He aha te aroha i roto i te whanaungatanga, me pēhea te whakaatu

Whakaarohia tēnei: ​​kei te tawhiti koe, kei te momotu hoki i a koe i tō hoa, ā, kei te riri koe. Ka pā atu koe, ka totohe koe, ka pana atu i a rātou kia tawhiti atu. Ina ngana tō hoa ki te whakamarie i a koe me te kī mai, "E hoa, e mōhio ana koe e aroha ana ahau ki a koe", ka whakautu koe me, "E kore ahau e whakamate i a koe ki te whakaatu i tēnā." Ko koe tēnā e rapu ana i te aroha i roto i te whanaungatanga nā te mea ko ngā mahi iti nei e whakaatu ana i ngā kare ā-roto, e meinga ai koe kia noho haumaru, kia manaakitia, ā, e whakakaha ana i tō hononga. 

He mea nui te aroha ki te hoatu me te whiwhi i te aroha i roto i te whanaungatanga, ā, mā tēnei ka pai te hononga. Ko te raruraru, kāore te katoa e pai ki te whakaatu i te aroha, ā, ka pā kino pea tēnei ki te whanaungatanga tino piripono. Ko te mea kino rawa atu, kāore ētahi tāngata e tino mārama ki te tikanga o te aroha me te hohonu o tōna pānga ki te kounga o te whanaungatanga. 

I whakatau ahau ki te whakatika i tēnā mā tēnei tuhinga e aro ana ki te pātai he aha te aroha i roto i te whanaungatanga, engari e tuku ana hoki i ngā māramatanga ki ngā momo aroha rerekē i roto i te whanaungatanga, ā, e hoatu ana hoki ki a koe ngā whakaaro tūturu (me ngā tauira whai hua) mō te whakaatu i te aroha. 

He aha te aroha i roto i te whanaungatanga?

Tuatahi, me whakakore te koretake o te whakaaro mā te whakautu i te pātai, he aha te aroha i roto i te whanaungatanga? Ko te aroha te whakaaturanga o te manaaki me te aroha mā roto i ngā mahi iti, whai tikanga e meinga ai tō hoa kia rongo kei te whai mana, kei te manaakitia.

E kite ana koe, ehara te aroha me te ngākau aroha i roto i te whanaungatanga i te mea kotahi. Ko te rerekētanga o te ngākau aroha me te aroha koia tēnei: ​​ko te aroha te āhua o ō kare ā-roto mō tō hoa, ā, ko te ngākau aroha he whakaaturanga o ēnei kare ā-roto. E whakaatu ana tēnei kei te wātea koe ki te taha o te kare ā-roto, ā, kei te aro atu ki tō hoa, ā, ka whakatakoto i te ara mō tētahi hononga aroha e noho haumaru ai koe. 

He rerekē ngā huarahi e whakapuaki ai, e hiahia ai hoki ngā tāngata ki te wheako i te aroha. Hei tauira, i runga i te Reddit, he maha ngā wā ka whakapuaki ngā kaiwhakamahi i ngā wheako whaiaro e whakamārama ana i te āhua o te aroha i roto i te whanaungatanga. r/tohutohu hononga, e kī ana tētahi kaiwhakamahi kua tata ki te rua tekau tau te noho tahi me tā rātou hoa rangatira, "Tokotoru ā māua tamāhine whakamiharo. Hei whakatutuki i tēnei, ehara i te mea "ngāwari" ngā whanaungatanga. Me mahi ngā taha e rua kia angitu ai ngā whanaungatanga. Ka hoatu, ka tango, kātahi ka hoatu anō, ā, ka hoki anō te huringa. Kāore rawa he whakautu ka riro i a koe hei "rongoa mō ngā mea katoa" hei whakaatu i te aroha. He rerekē te aroha o te katoa. Ko te mea e arohaina ana e te tangata, ka kitea pea e te tangata e whai ake nei he whakarihariha. Ki taku whakaaro ko te mahi nui ki te aroha ki tētahi ko te kimi i te tangata e hiahia ana koe ki te aroha. Kāore e taea te akiaki." 

"Ka rite ki taku i korero ai, kāore ngā whanaungatanga i te ngāwari i ngā wā katoa, engari ina kitea e koe tētahi tangata e tino ōrite ana ki a koe, ka heke haere ngā mea katoa mai i reira. Ka kore e whai tikanga ngā mea uaua katoa, ā, ko tāu e whakaaro ana ko te ngāwari o te aroha ki te tangata kei a koe. Kaua e nui rawa te whakaaro ki te aroha. Ko te ngana ki te whakaatu i tō aroha ki tētahi nā te mea kāore rātou e rongo ana i te aroha mai i a koe, ehara i te aroha. He tuku noa iho i taua wā. He mea nui te hototahitanga mō te aroha. E mōhio ana ahau kei te rapu koe i ngā tohu ā-tinana hei whakaatu i tō aroha ki tētahi, engari me whakaaro ahau i te wā kotahi mēnā kei te ngana koe ki te akiaki. Kaua e akiaki.

"Ka taea e au te kī he pai ki ahau te mirimiri mai a taku wahine i ahau (ehara i te mea he moepuku i tēnei tauira) ina mōhio ia kua mahi ahau i taku mahi i te rā katoa. He pai ki ahau ina moe tahi māua i te moenga engari ka wareware ki te whakarite kawhe mō te ata kia ara ake ai ia, kia rite ai mō te tīmatanga. He pai ki ahau ina tunu kai ahau, ā, ka haere mai ia i muri i ahau, ka pēhi mai ki ahau, kātahi ka nekehia ōna ringa ki runga i taku uma, ka awhi mai i ahau. He pai ki ahau te āhua o tōna makawe e pōrearea ana ina hoki mai ia i te mahi (he nēhi ia) ā, ka awhi ahau i a ia me te hongi i a ia. He pai ki ahau te tangi e hangaia ana e ia me te āhua o tana rewa ki roto i ahau ina awhi ahau i a ia i muri i te rā roa. He pai ki ahau ina takaro ia, e papaki ana i taku papa, pērā i taku papaki i tana." 

Nā, he rerekē pea ngā huarahi motuhake hei whakaatu i te aroha i ia tangata, i ia whanaungatanga. Engari ko te tikanga ko: 

• Ngā mahi iti, āta whakaarohiaHe pā mārie, he ataata mahana, he kōrero whakaaroaro rānei
• Te whakarongo kaha me te arohaKia noho tata, kia aro nui hoki ina whakapuaki mai tō hoa i ōna whakaaro me ōna kare ā-roto
• Te tautoko riteriteTe tū i te taha o tō hoa i ngā wā pai me ngā wā uaua

Mā te whakauru i ēnei āhuatanga ki roto i ō taunekeneke o ia rā, ka taea e koe te whakawhanake i tētahi hononga kare ā-roto hohonu ake, me tētahi whanaungatanga whai hua ake.

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Ngā momo aroha i roto i te whanaungatanga

Pērā i te korenga o te huarahi tika kotahi hei whakaatu i te aroha ki tētahi hoa, ehara hoki te whakaaturanga o te aroha i te mea takitahi. I ētahi rā, ka hiahia pea koe ki te awhi i tō hoa kia roa ai te wā hei whakamarie i a rātou i te mutunga o tētahi rā uaua. I ētahi atu rā, ka hiahia pea koe ki te whakaipoipo me te pā atu ki a rātou. I tētahi pō whakaipoipo aroha, ka hiahia pea koe ki te whakamahi i ō kupu hei whakapuaki i te nui o tō rātou hiranga ki a koe. Mēnā rānei, whakamahia te mutunga wiki hei whakamama i tā rātou kawenga. 

Ko ēnei mahi katoa he whakaaturanga o ngā momo aroha rerekē i roto i te whanaungatanga. Ka whakamahia e te tangata, i runga i ngā āhuatanga, ō rātou kare ā-roto, me ngā hiahia o tā rātou hoa i tētahi wā. He hononga tata hoki te whakapuakitanga o te aroha ki ngā momo aroha o te tangata. nga reo aroha—te āhua e pai ai rātou ki te hoatu me te whiwhi i te aroha. Nā reira, ko ngā momo aroha i roto i te whanaungatanga te mea e kiia nei e Tākuta Gary Chapman ko Ngā Reo Aroha e Rima. 

I rapua e au ngā tini Subreddits kia mārama ai he aha ngā mahi iti e arohaina ai te tangata i roto i ō rātou whanaungatanga. Ko ngā whakautu mai i te waiho a tā rātou hoa i tētahi reta ā-ringa ki ngā awhi, ngā koha "i whakamahara mai tēnei ki ahau i a koe" me ngā mahi whakaaro nui. Kei te kite koe, ko ngā momo aroha i roto i te whanaungatanga ka taka ki ngā mahi māmā e whakarei ake ana i te hononga kare ā-roto i waenga i ngā hoa. Kei roto i ēnei: 

1. Pā ā-tinana

Ko te aroha tinana, mō te tini o te tangata, te huarahi matua ki te whakaatu i te aroha me te piripono. Kei roto i tēnei ko ngā mahi pēnei i te pupuri ringa, te awhi, te kihi, me te awhi, e whakatairanga ana i te wairua haumaru me te mahana i waenga i ngā hoa. Ngā huarahi hei whakaatu i te aroha mā te pa tinana ngā: 

• Te pupuri ringa i a koe e hikoi tahi ana
• Te mirimiri mārie i te tuara i muri i te rā roa
• Te awhi i a koe e mātaki ana i tētahi kiriata

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2. Nga Kupu Whakapumau

He mea nui te whakapuaki i te aroha mā te kupu kia mōhio ai kōrua ko tō hoa kei te hono tahi ō kōrua kare ā-roto, ā, kia taurite hoki ō kōrua whakaaro. Tuhinga o mua ka uru atu pea ngā mihi, ngā whakapuakitanga maioha, me ngā mihi ā-waha. Anei ētahi tauira: 

• Te kī "Aroha ana ahau ki a koe" i ngā wā katoa
• Te whakanui i te āhua o tō hoa, i ngā whakatutukitanga rānei
• Te whakapuaki i te whakawhetai mō tā rātou tautoko

3. Nga mahi mo te mahi

Ko ngā mahi whakaaroaro e aro ana ki te tohatoha i te kawenga, ki te whakamama rānei i ngā kawenga a tō hoa, kei roto i ngā tauira matarohia o te aroha i roto i te whanaungatanga. Mā ēnei mahi, ka taea e koe te whakaatu ki tō hoa e aro ana koe ki ā rātou hiahia, e hiahia ana hoki ki te tautoko i a rātou, kia noho haumaru ai rātou, kia manaakitia hoki. Anei te āhua o te whakaatu aroha mā roto i ngā mahi āwhina:  

• Te whakarite i tā rātou kai tino pai
• Te mahi i ngā mahi o te whare me te kore e tonoa
• Te whakahaere i ngā mahi hei whakaora i te wā mō rātou

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4. Te wa kounga

Ko tētahi o ngā tohu tino taketake o te aroha i waenganui i te tokorua ko te rapu hoa mō tētahi ki tētahi, me te whakapau i te wā kounga ki a rāua. I runga i te pukumahi o ō tāua oranga, he mea tino nui tēnei kia kore ai kōrua ko tō hoa e tīmata ki te whakaaro kei tawhiti kōrua, kei whakahaweatia rānei. Mā te puta atu me te noho tahi me tō hoa, ahakoa mā roto i ngā mahi tahi, mā te whakarongo noa rānei ina hiahia tō hoa ki te kōrero mai i tētahi mea ki a kōrua, ka taea te hono atu me te whakatipu i te māramatanga. Te wa kounga i roto i tētahi whanaungatanga ka uru pea ki:

• Te whakamahere i tētahi hararei mutunga wiki
• Te whai i ngā pō whakaipoipo auau
• Te whai wāhi atu ki ngā mahi whakangahau e pārekareka ana ki a kōrua

5. Te whiwhi koha

Ahakoa te nui o te utu, he tohu aroha nui te hoatu koha whakaaro nui, pērā i te kī, "I mahara ahau ki a koe" me te kī rānei, "E mōhio ana ahau kua roa koe e hiahia ana ki te hoko i tētahi o ēnei, nō reira i hokona mai ai e au māu," ahakoa te nui o te utu, ā, he tohu aroha nui tēnei. Mā tēnei ka mōhio tō hoa e aro ana koe ki āna kōrero, ā, e whakanui ana i a ia kia maumahara ai koe ki ngā mea iti. Hoatu-homai he mea kino te rongonui hei whakaaturanga aroha i roto i ngā whanaungatanga nā te mea e kitea ana he taonga nui e te tini, heoi, kāore e tika kia pērā. Mena ko te reo aroha o tō hoa, o tō hoa rānei, he hoatu koha, ka taea e koe te whakapuaki i a koe mā roto i ngā nekehanga ngāwari engari he nekehanga whakakorikori pēnei i: 

• Te miharo i a rātou ki tā rātou kai reka tino pai
• Te hoatu pukapuka nā tā rātou kaituhi tino pai
• Te waihanga i tētahi rārangi waiata whaiaro o ngā waiata e arohaina ana e rātou

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15 Ngā Whakaaro mō te Whakaatu i te Aroha ki tō Hoa

Nā te mea kua mārama tātou ki te tikanga o te aroha i roto i te whanaungatanga, me te hiranga o tēnei mea hei pupuri i te rangimarie me te ōritetanga i waenga i ngā hoa, me kōrero tātou mō te whakaatu i te aroha i roto i te whanaungatanga. He mea nui tēnei nā te mea kāore e puta noa mai ngā whakaaturanga aroha ki te katoa. Mō te tini, ko ā rātou kawenga kare ā-roto, kāhua āpitihanga, ko te wehi rānei kei hinga, kei whakakahoretia rānei, e arai ana i tā rātou kaha ki te whakapuaki i ō rātou kare ā-roto mā te kupu, mā ngā tohu rānei—ahakoa te hohonu, te pono rānei o ō rātou kare ā-roto. 

Hei āwhina i a koe ki te wawahi i aua arai i hangaia e tō hinengaro, anei ngā huarahi ngāwari tekau mā rima hei whakaatu i te aroha, me ngā tauira mahi. Kōwhiria ngā mea e tino pārekareka ana ki te reo aroha o tō hoa, o tō hoa rānei, ka whakauru i aua mea ki roto i ō taunekeneke o ia rā hei hanga i tētahi whanaungatanga taurite, aroha hoki:   

1. Tuku mihi

He mea whakamiharo ngā mihi ki te whakaatu i te aroha me te manaaki i tō hoa, ehara i te mea nā te mea e whakamana ana i ngā āhuatanga, i ngā mahi, i te āhua rānei, engari nā te mea hoki e whakaatu ana kei te kite koe, kei te maioha hoki ki a rātou. Ki te hiahia koe kia kitea tō hoa, kia whakanuia hoki tōna whakapono ki a ia anō me te aroha e tohaina ana e kōrua, ngana ki te whakauru i ngā mihi ki roto i ō taunekeneke ki a rātou. Ahakoa kāore e puta noa mai, akiakihia koe kia kōrero nui i ngā mea e arohaina ana e koe, e whakanuia ana e koe, e whakautehia ana rānei mō tō hoa rangatira.  

tauira

1. "He ataata tino ataahua tōu—e whakamārama ana i tōku rā."
2. "Nui atu tōku whakahīhī ki tō kaha ki te mahi i ia rā, i ia rā."
3. "He tino pai koe ki te whakarongo; he mea nui tēnei ki ahau."
4. "He tino ātaahua te tae o tōu āhua!"

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2. Tuhia he reta aroha ki a rātou

Ngā reta aroha i tuhia ā-ringa He huarahi tawhito ēnei hei whakaatu i te aroha. Ka whakaatu i te kaha me te whakaaro nui, ā, ka meinga tō hoa kia tino motuhake. Haunga tēnā, ka whakaoho i te wairua aroha me te harikoa i roto i tō kōrua whanaungatanga. Whakaarohia, kei te kitea e tō hoa he reta aroha i roto i tā rātou putea tari i waenganui o tētahi rā pōuri i te mahi, kei te oho ake rānei koe ki tētahi reta i runga i te tēpu taha o te moenga. Ahakoa he aha tā rātou e pā ana, he reta reka, he reta pono mai i a koe ka whakamārama i tō rātou rā. 

tauira

1. Tāpirihia he reta piri ki roto i tā rātou putea tina me te kī, "E tino hiahia ana ahau ki te kite i a koe i tēnei pō."
2. Tuhia he reta e whakaahua ana i ngā take katoa e arohaina ai rātou e koe
3. Tukuna he karere kuputuhi ngākau nui: "I hiahia noa ahau ki te kī atu kei te whakaaro ahau ki a koe."
4. Waihangahia he ipu tuhipoka kei roto ngā maharatanga reka me ngā mea e pai ana koe mō aua maharatanga

3. Whakahau tahi te wa kounga

I tēnei wā, e kukumea tonutia ana tātou ki ngā huarahi tekau, ā, hei tāpiri atu ki tēnā, kei te whakataetae tonu ō tātou mata ki te tiki i tō tātou aro, ko tō wā me tō aro katoa pea te koha nui rawa atu ka taea e koe te hoatu ki tō hoa. Ko te whakarite i te wā kounga tahi tētahi o ngā tohu aroha e kore e taea te whakakorekore i roto i te whanaungatanga nā te mea e whakaatu ana i te hiahia nui ki te rongo i te hononga ki tō hoa, me te whakapakari i te whanaungatanga. whakawhanaungatanga kare-a-rotoKo ngā wheako e tohaina ana e kōrua i tēnei rā, ahakoa he hikoi roa, he tunu kai tahi, he kanikani waiata rānei ki tā kōrua waiata tino pai, ka noho hei maumaharatanga aroha mō āpōpō, ā, ka piri ake ai kōrua tetahi ki tetahi. 

tauira

1. Tunua he kai mā te kōrero tahi me te whakarongo ki te puoro
2. Haereere noa, kaua he waea, ka kōrero mō tō rā
3. Whakamaherehia he haerenga rā ki tētahi tāone tata, ki tētahi pāka rānei
4. Me whai kai kore hangarau, ka arotahi noa kōrua tetahi ki tetahi

4. Whakaohokia rātou ki ngā koha whakaaro nui

Ko nga taonga whai whakaaroAhakoa ngā mea iti, me whakaatu ki tō hoa rangatira kei te whakaaro koe ki a ia ahakoa kāore kōrua i te taha, me te whakaatu hoki i tō mārama ki ōna hiahia me ōna hiahia. Kāore e kore, ko ēnei ohorere iti kua whakaritea e kōrua mō tētahi ki tētahi ka tāpiri atu i te harikoa me te hihiri ki te whanaungatanga.

tauira

1. Kawea mai ā rātou kawhe, kai reka rānei tino pai ki te kāinga i te wā ohorere
2. Hokona he tīkiti mō tētahi kiriata, mō tētahi kōnohete rānei kua whakahuatia e rātou
3. Whakaohokia rātou ki tētahi whakaahua kua whakaangahia o tētahi wā motuhake i a rātou anō
4. Hoatu he mea whai hua ki a rātou, he mea e hiahiatia ana e rātou, pērā i te taputapu, i te pukapuka rānei

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5. Whakaaturia te aroha tinana

Kāore he mea e rite ana ki te aroha me te pā atu ki te tinana hei whakaatu i te mahana, te aroha, me te whakamarie. Mā ngā mahi ā-ringa pērā i te pupuri i te ringa o tō hoa, te kukume i a ia kia awhi, te kihi i a ia i mua i tō haerenga atu mō te rā, me te awhi i a ia i a koe e moe ana, ka āwhina i te tukunga o te oxytocin, he homoni e whakatairanga ana i te hononga. Ngā pānga aroha i roto i te whanaungatanga e hono tika ana ki ngā kare ā-roto o te ngākau māhaki, e mea ana kia tata ake ai koe, kia hono atu ai hoki ki tō hoa. 

tauira

1. Puritia ō ringaringa i a koe e hikoi ana, e mātaki ana rānei i te pouaka whakaata
2. Hoatu he awhi roa, he awhi whakamarie ki a rātou ina ahotea ana rātou
3. Mirimiri mārire i ō rātou makawe, mirimiri rānei i ō rātou pakihiwi
4. Tohaina he kihi i ia ata, i ia pō

6. Tukuna he ringa āwhina

Kāore ngā kupu me ngā pā aroha e herea ana ki te whanaungatanga. Ka kitea anō hoki i roto i te āhua o tō tautoko i tō hoa i ngā mahi o ia rā. Ina tohatoha koe i te kawenga o ngā kawenga, ina āwhina rānei i tō hoa ki tētahi mea e raru ana rātou, ehara i te mea ka whakaiti noa i tō rātou ahotea, engari ka whakamanawa hoki i a rātou ka taea e rātou te whakawhirinaki ki a koe. 

tauira

1. Tunua tā rātou kai tino pai ina ngenge rātou
2. Mahia ā rātou mahi tino kore e pai ki a rātou, pērā i te takai kakahu
3. Tākaihia ā rātou tina, takaia rānei he kawhe mā rātou i te ata
4. Tukua kia mahi i ngā mahi kia taea ai e rātou te whakangā

7. Whakamaherehia ngā mea ohorere

Mena kei te whakaaro koe me pēhea te whakaatu i te aroha ki tō hoa, he pai te whakamahere i ngā ohorere hei tīmatanga. Ahakoa te nui, te iti rānei, he huarahi anō tō ngā ohorere ki te kawe mai i te wairua harikoa me te tūponotanga ki te whanaungatanga. Ko te mea nui, mā ēnei ka mōhio tō hoa kei te hanga koe i tētahi hononga hou. te whakapau kaha i roto i te whanaungatanga.

tauira

1. Whakamaherehia he pō whakatā ohorere ki tā rātou wharekai tino pai
2. Whakaritea he rapunga taonga me ngā koha iti hei arahi atu ki tētahi ohorere motuhake
3. Whakaarahia rātou ki te parakuihi i runga i te moenga
4. Whakamaherehia he hararei mutunga wiki me te kore e mōhiotia e rātou te wāhi e haere atu ai

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8. Tautokohia tō hoa

Ko tētahi o ngā huarahi māmā ki te whakaatu i te aroha ki tō hoa rangatira ko te whakatenatena i ō rātou wawata, te tautoko i a rātou i roto i ngā mea katoa e mahia ana e rātou, me te noho hei āwhina i a rātou ki te wikitoria i ngā wero. He mea nui tēnei ki a koe te whakaatu i tō rātou tipu me tō rātou angitu, ā, ka hanga hoki i te whakawhirinaki me te te whakaute i roto i te whanaungatanga.  

tauira

1. Āwhina i a rātou ki te whakaharatau mō tētahi whakaaturanga, mō tētahi uiuinga rānei.
2. Whakanuia ngā tohu nui o ā rātou whāinga, pērā i ngā whakatairanga, i ngā whakatutukitanga rānei.
3. Whakatenatenahia rātou ki te whai i ngā mahi whakangahau, i ngā mea rānei e ngākau nui ana rātou i ruarua ai.
4. Haere ki ngā huihuinga, ki ngā mahi rānei e whai tikanga ana ki a rātou.

9. Whakamihi i tō hoa

Ko tētahi o ngā huarahi e taea ai e koe te whakaatu i te aroha ki tō hoa, ko te mihi ki a rātou, ehara i te mea mō ā rātou mahi anake, engari mō te āhua o rātou anō hoki. Mā te whakaū i tō whakaute me tō whakaute ki a rātou, ka nui te āwhina i a rātou kia rongo i te aroha me te whakaute i roto i te whanaungatanga, ā, ka māmā ake ai te noho hei tino tangata pono ki a koe. Mā tēnei ka whakatairanga i te whanaungatanga piripono me te ka whakahōhonu ake i tō hononga. 

tauira

1. "Ko tō wairua pai te mea e whakahihiko ana i ahau i ia rā, i ia rā."
2. "He nui tōku aroha ki te hunga katoa e karapoti ana i a koe."
3. "He mea whakamiharo tonu tō auahatanga!"
4. "He tino pai tō wairua whakakatakata—e whakamārama ana i tōku ao."

10. Waihangahia ngā tikanga tuku iho

O ngā momo huarahi hei whakaatu i te aroha i roto i te whanaungatanga, ko tētahi o aku tino pai ko te whai i te kaupapa ki te waihanga i ngā tikanga hou ngātahi. Ahakoa he tunu keke ngātahi i tō huritau marena, he hanga s'mores hei tohu i te hukarere tuatahi i ia hotoke, he whakarite rānei i tētahi... te rapu taonga aroha I ia Aranga, ka hoatu e ngā tikanga te tuakiri ki te whanaungatanga, ka hōhonu ake te kare ā-roto o te noho tahi i waenganui i ngā hoa. 

tauira

1. Tīmatahia he pō kiriata ā-tau i te tikanga tuku iho o te Pō Kirihimete
2. Haere i tētahi hararei ā-tau ki te wāhi kotahi
3. Meinga te parakuihi o te Rātapu hei tikanga
4. Kia whai huarahi motuhake hei whakanui i ngā huritau, i ngā rā whānau rānei

11. Kia pai te whakarongo

Ehara i te mea uaua, i te mea uaua rānei te whakaatu i te aroha, pērā i te whakaaro. Inaa, he māmā noa iho te whakarongo ki te tangata ina he mea hei kōrero māu mā tō hoa. Mā tēnei mahi ngāwari ka taea te whakamana i ngā whakaaro me ngā kare ā-roto o tō hoa, kia māmā ake ai tā rātou whakapuaki i ō rātou whakaaro ki a koe. 

tauira

1. Whakarērea atu ngā mea e whakararuraru ana i a rātou, ā, hoatu te aro katoa ki a rātou.
2. Pātaihia ngā pātai tuwhera kia mārama ai koe ki ō rātou tirohanga.
3. Whakamanahia ō rātou kare ā-roto mā te kī atu, "He tino uaua rawa atu tēnā."
4. Whakaarohia ā rātou kōrero hei whakaatu i tō rātou māramatanga.

12. Whakaatuhia te mihi

Me te whakamoemiti me te te whakapau kaha, ko te whakawhetai tētahi o ngā tūāpapa o te whanaungatanga aroha. Ka taea e koe te mea kia arohaina, kia whai uaratia hoki tō hoa mā te kī atu, "Ngā mihi nui," mō ngā mea e mahia ana e rātou māu, mō te āhua o rātou anō rānei. 

Ka whakapau kaha taku hoa ki te mihi i ia wā ka mahi ahau i tētahi mea iti māna, ahakoa te tiki wai māna, te taka kai e pai ana ki a ia, te whakarongo noa rānei ki a ia ina hiahia ia ki te whakaputa i ana whakaaro. Whakapono mai ki ahau ina kī atu ahau ki a koe, ko aua "whakawhetai" iti e whakaurua ana ki roto i ā māua kōrero o ia rā he rite tonu te uara ki ahau, pērā i te whakarongo ki a ia e kī ana, "E aroha ana ahau ki a koe." 

tauira

1. "Ngā mihi nui ki a koe mō tō whakaaro nui i ngā wā katoa."
2. "E mihi ana ahau ki te nui o tāu whakapau kaha ki tā tāua whanaungatanga."
3. "Ngā mihi nui ki a koe mō te whakakatakata i ahau i ngā wā e tino hiahiatia ana e au."
4. "E mihi ana ahau ki a koe mō tō tautoko i ngā rā tata nei."

13. Tirohia ngā maharatanga me te pārekareka ki te nostalgia

He huarahi anō tā ngā maharatanga hei whakanui ake i te hononga o tētahi ki tētahi. Mā te titiro whakamuri ki ngā wā i noho tahi ai kōrua ka taea te whakahou ake i ngā maharatanga maha kua taka ki te taha o te ara i roto i ngā uauatanga o te ao, ā, ka āwhina hoki i a koe ki te kite i te tawhiti kua tae atu kōrua. Mā te hokinga mai o te mahara ki ngā wā o mua ka taea te whakapai ake i tō kōrua whanaungatanga. Ae, kia mau tonu ai ō maharatanga hei hokihoki ki mua, he mea nui kia waihangahia he maharatanga hou i a kōrua e haere ana. 

tauira

1. Tirotiro tahi i ngā puka whakaahua tawhito, i ngā ataata rānei
2. Whakahou anō i tō rā tuatahi, i tētahi haerenga e kore e warewaretia
3. Tirohia anō tētahi mahi i pai ai kōrua ki te mahi tahi 
4. Waihangahia he pukapuka whakaahua, he whakapiri matihiko rānei o ō wā tino pai

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14. Kia ngahau

Mā te mahi noa, me te kore tākaro ka tino hoha te whanaungatanga. Nō reira, i a koe e whakapau kaha ana ki te whakapai ake i tō whanaungatanga, me te aro atu ki ngā take e raru ai pea i te rangi, kaua e tukua kia memeha haere te āhua o te tākaro me te ngahau ngāwari. Waihangahia he wāhi mō te ngahau tamariki, me te te kata i roto i tō whanaungatanga.  

tauira

1. Kia takarohia he pakanga urunga
2. Whakamātauria he kanikani wairangi ngātahi
3. Tākarohia ngā kēmu papa, ngā kēmu ataata rānei hei rōpū
4. Whakakatakata i roto i te hinengaro, hangaia rānei he ingoa rorirori mō tetahi ki tetahi

15. Whakaatuhia te ngoikore o ngā kare ā-roto

Whakatuwheratia ō whakaaro me ō kare ā-roto ki a rātou. Heoi anō, he aha te aroha i roto i te whanaungatanga mēnā ehara i te whakaaturanga o ō kare ā-roto pono? Ahakoa kei te raru koe i ngā mataku mō te heke mai, kei te raru koe i ngā rewera o mua, kei a koe rānei ngā whakaaro mō te whanaungatanga, kōrerohia, tohaina, ka whakatuwherahia. Tukua tō hoa kia uru mai. Tukua rātou kia kite i a koe e tū ana. Kāore he mea e nui ake ai tō rātou aroha me tō rātou uara i a koe. te whakapau kaha kia noho ngoikore me ratou.  

tauira

1. Kōrerotia te nui o tō rātou hiranga ki a koe i roto i tētahi wā marino
2. Kōrerohia ō wehi, ō āwangawanga rānei mō te heke mai
3. Whakaae mai ina pōuri ana koe, ā, tonoa he tautoko
4. Whakaarohia te pānga pai o tō whanaungatanga ki tō oranga

Thoughts Final

E ai ki te kōrero, he kupumahi te aroha, ā, ko te whakaatu i te aroha te huarahi e whakamahia ai tēnei kare ā-roto hei mahi. Ahakoa te hou, te tawhito rānei o tō whanaungatanga, kaua e tukua ēnei mahi iti kia ngaro. Mā ia mahi whakaaro nui e whakaatu ai koe i te nui o tōna hiranga ki tō hoa, ka nui ake tō rātou aroha, tō rātou uara, me tō rātou noho humarie i roto i te whanaungatanga. Me mahi tonu, ā, kāore koe e manukanuka ki ngā āwangawanga me ngā mataku e whakararuraru ana i tō hononga.

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