Top 20 Relationship Deal Breakers ukuba akufuneki iNyamezelwe

Ukuwa eluthandweni akufani nokugcina ubudlelwane. Nangona uthando luyinxalenye ebalulekileyo yobudlelwane, ayisiyiyo yonke into kunye nesiphelo sayo yonke into. Kusoloko kukho ezinye non-negotiables ukuba nje awukwazi ukujonga ngaphaya nokuba uthando lungakanani na. Kwaye apha siyakunceda ukuba uchonge ngoluhlu lwethu lwabangama-20 abaqhekezayo bobudlelwane.

Kweli nqaku, i-trauma-informed counseling psychologist Anushtha Mishra (M.Sc. Counseling Psychology), ogxile ekuboneleleni ngonyango kwiinkxalabo ezifana nokwenzakala, imiba yobudlelwane, ukudandatheka, ukuxhalaba, usizi, kunye nesithukuthezi, phakathi kwabanye, ubhala ukukunceda ukuba uqonde kakuhle ukuba ubudlelwane bobudlelwane buthetha ntoni kunye nendlela yokuyiqonda.

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Intsingiselo yokoqobo yokwaphula isivumelwano yinto enokubangela ukuba umntu alahle isicwangciso, ulungelelwaniso, isivumelwano, okanye ubudlelwane. Oku kunokuba yindlela yokuziphatha, ixabiso, okanye uphawu lweqabane lakho ongavumelaniyo nalo.

Banceda ukubona ukuziphatha okungenampilo, iindima zobudlelwane obungalungelelananga, okanye iimeko ezinokuba yingozi kubudlelwane bakho, ngokusisiseko ukuthintela ubudlelwane obungenampilo. Ukujonga ukucinywa kobudlelwane sisihluzo sokuqala esisetyenziselwa ukukhangela naziphi na iiyantlukwano ezingundoqo kunye nendlela yokuphila. Ukunxibelelana nezi kunokusondeza wena kunye neqabane lakho elinokubakho ukuba ninokufumana indawo ephakathi, okanye oku kunokuba sisiqalo sokuphela kohambo lwenu njengesibini.

Top 20 Relationship Deal Breakers ukuba akufuneki iNyamezelwe

Ngamanye amaxesha, kukho izinto ezithile ezinokukwenza uthi “Ndigqibile” nokuba umthanda ngokunzulu umntu okanye benikunye ixesha elininzi. Isenokuvakala ingqongqo, kodwa ukuba nezaphuli-mthetho endaweni kunokukukhusela ekuzibandakanyeni kubudlelwane obuyityhefu nobuyingozi.

Nazi ezinye izinto ezibalulekileyo ekufuneka ziqwalaselwe. Okokuqala, ukuba iqabane lakho lihlala likwenza uzive ujongelwe phantsi okanye ungahlonelwa, oko kunokukuphelisa ukuzithemba nolonwabo. Ukongeza, ukuba abahoyi iimvakalelo kunye nezimvo zakho, kunokubonisa ukungabikho kwenkxaso yeemvakalelo kunye nokuqinisekiswa. Ukulawula ukuziphatha, njengokubeka esweni imisebenzi yakho okanye ukwahlukanisa nabantu obathandayo, yenye iflegi ebomvu ebalulekileyo. Unxibelelwano olulambathayo, iinkolelo zonqulo ezichaseneyo, iimbono ezahlukeneyo zezopolitiko, njl. Nalu uluhlu lwezaphuli-mthetho zokukunceda ufumane ukuqonda ngokuziphatha ekungafanelanga ukuba kunyanyezelwe:

1. Bane-ego enkulu

Masithi uye kumhla wokuqala kunye neqabane elinokubakho, kwaye ubusuku bonke, abazange baqhayise ngeziqu zabo kuphela kodwa bahlala begxeka ukuziphatha kwakho. Kunzima ukucinga ngobudlelwane bothando nomntu ohlala ebonisa iipatheni ezinjalo ekuhambeni kwexesha. Ukuqhayisa nokugxeka kwabo kunokukwenza uzive ufuthaniselwe kwaye ucinezelekile, kukushiya ukuba ujongane nemvakalelo eqhubekayo yokugweba kunye nokugculelwa.

Inokudala imeko apho uziva ungasebenzi kwaye ungakwazi ukuba nguwe wenene. Ukwakha ubuhlobo obunempilo nobothando kufuna intlonipho, inkxaso, nokwamkelana. Xa umntu engakwazi ukunika ezi mpawu zisisiseko, yenye yezona zibalulekileyo ubudlelwane iiflegi ebomvu. Kuya kuba nzima ukuba nombono wekamva kunye apho ninokuphumelela kwaye nizive nithandwa kwaye nixatyiswa ngokwenene.

2. Baxoka kakhulu

Lo ngomnye wabaphuli bezinto ezininzi kubudlelwane bomfazi kunye nendoda. Ukuxokiswa liqabane kunokuba buhlungu kakhulu kuba kubetha kumbindi wonxibelelwano olusondeleyo owabelana ngalo. Ukuthembana sisiseko salo naluphi na ulwalamano olunempumelelo, yaye xa oko kuthenjwa kuphulwa, kunokukhokelela kumanxeba anzulu angokweemvakalelo. Nokuba ibandakanya ubuxoki obubalulekileyo okanye ubuxoki obumhlophe, impembelelo inokuba yingozi ngokulinganayo.

Ukuthembana okonakeleyo kunokubangela uxinezeleko lweemvakalelo nengqondo. Kungcono ukuba uhambe kubudlelwane ukuba nobabini anikwazi ukuphinda nakhe ukuthembana okanye nini iqabane lakho ubuxoki kuwe ngayo yonke into ngaphandle kokuba uwusombulule lo mba.

3. Banemikhwa emibi

Imikhwa engalunganga inokuchaphazela kakhulu ubudlelwane njengoko inokubangela unxunguphalo, ingxabano, kunye nenzondo phakathi kwamaqabane. Ukuziphatha okuthile kunokuba yingxaki kwaye kucinezele amandla obudlelwane. Eminye imikhwa eqhelekileyo engalunganga enokuthi isebenze njengabaphuli bezivumelwano ziquka:

• Ukuhlukunyezwa kwesiyobisi: Ukusetyenziswa kakubi kweziyobisi, njengokusela kakhulu okanye ukuba likhoboka leziyobisi, kunokonakalisa kakhulu umntu kunye nobudlelwane. Kunokukhokelela kukwenzakala ngokweemvakalelo nangokwasemzimbeni, uxinezeleko lwemali, nokuwohloka kwentembeko nonxibelelwano
• Ukunqongophala kococeko lobuqu: Ukungalukhathaleli ucoceko lobuqu kunokuba lilize. Ukungahoywa okuzingisileyo kucoceko olusisiseko nokuzilungisa kusenokubonisa ukungazikhathaleli nolwazelelelo ngokuthuthuzela iqabane. Ndithetha ukuthi, awufuni ukuhlala neqabane elihlala linuka kakubi
• Izakhono zonxibelelwano ezingalunganga: Unxibelelwano olusebenzayo lubalulekile kulwalamano oluphilileyo. Imikhwa engalunganga yokunxibelelana, njengokuhlala uphazamisa, ukuchasa, okanye ukuphepha iincoko ezibalulekileyo kunokuthintela ukuqonda kunye nokwenza umgama weemvakalelo.
• Ukungakhathali kwezemali: Iingxabano ezinxulumene nemali zingunobangela oqhelekileyo woxinzelelo kubudlelwane. Imikhwa engalunganga yokulawula imali enje ngokuchitha ixesha elininzi, amatyala amaninzi, okanye ukusilela ukufaka isandla kwiindleko ekwabelwana ngazo kunokubangela uxinzelelo olukhulu kwaye kubangele ukuba ungaboni ngasonye.

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4. Azikho xa uzifuna

Ubudlelwane obuhle busekelwe kukuxhomekeka okunempilo okukhuthaza ukuziva ukhuselekile kunye nokukwazi ukuthembela kwiqabane lakho. Cinga ngemeko apho ulahlekelwa ngumntu omthandayo, njengokufelwa ngumntu omthandayo. Ngeli xesha losizi, uphendukela kwiqabane lakho ufuna intuthuzelo nokuqonda. Nangona kunjalo bayazihlukanisa ngokwasemoyeni, bephepha iincoko malunga neentlungu zakho okanye ukusilela ukukunika intuthuzelo. Ukungabikho kwabo ngexesha lakho leemfuno kukhulisa usizi lwakho kwaye kudala imvakalelo yokuba yedwa, kukushiya ungabaza ukuzinikela kwabo kubudlelwane.

Ukuba bahlala besilela ukuzalisekisa lo mba usisiseko wobudlelwane, kunokuba yimfuneko ukuphinda uphonononge ukuba ubudlelwane buhlangabezana neemfuno zakho kwaye ucinge ukuba unokuhamba uye kufuna ubambiswano apho iimfuno zakho zovakalelo zihlonitshwa kwaye zizalisekiswa.

5. A big deal breaker kuxa iqabane lakho alikuthembi kakhulu

Ukuthembela yinxalenye ebalulekileyo yayo nayiphi na ubudlelwane obuxhomekeke omnye komnye. Ukuvavanya ukubaluleka kokuthembela kubudlelwane, a isifundo yaqhutywa. Ifumanise ukuba wonke umthathi-nxaxheba uvumile ukuba ukuthembana licandelo eliphambili ekwenzeni ubudlelwane obusondeleyo busebenze. Ukungathembeki kunokujongeka ngolu hlobo:

• Bahlala bejonga ifowuni yakho
• Abayi kukuvumela ukuba uhlale nabanye
• Bahlala bethandabuza ilizwi lakho okanye iinjongo zakho
• Bayathandabuza ukunyaniseka kwakho kubo
• Awunakuba neeakhawunti zebhanki ezahlukeneyo kuba abakuthembi ngemali

Abantu ababini abathandanayo ngokwemvelo bahlakulela iqhina lokuthembana. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba ekuhambeni kwexesha, uvakalelwa kukuba awukwazi ukufumana intembeko yeqabane lakho ngenxa yemicimbi yabo, kungcono ukuhamba ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo kunokuba ube lusizi kunye.

6 Nobabini nineenkolelo ezahlukeneyo

Ngokucacileyo awukwazi ukufumana yonke into malunga nomntu ngomhla wokuqala ukuze kube yinto eyothusayo ukuqaphela ukuba wena kunye neqabane lakho ninenkqubo yenkolelo eyahluke kakhulu xa kufikwa kwiinkolelo zonqulo kunye nezimvo zezopolitiko. Ukuba uthandana nomntu ongaboni ngasonye kwimiba yokholo, yezopolitiko, kunye namalungelo oluntu asisiseko, unokufumana indlela enempilo yokunxibelelana oko. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba uneembono ezahlukileyo kakhulu ezibangela ukuba ulwe ngalo lonke ixesha, kuya kufuneka ubingelele kobo budlelwane.

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7. Kukho isiganeko sokungathembeki

Okanye ngaphezu kwesinye. Ngayo yonke le nto yokungathembeki, umngcipheko wokungathembeki uqhubela phambili, enye enye yeengxaki eziphezulu nakwintsebenziswano ephumelelayo. A Uphando lwe-YouGov ingxelo yokuba i-33% yabaphenduli kubudlelwane bomntu omnye bathi baye baqhatha iqabane labo - mhlawumbi ngokomzimba, ngokweemvakalelo, okanye zombini. Nangona kunjalo, abantu abahlukeneyo banemibono eyahlukeneyo kunye nemilinganiselo yokungathembeki. Nantsi eminye imizekelo:

• Iqabane lakho liye labandakanyeka kumcimbi womzimba kunye namanye amaqabane
• Iqabane lakho linomcimbi weemvakalelo nomntu (oku kuthetha ukutsaleleka ngokweemvakalelo kumntu ongeloqabane lakho)
• Iqabane lakho lizibandakanya kwimicimbi yenyani; ukuthumela imiyalezo okanye ukudlala ngothando nabantu kwi-Intanethi
• Iqabane lakho lithumela i-sext nomnye umntu kwaye lifihla ubuhlobo

Xa iqabane lakho likwenza uzive ungonelanga kubo, ngokuqinisekileyo kukwaphula isivumelwano sobudlelwane.

8. Abahloniphi

Intlonipho yeyona nto ibalulekileyo kulwalamano. Ukungahloniphi okanye ukungabikho kwentlonipho kubudlelwane idla ngokusukela kukungalingani kwamandla apho elinye iqabane lenziwa ukuba lizive lingaxabisekanga. Oku kunokubangela ukuba ubudlelwane buphele kuba, ekuhambeni kwexesha, ukungahloneli kunokukhokelela kwingqumbo kunye nokuxhatshazwa, ukudala umjikelo wokuziphatha okuyityhefu. Nazi ezinye iimpawu zokungahloniphi kubudlelwane:

• Iingxelo kunye nezenzo ezichasayo
• Ukusebenzisa izithuko okanye intetho ethobayo
• Ukungahoyi ngokupheleleyo imida yakho
• Ukukuthob' isidima esidlangalaleni okanye kukwenza uzive ungonwabanga
• Ukunqongophala konxibelelwano kunye nokuphulaphula ngokukhawuleza

9. Iqabane lakho linobundlobongela

Ubundlobongela kubudlelwane yinto eyophula isivumelwano kwaye akumele kunyanyezelwe. Nanga amanye amanqaku aphambili ukuqaqambisa ukubaluleka kobundlobongela njengesaphuli-mthetho:

• Ubundlobongela, nokuba busemzimbeni, ngokweemvakalelo, okanye ngokwesondo kukwaphulwa okucacileyo kwentembeko, intlonipho kunye nokhuseleko phakathi kobudlelwane
• Naluphi na uhlobo lobundlobongela alwamkelekanga kwaye lunokubangela umonakalo omkhulu ngokwasemzimbeni nasengqondweni kwixhoba
• Idala indawo enetyhefu neyingozi eyonakalisa impilo-ntle yabo kwaye inokuba neziphumo ezihlala ixesha elide kwimpilo yabo yengqondo neyomzimba.
• Ugonyamelo lusitshabalalisa isiseko solwalamano oluphilileyo nolunothando, lwenza kube nzima ukuseka ukuthembana, ukunxibelelana ngokukhululekileyo nokusondelelana ngokweemvakalelo. Yenye yezinto omelwe kukuyenza ungaze ulalanise kubudlelwane
• Kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuba ugonyamelo alupheleliselwanga kukubethwa. Ukuphathwa gadalala ngokwasemoyeni, okufana nokukhohlisa, ukugrogrisa, okanye ukulawula ukuziphatha, nako kunokugqalwa njengobundlobongela kwaye kuyingozi ngokulinganayo.

10. Balindele ukuba ulalanise kwiinjongo zakho

Xa iqabane lakho lifuna ukuba uncame iinjongo zakho zobomi, inokuba yinto ebalulekileyo yokwaphula ubudlelwane. Omnye wemiba ebalulekileyo yentsebenziswano ezalisekisayo kukukwazi ukuxhasana nokukhulisa iminqweno yomnye nomnye. Kubalulekile ukuthathela ingqalelo oku njengesaphuli-mthetho njengoko kuya kukhokelela koku kulandelayo:

• Ukunqongophala kolwaneliseko lobuqu
• Ukungalingani kwizinto eziphambili
• Ukukhula komntu okulinganiselweyo
• Ukungabikho kwenkxaso
• Imibono engahambelaniyo yekamva
• Ingqumbo nokungonwabi

11. Akukho kuhambelana ngokwesondo

A Umsebenzisi weQuora uthi, “Ukuhambelana ngokwesini kubalulekile kulwalamano. Uqhawulo-mtshato oluninzi nokwahlukana kwenzeka ngenxa yokuba iintlobano zesini zingafanelekanga. Iintlobano zesini ezingafanelekanga zisenokuba ngumphumo wenye into eyenzekayo kulwalamano. Ngoko ke, luphawu kungekhona imeko.” Le yingongoma ebalulekileyo ekufuneka iphakanyiswe. Luphawu lwengxaki enkulu kodwa isesisizathu esaneleyo sokuba wenze isigqibo sokuba ngaba ubudlelwane abusasebenzi kuwe. Lixesha lokuba ulungise izinto okanye upakishe kwaye uhambe xa oku kusenzeka ngalo lonke ixesha:

• Ngabo kuphela abaqala ngesondo ngalo lonke ixesha
• Uchitha ixesha elininzi ucinga ngendlela embi ngayo isini
• Uqale ukoyika ubusuku bomhla kuba kuya kukhokelela ekudibaneni ngesondo neqabane lakho

12. Abakakulungeli ukwenza umgudu

Ubudlelwane ayisiyondlela egudileyo eya kwi-fairyland. Bafuna umsebenzi ukuze baqhubeke bebaleka njengomatshini othanjiswe kakuhle. Xa iqabane lakho alikakulungeli ukubeka kuloo mzamo, yiflegi enkulu ebomvu kuba ithetha ukuba awusoze ube kwiphepha elifanayo xa kuziwa kwintlalontle yobudlelwane bakho. Ukuba ujonge ubudlelwane obuzinzileyo, bexesha elide, ezi ndlela zokuziphatha zeqabane lakho ziimpawu zokuhamba:

• Kunqabile ukuqalisa okanye ukuthatha inxaxheba kwiincoko okanye iingxoxo ezinentsingiselo
• Ukuzirhoxisa rhoqo okanye ukuhlenga-hlengisa izicwangciso ngaphandle kwezizathu ezibambekayo okanye amanye amalungiselelo
• Ukungakhathali ukubonakalisa uxabiso okanye umbulelo ngemigudu okanye izimbo zomzimba zomnye
• Ukuphepha uxanduva okanye imisebenzi yasekhaya enegalelo ekusebenzeni ngokubanzi kobudlelwane
• Ukwala ukufuna uncedo lobuchwephesha okanye unyango lwesibini xa ujongene nemiceli mngeni ebalulekileyo okanye iingxabano
• Ukungaphumeleli ukubeka phambili ixesha elisemgangathweni kunye okanye ukutyeshela ukucwangcisa nokuthatha inxaxheba kwimisebenzi ekwabelwana ngayo
• Ukungahoyi okanye ukugxotha iimfuno zeemvakalelo kunye neenkxalabo zeqabane
• Ukubonisa ukunqongophala komdla ekuqondeni nasekuxhaseni iinjongo zomntu ngamnye kunye neminqweno

13. Ukuba krwada kweqabane lakho kuwe nakwabanye kukwaphula isivumelwano

Xa bekrwada kubantu ongabaziyo kunye nawe, luphawu lokuba iqabane lakho alinakufanelana nawe. Basenokutyekela ekubeni nobubele kumalungu entsapho yabo okanye kuwe, nto leyo ethetha kakhulu ngobume babo. Amagqabaza ayintlekisayo ngenkangeleko yakho, impumelelo, imvelaphi, nezinye iindlela ezininzi iqabane elinokububonakalisa ngalo ubukrwada. Awufanelanga nayiphi na loo nto. Le yenye yezona zinto zibuhlungu kuluhlu lwethu lwabaphuli besivumelwano kubudlelwane babafana kunye namantombazana.

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14. Babelana ngesondo

Ukuba iqabane lakho lithandana ngokuthe ngqo okanye lingabonakalisi ngokwesini, lulwazi malunga neengqondo zabo kunye nemeko. Iimpawu ezimbalwa ekufuneka uziqwalasele:

• Bajongela phantsi impumelelo yakho kunye neyabanye abafazi kunye nesini esingakhathalelwanga
• Abazithatheli ngqalelo nzulu iingxelo zokuxhatshazwa kwabantu
• Bakuhlazisa ngomzimba wakho
• Abakuceli imvume yakho ngexesha lokuthandana okanye ukwenza izigqibo rhoqo
• Benza iziqhulo ngeendleko zesini esinye
• Bayala ukwabelana ngoxanduva lwemali ngenxa yesini sakho

Ezi ziimpawu zeqabane eliyityhefu kunye iiflegi ezibomvu kwindoda ukuba igadiwe. Kuvumelekile ngokupheleleyo ke ukuba uthabathe unyawo lwakho ngaphandle kolu tshintsho, kunye nokwaphula isivumelwano esifanelekileyo kuwe kubudlelwane.

15. Banobuhlanga

UMaria wathandana nomfana owathi kamva waqala ukudlulisa izithuko zocalucalulo kunye namagqabantshintshi ngaye nakubantu beentlanga ezicinezelweyo. Uthi kwakubuhlungu yaye kwakumkhathaza ukubona umntu amthandayo egculela yena nakwabanye. Wongezelela ngelithi, “Kwandithatha ixesha ngaphambi kokuba ndiqonde ukuba le yingxaki kum, njengoko ndandingazange ndiyibone eyona nto wayeyithetha ngaphambili.

16 Abakwazi ukulawula umsindo wabo;

Umsindo yimvakalelo enamandla kwaye uyingozi njengomlilo wasendle ukuba awulawulwa. Ulwalamano oluninzi luyaqhawuka ngenxa yokuba iqabane lingayazi indlela yokusingatha imiba yomsindo okanye indlela yokulawula umsindo nonxunguphalo. Ukuba iqabane lakho alikakulungeli ukubeka emsebenzini ukulawula ezi mvakalelo ukusuka ekuhambeni, kububulumko ukuphinda ucinge ngobudlelwane kuba inokuxhaphaza ngokunjalo.

17. Awuyiyo into ephambili kwiqabane lakho

Ukuba iqabane lakho flakes kuwe rhoqo, akabeki iinzame kwizihlandlo ezikhethekileyo, kwaye uyala zonke iileyibhile ukuzibophelela ixesha elide, ngoko awuyonto ephambili kubo. Sonke sifuna ukuba phambili kwabanye bethu ababalulekileyo kwaye xa le mfuno ingahlangatyezwanga, inokukhokelela kwingqumbo kunye nodano. Ukuba sele uqalile ukuziva ngathi lukhetho kubudlelwane, ingaba le nto ubungathanda ukuhlala nayo?

18 Awunakukwazi ukuba nguwe phakathi kwabo

IQuora umsebenzisi uthi: “Ndikhetha ukuba ndedwa kunokuba ndibe kulwalamano lothando ukuba andonwabanga.” Uzityala wena (nakuye kwakhona), ukunyaniseka ngokupheleleyo kwindlela izinto ezihamba ngayo.Ulwalamano oluhle luvuleleke kunxibelelwano.” Bendingenako ukuyibeka ngcono. Ukuba iyazenzisa, iya kukuzisela ubomi bentlungu. Yiyo loo nto ukungakwazi ukuba wena kunye neqabane ukuthandana yenye phezulu ukuthandana deal-zaphuli.

19. Uneenjongo ezahlukeneyo zobudlelwane

Xa ingcamango yakho yokuzibophelela ihluka, izicwangciso zakho zeminyaka emi-5 azihambelani, kwaye izicwangciso zakho zangoku azihambelani, luphawu lokuba nobabini ninenjongo ezahlukeneyo zobudlelwane. Oku kuya kukhokelela kukunganeliseki kakhulu kubudlelwane bothando kwaye mhlawumbi akuyi kukunceda ekwakheni ubudlelwane obuphilileyo kunye nomnye. Nantsi eminye imizekelo yomahluko kwiinjongo:

• Elinye iqabane linqwenela ubudlelwane bomfazi omnye ngelixa elinye li-polyamorous
• Omnye ufuna ukuzibophelela kunye nobudlelwane bexesha elide, ngelixa elinye linelisekile ngobudlelwane obuqhelekileyo okanye obufutshane
• Omnye ufuna ukuqala intsapho, kwaye omnye unomdla wokulondoloza indlela yokuphila yokuzimela
• Elinye iqabane lifuna ukubeka phambili ukuqhubela phambili kwekhondo lomsebenzi kunye nempumelelo yomntu, ngelixa elinye lixabisa indlela elungeleleneyo ngakumbi ngokugxila kusapho kunye nobudlelwane bomntu.
• Elinye iqabane linqwenela ukuhamba rhoqo kwaye lijonge izinto ezintsha, ngelixa elinye likhetha uzinzo kunye nemvakalelo enengcambu yekhaya.
• Elinye iqabane lijolise kukhuseleko lwezemali kunye nokucwangciswa kwemali kwexesha elide, ngelixa elinye linendlela yokungakhathali kwezemali kunye nenkcitho.

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20 Unesimilo nemilinganiselo echaseneyo

Ukuba ukuziphatha kwakho kunye nemilinganiselo yakho engundoqo yahlukile kweyeqabane lakho, nina nobabini niya kudibana kwiingxabano ezenzakalisayo kwaye nisoloko niphikisana. Ezi mpikiswano ziya kwanda kuphela ekuhambeni kwexesha, kwakhona zikhokelela kwingqumbo kunye nokuba nokwenzeka kokuguqukela kubudlelwane obuyityhefu. Inokuba yinto elula njengemikhwa emibi yemali, ukuziphatha komsebenzi, umahluko kwiimfuno zexesha elisemgangathweni, ukuhlonipha abanye, iimbono zokuphendula, njl.

Yintoni enokuba yindwe enkulu ebomvu kuwe isenokungabi ngumcimbi komnye umntu. Ekugqibeleni, kuya kufuneka wenze isigqibo sokuba kukho into engenakuxoxisana nawe. Ungasoloko ufikelela kumntu omthembileyo ogwebayo ukuba akukhokele kule nto. Nangona kunjalo, isigqibo sokugqibela siya kuba sesakho. Oku akuthethi ukuba kuya kuba lula, kodwa uya kuzibulela ngokuvavanya abaphuli besivumelwano sakho kunye nokwenza oko.

Eli nqaku lihlaziywe ngoJuni ka-2023.

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