Moyo Wanga Wogonana Wongopeka

(Maina asinthidwa kuti ateteze zinsinsi)

Ndinali ndi ubwana wabwino. Ndinapita ku koleji imodzi yabwino kwambiri ku India, koleji yogwirizana ku Delhi. Ndinapeza mabwenzi. Koma anyamata onse panthawiyo anali mabwenzi apamtima. Mumtima mwanga ndinkafuna chibwenzi, koma moyo unali wodzaza ndi anzanga. Koma inde, mnyamata aliyense amene ndinakumana naye kunja kwa koleji analinso mnzanga.

Nditakwera ndege yopita ku USA kukapanga MBA yanga pazachuma, ndimakumbukirabe momwe ndimaganizira kuti ndikakhala pachibwenzi ndikabwerera. MBA inali ntchito zonse komanso kugwira ntchito molimbika komanso kupezeka pamisonkhano. Kenako ndinagwira ntchito kubanki kwa zaka ziwiri. Ndinali ndi zaka 25. Ndinaganiza zobwerera ku India. Ndinali ndi mwayi wopeza ndalama zambiri kubanki yapamwamba.

Ndipo kwa nthawi yoyamba, kukhala wosakwatiwa kunayamba kundivutitsa pang'ono.

Nkhani yake ndiyakuti gulu lathu limatiuza kuti tizipewa anyamata. Kapena, momwe munganene kuti ayi kwa mwamuna. Koma palibe amene anatiphunzitsapo momwe tingachitire ndi kukhala wosakwatiwa kapena kuyandikira mnyamata yemwe mumakonda, kapena momwe mungakhalire limodzi ndi mnyamata muubwenzi wathanzi. Ndinkadziwa kuthawa anthu olakwika, koma sindinkadziwa kuti nditha bwanji kucheza ndi anthu abwino.

Ntchito yanga inali chinthu chokha chomwe sichinandilepheretse. Ndinkayenda padziko lonse lapansi. Kukwezedwa kumabwera pafupifupi chaka chilichonse. Ndipo pofika zaka 29, ndinali VP womaliza pa banki yathu ku South East Asia. Palibe chomwe chinandiletsa.

Mchimwene wanga anakwatira wokondedwa wake waubwana. Makolo anga anayamba kundidera nkhawa. Bambo anga, omwe amakondwerera zabwino zonse m'miyoyo yathu, sangakhale okondwa kwambiri ndi kupambana kulikonse. Iye si wokondera; ankafuna kuti ndipeze bwenzi.

Nditakwanitsa zaka 30, malingaliro okwatiwa adayamba kuuma ndipo amuna ochepa adafanana ndi malo anga ndi udindo wanga. Ndinali wokakamizidwa kuti ndilankhule za chibwenzi kapena kutha. Chifukwa chake, ndidapanga bwenzi lakale ku USA, mnzanga wa MBA. Ndiyeno ndinati Karan, mnzanga waku koleji, anali chibwenzi changa ndipo tinasiyana pamene ndimapita ku USA. Iye ndi bwenzi labwino chotero; akanandipha ngati akanadziwa.

Koma m’kupita kwa nthaŵi, kusimidwa kunayamba kukula. Ndinagula nyumba yangayanga, ndinali ndi galimoto yabwino, koma ndinali wosakwatiwa kwamuyaya. Amayi ambiri amafuna kukhala osakwatiwa, paokha. Nthawi zonse ndinkafuna wokwatirana naye.

Ndipo ndinayambanso kukhala ndi zofuna za kugonana. Namwali, sindinayambe ndapsyopsyonapo. Ndinayambanso kulakalaka anzanga komanso anzanga. Kugonana kunkawoneka kukhala m’maganizo mwanga nthaŵi zambiri, nthaŵi zina ngakhale pamene ndinali kukamba nkhani kwa atsogoleri aakulu azachuma padziko lonse.

Chifukwa chake, ndidalowa mumasamba onse ochezera omwe mungalowemo popanda ID ya imelo. Kumene anthu sanalembe chiganizo choyenera mu Chingerezi. Ndinapanga ID yabodza ya Gmail ndikutenga SIM khadi yatsopano. Ndipo ndinayamba kugonana kwambiri pafoni. Nthawi zonse ndimayang'ana amuna okwatira, chifukwa zonse zomwe ankafuna zinali zosangalatsa kunja kwa ukwati wawo, kapena ndinasankha anyamata aang'ono kwambiri. Sindinawatumizirepo zithunzi kapena chidziwitso changa. Ndinakhala mayi wa mwana wazaka 7, wokhala ku Mumbai, wokwatiwa ndi wabizinesi. Ndinkachita zonyozeka komanso zamanyazi. Ndinawauza kuti mwamuna wanga ali ndi mphamvu, choncho sindidzakhalapo nthawi zonse. Zinandichotsera chilakolako changa chogonana. Ndinali wodekha ndipo ndinkangoika maganizo anga pa ntchito yanga. Ndinasiyanso kumangoganizira za anzanga komanso anzanga. Zambiri mwazinthuzi sizinapitirire miyezi ingapo. Ndina blocka nambala yawo pambuyo pake.

Kenako tsiku lina ndinakumana ndi Ashok. Sindinamvepo motero. Tinalumikizana kuchokera ku msonkhano woyamba. Tinkadziwana wina ndi mzake mpaka kalekale. Patapita miyezi itatu ndinali pachibwenzi. Makolo anga anatsala pang'ono kulira ndi chisangalalo. Ashok anali omaliza maphunziro a management koma adatenga bizinesi ya abambo ake. Bambo anga anamasuka kuti ndinapeza wofanana naye ndipo sindinalole kugonja pa chilichonse.

Ndinakwatiwa mu February 2016. Ndinakwatira munthu amene ndinayamba kukondana naye monga momwe ndimafunira nthaŵi zonse. Nditakumana ndi Ashok, ndidathyola SIM ija. Ndachotsa ID yanga yabodza. Sindinabwerere ku dziko limenelo. Koma nthawi zambiri ndimadabwa, bwanji ndikakumana ndi mmodzi wa iwo tsiku lina? Kodi ndikanatani? Ndinkawadziwa kwenikweni. Sanadziwe zanga.

(Momwe adauza Paromita Bardoloi)

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