N'chifukwa Chiyani Sindingathe Kumuganizira? 18 Zifukwa Zomwe Zingachitike

Kodi mukuona kuti n'kovuta kuiwala winawake? Chabwino, katswiri wa zamaganizo komanso pulofesa wa ku Harvard, Daniel M. Wegner, adalankhula za momwe malingaliro ovuta amagwirira ntchito mu kafukufuku wake wosweka zaka zapitazo. Zikuoneka kuti Wegner adapeza kuti ngakhale anthu omwe ankamuphunzitsa ankayesetsa kwambiri kuletsa malingaliro a zimbalangondo zoyera, zinawapangitsa kuganizira kwambiri za zimbalangondo zoyera. Chifukwa chake, kugwiritsa ntchito zotsatira zake pa moyo wathu wachikondi mwina kumayankha funso lofunika kwambiri, "Bwanji sindingasiye kuganiza za iye ngakhale nditayesetsa?"

Munkhaniyi, tiwona zifukwa zomwe zingakupangitseni kuti musasiye kuganizira za munthu amene mwangokumana naye kapena wakale wanu amene mwangosankha kusiya naye. Tiwonanso momwe malingaliro okhutiritsa amagwirira ntchito ndikukupatsani mayankho a funso lofunika kwambiri, "Kodi mumasiya bwanji kuganizira za munthu wina?", ndi chidziwitso cha akatswiri ochokera kwa katswiri wa zamaganizo komanso katswiri wodziwa za ubale woganizira bwino Dr. Shefali Batra (MD mu Psychiatry), yemwe ndi katswiri pa uphungu wokhudza kulekana ndi kusudzulana, kusudzulana ndi chibwenzi, komanso nkhani zokhudzana ndi kuyanjana kwa anthu asanakwatirane. Chifukwa chake, ngati ndinu munthu amene nthawi zonse mumaganiza kuti, "N'chifukwa chiyani ndimakonda kwambiri munthu amene sindimudziwa bwino?" kapena "N'chifukwa chiyani sindingaiwale munthu amene ndangokumana naye kumene?", werenganibe…

18 Zifukwa Zomwe Simungathe Kuganizira Munthu Wina

Nanga, n’chifukwa chiyani zimativuta kuiwala anthu ochepa? Kodi ndi mahomoni athu, maganizo ovuta, kapena china chake chokhudza chinsinsi chozungulira munthuyo? Wogwiritsa ntchito Reddit akugawana nkhani yake yokhudza kukonda kwambiri munthu amene samudziwa bwino, “Takhala tikutumizirana mauthenga nthawi ndi nthawi kuyambira pamene anachoka. Nthawi zambiri mauthenga osavuta komanso oseketsa. Ndimakonda momwe nthawi zonse timakhala ndi zinthu zosayembekezereka ngati zimenezo zoti tikambirane. Papita miyezi ingapo kuchokera pamene anachoka, koma bwanji sindingasiye kuganizira za iye?

Ngati mukuganiza za izi, sindimamudziwa munthu uyu. Sindikudziwa zomwe amachita tsiku lililonse tsopano. Tangokhalira limodzi kwa nthawi yochepa. Pasanathe 5x asananyamuke. Sindiyenera kumaganizira za iye komanso nthawi yomwe timakhala limodzi. Koma sindingathe kusiya.”

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Dr. Batra akufotokoza zomwe zimatipangitsa kukonda kwambiri anthu omwe sitiwadziwa bwino: “Ngati nthawi zonse mumadzifunsa kuti, “N’chifukwa chiyani ndimakonda kwambiri munthu amene sindimudziwa bwino?”, kumbukirani, mutchule kuti chikondi kapena kukonda kwambiri , kukopa maganizo kapena thupi, pakhoza kukhala zifukwa zingapo zomwe simungasiye kuganizira za iye. Ngakhale simungadziimbe mlandu nthawi zonse kapena kuda nkhawa kuti ndinu wodwala, muyeneranso kusamala ndi zizindikiro za izi kukhala chizolowezi.” Nazi zifukwa 18 zomwe simungasiye kuganizira za munthu wina:

1. Muli ndi mahomoni owopsa

Dr. Batra akuti, “Chimodzi mwa zifukwa zazikulu zomwe mungakhale ndi malingaliro okhutiritsa okhudza munthu, makamaka munthu amene mwangokumana naye kumene, mwina mahomoni akuchulukirachulukira ndipo muli ndi chilakolako chachikulu.” Kaya ndi chikondi kapena kukondana, pamene simungathe kuchotsa munthu m'maganizo mwanu, kungakhale ntchito ya mahomoni achimwemwe otchedwa dopamine, oxytocin, ndi adrenaline. Ndipotu, kafukufuku wa 2010 Rutgers University adawonetsa kuti kukhala pachikondi ndi munthu kuli ngati kugwiritsa ntchito mankhwala osokoneza bongo, monga momwe chikondi chimagwirira ntchito m'madera omwewo a ubongo omwe mankhwala osokoneza bongo amachita.

2. Mumagawana naye zikumbukiro zakale

Ngati nthaŵi zambiri mumadzifunsa kuti, “N’chifukwa chiyani sindingathe kuleka kum’ganizira?” Kumbukirani kuti nthaŵi zina mungaone kukhala kovuta kuiwala munthu chifukwa cha zikumbukiro zakale zogwirizanitsidwa naye. Dr. Batra akufotokoza kuti: “N’kutheka kuti mumakumbukira munthu wina, monga munthu amene anasoŵa ofesi kapena munthu wina wakale, zimene zinayamba kalekale.” Nazi zochitika zina:

• Mwina mwathandizapo a ntchito kuphwanya ndi ntchito zina ndipo mukhoza kukumbukira
• Abwana anu ayenera kuti anakugwetsani kunyumba tsiku lina, ndipo chikumbukirocho chiyenera kuti chinakhazikika m'maganizo mwanu
• Mutha kukumbukira bwino za tchuthi chosangalatsa ndi wakale wanu
• Mutha kukhala ndi zokumbukira zokondwerera tsiku lanu lobadwa ndi wakale wanu

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3. Ali ndi khalidwe losiririka

Dr. Batra anati, “Nthawi zambiri, timakopeka ndi khalidwe labwino la mwamuna lomwe timaliona kukhala losangalatsa kenako timakulitsa malingaliro athu onse a munthu amene ali ndi khalidwe limenelo. Ichi chikhoza kukhala chimodzi mwa zifukwa zomwe zimapangitsa kuti khalidwe labwinoli lisamatilepheretse kuiwala munthu wina.” Mnzanga wina, Kate, ankakonda kwambiri bwana wake. Anali woyenda padziko lonse lapansi, ndipo Kate ankakonda kuwerenga ma blog ake ndipo ankatsatira ngakhale ma social media ake onse. Anali naye pafupi kwambiri moti ngakhale atachoka mdzikolo kukakhazikika kunja, Kate ankalankhulana naye. Izi, ngakhale ankadziwa kuti sadzakhala pachibwenzi chachikondi.

4. Iye ndi wabwino pa chinachake chimene chimakulimbikitsani inu

Kodi mukudzifunsa kuti, “ N’chifukwa chiyani ndimakonda kwambiri munthu amene sindimudziwa bwino?” Chabwino, zikuoneka kuti, tikaona munthu akuchita bwino kwambiri pa chinthu chomwe timakonda, timamukonda kwambiri munthuyo ndipo sitingathe kumuchotsa m’maganizo mwathu. Choncho, m’zochitika zotere, akhoza kukhala waluso pa masewera, kuimba, kapena ngakhale kukambirana. Luso limenelo lingakukhudzeni, ndipo limakhalabe ndi inu ngakhale munthuyo atachoka. Zotsatira zake, mungakhale mu mkhalidwe umene simungathe kuganizira chilichonse kupatulapo kuganizira nthawi zonse za iye.

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5. Chikhalidwe chake chachifundo

Limodzi mwa mayankho a funso lanu lofunika kwambiri, “Bwanji sindingathe kusiya kumuganizira?”, ndikuti mwina mwakhala mukukonda kwambiri chifundo chake. Nthawi zambiri, timayamba kukonda kwambiri amuna omwe amasonyeza chifundo chawo komanso omwe ali kutali ndi amuna achimuna omwe timawaona akulemekezedwa m'manyuzipepala. Dr. Batra akumva kuti, “Mukawona kuti ndi wachifundo kuposa wina aliyense amene wakhalapo m'moyo wanu, mungayambe kumusowa munthuyo ngakhale pamene palibe.” Chifundo chake chingawonekere mwa:

• Mmene amachitira zinthu ndi achibale komanso anzake pa nthawi ya mavuto
• Momwe amathandizira anthu osadziwika koma osowa (mwachitsanzo, pokonzekera chakudya pakagwa masoka achilengedwe kapena pakagwa mwadzidzidzi)
• Momwe amasamalira nyama zosokera

6. Sali wofanana ndi ena ozungulira inu

Zachilendo nthawi zambiri zimakhala zokopa. Chifukwa chake, pali mwayi waukulu woti mungakonde munthu wina kapena kukhala ndi malingaliro amphamvu pa wina chifukwa chakuti munthuyo, monga momwe Dr. Batra akunenera, "... mosakayikira ndi wosiyana ndi ena m'moyo wanu." Mnzanga wantchito, Alice, yemwe ndi katswiri wamaphunziro, adalowa nawo masewera olimbitsa thupi ndipo adapeza mphunzitsi wokongola kwambiri. Ngakhale mphunzitsiyo sanali wogwirizana naye m'maganizo , nthawi zonse ankangomuganizira za iye.

Uwu ndi nkhani yachikale yolumikizidwa ndi munthu chifukwa ndi wosiyana kwambiri ndi wina aliyense wakuzungulirani. Muchikozyano, mulangizi wabbazu wakabelesya Alice kuzwa mubusena bwakusaanguna mbobakali kukonzya kujana. Alice, yemwe anali wotanganidwa kwambiri ndi mabuku ndi maphunziro komanso atazunguliridwa ndi mapulofesa, anapeza bukuli lochititsa chidwi komanso lochititsa chidwi.

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7. Mumagawana naye zomwe amakonda

Dr. Batra anati, “Chifukwa chachikulu chomwe munthu angaganizire kwambiri ndi chakuti mwamunayo ndi inuyo muli ndi zinthu zomwe zimakupangitsani kukhala paubwenzi wolimba.” Chifukwa chake nonse awirinu mukhoza kukhala okonda nyimbo za dziko kapena nonse mumakonda kuwerenga, ndipo mwina mwagawana zambiri zokhudza zomwe mumakonda komanso zomwe simukonda. Ubwenzi umenewo ukhoza kukulepheretsani kumuiwala akapita ndipo mungasiyidwe mukudabwa kuti, “N’chifukwa chiyani ndimakonda kwambiri munthu amene sindimudziwa bwino?”

8. Amakuthandiza tsiku ndi tsiku

Nthawi zambiri, timasowa anthu omwe akhala akutithandiza kwambiri, komanso nthawi zonse. Nayenso Dr. Batra anavomereza kuti: “N’zotheka kukhala pa ubwenzi ndi munthu amene amakuchitirani zinazake kapena amene amakuthandizani nthawi zonse.” Tsopano, uyu atha kukhala katswiri wama psychologist yemwe amamvetsera zonena zanu ndikukupatsani chithandizo, kapena dokotala yemwe wakuthandizani pamavuto omwe muli ndi matenda aakulu. Anthu awa amakonda kukhala m'maganizo pakapita nthawi ntchito yawo itatha.

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9. Iye ndi malo anu otonthoza

Mukadabwa kuti, "N'chifukwa chiyani sindingathe kusiya kumuganizira?", dzifunseni ngati ali malo anu otonthoza. Dr. Batra ananena kuti: “Ukakhala womasuka ukakhala naye, umayamba kumukonda kwambiri akakhala kuti palibe. Uyu atha kukhala bwenzi lakale yemwe anali munthu wokondana naye pamavuto onse m'moyo, kapena bwana wothandizira, wantchito mnzako, kapena bwenzi lomwe mudapanga naye chikondi.

10. Sakuweruza

Dokotala Batra anati, “Ndi pamene akulola kuti ukhale wekha ndipo sakukuweruza chifukwa cha makhalidwe ako oipa omwe umamukonda.” Apa ndi pamenenso sungasiye kumusowa akapita. Mnansi wanga, Sasha, nthawi zonse ankaweruzidwa chifukwa cha kunenepa kwake. Pokhala ndi kunenepa kwambiri, anatsala pang'ono kusiya kupita kukacheza ndi anthu ena, mpaka pamene wantchito mnzake, Bradley, anayamba kukhala naye nthawi yawo yopuma nkhomaliro kuntchito. Sanamuweruze chifukwa cha kulemera kwake, ndipo pamapeto pake Sasha anamva kuti akuchitiridwa ngati munthu wokhala ndi malingaliro.

Pamene Bradley anasiya kampaniyo, Sasha anayamba kumusowa kwambiri. Nthawi zonse ankaganiza kuti iwowo anali ogwirizana ndi platonic koma atalephera kumuchotsa m'maganizo mwake, adayamba kuzindikira kuti amamukonda munthuyu. Maganizo amenewa anali ozikidwa pa mfundo yakuti iye yekha anali m’gulu lake amene sanali kumuweruza.

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11. Amasewera 'zovuta kupeza'

Kafukufuku wochitidwa ndi aphunzitsi a ku yunivesite ya Rochester watsimikizira zomwe ambiri a ife tikudziwa kale: Kusewera 'zovuta kupeza' kumagwira ntchito pamaganizo ovuta a anthu ndipo anthu amaona omwe ndi osavuta kuwasangalatsa ngati osafunika kwenikweni. Chifukwa chake, n'zotheka kwambiri kuti munthuyo ali m'maganizo mwanu chifukwa sakukupatsani chidwi chilichonse, nthawi zina mwadala. Ngakhale Dr. Batra akuvomereza, "Ngati akusewera kwambiri kuti apeze, chimenecho chingakhale chifukwa choti mukopeke naye." Koma izi ndi zovuta, chifukwa mwina sangakukondeni kwambiri.

12. Akukuonetsani kuti amakukondani

Ngati mukudabwa kuti, "Bwanji sindingathe 'kusiya kuganizira za iye?", Zingakhale chifukwa chakuti amakukondani ndipo amawonetseratu. Chifukwa chake, ndizotheka kuti mutha kupanga ubale ndi iye ndipo amakonda kukhala m'malingaliro chifukwa amakupangitsani kukhala osangalala ndikuwonetsetsa. Kotero, iye akhoza kukhala:

• Kukutengerani pamasiku apamwamba a chakudya chamadzulo
• Kukupatsirani mphatso
• Kuitana ndi kukutumizirani mameseji zonse

13. Ali ndi mphamvu yokhazika mtima pansi

Dr. Batra anati: “Nthawi zina timakopeka ndi anthu amene amatikhazika mtima pansi m’kati mwa chipwirikiti chimene chimabwera chifukwa cha moyo.” Choncho, n’zotheka kuti nthawi zonse mumaganizira za munthu wina chifukwa chakuti kupezeka kwake ndiponso kukambirana kwake zinakukhazikani mtima pansi.

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14. Amakusekani

Tsopano, uyu ndi wopanda nzeru. Ndizodziwika bwino kuti amuna omwe amaseketsa akazi amakonda kutenga malingaliro awo ndipo amakhala ndi mwayi wopeza chidwi chawo. Azimayi ena amatha kukopeka kwambiri ndi amuna oterowo pakapita nthawi.

Dokotala Batra akuvomereza kuti, “Ngati akukuseketsani ndi nthabwala zake, ndiye malo anu oseketsa, ndipo ndicho chimene mungakhale mukusowa pamene iye palibe.” Ndipo ngakhale mutangokumana kumene kapena mwangoyamba kumene chibwenzi chatsopano , mungasiyidwe mukudabwa kuti, “N’chifukwa chiyani ndimakonda kwambiri munthu amene sindimudziwa kwenikweni?”, pamene iye palibe.

15. Amakuderani nkhawa

Ngati amasamala za inu ndipo zimawonekera muzochita zake, ziyenera kusungunula mtima wanu. Chisamaliro chimenechi chingasonyezedwe m’mawu ake, maganizo ake, kapena zochita zake. Akhoza kuyesetsa kuti akuthandizeni kapena kukhala nanu, ndipo zimenezi zingakupangitseni kumusowa pamene wachoka.

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16. Iye ndi wosatheka;

Dokotala Batra akuti, “Ndi chibadwa cha munthu kufuna chinthu chomwe munthu sangakhale nacho, ndipo pankhaniyi, ukamuona kuti sangapezeke, umangoganizira kwambiri za iye ndipo umamulakalaka kwambiri, zomwe zimapangitsa kuti uyambe kukonda kwambiri.” Mnzake, Rita, ankakonda kwambiri wantchito mnzake, Adrien. Tsopano, Adrien anali ndi makhalidwe onse a mwamuna wabwino ndipo anali ndi mkazi wachikondi ndi ana awiri.

Anali ndi chirichonse—nyumba, galimoto, ndi banja lokongola, ndipo anali kuchita bwino mu ntchito yakenso. Koma Rita anayamba kumukonda kwambiri moti pang’onopang’ono anayamba kumukonda kwambiri. Anali chilichonse chomwe Rita ankafuna mwa bwenzi lake, koma analinso kutali ndi iye. Anadzipeza akumuganizira mosalekeza ndipo anali asanamvepo zaukali chotero kwa wina aliyense.

17. Amapereka vibe kuti mutha kumukhulupirira kotheratu

Mwamuna akakupangitsani kumva kuti mungamukhulupirire, n'kwachibadwa kukopeka ndi iye. Chifukwa chake, mukangomva kuti mutha kugawana naye zinsinsi zanu zonse popanda kuda nkhawa kuti ataya nyemba, mudzagwirizana ndikumuganizira akachoka.

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18. Ndiwokhwima

Dr. Batra akuti, “Kukhwima ndi kudzipereka ndi mikhalidwe yomwe imapangitsa akazi kukopeka ndi amuna mwachangu. Chifukwa chake, ngati mwamuna wanu ndi wokhwima ndipo amakupatsani kukhazikika ndi kudzipereka, zitha kukupangitsani kuti mukhale naye mwachangu. Kukhwima, m'lingaliro ili, kungatanthauze:

• Kutha kupanga zisankho zokhwima, monga bajeti ndi nyumba
• Kufunitsitsa ndi kuthekera kosamalira banja lake
• Kukhoza kutero fotokozani zakukhosi kwake m'njira yathanzi ndikulankhula ngati mwamuna wokhwima

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Tisanafike pa funso lakuti, “Kodi umasiya bwanji kuganiza za munthu wina?”, tiyeni tione chifukwa chake maganizo otopetsa ngati amenewa sali abwino kwa inu. Tsopano, sitikunena kuti kutengeka pang’ono si kwachibadwa mukakhala mutangoyamba kumene kudziwana ndi mwamuna kapena mukakhala pa ubwenzi wolimba ndi munthu wina. Koma maganizo otereŵa akhoza kukhala opanda thanzi ngati atakhala olemetsa ndi owononga kwambiri, akukusiyani ndi nthawi yochepa yoganizira nokha.

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Dr. Batra adalembapo zochitika zingapo ngati izi m'moyo wathu watsiku ndi tsiku pomwe malingaliro otere atha kukhala oopsa pamoyo wathu:

• Simungathe kutenga nawo mbali pazochitika za moyo wanu wa tsiku ndi tsiku chifukwa mumaganizira za iye nthawi zonse
• ndinu kumuzembera pa social media nsanja komanso kufuna kudziwa komwe ali mosalekeza
• Mumada nkhawa m'moyo wanu watsiku ndi tsiku ndipo mumakhala osamasuka mukapanda kumva kuchokera kwa iye kapena kudziwa komwe ali.
• Mumalephera kugwira ntchito komanso kuchita zinthu mogwirizana ndi anthu ena chifukwa chotanganidwa kwambiri ndi iye ndipo simungaganizire kalikonse kupatula kungomuganizira nthawi zonse.
• Mukutaya ntchito zanu zodzisamalira nokha chifukwa mumangoyang'ana pa iye, motero mukutaya thanzi lanu komanso thanzi lanu.
• Mumamutumizira mameseji awiri ngakhale atasiya uthenga wanu pa 'zowoneka', zomwe zimalepheretsa kudzidalira kwanu.

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Tsopano popeza mukudziwa mayankho odalirika a funso lanu, “Bwanji sindingasiye kuganizira za iye?”, tiyeni tikambirane momwe mungathanirane ndi vutoli mwaulemu komanso funso lalikulu lotsatira, “Kodi mungasiye bwanji kuganizira za munthu wina ?”

Wogwiritsa ntchito Reddit akufotokoza momwe vutoli lingamvekere ndipo akupempha malingaliro: "Zimaoneka ngati ndikayamba kukondana, ndimavutika. Pokhapokha ngati ndili ndi nkhawa ndi chinachake, maganizo anga amabwerera kwa iwo okha, ngakhale kuti sitili pachibwenzi kapena china chilichonse. Nditha kufotokoza izi ngati chikondi, koma ndili wotsimikiza kuti nthawi zonse zimakhala zosiyana. Ndikudikira yankho la wokondedwa wanga pa kubwerera kunyumba, ndipo sindingathe kusiya kuganizira za izi."

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Dr. Batra analangiza kuti: “Mukafuna kuti musiye kuganizira za munthu monyanyira, lolani kuti mumve maganizo ake mofatsa ndipo masukani kuloŵa kapena mutulukemo, malinga ndi njira imene mukufuna kutsogolera ubwenzi wanu.” Komabe, ngati mukuona kuti sakukupatsani mavibe omwewo kapena kuti sabwereranso kwa inu, mungafune kusiya kuganizira za munthu wina. Chifukwa ngati simungathe kuyang'ana pa chilichonse koma iye ndi maganizo ake ndipo iye samva chimodzimodzi kapena sali woyenera chidwi chanu, si malo amtendere kukhalamo, m'maganizo. Chifukwa chake, nawa maupangiri angapo amomwe mungachotsere malingaliro anu kwa wina ndikupeza kutsekeka kwanu:

• Dziwani chifukwa chake sali 'iye': Langizo lachangu lothana ndi izi ndikumvetsetsa chifukwa chake sali wabwino kapena wolondola kwa inu ndikuchepetsa kuyanjana naye (kapena kuchepetsa kukhudzana pang'ono)
• Dziwani kuti si inu: Zindikirani kuti zonse sizingakhale za inu nthawi zonse. N’kutheka kuti iye alibe chidwi nanu
• Khulupirirani kuti ngati amakukondani, adzakhala wanu: Chanu chidzabweranso (chikadakhalapo), ngakhale izi zitha kumveka ngati mawu.
• Yang'anani kwambiri pakudzisamalira: Kumbukirani kuti muyenera kuyang'ana pa ubwino wanu. Tengani nthawi yokonza chizoloŵezi chodzisamalira bwino kuti mukhale ndi thanzi labwino komanso lamaganizo ndikutsatira. Izi zikuthandizani kuti musinthe malingaliro anu kwa inu nokha
• Khalani ndi nthawi yopanga chitukuko chaumwini ndikupanga kudzidalira: Chitani zinthu zina zatsopano, monga kuphunzira chinenero china, kapena luso linalake, monga kujambula zithunzi kapena masewera a karati. Kudzitukumula nthawi zonse kumathandizira kubwezeretsanso chidwi chanu
• Lankhulani ndi netiweki yodalirika: Lankhulani ndi mnzanu wodalirika kapena wachibale za nkhaniyi ndipo muzilankhulana momasuka. Nthaŵi zina, kucheza ndi mnzanu wapamtima kapena gulu lodalirika la macheza kungathetse mavuto anu onse
• Pezani thandizo la akatswiri: Pamene mukudabwa momwe mungasiyire kuganiza za munthu movutikira ngakhale mutayesa chilichonse, pezani kutsekedwa pofunafuna thandizo la akatswiri kapena chithandizo chapaintaneti, pogwiritsa ntchito CBT ndi njira zina, ndikuwongolera Thanzi labwino

Tikukhulupirira kuti mwapeza yankho lakuti, “N’chifukwa chiyani sindingathe kusiya kumuganizira? Mukuwona, mukamaphonya munthu kapena simungathe kumuchotsa m'maganizo mwanu ndipo nthawi zonse mumasiyidwa ndikufunsa kuti, "Kodi mumasiya bwanji kuganiza za munthu?", Pakhoza kukhala zifukwa zambiri kumbuyo kwake. Sitikunena kuti mndandanda wa zifukwa zomwe zimachititsa kuganiza mopambanitsa kapena maupangiri amomwe mungasiyire kuganiza za munthu movutikira, zomwe zaperekedwa m'nkhaniyi, ndizokwanira koma tayesetsa kugwirizanitsa zifukwa zodziwika bwino zomwe zimayambitsa malingaliro otere.

Ngakhale kuli kofunika kunyalanyaza anthu oterowo pamene sali abwino kwa inu kapena osakukondani kwambiri, mukhoza kumveketsa pang'ono ngati mumakondana ndikukhala ndi nthawi yodzisamalira. Izi zimathandizira kutsitsa mulingo womusowa kukhala wathanzi lomwe silingasokoneze zochita zanu zatsiku ndi tsiku. Chifukwa chake, siyani kutengeka ndikuyamba kudzikhalira nokha!

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