I te tinihanga a taku wahine ki ahau, i whakatau ahau ki te whakaatu i te aroha nui atu

I tūtaki tuatahi ahau ki a Mili i a māua i te tau tuarua o te kāreti. I takaro ia i te tūranga o Desdemona, te wahine ataahua whakamiharo i patua e tana tāne whakapae a Othello. Nāna i hanga te āhua tino pai ki te kiripuaki i runga i te atamira i te wā o tā māua hui kāreti. Kāore au i mōhio tata ki te rua tekau tau i muri mai ka arahina ahau e ia ki ngā tihi o te whakapae. I tinihanga taku wahine i ahau, ā, i whakaporangi i ahau.

(E ai ki te kōrero ki a Saheli Mitra)

He tino pono ia, engari i tinihanga tonu ia i ahau

I te Whare Wānanga o Jadavpur, i a Mili e whai ana i tētahi tohu paetahi mō te tuhituhi, ko au ia e mahi ana i te hangarau. Ehara i te mea ko tōna ataahua anake te mea i kukume i ahau, engari ko tōna āhua hopuhopu hoki.

Te āhua nei he pono katoa ōna kōrero . I a māua e mōhio ana tetahi ki tetahi mā roto i ngā hoa noa, ka nui haere taku mōhio he tangata ia e kōrero tika ana i roto i tōna ngākau, ā, kāore rawa i ngana ki te huna i ōna kare ā-roto, i ōna kare ā-roto rānei.

I mea ahau ki ahau anō, mehemea he wahine pēnei te pono, ko ia tonu te hoa pai rawa atu, te hoa pono hoki o te ao. I tuwhera ahau ki ōna whakaaro, ā, i whakaute ahau i ōna tirohanga me tōna pono.

Kāore rawa ahau i whakaaro ka pā mai ki ahau te tinihanga me te tinihanga o taku wahine i ahau i muri mai i tōku ao.

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He aha rā i huna ai e Mili tana hononga ki te tangata i tūtaki ai ia i tētahi haerenga tata ki te tekau tau i muri i tā māua marena? Kāore āku whakautu. Nā te mea i pouri ia i roto i tōna ngākau, i moe tahi ai ia me tēnei tangata i a māua e marena ana?

Nā te mea rānei i whakaaro ia ko wai tana hoa moe ehara i te mea mā te tāne, engari ko tōna herekoretanga te mea nui ake? Ahakoa pēhea āna whakaaro, i tinihanga ia i ahau.

I hararei māua, i moe tāne, i kata tahi māua, i whakarite māua kia whānau wawe tonu, engari kāore rawa he take i whakapono ai ahau kua tūtaki anō ia ki tētahi atu tāne.

I hopukia e au taku wahine e tinihanga ana

Tae noa ki taku kitenga i ngā kāri, i ngā reta, tae atu ki ngā kākahu o roto i roto i tō mātou kāpata i muri i taku hokinga mai i tētahi haerenga mana. Kāore a Mili i te kāinga, i haere ia me ōna hoa; koinā tana i kōrero mai ai ki ahau.

E rua marama pea taku hokinga mai, e whakaoti ana i tētahi mahi i te USA. I a au e penapena ana i taku pēke moni, ka pā ōku ringa ki taua pēke. Tae noa mai ki tēnei rā kei te pouri tonu ahau mō tēnā. Me i kore noa ahau e pā ki tēnā.

I roto i te hēkona kotahi i pakaru katoa ai tōku ao hangareka. E kore ahau e kī i mamae tōku whakapehapeha tāne i te hononga ā-tinana o taku wahine ki tētahi atu tāne. I mamae ake ahau nā te mea kāore i taea e ia te whakaatu mai ki ahau, te whakarē rānei i ahau.

He ohorere tonu te whakapono kāore taku Mili i te pono. Ko tana tino pono me tana tūpato i kukume mai i ahau i te tuatahi he mahi whakakatakata noa iho i tēnei rā.

He mahi nui te whakaae ki tēnei me te whanonga noa. Me tū atu rānei ahau ki a ia, me tuku rānei i a ia kia haere tonu? I whiriwhiria e au te mea whakamutunga.

Kāore i taea e au te tuku i a ia, te whakaatu rānei ki te ao katoa kua whakarērea ahau e taku wahine mō tētahi atu tāne. Ko tōku whakapehapeha te mea i mamae ai. I whakaaro ētahi o ngā hoa tata i kōrero ahau ki a rātou he hara te aroha ki ngā tāne maha, me te moe tahi me rāua tokorua.

I taea e au te whakamutu i te marena i runga i ngā whakapae mō te puremu, he nui aku taunakitanga. Kāore anō kia whai tamariki māua, nō reira kāore he take e whakama ai ahau . I pātai tonu ahau ki a au anō kua kitea taku wahine e tinihanga ana, me aha ahau?

Te murunga hara i taku wahine tinihanga

I hiahia ahau ki te tuku i te aroha ki tētahi whai wāhitanga. Kāore e taea te kapo, te akiaki rānei i te aroha. Pērā i te awa e kore e herea, ka pā atu ki tētahi ina tae ki te wā. I whakatau ahau ki te whakamātau i tētahi mea hou i tā mātou wāhanga tuarua.

E tīmata ana i tētahi haerenga aromatawai-ā-koe. I kite ahau kua puta he āputa hohonu i waenganui i a māua i roto i ngā tau katoa. Kua wehe māua , ā, kāore au i te mōhio ki tēnā.

Mō ngā marama, i noho tawhiti atu ahau i te kāinga ki ngā kaupapa, tata ki te 12 hāora ia rā e mahi ana. Kāore rawa ahau i te pānui i ngā rotarota i tuhia e ia, kāore hoki ahau i te pātai atu ki a ia mō āna awheawhe auaha. Kua wehe kē māua i ngā huarahi kāore anō kia whakaarohia e māua.

I wareware noa ahau ki tā māua marena, kāore rawa i tukua kia whanake haere noa iho nā te kore o te wā. Engari i te tuku tohu ki a Mili mō aku aituā, ka tīmata ahau ki te whakapau i te wā ki te kāinga.

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I ētahi wā, ka ohorere ia i te taenga mai o ngā waea i ngā hāora e ngaro ana ahau. I mōhio ahau ko te tangata kē te tangata e waea mai ana.

Āta haere ana ia, ka tīmata tana kore aro ki ngā waea . Kāore au i tākaro korowha i muri, engari i haria ia e au ki waho mō te parakuihi, ā, i whakarongo puku atu ahau ki ana mahi auaha katoa.

Me whakarērea e au taku wahine i muri i tana tinihanga?

E kore ahau e kī kāore tēnei whakaaro i puta ake ki ahau. He maha ngā wā i whakaaro ahau kāore e taea e au te haere tonu me taku wahine tinihanga, ā, i hiahia ahau ki te whakamutu.

I ētahi wā ka hiahia ahau ki te tū atu ki a ia, ki te whakapae i a ia mō te mea i tupu, engari i whakaaro anō ahau nā māua pea i tinihanga.

Kāore i te ngāwari te whakakore i te tinihanga a taku wahine i ahau. I raru ahau i ia rā, i ia rā. Engari i whakatau ahau ki te mahi i ngā mea i ngaro i te whanaungatanga, me te whakahoki mai. I tino riri ahau i te taenga mai o aua waea, engari i taku kitenga i a ia e kore e aro ki aua waea, ka puta he tumanako.

Ā, i tētahi rā, ka pakaru te ngākau o Mili. I whakakitea e ia tana tinihanga i ahau. Engari kāore ia i aroha ki taua tangata. He mea noa iho mō te ahuareka tinana. I awhi noa ahau i a ia, ā, i mea atu: "I mōhio ahau mai anō."

I mau tonu tōku whakapono, i aroha tonu ia ki ahau. Ahakoa pēhea!

He ara anō hei titiro ki ngā mea. Engari i te whakawhiti whakapae, i ngana ahau ki te mārama ki te wāhi i hē ai māua, me te mea ka taea e māua te whakaora i te whanaungatanga. E koa ana ahau i whakapau kaha māua.

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