Iimpawu ezingama-25 zesilumkiso zokuthi umfazi wakho uyakopela: oko zikuthethayo kunye noko umele ukwenze

Umtshato luhambo oluzaliswe ziingxaki neentlekele, kodwa zimbalwa izihlandlo ezibuhlungu xa kuthelekiswa nobunzima bokungathembeki. Nangona kunjalo, ukukopa akuxhaphakanga njengoko inkcubeko eqhelekileyo icinga.Statistics Ibonisa ukuba ukuqhatha kwabantu abathandanayo kubudlelwane obuzibophelele kumalunga nama-20%. Loo nto isesisibini kwisibini ngasinye kwezihlanu. Ukuba awukwazi ukuyiphendula imvakalelo yokuba iqabane lakho alithembekanga, kuyanceda ukujonga iimpawu zomfazi oqhathayo ukuze ukwazi ukuqinisekisa okanye ukugxotha amathandabuzo akho ngaphambi kokuba akutye.

Kaloku, kunokuba buhlungu ukuhlala kwindawo engaqondakaliyo ethi “Ndicinga ukuba umfazi wam uyakopa kodwa andinabungqina”. Ukuzenzisa ngaphandle kulungile. Ukuzibuza ngaphakathi, ngokuphindaphindiweyo, “Ingaba uyakopa?” Ukuba oko kuvakala kuqhelekile, silapha ukukunceda.

Makhe sijonge iimpawu zokuba umfazi wakho uyakopela, ngokubonisana noGqr. Aman Bhonsle, osebenza nezibini ezijongene nemiphumo yokungathembeki, kunye nomqeqeshi wonxibelelwano nolwalamano. Swaty Prakash, onamava eminyaka elishumi enceda abantu ukuba balawule impilo yabo yeemvakalelo. 

Kuya kufuneka udibanise utshintsho kwindlela aziphethe ngayo iinyaniso ze-sychological malunga nokukopela, kuba uninzi lwezi mpawu zinokuba neengcaciso ezingenatyala xa zibonakala zodwa. Yindlela ebalulekileyo leyo

Kuthetha ukuthini ngokwenene ukukopa emtshatweni?

Ukuqhatha, okanye ukungathembeki emtshatweni, kuxa iqabane libandakanyeka kubudlelwane beemvakalelo okanye ngokwesondo nomntu ongaphandle komtshato ngaphandle kolwazi okanye imvume yeqabane lalo. Loo ngcaciso ibalulekile kuba ukungathembeki akupheleli nje kwimicimbi yomzimba. Umfazi oxhomekeke komnye indoda ngokweemvakalelo, owabelana naye ngobomi bakhe bangaphakathi, kwaye ebeka inkampani yakhe phambili kuneyakho, akathembekanga, nokuba akukho nto ibonakalayo eyenzekayo. Ngaba umcimbi weemvakalelo ubala njengokukopela? Uninzi lweengcali zobudlelwane zithi ewe, kwaye uphando luyakuxhasa oko. Oku kubalulekile kwindlela ofunda ngayo iimpawu ezingezantsi. Ezinye zingokomzimba. Ezinye zidijithali. Ezinye zivakalelwa. Zonke, xa zidibene, zizoba umfanekiso.

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Iimpawu ezingama-25 zoMfazi oqhathayo

Ngoko ke, awunakuyisusa ingcinga ethi, “Ndicinga ukuba uyandikhohlisa.” Mhlawumbi uqaphele utshintsho kwindlela aziphethe ngayo, iindlela ezintsha, umbhalo obonwe ngengozi, okanye ukungalungelelani kwiingxelo zakhe zebhanki. Kodwa wazi njani ngokuqinisekileyo? Ungayazi njani ukuba into oyiqaphelayo kukuziphatha kokukopa hayi utshintsho olubangelwa luxinzelelo emsebenzini, uxinzelelo lwabazali, okanye utshintsho olunzima lomzimba olufana nokuya exesheni? Ukuba ujonga ngokusondeleyo, uya kufumanisa ukuba kukho iimpawu ezininzi zeemvakalelo kunye nezomzimba umfazi wakho akopayo. Nazi ezingama-25 zazo, zihlelwe ngokweendidi, ukuze wazi kakuhle ukuba ujonge ntoni.

Iimpawu Zeemvakalelo Nezokuziphatha Zokuba Umfazi Wakho Uyakopela

Nokuba umntu ucinga ukuba uphila ubomi bakhe obumbaxa kangakanani na xa ekhohlisa iqabane lakhe lobomi, ukuziphatha kuyavuza. Ukuze ukwazi ukubona iimpawu ezicacileyo zokuba umfazi wakho ukukhohlisa, kufuneka ujonge amaqela eepateni, ungagxili kwizinto ezingaqhelekanga. “Kuba ukucaca kuvela kwiipateni, kwaye iipateni zinokufunyanwa xa usondeza umfanekiso kwaye ujonge umfanekiso omkhulu,” utshilo uGqr. Bhonsle.

Ewe, kulula ukutsho kunokukwenza xa ujamelene noloyiko lokuba inyaniso ingakuphazamisa ubomi bakho bonke, kodwa yindlela ekuphela kwayo yokufumana ulwazi, ngandlela ithile, ngoko zama konke okusemandleni akho. Nazi iimpawu zeemvakalelo kunye nokuziphatha komfazi okhohlisayo ekufuneka uziqwalasele:

1. Uqala ukwenza izinto ekude

Ukuba uzama ukuqonda ukuba umfazi wakho uyakopela na, indlela aziphethe ngayo ngawe yinto yokuqala ekufuneka uyiqwalasele. Ngaba kukho into ebonakala ngathi "ayilunganga" ngequbuliso? Ngaba ukhona emzimbeni kodwa ingqondo yakhe iphazamisekile? Ngaba uziphatha njengomntu obandayo nongakhathaliyo kangangokuba umfazi wakho uzive ngathi ngumntu ongamaziyo? Ngaba uyekile ukufuna ukuya kwimicimbi yoluntu okanye yosapho nawe? Ngaba uyekile ukwenza umzamo wokunxibelelana nawe?

USwaty uthi ezi nguqu zinokuba imiqondiso ukukhohlisa unetyala okanye ibangelwa kukunganeliseki kwakhe ngumtshato. “Utshintsho kubuntu bakhe lusenokungabi lolunye lwezona mpawu zicacileyo zokukopela, kodwa njengeqabane lakhe lobomi, uya kuziva utshintsho oluthile kwindlela aziphethe ngayo xa ekujikelezile. Umzekelo, usenokubonakala onwabile kodwa olo lonwabo alunanto yakwenza nawe. Okanye usenokuqala ukukhangela izizathu zokuchitha ixesha kude nawe. Ungaqaphela nokuba umfazi wakho othetha kakhulu nothetha kakhulu uye waba yimfihlo kwaye akakho. Akanamdla wokuxoxa ngobomi bakhe ngaphandle kwekhaya nawe. Nangona zingabonakali, zonke ezi ziimpawu zendlela yokwazi ukuba umfazi wakho uyakopela,” wongeza.

2. Ukhangela izizathu zokuba alwe nawe

Iimpawu zokuthandana azibonakali njengezinto zokuthambisa ezimdaka kunye neenwele ezingcolileyo. Iimpawu zokungathembeki komfazi wakho zinokuba zingabonakali. Ukuthambekela ngequbuliso kokukruqula, ukuxabana, kunye nokwenza izizathu zengxabano yenye yezona mpawu zingathathelwa ingqalelo zeqabane elikhohlisayo.

"Akuqhelekanga ukuba amaqabane athandanayo afikelele kwinqanaba apho eqala ukufumana iimpazamo omnye komnye. Oku kudla ngokuba yinkqubo eyenzeka kancinci kancinci. Kodwa xa kukho umntu omtsha ebomini bomlingani wakho, eli nqanaba lolwalamano linokubuya kwakhona. Umonde weqabane lakho uyancipha kwaye unokufumanisa ukuba lihlala likufutshane nawe. Kwanezinto elalizifumana zintle kwixesha elidlulileyo ziyalicaphukisa ngoku."

—UGqr. Aman Bhonsle, ugqirha wengqondo

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3. Ubonakala engonwabanga emtshatweni

“Ndicinga ukuba umfazi wam uyakopa kodwa andinabungqina.” Mhlawumbi uhlala ubuyela kule ngcinga kuba unokubona ukuba umfazi wakho akonwabanga emtshatweni. Usenokuba ugqibe ekubeni ahlale etshatile nawe, kodwa intliziyo yakhe ayisekho kuloo nto. 

• Uziphepha iincoko zokwenyani
• Ungumntu oqhelekileyo xa ekunye nabanye abantu kodwa akakwazi ukunxibelelana nawe
• Imbono yakhe ngomtshato ibonakala ngathi ayisekho
• Uluhlu lwezikhalazo luyaqhubeka lukhula, kodwa akabonakali enomdla wokwenza indima yakhe ukuphucula izinto.

USwaty uthi, “Indlela esinxibelelana ngayo iveza okuninzi malunga neemvakalelo zethu. Xa iqabane likhohlisa, unxibelelwano lixhoba lokuqala. Kuya kubakho ukuncipha ngequbuliso kokuchitha ixesha kunye, nityhila iintliziyo zenu omnye komnye, okanye nize nixoxe ngeenkcukacha ezikruqulayo zosuku lwenu ngomdla.”

4. Umfazi wakho ubonakala engakhululekanga ekhaya

Ikhaya yindawo ekhuselekileyo. Indawo apho umntu anokuba yiyo ngokupheleleyo. Umfazi wakho usenokuba utshintshile kule nkalo. USwaty uthi, “Umfazi okhohlisayo angathanda ukuhlala yedwa kwaye angabandakanyeki ngokweemvakalelo xa uzama ukunxibelelana naye.” Oku kusenokuba kungenxa yokuba uhlala elwa noloyiko lwakhe lokubanjwa kunye nomnqweno wakhe wokuba nentombi yakhe entsha. Uchitha ixesha elincinci nawe kwaye ixesha elininzi esenza izinto zakhe nokuba nobabini nisekhaya. Owayesakuba yintandokazi ixesha elibalulekile imenza angakhululeki ngoku.

5. Uneemvakalelo ezininzi eziguqukayo

Zithini iimpawu zomfazi okhohlisayo? Amagama amabini: utshintsho lweemvakalelo. Uxinzelelo kunye nokuphazamiseka kwangaphakathi okubangelwa kukungathembeki kunokwenza kube nzima kumfazi otshatileyo ukulawula iimvakalelo zakhe. Ungabona iimvakalelo zakhe zitshintsha kakhulu ngaphandle kwezizathu ezibonakalayo.

• Ngeentsuku zolonwabo, uyakukhathalela kwaye ubonakala ngathi uchitha ixesha elininzi
• Emva koko, ngequbuliso, uyadubula, uyakhala, aqale ukulwa ngento engenamsebenzi.

USwaty uthi: “Olu tshintsho lukhulu kwimeko yakhe yeemvakalelo lusenokubangelwa kukuba netyala lokuqhatha neemvakalelo zakhe ngeqabane awayethandana nalo lilawula ingqondo yakhe.

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6. Akabonakali enomdla ekwenzeni izicwangciso zexesha elizayo

Ukuba umfazi wakho uyakopela, ngequbuliso usenokuphelelwa ngumdla wokwenza izicwangciso zexesha elizayo nawe. Amaphupha eniwaphuhlisileyo njengesibini, izinto ezinje ngokuthenga indlu entsha, ukuba nabantwana, okanye ukwamkela isilwanyana sasekhaya, kubonakala ngathi acinyiwe engqondweni yakhe. Xa zidityaniswe nezinye iimpawu ezimbalwa, oku kufanelekile ukuthathelwa ingqalelo nzulu.

7. Ugqibele nini ukukuxelela ukuba uyakuthanda?

Mhlawumbi ubudlelwane benu budlule kwingxaki okwethutyana. Kodwa izinto ezimbalwa zahlala zinjalo. Uthi “Ndiyakuthanda” ngaphambi kokuba aye emsebenzini. Ukufaka ikhukhi eyongezelelweyo kwisidlo sakho sasemini. Ukuniqabula ngaphambi kokuba nilale. Kude kube ngoku. Ngoku, anisilwi nje kuphela, kodwa uyekile nokwenza ezo zenzo zincinci nezicingisisiweyo. Ungabala oku phakathi kweempawu eziqinisekisiweyo zokuqhatha. Xa abafazi beqhatha, bayayeka ukubeka imizamo kubudlelwane babo nabayeni babo.

8. Ukhalazela umtshato kakhulu kunakuqala

Into eyayisithi “Andikholelwa ukuba ulibele ukuhlamba izitya kwakhona!” iye yaba “Andicingi ukuba siyafanelana.” Ezona ngxaki zincinci zijika zibe kukugxekwa komtshato wenu. Mhlawumbi uqalisa ukulwa ukuze aqinisekise yena nawe ukuba umtshato awunakulungiswa. Ukuba umfazi wakho uneqabane umtshato osempilweni ukuthelekisa nokusilela kwayo kodwa usazifumana ebhala kwiikhathalogu, nika ingqalelo.

Iimpawu zedijithali nezefowuni zomfazi okhohlisayo

Kweli xesha ledijithali, imicimbi ye-intanethi batshintsha ingcamango yokuthembeka emtshatweni. Ukuthandana namhlanje akudingi magumbi ehotele okanye ukungabikho ixesha elide. Kunokuhlala nje kwiscreen sefowuni. Ukuba ubuzama ukufumana iimpawu zokuba umfazi wakho uyakrexeza, nantsi indawo ekufuneka ujonge kuyo kuqala.

9. Nika ingqalelo kwimikhwa yakhe yeselfowuni

Ukuba bekukho incwadi ethetha ngeempawu zabafazi abaqhathayo, bekuza kubakho isahluko esipheleleyo malunga nemikhwa yokufowuna kunye nokungathembeki. Ezinye zeempawu ezibalulekileyo ekufuneka uziqaphele:

• Ifowuni yakhe ixakeka rhoqo, nokuba ngamaxesha angaqhelekanga xa ungekho
• Usoloko ebhalela umntu
• Uye waqala wabeka ifowuni yakhe ejonge phantsi
• Iphone yakhe isoloko iku silent
• Uphatha ifowuni yakhe kuyo yonke indawo, kuquka negumbi lokuhlambela

USwaty wongeza athi, “Esinye sezibonakaliso ezicacileyo zokuba umfazi uyaqhatha efowunini kukuba uhlala exakekile phantse ngalo lonke ixesha kwaye ufihla kakhulu ukuba uthetha nabani. Ukuba umbuza umbuzo olula ofana nokuthi ‘Ngubani lowo?’, angawuphendula athi ‘Owu, sebenza nje’ okanye akugxeke ngokungamniki thuba.”

10. Uyaqhwaba qho xa ukufutshane nefowuni yakhe

Ayiphelelanga nje ekubeni ubudlelwane bakhe nefowuni yakhe butshintshile, kodwa kukho notshintsho kwindlela asabela ngayo xa ukufutshane nayo.

• Ubeke useto oluphambili lwegama lokugqitha kwifowuni yakhe. 
• Ayizizo nje kuphela ii-home screen kodwa nee-apps ezizodwa, kuquka ne-WhatsApp, ngoku zitshixiwe. Usenokungafuni ukuba ubone. ukukopela iqabane umyalezo obhaliweyo
• Uba ngumntu oguquguqukayo nongazolanga xa ukufutshane nefowuni yakhe
• Ukuba ucela ukuyiboleka imizuzu emihlanu, ufumana isizathu sokuthi hayi
• Ukuba uyayinika, ukulungele ukuyihlutha nangaliphi na ixesha

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11. Indlela abakhohlisi abafihla ngayo umkhondo wabo: ukucima imbali yesikhangeli

Ubona umfazi wakho echitha ixesha lakhe elininzi kwifowuni okanye kwikhompyutha yakhe kodwa xa ujonga imbali yakhe yesiphequluli, uyifumana isusiwe. Jonga kwakhona emva kweentsuku ezimbalwa. Isacinyiwe. Le yenye yezona mpawu ziqhelekileyo umfazi wakho ufihle into kuwe. Usula yonke imisebenzi yakhe aze aphume kuyo yonke iakhawunti. Inyani yokuba akafuni ukuba ube nombono wento ayenzayo kwi-intanethi, yona ngokwayo, yimbonakaliso ebalulekileyo. Ukuba ucokisekile kangaka ekugubungeleni umkhondo wakhe, unokufuna ukufunda ngezinye iindlela smart ukubamba umfazi wakho ukukopela

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Iimpawu zomzimba nezenkangeleko zokuba usenokuba uthandana nomntu othile

Ukuthandana nomntu kungayitshintsha indlela umfazi wakho aziva ngayo ngaye. Lonke olo qwalaselo lutsha kunye nokuqinisekiswa kunokongeza intwasahlobo entsha, engenakuphoswa kwinyathelo lakhe, kwaye kuya kubonakala kwindlela aziveza ngayo kwihlabathi. Ingasathethwa ke, indlela eyongezelelweyo aza kuyenza ukuze achukumise intombi yakhe entsha ngenkangeleko yakhe. Oku kushiya intsalela ebonakalayo yeendlela zokuziphatha ezibangela, "Kukho into engalunganga", ukuziva ngaphakathi kuwe okwenza amathumbu akho aqhume. 

12. Uqalile ukunxiba nokuthenga iimpahla ezintsha

Kanye Isigaba sehoneymoon siphelile, omabini amaqabane adla ngokuphumla omnye komnye aze anxibe ngendlela ekhululekileyo. Ngoko ke, ukuba umfazi wakho ngequbuliso unxiba ngendlela awayenxiba ngayo xa niqala ukuthandana, unxiba ukuze achukumise umntu. Kwaye kusenokwenzeka ukuba akuwena. Ukutyala imali ekuzinyamekeleni akuyonto ibalulekileyo. Kodwa ukuba wenza loo mzamo ngelixa engabonisi mdla kwimpendulo yakho, loo mzamo ngokucacileyo ujoliswe kwenye indawo. USwaty uthi, “Kwane-subconscious yethu isebenza ekusenzeni sibonakale sihle xa sijonge umntu esimthandayo. Yiyo loo nto ingqalelo ekhawulezileyo kwinkangeleko inokuba yenye yeempawu eziphambili ezibonakalayo zeqabane elikhohlisayo.”

13 Kukho into eyahlukileyo ngaye

Enye yezona mpawu zingathathelwa ngqalelo kukuba kukho into ethile ngomfazi wakho evakala yahlukile. Kufana nokuba kukho inxalenye yakhe ongenakukwazi ukuyifikelela. Indlela aziphethe ngayo itshintshile. Indlela aziphethe ngayo nawe itshintshile. Akukho lonwabo luninzi kwaye kukho into embi egqithileyo emtshatweni wakho. Ngalo lonke ixesha eziphatha ngendlela engafanelekanga, ilizwi entlokweni yakho liyabuza, “Ingaba uyakopa?”

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14. Utshintsho olukhulu kwinkangeleko

Enye ye iimpawu zomfazi oqhathayo kukuba wenza umzamo wokubonakala emncinci okanye enomtsalane ngakumbi, ngeendlela ezinokubonakala ziqatha okanye zingaqhelekanga. Ukufumana isitayile seenwele esitsha ngokupheleleyo. Ukutshintsha impahla yakhe yokunxiba ukuya kwiimpahla ezigxininisa umzimba wakhe. Ukufumana izinto eziqaqambileyo ngombala otsala amehlo. Ukuphinda kabini ukunciphisa ezo kilogram zimbalwa. Ukuba olo tshintsho lungaqhelekanga luya luxhaphaka, lunokuba yingxaki yexesha eliphakathi. Okanye lunokuba yindoda ebomini bakhe. Mhlawumbi zombini.

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Iimpawu Zoluntu Nezokucwangcisa Umtshato Wakho

Imicimbi ifuna ixesha kunye nengqalelo yomntu. Ukuba umfazi wakho uyibhekisa kwenye indoda, kufuneka iyitye ixesha kunye nengqalelo ebeyibekelwe wena. Kwaye ukwenza njani oko? Ngokuhlala efumana izizathu kunye nezizathu zokuba kude okanye angafumaneki kuwe nokuba ukhona ngokwasemzimbeni. Nazi ezinye iimpawu ezibalulekileyo ekufuneka uziqwalasele:

15. Ubomi bakhe bentlalo buye 'benzeka kakhulu'

Ukuchitha ixesha nabahlobo akuyonto ibalulekileyo kukodwa. Kodwa ukuba umfazi wakho, owayesoloko engumntu othanda umntu wasekhaya, ngequbuliso uqalise ukuphuma “namantombazana” rhoqo ngeempelaveki, kwaye uninzi lwezicwangciso zakhe azikubandakanyi, unesizathu sokuba nomdla wokwazi. Usenokuba usebenzisana nomfazi osebenzisa abahlobo bakhe njengesigqubuthelo sobudlelwane obungaphandle komtshato.

UEdward, umhlobo wam, wenza kanye loo nto xa wayekrokrela ukuba umfazi wakhe uTracy uyaxoka. Ngobunye ubusuku, wafowunela umhlobo uTracy awayephuma naye, wathi akakwazanga ukumfumana kwiselfowuni yakhe, waza wacela ukuthetha naye. Umhlobo wakhe wazama ukumfihla, kodwa ekugqibeleni kwafuneka avume ukuba wayengazi ukuba uphi uTracy. Yiyo loo ndlela awafumanisa ngayo inyaniso.

16. Uye wafumana 'umhlobo omtsha'

Qala ukuqwalasela ukuba kukho umntu angenakukwazi ukuyeka ukuthetha ngaye. Mhlawumbi ebekuxelela ngomhlobo wakhe omtsha uMichelle, indlela amhle ngayo, ixesha abalichitha kunye. Kodwa awukaze waziswa ngalo Michelle. Cinga ngesizathu. Ngaba kungenxa yokuba umntu omfumene emthanda ngokwenene nguMichael, hayi uMichelle? Okanye ityala lika umfazi otsaleleka komnye umfazi? Ngokuqinisekileyo, cebisa ukuba udibane nomhlobo okhankanywe apha. Ukuba umfazi wakho uphendula ngokuthi hayi, loo nto ikuxelela into ethile.

17. Imileage yemoto yakhe ayihambelani namabali akhe

URobert, oneminyaka engama-44 ubudala, wasePhiladelphia, uthi wayecinga ukuba i-paranoia yayimenza adideke xa eqala ukujonga indlela imoto yeqabane lakhe eyayihamba ngayo. “Umfazi wam uyandikhohlisa” wadlala ngendlela engaqondakaliyo entlokweni yakhe de waqala ukulandelela iinkcukacha. “Kwakuxa wathi uchithe intsasa yakhe e-spa iibhloko ezisibhozo ukusuka endlwini yethu kodwa imoto yakhe yayiqhutyelwe umgama omde kakhulu apho ndamjonga ekugqibeleni, waza wavuma,” utshilo. Wayengasenguye umyeni ongakhuselekanga wayegcwele ukurhanelwa. Wayenenyaniso, nangona yayibuhlungu.

18. Uphuhlise imikhwa emitsha nezinto anomdla kuzo

Xa abantu ababini bekunye, ngokwemvelo bayazikhethela imikhwa kunye nezinto abazithandayo. Ngaba umfazi wakho unezinye izinto ezintsha ongazange uziqaphele ngaphambili? 

• Kusenokwenzeka ukuba utshintshele kwi-single malt whiskey kuba indoda entsha ebomini bakhe iyithanda kakhulu. 
• Ndiqale ukunyuka amatye kuba yiloo nto ayenzayo
• Uphuhlise incasa ye-anime okanye i-jazz yanamhlanje
• Ukuba ukwimeko imeko yomfazi omdala, indoda encinci ngaphandle komtshato, izinto anomdla kuzo ziya kubonakala nangakumbi kuye

19. Zininzi kakhulu iimeko ezingxamisekileyo zomsebenzi

Ngaba umsebenzi sele uqalile ukuba yinto ephambili kubomi bomfazi wakho? Ukuba ebesoloko engumntu osebenza nzima, oku kusenokungathethi nto. Kodwa ukuba oku kuzibophelela ngequbuliso emsebenzini wakhe kutsha, kusenokuba lolunye lweempawu ezicacileyo zomfazi okhohlisayo. Ukusebenza emva kwexesha yeyona ndlela ilula yokuzifihla. Ukuba ebehlala eofisini ubusuku ngabunye okanye sele eqalile ukuya emsebenzini, usenokuba unengxaki. umcimbi weofisi okanye ukusebenzisa umsebenzi njengesizathu sokubona isithandwa sakhe.

20. Ukhangela izizathu zokuphuma endlwini

Enye yezona mpawu zicacileyo zokungathembeki kumfazi ofumana izizathu zokushiya ikhaya ngequbuliso. 

• Ibhinqa elalisoloko lidiniwe kakhulu ukuba lingakhathali nokuba amaqanda aphelile ngoku libaleka liye evenkileni ngo-10 ebusuku.
• Uvolontiya ukwenza imisebenzi awayeyiphepha ngaphambili
• Uchitha iimpelaveki ephawula uluhlu lwezinto amele azenze ngaphandle kwendlu

Loo tshintsho luphawulekayo kwindlela aziphatha ngayo lunokuthetha into enye kuphela: kukho enye into emtsala ingqalelo, kwaye ayiloluhlu lwezinto afuna ukuzenza.

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Iimpawu Zothando Olusondeleyo Umfazi Wakho Angakhohlisa

Ingxabano yangaphakathi yokuqhekeka phakathi kwamadoda amabini iphumela kwindlela umfazi wakho adibana ngayo nawe ngamaxesha enu okuthandana ngakumbi. Nika ingqalelo ukuba:

21. Ubomi bakho bokwabelana ngesondo buphelile

Ukungathembeki komfazi wakho kusenokuchaphazela ubudlelwane bakho bothando emtshatweni wakho. Ukuba uthandana nomnye umntu, usenokungaziva enqwenela ukubandakanyeka nawe ngokwesondo kwaye uya kufumanisa ukuba izizathu zokuphepha ukusondelelanaMhlawumbi akasaziva enomdla kuwe ngokwesondo. Mhlawumbi ukuziva enetyala lokukopa kuyamthintela. USwaty uthi, “Ukuncipha kobudlelwane bomzimba kunokuba yenye yeempawu ezibonisa ukuba umfazi wakho uthandana. Ukungabi namdla kwakhe wokuba nothando lobuhlobo nawe kusenokuba ngumphumo wokungatsaleleki okanye ukungakhathali ngokupheleleyo ngeqabane lakhe lomtshato.”

22. Ubonakala ekude nakwiimeko zakho zothando

UGqr. Bhonsle uthi, “Usenokuba akakuthandi ngokweemvakalelo kwaye angakuthandi xa nisenza isondo.” Ukuba ubuziva ngathi umfazi wakho une inceba ngesondo nawe, okanye nokuba ngamaxesha akho okuthandana, umzimba wakhe ukunye nawe kodwa ingqondo yakhe ikwenye indawo. Isenokuba yenye yeempawu zokuba umfazi wakho uthandana nomntu. Ukuphela kolwalamano, nokuba lolwasemzimbeni, lweemvakalelo, okanye lwesondo, yenye yezona ziphumo zixhaphakileyo zomfazi okhohlisayo.

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23. Uyakuphepha ukudibana nawe emehlweni

Le yenye yeempawu zomzimba ekunzima ukuzikhumbula zokuba umfazi wakho uyakopela. Umfazi wakho angazama ukuphepha ukukujonga emehlweni xa ethetha nawe. Ulwimi lwakhe lomzimba lubonisa ukuba uyazisola kwaye akakhululekanga xa ekunye nawe. Uyoyika ukuba uza kuyiqonda indlela aziva ngayo enetyala.

24. Ithuku lakho lethuku likuxelela njalo

Research ibonisa ukuba ingqiqo ingaphezulu nje kwemvakalelo. "Lulwazi olungabonakaliyo emzimbeni okanye engqondweni yethu olusinceda siqhubeke nobomi." Ngoko ke ukuba awukwazi ukuyithulisa ingcinga ethi "umfazi wam uthandana nomntu othile", qaphela. Asikokuxhalaba. Sisiphumo sengqondo yakho engaziyo efumana iimpawu ezifihlakeleyo nezingaqondakaliyo ezingachazwanga ngokupheleleyo engqondweni yakho.

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Iimpawu zemali zomfazi okhohlisayo

Ukungahambi kakuhle kwemali zezinye zezona mpawu zokungathembeki emtshatweni ezingathathelwa ngqalelo. uphando ngeenkqubo zokungathembeki emtshatweni ndifumanise ukuba iingxaki zemali kunye nobumfihlo bezemali zizinto eziphambili ezibangela ukungathembeki emtshatweni, njengesizathu kunye nesiphumo. Ukuba umfazi wakho uthandana nomntu, umkhondo wemali uya kuwutyhila ngaphambi kokuba kwenzeke nantoni na.

25. Iindleko zakhe zinyukile

Uzibuza ukuba ungazibona njani iimpawu zomfazi okhohlisayo? Ingxaki isenokuba ikwiinkcukacha zemali. Jonga iingxelo zeakhawunti yakhe yebhanki ngononophelo. Ungabona ukunyuka okukhulu kweendleko: 

• Amagumbi ehotele
• Izidlo sangokuhlwa
• Iimpahla ezintsha okanye iilounge
• Ukukhupha imali engahambelaniyo nantoni na akuxelele yona

Ezi ndleko zingaphantsi kwesiqhelo zinokuba ziimpawu zokuba umfazi uyamqhatha umyeni wakhe ezifuna incoko, nokuba oko kukhokelela ekubeni iingxoxo zobudlelwane ezinzima.

Ezinye iimpawu zemali ezifunekayo ukubukela:

• Ukutsalwa kwemali okungachazwanga, ingakumbi kumanani ajikelezayo
• Iingxelo ezintsha zekhadi letyala angathandabuzi ukwabelana ngazo
• Ihotele okanye i-Airbnb ihlawulisa ngemihla engahambelani nendawo echaziweyo kuyo
• Ukuthengwa kwiimveliso zempahla zangaphantsi okanye kwiindawo zokutyela ongazange uye kuzo kunye • Ukwanda kwe-Uber okanye umsebenzi wokwabelana ngenqwelo ngexesha elingaqhelekanga

Iimpawu Zokuba Umfazi Wakho Uneengxaki Zeemvakalelo

“Ukuthandana ngokwasemzimbeni akulohlobo lodwa lokungathembeki ekufuneka uluqaphele. Ukuthandana ngokweemvakalelo, apho umfazi wakho enza ulwalamano olunzulu ngokweemvakalelo nenye indoda ngaphandle kokudlwengulwa, kunokuba yingozi efanayo emtshatweni. Ngandlela thile, kunzima ukukubona kuba akunabo ubungqina obucacileyo bomzimba. Oko kukuthwalayo kukurhoxiswa kwamandla eemvakalelo kuwe, aqondiswe komnye umntu,” utshilo uGqr. Bhonsle. 

The iimpawu zobudlelwane obungokweemvakalelo Kubalulekile ukwazi ngokwahlukileyo ekuqhatheni ngokwasemzimbeni kuba ezi zinto zimbini zinokubonakala zahlukile. Nantsi indlela ukunganyaniseki ngokweemvakalelo okuqhele ukubonakala ngayo kumfazi:

• Ukhusela umhlobo wakhe wendoda ngendlela engafanelekanga. Ukuba uphakamisa amashiya, uqalisa ukuzikhusela okanye ukumangalela, okungaphezulu kakhulu kunokuba ubuhlobo bunokukuqinisekisa.
• Ukwabelana naye ngezinto awayehlala ekwabelana nawe ngazo. Umntu wokuqala amfowunelayo xa kukho into ehamba kakuhle. Lowo athetha naye xa kukho into engahambanga kakuhle.
• Uthelekisa nawe, ngamanye amaxesha ngokukhululekileyo. “Kutheni ungenakwenza izinto ngokukhululekileyo?” inokuba luphawu lokuba unomntu anokuthelekisa naye.
• Uthando lomzimba lusekhona, kodwa ulwalamano lweemvakalelo alusekho. Usalele ebhedini enye, kodwa yena akakho apho ngokwenene. • Ufihla unxibelelwano lwakhe nalo mntu. Uyahamba ukuze aphendule iifowuni, avale isikrini sakhe kuwe, okanye athethe ngaye ngokungakhathali ngenye imini aze angaphindi athethe.

Imicimbi yeemvakalelo idla ngokuqala njengobuhlobo obuwela umgca kancinci kancinci, apho kungekho mntu uzimisele ukuwuwela ekuqaleni. Okubenza bonakalise kakhulu kukuba iqabane elikhohlisayo likholelwa ngokwenene ukuba alenzi nto imbi, kuba akukho kuqhagamshelana ngokwasemzimbeni. Kodwa utyalo-mali ngokweemvakalelo, imfihlo, kunye nokubeka phambili olo lwalamano ngaphezu komtshato zonke ziindlela zokungcatsha. Xa kufika ubukhulu bomzimba, uthando lweemvakalelo ludla ngokuqhubeka kangangeenyanga.

UGqr. Aman Bhonsle, ugqirha weNgqondo

Uphando lubonisa ukuba uninzi lwe iimpawu zokukopela ngokweemvakalelo ukungathembeki emzimbeni kuyaqhubeka ixesha elide, ngenxa yokuba iqabane elikhohlisayo linokuthethelela ubudlelwane babo.

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Kutheni Umfazi Okhohlisayo Enokukutyhola Ngokukhohlisa

Olu lolunye lweempawu zokungathembeki ezimangalisayo nezixelwayo rhoqo. Umfazi wakho, othandana nomntu othandana naye, ngequbuliso uqala ukukutyhola ngokukopela. Okanye abe nomdla kakhulu malunga nendawo okuyo, ifowuni yakho, ubuhlobo bakho. Oku akuyonto ingaqhelekanga. Yingqondo yokuba netyala elibonakala ngexesha langempela.

Iingcali zengqondo zibiza oku ngokuthi yi-projection. Xa umntu esenza into aziyo ukuba ayilunganga, ngamanye amaxesha ngokungazi bathi loo ndlela yokuziphatha ibangelwa ngabanye abantu ukunciphisa ukungaqondani kwengqondo, ukungakhululeki kwengqondo kokuba neenkolelo ezimbini eziphikisanayo ngaxeshanye: “Ndingumntu olungileyo” kunye “Ndingumqhathi kumlingane wam.” Ukukutyhola ngokuqhatha yindlela enye yokulinganisa intsimi engqondweni yakhe.

Xa umntu okhohlisayo eqala ukutyhola iqabane lakhe ngokungathembeki, phantse luphawu lokuba netyala nokuqikelela kunokuba luphawu lokurhanela ngokwenene. Benza kumlingane wakhe oko baziyo ukuba bona ngokwabo banako ukukwenza. Ukugxekwa ngokugqithisileyo, umkhwa wokufumana iimpazamo kuyo yonke into oyenzayo, lolunye uphawu lwenkqubo efanayo yengqondo. Ngokukwenza ingxaki, iqabane elikhohlisayo linokuziqinisekisa okwethutyana ukuba ulwalamano lwabo lufanelekile ngandlela ithile.

UGqr. Aman Bhonsle, ugqirha weNgqondo

Ezi ziphakathi kwe- iimpawu ezingaqhelekanga zokukopela amadoda amaninzi awayiboni loo nto kuba indlela aziphatha ngayo ibonakala ngathi ayibonisi kubafazi bawo kunokuba ibonise kuye. Ukuba umfazi wakho usandula ukukukrokrela ngaphandle kwesizathu onokusibona, eso sisizathu esaneleyo sokujonga ngokusondeleyo oko akwenzayo.

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Okufanele Ukwenze Ukuba Ucinga Ukuba Umfazi Wakho Uyakopela

Ukuba ubunokuyiqonda uninzi lwezi mpawu, ukurhanela kwakho kusenokwenzeka ukuba kuguquke kube yinto eqinisekileyo. Oko kuyaphula intliziyo. Ingxaki yeemvakalelo okuyo ngoku iyinyani. Kodwa umtshato ubaluleke kakhulu ukuba ubudlelwane bunokulahlwa ngokuqhwanyaza, kwaye isigqibo esenziwe ngexesha lobuhlungu nomsindo asisoloko silungile. Nantsi indlela yokusingatha le nyathelo ngenyathelo.

1. Musa ukujongana ngokungxama

Eyona nto imbi onokuyenza kukujongana nomfazi wakho xa urhano lwakho luqala ukucaca. Iingxabano ezizalwa ziimvakalelo kunokuba zibe bubungqina zihlala ziphelela ekukhanyeleni, ekumangaleleni, nasekuqineni kwezikhundla. Zinike ixesha lokuqwalasela oko uvakalelwa kuko. Thetha nomhlobo othembekileyo okanye ingcali yezonyango. Fumana iingcinga zakho ngqo ngaphambi kokuba uthethe nto kuye.

2. Khangela ipateni, kungabi sisiganeko esinye

Utshintsho olunye lokuziphatha aluyondlela iqhelekileyo. Utshintsho oluphindwe kabini okanye kathathu lokuziphatha kwiiveki ezimbalwa lunokuba njalo. Ngaphambi kokuba uqalise nayiphi na incoko, zinike ixesha lokujonga. Into oyifunayo kukuhambelana: iimpawu ezifanayo zibonakala ngokuphindaphindiweyo, kungekhona kube kanye kuphela ezinokuba nengcaciso engenatyala.

3. Yincokoni ngoxolo

Xa ulungile, khetha ixesha elizolileyo neliyimfihlo. Lisebenzise njengencoko, hayi ukubuza imibuzo. Yabelana ngento oyibonileyo: ukuziphatha okuthile, hayi ukumangalela. Mkhuthaze ukuba athethe inyaniso. Ukuba unobungqina, eli lixesha lokubuveza. Musa ukungxama, kwaye umnike ithuba lokuveza icala lakhe lebali.

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4. Hlola impendulo yakhe ngononophelo

Ngaba uyazisola ngokwenene? ​​Ngaba ukulungele ukuthatha uxanduva? Okanye uyaphambuka, ebeka izizathu, kwaye ekhangela iindlela zokukugxeka? Ukuba ukuzisola kwakhe kuyinyani kwaye utyalo-mali lwakho emtshatweni lusekhona, ungacinga ngokucinga. usebenza ekulungiseni umtshato wakho endaweni yokuyiphelisa ngoko nangoko.

5. Funa inkxaso yengcali

Nokuba ugqiba ekubeni uhlale okanye uhambe, iingcebiso ngezibini zinokukunceda ujongane nale ngxaki ngendlela ecwangcisiweyo nexhaswayo. Iphaneli yeengcebiso zeBonobology silapha ngenxa yakho. Unyango lomntu ngamnye luxabiseke ngokulinganayo. Udinga indawo yokujongana nentlungu yakho, umsindo, kunye nokudideka, nokuba kwenzeka ntoni emtshatweni.

6. Yazi ukuba ukuhamba lukhetho olufanelekileyo

Ayizizo zonke iintsapho ezinokuthi zihlale zingathembekanga okanye ekufuneka zihlale zingathembekanga. Ukuba azisoleki, ukuba ukuthembana kwakho kuphelile ngokupheleleyo, ukuba awukwazi ukubona indlela eya phambili. Ukuhamba sisigqibo esifanelekileyo. Awunyanzelekanga ukuba wakhe kwakhona into ekhethwe ngomnye umntu ukuyitshabalalisa.

Iingcinga Final

Ukufumanisa ukuba umntu okhethe ukumthanda nokwabelana naye ngobomi bakho ukhethe ukungcatsha ukuthembana kwakho kunokuba buhlungu kakhulu. Nokuba nisuka phi na, nokuba nihlala kunye nizabalazela okanye nikhetha ukwahlukana, yazini ukuba indlela engaphambili ayizukuba lula. Nangona kunjalo, ngokuhamba kwexesha nangomzamo onyanisekileyo, intlungu iya kuphela kwaye niya kuqala ukuphola. Nokuba umtshato uyasinda okanye awusayi kusinda, niya kusinda. Siyathemba ukuba niza kufumana uxolo emva kwesi siphepho.

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Umnikelo wakho awuquki isisa umnikelo. Iya kuvumela i-Bonobology ukuba iqhubeke nokukuzisela ulwazi olutsha nolwangoku kwiphulo lethu lokunceda nabani na osehlabathini ukuba afunde ukwenza nantoni na.