Pamene kulowerera kwa amayi ake kunandikulira

"'Amani, mwana wachiwiri angathetsere mavuto anu onse a m'banja. Osataya nthawi yanu usiku. Pitilizani kuyesa ndipo ngati Swaroop satenga pakati, muyenera kuonana ndi gynecologist kuti akuthandizeni.' Ili linali vuto lomaliza m'moyo wathu waukwati ndidachoka patebulo tsiku lomwelo ndipo ndidauza mkazi wanga Swaroop kuti sindidzabweranso ndi amayi ake patebulo.

Zinali bwino pachiyambi

"Apongozi anga anali ndi udindo waukulu m'banja lathu; m'malo mwake anali ndi chikoka chachikulu kwa mkazi wanga." Poyamba titatha ukwati pamene mkazi wanga anafunsira kwa amayi ake kuti amupatse maphikidwe ndi mankhwala a kunyumba, zonse zinali zolephereka ndipo ndinachita bwino. Amayi anandipempha kuti ndichite motere, Amayi akufuna kuti tipite kumeneko.' Ndinayamba kumva apongozi anga ali m’chipinda chathu chochezera.”

"Tili m'ndende ya Swaroop, amayi ake adabwera kudzakhala nafe, kulowa mchipinda chathu chogona ndipo kuyambira pamenepo adakhala mkazi wina m'banja mwathu. Kuyambira kuyang'anira mwana wamkazi ndi mdzukulu, amayi ake adakhala gawo la zokambirana zathu zonse. Ndinkakhumudwa kwambiri ndi kulowerera kosandiitana. Nthawi zonse ndikamadzutsa mutu ndi Swaroop, amangotembenuka ndikunena kuti ngakhale amayi anga akusokoneza moyo wanga ku US. nafe, ngakhale akapita ku India. ”

Kuwerenga kofananira: Chifukwa chimene ndinakhalira wosangalala kwambiri nditasiya kusangalatsa apongozi anga

Sitinali tokha

"Mayi ake anayamba kubwera nafe pokacheza ndi kukadya chakudya chamakanema athu onse. Pazifukwa zothandiza anthu poyamba ndinali bwino nazo; ndiye inafika pamene Swaroop ankafuna kuti amayi ake azikhala nawo nthawi zonse. Amayi ake nawonso ankaonetsetsa kuti akupezeka nthawi zonse. Ankayang'anira khitchini yathu, zakudya ndi zakudya. Ankabwera kudzandifunsa mwachindunji ndalama zogulira mwezi uliwonse ndipo ankasunga ma maid awiri. kumanzere, ndipo pamapeto pake zidaganiziridwa kuti ndi amayi ake okha omwe amapereka malangizo kwa Swaroop adasandulika kukhala mkazi waulesi ndi amayi, amayi ake akuyang'anira nyumba.

Swaroop adasandulika kukhala mkazi waulesi ndi mayi, amayi ake akuyang'anira nyumba.

“M’nyumba mwathu munalibe anthu ogwirizana ndipo ndinalibe malo angaangu kunyumba. Pa tsiku lokumbukira ukwati wathu pamene ndinasungitsa chakudya chamadzulo cha kandulo m’bwato, ndinaona kuti amayi ake nawonso anavala kuti abwere naye.

"Mwana wathu wamkazi ali ndi miyezi isanu ndi umodzi, ndimaganiza kuti apongozi anga abwerera kumudzi. Koma sanakhalebe. Kuyambira pamenepo ndinazindikira kuti amayi ake asokoneza zokambirana zathu zonse zachinsinsi. Nthawi zonse ndikamalankhula ndi Swaroop m'chipinda chochezera kapena m'chipinda chodyera, amayi ake nawonso anali ndi malingaliro ndikuyamba kukambirana nawo. Ndinakambirana nkhaniyi ndi Swaroop nthawi zambiri, koma ndinkalephera kulankhulana naye kunyumba. Kulankhulana kwa WhatsApp kuchokera kuntchito ndi Swaroop Koma pamapeto pake, yankho lake linabwera, 'Lingaliro la Amayi ndiloti, Amayi akuti zichita chonchi, ndiloleni ndifunse Amayi.'

Kuwerenga kofananira: Apongozi anga akuyesera kundiumba kukhala bahu wabwino

Iye anapita patali kwambiri

"Tsiku lina ndinamufunsa Swaroop, ngati amayi anga amalowerera kwambiri, angalole?" Adayankha kuti m'mabanja aku India ndi dalitso kukhala ndi malangizo ndi chithandizo cha makolo. Pomaliza ndidakhala chete pa Swaroop ndipo ndipamene amayi ake adabwera ndi upangiri wopita kwa gynecologist kuti atiyezetse ngati ali ndi chonde. ndikulankhula nane kuti ndikhale ndi mwana wachiwiri?

Osati nkhani ya mpongozi basi

Ku India ndizofala kumva zokhazikika saas-bahu saga ndipo zambiri zimachokera kumbali ya mpongozi ndi apongozi osokoneza. Pali zambiri zolembedwa za kutha kwa ubalewu komanso malangizo amomwe mungakonzere. Pano pali nkhani yochokera kwa mpongozi ndi mavuto ake ndi apongozi ndi kusokoneza kwake m'moyo wake waukwati. Zimakhala zolimba ngati mmodzi yekha wa okwatirana akumva kulemera kwa kusokoneza ndipo winayo akusangalala nazo. Nthawi zina mwamuna kapena mkazi amene akuvutikayo satha ngakhale kulankhula ndi mwamuna kapena mkazi wake wosazindikira.

Makolo akamathandiza okwatiranawo poyamba sangalekerere, koma kusokoneza kotheratu sikuli. Makolo a mbali zonse ziwiri ayenera kukhala mbali ya ukwati wa anawo mmene amafunira. Banja latsopanoli nthawi zonse liyenera kukhala ndi malo awoawo owonjezera moyo wawo waukwati monga momwe amafunira. Palibe kholo lomwe liyenera kuchedwetsa motalikirapo, kaya mbali zonse.

Kukhudzidwa ndi nkhawa, pomwe kusokoneza ndikuwongolera.

Kukhudzidwa ndi nkhawa, pomwe kusokoneza ndikuwongolera. Kutengapo mbali kwa apongozi m’moyo wa okwatirana kumaitanidwa, koma pamene iwowoloka mizere ndi kuloŵa m’kudodometsa, ndiye kuti malire ayenera kusungidwa. Kumbukirani kuti mkangano uwu umachokera mu chikondi. Koma ngati mukuchitiridwa nkhanza ndi kunyozedwa, tsatirani malangizowo.

Momwe mungapangire malire

1. Tengani mkhalidwewo mwachidwi kuchokera kumalo omveka bwino osati otengeka maganizo.
2. Chisankho chaukwati chiyenera kutengedwa ndi maanja, landirani malingaliro a akulu okha.
3. Akomereni mokwanira okalamba mwa kuwapatsa ulemu woyenerera, kotero kuti asaone kufunika kodutsa malire kuti asunge ulemu.
4. Mgwirizano uyenera kukhala wolimba mokwanira kuti upirire chipwirikiti cha apongozi.
5. Kambiranani ndi mwamuna kapena mkazi pamene kholo likusokoneza, koma tsatirani khalidwe la munthuyo.
6. Osadzitengera kukhala munthu payekha ndikuwunika mawonekedwe.
7. Ikani mkhalidwewo mosamalitsa pamaso pa apongozi anu popanda kuwaikira kumbuyo ndi kuwaimba mlandu.
8. Osayamba ndewu ndi apongozi. Ingoyimirirani.
9. Yankhani chochitika chilichonse. Osakwiyitsa ndi kukwiya.
10. Khalani otsimikiza ndipo musanamize ubale womwe kulibe.
11. Kudzudzulidwako kutengereni mozama koma osati mwa inu nokha.
12. Ngati zosokonezazo zikukhala poyizoni ndiye muyenera kukulunga kwakanthawi mphasa yanu yolandirira ndikuchokapo.

Kusokoneza kungabwere kuchokera ku mbali zonse za makolo, koma mosasamala kanthu kuti ndi mbali iti yomwe ikuwoloka malire, ndi kuukira kupatulika kwa ukwati ndikuphwanya lamulo la 'kuchoka ndi kukakamira' la ukwati. Makolo ayenera kulemekezedwa popanda kusokoneza mgwirizano wa ukwati.

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