"Ndimasokonezeka, sindikudziwa komwe ndili / Kenako umamwetulira, ndikundigwira dzanja / Chikondi chimandinyansa ndi mnyamata woopsa ngati iwe" - Dusty Springfield, Spooky.
Pamene inu simukudziwa kumene inu kuima mu ubale wanu ndi kulandira zizindikiro osakaniza kwa munthu amene mumamukonda, chikondi akhoza ndithudi kuwoneka wamisala ndipo ngakhale pang'ono zosasangalatsa. Tsiku lina mumangokhalira kukangana ndipo simungakhutire ndi munthu wina. Kenako mumangokhalira kutumizirana mameseji, osanenapo kuti mumasamalidwa. Izi zikungosiyani inu mukudabwa kuti mnyamata/msungwana wanu wopusa akuchita chiyani. Kulimba mtima kufunsa mafunso okhudzana ndi ubale kumawoneka ngati zosatheka pomwe simukudziwa choti mufunse.
Koma tsoka, mukudziwa njira yokhayo yotulutsira vuto ili ndikukhala pansi ndikukambirana. Pofuna kuwonetsetsa kuti musamangolankhula zachabechabe zomwe zimasokoneza mnzanu, talembapo mafunso 35 okhudzana ndi ubale omwe mungafunse mukafuna kudziwa komwe mwaima ndikutsimikizira komwe ubale wanu ukupita.
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Mauthenga oti "tiyenera kuyankhulana" amangotumiza munthu yemwe waulandira kukhala wamantha ndikupita kuulendo woyamba wopita ku Venezuela. Pamene inu musayandikire kufunsa mafunso kwambiri ubwenzi njira yoyenera, kukambirana mwina kutha isanayambe n'komwe.
Mukufunanso kuwonetsetsa kuti funso lanu likuyenera kuyankha moyenera. Mukalephera kufunsa zinthu zoyenera, mungolandira yankho lomwe silingakupindulitseni. Chibwibwi ndi kung'ung'udza kwinaku mukufunsa ngati, "Ndiye…
Mafunso okhudza ubale omwe ali pansipa athandiza kuonetsetsa kuti zimenezo sizichitika. Mafunso ngati awa angayambitse kukambirana kolimbikitsa pankhani yokhudza kufotokozera ubale. Ngati aliyense ali ndi maganizo ofanana pa zinthu, mudzayandikira kwambiri ubale wabwino . Tiyeni tikambirane momveka bwino, koma limodzi ndi limodzi.
Mafunso Akuluakulu A Ubwenzi Kuti Mumufunse
Tiyeni tiyankhe mafunso amenewa pang’ono kenako tiyang’ane limodzi ndi limodzi. Mafunsowo angatanthauze zambiri kutengera yemwe mwawafunsa komanso chifukwa chake ndi chiyani. Mwachitsanzo, taganizirani funso ngati lakuti “Kodi mumandilemekeza?” Nthawi zambiri zimawonedwa kuti amuna amaphunzitsidwa kuti aziyang'ana mnzawo wamkazi m'njira yowakomera poyesa kukhala msilikali wawo wovala zida zonyezimira.
Zikatero, zikuwoneka kuti ndizofunikira kwambiri kumva kuchokera kwa bwenzi lachimuna momwe amasiyanitsira chikondi ndi ulemu. Funsoli likuwoneka kuti ndi lofunikira komanso lofunikira kwambiri akafunsidwa ndi mtsikana kwa wokondedwa wake. (Izi sizikutanthauza kuti zosiyana sizowona.) Mosasamala kanthu, tiyeni tiyang'ane kaye mafunso angapo kuti tifunse bwenzi lanu lachinyamata kuti tiwone ngati alidi zenizeni za inu.
1. "Kodi mukufuna kukhala paubwenzi wodzipereka ndi ine?"
Mudzaona kuti mafunso awa ndi olunjika kwambiri, olunjika pa mfundo. Kufunsa mafunso omveka bwino komanso achidule kudzakupatsani mayankho othandiza. Funsani mnzanu ngati akufunadi kukhala ndi tsogolo nanu, komanso ngati uwu ndi ubale weniweni kapena wamba kwa iwo. Palibe choipa kuposa kuwononga nthawi ndi mphamvu muubwenzi koma mudzazindikira kuti simunali ndi tanthauzo lalikulu kwa munthuyu.
Chotsani izi posachedwa, kuti mudziwe ngati kukweza chithunzi ndi "bae" wanu pa Instagram ndikoyenera kapena ayi. Ili ndi limodzi mwamafunso ofunikira kwambiri a ubale wautali. Mwinamwake inu awiri mwakhala mukulemberana mameseji kwa miyezi ingapo pamene mukufalikira m'mizinda yosiyanasiyana. Itha kukhala lingaliro labwino kufunsa ngati zolemba izi zitha kukhala zenizeni.
2. "Kodi ndife okha?"
Mafunso okhudza ubale wautali ngati awa angathandize kuti zinthu zikhale zosavuta. Musaganize kuti kukhala ndi chibwenzi chapadera chifukwa chakuti mwakhala mukulankhulana kwa miyezi ingapo. Zimene mwamuna amatanthauza pa chibwenzi chapadera kwa iye zingakhale zosiyana ndi zomwe mukuyembekezera. Ngati mukufuna kukhala ndi chibwenzi chapadera, kapena ngati simukufuna kukhala ndi chibwenzi chapadera, kambiranani nazo mwamsanga.
Simukufuna kuti wina azimva kuti akunamizidwa kapena kulakwiridwa muubwenzi. Ngati muli pachibwenzi chotalikirana, funsani mnzanuyo ngati mungawakhulupirirenso.
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3. “Kodi mumakonda umunthu wanga?”
Mukudziwa kuti chibwenzi sichikhalitsa ngati wokondedwa wanu amakopeka ndi inu pogonana. Izi zimapangitsa kuti pakhale funso labwino kwambiri laubwenzi lofunsa mnyamata popeza anyamata nthawi zina amatha kusokoneza malingaliro ogonana chifukwa cha chikondi. Akhoza kunena kuti inde nthawi yomweyo, koma funsani mnzanuyo kuti aganizire.
Kodi amakukondani chifukwa cha mmene mulili? Kapena chifukwa choti nthawi zonse mumavala zovala zamakono? Mutha kuyesa kuona zizindikiro zomwe sizikukusangalatsani koma kufunsa mnzanuyo momasuka kungokupulumutsirani nthawi komanso mwina kusweka mtima. Choncho onjezerani izi pamndandanda wa mafunso ofunika okhudza chibwenzi omwe mungafunse chibwenzi chanu.
4. “Kodi mumandikhulupirira?”
Mukufuna mafunso ozama paubwenzi kuti mumufunse kuti muwone ngati ali momwemo monga momwe mulili? Ndiye awa akhoza kukhala malo abwino kuyamba. Nthawi zonse ndi bwino kufunsa izi chifukwa zikuthandizani kudziwa ngati mnzanuyo ali ndi vuto lokhulupirira kapena ayi. Ngati anganene moona mtima kuti amakukhulupirirani, mwina mudzakhala ndi chinachake choti muchepetse kukayikira kulikonse kapena zolepheretsa zomwe zikuzungulira mutu wanu.
Kudzera mu funso ili, mudzatha kudziwa ngati pali nkhani zodalirika zomwe zikufunika kuthetsedwa. Muzawagwiranso asanabweretse vuto. Pazinthu zambiri zomwe zimapangitsa kuti ubale ukhale wopambana, kukhulupirirana ndi chimodzi mwazinthu zofunika kwambiri.
5. "Kodi muli ndi vuto la nsanje / kusatetezeka?"
Mutha kuganiza kuti ubale wanu ukuyenda bwino kutengera mayankho omwe mwalandira ku mafunso omwe ali pamndandandawu. Koma ngati ali ndi nkhani zansanje kwambiri, muyenera kudziwa kuti kukhulupirirana kumakhala vuto nthawi zonse. Kufunsa mafunso ozama paubwenzi ngati awa kumakuuzani zonse zomwe muyenera kudziwa pazomwe muyenera kukonza.
6. “Kodi mumalankhula bwanji mkwiyo wanu?”
Kumvetsetsa momwe amamenyera nkhondo ndikofunikira kwambiri. Ngati aganiza zotuluka m'chipinda chogona zinthu zitavuta, muyenera kudziwa ngati ndi yankho lawo kapena ngati china chake chazimitsidwa. Osati kukwiya kokha, koma kulingalira momwe amalankhulirana chikondi ndi chisangalalo kudzakuthandizaninso m’kupita kwa nthaŵi.
7. “Kodi ukuganiza kuti ndine mnzako wapamtima?”
Tikukulangizani kuti mufunse mafunso okhudza chibwenzi pokhapokha ngati nonse awiri mwakhala pachibwenzi kapena mwadziwana kwa nthawi yayitali. Ngati mukuganiza kuti mwina mwapeza mnzanu wapamtima mwa mnzanu, bwanji osawafunsa ngati nawonso akuganiza chimodzimodzi za inu? Ili ndi limodzi mwa mafunso ofunika okhudza chibwenzi omwe mungafunse chibwenzi chanu mukatsimikiza kuti mukufuna kukhala naye moyo wanu wonse.
8. Kodi muli ndi malingaliro aliwonse osakwaniritsidwa?
Mutha kuganiza kuti ili silikuwoneka ngati funso loti mufunse bwenzi lanu kuti muwone ngati alidi za inu. Zimawoneka ngati funso losangalatsa la ubale. Koma mnyamata sangagawane zongopeka zake zosakwaniritsidwa kapena malingaliro ena aumwini ngati sanali wokhazikika paubwenzi ndikukukhulupirirani.
Kudziwa zilakolako mnzanuyo ndi zongopeka ndi kudziwa awo kwambiri mkati ndi zobisika kudzikonda. Tikukhulupirira kuti funsoli likukufikitsani nonse pa dzenje la akalulu lomwe mukukhumba mutakhalamo mpaka kalekale. Tithokoze pambuyo pake.
Mafunso Azaubwenzi Omufunsa
Mafunso omwewo omwe aperekedwa kwa iye adzagwiranso ntchito kwa iye. Koma amatha kupeza mayankho osiyanasiyana, kukhudza minyewa yosiyanasiyana, ndikukhudzidwa ndi malingaliro osiyanasiyana omwe abambo ndi amai amakhala nawo chifukwa cholumikizana ndi anthu potengera jenda lawo. Osachita manyazi kufunsana mafunso enieni apaubwenzi awa, mosasamala kanthu kuti angomupangira iye yekha. Ngakhale zili choncho, nazi zina mwapadera zomwe zingatanthauze zambiri mukamawafotokozera bwenzi lanu:
9. “Kodi umandikhulupirira/Kodi umandilemekeza?”
Ili ndi limodzi mwa mafunso ofunika kwambiri paubwenzi omwe okwatirana sayenera kuphonya. Mwachidule, palibe ubale wopanda ulemu. Mukafunsa funso lofunika kwambiri paubwenzi, mudzadziwa bwino zomwe mnzanuyo amakuganizirani. Onetsetsani kuti mumalimbikitsa kuona mtima chifukwa kudzakuthandizani nonse awiri. Ngati simukulemekezedwa muubwenzi wanu, nthawi zonse mudzasokonezedwa. Zisankho zanu ndi zomwe mumapereka sizidzayamikiridwa. Zimenezi zimapangitsa kuti ubale ukhale wowononga kwambiri, komanso nthawi zina woopsa.
10. “Kodi mukuganiza kuti china chake paubwenzi umenewu chiyenera kusintha?”
Ili ndi funso lalikulu laubwenzi lomwe mungamufunse ngati mwawona kuti wakhala wosasangalala ndi chibwenzi posachedwa. Mwayi ukhoza kukhala kuti adaziwona kale zomwe zalakwika muubwenzi koma akudikirira mpata wowalera. Chifukwa chake mukamuitana momasuka, zokambiranazi ndizokhazo zomwe muyenera kudziwa pomwe mumayima muubwenzi wanu komanso zomwe zikulakwika.
11. “Kodi mukuganiza bwanji za makolo anga ndi anzanga?”
"O, ndimadana nawo kwambiri, ndimangodabwa pamene mundifunsa!" Eya, ndiye vuto! Enanso omwe ali ndi vuto ndi anzanu komanso abale anu samamasulira kuti ali ndi vuto ndi inu koma ndivuto lalikulu lomwe muyenera kuthana nalo.
Onani momwe amachitira zinthu ndi anzanu komanso ngati angayesetse “kuwalekerera” ngati akukuuzani kuti sakonda anzanu. Kudziwa malangizo ena oti mudziwitse makolo anu za SO yanu kungakuthandizeni koma simungadalire iwo okha kuti atsimikizire kuti akugwirizana bwino.
12. “Kodi ndine bwenzi lako lapamtima?”
Mukufuna kuti munthu amene muli naye pachibwenzi azikuuzani zonse zomwe zili m'maganizo mwake, sichoncho? Mukufuna kuti azisangalala nanu, ndipo amafuna kukhala nanu nthawi. Kukhala mabwenzi apamtima ndi ena ofunikira kumapangitsa zonsezi kukhala zotheka.
Siziyenera kumverera ngati pali cholepheretsa kulumikizana pakati pa inu nonse. Pokhapokha mukakhala abwenzi apamtima mungakambirane chilichonse, zomwe zimapangitsa kuti iyi ikhale imodzi mwamafunso ofunika kwambiri oti mumufunse (kapena iye).
13. Kodi chokhumudwitsa/chovuta kwambiri ndi chiyani chomwe mudakumana nacho?
Tisanakumane ndi okondedwa athu, akhala ndi moyo wovuta uwu womwe sitingakhale nawo. Kukambilana za moyo wa mnzako kungakufikitseni pafupi kuposa kale. Mungapezenso malingaliro atsopano a ulemu ndi chiyamikiro cha kulimbikira kwawo.
Tikamalankhula za zakale, timakonda kuganizira kwambiri za chikondi cha wina ndi mnzake. Koma funsani chibwenzi chanu funso ili lofunika kwambiri kuti likuthandizeni kuyenda m'malo mwake, ndikudziwa chomwe chimamupangitsa kukhala munthu amene ali. Umu ndi momwe mungakhalire omvetsetsana kwambiri muubwenzi wanu.
14. “Kodi pali chinachake muubwenzi wanu chimene mukufuna kuti chisasinthe?”
Ili ndi limodzi mwamafunso ofunikira paubwenzi omwe mungamufunse chifukwa adzakuwuzani zomwe bwenzi lanu amakonda kwambiri pachibwenzi. Yankho likhoza kukudabwitsani ngati anganene kuti "Ndimakonda mayendedwe omwe timayenda limodzi". Ndani ankadziwa kuti amakonda kuyenda nanu choncho?
Zidzakuthandizani kuzindikira zinthu zomwe muyenera kuzikonda muubwenzi wanu. Mukadziwa zambiri zomwe zimagwira ntchito muubwenzi wanu, ndipamene mungamupatse zambiri.
15. Kodi mumaona kuti mumakondedwa ndi kukusamaliridwa?
Funsani mtsikana wanu funso lenileni la ubale wanu kuti muwone ngati chikondi chanu ndi kuyamikira kwanu zikufika kwa iye. Nthawi zambiri timalankhula za chikondi chathu m'njira yomwe timamvetsetsa bwino. Ngati kukambiranako kukupangitsani kuyankha zomwe simunali kuyembekezera, zingathandize kuphunzira chilankhulo cha chikondi cha wina ndi mnzake.
Mwachitsanzo, mungakhale mukumuwonetsa chikondi chake mowona mtima pomubweretsera mphatso, pamene zonse zomwe akufuna kuchokera kwa inu ndizokhudza thupi, kapena nthawi yabwino, kapena mawu oyamikira. Funsoli lidzakuthandizani kuonetsetsa kuti khama lanu silili pachabe.
16. Kodi ndi ulendo uti umene mumaukonda kwambiri?
Pokambirana za kumvetsetsa zilankhulo zachikondi za wina ndi mzake, funsani chibwenzi chanu mafunso awa kuti mudziwe zomwe amakonda kwambiri. Funsoli silimangokuthandizani kupanga mapulani odabwitsa amtsogolo kwa iye, koma ulendo wopita pansi pamtima udzawonjezeranso chinthu chachikondi pazokambirana zanu ndikuthandizani nonse kuti mutsegule mafunso ovuta.
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Anthu okwatirana ayenera kukhala ogwirizana kuti athe kumanga ndi kulimbikitsa ubale wokhwima bwino. Mafunso enieni a ubale angakuthandizeni nonse kupeza kulumikizana wina ndi mnzake. Mafunso otsatirawa adzakuthandizani kumvetsetsa momwe kumvetsetsa kwanu kwa ubale wanu kulili komanso zomwe tsogolo lanu likuchitira.
17. “Kodi tsogolo la ubwenzi umenewu likuwoneka bwanji kwa inu?”
Kaya akufuna tsogolo kapena ayi ndizosiyana ndi momwe amaganizira kuti ubalewu udzatha. Kufunsa mafunso ozama paubwenzi monga awa kudzakuthandizani kudziwa zomwe mnzanuyo amaganiza za ubale wanu komanso momwe amauyamikira.
Chikondi, nthawi ndi khama zonse zidzakhala pachabe ngati otchedwa "theka lina" samakhulupirira mu ubale. Kotero ili ndi limodzi mwa mafunso aakulu ubale kumufunsa iye ndi kusankha ngati alidi anu "theka lina" kapena ayi.
18. “Kodi ubwenzi umenewu ukukusangalatsani?”
Funsoli lingapangitse mnzanuyo kuzindikira kuti sanaganizirepo za chisangalalo kwa nthawi yayitali. Kufufuza za chimwemwe cha wina ndi mnzake kaŵirikaŵiri kumanyalanyazidwa. Ngati azindikira kuti chibwenzicho sichikuwapangitsa kukhala osangalala, ndiye kuti mukudziwa kuti pali zina zomwe nonse muyenera kuyesetsa.
Funsani mnzanuyo kuti amasangalala nanu kangati, komanso ngati malingaliro anu amawadzaza ndi chimwemwe kapena nkhawa. Kukopeka sikokwanira kuti ubwenzi ukhale wolimba. Othandizana nawonso abweretse chisangalalo.
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19. “Kodi pali chinthu chimene ndikuchita chomwe chakukhumudwitsani?
Mutha kukhala ndi kachinthu kakang'ono kamene kamakhala kokhumudwitsa mnzanu. Mwinamwake mumatafuna mokweza kwambiri, mwinamwake mumalankhula modekha kwambiri, kapena mwinamwake kumenya kongoseweretsa nthaŵi zina kumamva kwaukali kwambiri. Ichi ndichifukwa chake muyenera kuganizira izi ngati limodzi mwamafunso ofunikira kwambiri paubwenzi omwe mungafunse bwenzi kapena chibwenzi chanu.
Wokondedwa wanu angaganize kuti zinthu izi ndi zazing'ono kwambiri kuti musalankhule, kotero mutamufunsa, zidzakupatsani mpata wokambirana nanu. Mwanjira iyi, mudziwana bwino ndi mnzanuyo ndikuwona momwe amakuwonerani.
20. “Ndi chiyani chomwe sungathe kuchiyang’ana kumbuyo?”
Mulungu asakuletseni, mwataya ntchito yanu. Kodi kusowa ntchito kumawononga mgwirizano wa mnzanu? Mwina mwadzidzidzi mwasiya kukonda chinthu chomwe munagwirizana poyamba. Kodi zimenezo zikutanthauza kuti ubalewo sudzakhalanso wabwino? Funsani mnzanuyo kuti ndi zinthu ziti zomwe zimawononga ubale wawo . Ndi limodzi mwa mafunso ofunika kwambiri okhudza ubale wanu ndi bwenzi lanu. Mwina muli kale pafupi kuyankha funsoli.
21. “Kodi pali china chimene simunandikhululukirebe?
Tiyerekeze kuti nonse awiri mwakumana ndi mavuto kale chaka chino pomwe munkakangana kwambiri paubwenzi . Kapena kuti mwakhala muubwenzi kwa kanthawi tsopano. Mwina pali zolakwa zingapo, kusamvetsetsana kapena mawu opweteka m'mbiri yaubwenzi wanu.
Zikatero, funsoli lingakuthandizeni kuthana ndi zochitika zakale. Ngati mukuganiza kuti pali mkwiyo womwe ukukulirakulira kumapeto, zingakhale bwino kuwadzutsa ndikuwafunsa ngati zonse zili bwino pakati pa inu nonse.
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22. “Kodi muli ndi tsankho lililonse?
Kodi ali ndi malingaliro okhumudwitsa? Kodi mnzanu wanu ndi wosankhana mitundu? Watsankho? Izi zimaoneka ngati zonena zopanda pake mukakondana ndi munthu koma muyenera kudziwa ngati pali tsankho lililonse losokoneza m'maganizo mwa mnzanuyo. Ngati mupeza malingaliro okayikitsa, tsopano pakubwera kuganizira ngati tsankho limenelo lingakukhudzeni tsiku lina. Simungaone zizindikiro za chibwenzi chozunza mpaka mutachedwa.
23. "Kodi ndine wofunika bwanji m'moyo wanu?"
Funso ili ndi lalikulu. Zimakayikira kudzipereka komanso mtengo womwe muli nawo m'moyo wa munthuyu. Muli ndi ufulu wodziwa komwe muli pa moyo wawo komanso kuti ndinu wofunika bwanji kwa iwo. Samalani ndi funsoli, simukufuna kufunsa izi nthawi zambiri ndipo mumawoneka ngati mnzanu wolimbikira.
24. “Kodi mukundiona m’mapulani anu a zaka zisanu?
Ngakhale titakhala kuti sitinakonzekere bwino, timatha kuona m'mene tsogolo lidzakhalire. Tsopano pankhani zofunika kwambiri paubwenzi ngati uwu, tiyenera kukuuzani kuti uwu ndi waukulu kwambiri. Ndi wolunjika kwambiri, zomwe ndi zabwino ngati mukufuna kudziwa ngati akufuna chibwenzi kapena kukuonani ngati mnzanu wa moyo wanu wonse.
Kukambitsirana kwautali mwina kungatsatire funso ili. Koma dziwani kuti funso ngati limeneli likhoza kuyambitsa kapena kusokoneza ubwenzi wanu. Chifukwa chake funsani iyi pokhapokha ngati mwakonzeka yankho lililonse.
25. Kodi mumamva bwanji mukamakhala limodzi musanalowe m’banja?
Ubale wanu ukhoza kukhala kutali ndi zokambirana zaukwati koma mutha kufunsa ili ngati limodzi mwamafunso omwe mungafunse kuti mudziwe "ngati" kapena ngati gawo la zokambirana zanzeru. Funso limeneli ndi linanso limene limakuthandizani kuona mmene mfundo zanu zimayenderana, kunena za makhalidwe abwino, komanso kufunika komudziwa bwino mnzanuyo musanapange ukwati.
Ngati zokambirana zikuyenda bwino, mungagwiritse ntchito izi ngati njira yoti mufunsane malamulo oyenera kukhala pachibwenzi ngati mukuganizira za tsogolo lanu. Komanso, momwe mnzanuyo angachitire zidzakuthandizani kudziwa komwe ali pankhani ya mawu a M.
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Pomaliza, tiyeni tiwone mafunso ofunika kwambiri omwe angayese maziko a ubalewo. Mutha kuwapeza kukhala olemetsa ndipo mwina angakuwopsyezeni, kukunyengererani kuti musiye ntchitoyi. Koma titha kukutsimikizirani kuti mukamadutsa bwino, mudzakhala ndi lingaliro lomveka bwino la komwe ubale wanu ukuyimira komanso ngati kuli koyenera.
26. "Kodi umandikonda/ umandikonda?"
Inde, tikukulangizani kuti muwamenye ndi chachikulu kuchokera pamleme. Palibe chifukwa chomenya mozungulira tchire. Funsani anzanu ofunikira ngati amakukondanidi. Zoonadi, sinthani mawu potengera kutalika komwe muli paubwenzi komanso ngati mwanenapo liwu la 'L' kapena ayi. N’zoona kuti ubwenzi sungakhalepo chifukwa cha chikondi. Koma popanda chikondi, ubale sukhalapo poyamba. Ife tonse tikudziwa zimenezo.
27. “Kodi mumaona bwanji kugonana muubwenzi umenewu?”
Ili mwina ndi limodzi mwamafunso ofunikira paubwenzi omwe maanja angafunse. Kuonetsetsa kuti nonse muli pa tsamba limodzi pankhani yogonana kapena kusagonana ndikofunikira kwambiri. Ganizirani zomwe inu nonse mungakonde pankhani yogonana, momwe mungafune kugonana.
Mungathenso kukambirana za momwe mungakondere kuchita zogonana. Njira zolerera, malo ogona, kutopa, ndi zina zotero. Nthawi zonse zimakhala zothandiza kudziwa momwe mungayambitsire mnzanu nthawi iliyonse mukafuna *kupukuta misozi*. Ingakhalenso njira yabwino yosungira chikondi chanu muubwenzi.
28. “Kodi ukukopeka ndi wina?
Kufunsa mafunso ozama paubwenzi ngati awa sikungakhale kophweka koma ndikofunikirabe. Ngati inu nonse mukungodziwana, funso lofunika kwambiri laubwenzi lingakuuzeni momwe mnzanuyo alili komanso momwe amakufunirani. Ngati zikukuvutani kusiya munthu wakale kapena kukhala ndi chibwenzi ndi munthu wina, ndiye kukambirana komwe muyenera kukambirana zinthu zisanachitike.
Sizachilendo kukhala ndi chilakolako chochepa pa munthu wina muli pachibwenzi. Koma chilakolako chopitirira muyeso chingayambitse mavuto paubwenzi wanu womwe ulipo kale. Kubwereranso ndi munthu wakale mwadzidzidzi kungayambitsenso mafunso ngati muli pachibwenzi.
29. “Mwandalama mukufuna kukhala kuti m’tsogolomu?
Yankho la funsoli likuuzani ngati zolinga zanu zamtsogolo zikugwirizana komanso ngati mugawana masomphenya amtsogolo. Mwachitsanzo, kodi ananena kuti akufuna kugula nyumba, koma inu munalibe paliponse pachithunzichi? Funsani chifukwa chake zili choncho. Ndipo ngati yankho liri pamizere ya “Ndili bwino kulipira cheke”, mwina ganizirani kuba kubanki pazokonda zanu zonse zapamwamba (tikuseka, osabera banki!).
30. Kodi mumakonda kugwiritsa ntchito bwanji ndalama zanu?
Kumvetsetsa ubale wa wina ndi mnzake ndi ndalama n'kofunika kwambiri kuti mukhale ndi moyo limodzi wopanda mavuto azachuma . Kusowa kwa mfundo zofanana pazachuma komanso kumvetsetsa momwe ndalama zimagwiritsidwira ntchito kumabweretsa mikangano muubwenzi. Mtundu wa mikangano yomwe ndi yovuta kwambiri kuchira. Poganizira kuti munthu ayenera kuthana ndi ndalama tsiku lililonse pa chilichonse, zimatha kukhala gwero la mikangano yosatha muubwenzi.
Mwachitsanzo, bwanji ngati mumakonda kukhala m'mahotela apamwamba patchuthi chanu, koma mnzanuyo akuganiza kuti ndikuwononga ndalama ndipo akufuna kuwononga ndalama pogula zinthu? Kodi nonse mumakonda kukhala m'nyumba ndikuchita phwando kunyumba, kapena mumakonda kuchita maphwando apamwamba a anzanu? Mukumva bwanji za charity? Mafunso azachuma ndi mafunso ofunikira kwambiri kufunsa kuti mudziwe pomwe mwayima.
31. “Kodi ukuona kuti tili ndi ana mtsogolomu?
Kapena njira ina yosavutitsa maganizo yofunsa funso ili ingakhale: “Kodi mukufuna ana, nthawi ina iliyonse?” Mungaganizirenso kufunsa maganizo awo pa nkhani ya “kusankha kopanda ana” . Ngati ndinu munthu amene mukuyandikira msinkhu umene mukufuna kukhala ndi ana kapena tsopano mukuvomereza lingaliro la zimenezi, ndi nthawi yoti muuze mnzanuyo za mapulani amenewo. Ili ndi limodzi mwa mafunso ofunika kwambiri okhudza ubale wa maanja chifukwa limatsimikizira komwe ubale wanu ungapite kapena ayi kuyambira pamenepo.
32. Kodi mukufuna kupuma liti komanso kuti?
Kukambirana za mapulani a wina ndi mzake, kapena masomphenya ake, kudzakuthandizani kukhala pa tsamba limodzi za tsogolo lanu. Osadandaula, ngati zolinga zanu sizikugwirizana. Kupuma pantchito mwina kuli mtsogolo ndipo palibe wa inu amene angakhale ndi lingaliro lomveka bwino la zomwe mukufuna. Komabe, kuyandikira funsoli limodzi kungakuthandizeni kukambirana tanthauzo la kupuma pantchito kwa aliyense wa inu, ndi momwe kumawonekera.
33. “Kodi mungandisunthire mizinda?” 33.
Chinanso chachikulu! Ilinso ndi limodzi mwamafunso ovuta kwambiri okhudzana ndi maubwenzi apatali omwe mungafunse kuti mudziwe pomwe mwayima. Mwina nonse mwakhala mukuyenda kwakanthawi ndipo mukuyembekeza kukhazikika ndi bwenzi lanu. Takhala zaka zambiri ndikuwuluka kuti tiwone wina ndi mnzake pa nthawi yopuma ya Thanksgiving, ndi nthawi yoti nonse awiri mulowe mu ubale. Ndiye munthu amabweretsa bwanji zimenezo?
Ngati mukuganiza kuti nthawi yakwana yoti mmodzi wa inu asunthire m'malo mwa winayo, gwiritsani ntchito funso ili kuti muyambitse kukambiranako. Mutha kukambirana za mavuto a ubale wakutali ndi mayankho awo. Mwanjira imeneyi, mudzadziwa ngati ali okonzeka kapena ayi komanso dongosolo lotsatira la zochita kwa inu.
34. “Kodi inu mukukhulupirira M’maubwenzi oonekera?
Ponena za mafunso okhudza chibwenzi oti mufunse iye kapena iye, musasiye awa. Maubwenzi otseguka ndi chizolowezi chatsopano pomwe okwatirana amakhala odzipereka kwa okondedwa awo oyamba koma akavomereza, amasankha kutuluka ndikuyamba maubwenzi ena anthawi yochepa. Kaya ndinu okonda kapena otsutsa maubwenzi otseguka , nthawi zonse zimakhala bwino kudziwa komwe mnzanuyo ali pankhaniyi.
35. “Muli bwanji ndi kusakhulupirira?
Mafunso okhudza chibwenzi oterewa angachititse kuti mnzanu wanu ayambe kudabwa pang'ono, choncho yesani kuwafunsa mokoma mtima momwe mungathere. Mutsimikizireni kuti simukufunsa funsoli chifukwa cha mlandu wa munthu wina wonyenga kapena chifukwa mukukayikira kuti wanyenga koma chifukwa chakuti uwu ndi umodzi mwa zokambirana zomwe maanja ayenera kukambirana.
Ndani akudziwa, izi zitha kupangitsa mnzanuyo kuti atsegule nkhani zam'mbuyomu za pomwe adaberedwa kapena china chilichonse pamzerewu. Zokambiranazi sizikuchokera kwinakwake. Ndikwabwino komanso kothandiza kudziwa momwe mnzanuyo amatengera zinthu zotere.
Kumvetsetsa bwino komwe mukuyimilira mu ubale wanu kumatha kukuchotsani mtolo. Ngakhale mayankho olakwika adakupangitsani kukayikira kulimba kwa ubale wanu, osachepera tsopano muli ndi lingaliro labwino la momwe mungayendere ubalewu komanso zomwe muyenera kapena musayembekezere. Kuyandama muubwenzi wopanda zilembo, kuyembekezera zabwino, kumabweretsa kusweka mtima. Osadikirira kuti tsoka lifike, funsani mafunso ovuta kwambiri paubwenzi ndikuwona ngati ubale wanu ndi womwe mumaganiza.
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