Zizindikiro 20 Kuti Muli Paubwenzi Wosokoneza Mtima

Kodi zizindikiro za ubale wankhanza ndi zotani? Anthu omwe ali muubwenzi wapoizoni wachikondi nthawi zambiri amadzipeza akusinkhasinkha za funso ili, pamene akuvutika kuti azindikire zenizeni zawo. Ngakhale kuti nkhani zonse zaubwenzi zingayambitse mavuto, nkhanza zamaganizo zimatha kukhala zofooketsa komanso zopweteka, kwa munthu amene akukumana nazo komanso achibale awo ndi okondedwa awo. 

Sizingatsimikize mokwanira kuti kukhala pachibwenzi komwe mumakumana ndi nkhanza kungachepetse malingaliro a wozunzidwayo komanso kukhumudwitsa psyche yawo. Kusinthasintha kwa maubwenzi oterowo kumakhala koopsa kwambiri chifukwa chakuti omwe ali muubwenzi wotere nthawi zambiri amalephera kuzindikira ndi kuzindikira zizindikiro zochenjeza. Ozunzidwa ndi kuponderezedwa kotereku amakhalabe m'chizungulire chosathachi pokhapokha atalimba mtima kuti atuluke.

Munkhaniyi, Anushtha Mishra (M.Sc. mu Counseling Psychology) yemwe ndi katswiri pa zoopsa, mavuto a ubale, kuvutika maganizo, nkhawa, chisoni, ndi kusungulumwa akufotokoza tanthauzo la nkhanza zamaganizo, momwe mungadziwire zizindikiro zofiira zomwe zimasonyeza ubale woopsa m'maganizo, komanso zomwe mungachite ngati muli nawo.

Kodi Nkhanza Zamaganizo N'chiyani?

Ndiye, kuzunzidwa kwamalingaliro kumawoneka bwanji? Nkhanza zamaganizo ndi machitidwe omwe munthu amawononga thanzi la munthu wina komanso kuthekera kwake kogwira ntchito. Zitha kuchitika muubwenzi uliwonse, monga pakati pa zibwenzi, makolo, ana, abwenzi, kapena ogwira nawo ntchito. Nkhanza zamaganizo sizingasiyire mikwingwirima kapena zipsera monga momwe kuchitira nkhanza, koma zimapweteka chimodzimodzi ndipo zimachitika m'njira zosiyanasiyana. 

Kafukufuku wasonyeza kuti nkhanza zamaganizo zimatha kukhala ndi zotsatirapo zoopsa komanso zokhalitsa pa thanzi la munthu la maganizo ndi thupi. Zizindikiro ndi zizindikiro za nkhanza zamaganizo zikuphatikizapo,

• Kudziyang'anira pansi
• Kudzimva wopanda pake
• Kusowa chiyembekezo
• Kukhala wamantha

Zotsatira zake zimatha kukhala nthawi yayitali,

• Kusokonezeka maganizo
• nkhawa
• Matenda a post-traumatic stress (PTSD)
• Kugwiritsira ntchito mankhwala osokoneza bongo
• Maganizo odzipha
• Mavuto osowa
• Kupweteka kosautsa 

Nkhanza zamaganizo zingakhudze momwe munthu amachitira zinthu ndi ena, monga banja lake, anzake, kapena ogwira nawo ntchito. Zingakhudzenso momwe munthu amachitira zinthu kuntchito, kusukulu, kapena pazochitika zina, ndipo zingawononge kudziona ngati munthu wofunika komanso wofunika.

Zizindikiro za kuzunzidwa m'maganizo kapena kuzunzidwa m'maganizo, kawirikawiri, zimaphatikizapo

• Kukhala ndi mawu oyipa, mawonekedwe ankhanza, mapewa ozizira, ziwopsezo zowopsa,
• Kudzimva kukhala wosungulumwa komanso wosowa
• Abwana amalamula
• Njira zonyenga
• Kupha munthu
• Zozizira zotayira
• Kuitana mayina
• Kusokoneza maganizo
• Masewera amisala

Zizindikiro 20 Kuti Muli Paubwenzi Wosokoneza Mtima

Anthu ambiri, makamaka achinyamata omwe ali pachibwenzi chomwe ali ndi zizindikiro za nkhanza za m'maganizo sangamvetsetse khalidwe la wokondedwa wawo. Sangawerenge zizindikiro za ubale zomwe zitha kukhala zankhanza. Koma ndikofunikira kuyang'anitsitsa machitidwe aliwonse owopsa kapena owopsa kuyambira pachiyambi. Zomwe zimawoneka ngati chikondi poyamba zimatha kuwonekera kukhala chinthu choyipa kwambiri chomwe chingasinthe osati ubale wanu wonse komanso kuwononga thanzi lanu lamalingaliro. Kuchitiridwa nkhanza kumakhudzanso thanzi lanu. 

Ngati mukuchita ndi mnzanu wolamulira , mnzanu wonyenga, kapena ubale womwe ukukuvutitsani maganizo, musamakane, kuwaona ngati zizindikiro za chikondi, chisamaliro, nkhawa, komanso kulamulira. Samalani ndi zizindikiro izi za ubale wozunza maganizo ndi khalidwe lozunza.

 1. Mumayesetsa kwambiri kusangalatsa wokondedwa wanu

Kodi mumadabwa kuti nkhanza zamaganizo zimawoneka bwanji? Ndi pamene nthawi zonse mumakhala osamala kwambiri kuti musachite kapena kunena chilichonse chomwe chingayambitse yankho loipa mwa mnzanu. Kukhala wozunzidwa ndi nkhanza zamaganizo kumatanthauza kuyenda mozungulira - komwe simukudziwa zomwe mungachite, mwachindunji kapena mwanjira ina, kuchokera kumapeto kwanu zomwe zingayambitse mkwiyo wamaganizo kapena nkhanza zakuthupi. Ngakhale nkhani yooneka ngati yaying'ono ingayambitse mikangano yaubwenzi ndipo nthawi zonse mumayikidwa kumbali yolakwika.

2. Malingaliro a wokondedwa wanu ayenera kulemekezedwa, koma anu amanyozedwa

Ubale wapoizoni ndi wosagwirizana m'chilengedwe. Kuchitiridwa nkhanza kwa mnzako/mnzako kumawonekera pakulephera kufotokoza momasuka malingaliro ndi malingaliro anu. Ngati mnzanuyo akuona kuti n’koyenera kuti azikalipira nthawi zina koma kukhumudwa kwanu kumakupangitsani kuti akudzudzuleni, kapena ngati mnzanuyo ataya malingaliro anu pamaso pa anzanu ndikukupangani nthabwala zawo, ndiye kuti izi ndi zizindikiro zotsimikizika kuti ubale wanu suli bwino.

3. Ndinu wovutitsidwa ndi magetsi

Simungathe kufotokozera nkhanza zamaganizo popanda kulankhula za kuyatsa gas. Kwa anthu osadziwika bwino, kuyatsa gasi ndi mtundu wina wankhanza m'malingaliro ndi m'malingaliro omwe cholinga chake ndi kukana zenizeni za wina ndi zomwe wakumana nazo ndikuzisokoneza kwambiri kotero kuti amayamba kukayikira kuti ali ndi malingaliro abwino ndipo amakhala odzikayikira.

Ndi mtundu wa nkhanza zachinsinsi muubwenzi zomwe zimawononga pang'onopang'ono malingaliro anu oganiza bwino ndikukudzazani ndi kudziona ngati wodzikuza. Mnzanu wonyenga angagwiritse ntchito mawu onyoza monga,

• "Sindikukumbukira zomwe zinachitika"
• "Mukuganizira zinthu"
• “Sindingakunamizeni konse”
• “Ukungondipangitsa kuoneka woipa”
• “Sindinkatanthauza choncho”
• "Ndinachita chifukwa ndimakukondani"

Izi ndi zitsanzo za nkhanza za m'maganizo kuchokera kwa wokondedwa ndipo ngati mutapeza wokondedwa wanu akunena izi kwa inu kawirikawiri, ndiye kuti ndi chizindikiro choopsa cha nkhanza ndipo nthawi zambiri amagwiritsidwa ntchito kuti apeze mphamvu ndi kukulamulirani.

4. Anthu amene amakuzunzani sakhulupirira maganizo anu

Kukhulupirirana kotheratu ndiko maziko enieni a unansi wabwino. Koma m'maubwenzi opondereza, nthawi zambiri wochita nkhanzayo amalephera kukhulupirira mnzake chifukwa chodzikayikira. Muzochitika ngati izi, malingaliro anu amakhala onyoza kwa iwo, zomwe pamapeto pake zimasanduka nkhanza.

Chifukwa chosowa chikhulupiliro mumgwirizanowu, amaganiza kuti mawu aliwonse osakondwa kuchokera kumapeto anu adapangidwa kuti awapweteke iwowo. Wochitira nkhanzayo, pamenepa, amayambitsa kukhumudwa kwamalingaliro, kapena mumkhalidwe woipitsitsa, angayesenso kukuvulazani mwakuthupi. Izi ndi zomwe munthu akumva kuzunzidwa m'maganizo. 

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5. Mumadzimva kukhala osungulumwa komanso otsekeredwa

Kodi mukudzifunsa mobwerezabwereza kuti, “Kodi ndikuzunzidwa m’maganizo?” Ngati mukumva kuti mwagwidwa , ndiye kuti ndi chimodzi mwa zizindikiro za nkhanza m’maganizo. Ubale wankhanza m’maganizo umakula bwino mukapatula wozunzidwayo kudziko lapansi. Anthu ozunza angayese kuvala izi ngati “zoti muwachitire zonse” ngati chikondi, koma potero, wozunzayo amakupatulani kwa anzanu ndi abale anu. Wachibale ndi okondedwa omwewo omwe amakusamalirani - kapena aliyense amene angakuthandizeni kapena kukupatsani chithandizo.

Kukhala paubwenzi womwe umadziwika ndi kuzunzidwa m'malingaliro kumakupangitsani kumva kuti mwatsekeka pamene wokuchitirani nkhanzayo akutembenukira kukuwopsezani kapena kukukhumudwitsani kuti asokoneze gulu lanu la anthu, ndikukulepheretsani kucheza nawo. Wokuchitirani nkhanzayo amafuna kuti muziganiza kuti ndinu wopanda mphamvu komanso ndinu wosungulumwa, choncho amakutsimikizirani kuti palibe chimene mungachite, kulikonse kumene mungapite, ndiponso kuti palibe amene mungamukhulupirire, kupatulapo iwowo.

6. Nsanje yosayenera

Nsanje ina muubwenzi ndi yachibadwa koma nsanje yosayenera, yomwe ili chizindikiro cha kukhala ndi katundu, kusatetezeka, ndi kusakhulupirirana, ikhoza kukhala ndi zotsatirapo zoipa. Izi ndi zoona osati paubwenzi wokha komanso kwa mnzanu amene amalandira. Ngati mwasiya kucheza ndi anzanu aamuna kapena akazi anzanu, ngati mumangoyang’ana paphewa paphwando pamene munthu wina akulankhula nanu mwachikondi, kapena ngati mnzanu akuona zofiira pamene wina abwera n’kukukumbatirani, ndiye kuti ndinu wochitiridwa nsanje yosayenera. 

Chimodzi mwazizindikiro za kuchitiridwa nkhanza kwa mnzako/mnzako ndi pamene nthawi zonse amakhala pamlandu wanu za amene mumacheza naye ndikukumana naye ndipo amakwiyitsidwa ngakhale ndi malingaliro akutali kwambiri okanira zofuna zawo zosamveka kuchokera kumapeto kwanu. Izi zimabweretsa mikangano yosalekeza komanso kuyang'aniridwa mosayenera. Musawalole kuti achoke ndi khalidweli m'dzina la kukhala nawo kapena chisamaliro. Yakwana nthawi yoti muyambe kukhazikitsa malire.

7. Kusintha kwamalingaliro kumakhala kovutirapo komanso kosadziwikiratu

Aliyense amasinthasintha maganizo nthawi ndi nthawi. Ndi zachilendo chabe. Koma mukakhala paubwenzi wovuta m’maganizo, kusinthasintha kwa maganizo kudzakudzidzimutsani. Zinthu monga kubwera kunyumba ndi mantha mutadzigulira nokha chinachake chifukwa mnzanuyo akhoza kuchitapo kanthu mosayembekezereka, kapena amasintha kuchoka pa kukuthandizani ndi kukulimbikitsani ndikukhala osakunyozani ndi kukupeputsani ndi zina mwa zizindikiro zosonyeza kuti mukuzunzidwa.

Wokondedwa wanu akhoza kupita mwezi ndikuwona diresi lomwe mwagula, ndikukuuzani kuti muvale nthawi yomweyo kapena akhoza kukuwa, kukuwa, kapena kukumenyani mbama chifukwa chomwaza chovala chomwe akuganiza kuti simunachifune. Simudziwa mbali yomwe malingaliro awo angasinthe ndipo nthawi zonse mumakhala mukudandaula za izo.

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8.  Adzakutsutsani ndi kukuchititsani manyazi, koma magome sangatembenuke

Kuzunzidwa m'maganizo muubwenzi nthawi zambiri kumakhala kudzudzula kosalekeza. Kukudzudzulani kumakhala chikhalidwe chachiwiri cha mnzanu. Kuchokera pa zomwe mumavala mpaka momwe mumayendera, momwe mumalankhulira, ndi abwenzi otani omwe muli nawo, banja lanu, ndi ntchito yanu - palibe chomwe chimathawa kutsutsidwa kwawo, ndipo cholinga apa ndikupangitsani manyazi.

Komabe, simungayerekeze kuwauza kuti avala malaya okwinya ndipo mwina ayenera kuwasintha asanapite kuntchito. Chimodzi mwa zizindikiro za munthu wovutitsa maganizo ndichakuti safuna kutsutsidwa kapena kutsutsidwa kulikonse kuchokera kumbali yanu. Nthawi zonse ayenera kukhala olondola ndikukhala ndi mawu omaliza pamkangano uliwonse kapena kusamvana, ndipo osavomereza zolakwa zawo kapena kupepesa.

9. Amakupatsirani chisamaliro chachete

Kukangana kwa okwatirana osalankhulana kwa tsiku limodzi kapena awiri n'kwabwino ndipo ndi gawo la mkangano wamba. Ndipotu, kuletsana kungathandize ubalewo , pamenepa, chifukwa kumakupatsani mwayi wokonza malingaliro anu kenako n’kukambirana momasuka. Koma ngati wina akuletsani kukulankhulani kwa masiku ambiri, ndiye kuti ndi mtundu wina wa nkhanza zamaganizo.

Wokuchitira nkhanzayo amamanga mpanda ndipo sangalole kuti ulowemo chifukwa akufuna kuti akulange. Amayamba kuchita ngati mulibe kapena mulibe kanthu kwa iwo, ndipo samawonetsa chidwi ndi malingaliro anu, malingaliro anu, kapena zosowa zanu. Kugwetsa miyala kotereku ndi nkhanza zoipitsitsa zomwe munthu angachitire. Mutha kukhala ndi mwamuna/mkazi/mnzanu amene amakuzunzani ngati akukana kulankhula nanu pakagwa mkangano mpaka mutakonzeka kuvomereza zomwe akufuna.

10. Amati "Ndimakukondani" nthawi zambiri akakonda mabomba inu

Poyamba, zingakhale bwino pamene wokondedwa wanu ayamba tsiku ndikumaliza ndi mawu akuti "Ndimakukondani", ndikumalankhula nthawi zosachepera 10 patsiku. Koma kodi chimachitika n'chiyani ngati simungathe kuyankha mwamsanga? Mutha kukhala pa msonkhano wakuofesi akamayimba foni, kapena mutha kukhala otanganidwa ndi zinazake ndipo zingatenge nthawi kuti muyankhe "Ndimakukondani".

Kodi amakwiya ndi kukhumudwa mukalephera kuyankha malinga ndi zomwe akuyembekezera? Kapena amafuna kuti muwaganizire kwambiri akamakukondani komanso kutopa mukamachita zinthu zina? Ichi ndi chimodzi mwa zizindikiro za ubale wovuta womwe mungachione ngati chikondi chamisala, chomwe chimatchedwanso kuphulika kwa chikondi.

11. M’dzina la chisamaliro ndi nkhaŵa, iwo amakonda kukulamulirani

Ndi kangati wokondedwa wanu amanena kuti simukumvetsa chisamaliro chake ndi nkhawa zake? Zonse ndi masewera a mphamvu ndi ulamuliro. Akhoza kukulepheretsani kupita kwa mnzanu nthawi ya 7 koloko ndikunena kuti ndi chifukwa chakuti akukhudzidwa ndi chitetezo chanu ndi moyo wanu.

Mwinanso angakulepheretseni kupita ku golosale chifukwa choopa kuti mungakumane ndi munthu wozembetsa zinthu kumeneko. Zitsanzo zochepa za nkhanza zochokera kwa okondedwa munkhaniyi zingaphatikizeponso kuyang'anira mafoni anu nthawi zonse, mameseji, maimelo, kapena maakaunti ochezera a pawebusaiti, ndi kufuna kudziwa mawu achinsinsi anu kapena komwe muli chifukwa "amasamala".

Kusamala ndi kusamala kotereku kudzakupangitsani kukhala odziimira paokha, ndipo kudzakusiyani opanda malire. Kudzakupangitsani kumva kuti muli kutali ndi achibale anu ndi okondedwa anu. Kodi umu ndi momwe mumasonyezera munthu kuti mumamukonda ? Mnzanu anganene choncho, koma musalakwitse, ndi chizindikiro chodziwika bwino chakuti mukuzunzidwa m'maganizo muubwenzi wanu.

12. Kupepesa kosalekeza sikutha

Mnzanuyo akhoza kukumenyani kapena kunena zinthu zoipa kenako n’kupepesa n’kubwera kunyumba ndi mphatso, ngakhale kukutengerani kumalo odyera okwera mtengo. Osatengeka nazo. Ichi ndi chiyambi chabe cha zovuta zomwe muyenera kulimbana nazo muubwenzi wanu wankhanza.

Ngati mnzanuyo afika nkhanza mwakuthupi, amakupangitsani mantha kuti mwina, kapena kunena chinachake chosayenera, muyenera kuyang'ana pa izo ngati mbendera wofiira ndi kutalikirana ndi. Palibe kupepesa kochuluka komwe kungalungamitse nkhanza zamaganizo kapena chiwawa. Pokhapokha ngati ali okonzeka kukaonana ndi phungu, kapena wothandizira pabanja ndi kuthana ndi vutoli, simuyenera ngakhale kuganiza zowapatsa mwayi wina.

13. Okondedwa anu amakuchitirani nkhanza zachuma

Iyi ndi khalidwe lina loipa lomwe limapezeka kwambiri mu maubwenzi okakamiza. Akakana kukuchitirani ngati munthu wofanana nanu pazachuma, ndi nkhanza zamaganizo ndipo akukusokonezani. Nkhanza za zachuma ndi chizindikiro choyipa chomwe nthawi zambiri sichimasamalidwa m'maubwenzi. Koma ngati mkazi wanu akuwononga ndalama zambiri pa kirediti kadi yanu kapena ngati mwamuna wanu wozunza maganizo akuumirira kuti musunge malipiro anu ndikukupatsani "ndalama za m'thumba", ndiye kuti ndi nkhanza za zachuma, zomwe zingakuwonongeni maganizo mtsogolo.

14. Muli paulendo wolakwa nthawi zonse chifukwa cha wokondedwa wanu

"Kodi ndine wozunzidwa m'maganizo?" Kuti mupeze yankho la funsoli, ganizirani ngati mnzanu amakutumizani paulendo wolakwa nthawi zambiri. Ngati sanakwezedwe pantchito, kodi amaimba mlandu chifukwa choumirira kuti abwerere kunyumba panthaŵi yake kuti mukhale ndi nthaŵi yabwino monga banja? Ngati ali ndi vuto la m'mimba, amakuimbani mlandu powadyetsa chovunda?

Akakhala paphwando mochedwa ndi anzawo n’kubwera ataledzera, amati n’chifukwa chakuti inuyo mwakhala mukunyong’onyeka? Masewera olakwa ndi osatha ndipo mukuyembekezeka kudziimba mlandu pachilichonse. Ichi ndi chimodzi mwazizindikiro zazikulu zaubwenzi wankhanza zomwe muyenera kuzizindikira mwachangu.

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15. Kuchotsa ubwenzi

Kusiya kukondana, kukondana, ndi kukhudzana kumakhala kosavuta kwa munthu wankhanza. Nthawi zambiri zimachitika ngati njira yolangira inu. Ichi ndi chizindikiro chenicheni cha ubale wonyenga. Kukumbatirana kapena nthawi yabwino ndi chinthu chosavuta kupatsa mnzanu. Koma ngati akukaniza chikondi mwadala ndikukhala kutali, ndiye kuti muyenera kulabadira.

Ngati mnzanuyo akunena zinthu monga, "Simuyenera ine. Mwinamwake mukanakhala osamala kwambiri komanso okondana, ndikanafuna kukhala pafupi ndi inu" kapena "Ndiwe wokwiyitsa kwambiri. Nthawi zonse mumandinyoza kapena kudandaula za chirichonse. Mumandipangitsa kuti ndikhale wopanikizika komanso wokwiya. Ubwenzi ndi chinthu chotsiriza m'maganizo mwanga", ndiye kuti samangokhalira mwana, pali zambiri.

16. Amakunyengererani

Khalidwe lonyenga ndi chizindikiro cha nkhanza zamaganizo. Umasankha chinthu koma iwo angakupangitseni kusintha chisankho chanu popanda kumva kuti ali ndi gawo lochitapo kanthu. Ichi ndi chizindikiro choopsa cha kulimbana kwa mphamvu muubwenzi.

Kunyengerera ndi chimodzi mwa zizindikiro zosaoneka bwino zaubwenzi wankhanza ndipo ungakopeke ndi mawu onga akuti, “Ngati umandikondadi, ukadachita [ikani pempho apa]” kapena “Ndikungofuna zabwino zanu.

17. Amakusungani mapazi 10 kutali ndi moyo wawo

Chizindikiro chodziwika bwino cha kuzunzidwa m'malingaliro ndikuti zikafika pa moyo wanu simungathe kuchita chilichonse popanda chilolezo chawo chifukwa ali ndi chizolowezi chochita zinthu zapamwamba. Mutha kukumana ndi anzanu pokhapokha atakulolani. Iwo akhoza ngakhale kuumirira kubwera nanu nthawi zonse. Koma ukakhala moyo wawo, nthawi zambiri umachotsedwa.

Simudziwa abwenzi awo ambiri, samakutengerani ku maphwando abanja ndipo nthawi zambiri mumakhala kunja kwa mapulani awo oyendayenda. Amagula okha, amacheza ndi anzawo ndipo amakhala ndi moyo womwe suli nawo mwanjira iliyonse. 

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18. Ziwopsezo ndi zachilendo

Chimodzi mwa zizindikiro za ubale wodzaza ndi nkhanza zamaganizo kapena bwenzi lopweteka m'maganizo ndikuti amakupangitsani kukhala woopsya ndipo nthawi zonse amakutsutsani za chinachake kapena china. Atha kugwiritsa ntchito nkhanza zakuthupi kapena kuopsezani kuti akuwopsyezeni, kukuuzani kuti avulaza ziweto zanu kapena ana anu, kapena iwo eni kuti akupangitseni kuwongolera mzere wawo. Kukuwopsezani ndi gawo limodzi la chilengedwe cha mantha omwe amakula bwino ndikukuthandizani kuti musachoke paubwenzi.

19. Palibe lingaliro lachinsinsi

Chimodzi mwa zidule zofala kwambiri m'buku lamasewera la ozunza ndikusunga tabu pa inu popereka mapasiwedi awo ndi foni yam'manja kwa inu ndikukuuzani kuti muchite zomwezo. Mutha kuyang'ana ngati chizindikiro chachikulu cha chikondi ndi chidaliro koma ngati simuli mtundu wamphuno, simungadutse maimelo ndi mafoni awo. Komabe, amatero, nthawi zonse, ndipo mumataya zinsinsi zanu.

Ichi ndi chimodzi mwa zizindikiro zazikulu zomwe anthu nthawi zambiri amavomereza. Anthu omwe amakuzunzani sadziwa zachinsinsi, choncho amakutsatani pafoni, imelo, komanso malo ochezera a pa Intaneti. Akhoza kukutsatirani chilichonse chomwe mukuchita popanda kukupatsani mpata wokhala nokha. Mudzamva kuti mukukuyang'aniridwani nthawi zonse chifukwa mukuyang'aniridwa nthawi zonse.

20. Wokongola kwambiri kwa ena

Chimodzi mwa zizindikiro zazikulu za nkhanza zamaganizo kapena zamaganizo ndichakuti mnzanuyo angakupatseni gehena koma zingakhale chitsanzo cha chithumwa kwa anthu ena ndipo sizingakhale manyazi pagulu. M'buku lakuti When I Hit You lolembedwa ndi Meena Kadasamy, wozunzayo muubwenziwo anali munthu wokongola komanso wabwino kwambiri kotero kuti makolo a mkaziyo sakanakhulupirira mtundu wa gehena womwe akanatha kubweretsa nkhanza zamaganizo zomwe akanatha kupangira mwana wawo wamkazi. Chifukwa chake, mukaona chithumwa chochuluka, samalani.

Zoyenera kuchita?

Ngati mukukumana ndi kuzunzidwa m'maganizo muubwenzi wapamtima, mukhoza kukhala osokonezeka, mantha, kapena opanda chiyembekezo. Koma simuli nokha, ndipo mungathe kuchitapo kanthu kuti mudziteteze ndi kuchira ku nkhanzazo. Nazi zina zomwe mungachite ngati mwazunzidwa m'maganizo:

• Phunzirani kuzindikira zizindikiro za nkhanza za m'maganizo ndikumvetsetsa kuti simuli ndi udindo pa zochita za wozunzayo. Makamaka pamene pali zizindikiro zobisika zaubwenzi wosokoneza maganizo
• Ikani nokha poyamba ndi kusamalira thanzi lanu lakuthupi ndi lamaganizo mwa kugona bwino, kudya zakudya zathanzi, kukhala otakasuka, ndi kuchita zinthu zodzetsa chimwemwe.
• Lumikizanani ndi netiweki yanu yothandizira, monga wachibale wanu ndi okondedwa kapena katswiri wothandizira matenda amisala. Mutha kuyimbiranso foni yothandizira kapena kulowa nawo gulu lothandizira la anthu omwe adazunzidwa m'malingaliro kapena gulu la olimbikitsa ophunzitsidwa bwino. 
• Khazikitsani malire ndi wozunzayo ndipo pewani kulumikizana nawo momwe mungathere
• Konzekerani chitetezo chanu ndi moyo wanu, makamaka ngati mwasankha kuthetsa ubale wotere. Mutha kuyang'ana thandizo lazamalamulo, thandizo lazachuma, kapena malo otetezeka okhala
• Limbikitsani kudzidalira kwanu ndi chidaliro, zomwe mwina zavulazidwa ndi nkhanza. Mutha kugwiritsa ntchito mawu olimbikitsa, kutsutsa malingaliro olakwika, kapena kupeza maluso atsopano
• Yesetsani kuthana ndi zowawa zanu, zomwe zingaphatikizepo mkwiyo, chisoni, mantha, kudziimba mlandu, kapena manyazi. Mutha kugwiritsa ntchito njira zabwino zothanirana ndi vutoli monga kulemba, kusinkhasinkha, kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi, kupuma, kudzisamalira kapena kuchita zinthu mwanzeru.
• Bwererani ku nkhanzazo ndikupita patsogolo ndi moyo wanu. Mutha kuyang'ana kwambiri zokhumba zanu, maloto, ndi zokonda zanu. Mukhozanso funani thandizo la akatswiri kuchiza zowawa zanu ndikubwezeretsanso chidaliro chanu mwa inu nokha ndi ena

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Ngati mukuganiza kuti zizindikirozi zikufanana kwambiri ndi ubale wanu, musalole kuti zisokonezeke chifukwa ndizovuta m'maganizo - lankhulani ndi wina yemwe angakuthandizeni, mwina wachibale kapena mnzanu wodalirika. Ngati ubalewu ukukubweretserani mavuto athanzi komanso/kapena kusokoneza ntchito kapena maphunziro anu, moyo watsiku ndi tsiku, ndi maubwenzi apamtima, sikuli koyenera kuugwirabe. Lankhulani ndi munthu amene mumamukhulupirira ndipo mupeze njira yotulutsira muubwenzi umene ukukufoworani. Maubale ayenera kukukwezani, osati kukulemetsani. Osadikirira kuti zizindikiro zisinthe kukhala magetsi a neon musanapemphe thandizo.

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