Te huarahi i toa ai ahau i te whaea o taku hoa tāne

He wheako ataahua te aroha. He kare ā-roto e kore e taea te whakaahua te mōhio kei te noho tonu tetahi ki tō taha ahakoa te aha, ā, ka aroha tonu ki a koe mō ake tonu atu. Heoi anō, he tikanga me ngā herenga kei muri i tēnā. Mōku nei, ko te mea kāore te māmā o taku hoa tāne i te pai ki ahau. He nui rawa.

I tino kino te whaea o taku hoa tāne ki ahau, me te kī. I tawai tonu ia i a mātou i a mātou e tata ana, ā, kāore i pai ki ahau te noho tahi me ia. He roa te whakawhiti mai i te aroha ki te mauahara, engari nā ēnei mahi, i tino aroha mai te whaea o taku hoa tāne ki ahau.

I te tīmatanga, i mahara ahau ko te take anake i kino ai ia ki ahau ko te aro nui o ngā māmā ki ā rātou tama. Ko tā rātou e hiahia ana ko tētahi wahine roa, hiroki, ataahua hoki, he wahine tuku iho anō hoki, ā, e hiahia ana rātou kia noho ia i roto i ōna rohe. Kāore i taea e au te kore e whakaaro he aha te take i kino ai te whaea o taku hoa tāne ki ahau.

He aha rawa ia i uru nui ai ki roto i tā māua whanaungatanga? I roa te wā ka mōhio ahau ehara tēnei i te mea he hiahia noa iho, ā, tera pea he take pono āna mō te kore e pai ki ahau.

Te ngana ki te whakamanawareka i te whaea o taku hoa tāne

Ae, ehara i te mea ngāwari te tūtaki ki ngā mātua me te urutau ki te whānau o tō hoa tāne. Heoi, me pēhea koe e mōhio ai mēnā he kare ā-roto tūturu tēnei o te mauahara, kaua ko te ruarua tuatahi? Koinei ētahi tohu i whakaatu i te kore e pai te māmā o taku hoa tāne ki ahau , nō reira tirohia ēnei e whai ake nei:

• He iti noa iho te whakaute e whakaaturia ana e ia ki a koe.
• I ngā wā katoa e noho tahi ana koe, ka kitea tōna riri me te mea nei kua pakaru tōna rā i tō noho mai ki te whare.
• Kāore ia e mangere ki te whakahē i ō ngoikoretanga, ki te hanga rānei i tētahi "katakata" e rite ana ki te kupu whakaiti.
• Ka whakaaro koe kāore koe i te tino pai ina tata koe ki a ia, nā te mea kāore ia e whakaaro he tika koe mō tāna tama, ā, kāore hoki ia e huna i a koe.
• He paku harikoa ia ina whawhai kōrua
• Tata ohorere koe i ana paerewa takirua mōu me te toenga o te ao

E kino ana te whaea o taku hoa tāne ki ahau, ā, koinei ngā mea 13 i mahia e au kia arohaina ai ia e au

Ki taku whakaaro kei te whakaaro koe 'E kino ana ahau ki te māmā o taku hoa tāne, engari e hiahia ana ahau kia pai ia ki ahau. Me aha ahau kia aroha ai ia ki ahau?'

Āe, e tino mōhio ana ahau ehara ahau i te tuatahi ki te kī atu ki a koe ehara tēnei i te haerenga ngāwari. He uaua te aro atu ki te mauahara me te whakakorenga mō te tangata. Ina koa mai i tētahi e tino tata ana, e tino nui ana ki te tangata e arohaina ana e koe. Engari me aro atu koe ki tēnei hei whakatikatika, hei whakapai ake hoki i tō whanaungatanga ki te whaea o tō hoa tāne kia māmā ake ai ngā mea mō te hunga katoa e whai wāhi ana.

Ko te taahiraa tuatahi ki te whakatau i ngā raruraru ko te whakaae. Whakaaetia kei reira pea ētahi āhuatanga o koe kāore ia e pai ana ki a koe, ā, he pai tēnā. Tuarua, me ngana koe ki te rapu i te take o te katoa. He aha ia kāore e pai ki a koe, he aha rānei ngā āhuatanga e raru ana ia?

Kia kitea e koe tēnei, ka taea e koe te tīmata ki te mahi i tētahi mahere mahi hei āwhina i a koe ki te ārai i ōna kare ā-roto mōu, me te hanga anō i tētahi whanaungatanga hauora me te whaea o tō hoa tāne.

He tukanga roa, āta haere, engari i te mutunga, ka tīmata te whaea o taku hoa aroha ki te pai ki ahau, ā, ināianei, kāore e taea e ia te noho i te rā kotahi me te kore waea mai ki ahau, te tono rānei kia kōrero ahau ki tana tama mō āna whanonga kino! Anei te huarahi i aroha ai te whaea o taku hoa tāne ki ahau.

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1. I kōrero māua ko taku hoa tāne mō tēnei mea

I whakaaro tonu ahau kāore te whaea o taku hoa tāne i te tino maioha ki tōku aroaro, engari kāore i taea e au te whakamārama i te take. Nā te mea kāore au i tata ki tōna whaea, kāore i taea e au te kōrero atu ki a ia mō te raruraru.

Nō reira, i whakahē ahau i taku hoa tāne, nā te mea e kore rawa e taea e tōna whaea te whakahē i ahau me te kore e kōrero i tetahi mea mōna.

I tētahi wā, i haere māua ko taku hoa tāne ki runga i tētahi motuka, ā, i tino whakamārama atu māua ki a ia te āhua o te āhuatanga. Heoi anō, kāore tōna whaea i pai ki ahau nā te mea ehara i te mea nō tētahi iwi kē ahau, engari nō tētahi whakapono kē anō hoki. I kite ahau i te kino o te whaea o taku hoa tāne ki ahau, engari kua mōhio ahau ināianei he aha.

Ahakoa te āwangawanga o tēnā, i mōhio tonu ahau me whakamātau au i ngā huarahi hou kia kite mai te whaea o taku hoa tāne i ahau ehara i te mea he kōtiro nō tētahi iwi kē. I whakapono tonu ahau kei tua atu te aroha i te whakapono.

Pērā anō taku tohutohu ki a koe. Kōrero ki tāu tāne, ka ngana ki te kimi i te take o te whakarihariha o tōna whaea ki a koe.

2. I kakahuria e au kia rite ki tāna i whakaaro ai he tika

E hiahia ana ahau ki te whakaaro ko au tētahi wahine hou o te rautau 21. He pai ki ahau aku tarau poto me aku tīhāte rahi rawa. Ki te haere ahau ki waho, he pai ki ahau te mau i tētahi koti poto ātaahua me ngā tarau tiini. He mārama, kāore tētahi wahine pakeke e pai ki ēnei momo kākahu.

He pono, he mea whakamataku ki ahau, nā te mea me taea e au te mau i taku e hiahia ai me te kore e whakapataritari i tetahi. Engari, heoi anō, kāore māua i tino ahu whakamua. He uaua ki te whakaae i kino te māmā o taku hoa tāne ki ahau nā te mea he rerekē taku kākahu i tana i tumanako ai!

Hei kukume i te whaea o taku hoa tāne ki ahau, me kakahu ahau i ngā kākahu e pai ana ki a ia. I kōrero mai taku hoa tāne he pai ki tōna whaea he Kurti me he tarau tiini, nō reira i mau ahau i ngā kākahu ki ngā Kurti hei whakaatu i taku whakaute ki tana whiringa.

Ahakoa te noho whakakeke i konei, kua tukua e au taku ara, engari ko te utu mō tētahi heke mai raruraru me taku e aroha nei. Kei te whakangaro te whaea o taku hoa tāne i tā māua whanaungatanga, engari ki te mea he iti noa te whakamarie i a ia mā te mau i a Kurti mō te haora i mua i tōna whaea, he aha e kore ai e mahi?

3. He iti ake te wā i noho ai ahau ki tōna whare i a ia e tata ana

I taea e au te mau i ngā kākahu katoa e tika ana i hiahiatia e au, engari i mōhio tonu ahau kāore te māmā o taku hoa tāne e pai ki taku haerenga pinepine ki tōna whare. Me karo ahau i te noho tata ki a ia i ngā wā katoa e taea ana e au, ā, koinā tonu taku i mahi ai.

I karo ahau i te haere ki tōna whare i te wā e tata mai ana ia, ā, i ngā wā e tika ana kia haere ahau, i whakarite ahau kia mau tonu te tawhiti i waenganui i a māua ko taku hoa.

I whakamahia e au tētahi rautaki tino taketake i tēnei wā. Kāore au i toro atu ki te whare o taku hoa tāne i ngā wā katoa, engari i toro atu tonu ahau i ētahi wā, pērā i te kotahi i roto i ngā wiki e rua, kia mōhio ai ia kei konei ahau mō te wā roa, ā, kāore au e whakarērea ana tana tama. I te wa ano, kāore au i te whakaaro kia whakararuraru i a ia me ia i roto i ngā wā poto, kia hoatu ai he wāhi me te tawhiti ki a rāua.

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4. Kāore au i te awhi i a ia i a ia e tata ana

E kino ana ahau ki te whaea o taku hoa tāne, engari e mōhio ana ahau ko ia tētahi o ngā tāngata tino nui o tōna ao. I whakaae anō ahau kāore he wāhi ngāwari o te whaea o taku hoa tāne ki ahau. Ka tino āwangawanga ia mēnā ka kite ia i ahau e tino pai ana ki tana tama i tōna taha.

I mōhio ahau me whakaute ahau i tēnā. Koia ahau i karo ai i te whai wāhi ki te PDA , tae noa ki te awhi, i a ia. I whai wā ahau kia pai ai ia ki ahau, ā, koinei tētahi o ngā mahi matua i mahia e au. Me whakaatu e ahau ki a ia taku whakaute ki a ia, ā, e kore ahau e whakatau i ngā whakataunga nui me tana tama me te kore e aro ki ōna kare ā-roto.

5. I tuku atu ahau ki te āwhina i a ia i ana mahi katoa

Kāore he mātua e pai ana kia haere mai ngā hoa o tā rātou tamaiti ki te kai, ki te paru i te whare, ā, kia kaua e tuku āwhina. He pono, i puta mai i tēnei horopaki katoa ngā maharatanga ki te kiriata 2 States, i reira a Ananya i toro atu ai ki te whare o Krish, engari kāore tōna whaea i whakaae ki a Ananya.

Heoi, pērā i a Ananya, i tuku atu ahau ki te āwhina i ngā huarahi katoa e taea ana e au. Ahakoa he rerekē ahau i a Ananya, i mōhio ahau ki te tunu kai. I āwhina ahau i a ia ki te tunu kai, ki te whakarite i ngā rihi, ki te tapahi i te huamata me ngā mea katoa e hiahiatia ana e ia. Ki taku whakaaro he taahiraa nui tēnei i roto i tōna noho pai ki ahau.

Nā tēnei i mōhio ai ia he tangata manaaki, he tangata āwhina ahau, ā, ehara i te mea ko te takaro noa iho i tana tama aroha taku i haere mai ai.

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6. I whakaatu ahau i te hiahia pono ki ana mahi whakangahau

I nui te mahi kāinga i hiahiatia mō tēnei wāhanga. I pātai tonu ahau ki taku hoa tāne mō ngā mea e pai ana ki tōna whaea, me ngā mea kāore e pai ana ki a ia, ā, i mahi ahau i runga i tēnā.

I kitea ko tōna whaea he tino aroha ki te pānui rotarota. I ia pō ka rapua e ia ngā rotarota a Faraz rāua ko Ghalib i runga i te Google, ā, ka pānuihia e rāua ko tōna whaea. E rua ngā wā i hoatu ai e au he pukapuka rotarota ki a ia me te tāpiri i tētahi tuhipoka reka ki roto i aua pukapuka.

Ehara i te mea koinā anake, engari i pātai atu anō ahau ki a ia i ngā pātai e pā ana ki te rotarota. Ka whakarongo puku ahau i a ia e kōrero ana i ngā pūrākau mō te hopu a Faraz i ōna kare ā-roto, me te pehea i mura ai te aroha tahi ki te rotarota i waenganui i a ia me tana tāne.

Nā te whakaatu i tōna hiahia pono ki ana mahi whakangahau, i mōhio ai ia kei te aro nui ahau ki ana mea e pai ana ki a ia, me ana mea e kore e pai ki a ia, ā, e mōhio ana ahau ki aua mea, ā, kei konei ahau hei whakapau kaha ki te kukume i a ia.

7. I haere tonu taku whakaute ki a ia

I te mōhio pai kāore te māmā o taku hoa tāne e pai ki ahau, kāore au i tuku i ōku kare ā-roto kia hinga i ahau. He mahi roa te akiaki i te whaea o taku hoa tāne kia aroha ki ahau, āe. I ētahi wā ka ohorere ia i te āwangawanga mō tōku aroaro, ā, ka tawai mārire mai ki ahau, ki taku hoa tāne rānei mō taua mea.

I tētahi wā, i a au e noho ana i tōna kāinga i muri i tētahi rā roa, ka mea mai tōna whaea, "Ka tino ngenge ngā tamariki i ēnei rā ki te mahi i ngā mahi iti rawa". I mōhio ahau he tawai tēnā ki ahau, engari i mōhio anō hoki ahau me whakahaere e au me te whakaute.

Ahakoa ngā tawai pēnei, i whakaute ahau i a ia, i kata noa i a ia, ā, i ētahi wā i mihi atu ahau ki a ia mō tana pai ake. Hei tauira, i tana tawai mai ki ahau me te kōrero o mua, i whakakorekore noa ahau, ā, i kī atu ahau ki a ia kāore mātou e mahi nui pērā i tana whakatupuranga, koia te take ka tere ake ai tō mātou ngenge.

I tino miharo ia ki tēnei, nā te mea i mōhio ia i mihi ahau ki āna mahi me tana uaua. E whakapono pono ana ahau ehara tēnei i te take, i te wā rānei hei whakarērea i tētahi whanaungatanga , nō reira i whakapau kaha ahau kia mau tonu taku hoa tāne ki roto i tōku ao.

8. I karohia e au te whakaoho pakanga i ngā wā katoa e taea ana e au

Ae, i ētahi wā ka kino haere ia (waimarie, kāore ia i tino kino ki ahau). I aua wā, i hiahia ahau ki te tū atu ki te hamama ki a ia mō aua kupu kino, engari i karohia e au i te mea ka taea e au.

I tēnei wā, i mōhio ahau kua tīmata te whaea o taku hoa tāne ki te whakaiti i te kino ki ahau, engari i ata noho tonu ia, ā, i tau te rangimārie ki te meka kāore māua i te rite ki a rātou. Nā tēnei māramatanga me te whakaae ki āna whanonga koretake i āwhina i ahau ki te tau te rangimārie ki āna kare ā-roto me ōku ake kare ā-roto anō hoki.

Ki te whakaaro koe kāore tonu te whaea o tō hoa e pai ki a koe, me whakaae hoki koe ki te hinengaro i tipu ake ai ia, he uaua ki te whakarerekē. Tērā pea ka roa te wā, engari ka tutuki i te mutunga. Me u tonu koe.

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9. I mutu taku tumanako ka tautoko tonu taku hoa i ahau

I tino riri ahau i te wā e titiro ana taku hoa tāne ki ngā mea me te tirohanga whai hua, kaua ki te tautoko i ahau. Ka ata whakahaere ia i te take, ka whakamārama i ngā mea ki a māua ko tōna whaea, me te tino arorau, ā, ka whakatau i ngā mea.

I mōhio ahau koinei te huarahi tika hei mahi, engari i ētahi wā ka tino riri ahau. Nō muri mai, ka mōhio ahau he mahi whai hua tāna e mahi nei, ā, i te iti rawa, kāore ia i te tautoko i tētahi taha. He tika, he whakaaro nui tonu ia.

I taku mutunga i te tumanako ka tū ia hei tautoko i ahau, ka māmā ake ngā mea māku, nā te mea i kite ahau ka noho tonu he tirohanga tuatoru e whai kiko ake ana. I tautoko ia i a māua i tēnei wā whakawhiti.

10. I karohia e au ngā tautohetohe me taku hoa tāne i te wā e tata ana tōna whaea

Kāore e tika ana te kī kāore māua e whawhai. He rite tonu ā māua whawhai ki ngā tāne me ngā wāhine katoa i tētahi wā , heoi, ahakoa te wera o te āhuatanga, i whakarite ahau kia kaua māua e whawhai i mua i tōna māmā.

Ko te take i pēnei ai, kāore tonu tōna whaea i te tino pai ki ahau. He maha tonu ōna āwangawanga. Me karo ahau i tētahi mea e whakaū ai i ōna ruarua mōku.

Me i hopukia māua ko tana tama e totohe ana, ka tino whakapono ia ka whakararuraru ahau i tōna ao (e mōhio ana koe ki te kaha o ngā māmā ki te aro nui ki ā rātou tama, tika?) Koia te take i kore ai ahau e kōrero mō tētahi kaupapa tautohe pea i a ia e noho tahi ana.

11. I pupuri tonu ahau i aku rohe i ngā wā katoa

I āta kite ahau, me whai rohe ahau me ōku hungawai (engari mō āpōpō), nō reira i tīmata wawe ahau. Ko ngā rohe i konei he tohu mō te katoa. Ka tū atu ahau mōku anō mēnā ka tino kino ngā āhuatanga, ka karo ahau i te PDA i mua i tōna māmā, ā, ka karo hoki ahau i te takahi i tōna mana ina tae mai ki tana whanaungatanga ki tana tama.

Nā te mārama me te pupuri i ngā rohe i tino āwhina i te tipu o tētahi hononga hou i waenganui i a māua ko te whaea o taku hoa tāne.

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12. I tīmata ahau ki te manaaki i a ia me he tangata noa iho, ehara i te whaea

Nā te whakaaro ki a ia hei whaea o taku hoa tāne, ka waiho ia hei tūāpapa whakapae, ā, ka waiho hei arai i tā māua hononga e tipu haere ana. I kite ahau he tangata takitahi ia, ā, kāore i roa ka tīmata taku manaaki i a ia pērā.

Kāore i te āwhina noa i a ia tēnei, engari i āwhina anō hoki i ahau, nā te mea i memeha haere te mataku i pā ki ahau i te wā i tata ai ahau ki a ia. I āwhina i a ia i tana kitenga ka taea hoki e ia te noho hei hoa mōku, ā, ka taea e māua te tipu ake i tua atu i te whaea o te tama me tana hoa wahine.

13. Kāore au i whakatoi i taku hoa tāne kia noho tahi rāua ko tōna whaea

Koinei tētahi o ngā hapa a te nuinga o ngā wāhine i roto i ngā whanaungatanga i a rātou e meinga ana te whaea o tā rātou hoa tāne kia pai ki a rātou. Ka riri rātou ki ā rātou hoa tāne me te whakaaro he kata, ā, ka kata te whaea. Āe, he hē. Kāore ngā whaea e pai ki te whakatoihia ā rātou tama e ētahi atu, inā koa e tētahi kōtiro kāore i te tino mōhiotia e ia.

I whakapau kaha ahau kia kaua rawa e kata mō taku hoa tāne i te taha o tōna whaea. Engari, i whakaatu ahau i te nui o taku whakaute ki tō rāua whanaungatanga me te nui o taku aroha ki taku hoa tāne mō te noho hei tama pai māna.

Ā tōna wā, ka kite tōna whaea he nui tōku whakaute ki taku hoa tāne me tōna whānau, ā, kāore aku whakaaro ki te whakararuraru i tā rāua whanaungatanga, i ō rāua oranga rānei. He waimarie, nā ēnei mahi katoa, ka tīmata te whaea o taku hoa tāne ki te kite i ahau ehara i te mea he kotiro nō tētahi atu whakapono.

Ināianei kua kite ia i ahau he tangata mātau, he hoa pai mō tāna tama, ā, ināianei, ka nui ake tana waea mai ki ahau ki te amuamu mō tāna tama!

FAQs

He tika rānei te tumanako kia noho tahi te kōtiro Īnia me ōna hungawai i muri i te marena?

He aha ahau i harikoa ake ai i taku mutunga ki te whakamanawareka i ōku hungawai

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