I whakakahoretia e te kaupapa wahine te tika o ngā tāne me ngā wāhine ki te moe me ngā hoa maha

He tohunga hinengaro tohutohu a Deepak Kashyap, ā, he kaiwhakaako pūkenga ora whaimana kei tētahi mahi tūmataiti i Mumbai, Īnia. He kaituhi pou ia i roto i ngā nūpepa me ngā maheni ā-motu, e tuhituhi ana mō ngā take e pā ana ki te taatai, te hauora hinengaro, ngā whanaungatanga, me ngā raruraru kare ā-roto. He tohunga hinengaro tohutohu anō hoki ia mō ētahi whakaaturanga kōrerorero pouaka whakaata me ngā whakaaturanga mooni, kua puta ia i runga i ngā hongere purongo ā-motu me te ao, ngā whakaaturanga kōrero, me ngā tautohetohe i runga pouaka whakaata me te reo irirangi me ngā nūpepa, e matapaki ana i te hauora hinengaro me ngā take LGBT. Kei a Deepak te Tohu Paetahi Toi i te reo Ingarihi (hononga) me te Hinengaro mai i Te Whare Wānanga o Pune, Īnia, me te Tohu Paerua i roto i te Hinengaro Mātauranga mai i Te Whare Wānanga o Bristol, UK. Kua whakangungua ia ki ngā kaupapa hinengaro REBT me te CBT mai i te Albert Ellis Institute, New York, USA.

He aha tō whakaaro i kore ai te puremu i te tino hira i mua atu i tōna hiranga i nāianei?

Nā te kaupapa wahine tēnei. Engari i te hoatu i te mana ōrite ki ngā wāhine ki te moe tahi me ētahi atu tāne, ki te tangata rānei e pai ana ki a rātou, i tangohia atu taua mana i ngā tāne ki te moe tahi me ētahi atu wāhine, kia ōrite ai ngā mea. Nā te kaupapa wahine i whakatakoto te kotahitanga hei tauira teitei hei whai. I noho te kotahitanga hei tikanga matatika, ehara i te mea he mahi noa iho.

Engari ko te mea pono, ko te tangata anake te momo tangata ka taea te aroha pono ki ētahi tāngata e rua, neke atu rānei, i te wā kotahi.

E whakapono ana koe he mea taea?

Kāore au i te whakapono noa, e mōhio ana ahau. Ahakoa ngā aihe ka moe tahi mō te wā roa engari me ngā hoa maha. Ki te hiahia koe ki te mārama ki te puremu, me mārama koe ki te hītori o te moe tāne kotahi . I ngā wā o mua, ka tīmata te tangata ki te moe tāne kotahi, ā, ka moe tāne kotahi i te wā ka tīmata rātou ki te whakatipu kai me te pupuri whenua. Tae noa ki ēnei rā, ki te ako koe i ngā iwi haereere, kāore ā rātou marena pēnei i a tātou. He maha ā rātou wāhine, he wahine kotahi he maha atu i te kotahi tāne, he wahine kotahi me ngā tungāne e noho tahi ana, arā, he wahine ia ki a rātou katoa. Nō reira, i roto i tā mātou horopaki, ki te mea he taonga āku, me whakarite kia riro mā taku tama anake, kia moe ai taku wahine ki ahau anake.

I te nuinga o te wā, i ahu mai te take o te taonga i te marena kotahi. Nō reira, ko au tō pati , tō rangatira. Ka tāia e koe ētahi tohu ki tō tinana, ā, ka tangohia e koe tōku ingoa whānau. Ko koe tōku taonga. He pono tēnei mō te nuinga o ngā ahurea. I te tīmatanga o tā tātou pupuri taonga, ka tīmata tātou ki te pupuri tangata. I tīmata te pononga i taua wā anō.

I ngā tīmatanga, he rite tonu te marena ki te pononga. Nā te whakaaro Hūrai-Karaitiana mō te tāne kotahi me te wahine kotahi i tautoko te tautohe mō te marena kotahi. Nō reira, ko te whakaaro ki te akiaki i tētahi atu tangata, ahakoa te kore e pai ki a rātou, me te kore e whakamahia te tinana, he mea tawhito, engari he mea hou, ina whakaarohia te roa o tō tātou noho ki tēnei ao.

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Nā, kua tīmata ngā wāhine ki te tono tika, ehara i te mea he taonga noa iho tātou, engari e hiahia ana tātou ki te pōti. Mā te pōti koe e whakatau ai i tō heke mai, me te whai wāhi ki ngā kaupapa here e hangaia ana, i roto i te ariā. Kātahi ka whiwhi ngā wāhine i te mana whakahaere mō ō rātou tinana mā te pire ārai whānau me ētahi atu āwhina paheketanga. Ka taea e au te moe tahi me te tangata me te kore e mōhiotia e ētahi atu. Hei utu, ka puta te whakaaro ko te whare karakia, te temepara, me te mosque te mana o tō tinana. Ehara i a koe te mana. Koia te take he raruraru ki te tuku tika ki ngā tāngata takatāpui, kāore? Engari kua hurihia e ngā tāngata tika te whakaaro o te marena i roto i ngā rau tau kua hipa. Nā te mea, i roto i te hapori matatau, i roto i te ariā, kāore te marena e kī ana ko koe te mana o te wahine . Ka taea e ia te whakarere i a koe. Ināianei he kirimana te marena i waenganui i ngā tāngata e rua e whai mana motuhake ana i te taha tōrangapū.

Ina whakatōkia te matatika ki runga i tētahi ariā, ka nui haere te uauatanga. Whakaarohia, kei te moe koe i tētahi tāne, ā, ka mea atu koe ki a ia, tum saat janam tak mere saath rahoge , ā, he tino tika te janam . Kei te tangohia e koe te herenga mai i tētahi, ā, e mōhio ana koe tera pea kāore e taea e rātou te pupuri i tā rātou kupu whakaari, he tino uaua rānei te pupuri. Nō reira, he taputapu whakapono tēnei hei hoatu i tētahi wawata kāore e taea te whakatutuki, kia hinga tonu ai koe, kātahi ka whakama koe, ā, he ngāwari ki te whakahaere i te hunga hara.

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Nō reira, he aha te take e hiahiatia ai kia pono ināianei?

I reira tonu tēnei hiahia, engari kua rerekē te āhua. He rite te aroha ki tētahi atu kare ā-roto. Ka hoatu ki a koe te whakaaro pohehe o te tino mohio. Pēnei i te mea, ki te riri ahau ki a koe, e tino mohio ana ahau kua he tāu mahi. Ki te aroha ahau ki a koe, e tino mohio ana ahau ka taea e au te noho takitahi mō te toenga o tōku ao. Nō reira, kāore te tangata e mōhio tonu ki ngā kupu whakaari e mahia ana e rātou. Engari ehara i te mea he teka rātou, he ngoikore rānei, he hiahia nui noa iho rātou. Ā, ina takahia e te tangata tētahi kupu whakaari , he mea nui te whakamāramatanga. He whakaeke whaiaro rānei, he ngoikore rānei nō te āhua tangata?

Nō reira, kei te whakaaro tonu te wahine, kāore au i te tino ataahua? He aha ia te kore ai e pā mai ki ahau? Kei te whakaaro tonu ia he mea whaiaro. Ko te take e whakaaro ana koe he mea whaiaro ngā mea katoa, nā te mea he iti noa iho ngā tāngata e tata mai ana ki a koe, pērā i tō hoa aroha. E mōhio ana ia ki ō moemoeā, ki ō wehi, me ō tumanako; e mōhio ana ia ki hea koe e ngoikore ana. Nō reira, i roto i tōna āhua tangata, ki te mea ka pōuri ia i a koe, he nui ake te tūponotanga ka whakapōuri ia i a koe i te porowhita o waho.

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Engari koinei te whakaaro, kia waiho tētahi hei pokapū mō ō tātou oranga, arā, ko te harikoa o te aroha. Nā te mea, e ai ki te kōrero a tētahi tangata whakaaro nui, e tino mataku ana tātou i te mate, ko te aroha anake te otinga aroha mō te mamae o te mate. Koinei anake te huarahi e ora ai ahau i tōku kikokiko, me aku tamariki anō hoki. E tino mataku ana tātou kei mate, kei koretake hoki; e hiahia ana tātou kia kotahi te tangata, e whakaaro ana he mea nui tātou.

Thoughts Final

Ka ara ake he kōrero whakaohooho, he kōrero matatini hoki mō ngā tikanga pāpori, te mana whaiaro, me te awe o te kaupapa wahine ki te herekoretanga ā-ira tangata. Ko te kaupapa wahine, i tōna pūtake, e tautoko ana i te ōritetanga me te kōwhiringa whaiaro. Heoi, ko ngā tumanakohanga pāpori mō te pono me te matatika ka whakararuraru i ēnei kaupapa. He mea nui kia wetewetehia ngā mātāpono kaupapa wahine mai i ngā here ahurea me ngā here hītori whānui mō ngā whanonga ā-ira tangata. Ka taea e ā mātou tohunga te āwhina i a koe ki te tūhura i te mea e pai ana mōu.

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