25 Ngā Tohu e Hiahia Ana Te Kōtiro Ki A Koe

Me pēhea te mōhio kei te hiahia tetahi kotiro ki a koe? Āe, kua kitea pinepinetia e koe ia e titiro pōuri ana ki a koe? Ka tīmata ia ki te whero ina kōrero koe ki a ia? He rerekē tana whanonga i te tikanga? Ki te aro nui koe ki ana whanonga, ka tīmata koe ki te kite i ētahi tauira e tohu ana kei te hiahia tetahi kotiro ki a koe.

Ahakoa he mea whakatenatena, me hiahia pea koe ki ētahi atu tohu mārama e hiahia ana ia ki te noho hei hoa wahine māu i mua i te neke. Nā te mea, kāore koe e hiahia ki te hē te mārama ki te ngākau aroha o tētahi kōtiro e kite ana i a koe he hoa noa iho, he tohu aroha. Ko te pātai: me pēhea koe e mōhio ai mēnā he pai tētahi kōtiro ki a koe?

He maha ngā tāne e kite ana i ngā wāhine he mea uaua, ā, e whakaaro ana rātou kāore e taea e rātou te wetewete i ngā mea e puta ana i roto i te hinengaro o te wahine. Heoi, ki te aro nui koe ki ngā taipitopito, ka kite koe kāore te wetewete i ngā kare ā-roto huna o te wahine ki a koe i te mea uaua pērā i tāu e whakaaro nei. Ka waiho e ngā wāhine he ara parai hei whai māu i a rātou e pupuri ana i ngā kare ā-roto aroha ki a koe. Kei konei mātou hei āwhina i a koe ki te tautuhi i aua tohutohu me ngā tohu ngaro me te whakamārama taipitopito mō ngā tohu e hiahia ana te kōtiro ki a koe.

25 Ngā Tohu Kāore i te Mōhiotia e Hiahia Ana Te Kōtiro Ki A Koe

He maha ngā wā ka whakaroa ngā kōtiro ki te whakapuaki i ō rātou kare ā-roto ki tētahi mea aroha, i te wehi kei whakakahoretia, kei pā kino rānei ki tō rātou whanaungatanga ki taua tangata motuhake. Nā te mea rānei he tino whakama rātou ki te whakaatu i ō rātou ngākau pono. Ahakoa rā, ahakoa he āta whakaaro, he kore rānei, ka mutu ka whakaaturia e rātou ō rātou kare ā-roto mōu, mā roto i ā rātou mahi, kupu, reo tinana, me ētahi atu.

Mena kua mau tō aroha ki tētahi kōtiro, ā, kāore koe i te tino mōhio ki ōna kare ā-roto mōu, tera pea ka raru koe i ngā pātai pēnei i te, "Kei te aroha ia ki ahau, kei te nui rawa rānei taku whakaaro ki tana āhua hoahoa?" Āe, kati te whakaaro nui, ā, tīmata ki te aro ki tana whanonga ki a koe me te taha o koe. Ka tīmata koe ki te kite i ngā tohu o te hiahia tahi e tohu ana i a ia e hiahia ana hei hoa wahine māu engari e whakama ana ki te whakaae.

Nā, e mārama ana mātou, ki te mea kei te pātai tonu koe, me pēhea te mōhio mēnā kei te hiahia tetahi kōtiro ki a koe i mua i te neke. Ko te whāinga matua he anga whakamua, kaua e waiho tō whakaaro o nāianei ki a ia me te whakamā. Ki te hiahia koe kia tino mōhio ki ōna kare ā-roto mōu, tirohia ēnei tohu e 25 e whakaatu ana kei te hiahia tetahi kōtiro ki a koe i mua i te whakamahere i tō nekehanga e whai ake nei:

1. Ka whero tōna mata i a koe e tata ana

Ki te hiahia koe ki te mōhio mēnā kei te hiahia ia ki a koe, mātakitakina tana whanonga ina kōrero koe ki a ia. Ko ngā tohu e hiahia ana ia ki a koe te mea tino māmā ki te kite i roto i tana reo tinana. O ēnei, ko te tohu tino kitea ko te whero o tōna mata. Ki te whero ia ina kōrero koe ki a ia, ki te ngana rānei ia ki te karo i a koe me te ataata, ko te tikanga kei te pai ia ki a koe, ā, kei te hiahia hoki ki a koe.

He huarahi tino pono hoki tēnei ki te mōhio mēnā e pai ana ia ki a koe engari kei te hunaia e ia nā te mea he urupare koretake te whero o ōna kanohi. Ahakoa he whakama ia engari e pai ana ki a koe, e kore e taea e ia te aukati i a ia anō kei whero ina kōrero koe, ina mahi rānei i tētahi mea e pāorooro ai tōna ngākau. Hei whakamātautau, ngana ki te mihi ki a ia. Ki te huri whero tonu tōna mata, he tohu tino pono tēnei kei te aro puku ia ki a koe.

2. Ka ngana ia ki te karo i a koe

Ae, he ahua rerekē te ahua, ā, tera pea kei te whakaaro koe me pēhea te noho tawhiti atu i a koe hei tohu e hiahia ana te wahine ki a koe. Engari whakarongo mai ki a mātou. Ina kite te kotiro e pai ana ia ki te tāne, i te tuatahi ka ngana ia ki te karo i a ia kia mārama ai ki ōna kare ā-roto. Mena kei te ngana tonu ia ki te whakaaro he aha ōna kare ā-roto, kāore ia e hiahia ki te tūpono ki te tuku wawe i a ia ki waho.

Hei tauira, i tino pōhēhē a Reene i tana tīmatanga te hinga ki tana hoa pai i tīmata kaha ia ki te karo i a ia. Kāore ia i whakautu i ana waea, i whakahoki i ana tuhinga, i tūtaki rānei ki a ia mō ngā rā. "I tino pōhēhē ahau mō ōku kare ā-roto e huri haere ana ki a ia, ā, i hiahia ahau ki te wā ki te tukatuka i aua kare ā-roto i mua i taku hokinga atu ki a ia," tana kī.

3. Ka kaha ake tana taunekeneke ki a koe i runga i ngā pāpāho pāpori

He hononga nui kei waenga pāpāho pāpori me ngā whanaungatanga i tēnei rā. Nō reira, ko tētahi o ngā tohu ngaro e aroha ana ia ki a koe ko tana taunekeneke kaha ake ki a koe i runga i ngā papaaho pāpāho pāpori. Hei tauira,

• Ka pai, ka tuku kōrero rānei ia ki ō pou pāpāho pāpori katoa
• Tērā pea ka tāpirihia koe e ia ki ngā pou
• Ka paheke ia ki roto i ō DM
• Ka whakautu ia ki ngā kōrero katoa e tukuna ana e koe
• Ka tukuna atu e ia he meme hei tīmata i tētahi kōrero mena kua roa kōrua e kore e hono atu

Ahakoa e mangere ana ia ki te whakaatu i a ia anō ki te ao tūturu, ko te pāpāho pāpori te huarahi tino pai hei kukume i tō aro me te whakamōhio atu ki a koe i ōna kare ā-roto mōu. Koia te take he wāhi pai hoki te pāpāho pāpori hei rapu tohu e hiahia ana ia ki a koe.

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4. Ka rerekē tōna āhua

Me pēhea koe e mōhio ai mēnā kei te pai tētahi kōtiro ki a koe? Mā te aro ki ngā taipitopito ka āwhina i a koe ki te whakaoti i tēnei panga. Kua tīmata kē ia te āhua rite ki tētahi diva e rite ana ki te hikoi i runga i te whāriki whero? Kua kite koe kua whakarērea e ia āna tarau tāne whakamarie, ā, kua whiriwhiria he kākahu e whakaatu ana i a ia i ngā wāhi tika? Mēnā koinā, he tohu mārama ēnei e hiahia ana tētahi kōtiro kia kite koe i a ia, ā, kotahi noa te tikanga o tēnā: e pai ana ia ki a koe.

Ina ngana te kōtiro ki te miharo i te tāne, ka tīmata ia ki te aro nui atu ki tōna āhua. Ka ngana ia ki te mau i te momo kākahu e pai ana ki a koe. Mehemea he kakahu pango tana i tētahi rā, ā, ka kī atu koe he pai rawa atu te pango mōna. Tērā pea ka kite koe ka tīmata ia ki te mau pango i ngā wā maha hei miharo i a koe. E hiahia ana ia kia ātaahua ki a koe, kia maioha hoki ki a ia mō tēnā. He tohu pono tēnei kei te hiahia te kōtiro ki a koe, ā, kei te ngana ia kia kite koe i a ia. Kia mōhio koe ki te tohu, ka mihi atu ki a ia kia mōhio ai ia he ōrite ngā kare ā-roto.

5. E kore rawa ia e whakakahore ki ngā mahere katoa e mahia ana e koe

Kia mōhio te kōtiro e pai ana ia ki a koe, kāore ia e hiahia ki te ngaro i te whai wāhi ki te noho tahi me koe, ahakoa he raruraru pea ki tana mahi o ia rā. Koia koe e kore ai e rongo i a ia e kī ana he pukumahi ia, ā, e kore e whakaae ki te tono, ahakoa he haere ki tētahi pāti, he haerenga, he noho noa iho rānei. Engari, ka hiahia nui ia ki te tūtaki ki a koe.

"Kei te aroha ia ki ahau mēnā kāore ia e whakahē i te whai wāhitanga ki te haere tahi?" Āe, kāti! Kei te miharo mātou kei te pātai mai koe i te pātai nā te mea he mārama te whakautu. E kī ana a Sheena, he kaipānui nō Santa Barbara, "He tangata kāinga ahau, ā, kāore au e pai ki ngā pāti pō engari i tēnei wā i te kāreti, i aroha nui ahau ki tētahi tangata he tangata tino hiahia ki te pāti. Nō reira, i ngā wā katoa e karanga mai ana ia ki ahau, kāore au i kaha ki te kī kāo. I te mutunga, he pai te whakapau kaha i a māua e rua tau te roa o te whakaipoipo."

6. Ka kite koe i a ia e titiro matatau mai ana ki a koe

Me pēhea koe e mōhio ai mēnā he pai ki a koe tētahi kōtiro? Whāia tana titiro, ā, ka kitea e koe tāu whakautu. Ina kei roto kōrua i tētahi wāhi tūmatanui, tera pea ka kite koe i a ia e titiro mai ana ki a koe, kātahi ka tahuri ke atu ina kite koe i a ia. Ehara tēnei i te mea kotahi noa iho, engari ka tupu tonu, ka puta tonu. He mea tino kitea tēnei. waitohu kei te pai tō ipo ki a koe he ngāwari ki te kite i muri, nā te mea ko te titiro tonu mai a ia ki a koe he whakaaturanga noa iho pea o ōna kare ā-roto e kore nei e taea e ia te whakahaere.

He māia pea ia, ā, kāore e hiahia kia noho ko ia te tuatahi ki te kōrero i ngā mea katoa. Heoi, kāore e rerekē te meka e pai ana ia ki a koe, ā, ko tētahi o ngā tohu tēnei e hiahia puku ana ia ki a koe. Ina tupu tēnei, titiro atu ki a ia, me te pupuri i ōna kanohi kia mōhio ai ia he rite tonu ō whakaaro ki a ia.

7. E maumahara ana ia ki ngā mea mōu

I roto i ngā kōrerorero, ka tukuna e tātou ngā kōrero mō tātou anō, kāore pea e maumaharatia e tātou – arā, ngā mea e pai ana ki a tātou, ngā mea e kore e pai ki a tātou, ā tātou wawata, moemoeā, me ngā tumanako. Ina pai te kōtiro ki a koe, ka maumahara ia ki ēnei kōrero i whakapuakina e koe ki a ia. Hei tā te kī, ka haere kōrua ki te kai tina, ā, kei te pōhēhē kōrua he aha tā kōrua e tono ai. E taunaki ana ia i te ika Florentine nā te mea e mahara ana ia ko tā kōrua tino pai tēnā.

Kāore koe e mahara ki te kōrero atu ki a ia mō tēnei mea, engari e mahara ana ia. Waihoki, ka mahara ia ki ō tae tino pai, ki ō kiriata tino pai, ki ō waiata, me ō whakaari kōmeke, tae atu ki ngā kōrero mō tō tamarikitanga, mō ō wheako o mua rānei i kōrerotia e koe ki a ia. Whakahuatia, ā, e mōhio ana ia ki tēnā. Ka mahara ia ki ēnei kōrero motuhake nā te mea e aro nui ana ia ki a koe, ā, nā te mea he aroha tōna ki a koe.

I aroha a Kendall ki tētahi hoa mahi, ā, ahakoa i kōrero tonu rāua i te roanga o te rā, me te tuku karere kuputuhi i tua atu i ngā hāora mahi, kāore i taea e ia te kī mēnā he pai anō hoki ia ki a ia. "He kaha, he whaiaro hoki ā māua kōrero kuputuhi. Kei te aro nui ia ki ahau i runga i te kuputuhi kuputuhi, kei te nui rawa rānei taku whakaaro ki roto?" Me pēhea koe e mōhio ai mēnā he pai tētahi kōtiro ki a koe engari kei te huna tonu, e whakaaro ana ia. Kātahi, i tētahi rā, ka tono ia ki a Kendall kia haere tahi rāua ki te pāka kuri nā te mea i hiahia ia kia tūtaki ia ki tētahi kurī e rite ana ki tana mōkai o tōna tamarikitanga. I reira ka tino mōhio ia he nui atu i te noho noa iho ngā mea e tupu ana i waenganui i a rāua. korikori ipurangi.

8. Ka kitea e ia ngā huarahi hei kōrero ki a koe

Kei te whakaaro koe he aha ngā tohu e pai ana te kōtiro ki a koe i runga i te tuku karere kuputuhi, he whakama rānei ia engari e pai ana ki a koe? Āe, ko te whakautu kei roto pea i tēnei āhua o te kōtiro e pai ana ki a koe: ka kitea e ia ngā take hei tuku karere kuputuhi ki a koe, hei kōrero rānei ki a koe. Kia pai ake ai tōna mōhio ki a koe, me noho ia hei hoa mōu i te tuatahi. Mena he hoa noa koe, ka rapu ia i ngā take hei whai wā atu māna ki a koe.

Mena he hoa koe nāna, tera pea ka tahuri ia ki a koe mō ngā tohutohu mō ngā take whaiaro, mō ngā take mahi rānei. Tērā pea ka hangaia e ia he raruraru rūpahu hei kōrero noa ki a koe. Mena he hoa mahi koe, ka pā mai he raruraru mutunga kore ki a ia e pā ana ki te mahi e hiahia ana ia ki tō āwhina. E hiahia ana ia ki ahau mā te karere kuputuhi, e pātai ana koe? Tirohia noa ō hītori kōrerorero ki a ia, tirohia te auau o tana tīmatanga kōrero. Ki te kite koe e whakapā atu ana ia ki a koe i runga i tētahi take, i tētahi take rānei, mena kua kore kōrua e kōrero mō te rā kotahi, he tohu tino pai tēnā kei te hiahia ia ki a koe.

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9. Ka pātai ia mō ō hoa me tō whānau

Ina hiahia te kōtiro ki a koe, ka aro nui ia ki tō ao, ā, ka ngana ki te ako atu mō ō hoa me tō whānau, ina koa te momo whanaungatanga e tohaina ana e koe ki a rātou. Ki te pātai tonu ia mō ō hoa me tō whānau, ko te tikanga kei te hiahia ia ki te mōhio atu ki a koe. Ki te mea he hoa kē ia nōu, ka hiahia ia ki te tūtaki ki tō whānau, ki te mōhio ki a rātou, me te rapu huarahi ki te hanga hononga ki ngā tāngata o roto i tō porowhita.

Ko te hiahia ki te mōhio atu ki a koe, ki te hono atu ki a koe i runga i te taumata piripono, me te mōhio ki tō oranga o mua me ngā tumanako me ngā wawata ā muri ake nei, he tohu katoa ēnei o te kotiro e hiahia ana ki a koeE hiahia ana ia ki te hanga hononga pumau ki a koe, ā, he huarahi noa iho ēnei pātai hei whakatakoto i te turanga mōna.

10. Ka noho ia i tō taha

E mea ana a Ruel, "I ētahi tau kua pahure ake nei, i aroha ahau ki taku hoa mahi, ā, he hoa pai anō hoki māua. Heoi, kāore i taea e au te neke atu, te tono atu rānei kia haere tahi māua. Nā te mea, me pēhea te mōhio kei te hiahia tētahi kōtiro ki a koe? I rapu au i ngā tohu e whakaatu ana kei te hiahia anō hoki ia ki a koe, engari kāore i kitea e au."

"Kātahi ka tīmata ahau ki te kite ka rapu huarahi ia kia tata mai ki ahau. I ngā hui, ka noho ia ki tōku taha, ka tono rānei kia whakaritea he tūru mōna. I te wharekai o te tari, ka tīmata ia ki te kai tina i taku tēpu. I mōhio ahau koinei tana huarahi ki te whakaatu i tōna hiahia ki ahau i taku whakapuakitanga i tēnei ki aku hoa wahine, i kī mai rātou he tohu ēnei katoa kei te aro puku ia ki a koe."

Ko te kōtiro motuhake hoki i roto i tō ao, tera pea kei te tuku tohutohu ngawari. Ngāna kia aro ki tana reo tinana me tana whanonga ina noho tahi kōrua i te wā e whai ake nei. Ki te noho pōturi ia, e rapu ana i te whai wāhi ki te noho tata ki a koe, ā, ina noho ia, he tuwhera, he manaaki tana reo tinana – kāore he ringa whiti, he āhua whakama rānei, engari ka noho marino ia, ka piko atu ki a koe – koinei tētahi o ngā tohu tino kitea e hiahia puku ana ia ki a koe.

11. Ka nui ake tana whakawhanaungatanga ki ō hoa tata

Ki te mea he tino māia ia ki te whakatata atu ki a koe, ka ngana pea ia ki te whakauru atu ki ō hoa kia nui ake ai ō kōrua hononga. Mā roto i a rātou, ka tīmata ia ki te kōrero ki a koe. Ka pēnei te āhua o ngā kōtiro ina koa ka aroha rātou ki tētahi tangata kāore rātou i te tino mōhio.

Tērā pea kua hohonu ake ōna kare ā-roto mōu, engari kia kaha ai te hononga aroha, me mōhio ia ki a koe, ā, ko te huarahi pai ki te whakauru atu ki roto i tō rōpū hoa koia te huarahi pai ki te mahi i tēnā. Ki te kite koe i a ia e whakaū ana i tōna tūranga i roto i tō porowhita matua o ngā hoa, ā, e noho tahi ana ia i ngā wā katoa e huihui ana kōrua, tera pea koinei tētahi o ngā tohu e aro puku ana ia ki a koe.

12. Ka kata ia ki ō katakata

"Kei te hiahia ia ki ahau? Me tono atu ahau ki a ia kia haere tahi? Ka hoki mai anō rānei?" Ki te kore koe e moe mō ēnei momo pātai, kia aro noa ki te pai o tō whakakorikori i a ia. Tērā pea e mōhiotia ana koe he tino kino tō wairua whakakatakata, engari kei te kōrero tonu koe i ngā katakata kāore tetahi e kata. Engari i ngā wā katoa e kōrero ana koe i ngā katakata, ahakoa te ngoikore, ka kite koe i a ia e kata ana.

Ina puta mai ana tana kata me te titiro whakahihi mai i ētahi atu, ka huna pea e ia mā te kī he whakatoi tana, he tino kata rānei tana, engari ko te mea pono, nā te mea e pai ana ia ki a koe engari kei te huna. Ko te kaha ki te kia kata te kotiro he taonga onge, he taonga kaha hoki. Ki te mōhio pai koe ehara tēnei i te mea kaha mōu, engari ka taea tonu e koe te whakaoho i a ia i ia wā, ka taea e koe te tino mōhio kei te aroha ia ki a koe.

13. E titiro ana ōna kanohi ki ō ngutu

Kua tūpono rānei kōrua e kōrero ana, ā, ka kite koe i a ia e titiro matatau mai ana ki a koe, engari kaua e titiro kanohi mai, ka tau mai ōna kanohi ki ō ngutu? Nā te mea kei te hiahia ia ki a koe, ā, kei te whakaaro ia me pēhea te kihi i a koe. Ki te pērā anō ō whakaaro, ā, kua roa nei koe e hiahia ana ki te kihi i a ia, koinei pea te tohu māu kia tīmata.

Hei tiaki i a koe anō, hei ārai hoki i te whakama o te hē o te pānui i ngā tohu e tukuna ana e ia, he pai ki te mōhio ki ngā mea e pā ana ki ngā tohu mō te wā e tika ana kia kihihia te kotiroKi te mea he tino mōrearea te kihi wawe tonu atu, kati te whakaaro ki ngā tohu e hiahia ana ia ki a koe, ā, me tono atu kia haere tahi rāua.

14. Kei te takaro ia ki ōna makawe?

He tino pono te takaro a te wahine ki ōna makawe i a ia e kōrero ana ki a koe te reo tinana o te wahine, he tohu mō te kukumeKi te kite koe i te kōtiro motuhake o tō ao e mahi ana i tēnā, kaua e tukua kia ngaro, he tohu mārama tēnā kei te aroha ia ki a koe. Ko ēnei tohu reo tinana tawhito e whakaatu ana i te pai o te kōtiro ki a koe he tohu mate pea, nō reira me mōhio koe ki a rātou mō tō rātou āhua.

Ka taea e koe te whakamātautau mā te kuhu i ōna makawe ki muri i ōna taringa, te kī atu rānei he tino ātaahua ia me ōna makawe tuwhera. Kia aro ki tana urupare. Ki te whero ia, ki te whakaoho mārire rānei i a koe, he tino hiahia nui tōna ki a koe.

15. Ngā tūtakitanga tūpono

Ki te hiahia tētahi kōtiro ki a koe, tera pea he maha ngā tūtakitanga tūpono ki a ia, engari ehara i te mea tūpono noa iho ēnei tūtakitanga engari nā ia i hanga. Āe, ehara i te taumata o te kaiwhaiwhai porangi, engari he āhua ātaahua, he ātaahua. Hei tauira, ki te kōrero koe ki a ia kei hea koe e tiki kawhe ana i ia ata, tera pea ka kitea ia e haere pinepine ana ki reira. Kei te uru atu rānei ia ki te whare takaro kotahi me koe, kei te noho tahi rānei i ngā pō Paraire i tō pae tino pai. Ehara i te mea kei te whakaatu ia i te whanonga tino pukuriri. He tohu noa iho tēnei e hiahia ana tētahi kōtiro kia kite koe i a ia engari me te kore e whakaatu i tōna hiahia ki a koe.

16. E mōhio ana ōna hoa ki a koe

Me pēhea te mōhio mēnā kei te hiahia tētahi kōtiro ki a koe? Kua tae pea te wā ki te whakahoahoa ki āna hoa. He pai ki ngā wāhine te kōrero ki ā rātou hoa mō ā rātou e aroha nei. He nui ake ā rātou mōhiotanga mōu i tō whakaaro. Ki te tino pai ia ki a koe, kāore he huarahi e kore ai ōna hoa tata e mōhio. Nō reira, ina tūtaki koe ki āna hoa, kaua e miharo mēnā ka kōrero rātou ki a koe me te mea kua mōhio rātou ki a koe mai i mua.

"I a mātou ko aku hoa e noho tahi ana i tētahi wharekai, ka tomo mai tētahi tangata i aroha nui ahau ki roto, me tētahi hoa. Kātahi ka tahuri katoa aku hoa wahine ki a ia, ka tīmata ki te tūtaki i ahau kia mihi atu ki a ia. I taku korenga e nekeneke, ka tīmata rātou ki te waiata i tētahi waiata whakakatakata nā Bryan Adams. I tino whakama ahau, i hiahia ahau kia horomia ahau e te whenua. I te taha pai, i tae te karere ki a ia, ā, i muri i ētahi wiki ka tono ia kia haere tahi māua," te kī a Rianka.

17. He maha ake ana pā atu ki a koe

Ahakoa te aha, kāore rānei pa tinana Ko tana reo aroha tēnei, ina puta ake ngā kare ā-roto o tētahi kōtiro ki a koe, ka nui ake pea tana whakapā atu ki a ia. Ka huri ngā rūrū ringa hei awhi. Ka nui ake tana whakanui i a koe, ka pupuri rānei i tō ringa me te kore e mōhio. Mena kei te whakaaroaro koe me pēhea te mōhio kei te hiahia tētahi kōtiro ki a koe, he tohu nui tēnei hei aro atu.

He tohu tēnei kei te pai ia ki a koe, ā, kāore ia e mataku ki te pā atu ki a koe. Ko te tikanga, he āwangawanga ngā wāhine ki te whakapā atu ki te tangata. Ko te mea kāore ia i te pai ki te whakaaro ki te pā atu ki a koe, engari ko te tīmatanga anō hoki, he tohu tēnei o te hiahia o te tinana, me te whakaatu anō hoki i tōna hiahia ki a koe. Tērā pea koinei tana huarahi ki te tuku tohutohu kia tono atu koe ki a ia kia haere tahi.

18. Ka kōrero atu ia ki a koe mōna ake

Ina hiahia tētahi kōtiro ki a koe, ka hiahia ia kia mōhio koe ki a ia tūturu. Ka tīmata ia ki te kōrero ki a koe mō ngā mea whaiaro kāore ia i pai ki te kōrero ki tētahi atu. Ka kōrero ia i ana mea ngaro, ā, tera pea ka whakakitea e ia tōna taha rerekē. Kua kōrero ia ki a koe mō tētahi wehenga nui i pā ki a ia? I kōrero rānei ia mō te wā i ngaro ai tana mōkai i a ia e tamariki ana, ā, kāore i taea te whakamarie mō ngā rā? Ko te mea kei te tuku iho ia i tōna tiaki me te whakaatu i tōna taha ngoikore ki a koe he nui hei mōhio mēnā he pai ki a koe tētahi kōtiro engari kei te huna e ia.

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19. E hiahia ana ia ki te whakapau i te wā kounga ki a koe

Ko tētahi o ngā tohu e hiahia ana te wahine ki a koe, ko tōna hiahia ki te whakapau moni wā kounga kia taea ai e kōrua te tūhura i ngā hiahia ōrite, te hono atu ki tētahi taumata hōhonu, me te tino mōhio tetahi ki tetahi. Hei whakatutuki i tēnā, ka ngana ia ki te whakarite mahere mā kōrua anake. Ahakoa kei te noho tahi kōrua i roto i tētahi rōpū, ka rapu huarahi ia, ka rapu rānei i ngā take hei whai wā takitahi mā kōrua.

Haunga tēnā, tērā pea ka kite koe kei te kaha ake tana whakaaro ki te whakarite i ngā haerenga kiriata, i ngā haerenga rānei kāore i te haere tahi māua. Koinei tana huarahi ki te tono ā-waha atu i a koe kia haere tahi. I ngā wā katoa e noho tahi ana kōrua, te āhua nei kei te piri haere te kōrero, kei te kaha haere, kei te whakaipoipo haere. He tino hononga? Āe, koinei tētahi o ngā tohu tino kitea kei te aroha ia ki a koe.

20. Te āhua nei e pai ana ia ki ngā kōrero roa ki a koe

Ina pai te kōtiro ki a koe, ka tīmata noa ia ki te pai ki ngā kōrero roa ki a koe. Tērā pea ka tīmata ia ki te waea atu ki a koe i ngā wā maha, ā, i ngā hāora e mōhio ana ia kei te wātea koe, ā, ka tere te roa o ā kōrua kōrero. Tērā pea ka tīmata anō hoki ia ki te tuku karere kuputuhi ki a koe i ngā wā maha. Tērā pea ka kite koe kei te tuku karere kuputuhi kōrua i te roanga o te rā, e whakawhitiwhiti kōrero ana i ngā kōrero iti ki a kōrua. Ki te kore kōrua e tuku karere kuputuhi mō tētahi wā, tērā pea ka tukuna e ia he karere hei tirotiro noa iho. He tohu ēnei katoa e pai ana te kōtiro ki a koe i runga i te tuku karere kuputuhi.

21. Ka hoatu e ia he koha iti ki a koe

Ka hoatu e te kōtiro e tino aroha ana ki a koe he koha iti hei whakaatu i tōna hiahia ki a koe. Ko te mea e tino kitea ai ēnei koha ko te whakaaro kei muri. Ehara pea ēnei i te koha tino utu nui, tino rangatira rānei kua riro i a koe, engari he tino motuhake ēnei. Hei tauira, ka whakapā atu pea ia ki ō mātua, ka tiki i tētahi pikitia pēpi ātaahua nāu mai i te pukaemi whānau, ka whakakākahuria, ka hoatu ki a koe. Ko te whakaaro me te kaha kei muri i aua mahi ka tino rewa tō ngākau.

Ina kōrero koe ki a ia i te nui o tōna whakaaro nui i pā ki a koe, tērā pea ka whakahē ia me te mea ehara i te mea nui, me te kata māharahara, me te kī rānei, "He aha te take o ngā hoa!" Kaua e pohehe, koinei ēnei ngā mahi aroha iti engari whai whakaaro nui e tukuna ana hei mahi whakahoahoa.

22. He mea nui ki a ia tō rā whānau

I te mea he tino hiahia ia ki tō ao, ā, e maumahara ana ki ngā mea iti e whai tikanga ana ki a koe, ehara i te mea miharo ka maumahara ia ki tō rā whānau. Ā, ka whakanuia e ia taua mea. Tērā pea ka whiriwhiria e ia ngā koha tino whakaaro nui māu, ka whakarite i te rā tino pai māu, ka whakarite i tētahi ohorere whakamiharo, ka whakarite rānei i tētahi pāti hei hanga i tō rā kia tino motuhake. Ka taea e koe te kī ko ana mahere ka tino tutuki, me te maumahara ki ō mea e pai ana ki a koe, ō mea e kore e pai ki a koe, ō hiahia me ō hiahia. Ki te mea kei te whakapau kaha ia mōu, ka taea e koe te mutu te whakaaro me pēhea te mōhio kei te hiahia tētahi kōtiro ki a koe.

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23. Ka tīmata ia ki te whakatoi i a koe

He maha ngā wāhine e whakamahi ana i te whakatoi takaro hei huna i te takaro. Mena kua tatari ia kia mahi tuatahi koe, tera pea ka tīmata ia ki te whakatoi takaro me te whakapataritari i a koe. Ki te takaro tahi koe, tera pea ka kite koe ka nui ake tana whakapuaki me te tuwhera i roto i a ia. te takaro ki a koe.

E mea ana a Toby, "He hoa pai māua ko taku hoa wahine mō ngā tau maha. I te tīmatanga o te aroha tetahi ki tetahi, ehara i te hoa noa iho, kāore māua i te mōhio me pēhea te aro atu ki aua kare ā-roto. Engari ko te kaha haere o te taumahatanga i waenganui i a māua i ia rā, i ia rā. Hei huna i tēnā, ka tīmata ia ki te tawai mai ki ahau, me te pā atu ki ōku ringa, ki ōku makawe rānei. Ko tētahi o aua wā i arahi ai ki tā māua kihi tuatahi."

24. Ka tīmata ia ki te tuku i a koe ki runga i ngā pāpāho pāpori

Ka tīmata ia ki te tuku i ngā tūnga me ngā whakahōutanga o kōrua e noho tahi ana i runga i ana pāpāho pāpori. Koinei tana huarahi ki te whakamōhio i te ao kei te whakaohooho i a ia, kei te hanga i te haruru mō tō kōrua whanaungatanga e tipu haere ana. Mena kei roto koe i ana pou me ana kōrero, ā, ko tana pikitia whakaaturanga ko kōrua inaianei, kāore he wāhi mō te ruarua kei te pai ia ki a koe. Kaua e whakaaro, "Kei te hiahia ia ki ahau?", whakaritea ō mahi e whai ake nei.

25. Ka kōrero whakakatakata ia mō kōrua he hoa rangatira

Ka kōrero whakakatakata te kōtiro e pai ana ki a ia mō te āhua o te noho tahi me kōrua. Nā te mea e hiahia ana ia kia tupu. Kei te tuku tohutohu ia, ā, e hiahia ana kia whakaarohia e koe te āhua o te whanaungatanga ki a ia. Ka rongo pea koe i a ia e kī ana, "He nui te wā e noho tahi ana tāua, me te mea he tokorua tāua!"

Nā te mea kua mōhio koe ki ngā tohu e hiahia ana ia ki te noho hei hoa wahine māu, he aha tāu e tatari atu nei? Ki te pai koe ki a ia, kua tae ki te wā mō ngā tīmatanga hou, kaua e pupuri i ō kare ā-roto. Ki te kore koe e aro ki a ia, he pai ake te kōrero wawe atu ki a ia. Me whakaoti ia i tana raruraru kia taea ai e ia te neke atu.

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