Ngā Tohu e Hiahia Ana Te Tāne Ki A Koe

Kei te hiahia ia ki a koe, ki ngā āhuatanga ā-ira tangata?

He tino rerekē te kukume ā-ira tangata, ā, i ētahi wā he māia ake i te kukume ā-tinana. Ko te kukume ā-tinana he mea nui ake i tō aroaro ā-tinana me tō aro hoki, engari koinā noa iho. Ka taea e ia te tae atu ki ētahi wā whakaipoipo, tae noa ki te whāngai, te awhi rānei tetahi ki tetahi. Ko tetahi atu ia, e whakaatu mārama ana i te hiahia o te tāne, tōna ngākau nui me ōna āhua kino katoa. Kāore ia e hiahia kia herea ki ētahi kihi noa iho.

Nā, me pēhea koe e mōhio ai mēnā kei te hiahia koe ki te tāne, kāore rānei? Anei ētahi tohu hei tirotiro māu mēnā kei te hiahia koe ki te tāne anō hoki.

Pānui e pā ana: 18 ngā tohu reo tinana o te wahine e whakaatu ana i te kukume

1. Ngā titiro katoa

Ka titiro matatau ngā tāne katoa ina kite i tētahi e pai ana ki a rātou. Heoi, he rerekē rawa te kōrero mō te hunga e titiro pūmau ana ki a koe. Ka titiro matatau mai rātou ki a koe, ā, i ētahi wā ka meinga koe kia mōhio kei te noho tahi koe. He maha ngā kare ā-roto e whakaatuhia ana e ngā kanohi, ā, ka whakamōhio atu rātou kei te hiahia rātou ki tētahi mea nui atu i te whakaipoipo noa i a koe.

2. Te whakapouri

Ko tētahi o ngā mea maha o te ao o te mano tau e āwhina ana i a tātou ki te whakapuaki ki tētahi atu tangata e pai ana tātou ki a rātou (kua roa kē te wā e whakapuakina whānuitia ana te aroha) mā te whakamahi i ngā kupu whakarite. Ko ngā tāne e hiahia ana ki a koe, he tino pai tā rātou mahi whakaipoipo. Ka tino whakaipoipo rātou i a koe, kāore he whakaroa.

3. Ka whakatakoto mahere motuhake rātou

Ka whakatakoto ia i ētahi mahere hei ārahi i a kōrua kia noho ko kōrua anake. Ka whakakīkī ia i te taiao whānui. Pērā i a koe, tera pea ka haere katoa ki tētahi karapu hou, kua taunga katoa ki ngā tikanga o te pae inu, engari he hou koe, nō reira ka riro māna te "whakaatu" i a koe.

4. Ngā pā "tūpono"

Ko te pā atu ki a koe tētahi o ngā tohu tino mārama o te hiahia ā-ira tangata. Tērā pea ka pā whakarere atu ō rātou waewae ki ōu, ka pā atu ki ō makawe hei "tango i tētahi mea i mau i roto", ka pēhi whakarere atu rānei i tō pakihiwi i a koe e haere ana ki waho. Ka taea e koe te whakautu mēnā kei te hiahia koe, engari me karanga atu ki a ia mēnā kāore.

5. Whakatata atu ki a koe

Ina kōrero koe ki a ia, ka ngana ia ki te whakatata atu ki a koe, ka whakarongo ki tāu e kōrero nei. Tērā pea ka pa atu tōna ringa ki te tūru i muri i a koe. Kāore ia e whakautu mai me te "hmm, pai", engari ka taunekeneke ia kia whakaoho i tō hiahia ki a ia.

6. Ka tuku karere ia ki a koe i ngā hāora rerekē

Kāore ia e tuku karere kuputuhi ki a koe kia mōhio ai kei te kai koe, kei te inu rānei, engari i muri i te 12 karaka ka tukuna atu e ia ngā karere kuputuhi pēnei i te "E hika mā, kei te ara ake koe? Kei te hiahia koe ki te haere mai" me te "E hika mā, me mātaki tahi tāua i a Netflix", me te mōhio kāore tēnā e tupu. Heoi, kia mahara ka kīia tēnei e ia mēnā he taupatupatu ā-ira kei waenganui i a kōrua.

7. Ka mōhio tonu koe

Ko tō tikanga tuaono, mēnā he mea pērā, ka tino wiriwiri. Pērā i te mea ka piko mai tētahi tāne ki a koe, ka ngana rānei ki te whakatata atu ki a koe, ka mōhio koe, ka tīmata te hopu i ēnei tohu. Kāore koe e hiahia ki tētahi pukapuka ārahi mō tēnā; ka taea e koe te rongo. He hiahia tō tātou wāhine ki te mōhio ki ēnei mea.

Ko te mea nui kia maumahara koe, ko te whakaae te pūtake o tēnei katoa. Whakaarohia ngā kōrero tuatahi e rua, he mahi noa ēnei a te tāne e hiahia ana ki te kōrero ki a koe – koinei ngā tohu mārama. Koinei te wāhi e whakatau ai koe mēnā kei te pirangi koe ki te haere tonu me tēnei, engari ki te kore, me kōrero atu ki a ia mō tēnei mea, me whakahē rānei. Me whakamōhio noa ki a ia he aha tāu e pai ai, he aha tāu e kore ai e pai. Mā te hunga whai whakaaro ka mutu i reira (ā, ko taku tumanako he whai whakaaro te katoa).

Kāore tō koha e kiia he kaupapa aroha takohaMā tēnei ka taea e Bonobology te kawe mai i ngā mōhiotanga hou me ngā mōhiotanga hou ki a koe i roto i tā mātou whainga ki te āwhina i te tangata katoa o te ao ki te ako me pēhea te mahi i tetahi mea.

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