(Monga adauza Joie Bose)
Pamene mkazi nthawi zonse amadzimva kuti 'mwamuna wanga amanyansidwa ndi kupambana kwanga', zochitika za maubwenzi okondwa kwambiri, otetezedwa kwambiri amatha kusintha mofulumira. Ngakhale kuti nsanje ndi mmene anthu ambiri amamvera, n’zodziwikiratu kuti zimasokoneza maganizo ndiponso ubwenzi wa munthu.
Tonsefe timakumana nazo nthawi ina m'moyo wathu, mwina zambiri zomwe timakonda kuvomereza. Bwenzi lanu lapamtima likapambana kuposa inu ... m'bale wanu akabwera kunyumba ndi chikho chowala ... msuweni wanu akapeza chiyanjano chomwe chimafunidwa kudziko lina. Bola ngati ululu uwu wa nsanje ndi wa kanthawi kochepa ndipo mutha kuyenda mozungulira kuti musangalale ndi wokondedwa wanu kapena kusintha nsanje kukhala chilimbikitso , zonse zili bwino.
Ngati sichoncho, nsanje ingayambitse mkwiyo pachibwenzi. Ndipo mkwiyo wokwiyitsa wotere ukhoza kupangitsa kuti ubale ukhale wopanda kanthu ...
Mwamuna Wanga Akudana ndi Kupambana Kwanga
M'ndandanda wazopezekamo
Mwamuna wophunzira nthawi zonse amafuna kuti mkazi wake nayenso aphunzire akadzakwatirana ndipo nthawi zonse tinkasamala ndi amuna otere. Tinkadziwa kuti amuna otere nthawi zonse amakhala ndi atsikana akuda, chifukwa sasamala za kukongola. Potengera khungu langa, nthawi zonse ndimadziwa kuti banja silingathetse moyo wanga wamaphunziro ndipo izi ndi zomwe zidandichitikira.
Ngakhale ndimapemphera komanso chithandizo changa chokongola! Pamene azisuweni anga ankatitumizira zithunzi za chipale chofewa kuchokera ku Canada, ndinali ku Chandigarh ndikuphunzira digiri yanga ya bachelor mu kayendetsedwe ka bizinesi patali, chifukwa mwamuna wanga anali Pulofesa wa Accountancy ndipo sankafuna kukhala ndi mkazi wosaphunzira.
Kuwerenga kofanana: Zinthu 7 zomwe mungagwirizane nazo ngati ndinu banja logwira ntchito
Iye ankafuna kuti ndipitirize kuphunzira ndi kupeza ntchito
Popeza ndinamaliza maphunziro a kalasi yoyamba, anandilimbikitsa kuchita digiri ya Masters pamene ndinkangofuna ana. Sindinachedwe ulendo uno, chifukwa digiri ya masters imatanthauza kuti ndituluke panyumba. Pulofesayo anayenera kunditengera ku yunivesite yake ndipo zimenezo zinali zosangalatsa, popeza ndinali mtsikana wa kumudzi, ndipo mzindawu unandichititsa chidwi.
Pambuyo poti zotsatira za Masters zanga zatuluka, mwamuna wanga anandilimbikitsa kuti ndiyambe ntchito. Zimenezo zinali zovuta kwambiri! Akazi sankagwira ntchito m'banja mwathu ngati mwamunayo akanatha kusamalira mkazi wake . Bambo anga anakwiya kwambiri.
Koma kupanga mkazi wodzitukumula wamakono mwa ine kunakhala mawu a mwamuna wanga.
Anandiumiriza kugwira ntchito, ngakhale pamene sindinkafuna. Anamenyananso ndi banja lake, chifukwa nawonso sanali kuthandiza mkazi wogwira ntchito. Ndipotu mwamuna wanga mpaka anandigulira jasi, malaya ndi mathalauza kuti ndivale kuofesi. Ndinayamba kukhala mkazi wachitsanzo amene ankafuna kuonetsa. Ndinayamba kukhala mkazi wachitsanzo amene ankafuna kuonetsa.
Kuwerenga Kofanana: Kugawana Ndalama Mu Ubwenzi - Zinthu 9 Zoyenera Kuganizira
Kenako, panabwera zizindikiro zomwe amachitira nsanje kupambana kwanga
Patatha zaka zingapo, mimba yoopsa, kenako mimba inapita, inandipangitsa kukhala ndi nkhawa ndipo ndinayamba kugwira ntchito . Dokotala atanena kuti mazira anga ayenera kuchotsedwa ndipo sindingathe kulawa kukhala mayi, aliyense anayamba kunena kuti ndine munthu woipa. Mwadzidzidzi ndinakhala mkazi wotembereredwa.
Mulungu ndi wachilendo, chifukwa pafupifupi nthawi yomweyo ndinapatsidwa ntchito ku kampani ku Delhi yomwe inkandipatsa ndalama zokwana zomwe mwamuna wanga analandira, kenako zizindikiro zoti akundichitira nsanje ndi kupambana kwanga zinayamba kuonekera. Kwa nthawi yoyamba m'moyo wake, ndinaona mwamuna wanga sakukonda nkhani zamtunduwu. Anati uyenera kukhala ku Chandigarh kokha.
Mwina mwamuna wanga anazindikira kuti ndinali ndi mwayi wopeza ndalama zambiri kuposa iyeyo ndipo ndinaona kuti mwamuna wanga amadana ndi kupambana kwanga.
Pamene ndinasamukira ku ntchito yabwino ...
Maganizo ake anasintha. Anayamba kumva chisoni chifukwa cha kundiphunzitsa ndipo anayamba kuona maphunziro ndi moyo wamakono umene anandiumiriza kukhala temberero, chifukwa zikuoneka kuti unamuchotsera utate wake. Anayamba kutaya malingaliro ake onse. Kukhala naye kwakhala kovuta ndipo ndinayamba ntchito ku Delhi mkati mwa chaka chimodzi.
Papita zaka pafupifupi 20 chikhalireni ku Delhi. Ndine wachiwiri kwa purezidenti wa kampani yamayiko osiyanasiyana. Anasiya kundilankhula tsiku limene ndinayamba kupeza ndalama zambiri kuposa iyeyo ndipo anachoka pokhala munthu wondithandizira kwambiri n’kukhala mwamuna wina wochitira nsanje mkazi wake.
Izi zisanachitike, tinkamenyana, koma nthawi zonse timapeza njira yothetsera mavuto athu.
Mwanjira ina ndalama zomwe ndimapeza kuposa iye zinali zomwe sakanatha kuzilandira. Ndimapita ku Chandigarh kamodzi pachaka ngakhale lerolino kukachezeranso nyumba yomwe inasintha moyo wanga. Koma sitilankhulana. Ndinayesa kulankhula naye poyamba, koma anandipempha kuti ndisiye ntchito yanga ndipo tsopano sindingathe kuchita zimenezo.
Tsopano, ntchito yanga ndi yofunika kwambiri kwa ine
Pali mphekesera zoti masiku ano amakonda akazi ndipo nthawi zambiri amamuwona ali ndi akazi anzake. Anthu amalankhula za momwe ali ndi ophunzira ambiri achikazi omwe akubwera kudzalandira ndalama za sukulu. Antchito amamuopa pang'ono, ndipo nthawi iliyonse ndikapita ku Chandigarh, ndimaona wantchito wina wapakhomo. Anthu omwe ali pafupi nane amandifunsa ngati khalidwe lakeli limandipweteka.
Ndimakana chifukwa chomwe chimandipweteka kwambiri ndichakuti mnzanga akuchita nsanje ndi kupambana kwanga, ntchito yanga komanso ntchito yanga. Zomwe ndimaika patsogolo zasintha. Koma sindikufuna kusudzulana . Anthu m'mabanja mwathu sasudzulana. Mulungu amadziwa kuzunzika komwe ndidzawabweretsera ngati nditachita zimenezo!
Kuwerenga Kofanana: Makhalidwe 12 a Ukwati Wopambana
Mamuna Kuchita Nsanje Ndi Ntchito Ya Mkazi Wake Sichachilendo
Amuna kukhala ndi nsanje ndi ntchito ya akazi awo ndi kupambana kwawo si zachilendo ndipo si chinthu chachilendo ku India kokha, ngakhale kuti chingakhale chodziwika kwambiri m'dziko lathu lino. Kafukufuku wasonyeza kuti kupambana kwa wokondedwa wawo kumabweretsa malingaliro oipa mwa amuna, ngakhale atakhala kuti ali pamlingo wosazindikira.
Zilibe kanthu kaya ali mumzere womwewo wa ntchito kapena ayi. Ndipotu, sikuyenera kukhala katswiri wopambana.
Ngati mwamuna akuona kuti mnzakeyo sangamulepheretse kuchita bwino m’mbali iliyonse ya moyo, ndiye kuti akhoza kuchita mantha. Chifukwa chake, simungasinthe malingaliro akuti 'mwamuna wanga amadana ndi kupambana kwanga', pangakhale chifukwa chabwino. Nazi zina zomwe zimapangitsa kuti mwamuna azichitira nsanje mkazi wake kuti achite bwino:
1. Mkhalidwe wa makolo
Kukhazikika kwathu kumachita gawo lofunika kwambiri pa momwe timaonera dziko lapansi. Mu chikhalidwe cha amuna, nthawi zambiri amuna amaleredwa kuti akhale opezera banja chakudya. Chifukwa chake, pamene mnzawo akuchita bwino kwambiri pantchito, kudzimva kuti sangakwanitse kumayamba kumera mizu. Nthawi zina, izi zitha kukhala zokwanira kumusandutsa chilombo chansanje.
2. Kuopa kugwa
Nsanje, mkwiyo, ndi kukwiya ndi kusamvana komwe kumachitika nthawi zambiri zimakhala zizindikiro za mantha olephera. Mwamuna sangathe kuthandiza mkazi wake kuti apambane chifukwa amaona kuti ndi chikumbutso chokhazikika chakuti akulephera, zomwe zimapangitsa kuti aziopa kuti sangakhale wabwino kwa inu. Angayambe kukudzudzulani kwambiri kapena kusonyeza zizindikiro zoti sakulemekezani.
3. Kudziona ngati wosafunika
Ntchito iliyonse yatsopano kapena kukwezedwa pantchito kumabwera ndi maudindo owonjezera, zomwe zikutanthauza kuti mphamvu zanu zambiri ndi nthawi yanu tsopano zitha kukhala zokhazikika pa ntchito yanu. Ngakhale palibe cholakwika ndi zimenezo - mwamuna amene ali mumkhalidwe wanu angachite chimodzimodzi - mnzanu amene kale wakwiya angaone ngati kusintha kwa zomwe mukuyang'ana kwambiri.
Izi zingapangitse kuti ayambe kuchitira nsanje zinthu zomwe mukuchita pa ntchito yanu. Ngati ntchito yanu imakubweretserani chimwemwe, musalole kuti maganizo akuti 'mwamuna wanga amadana ndi kupambana kwanga' asakulepheretseni.
Nthawi yomweyo, pokhapokha ngati ubale wanu wawonongeka, yesani kulankhula ndi mnzanuyo ndikupeza nthawi yokonza ukwati wanu. Kulowererapo kwakunja monga uphungu wa maanja kungathandize kwambiri vutoli. Ngati mukufuna thandizo la akatswiri kuti muthane ndi nsanje muubwenzi wanu, dziwani kuti thandizo ndi losavuta.
Chopereka chanu sichikutanthauza chopereka chachifundo . Chidzalola Bonobology kupitiliza kukubweretserani chidziwitso chatsopano komanso chaposachedwa poyesetsa kuthandiza aliyense padziko lonse lapansi kuphunzira momwe angachitire chilichonse.
Kodi munayesapo kulankhula ndi mwamuna wanu kuti mudziwe maganizo ake pa ubale wautali. Ndinasiya ntchito zabwino kawiri kawiri monga momwe zinalili m'mizinda yosiyanasiyana ya India. Mkazi wanga adakwezedwa pantchito chifukwa amayenera kukagwira ntchito ku ofesi yakunja. Koma iye. Sindinaganizepo kawiri kuti ndisiye mwayi umenewo. Kwa ine timakonda kukhala limodzi osati kukhala pachibwenzi chakutali