Izinto Eziyi-18 Ezisekelwe Ngokwesayensi Ezivula Abesifazane

Yini eguqula abesifazane kakhulu? Mhlawumbe omunye wemibuzo evamile amadoda azindla ngayo, okwesibili kuphela othi "Bafunani abesifazane?" Ngenxa ye-patriarchy, imfundo yezocansi enganele, kanye nesiko le-pop eligxile ekugxilweni kwabesifazane, impendulo yalo mbuzo ingaba nzima ukuyithola. Kunenkulumo encane mayelana nokujika kwabesifazane noma ubulili, futhi noma yini evame ukucutshungulwa noma ishintshwe ngendlela ehlelekile ukuze ivumelane nemibono ekhona. 

Kodwa izinto ziyashintsha, kanye nomlando wesiphequluli sowesilisa ojwayelekile, ongagcini nje ngokufaka i-"Pornhub", "Premier League", kanye ne-"Speed ​​test" ku-Google, kodwa nezinto ezifana nokuthi "Ungayithola kanjani i-clitoris?" kanye nokuthi "Yini eguqula owesifazane abe ngumuntu wesilisa", kanye nokuthi "Ingabe intshebe iyindlela yokushintsha kwabesifazane?" Kodwa i-inthanethi iyindawo enkulu futhi ivame ukudukisa. Silapha ukukunikeza ukucaca okuthile, ngosizo lomqeqeshi wobudlelwano nokusondelana uShivanya Yogmayaa (oqinisekiswe emhlabeni wonke ngezindlela zokwelapha ze-EFT, NLP, CBT, REBT), ogxile ezinhlotsheni ezahlukene zokwelulekwa kwemibhangqwana. Unikeza ukuqonda okuhle okungakusiza ukuthola izindlela ezicashile zokumvulela.

Yini Evula Abesifazane? 18 Izinto Ezifakazelwe Ngokwesayensi

Isikhathi eside kangaka, abesifazane sebezinzile ngokuphila kocansi okungagculisi, benza sengathi bane-orgasm, abakaze bazizwe beyizwa ngempela, kungaba ngenxa yokungazi noma ngokwesaba ukubukela phansi abalingani babo. Kepha izikhathi ziyashintsha. Abantu besifazane sebekhulume kakhulu ngokungathokozi kwabo. Futhi lokho sekuholele ekutheni amadoda amaningi acabange ukuthi yini evulela owesifazane. 

Uma ungomunye walabo besilisa abacabanga ukuthi muhle embhedeni ngenxa yokuthi umlingani wakho akakhali ngezinhlungu, ake ngiphule kuwe: Udinga ukwenza kangcono. Kungani?

• Ukuze wenze ukuzizwisa kujabulise kini nobabili
• Ukuqinisekisa ukuthi ubuhlobo bungasinda ngoba amandla kanye nokubaluleka kocansi ebudlelwaneni ayinakuzitshwa
• Kukwenza uzizwe ujabule ukwenza umlingani wakho ocansini azizwe ejabule
• Ngoba ubuncane obungenalutho

Ukuze wenze lokho, nazi izimpendulo ezisekelwe ngokwesayensi eziyi-18 zombuzo wakho, yini eyenza umuntu wesifazane avuleke:

1. Unomzimba ovuthiwe onempilo

Isiko elidumile liye laqhubekisela phambili inganekwane yokuthi umzimba wesilisa unemisipha eminingi njengomzimba wesilisa ofanele. Kodwa-ke, ucwaningo lusikisela ukuthi umzimba onempilo onamafutha angu-16% kanye nesilinganiso semisipha esingu-80% ubhekwa njengokhangayo. Lezi zinombolo zisesigabeni samafutha anempilo esingu-8-21% kwabesilisa abaphilile baseCaucasus. Kuyathakazelisa ukuqaphela ukuthi imisipha ibhekwa njengeyesimanga ikakhulukazi ebudlelwaneni besikhathi esifushane, njengoba kuphakanyiswe ucwaningo . Ngakho-ke, uma ubulokhu uzibuza ukuthi ungamthinta kanjani umlingani wakho noma uthuthukise impilo yakho yocansi, nansi izinto ezimbalwa okufanele uzikhumbule:

• Zama ukugcina umzimba unempilo
• Ubunzima bemisipha buhle kodwa abuhambi ngokuhlola izinketho ezingenampilo ezifana nokudla ngokweqile noma izithasiselo ezingaba nemiphumela engemihle.
• Gxila emsipha ukuze uthole ukunyakazisa kwesikhashana kanye nomzimba onempilo ebuhlotsheni obude

UShivanya uthi, “Nakuba izikhathi zishintshile, isayensi yokuziphendukela kwemvelo isadlala indima enkulu kulokho abesifazane abakuthola kukhanga kumadoda. Izimpawu zezindima zobulili zendabuko njengomzimba onemisipha noma intshebe zisikisela indima yokuvikela amadoda. Lezi zici zinakekela ubufazi bowesifazane futhi ziba yizimo zomzimba zentombazane.”

2. Unekhwalithi enhle nezinwele zobuso ezilungisiwe

Ucwaningo lusikisela ukuthi uboya obulula kuya kobunzima bubhekwa njengobudoda kakhulu ngabesifazane uma kuqhathaniswa nobuso obugundwe kahle. Intshebe enzima nayo yayingcono kunobuso obugundwe kahle kodwa cishe yayizonikeza isimo sengqondo sikababa futhi yayibhekwa njengento ekhethwayo ebudlelwaneni besikhathi eside. Ukuze inhliziyo yakhe ishaye kakhulu,

• Khulisa izinhlanga. Igcine ilungisiwe
• Ucwaningo iphakamisa ukuthi ukukhula kwezinsuku ezingu-5-10 kwakuthandwa kakhulu ngabesifazane njengokukhangayo, ngakho-ke qhubeka usika isihlahla.

3. Unolimi oluhle lomzimba

UShivanya uthi, “Lokho abesifazane abakuthola kumnandi ngamadoda athile ukuthi baqala ngokuheha izingqondo zabo, bese kuba yimizimba yabo. Banale aura abangayizami ngawe, kodwa sebevele bakunqobile. Futhi konke lokhu kudluliselwa ngolimi lomzimba wabo.” Ucwaningo lubonisa ukuthi ukuma okubanzi kanye nokuhamba okulawulwayo kubonisa ukuzethemba, futhi kwandisa ukufiseleka komuntu. Izingubo ezinhle namaphunga amahle ayalahleka kwabesilisa abangakwazi ukuzithwala. Ukuma okuhle akubonisi nje umzimba ophilile kodwa futhi nomusa nokulawula. Ngakho-ke,

• Sikwele amahlombe akho ngenkathi uhamba, ungaculi
• Gcina isilevu sakho siphezulu. Hamba uphakamise ikhanda lakho 
• Unganaki ngenkathi uhlezi
• Khetha izithombe ezilungile zephrofayili yakho yokuphola okubonisa ukuma okunwetshiwe

4. Uma unezibazi zokulwa, bukisa ngazo

Kunesizathu esenza uKhal Drogo we- Game of Thrones enze uJason Momoa waba yisilonda esibuhlungu ngobusuku obubodwa - isilonda esisesibeni sakhe sesobunxele. Lesi silonda esidumile sathandwa kakhulu kangangokuthi kubikwa ukuthi abantu baqala ukugunda amashiya abo ukuze balingise isilonda uJason asithole ekuhlaselweni. Abantu bangase baphikise ngokuthi izibazi ziyisibonakaliso esivamile sobudoda bendoda nokuthi lo mbono ubonisa ukucwasa abesifazane kancane.

Kodwa-ke, ucwaningo luphakamisa ukuthi ukuba nezibazi kuyisimo esibi kwabesifazane, ikakhulukazi ebudlelwaneni besikhathi esifushane kodwa kuphela uma isibazi singesincane. Isibazi esikhulu singase sibonise ukungazinzi ngokomzwelo, njengoba kusikiselwa yilolu cwaningo . Isihluthulelo lapha ukulinganisela phakathi kwalokho okubonisayo nalokho okufihlayo.

• Uma unezibazi ezincane ebusweni, bukisa ngakho
• Ungahambi ibanga elide ukuze uzicente. Akukho okubukeka kukubi kakhulu kunesibazi esenziwe

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5. Izindlela ezicashile zokumvulela - Ukuzethemba

Inganekwane enkulu ngokuba yindoda eqinisekayo ukuthi umuntu kufanele abe yindoda eqotho ukuze akhuthaze ukukhangana kwabantu abathandana nabobulili obuhlukile. Lokhu kwasakazwa nasemasikweni athandwayo ngama-movie e-Spaghetti Western kanye nasezincwadini ezifundwayo ezifana ne -The Game . Kodwa-ke, ucwaningo lugxeke inganekwane yokuthi indoda ebusayo yiyo evuselela abesifazane. Lolu cwaningo lusikisela ukuthi ukuzethemba nokuzigqaja kuyathandeka, kodwa uma kuhlanganiswa nokubusa, ukukhangana akuvamile ukwanda.

UShivanya uyavuma, “Ukuzethemba kubalulekile kodwa ubuhlakani buyisihluthulelo. Uma uncoma owesifazane ngezwi eliphansi ngenkathi ugwema amehlo, akumenzi lutho; kodwa uma wenza into efanayo ngenkathi ubheka emehlweni, ngezwi eliphansi, lokho manje kuyisibonakaliso sendoda eqinisekayo abesifazane abayifunayo .” Nazi ezinye izinto okufanele uzikhumbule mayelana nokuqondisa ukuzethemba kwakho ngendlela efanele:

• Zethembe, hhayi cocky. Ukuzethemba okulawulwayo kuvula owesifazane ngaphezu kwanoma yini
• Bonisa ulaka kanye nokubusa kwabancintisana nabo, hhayi abangani bakho nomndeni. A cwaningo bathole ukuthi abesifazane bathambekele ekuthandeni owesilisa onolaka futhi ophethe izimbangi zakhe kodwa onozwelo nobungane nomndeni wakhe nabangane.
• Yehlisa iphimbo lakho ukuze ubonise ukuthi ungumholi. Ucwaningo iphakamisa iphimbo eliphansi lithinta ikhono nokulawula kuyilapho iphimbo eliphezulu libonisa ukuntula ukuzethemba.

6. Uyi-chivalrous

Naphezu kwempikiswano ende mayelana nokuthi ubudoda bubandlulula ngokobulili noma cha, abesifazane abaningi bathola ubudoda bukhanga, ngokusho kocwaningo . Incazelo engaba khona yalokhu kuziphatha ukuthi indoda enobudoda ibonakala izimisele ukutshala imali ebudlelwaneni.

UShivanya uyachaza, “Uthando alugcini nje ngokubamba iminyango, lumayelana nokudala umoya wokwethembana okuzungezile. Uma owesifazane enomuzwa wokuthi angathembela kuwe, ukhanga uhlangothi lwakhe lobufazi. Yingakho abesifazane bethanda amadoda anezimfanelo zobuholi. Kungenye yezindlela ezilula zokumenza athandane nawe .” Nazi ezinye zezindlela zokuvumela uthando lwakho lubonakale:

• Hamba ohlangothini olungaphandle lwendlela yomgwaqo uma uphuma 
• Mnikeze ijakhethi yakho uma ucabanga ukuthi angase agodole
• Mhambise ekhaya, kodwa kuphela uma ekhululekile
• Yiba muhle kunoma yiziphi izingane noma izilwane ezifuywayo eziseduze kwakhe

7. Ungaqoma kahle

Ukuthandana kuwumdanso wesimanje wokuhlangana. Izimpawu zokuthandana, kungaba ngamazwi noma ngokungakhulumi, zingahluka kuye ngesiko. Kodwa-ke, ukubheka emehlweni nokumomotheka kuyizinkomba ezivamile zokuthandana. Ucwaningo lubonisa ukuthi ukuhleka kungaba yindlela ephumelelayo yokuthandana. Njengoba ukuhleka kungokwezifiso, umuntu udinga ukubheka izinkomba ezifana nolimi lomzimba wakhe kanye nempendulo yakhe ukuze ahlole ukuthi uphendula kahle yini. Nazi ezinye izeluleko ezisheshayo zokwandisa umdlalo wakho wokuthandana:

• Gwema imigqa yokulanda esetshenziswe ngokweqile
• Lapho ungabaza, qala ngokumamatheka
• Hlala ubheka ukuthi ingabe ingxoxo iyathusa noma isidala
• Sebenzisa i-bio edlala ngothando ezinhlelweni zokusebenza zokuqomisana - ingakhuphula amathuba akho okuthola okufanayo ngo-400%, njengoba kusikiselwe yilo cwaningo

8. Uyazinakekela

Ukuhlanzeka okubi kungaba yinto enyanyekayo. Ucwaningo luchaza ukwenyanya iphunga elibi njengendlela yokuzivikela kunoma yini engase ihlanganise umuntu nesifo esithathelwanayo. Ucwaningo luphinde lubonise ukuthi iphunga lingase libe yinto ebaluleke kakhulu kunezimpawu ezibonakalayo. Lokhu kusho ukuthi uma ugqoka kahle kodwa unuka kabi, kukwenza ubonakale ungakhangi kangako. UShivanya uthi, “ Isayensi yephunga ivame ukunganakwa. Ukunuka kahle kuyindlela enhle yowesifazane. Kubalulekile futhi ukubukeka kahle. Kubonisa ukuthi ulawula izinto ezikuzungezile.” Izinto ezimbalwa okufanele uzikhumbule ukuze ugcine ukukhanga kwakho kuqondile:

• Gqoka kalula kodwa ngobuhlakani
• Zama ukubukeka sengathi wenza umzamo ekubukeni kwakho
• Esikhundleni sokulandela izimfashini zamuva, khetha izitayela ezilula nezihlanzekile
• Ungawagqoki amakha anamandla kakhulu. Gqoka into ethulisiwe nengokwemvelo, njenge-musk

9. Zama ukuzenza ukuba ngowakho kumephu yakhe yothando

Encwadini yakhe ethi Lovemaps, uJohn Money uchaza igama elithi imephu yothando , njengesibonelo sezimfanelo umuntu angalindela kumlingani wakhe ongaba khona. Ezinye izimfanelo, njengokuqiniseka, ukukhanga ngokomzimba, kanye nomzimba onempilo, zivamile, kodwa noma kunjalo, amamephu othando angahluka kumuntu ngamunye. Ucwaningo lubonisa ukuthi abantu bavame ukufuna umngane ofana nabo.

Ngakho-ke, uma uthanda owesifazane ozethembayo futhi oziqinisayo, kufanele ubonise ukuthi uyazethemba futhi uyagomela. UShivanya uthi, “Udinga i-chemistry nhlangothi zombili ukuze wenze noma ibuphi ubuhlobo buphumelele. Kungcono ukungachithi isikhathi ngomuntu okungenzeka akakufuni, kunalokho, bheka omunye umuntu ocabanga ukuthi ungcono.”

• Bheka owesifazane osezingeni elifana nelakho lokuheha
• Zama ukulingisa ukuziphatha kwakhe nobuntu bakhe ukuze ubonise ukuthi uyafana naye
• Ungasweli futhi ulungisele umuntu ozwakalise ukungenami ngawe

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10. Awuwesabi amathoyizi akhe ocansi

Ngokusho kwalolu cwaningo , amadoda esatshiswa ngamathoyizi ocansi aze abike amazinga aphansi okwaneliseka ngenkathi esebenzisa ama-vibrator ngesikhathi socansi. Abacwaningi bakholelwa ukuthi isidingo sokusebenzisa i-vibrator ngesikhathi socansi asibonisi ukusebenza kahle kwawo. Kodwa-ke, ama-vibrator angakhuphula ulwazi locansi lwentombazane yakho, ikakhulukazi uma ucabanga ngegebe le-orgasm. Ucwaningo lusikisela ukuthi abesifazane abangu-70% babike ukuthi ukusebenzisa ama-vibrator ngesikhathi socansi, ikakhulukazi ngokunyakaza kokudlidliza noma kokubhanqa, kungasiza ekufinyeleleni i-orgasm ngokushesha.

• Uma ubona ukucwiliswa ku-libido yakhe, zama ukunonga izinto ngokuphonsa ithoyizi locansi kule ngxube. 
• Mnikeze ithoyizi locansi ukuze ubonise ukuthi uvikelekile mayelana nobulili bakho
• Ungangabazi mayelana nokuzama embhedeni

11. Uyakunaka ubumnandi bakhe

Uke wezwa ngegebe le-orgasm? Ucwaningo lubonisa ukuthi ukungafani kokuvama koku-orgasm phakathi kwabesilisa nabesifazane kuthinta isifiso socansi kanye nokulindelwe esikhathini esizayo. Lokhu kufanele kukukhathaze uma ucabanga ukuthi intombazane yakho ayi-orgasm kaningi njengoba wenza. Uma wenza umzamo wokuqinisekisa ukuthi umlingani wakho uthola i-orgasm, umenza azizwe efiseleka kakhulu. Lokhu kwandisa isifiso sakhe sobulili futhi uqala ukucabanga ngocansi njengomsebenzi ongewona umsebenzi kodwa njengokuhlangenwe nakho okujabulisayo. Nazi ezinye izindlela ongakhulisa ngazo injabulo kuye:

• Uma ucabanga ukuthi ubulili bezithunywa zevangeli kungenzeka ukuthi awumenzeli, zama izikhundla ezintsha
• Ucwaningo iphakamisa ukuthi i-clitoral stimulation yiyona eyenza abesifazane bajabule kakhulu, ngisho nangaphezu kokungena esithweni sangasese. Zama ukusebenzisa izandla kanye nomlomo wakho ukwandisa injabulo ngesikhathi socansi
• Khuluma naye ukwazi kanjani ukuba isithandwa esingcono. Zama ukuqonda ukuthi yini engamsebenzeli nokuthi yini ayijabulelayo

12. Ungamthathi kancane

Ocwaningweni lwango -2019 , isifiso sobulili sowesifazane ebudlelwaneni obuthanda abantu abaningi satholakala sithonywa yizici ezintathu: ukusondelana, ukuthandwa ngabanye, kanye nokuqinisekiswa kwento efiswayo. Ukuthandwa ngabanye kubhekisela ekuqondeni ebuhlotsheni ukuthi owesifazane akayona ingxenye yowesilisa. Ngamazwi alula, ukuthandwa ngabanye kwenzeka lapho ungamthathi kalula futhi enenkululeko yokuzimela.

Njengoba abacwaningi bebhala, “isifiso sichuma ‘kokunye’, okuchazwa njengesikhala esiphakathi komuntu siqu nokunye esivumela okungaziwa, inoveli nokungalindelekile, kokumangala nobungozi.” Ukumkhombisa ukuthi uyabuhlonipha ubuntu bakhe nokuzimela, 

• Hlala ucela imvume kunoma yini. Ungalokothi ucabange
• Gcinani isikhala phakathi kwenu, ngisho noma nihlala ndawonye
• Khuluma ngokubonga kwakho (noma ukumangala) ngokuthi ukhethe wena 

13. Ukuvula umzimba kwentombazane - izindawo ze-Erogenous

Izindawo ezikhipha umoya emzimbeni yizindawo emzimbeni ezivuselela injabulo yocansi uma zithintwa. Kuyinkolelo evamile ukuthi izitho zangasese namabele ziyakhipha umoya kwabesifazane. Kodwa ucwaningo luthole ukuthi izindawo ezikhipha umoya emzimbeni zivame ukuba zikhulu futhi zisakazeke kuwo wonke umzimba. Ukuthinta intombazane yakho kuwo wonke umzimba wayo ngokunaka kakhulu izindawo ezikhipha umoya emzimbeni njengezitho zangasese, i-anus, amabele, nezihlathi kungaba mnandi kakhulu. Ucwaningo luye lwabonisa nokuthi ukuvuka kocansi kuyanda nakowesifazane lapho ethinta izindawo ezikhipha umoya zomlingani wakhe.

Kuyathakazelisa futhi ukuqaphela ukuthi izindawo ezikhipha ubulili zingakhulisa ukusondelana ngokomzimba ebudlelwaneni hhayi ngokuthintana nje kuphela, kodwa nangokubheka futhi. Olunye ucwaningo lukhombisile ukuthi ukubuka izitho zangasese zomlingani nendawo ezizungezile kungaba yinto evusa inkanuko kakhulu kowesifazane. Ngakho-ke, qiniseka ukuthi ubukeka kahle lapho phansi, futhi

• Mthinte kahle futhi uthathe isikhathi sakho. Ukuxoxisana yikho okwenza abantu besifazane baxege amadolo
• Mcele akuthinte nawe. Mqondise kancane izandla zakhe emzimbeni wakho ukuze ukwenze ujabulise kakhudlwana
• Naka izindawo asabela kakhulu kuzo

14. Umenza azizwe sengathi uyena yedwa intombazane emhlabeni

Okuthakazelisayo ngokuqinisekiswa kwento yesifiso okuphakanyisiwe kulolu cwaningo ukuthi isifiso sobulili sowesifazane asigcini nje ngokuthintwa ukukhanga komlingani wakhe, kodwa nokuthi uzizwa efiseleka kangakanani lapho eseduze naye. Lokhu kubeka isidingo kumlingani sokuqinisekisa ukubaluleka kwakhe. UShivanya uyachaza, “Ngemva kwesikhathi esithile ebudlelwaneni, owesifazane angase aqale ukuzizwa enganakwa. Ezimweni ezinjalo, kungcono ukuveza ukuqinisekiswa kwakho njengento yesifiso ngezimpawu esikhundleni samazwi.” Nansi indlela:

• Mhlebe endlebeni endlini egcwele abantu
• Phendula ezindabeni zakhe zenkundla yezokuxhumana ezingahleliwe ngemibhalo yothando
• Mtshele ukuthi uphupha ngaye noma ube nephupho elimanzi ngaye. A cwaningo ithole ukuthi iningi labahlanganyeli bayo lavulwa ngesikhathi ozakwabo bebatshela ukuthi babephupha ngabo.

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15. Uyamncoma ngekhono lakhe lobuhlakani

Ucwaningo lusikisela ukuthi ukuncoma kungathuthukisa ukuzethemba kumuntu okwamukelayo. Funda ukuncoma owesifazane ngokuhlakanipha kwakhe. UShivanya uthi, “Ngiqeqesha amadoda ukuba adumise izimfanelo zowesifazane ezingezona ezomzimba ngaphezu kwezimfanelo zakhe zomzimba. Ukuhlola umzimba wakhe kubalulekile, njengoba lokho kumenza azizwe efiseleka, kodwa ukuhlanganisa ukuncoma ngazo zombili izinhlobo zezimfanelo kuyisu elihle kakhulu. Mtshele ukuthi uyamthanda ngenxa yengqondo hhayi nje ngenxa yomzimba.”

• Naka izimpumelelo zakhe futhi uziqhenye ngazo kwabanye. Kuyi-a indlela enhle yokwenza intombi yakho izizwe ikhethekile
• Phawula lokho akusho ngokucophelela futhi ukukhumbule. Yilethe kamuva lapho engayilindele

16. Uzethemba kakhulu

Ukuzethemba kuhlukile ekuzethembeni ngendlela yokuthi ukuzethemba kuyinto engathuthukiswa njengoba umuntu ekhula futhi ethola amakhono, kodwa ukuzethemba kuvela ekuziboneni kwakhe ukuthi ubalulekile. Ukuzethemba kungatholwa ngezinto zangaphandle, kodwa ukuzethemba kungathuthukiswa kukho kuphela ngokusebenza ngaphakathi.

Izifundo zibonisa ukuthi ukuzethemba okuphezulu kwabesilisa kukhanga kakhulu kowesifazane. Umuntu onokuzethemba okuphezulu uqinisekile ngaye futhi anganikeza indawo ezinzile yobudlelwano. Nansi indlela ongabonisa ngayo umlingani wakho ukuthi unokuzethemba okuphezulu:

• Mbonise ukuthi uyakwazi ukwazisa ubudlelwano obunempilo futhi uyeke obungenampilo
• Mbonise ukuthi ulindele okungokoqobo kuwe
• Ungagxili kokudlule futhi ugxile kwekusasa

17. Izinto ezivula abantu besifazane - Amahlaya amahle

Isizathu esikhulu esenza uBarney Stinson ovela ku- How I Met Your Mother athole amaphuzu nabesifazane abaningi kwakuyihlaya lakhe. Ucwaningo luye lwasikisela ukuthi amahlaya angathuthukisa ukukhanga komuntu ngokocansi. Abacwaningi bakholelwa ukuthi umuzwa omuhle wokuhleka wembula ukuhlakanipha, ubuciko, kanye nezinye 'izakhi zofuzo ezinhle' noma 'umzali omuhle', okwenza kube yinto ebalulekile ekukhetheni ngokocansi.

Ucwaningo luphinde luphakamise ukuthi amahlaya ahlambalazayo, ikakhulukazi amadoda anesikhundla esiphakeme angathuthukisa ukukhanga kwawo njengoba ephakamisa ukuzethemba okuphezulu, esinye isici ekukhetheni ucansi. Ngakho-ke,

• Gxila ehlayeni lokuzizwa ujabule, noma ekuzideleni okubi kakhulu. Gwema ukuhlekisa ngabanye
• Amahlaya ayinto evumelana nawe kodwa kuyatuswa ukuthi ugweme izihloko eziyimpikiswano
• Gxila kukhwalithi, hhayi ubuningi. Ufuna ukubukeka u-sexy, hhayi i-clownish. 
• A umuzwa owomile wamahlaya kuwufanele amakhulukhulu amahlaya e-knock-knock

18. Unenhlanhla

Kukhona okuthile okukhangayo ngokwemvelo ngokubona umjaho webhayisikili esondeza eduze noma ukubuka umtshuzi ochwepheshile eziphonsela phansi. Kwenza inhliziyo yakho igijime, ikugcwalisa nge-adrenaline, futhi ikwenze ufune ukukhotha i-abs yakhe ye-washboard. Kungani? Ngoba kuyingozi. 

Izingozi ezisekelwe ekuziphendukeleni komuntu njengomzingeli noqoqa izinto, njengemidlalo eyingozi noma ukuhlala endle, zibukeka zikhangayo. Ucwaningo luphinde lusikisele ukuthi abesifazane cishe bazokhangwa yindoda enesimo sengqondo esifana nesabo mayelana nengozi. Nansi indlela ongaziveza ngayo njengomuntu othatha ingozi ngokuqapha:

• Thatha izingozi ezibaliwe ezimzungezile
• Gwema izingozi zesimanje njengokugembula noma ukushayela ungalifakile ibhande
• Mcele ukusikisela mayelana nama-adventure ukuhamba okubili ningahlola ndawonye. Zama ukwenza okuthile ngokuhambisana nalokho akhululekile ngakho
• Zizenzele. Zama izinto ezintsha, ikakhulukazi lezo angakaze azizame ngaphambilini

Ekugcineni, ngibuze u-Shivanya ukuthi kungani abesifazane bevulwa ngabalingiswa abaqanjiwe abathanda ubulili obudlulele abafana noChristian Grey noma uDamon Salvatore abangabahloniphi abafazi. Uyachaza, "Isikhathi esiningi, owesifazane olimele ophendukela endodeni enjalo ngenxa yokuthi ubuhlobo obungasebenzi buyinto evamile kuye. Kodwa ngisho nalapho owesifazane onengqondo efuna ubuhlobo lapho efuna ukubusa, indoda kufanele ikhumbule ukuthi kuwumdlalo owufunayo. Ayilindele ukuziphatha okufanayo empeleni. Ngakho-ke, akuwona umqondo omuhle lawa madoda ukuze alandele."

Kufanele ukhathalele ukuthi owesifazane ucabangani uma uhlela ukungena ebudlelwaneni naye. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi isikhathi esifushane noma eside, kufanele uhlale ugxile endleleni engcono kakhulu yokumenza akhululeke. Abantu bangase bakutshele ukuthi abesifazane bathanda indoda ene-alpha ngakho-ke kufanele usebenzise imigqa yokukhetha ethize noma kufanele umomotheke ngendlela ocabanga ukuthi iyashisa (kodwa ayishisi). Kodwa-ke, okusebenza njalo ukuthi wenze ukuxhumana nengqondo yakhe ngaphezu komzimba wakhe.

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