Mena kua pāngia koe e te tinihanga, kua mōhio koe ki te mamae nui o te puku e pā ana ki te whakakitenga mai o te tinihanga. Ahakoa kua tuhia pai te pānga kino tuatahi o te tinihanga a te hoa, he mea tika hoki kia whakaaroarohia me pēhea te whakarerekētanga o koe e te tinihanga.
Kāore he mahi tinihanga e ngāwari ki te mawhiti. Inaa, ka taea e ia te whakararu i te heke mai o tō whanaungatanga. Ki te tini o te tangata, he mamae rawa te kitenga, ā, ka akiaki i a rātou ki te whakamutu i te whanaungatanga ka neke atu. I roto i te maha o ngā wā, ka ngana ngā tāne me ngā wāhine ki te noho tahi me te houhanga rongo i muri i te kore whakapono.
I ngā āhuatanga e rua, ka tino pāngia tō whanaungatanga e te tinihanga. Ki te whakatau koe ki te whakamutu i te whanaungatanga, tera pea ka raru koe i te mokemoke i muri i te tinihanga. Ki te whakatau koe ki te noho tahi, ka pā mai te raruraru ki tō hoa aroha pērā i te Hoari a Damocles, ka tata ki te haehae i tō whanaungatanga i te he iti noa iho.
He uaua ake, he uaua hoki ki te mārama ki ngā pānga roa o te tinihangatia i te ohorere tuatahi, te mamae me te riri. Nā reira he mea nui ake kia mārama ki te āhua o te tinihangatia e whakarerekē ana i a koe. Kia ngana tātou ki te mārama ki ngā kare ā-roto i muri i te tinihangatia.
Ka taea e te tinihangatia te whakarerekē i a koe?
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Te kore whakapono i roto i te whanaungatanga e kiia ana ko te momo tinihanga nui rawa atu i roto i te whanaungatanga pumau, kotahi te hoa. E kiia ana he mahi kotahi ka taea te whakakore i ngā kupu whakaari katoa i puritia e te whanaungatanga mō ngā hoa e rua. Engari he nui ake te pena mō te mea i tinihangatia. Mō te wā roa, ka tāia te ahua tito o tō hoa i roto i te moenga me tētahi atu tangata ki tō hinengaro.
Kāore e taea te mutu te purei anō i tēnei whakaahua. Pērā i te hinengaro tangata, ko tēnei whakaahua – he mea hanga noa iho – tera pea he tino whakairoiro ake i ngā mea i puta i te ao tūturu. I roto i te wā, ka memeha haere pea tēnei whakaahua engari ka mau tonu pea ngā pānga roa o te tinihangatia.
Tērā pea kei te whakaaro koe, "Ka taea e te tinihangatia koe te whakarerekē?" Kei te āwhina mai te tohunga hinengaro me te kaiwhakahaere i SAATH: Suicide Prevention Centre ki a mātou ki te rapu whakautu. Nishim Marshall, e kī ana, "Tērā pea kei te ora koe i tētahi oranga tino makona, e whakawhetai ana ki tō hoa rangatira, ki tō whanaungatanga me te pai o ngā mea kua puta mōu. I roto i tēnei āhuatanga, he tino ohorere te kitenga kua tinihangatia koe."
"Tuatahi, ka pakaru koe ki ngā mongamonga me ngā pātai mutunga kore mōu ake, tō whakaaro nui ki a koe anō, tō whakaaro ki a koe anō, tō whakaaro ki a koe anō, me tō whakapono ki a koe anō. Ka kitea koe e raru ana i te ruarua i a koe anō, e pōuri ana, e kore e tau te haumaru, e tinihangatia ana, e riri ana hoki i te whakaaro kei waenganui i a koe me tō hoa tētahi atu tangata."
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He aha koe i rerekē ai i te tinihangatia?
Ko te take e tino mamae ai koe i te tinihangatia, ā, e whakarerekē ana i a koe, nā te mea he maha ngā tāngata e hono ana i te mahi tinihanga ki tō rātou ake mana. Kāore i te pai ahau? I hea ahau i hapa ai? He aha ngā mea a te tangata kē atu e ngaro ana i ahau? Ko ēnei momo pātai e pā ana ki te hinengaro o te tangata kua tinihangatia.
Waihoki, ina ngana koe ki te rapu i te take o tinihanga i roto i te whanaungatanga, ka arotahi koe ki ngā āhuatanga pēnei i te kore harikoa, te oranga moepuku kore e makona, ngā take i roto i te whanaungatanga me ērā atu mea. Koinei te āhua o te nuinga o te hunga kua tinihangatia e mahi ana i tēnei mea mō rātou anō. Mā te mōhio, mā te kore mōhio rānei.
Heoi, ko te tinihanga he hua tonu nō te tuakiri o te tangata tinihanga, ā, kāore pea he pānga ki tōna hoa rangatira, ki te whanaungatanga rānei. Tērā pea he hua nō te haerenga o te tangata me ngā awe o te tīmatanga pērā i te kitenga i te tinihanga i roto i te whanaungatanga o ōna mātua, i te tipu ake rānei i roto i tētahi kāinga pōrearea. He huarahi hoki tēnei hei huna, hei oma, hei whakatau rānei i ngā raruraru.
Mā te whakaae ki tēnei me te wehe atu i te take, te take me te pēhea o te tinihanga, koinei anake te huarahi hei whakakore i ngā pānga o te tinihanga ki te roro.
11 Ngā Huarahi e Hurihia ai Koe e te Tinihanga
I muri i te tinihanga, ko te whāinga kia arotahi ki te take i puta ai te hara, kaua ki te mea i tupu i waenganui i tō hoa me te tangata kē atu i roto i tōna ao. Ahakoa kei te hiahia koe ki te neke atu i muri i te tinihanga, ki te noho tahi rānei, me te whakahaere i te whanaungatanga kia pai, koinei anake te huarahi hei whakaora pono i te tinihanga.
Heoi, kāore te nuinga o ngā tāne me ngā wāhine i te rite ki te whakatutuki i tēnei whāinga. Ahakoa ko rātou anake, me te kore he āwhina me te arataki a te kaiwhakatakoto whakaaro, te kaiwhakaora hinengaro rānei. Nō reira, ka tīmata te pānga roa o te tinihanga.
He aha ēnei pānga mō te wā roa? Ā, me pēhea te whakarerekētanga o tō āhua ina tinihangatia koe? Ka tohaina e Nishim ēnei pānga tekau mā tahi o te kore pono me te tinihanga ka pā pea ki a koe mēnā kua tinihangatia koe:
1. Ka whakawhanakehia e koe ngā take whakawhirinaki
"Ka memeha haere te whakawhirinaki katoa i a koe ki tō hoa i roto i te wā poto," tana kī. Nō reira, ka puta pea he whakaaro hōhonu ki a koe take whakawhirinaki e toro atu ana ki tua atu i te whanaungatanga.
I pāngia a Myra e te tinihanga a tētahi hoa mō te wā roa, e tēnei āhuatanga. "I hoki wawe mai ahau i tētahi hui i te wā i whakaritea, ā, i hoki harikoa ahau ki te kāinga ki te miharo i taku hoa. Heoi anō, i kite ahau i a ia e takoto ana i te moenga me tētahi wahine nō tana wāhi mahi. I roto anō hoki i te moenga i noho tahi māua mō ngā tau e whitu!" tana kī, me te pupuhi i te korokoro.
"E mōhio ana ahau koinei tētahi o ngā huarahi tino tawhito ki te mōhio kei te takaro tō hoa i a koe, engari koinā te mutunga iho. Ahakoa i mutu taku hononga i taua wā tonu, kāore au i te tino ora i te hinganga. Ko tētahi o ngā huarahi e pā ai te tinihanga ki te wahine ko te tango i tōna kaha ki te whakawhirinaki ki te tangata," tāna tāpiri.
Kua moe wahine a Myra ināianei, engari he wāhanga tēnei o ana uauatanga ki te whakawhirinaki ki tana tāne. Ka tirohia pukutia e au tana waea, ka whakaū kei hea ia, nā te mea kāore e taea e au te whakakore i te whakaaro ka tukua hoki e ia taku whakawhirinaki.
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2. Ka whakarite koe i a koe ki tēnei atu tangata
"Ko tētahi atu āhuatanga noa o te tinihangatia ko te whakarite i a koe ki tētahi atu tangata. Pērā i ngā wāhine, ka pāngia ngā tāne kua tinihangatia. Nā te mea ka heke te mana o tō hoa i te hara."
"Nō reira, ka kitea koe e whaiwhai ana i te tāne, i te wahine rānei i runga i ngā pāpāho pāpori, e hanga ana rānei i tētahi rārangi arowhai hinengaro mō te pai ake o rātou i a koe, te pai rānei. Koinei te huarahi e whakarerekē ai koe i te tinihangatia – ka pakaru tō whakaaro mōu ake," te kī a Nishim.
I a koe e ora tonu ana me tēnei kare ā-roto pakaru o te whakaaro nui ki a koe anō me te whakaaro nui ki a koe anō, e kore e taea e koe te whakaū i a koe anō i roto i tō whanaungatanga o nāianei, e kore hoki e taea te hanga hononga hauora a muri ake nei.
3. He hiahia ki te rapu utu
Ko tētahi atu huarahi nui e whakarerekē ai te tinihanga i a koe ko te whakatō i roto i a koe te hiahia ki te rapu utu i tō hoa. "Me whakaatu e koe ki tō hoa he kaha koe ki te moe tahi, ki te whakaipoipo, ki te ngā moe pō kotahi "i waho o ngā whanaungatanga," te kī a Nishim.
Koinei tētahi o ngā urupare matua o te pānga o te tinihanga ki tētahi tāne. Ka pā pea tēnei ki te hunga e whakanui ana i te pono i roto i ngā whanaungatanga; kāore rātou i titiro tuarua ki tētahi atu, nā te mea i roto rātou i tētahi whanaungatanga pumau. Mā te takahi i te whakawhirinaki ka taea e koe te arahi i a koe ki te ara o te moepuku, ahakoa hei whakaatu noa i te tangata kē.
He tauhohenga kaha tēnei ki te āhua o te tinihangatia ka huri i a koe ake tonu atu.
4. Ka whakapataritari koe i te tinihangatia
Tērā pea ka rerekē te āhua o ngā wāhine me ngā tāne kua tinihangatia. "Ko te kare ā-roto o te kawa, te riri me te pukuriri ētahi o ngā pānga noa o te tinihanga ki te roro. Ka pā ēnei huringa ki tō whanaungatanga ki ō tamariki (mēnā he tamariki), ki te whānau me ngā hoa, me te pānga anō hoki ki tō mahi."
"He tino mamae te tinihangatia, ā, ka puta te kino rawa atu i roto i a koe. He tino mamae te mōhio kua takahia e te tangata i tino whakanuia e koe te aroha me te whakawhirinaki i tohaina e kōrua. Heoi anō, koinei te āhua o te tinihanga," te kī a Nishmin.
Ki te kore koe e kitea he huarahi hei tukatuka me te whakahaere i ēnei kare ā-roto kino, ka taea e ngā huringa tuakiri i puta mai i te mahi tinihanga te noho pumau.
5. Kei te raru koe i ngā kare ā-roto paitini
E whakaahua ana a Nishim i ēnei hei ranunga o ngā kare ā-roto o te hara, te hae, te koretake o te māia, te whakama me te whakama. Ahakoa he kare ā-roto e pārekareka ana te hae me te koretake o te māia i muri i te tinihanga, he maha hoki ngā hoa e raru ana ki te hara, te whakama me te whakama.
Ka kitea whānuitia tēnei i roto i te pānga o te tinihanga ki te wahine, engari kāore e taea te whakakore i te tūponotanga ka pāngia ngā tāne e ngā kare ā-roto ōrite. E whakaatu ana te kōrero a Henrietta i te ngokingoki mai o te hara. E mea ana ia, "I tinihanga taku tāne, engari i pouri ahau nā te mea kāore i taea e au te whakarērea tēnei kare ā-roto e mea ana nāku te mahi i hanga āputa i roto i te marena, i hanga wāhi ai mō te urunga mai o tētahi atu tangata.
I tukuna mai he whakatairanga ki ahau, ā, me neke ahau ki tētahi atu tāone hei whakatū i tētahi tari hou. He mahi kotahi tau te roa, ā, i tīmata ahau me te whakaaro ka taea e māua te whakahaere. Engari kātahi ka moe tāne i muri i ngā marama e ono o tēnei whakawhiti. Tae noa ki tēnei rā, kei te whakapae tonu ahau i taku whakatau ki te hanga i tā māua marena tawhiti hei take mō tana hara.
6. Ka meinga koe kia pātai i tō whanaungatanga katoa
I te haputanga o Suzanne i tana tamaiti tuatahi, ka hopukia e ia tana tāne e tuku karere kuputuhi ana ki tana hoa o mua. "Kei konei ahau e waha ana i tana tamaiti, e noho ana i ngā pō kore moe i roto i te mamae, kua rerekē haere tōku tinana, ā, kei te whiwhi ia i tana wāhi mahi i runga i te huna. Ko te mea kino rawa atu, i a māua e moe tahi ana i te moenga i a ia e whakapuaki ana i ngā moemoeā moepuku ki tana hoa o mua."
"I oati ia kāore ia i moe ki a ia, kāore hoki i tūtaki ki a ia, ā, i tautohe ia he tukunga testosterone noa iho tēnei. Engari i te whakapāha mōna, i karo ia i te tautohetohe i roto i te 'kei te tinihanga te tuku karere kuputuhi'te aronga.
"Ehara i te mea ko āna mahi anake, engari ko tana tauhohenga i te hopukanga o te ringa māia i meinga ai ahau kia ruarua i te kaupapa katoa o tā māua whanaungatanga. I mahi ia i tēnei i mua? Ka mahi anō rānei ia? I aroha pono ia ki ahau pērā i tana aroha ki tana hoa o mua? He marena wātea noa iho rānei tā māua," tana kī.
Mō Suzanna, he tino mamae te tinihangatia, ā, kāore i taea e ia te titiro anō ki tana whanaungatanga i te ara kotahi. Mai i reira, ka tere te pakaru o ngā mea.
7. Mā te tinihangatia koe e āta tupato ai
He nui te ngākau māhaki – me te whakawhirinaki ki te tangata – hei tuku i tō tiaki me te whakaatu i ō ngoikoretanga ki te aroaro o te marea. Mā te tinihangatia koe e whakarerekē, ka nui ake tō tiaki.
Ehara i te mea ko tō whanaungatanga o nāianei, o āpōpō rānei, engari ko koe anō hoki. Ki te whakaaro koe mēnā ka huri te tinihanga i a koe ake ake, he tauira matarohia tēnei. Hei tangata kua ora i te tinihanga, tērā pea kāore e taea e koe te whakapuaki i ō āwangawanga hohonu, ō mataku, ō tumanako me ō moemoeā, ahakoa ki te hunga e tata ana ki a koe.
Kei roto i tēnā ko ngā hoa, te whānau, ngā mātua me ngā tamariki. Mā te pakaru o te whakawhirinaki ka mauheretia e koe tētahi wāhanga o koe ake tonu atu.
8. Ka taea e ia te whakakore i a koe i ngā whanaungatanga
E whakaae ana a Tully, he kaihoahoa hanga kiriata angitu, ko te āwangawanga mō ngā whanaungatanga pumau tētahi o ngā pānga kino mō te wā roa o te tinihanga. E rua tekau mā rima ōna tau i te wā i tinihangatia ai tōna whakawhirinaki e tana hoa aroha o te kāreti.
"Mō te wā roa rawa, kua oati ahau ki te whakarere i ngā tāne. I roto i ngā tau, kua whai hoa aroha ahau, kua moe tahi mō te pō kotahi, ā, kua whakamātauria e au taku moepuku, engari kāore i taea e au te here anō ki tētahi atu tangata."
"He tino uaua te wehi kei pērā anō rātou. He mea kāore i taea te whakaora ahakoa te tekau tau o te rongoā. I te taha pai, kua ako ahau ki te whakaae me te noho rangimārie ki aku whiringa o te ao," tana kī.
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9. Ka pakeke haere koe
He tāne pango, he takatāpui a Chris, i pakeke i ngā tau 80, ā, kua tino uaua kē tōna oranga. Kāore i taea e ia te whakapuaki i ōna āhuatanga ki tōna whānau, ki ōna hoa rānei, ā, kua pāngia ia e te oranga takirua. I tūtaki ia ki tētahi tāne ātaahua, ā, ka aroha ki a ia.
Me te mea nei ka māmā ake tana haerenga i konei, engari kāore tana hoa i te aro nui ki te te whakaaro o te marena kotahi "He uaua kē te ao, ā, ko tana tinihanga i ahau i rite ki te whao whakamutunga i roto i te kāwhena. Nāna ahau i huri hei tangata whakatoi, pōuri, kāore e taea te whakamahi i ōna ake kare ā-roto, ā, kāore hoki e taea te whakapuaki ki ētahi atu."
"Ko te mea pai ko te rite o tēnei putanga pakeke o ahau ki te aro atu ki ngā mea katoa i tukua mai e te ao. Koinei te tūāpapa mō tētahi oranga angitu, whai rawa – ahakoa te mokemoke,” tana kī.
10. Ka taea e te tinihanga te homai i te maia ki a koe ki te neke whakamua
E whakaae ana ngā kaiwhakaora hinengaro he tohu noa iho te tinihanga, ehara i te take o ngā raruraru whanaungatanga. Ko te mea ka uru mai pea tētahi atu tangata ki roto i tō whanaungatanga, he tohu tēnei i ngā pakaru me ngā āputaputa kua tū kē.
He maha ngā wā ka huna tonu ngā tāne me ngā wāhine i ā rāua raruraru ki raro i te whāriki kia pahū rā anō ki ō rāua mata. Ka taea e tēnei waiaro te whakatipu i te puremu. Waihoki, he maha ngā wā ka noho tahi ngā tāne me ngā wāhine, e ngana ana ki te whakaroa i tētahi hononga kua roa e haere ana, nā te mea he mea mōhio, he mea whakamarie hoki.
I ēnei āhuatanga, ko te mokemoke i muri i te tinihangatia ka waiho hei akiaki whakamutunga e hiahiatia ana kia neke atu koe, kia hoki mai ai tōu ao.
11. Ka taea e ia te whakaputa i tētahi āhua hou mōu
Ae, mā te tinihangatia koe e whakarerekē, engari kāore e tika kia puta i ngā wā katoa i roto i ngā huarahi kino. "Kia oti i a koe te pāngia e te riri, te mamae me te mamae, ka taea e koe te tīmata ki te ora. Mā te mōhio he nui atu koe i te hoa rangatira o tētahi atu ka āwhina i te whakahoki mai i tō mana ake, tō kore whakapono ki a koe anō me tō whakaute ki a koe anō."
"Mō tēnei ka puta mai he mana me te whakapono. Ka tīmata tō reo o roto, tō hinengaro ki te kōrero ki a koe. Ka tīmata tēnei whakawhiti ki te whakamana i tō ngākau maru, me te whakakaha i a ia, āta haere engari kia pumau, kia kore ai e taea te aukati."
"Kāore e taea e tetahi te aukati i tēnei putanga māia, hihiko o koe kei haere ki ngā wāhi katoa. Ka tīmata koe ki te titiro ki a koe anō he tangata ataahua, he tangata utu nui, he tangata whai mana, kāore e whakama ki te whakaae ki te ao tūturu," te kī a Nishim.
Nā te mea kua mārama ake koe ki ngā kino hinengaro o te tinihangatia, ko te pātai ka pātaihia, "Me pēhea taku neke whakamua i muri i te tinihangatia?"
Me pēhea te ora i te tinihangatia
Mā te pānui i ngā kōrero mō te tinihangatia ka huri i a koe ake ake, tera pea ka āwangawanga koe mō ngā mea kei te heke mai. Ahakoa, mā te āta whakaaroaro, tera pea ka taea e koe te whakakore i te kino hinengaro o te tinihangatia.
Ae, ehara i te mea ngāwari rawa, engari kāore he mea whai hua e ngāwari ana mēnā ka whakaarohia e koe. Me kōrero tātou mō ētahi mea ka taea e koe te mahi kia kore ai ngā kare ā-roto i muri i te tinihangatia e whakatau ko wai koe.
1. Tangohia he wā okioki
Ahakoa tōu ngākau māhaki, ka pōuri koe i ngā kare ā-roto i muri i te tinihangatia i tētahi wā, i tētahi wā rānei. E mārama ana ka pōuri koe mō tētahi wā, nā te mea he uaua ki te whakatau i ngā kare ā-roto e rere ana i roto i tō hinengaro.
I roto i tēnei āhuatanga, he pai pea te tango i tētahi wā okioki mai i ngā whanaungatanga, i te mahi, i ngā kawenga. Whakapaua he wā ki te whakaaroaro me pehea te neke haereHeoi, kia tūpato kei roa ake tēnei hinganga i te wā e tika ana. Whakaarohia te okiokinga hei mawhiti poto, kaua hei momo oranga. Kia tū pakari anō koe i muri i te okiokinga, tera pea ka taea e koe te huri i te pānga o te tinihanga ki ngā whanaungatanga ā muri ake nei.
2. Whakakorea "nōku te he?"
Ko tētahi o ngā mea tino kino ka taea e koe te mahi i muri i te tinihangatia ko te whakapae i a koe anō mō te tinihanga a tō hoa. I tinihanga tō hoa, me te mōhio ki ngā hua ka puta, ā, i te mōhio ka pōuri koe. Ki te whakaaro koe he raruraru i ārahi i a rātou ki te tinihanga, āe, ehara te tinihanga i te huarahi e whakatau ai i ngā raruraru. Me kōrero tō hoa ki a koe, kaua e uru ki te moepuku.
Ko te whakapae i a koe anō te mahi tino kino ki te wahine. Mā te whakakore i ngā whakaaro pēnei i te, "Nāku tēnei he? I hē taku mahi?" me whai koe ki te whakakore i te ruarua i a koe anō. Ka māmā ake te whakatau i ngā kare ā-roto i muri i te tinihanga ina oti i a koe.
Te pānui e pā ana: Me pēhea te muru i te hara o tō hoa tinihanga, ā, me pēhea hoki koe?
3. Kaua e tukua te riri kia whakahaere i a koe
Kāore mātou e kī ana kia kaua e riri, nā te mea ko te riri tētahi o ngā kare ā-roto matua i muri i te tinihanga. Kāore e kore, ka riri te tangata i tētahi wā. Heoi, ko te mea kino ko te tuku i tēnei riri kia pā ki ētahi atu wāhanga o tō ao, pērā i tō mahi, i ō hoa rānei.
I a koe e whakatā ana, whakaaetia te meka i tupu tēnei, kaua e noho ki te wā o mua, engari arotahi ki ngā mea e whai ake nei. Ki te mea kei te whakaaro koe he aha te pānga o te tinihanga ki tētahi tāne, ko te riri tētahi o ngā kare ā-roto matua.
4. Kia mārama koe ka kitea anō e koe te aroha
Ina pōrearea tō hinengaro i muri i te tinihanga, he māmā noa iho te tīmata ki te whakapono ki ngā mea pēnei i te, "Kāore au e kite anō i te aroha, ka mate takakau ahau", "Kāore e taea e au te whakawhirinaki anō ki tētahi". Tērā pea he mea tawhito tēnei ki a koe i tēnei wā, engari ka mārama wawe koe ka whakaora te wā i ngā patunga katoa.
Ko te manukanuka mō te heke mai he rite ki te mahi tinihanga ki te mahi a te wahine. Engari kaua e whakapono ka huri koe ake ake i te tinihangatia, whiriwhiria te ara whakaora, ā, tīmata ki te whakapono ka āwhina te wā i a koe ki te wikitoria i ō raruraru katoa. Ka kitea anō e koe te aroha.
5. Rapua he awhina ngaio
Ko te kōrero ki tētahi kaiwhakaora hinengaro tētahi o ngā huarahi tino whai hua hei āwhina i a koe ki te wikitoria i ngā kare ā-roto i muri i te tinihanga. Ka taea e koe te mārama he aha koe i pēnei ai, me pēhea hoki te whakahaere i aua kare ā-roto.
He aha te pānga o te tinihangatia ki te tāne ina kaha ake te ātete o ngā tāne ki te rongoā? Koinei te take e roa ai te wā e tukatukahia ai ō rātou kare ā-roto. Nā te kore e taea te whakapuaki i ō rātou raruraru, kāore rātou e tino aro atu ki aua raruraru. Mā te rapu āwhina ngaio, ka taea e koe te mārama ki te mea pai mōu, me te kohikohi i ētahi mōhiotanga ki a koe anō i a koe e mahi ana. Mena kei te raru koe i tēnei wā ki te whakatau i te tinihangatia, kei a Bonobology tētahi he tini o ngā kaiwhakaora hinengaro whai wheako hei awhina i a koe i tēnei wā uaua o tō ao.
Ko te āhua o te tinihangatia ka huri i a koe, ka whakawhirinaki ki tō tirohanga ki te ao, ki tō āhua hinengaro, ki te hauora o tō whanaungatanga, me ō wheako o mua, o ngā wheako rānei e pā ana ki a koe. "Ka uiuitia koe e te ao mō te whakawhirinaki, te pono, me te whakapono. He kōwhiringa kei a tātou katoa i te ao, ā, i muri i te tinihangatia, ka taea e tētahi te noho pakari me te tū motuhake, te noho rānei hei tangata kawa, kino. Nāu te kōwhiringa," te whakatau a Nishim.
FAQs
Ka whakangaromia e te tinihanga ngā pou e rua o te whanaungatanga – te whakawhirinaki me te whakaute. Ki te kore ēnei āhuatanga nui, kāore e taea e koe te tumanako kia pakari, kia pakari hoki. hononga hauora.
Kāore he wā tika hei whakakore i te tinihangatia. Mā te āwhina a te tohunga me te rongoā, ka taea e koe te whakarērea i tēnei āhuatanga i te wā tika. Heoi, i roto i te nuinga o ngā wā, ka mau tonu te pānga o te tinihangatia ki a koe ake ake.
Mena kua tinihangatia koe, ā, kāore anō kia taea e koe te aro atu ki tēnei āhuatanga, te whakakore rānei i te raruraru, tera pea ka kawea mai e koe ngā raruraru whakawhirinaki, ngā āwangawanga, ngā hae me te paranoia ki roto i ō whanaungatanga a meake nei.
Kāo, kāore e tika ana te tinihanga. Ahakoa he mahi hei whakahoki utu ki tētahi hoa tinihanga. Mena kua tinihangatia koe, e rua noa ngā kōwhiringa kei a koe – whakamutua te whanaungatanga ka neke atu, ka noho tonu rānei ka ngana anō.
Kāore tō koha e kiia he kaupapa aroha takohaMā tēnei ka taea e Bonobology te kawe mai i ngā mōhiotanga hou me ngā mōhiotanga hou ki a koe i roto i tā mātou whainga ki te āwhina i te tangata katoa o te ao ki te ako me pēhea te mahi i tetahi mea.
