Ukuba umngane nesithandwa sakho kudlula nje ukwabelana ngombhede noma ukuphila ndawonye. Kumayelana nokuhlakulela ukuxhumana kwangempela okusekelwe ekwethembaneni, ekuhloniphaneni, nasezintshisakalweni ezabiwe. Kumayelana nokujabulela ukuba ndawonye, ukuhleka ndawonye, nokuxhasana ebubini nasebubini.
Ubungane bungcono kakhulu kunocansi
Okuqukethwe
Iqiniso liyatshelwa, ngibe nobusuku obuningi bocansi eminyakeni yami engamashumi amabili nanye kulo Mhlaba. Kodwa uyazi ukuthi yini engcono kunobusuku obushisayo bocansi? Ubusuku obuningi, obuningi bobungani obushisayo. Uhlobo lobungane engibelana ngalo nesithandwa sami kanye nomngani omkhulu wakusasa.
Ake sihlole izizathu zokuthi kungani ubungane bungcono kakhulu kunobulili, nokuthi ukuhlakulela lesi sibopho esijulile kungaholela kanjani othandweni olwanelisayo noluhlala njalo.
- Ubungane buyitshe Legumbi: Ukusondelana kwangempela nokuxhumana kwakhelwe phezu kokuhlangenwe nakho okwabiwe, ukusekelwana, nokuqonda kwangempela, okudlula kude injabulo edlulayo yokusondelana ngokomzimba.
- Ukugcwaliseka Kwesikhathi Eside: Nakuba ngokungangabazeki ubulili bujabulisa, umfutho wabo ngokuvamile uyaphela ngokuhamba kwesikhathi. Nokho, ubungane buyakhula ngokuhleka okuhlanganyelwe, izingxoxo, nokukhulana, okunikeza ukwaneliseka okuhlala njalo.
- I-Weathering Life's Storms: Ngezikhathi zobunzima, ubungane bomuntu omthandayo obunikeza induduzo namandla. Uzakwethu osekelayo unikeza induduzo, ukuqonda, kanye nehlombe ongancika kulo, edlula ukuphazamiseka kwesikhashana kwezocansi.
- Amaphupho Nezifiso Kwabiwe: Umngane weqiniso wabelana ngamaphupho akho, akhuthaze izifiso zakho, futhi agubhe impumelelo yakho. Lokhu kuxhumana kudala umqondo ojulile wenhloso nokugcwaliseka okudlula indawo yenyama.
- Ukusondelana Kwemizwa: Izingxoxo ezijulile, ukukhubazeka okwabiwe, nokwamukela okungenamibandela kukhuthaza ukusondelana ngokomzwelo, ingcina ehlanganisa imiphefumulo emibili. Leli zinga lokusondelana alikwazi ukuphindwa ukusondelana ngokomzimba kuphela.
Nokho, kwakungenjalo ngaso sonke isikhathi.
Ngaphambi kokukhanyiselwa ngezinzuzo zomuntu siqu zokuba isithandwa sakho sibe umngane wakho omkhulu, nami ngajaha i-mystique yendoda eyinkimbinkimbi. Ngabheka u-anyanisi, endishini egcwele imifino, engangingayicwecwa kodwa ngingaqondi ngokugcwele. Kube khona okuthile okujabulisayo nokwamanye amazwe mayelana nokungaziwa, futhi yilokho kanye engangikufuna ebuhlotsheni: isibani semfihlakalo, (ngisho noma kwakusho izinyembezi zezikhathi ezithile).
Kodwa ingabe imfihlakalo igcina ubudlelwano buqinile? Ungakwazi yini ukuqhubeka nokujaha injabulo yobunzima futhi uzitholele umlingani wokuphila kwakho konke endleleni?
“Ubudlelwano obuhle kakhulu bakhelwe phezu kwesisekelo sobungani, uthando nokuhloniphana.”
Cha. Cha, awukwazi.
Imfihlakalo iyathandeka kepha ukuba umngani nesithandwa sakho kuqala yikho okwenza ukuzibophezela kwesikhathi eside ithuba elihle kuwe. Futhi akukhona yini lokho sonke esikufunayo?
Ukufunda okuhlobene: Bayizinongo empilweni yami
Sifuna umuntu esingaba naye futhi singahlulelwa ngakho. Ngisho ukuthi, ngaphambi kobungani (nowayekade engowami), ngangikhathazeka ngezinto ezifana nokungabi nazinwele njalo, ukunganaki nokungabi nangqondo. Kodwa ngemva kobungani, umlingani wami uyazi ukuthi yilokho engiyikho: ukwenqaba izingibe zezindinganiso zobuhle bendabuko, ukungahambisani nobhodisi kanye nokuthanda ukugijima ngokuphelele. Game of Thrones.
Ngokwesayensi futhi ngokwami, abathandanayo abangabangane abakhulu bajabulela ucansi olungcono, uthando olwengeziwe nokuzinikela okukhulu ngoba sivuleleka ngokuphelele ngezinto esizithandayo nesingazithandi. Lokhu kwenza ukugibela kube isithelo sangempela esinamanzi oshelela kuso.
Akulula ukuba abangani
Nokho, ukuba umngane nesithandwa sakho akuyona indlela elula ngaso sonke isikhathi. Njengabantu abalimele, kulula ukuvalela umuntu ngaphandle, ungabonisi ubuwena futhi ube izambane elivalekile elihlaselwe ikusasa lakho. Ngenze lokho izikhathi eziningi futhi ngixosha abantu embhedeni wami futhi baphume empilweni yami ngoba Ngangesaba kakhulu ukuba sengozini wokwazi umuntu ngempela.
Ukufunda okuhlobene: Ngaphansi kwezithandwa, ngaphezu kwabangane
Iqiniso. Uma usufake umzamo owengeziwe ekwakheni ubungane obuqinile nomlingani wakho nawe mancane amathuba okuthi nihlukane, ngoba akekho ofuna ukulimaza umngane. Ukutshala imali esicini sobungane sobudlelwano kusho ukuzibophezela kothando okwengeziwe, uthando kanye ukwaneliseka ngokocansi, ngoba amatafula aseshintshile ekubeni 'mina' asuka ekugculiseni 'thina'.
Lapho isithandwa sami se-imeyili siqhumisa izihloko ezibhalwe yimi noma lapho ngilalela i-tirade yakhe mayelana nosuku olunzima, yingoba sifuna ukwenza umzamo owengeziwe ekwakheni ubungane obuqinile hhayi nje amaholide aseSwitzerland anesabelomali esiqinile.
Hhayi nje iqembu
Ekugcineni, ubungane kanye 'noSuku Lobungani' akukhona nje ukubopha ifindo kuwe chaddi-isihlakala somngane. Kumayelana nokuzikhumbuza ukuthi wenze umzamo owengeziwe ebudlelwaneni bakho ukuze umlingani wakho azi okuhle, okubi kanye nakho konke okumnandi kwakho.
Futhi yilobu bungane - hhayi nje uthando lwezothando noma inkanuko engaqondakali - evumela abantu ukuthi bathole imivuzo yokuzibophezela kwesikhathi eside.
Uma ukhona abangani nesithandwa sakho kuqala, unenkululeko yokuba abantu bakho abaphilayo ngempela eduze komunye nomunye. Yebo, ungagcina uvumile ukuthi uyayithokozela ngasese i-CID kanti umlingisi omthandayo nguDaya.
Nobabili ningawazi umlando womunye nomunye, ngoba njengabangane, nakhuluma ngakho kusenesikhathi futhi ngokukhululekile. Azikho izimanga ezimbi zesithandwa sakudala ekusaseni lakho.
Ukufunda okuhlobene: Iqhinga lomshado ojabulisayo nojabulisayo
Azikho izimfihlo phakathi kwabangane
Uma usuzoshada (njengami) khona-ke uzoba noshintsho olushelelayo lapho ulungisa indlela yokuphila nokunambitheka komlingani wakho, ngoba usukhulume ngokuthi uthanda kangakanani ibhajethi futhi uthanda ukuthenga.
Nizoba namahlaya abalulekile ngaphakathi ngoba nobabili nijabulela imizuliswano enobungane yokulingisa amalungu omndeni wakho kanye nosebenza nabo.
Futhi ekugcineni into ebaluleke kakhulu: ningakwazi ukwethembeka ngokuphelele komunye nomunye futhi wembule amagatsha obuntu bakho akwenza uhluke wena kanye nenani lokunakekelwa okudingayo ukuze uqhakaze njengomuntu kanye nozakwethu.
Imibuzo Evame Ukubuzwa
1. Ukuba umngane nesithandwa sakho kuthuthukisa kanjani ukuxhumana?
Ubungane buthuthukisa indawo yokukhulumisana ngokukhululekile, lapho uzizwa ukhululekile ukuveza imicabango yakho, izidingo, kanye nezinto ezikukhathazayo ngaphandle kokwesaba ukwahlulela. Lokhu kuqinisa ukuqonda nokusondelana phakathi kobudlelwano.
2. Ngabe ubungane bunomthelela kanjani ekuphileni isikhathi eside kobudlelwano bothando?
Ubungane bakha isibopho esidlulela ngalé kokukhangwa ngokomzimba, bunikeza umuzwa wobungane nokusekelwa okungamelana nezinselele zokuphila. Lokhu kuxhumana okujulile kwandisa amathuba okuba nobudlelwano obuhlala njalo nobanelisayo.
3. Kuthiwani uma sinesithakazelo esingafani? Sisengaba abangane?
Ukuba nezithakazelo ezifanayo kuhle, kodwa akusona ukuphela kwesisekelo sobungane. Ukuhlonipha nokwazisa ubuntu bomunye nomunye, kuyilapho futhi ukuthola indawo efanayo yemisebenzi nezingxoxo, kuyisihluthulelo sokwakha ubungane obuqinile phakathi kobudlelwane bothando.
Imicabango Final
Ukuba umngane nesithandwa sakho kusho ukwazi nokwamukelana ngokweqiniso, amaphutha nakho konke. Kusho ukuba nendawo ephephile yokuba nobuwula, ukuphupha, nokukhula ndawonye. Kumayelana nokujabulela ukuba ndawonye, hhayi nje njengezithandwa, kodwa njengabangane bangempela abathanda ukuba khona komunye nomunye.
Ngakho-ke, phakathi kwentshiseko nezothando, zinike isikhathi sokukhulisa leso sibopho esikhethekile sobungani. Khumbula, uthando olugxilile ubungane bunethuba elikhulu lokuma esivivinyweni sesikhathi, ukukunikeza uthando olungagcini nje ngokuvusa inkanuko kodwa futhi oluhlala njalo nokwanelisa ngokujulile.
Amaphutha akho amakhulu kakhulu wobudlelwano asuselwa kuphawu lwakho lwe-Zodiac
Umnikelo wakho awuhlanganisi inhlangano esiza abantulayo umnikelo. Izovumela i-Bonobology ukuthi iqhubeke nokukulethela ulwazi olusha nolwakamuva emzamweni wethu wokusiza noma ubani emhlabeni ukuthi afunde ukwenza noma yini.
Ngenhlanhla, nomlingani wakho njengomngane wakho omkhulu, akudingeki ukhathazeke ngalokho okwenzeka kuwe. Uthando lwakho lusekelwe ebunganeni beqiniso, futhi lwaqhakaza othandweni lwangempela. Akuwona wonke umuntu othola lokho empilweni.
Yebo ucansi luhle futhi yini engcono kunocansi ukuxhumana ngokomzwelo okubuye kubizwe ngokuthi ubungane.
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