Mena kua pāngia koe e te tinihanga, kua mōhio koe ki te mamae nui o te puku e pā ana ki te whakakitenga mai o te tinihanga. Ahakoa kua tuhia pai te pānga kino tuatahi o te tinihanga a te hoa, he mea tika hoki kia whakaaroarohia me pēhea te whakarerekētanga o koe e te tinihanga.
Kāore he mahi tinihanga e ngāwari ki te mawhiti. Inaa, ka taea e ia te whakararu i te heke mai o tō whanaungatanga. Ki te tini o te tangata, he mamae rawa te kitenga, ā, ka akiaki i a rātou ki te whakamutu i te whanaungatanga ka neke atu. I roto i te maha o ngā wā, ka ngana ngā tāne me ngā wāhine ki te noho tahi me te houhanga rongo i muri i te kore whakapono.
I ngā āhuatanga e rua, ka tino pāngia tō whanaungatanga e te tinihanga. Ki te whakatau koe ki te whakamutu i te whanaungatanga, tera pea ka raru koe i te mokemoke i muri i te tinihanga. Ki te whakatau koe ki te noho tahi, ka pā mai te raruraru ki tō hoa aroha pērā i te Hoari a Damocles, ka tata ki te haehae i tō whanaungatanga i te he iti noa iho.
He uaua ake, he uaua hoki ki te mārama ki ngā pānga roa o te tinihangatia i te ohorere tuatahi, te mamae me te riri. Nā reira he mea nui ake kia mārama ki te āhua o te tinihangatia e whakarerekē ana i a koe. Kia ngana tātou ki te mārama ki ngā kare ā-roto i muri i te tinihangatia.
Ka taea e te tinihangatia te whakarerekē i a koe?
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Ko te tinihanga i roto i te whanaungatanga e kiia ana ko te momo tinihanga nui rawa atu i roto i te whanaungatanga pumau, kotahi te hoa. E kiia ana he mahi kotahi ka taea te whakakore i ngā kupu whakaari katoa i roto i te whanaungatanga mō ngā hoa e rua. Engari, nui atu anō mō te tangata i tinihangatia. Mō te wā roa, ka tāia te ahua tito o tō hoa i roto i te moenga me tētahi atu tangata ki tō hinengaro.
Kāore e taea te mutu te purei anō i tēnei whakaahua. Pērā i te hinengaro tangata, ko tēnei whakaahua – he mea hanga noa iho – tera pea he tino whakairoiro ake i ngā mea i puta i te ao tūturu. I roto i te wā, ka memeha haere pea tēnei whakaahua engari ka mau tonu pea ngā pānga roa o te tinihangatia.
Tērā pea kei te whakaaro koe, "Ka taea e te tinihangatia koe te whakarerekē i a koe?" Kei te āwhina i a mātou ki te rapu whakautu, ko te tohunga hinengaro me te kaiwhakahaere i SAATH: Suicide Prevention Centre, a Nishim Marshall , e kī ana, "Tērā pea kei te ora koe i tētahi oranga tino makona, e whakawhetai ana ki tō hoa rangatira, ki tō whanaungatanga me te pai o ngā mea kua puta mōu. I roto i tēnei āhuatanga, ko te mōhio kua tinihangatia koe ka puta he ohorere kino.
"Tuatahi, ka pakaru koe ki ngā mongamonga me ngā pātai mutunga kore mōu ake, tō whakaaro nui ki a koe anō, tō whakaaro ki a koe anō, tō whakaaro ki a koe anō, me tō whakapono ki a koe anō. Ka kitea koe e raru ana i te ruarua i a koe anō, e pōuri ana, e kore e tau te haumaru, e tinihangatia ana, e riri ana hoki i te whakaaro kei waenganui i a koe me tō hoa tētahi atu tangata."
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He aha koe i rerekē ai i te tinihangatia?
Ko te take e tino mamae ai koe i te tinihangatia, ā, e whakarerekē ana i a koe, nā te mea he maha ngā tāngata e hono ana i te mahi tinihanga ki tō rātou ake mana. Kāore i te pai ahau? I hea ahau i hapa ai? He aha ngā mea a te tangata kē atu e ngaro ana i ahau? Ko ēnei momo pātai e pā ana ki te hinengaro o te tangata kua tinihangatia.
Waihoki, ina ngana koe ki te tūhura i te take o te tinihanga i roto i te whanaungatanga , ka arotahi koe ki ngā āhuatanga pēnei i te pouri, te oranga moepuku kore e makona, ngā take i roto i te whanaungatanga me ērā atu mea. Koinei te āhua o te nuinga o te hunga kua tinihangatia e mahi ana i tēnei mea mō rātou anō. Mā te mōhio, mā te kore mōhio rānei.
Heoi, ko te tinihanga he hua tonu nō te tuakiri o te tangata tinihanga, ā, kāore pea he pānga ki tōna hoa rangatira, ki te whanaungatanga rānei. Tērā pea he hua nō te haerenga o te tangata me ngā awe o te tīmatanga pērā i te kitenga i te tinihanga i roto i te whanaungatanga o ōna mātua, i te tipu ake rānei i roto i tētahi kāinga pōrearea. He huarahi hoki tēnei hei huna, hei oma, hei whakatau rānei i ngā raruraru.
Mā te whakaae ki tēnei me te wehe atu i te take, te take me te pēhea o te tinihanga, koinei anake te huarahi hei whakakore i ngā pānga o te tinihanga ki te roro.
11 Ngā Huarahi e Hurihia ai Koe e te Tinihanga
I muri i te tinihanga, ko te whāinga kia arotahi ki te take i puta ai te hara, kaua ki te mea i tupu i waenganui i tō hoa me te tangata kē atu i roto i tōna ao. Ahakoa kei te hiahia koe ki te neke atu i muri i te tinihanga, ki te noho tahi rānei, me te whakahaere i te whanaungatanga kia pai, koinei anake te huarahi hei whakaora pono i te tinihanga.
Heoi, kāore te nuinga o ngā tāne me ngā wāhine i te rite ki te whakatutuki i tēnei whāinga. Ahakoa ko rātou anake, me te kore he āwhina me te arataki a te kaiwhakatakoto whakaaro, te kaiwhakaora hinengaro rānei. Nō reira, ka tīmata te pānga roa o te tinihanga.
He aha ēnei pānga mō te wā roa? Ā, me pēhea te whakarerekētanga o tō āhua ina tinihangatia koe? Ka tohaina e Nishim ēnei pānga tekau mā tahi o te kore pono me te tinihanga ka pā pea ki a koe mēnā kua tinihangatia koe:
1. Ka whakawhanakehia e koe ngā take whakawhirinaki
"Ka memeha haere te whakawhirinaki katoa i a koe ki tō hoa i roto i tētahi wā poto," tana kī. Nō reira, ka puta pea he raruraru whakawhirinaki hōhonu ki a koe, ā, ka horapa atu ki tua atu i te whanaungatanga.
I pāngia a Myra e te tinihanga a tētahi hoa mō te wā roa, e tēnei āhuatanga. "I hoki wawe mai ahau i tētahi hui i te wā i whakaritea, ā, i hoki harikoa ahau ki te kāinga ki te miharo i taku hoa. Heoi anō, i kite ahau i a ia e takoto ana i te moenga me tētahi wahine nō tana wāhi mahi. I roto anō hoki i te moenga i noho tahi māua mō ngā tau e whitu!" tana kī, me te pupuhi i te korokoro.
"E mōhio ana ahau koinei tētahi o ngā huarahi tino tawhito ki te mōhio kei te takaro tō hoa i a koe, engari koinā te mutunga iho. Ahakoa i mutu taku hononga i taua wā tonu, kāore au i te tino ora i te hinganga. Ko tētahi o ngā huarahi e pā ai te tinihanga ki te wahine ko te tango i tōna kaha ki te whakawhirinaki ki te tangata," tāna tāpiri.
Kua moe wahine a Myra ināianei, engari he wāhanga tēnei o ana uauatanga ki te whakawhirinaki ki tana tāne. Ka tirohia pukutia e au tana waea, ka whakaū kei hea ia, nā te mea kāore e taea e au te whakakore i te whakaaro ka tukua hoki e ia taku whakawhirinaki.
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2. Ka whakarite koe i a koe ki tēnei atu tangata
"Ko tētahi atu āhuatanga noa o te tinihangatia ko te whakarite i a koe ki tētahi atu tangata. Pērā i ngā wāhine, ka pāngia ngā tāne kua tinihangatia. Nā te mea ka heke te mana o tō hoa i te hara."
"Nō reira, ka kitea koe e whaiwhai ana i te tāne, i te wahine rānei i runga i ngā pāpāho pāpori, e hanga ana rānei i tētahi rārangi arowhai hinengaro mō te pai ake o rātou i a koe, te pai rānei. Koinei te huarahi e whakarerekē ai koe i te tinihangatia – ka pakaru tō whakaaro mōu ake," te kī a Nishim.
I a koe e ora tonu ana me tēnei kare ā-roto pakaru o te whakaaro nui ki a koe anō me te whakaaro nui ki a koe anō, e kore e taea e koe te whakaū i a koe anō i roto i tō whanaungatanga o nāianei, e kore hoki e taea te hanga hononga hauora a muri ake nei.
3. He hiahia ki te rapu utu
Ko tētahi atu huarahi nui e whakarerekē ai te tinihanga i a koe ko te whakatō i roto i a koe te hiahia ki te rapu utu i tō hoa. "Me whakaatu e koe ki tō hoa he kaha koe ki te whai i ngā mahi moepuku, i ngā hoa aroha, i ngā moe pō kotahi rānei i waho o ngā whanaungatanga," te kī a Nishim.
Koinei tētahi o ngā urupare matua o te pānga o te tinihanga ki tētahi tāne. Ka pā pea tēnei ki te hunga e whakanui ana i te pono i roto i ngā whanaungatanga; kāore rātou i titiro tuarua ki tētahi atu, nā te mea i roto rātou i tētahi whanaungatanga pumau. Mā te takahi i te whakawhirinaki ka taea e koe te arahi i a koe ki te ara o te moepuku, ahakoa hei whakaatu noa i te tangata kē.
He tauhohenga kaha tēnei ki te āhua o te tinihangatia ka huri i a koe ake tonu atu.
4. Ka whakapataritari koe i te tinihangatia
Tērā pea ka rerekē te āhua o ngā wāhine me ngā tāne kua tinihangatia. "Ko te kare ā-roto o te kawa, te riri me te pukuriri ētahi o ngā pānga noa o te tinihanga ki te roro. Ka pā ēnei huringa ki tō whanaungatanga ki ō tamariki (mēnā he tamariki), ki te whānau me ngā hoa, me te pānga anō hoki ki tō mahi."
"He tino mamae te tinihangatia, ā, ka puta te kino rawa atu i roto i a koe. He tino mamae te mōhio kua takahia e te tangata i tino whakanuia e koe te aroha me te whakawhirinaki i tohaina e kōrua. Heoi anō, koinei te āhua o te tinihanga," te kī a Nishmin.
Ki te kore koe e kitea he huarahi hei tukatuka me te whakahaere i ēnei kare ā-roto kino, ka taea e ngā huringa tuakiri i puta mai i te mahi tinihanga te noho pumau.
5. Kei te raru koe i ngā kare ā-roto paitini
E whakaahua ana a Nishim i ēnei hei ranunga o ngā kare ā-roto o te hara, te hae, te koretake o te māia, te whakama me te whakama. Ahakoa he kare ā-roto e pārekareka ana te hae me te koretake o te māia i muri i te tinihanga, he maha hoki ngā hoa e raru ana ki te hara, te whakama me te whakama.
Ka kitea whānuitia tēnei i roto i te pānga o te tinihanga ki te wahine, engari kāore e taea te whakakore i te tūponotanga ka pāngia ngā tāne e ngā kare ā-roto ōrite. E whakaatu ana te kōrero a Henrietta i te ngokingoki haere o te hara. E mea ana ia, " I tinihanga taku tāne, engari i pōuri ahau nā te mea kāore i taea e au te whakakore i tēnei kare ā-roto e mea ana ko taku mahi te take i puta ai ngā āputa i roto i te marena, e hanga ana i te wāhi mō te tuatoru o ngā tāngata kia uru mai."
I tukuna mai he whakatairanga ki ahau, ā, me neke ahau ki tētahi atu tāone hei whakatū i tētahi tari hou. He mahi kotahi tau te roa, ā, i tīmata ahau me te whakaaro ka taea e māua te whakahaere. Engari kātahi ka moe tāne i muri i ngā marama e ono o tēnei whakawhiti. Tae noa ki tēnei rā, kei te whakapae tonu ahau i taku whakatau ki te hanga i tā māua marena tawhiti hei take mō tana hara.
6. Ka meinga koe kia pātai i tō whanaungatanga katoa
I te haputanga o Suzanne i tana tamaiti tuatahi, ka hopukia e ia tana tāne e tuku karere kuputuhi ana ki tana hoa o mua. "Kei konei ahau e waha ana i tana tamaiti, e noho ana i ngā pō kore moe i roto i te mamae, kua rerekē haere tōku tinana, ā, kei te whiwhi ia i tana wāhi mahi i runga i te huna. Ko te mea kino rawa atu, i a māua e moe tahi ana i te moenga i a ia e whakapuaki ana i ngā moemoeā moepuku ki tana hoa o mua."
"I oati ia kāore ia i moe ki a ia, kāore hoki i tūtaki ki a ia, ā, i tautohe he tukunga testosterone noa iho tēnei. Engari i te whakapāha mō taua mea, i tahuri ke ia i te tautohetohe me te kī ' he tinihanga te tuku karere kuputuhi '."
"Ehara i te mea ko āna mahi anake, engari ko tana tauhohenga i te hopukanga o te ringa māia i meinga ai ahau kia ruarua i te kaupapa katoa o tā māua whanaungatanga. I mahi ia i tēnei i mua? Ka mahi anō rānei ia? I aroha pono ia ki ahau pērā i tana aroha ki tana hoa o mua? He marena wātea noa iho rānei tā māua," tana kī.
Mō Suzanna, he tino mamae te tinihangatia, ā, kāore i taea e ia te titiro anō ki tana whanaungatanga i te ara kotahi. Mai i reira, ka tere te pakaru o ngā mea.
7. Mā te tinihangatia koe e āta tupato ai
He nui te ngākau māhaki – me te whakawhirinaki ki te tangata – hei tuku i tō tiaki me te whakaatu i ō ngoikoretanga ki te aroaro o te marea. Mā te tinihangatia koe e whakarerekē, ka nui ake tō tiaki.
Ehara i te mea ko tō whanaungatanga o nāianei, o āpōpō rānei, engari ko koe anō hoki. Ki te whakaaro koe mēnā ka huri te tinihanga i a koe ake ake, he tauira matarohia tēnei. Hei tangata kua ora i te tinihanga, tērā pea kāore e taea e koe te whakapuaki i ō āwangawanga hohonu, ō mataku, ō tumanako me ō moemoeā, ahakoa ki te hunga e tata ana ki a koe.
Kei roto i tēnā ko ngā hoa, te whānau, ngā mātua me ngā tamariki. Mā te pakaru o te whakawhirinaki ka mauheretia e koe tētahi wāhanga o koe ake tonu atu.
8. Ka taea e ia te whakakore i a koe i ngā whanaungatanga
E whakaae ana a Tully, he kaihoahoa hanga kiriata angitu, ko te āwangawanga mō ngā whanaungatanga pumau tētahi o ngā pānga kino mō te wā roa o te tinihanga. E rua tekau mā rima ōna tau i te wā i tinihangatia ai tōna whakawhirinaki e tana hoa aroha o te kāreti.
"Mō te wā roa rawa, kua oati ahau ki te whakarere i ngā tāne. I roto i ngā tau, kua whai hoa aroha ahau, kua moe tahi mō te pō kotahi, ā, kua whakamātauria e au taku moepuku, engari kāore i taea e au te here anō ki tētahi atu tangata."
"He tino uaua te wehi kei pērā anō rātou. He mea kāore i taea te whakaora ahakoa te tekau tau o te rongoā. I te taha pai, kua ako ahau ki te whakaae me te noho rangimārie ki aku whiringa o te ao," tana kī.
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9. Ka pakeke haere koe
He tāne pango, he takatāpui a Chris, i pakeke i ngā tau 80, ā, kua tino uaua kē tōna oranga. Kāore i taea e ia te whakapuaki i ōna āhuatanga ki tōna whānau, ki ōna hoa rānei, ā, kua pāngia ia e te oranga takirua. I tūtaki ia ki tētahi tāne ātaahua, ā, ka aroha ki a ia.
Me te mea nei ka māmā ake tana haerenga i konei, engari kāore tana hoa i te tino aro ki te whakaaro o te moe tāne , te here rānei. "Kua uaua kē te ao, ā, ko tana tinihanga i ahau he rite ki te whao whakamutunga i roto i te kāwhena. Nāna ahau i huri hei tangata whakatoi, pōuri, kāore e taea te whakamahi i ōna ake kare ā-roto, ā, kāore hoki e taea te whakapuaki ki ētahi atu."
"Ko te mea pai ko te rite o tēnei putanga pakeke o ahau ki te aro atu ki ngā mea katoa i tukua mai e te ao. Koinei te tūāpapa mō tētahi oranga angitu, whai rawa – ahakoa te mokemoke,” tana kī.
10. Ka taea e te tinihanga te homai i te maia ki a koe ki te neke whakamua
E whakaae ana ngā kaiwhakaora hinengaro he tohu noa iho te tinihanga, ehara i te take o ngā raruraru whanaungatanga. Ko te mea ka uru mai pea tētahi atu tangata ki roto i tō whanaungatanga, he tohu tēnei i ngā pakaru me ngā āputaputa kua tū kē.
He maha ngā wā ka huna tonu ngā tāne me ngā wāhine i ā rāua raruraru ki raro i te whāriki kia pahū rā anō ki ō rāua mata. Ka taea e tēnei waiaro te whakatipu i te puremu. Waihoki, he maha ngā wā ka noho tahi ngā tāne me ngā wāhine, e ngana ana ki te whakaroa i tētahi hononga kua roa e haere ana, nā te mea he mea mōhio, he mea whakamarie hoki.
I ēnei āhuatanga, ko te mokemoke i muri i te tinihangatia ka waiho hei akiaki whakamutunga e hiahiatia ana kia neke atu koe, kia hoki mai ai tōu ao.
11. Ka taea e ia te whakaputa i tētahi āhua hou mōu
Ae, mā te tinihangatia koe e whakarerekē, engari kāore e tika kia puta i ngā wā katoa i roto i ngā huarahi kino. "Kia oti i a koe te pāngia e te riri, te mamae me te mamae, ka taea e koe te tīmata ki te ora. Mā te mōhio he nui atu koe i te hoa rangatira o tētahi atu ka āwhina i te whakahoki mai i tō mana ake, tō kore whakapono ki a koe anō me tō whakaute ki a koe anō."
"Mō tēnei ka puta mai he mana me te whakapono. Ka tīmata tō reo o roto, tō hinengaro ki te kōrero ki a koe. Ka tīmata tēnei whakawhiti ki te whakamana i tō ngākau maru, me te whakakaha i a ia, āta haere engari kia pumau, kia kore ai e taea te aukati."
"Kāore e taea e tetahi te aukati i tēnei putanga māia, hihiko o koe kei haere ki ngā wāhi katoa. Ka tīmata koe ki te titiro ki a koe anō he tangata ataahua, he tangata utu nui, he tangata whai mana, kāore e whakama ki te whakaae ki te ao tūturu," te kī a Nishim.
Nā te mea kua mārama ake koe ki ngā kino hinengaro o te tinihangatia, ko te pātai ka pātaihia, "Me pēhea taku neke whakamua i muri i te tinihangatia?"
Me pēhea te ora i te tinihangatia
Mā te pānui i ngā kōrero mō te tinihangatia ka huri i a koe ake ake, tera pea ka āwangawanga koe mō ngā mea kei te heke mai. Ahakoa, mā te āta whakaaroaro, tera pea ka taea e koe te whakakore i te kino hinengaro o te tinihangatia.
Ae, ehara i te mea ngāwari rawa, engari kāore he mea whai hua e ngāwari ana mēnā ka whakaarohia e koe. Me kōrero tātou mō ētahi mea ka taea e koe te mahi kia kore ai ngā kare ā-roto i muri i te tinihangatia e whakatau ko wai koe.
1. Tangohia he wā okioki
Ahakoa tōu ngākau māhaki, ka pōuri koe i ngā kare ā-roto i muri i te tinihangatia i tētahi wā, i tētahi wā rānei. E mārama ana ka pōuri koe mō tētahi wā, nā te mea he uaua ki te whakatau i ngā kare ā-roto e rere ana i roto i tō hinengaro.
I roto i tēnei āhuatanga, he pai pea te tango i tētahi wā okioki mai i ngā whanaungatanga, i te mahi, i ngā kawenga. Whakapaua he wā ki te whakaaro me pēhea te neke whakamua . Heoi, kia tūpato kei roa ake tēnei hinganga i te wā e tika ana. Me whakaaro he wā okiokinga poto, kaua he momo oranga. Kia hoki anō koe ki te tū pakari i muri i te okiokinga, tera pea ka taea e koe te huri i te pānga o te tinihanga ki ngā whanaungatanga ā muri ake nei.
2. Whakakorea "nōku te he?"
Ko tētahi o ngā mea tino kino ka taea e koe te mahi i muri i te tinihangatia ko te whakapae i a koe anō mō te tinihanga a tō hoa. I tinihanga tō hoa, me te mōhio ki ngā hua ka puta, ā, i te mōhio ka pōuri koe. Ki te whakaaro koe he raruraru i ārahi i a rātou ki te tinihanga, āe, ehara te tinihanga i te huarahi e whakatau ai i ngā raruraru. Me kōrero tō hoa ki a koe, kaua e uru ki te moepuku.
Ko te whakapae i a koe anō te mahi tino kino ki te wahine. Mā te whakakore i ngā whakaaro pēnei i te, "Nāku tēnei he? I hē taku mahi?" me whai koe ki te whakakore i te ruarua i a koe anō. Ka māmā ake te whakatau i ngā kare ā-roto i muri i te tinihanga ina oti i a koe.
Pānui e pā ana: Me pēhea te muru i te hara o tō hoa tinihanga, ā, me pēhea hoki koe?
3. Kaua e tukua te riri kia whakahaere i a koe
Kāore mātou e kī ana kia kaua e riri, nā te mea ko te riri tētahi o ngā kare ā-roto matua i muri i te tinihanga. Kāore e kore, ka riri te tangata i tētahi wā. Heoi, ko te mea kino ko te tuku i tēnei riri kia pā ki ētahi atu wāhanga o tō ao, pērā i tō mahi, i ō hoa rānei.
I a koe e whakatā ana, whakaaetia te meka i tupu tēnei, kaua e noho ki te wā o mua, engari arotahi ki ngā mea e whai ake nei. Ki te mea kei te whakaaro koe he aha te pānga o te tinihanga ki tētahi tāne, ko te riri tētahi o ngā kare ā-roto matua.
4. Kia mārama koe ka kitea anō e koe te aroha
Ina pōrearea tō hinengaro i muri i te tinihanga, he māmā noa iho te tīmata ki te whakapono ki ngā mea pēnei i te, "Kāore au e kite anō i te aroha, ka mate takakau ahau", "Kāore e taea e au te whakawhirinaki anō ki tētahi". Tērā pea he mea tawhito tēnei ki a koe i tēnei wā, engari ka mārama wawe koe ka whakaora te wā i ngā patunga katoa.
Ko te manukanuka mō te heke mai he rite ki te mahi tinihanga ki te mahi a te wahine. Engari kaua e whakapono ka huri koe ake ake i te tinihangatia, whiriwhiria te ara whakaora, ā, tīmata ki te whakapono ka āwhina te wā i a koe ki te wikitoria i ō raruraru katoa. Ka kitea anō e koe te aroha.
5. Rapua he awhina ngaio
Ko te kōrero ki tētahi kaiwhakaora hinengaro tētahi o ngā huarahi tino whai hua hei āwhina i a koe ki te wikitoria i ngā kare ā-roto i muri i te tinihanga. Ka taea e koe te mārama he aha koe i pēnei ai, me pēhea hoki te whakahaere i aua kare ā-roto.
He aha te pānga o te tinihangatia ki te tāne ina kaha ake te ātete o ngā tāne ki te rongoā hinengaro? Koinei te take e roa ai te wā e tukatuka ai rātou i ō rātou kare ā-roto. Nā te kore e taea te whakapuaki i ō rātou raruraru, kāore rātou e tino aro atu ki aua raruraru. Mā te rapu āwhina ngaio, ka taea e koe te mārama ki te mea pai mōu, me te kohikohi i ētahi mōhiotanga ki a koe anō i a koe e mahi ana. Mena kei te raru koe i tēnei wā ki te whakatau i te tinihangatia, he maha ngā kaiwhakaora hinengaro mātau a Bonobology hei āwhina i a koe i tēnei wā uaua o tō ao.
Ko te āhua o te tinihangatia ka huri i a koe, ka whakawhirinaki ki tō tirohanga ki te ao, ki tō āhua hinengaro, ki te hauora o tō whanaungatanga, me ō wheako o mua, o ngā wheako rānei e pā ana ki a koe. "Ka uiuitia koe e te ao mō te whakawhirinaki, te pono, me te whakapono. He kōwhiringa kei a tātou katoa i te ao, ā, i muri i te tinihangatia, ka taea e tētahi te noho pakari me te tū motuhake, te noho rānei hei tangata kawa, kino. Nāu te kōwhiringa," te whakatau a Nishim.
FAQs
Ka whakangaromia e te tinihanga ngā pou e rua o te whanaungatanga – te whakawhirinaki me te whakaute. Ki te kore ēnei āhuatanga nui, kāore e taea e koe te tumanako kia pakari, kia ora te whanaungatanga.
Kāore he wā tika hei whakakore i te tinihangatia. Mā te āwhina a te tohunga me te rongoā, ka taea e koe te whakarērea i tēnei āhuatanga i te wā tika. Heoi, i roto i te nuinga o ngā wā, ka mau tonu te pānga o te tinihangatia ki a koe ake ake.
Mena kua tinihangatia koe, ā, kāore anō kia taea e koe te aro atu ki tēnei āhuatanga, te whakakore rānei i te raruraru, tera pea ka kawea mai e koe ngā raruraru whakawhirinaki, ngā āwangawanga, ngā hae me te paranoia ki roto i ō whanaungatanga a meake nei.
Kāo, kāore e tika ana te tinihanga. Ahakoa he mahi hei whakahoki utu ki tētahi hoa tinihanga. Mena kua tinihangatia koe, e rua noa ngā kōwhiringa kei a koe – whakamutua te whanaungatanga ka neke atu, ka noho tonu rānei ka ngana anō.
Ehara tō takoha i te koha aroha . Mā tēnei ka taea e Bonobology te kawe tonu mai i ngā mōhiotanga hou me ngā mōhiotanga hou ki a koe i roto i tā mātou whainga ki te āwhina i te tangata o te ao ki te ako me pēhea te mahi i tetahi mea.
