: “Mwamunayo ankaona kuti kumenyedwa ndiponso kuzunzidwa kumeneku n’kwabwino kwa iye.” Iye ankadandaula kuti mtsikanayo ankachitabe zinthu ngati mtsikana wa kukoleji ndipo amathera nthawi yake yopuma akucheza ndi anzake m’malo mothandiza mayi ake kuchita ntchito zapakhomo.

Pogwiritsa ntchito zida ndi masewera olimbitsa thupi, adaphunzira momwe angakhalire ndi nkhawa komanso kuthana ndi mwamuna wake wankhanza.

4. Kutha kusintha khalidwe ndi zizolowezi

Omwe amachitira nkhanza kapena zidakwa, anthu omwe ali ndi vuto lokonda kugwiritsa ntchito mankhwala osokoneza bongo kapena abodza mokakamiza komanso a kleptomancs nthawi zambiri amapeza chilimbikitso chothana ndi zovuta zamakhalidwe awo.

Ndizovuta kwambiri kuti anthu amtunduwu asinthe koma zawoneka kuti ndi mankhwala ndizotheka. Kupeza chilimbikitso chofuna kusintha khalidwe ndi zizolowezi zanu ndi chimodzi mwa ubwino waukulu wa uphungu.

5. Kusamalira bwino kupsinjika maganizo

Kupsinjika maganizo ndi gawo limodzi la moyo wathu watsiku ndi tsiku. Kuyambira munthu amene amagwira ntchito muofesi mpaka mayi wapakhomo amene akuphika ndi kuyeretsa, aliyense amapanikizika mwanjira ina. Koma zimatengera momwe timachitira ndi nkhawa. Nthawi zina pamene sitingathe kutero patokha chithandizo chimathandiza.

Dr Aman anali ndi kasitomala yemwe anali wopsinjika kwambiri za kukwezedwa komwe kukubwera. "Iye adanena kuti analibe chidaliro popereka ulaliki ndipo akuda nkhawa kuti zitha kusokoneza mwayi wake wokwezedwa pantchito.

“Titafufuza mozama, tinazindikira kuti kupanda chidaliro kumeneku kunali chifukwa cha abwana ake amene anamuuza, monga katswiri wachichepere, kuti anali wokhoza kulankhula pamaso pa anthu. Ndipo inali yoyenereradi ntchito ya desiki. Mwa kum’thandiza kudzimasula ku malingaliro a munthu wina, ndinakhoza kum’thandiza kupezanso chidaliro chake.

Radhina Mehta, katswiri wa ntchito, akunena kuti atasokonezeka pakati pa ntchito yake ndi mwana wake wa miyezi 10 sanathe kupirira kupsinjika maganizo. Atayamba kugwidwa ndi mantha adapempha thandizo kwa mlangizi wa zamaganizo.

“Zinasintha moyo wanga. Ndinaphunzira kusiya kuyang’anira zinthu pang’onopang’ono ndi kudera nkhawa zinthu zing’onozing’ono ndi kuganizira kwambiri zinthu zazikulu. Panopa ndine munthu wodekha, wodziona kuti ndine wolakwa, ndimathera nthawi yabwino ndi mwana wanga ndipo posachedwapa ndakwezedwa pantchito.”

Katswiri wa zamaganizo Meghna Prabhu akunena kuti kupsinjika maganizo ndikwambiri masiku ano kotero kuti anthu akukumana ndi kutopa kumapeto kwa zaka za m'ma 20. Izi zikusokoneza maubwenzi, choncho ndikulangiza anthu kuti aganizire zopezera ntchito zina ndikusintha malo ogwirira ntchito, kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi komanso kudya zakudya zopatsa thanzi chifukwa kuthetsa kupsinjika maganizo n'kofunika tsopano."

Monga chibwenzi, maubwenzi ndi mlangizi wa anthu okwatirana asanakwatirane Meghna wawona kuti anthu akukhala ndi nkhawa kwambiri pakuchita maubwenzi masiku ano. Kumenyana kosalekeza, kuletsedwa ndi mnzanu pa TV, miyala kapena ngakhale mizukwa imakhala ndi zotsatirapo zoyipa.

"Kulankhula ndi ine kumawathandiza kupeza malingaliro oyenera komanso amatha kuthana ndi malingaliro awo bwino." Maubwenzi a m'badwo watsopano ndi wovuta kuusunga kuposa momwe munthu angaganizire.

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6. Kukwanitsa kuthetsa kusamvana

Mkangano ukangochitika, ambiri aife timakhala ndi chizolowezi chokwiya komanso kukwiya komanso kunena molakwika. Koma mikangano ndi yosapeweka mu gawo lililonse la moyo wathu koma momwe timachitira ndi kusamvana kumasankha mtundu wa anthu omwe tidzakhala. Ubwino waukulu wa uphungu ndi kupeza luso la kuthetsa mikangano ndi cholinga komanso bata.

Kupepesa sichibweranso mosavuta ndipo anthu nthawi zambiri amatero nkhani za trust. Kukambitsirana kuthetsa mikangano nthawi zambiri kumatenga njira yopita kusunthitsa mlandu ndipo maanja amatha kunena zinthu zopweteka zomwe zili chifukwa chaukali osati cholinga.

Mukherjee Dar Bou (Mkazi wa Mukerjee Da) ndi kanema waposachedwa wa Chibengali yemwe amafufuza ubale wa apongozi ndi mpongozi wawo. Iwo sakanatha kulolerana wina ndi mzake ndipo ankamenyana nthawi zonse kotero kuti potsirizira pake anatumizidwa kwa mlangizi wa zamaganizo kuti athetse mikangano.

Pamene magawo akupita patsogolo mlangizi adawaphunzitsa amayi awiriwa kuti aziwona zonse monga momwe wina akuwonera. Pamapeto pake, awiriwa anakhala mabwenzi aakulu ndi mabwenzi.

Dr Aman akupereka chitsanzo cha mayi ndi mwana wamkazi kuti afotokoze mfundo yakuti si kuthetsa mikangano yonse yomwe imakhudza kukwirira chiwembu. Nthawi zina, muyenera kuphunzira kuvomereza kusiyana. "Kasitomala wanga anali mtsikana wachichepere yemwe ankafuna kukhala wojambula ndikusamukira ku Goa kukakhala ndi chibwenzi chake.

"Zowonadi, zosankha zamoyo izi zimatsutsana ndi dongosolo la mtengo wa amayi ndi malingaliro a dziko.Chotsatira chake, sankatha kuonana maso ndi maso.Pankhani iyi, kupatukana mwanzeru kunali njira yabwino yothetsera mkangano.

Iye anati: “Ndinam’tsogolera kuti asankhe zochita mwanzeru komanso kuti asamachite zinthu mopanda ndalama kuti ndichirikize chosankhacho.” M’kupita kwa nthaŵi, anaphunzira kukhala mwamtendere ndi maganizo a amayi ake ponena za iye, ngakhale kuti palibe amene anagwirizana ndi mnzakeyo.

7. Kuwongolera bwino malingaliro

“Ndikufuna kulankhula ndi winawake zakukhosi kwanga,” awa ndi mawu omwe alangizi amamva nthawi zambiri. Nthawi zambiri anthu amaona kuti palibe amene angamvetse mmene akumvera mumtima mwawo n’kumakana kukambirana nawo. Izi zimabweretsa kutulutsa malingaliro awo omwe amakhala ndi zotsatira zoyipa pamapeto pake.

Mlangizi samangomvetsera wodwala, kudzera mu chithandizo amamuthandiza wodwalayo kumvetsetsa momwe akumvera komanso kuthana ndi malingaliro ake bwino.

8. Kuchulukitsa kwa chisangalalo

Tikamafunafuna chisangalalo monga cholinga zimatilepheretsa nthawi zambiri. Munthu akhoza kukhala ndi chirichonse - bwenzi lachikondi, ana okongola kapena ntchito yabwino, koma ngakhale atha kukhala wosungulumwa komanso wosasangalala.

Joie Bose akupereka chitsanzo cha dona yemwe adalowa mu kunja kwa banja nkhani. Iye anayamba kudziimba mlandu kwambiri ndipo chifukwa cha chibwenzicho, ubwenzi wake ndi mwamuna wake ndi ana ake aanyamata unasokonekera kwambiri.

"Ndinamulangiza kwa miyezi isanu ndi umodzi ndikumuuza kuti achoke pa mlanduwo ndikuyamba kudzikonda. Zinthu zimachitika ndipo sikuti nthawi zonse timakhala ndi udindo pa izi ndipo ndi thupi lake ndi malingaliro ake ndipo ayenera kukhala ndi udindo pa izi. Palibe chifukwa choweruza pankhaniyi. Iye ndi munthu wosangalala kwambiri tsopano ndipo wathetsa liwongo."

Choncho chithandizo ndi chitsogozo zimabwera ndi zotsatira zabwino.

9. Maubwenzi abwino pakati pa anthu

Kupereka uphungu kumathandiza kwambiri kupanga maubwenzi abwino pakati pa anthu. Nthawi zambiri anthu amasankha upangiri ngati njira yomaliza pomwe ubale walowa phompho. Koma anthu akuyenera kupita kukalandira chithandizo chaubwenzi fundo zikangoyamba kuoneka chifukwa ndizosavuta kuzithetsa msanga.

Ngati uphungu waukwati umathandizira kupulumutsa mabanja, uphungu umathandizanso anthu kuchoka m'mabanja omwe ali ndi nkhanza kapena kumvetsetsa ndi kuthana ndi nkhanza zamaganizo. Uphungu umathandizira anthu kupanga maubwenzi abwino pakati pa anthu.

Dr Aman akunena kuti kulankhulana ndiye maziko a ubale wabwino pakati pa anthu. Koma kaŵirikaŵiri, okwatirana amalephera kulankhulana mogwira mtima zosoŵa zawo zing’onozing’ono. Popereka chitsanzo, iye anati: “Nthawi ina mkazi sanasangalale kuti mwamuna wake sanam’chitire chilichonse chapadera pamene mwamunayo ankaganiza kuti kuchita zinthu zazikulu sikunali kofunikira.

“Iye anatsutsa kuti makolo ake sanachokeko pa madeti a chakudya chamadzulo kapena kugulitsirana mphatso zamtengo wapatali, komabe, anali ndi ukwati wachimwemwe ndi wautali.” Kufotokozera mwamunayo kufunika kwa kuyenderana ndi kusintha kwa nthaŵi kunali sitepe yoyamba yowathandiza kugwirizana bwino.

Analangizidwa kuti azisonyeza kwambiri mmene akumvera mumtima mwake.

Chifukwa cha kusintha kwaukadaulo phindu la upangiri litha kupezeka pa intaneti. Kavita Panyam imatiuza nkhani yopambana ya upangiri pa intaneti.

“Mayi ameneyu analankhula nane pa intaneti. Anali m’banja lochitira nkhanza, zomwe zinachititsa kuti ayambe chibwenzi ndi munthu wina ndipo anali wopsinjika maganizo kwambiri. Patha zaka zitatu kuchokera pamene ndakhala ndikumulangiza pa telefoni. Sindinakumanepo naye. Koma tsopano ali ndi kampani, amasamalira ana ake ndi ndalama, ndipo akupita ku UK kukalandira maphunziro.

Kodi muli ndi vuto lomwe mungafune kukambirana ndi alangizi athu kuchokera kunyumba kwanu? Pezani upangiri wapaintaneti pamitengo yotsika mtengo kuchokera kwa alangizi odziwa ntchito mseri mnyumba mwanu panthawi yomwe mwasankha ndipo tiyeni tikuthandizeni kupanga moyo wanu kukhala wabwino.

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