Kei te hiahia koe ki te mōhio me pēhea te kukume i tētahi tāne kia aroha ki a koe? I mua i taku hoatutanga i ētahi tohutohu pai, tukua ahau kia whakapuaki i tētahi kōrero poto. Kāore au e pai ki te whakaae ki tēnei, engari he hoa tēnei e hae nui ana ahau ki a ia. Titiro mai, kāore anō ahau kia kite i a ia kāore he hoa tāne, kāore rānei he tangata pōuri e tatari ana kia whiwhi i tana aroha. Nā, koinei te mea e whakapoauau ana i te hunga e mōhio ana ki a ia. Ae, kei roto i ngā kanohi o te tangata te ataahua. Heoi anō, ki te kōrero pono, ehara i te mea he kino taku kōrero, he āhua noa iho ia.
Engari he mea whakamiharo tōna āhua me tōna māia, he mea whakamiharo rawa atu. He āhua ataahua tōna e kukume ana i te tangata, tāne, wahine hoki, me te kore e nui te kaha. Te āhua nei kāore he raruraru ki a ia ki te kukume me te aro mai o ngā tāne. E maia ana ahau ki te kī atu ko te nuinga o ngā wāhine e mōhio ana ki a ia me tino hae ia ina tomo mai ia.
Nō reira, i runga i te hihiri o tōna pūkenga ngāwari, ka tīmata ahau ki te rapu huarahi hei kukume i te aroha o tētahi tāne ki a koe, hei mea hoki kia hiahia ia ki a koe. Pānuihia tonutia kia kitea ai aku akoranga i tēnei haerenga, me ētahi tirohanga a te tohunga mō ngā mea e hiahiatia ana hei kukume i te aroha o tētahi tāne ki a koe.
20 Ngā Tohutohu Tino Māmā Hei Whakaoho i te Aroha o te Tāne ki a Koe
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Me tīmata māku mā te kī atu, kāore he tikanga makutu hei mea kia aroha nui ai tetahi ki a koe, whiriwhiria he hoa mō te ora. Heoi anō, he tokomaha o tātou e hiahia ana, e pōhēhē ana hoki ki te pātai me pēhea te kukume i te aroha ki tētahi tāne. I kitea e au, ehara ko au anake i tēnei rapunga. Reddit kaiwhakamahi i rapua he aha te mea ka taea e te wahine te mahi hei kukume i te tāne ki a ia i taua wā tonu. Ko ngā whakautu i roto i te miro he tino whakamere. I whakaurua ngā mea iti pēnei i-
- He pai ki te tāne te kōtiro e ngāwari ana ki a ia
- Te hiahia ki te peke
- Te kaha ki te kōrero
- Te hiahia ki te tohatoha pire
- Ngā wāhi pānga tiritahi
- Ngā mea iti pēnei i te menemene
- Ko te whakawhirinaki
- Te whakaatu i te aroha ki te hunga e matea ana
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I kitea anō e au ētahi mea ka taea e koe te mahi hei whakaoho i te hiahia o tētahi tāne ki a koe. E ai ki ngā tohunga, ko ētahi āhuatanga matua ka whakanui ake i tō tupono ki te hanga hononga kaha, pumau hoki ki tētahi. Nā, he aha ēnei? Me wetewete tātou i tēnei mea ngaro me ētahi tohutohu tautokona e ngā tohunga mō te whakaoho i te aroha hōhonu o tētahi tāne ki a koe:
1. Awhitia tō pono
Tohutohu tuatahi mō te pēhea kia aroha mai te tangata ki a koe Ko te pono te mea nui. Ko te pono te mea nui ki te hanga hononga pono, ā, ka tino hiahia ia ki a koe. Ka puta noa i a koe te pouri me te riri ki tō hoa pea mēnā ka whakaatu koe i a koe anō he tangata ehara koe i te tangata pono. Kia maumahara tonu ka aroha te tāne tika ki a koe mō tō āhua. Nō reira, ki te mea he āhua rerekē koe, he āhua ahurei rānei, koia tonu koe me noho tonu. Kaua e huna i tō āhua tūturu me ngā whakaaro teka me tutuki e koe tētahi paerewa kia hiahia ai ia ki a koe.
A Reddit kaiwhakamahi hēkona te hiranga o te pono. Kāore tana hoa wahine i mahi i tetahi mea hei meinga ia kia aroha ki a ia, engari i taea e rāua te hono atu nā te mea he pono rāua tahi, ā, i tino pai te mahi a te rerekētanga tetahi ki tetahi. Ka haere tonu ia ki te kī he mea nui kia noho ko koe tonu, ā, ina kitea e koe te tangata tika, ka rere maori te toenga.
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2. Whakatupuhia te whakaute me te whakamoemiti tetahi ki tetahi
He nui te whakaute me te whakamoemiti a taku hoa ki ngā tāngata, tae atu ki te hunga e hiahia ana ia ki te whai i roto i te aroha. Ko ēnei āhuatanga ngā tūāpapa o te aroha hohonu me te pumau. Kia tino aroha ai te tāne ki a koe, whakaaturia ki a ia e whakanuia ana e koe ōna whakaaro, āna whakatutukitanga, me āna takoha ki te whanaungatanga. Waihoki, kia noho hei hoa tautoko e whakatenatena ana i a ia ki te whai i ana moemoeā me ana whāinga.
3. Kia kaha te whakarongo
He māmā noa te kukume i tētahi tāne ki a koe mēnā:
- Whakaatuhia te tino hiahia ki ōna whakaaro, ōna kare ā-roto, me ōna wheako
- Kia aro nui ina kōrero ia
- Patai whakaaro nui
- Kaua e whakararuraru, e tuku tohutohu rānei kāore i tonoa
- Whakarongo ki a ia, ā, whakanuia āna kōrero. Ka nui ake tōna aroha ki a koe mēnā he pai tō whakarongo, ā, ka whakaute koe i ana whakaaro.
Te whakapuaki i ōna whakaaro mō te hiranga o te whakarongo, te tohunga hinengaro me te kaiako ārahi Pragati Sureka (MA i roto i te Hinengaro Hauora, me ngā whiwhinga ngaio mai i te Kura Hauora o Harvard), "Ko te mōhio kei te whakarongohia koe, he rite ki te mea kei te whakarongo puku mai tetahi ki a koe. Ā, he mea nui te reo tinana ki te mea kia rongohia tetahi." Nō reira, ina kōrero ana tō hoa aroha, aro katoa ki tāna e kōrero ana, ā, tukua ia kia whakaoti i mua i te tuku i tō whakaaro. Ko te whakarongo puku tetahi o ngā pou o te whanaungatanga pakeke.
4. Tukuna he tautoko me he whakatenatena pumau
Ko te mea e tino aroha ai te tāne ki te wahine, ko te mea kei a koe:
- Tōna kaiārahi
- Tōna hoa whakawhirinaki, tōna toa hoki, inā koa i ngā wā uaua
- Te tuku whakatenatena i ngā wā uaua
- Whakanuia āna angitu
- Kei reira ia mōna i ngā wā e tino hiahia ana ia ki a koe.
E whakaatu ana hoki taku hoa ki tana hoa e whakapono ana ia ki a ia me ōna pūkenga. Ko ia tana tangata tuatahi hei whakapā atu ina hiahia ia ki tētahi hei kōrero māna. Kei te hiahia koe ki te mōhio ki te rerenga kotahi hei mea i te tangata kia aroha ki a koe? Āe, anei: "Kei a koe taku tautoko pumau, ahakoa te aha."
5. Tukua ia kia toa
Ko tētahi atu tohutohu māmā hei ārahi i te aroha o tētahi tāne ki a koe ko te mārama ki tōna āhua. Kia maumahara tonu he mea hanga noa ngā tāne. E hiahia ana rātou kia mōhio kei te hiahiatia rātou, ahakoa he iti noa iho. Tērā tētahi mea e mōhiotia ana ko te wairua toa. E whakaahua ana tēnei i te hihiri koiora i roto i ngā tāne ki te whakarato me te tiaki. He mea nui kia whakawhirinaki, kia mihi hoki ō rātou hoa ki a rātou. Ka taea e taua wairua toa te āwhina i te tāne kia mōhio kei te hiahiatia, kia maiohahia hoki, i runga i tō whanonga. Nō reira, ko tētahi rerenga kōrero hei ārahi i te aroha o tētahi tāne ki a koe ko, "E tama, e hiahia ana ahau ki a koe."
Ahakoa kāore anō kia whakamātauhia e te pūtaiao, ko te āhua toa te ariā tino pai ki ngā tohunga aroha. I te tīmatanga, i whakaaro mātou kei te nui rawa ngā mahi a taku hoa i roto i tana whanaungatanga. Kāore i taea e ia te whakatuwhera i tētahi pounamu, i tētahi tīni rānei, i a ia anō, i te mea kei te taha tonu tana tāne. Engari ko te mea kāore mātou i te mōhio, i a ia e mōhio ana he wahine atamai ia, i pai tana tāne ki te mahi i aua mea iti māna. Ināianei kua mārama mātou kei te whakamana ia i tana tāne mā te tuku i tana āhua toa kia puta mai. Ko te nui ake o tana whakaū i a ia kia hiahiatia, ka kaha ake tā rāua hononga. Ki te hiahia koe ki te whakamātau, tirohia ēnei Ngā huarahi hei whakaoho i te wairua toa i roto i tō tāne.
6. Waihangahia ngā wheako tahi me ngā maharatanga pumau
E maumahara ana ahau i tīmata taku hoa ki te hikoi, ā, kāore mātou i te mārama he aha. Nā te take ngāwari noa iho tēnei, i kino ia ki ngā mahi whakakori tinana uaua. Engari he tangata tino pai tana hoa tāne ki waho. Mā te hikoi tahi ka whai wāhi rāua ki:
- Whakakahangia tō rātou hononga
- Waihangahia ngā wheako me ngā maharatanga ngātahi
- Haere tahi i ngā haerenga mōrearea
- Te torotoro i nga waahi hou.
- Whakauruhia hoki ngā kēmu aroha mō ngā tāne me ngā wāhine hei whakamārama i te mura i roto i tō kōrua whanaungatanga. He huarahi ngahau tēnei ki te hono atu me te pārekareka ki te noho tahi.
He mea tino ataahua te hiahia o ia ki te whakamātau i ngā mea hou, me te waihanga i ngā tikanga tuku iho ka maumahara tonu rāua mō ngā tau e haere ake nei. Anei tētahi meka kua whakamātauhia e te pūtaiao. Ko ngā tāne me ngā wāhine e mahi tahi ana i ngā mahi ngahau, he nui ake te tūponotanga ka noho tahi tonu. He ako e whakaatu ana te rangahau a Te Whare Wānanga o Utah ka whakanui te tākaro i te hononga, te whakatau pakanga, me te makona i te whanaungatanga.
7. Whakatairangahia te whakawhitiwhiti kōrero tuwhera me te pono
Me tuku te tangata kia aroha nui ki a koe mā te whakawhitiwhiti kōrero tuwhera, nā te mea koinei tētahi o ngā tūāpapa o tētahi whanaungatanga hauora. Whakapuakina māramatia ō kare ā-roto me ō hiahia, ā, whakatenatenahia ia kia pērā anō hoki. Kia maumahara hoki, he tino māmā te hinengaro o ngā tāne e aroha ana. Kei te whakarongo kaha koe ki a rātou, kei te whiwhi hoki i ō rātou tirohanga, ahakoa he rerekē i tōu?
Tumuaki Hinengaro Jayant Sundaresan, e kī ana "Ko te whāinga o tētahi kōrerorero ko te wikitoria, te whakatau rānei i tētahi raruraru. Kaua e uru ki tētahi kōrerorero hei 'wikitoria' i tō hoa. Kia mārama te whāinga, ka taurite te whakawhitiwhiti kōrero e puta ana. Ko te tokorua tonu te take, ko te raruraru, ehara i te Hoa A, ko te Hoa B. Ki te mea kei te whakahaere koe i tētahi tautohetohe hei whakaako i tētahi akoranga ki tō hoa, he tino kino."
8. Awhi i te murunga hara, me te ako ki te whakaae
E ngā wāhine, kia tino kukume mai i te tāne mā te awhi i te murunga hara. Nā ngā hapa tātou e tangata ai, ā, he mea e kore e taea te karo. E hiahia ana koe kia murua ō hara e ia, nō reira, he aha koe e kore ai e pena? Mā te pupuri i te mauahara ka kino noa te whanaungatanga.
Ko te whakaae tahi te mea nui ki ngā whanaungatanga hauora. E ai ki Shazia Saleem (Tohu Paerua i roto i te Hinengaro), he mea nui te whakaae pai kia ora tonu ai tetahi whanaungatanga. "I roto i te marena, ina koa he nui ngā tumanakohanga, he mea nui kia mahara ko te 'tātou' me whakatairanga i te nuinga o te wā i runga ake i te whakapehapeha takitahi."
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9. Whakatipuhia tō harikoa me tō whakatutukitanga
He tangata tino tika koe, ahakoa kei te mokemoke koe? Kaua e ngaro i roto i te whanaungatanga. Me whai tonu i ō hiahia, i ō wawata, me ō whāinga. He hoa ataahua ake te tangata harikoa, kua ea te ngākau.
10. Whakamahi i te manawanui me te māramatanga
He tukanga puhoi te aroha, ā, he wā roa te tipu me te hohonu. Nō reira:
- Kaua e tere nga mahi
- Kaua e tumanako ka huri ia i tōna āhua hei tangata
- Kia manawanui, kia mārama, kia ngākau nui hoki ki te mahi tahi i ngā wero
Ā, me whakapono koe ka puta ētahi wā whakamātautau. Akohia ētahi huarahi kua tūtohutia e ngā tohunga hei te whakatere i tētahi wā uaua o tētahi whanaungatanga.
11. Kaua rawa e whakahawea ki tōna aroha
Whakaaturia te maioha ki tāu tāne i ia rā, i ia rā. E whakaatu tonu ana taku hoa wahine i te nui o tōna hiranga ki a ia. E whakaatu tonu ana āna kupu e whakanui ana ia i tōna aroaro, me tōna whakawhetai ki a ia mōna. Ko wai te tāne e ātete ana ki tēnei momo āhuatanga? whakaū kaha mai i tētahi wahine e arohaina ana e ia?
"He tino ngāwari te whakapouri i a ia ki ahau i te rā tuatahi," te kī a taku hoa, "i meinga ia e au kia tino motuhake mā te whakamōhio atu ki a ia e mihi ana ahau ki ana mahi katoa hei whakatutuki i te angitu o te rā. I tino hiahia hoki ahau ki te ako i ana mea e pai ana, e kore hoki e pai ki a ia. I tino mohio hoki ahau ki te whakamōhio atu ki a ia kāore he here, he tumanako rānei mai i ahau. Ka taea e ia te noho hei tangata pai rawa atu mōna, ā, pērā anō hoki, ka taea e au." I tino angitu tana huarahi nā te mea, i roto i te wā poto, kāore i taea e tana hoa moemoeā te ārai i te aroha nui ki a ia.
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12. Kaua e mutu te whakaipoipo
E mea ana taku hoa, "Ko te whakaipoipo te mea ngaro ki a ia kia aroha mai ki ahau. Kāore au e tuku i te rama aroha kia memeha." E kite ana ia he tino tuwhera te whanonga o te tāne ina aroha ana, ā, e pai ana ia ki te awhi i ngā āhuatanga ngahau o te noho i roto i te whanaungatanga. Ko ngā mea pēnei i te titiro kanohi roa me te reo tinana aroha ka kukume mai i te aroha e kore e taea e koe te whakapono.
He mea nui kia tangohia ngā mahi e tika ana hei whakanui ake i te whanaungatanga ā-tinana i roto i te whanaungatanga. Kaiako Whakawhanaungatanga me te whanaungatanga Shivanya Yogmayaa (kua whakamanahia ā-ao mō ngā tikanga rongoā o te EFT, NLP, CBT, me te REBT), "Ehara i te moepuku anake te whanaungatanga ā-tinana. He huarahi hononga, ā, kei roto ko ngā kare ā-roto o te whakaae, te haumaru, te whakawhirinaki, me te māramatanga. Kia rongo ai te tangata i te tata me te whakamarie ā-tinana, me whai turanga mō ngā paparanga maha o te māramatanga, te whakawhitiwhiti kōrero, me te hononga."
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13. He mea whakahihiri te māia
Ka tomo taku hoa ki roto i tētahi rūma, ā, ka tahuri ngā mahunga katoa. He ātaahua ngaro kei roto i te māia ka hiahia ia ki a koe. Ka taea e ia te titiro kanohi ki a ia me te kore e oho. He pai ki a ia, ā, kāore e hiahiatia kia kōrerohia.
Hei kukume i tētahi tāne, hei mea hoki kia taka ia ki a koe, whakaaturia ki a ia he wahine motuhake koe, e whakahaere ana i tōna ake ao. Mā tēnei wairua ka kitea e te tāne he hoa kaha i roto i a koe. Kia maumahara tonu, ko tō whakapono ki a koe anō te mea pai rawa atu māu. Nō reira, kakahuria, whakahīhītia, ā, kia mau ki a ia.
14. Kia atawhai
Mā te atawhai koe e hiahia ai ia ki a koe. Kaua e horapa noa te atawhai ki a ia, engari ki te hapori whānui. Ka tangohia e taku hoa aroha te hāte i tōna tuara mēnā e hiahiatia ana e tētahi atu. He pai ki a ia te whakapau i te wā ki te mahi tūao, ā, i ngā marama kua taha ake nei, he wāhanga nui ia o te kīhini kai. Ko te iti o tana whakapau kaha ki te whakarerekē i ngā oranga te mea i kukume mai ai tana hoa ki a ia i te tuatahi.
Akoranga e whakaatu ana ko te kore o te atawhai i roto i te whanaungatanga ka arahi pea ki ngā kare ā-roto o te riri, te mauahara, me te whakahawea. Ki te whakaaro te tangata kei te aro atu tā rātou hoa ki ō rātou hiahia me ngā matea, tera pea ka nui ake tō rātou makona me te whakapau kaha ki te whanaungatanga.
15. Kia noho pai
He tangata hopuhopu te tangata pai i te huarahi pai rawa atu. Ā, koinei tētahi atu hinengaro o ngā tāne e aroha ana. E hiahia ana rātou ki te noho tahi me tētahi e whakamārama ana i ō rātou rā, ahakoa te uaua. Hei whakaatu i te pai i roto i a koe, anei ētahi kupu hei kōrero māu kia aroha ai ia:
- Ngā mihi nui
- Ngā kupu pono e whakaatu ana i tō hiahia ki a ia
- Ngā kupu whakaū he mea nui ia ki a koe
- Te whakamahara i a ia i ngā wā katoa e aroha ana koe ki a ia
Tumuaki Hinengaro Nandita Rambhia (MSc, Psychology), he tohunga ki te CBT, REBT, me te tohutohu mō ngā tāne me ngā wāhine, e kī ana, "Ko te whakaatu i te aroha, te u tonu, te manawanui, me te whakamihi ka whai hua ki te whakapakari i te whanaungatanga, nā te mea ka hua ake ēnei i te pai ake o te whakawhitiwhiti kōrero me te tirohanga pai ake i roto i te wā."
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16. Kia manawanui
Mā te manawanui ka nui ake tō hiahia ina whai hononga aroha koe ki te tāne o ō moemoeā. Kāore he mea hei peia tere atu i te tāne i te wahine pukuriri, manawanui kore. Ko te manawanui me ako koe me pēhea te whakahaere i ō kare ā-rotoKāore he pai o te tauhohenga kare ā-roto ki ngā āhuatanga mō tō kōrua whanaungatanga.
Tautoko Ngā Waka Neerama (he tohunga CBT me te NLP whaimana), "He wāhanga nui ngā kare ā-roto o tō tuakiri, engari ka taea e rātou te pōrearea, te uaua, me te tino pōhēhē i ētahi wā. I roto i ngā whanaungatanga whaiaro o te tangata ka pāngia e te whānuitanga o ngā kare ā-roto, mai i ngā kare ā-roto ngawari o te ngākau māhaki, te riri, me te manukanuka ki te wheako hohonu o te aroha, te riri, me te ngakaukore." Ka puta mai ngā kare ā-roto pēnei i te riri hei riri, hei pouri rānei ki tō hoa. Ka aukati i a koe ki te manawanui ki te whakatau i ngā āhuatanga o roto i te whanaungatanga.
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17. Kaua e mutu te miharo i a ia
He ngāwari noa iho te whakaaro kua oti kē te whanaungatanga te whakarite. Engari tirohia te nui o te aroha e puāwai ana ina mau tonu koe ki te miharo i a ia. Kaua e tatari kia tae ki tētahi hui motuhake ki te mahi i tēnā. Engari,
- Kawea tō hoa tāne ki ngā rā kāore i te tumanakohia
- Hokona he koha whakaaro nui māna
- Waea mai noa ki te mihi atu, me te maha atu anō hoki
He mea whakamiharo ngā mea pai tetahi o ngā mea tino whakahihiri ki ngā tāneHe rite tonu te whanonga o te tangata ina aroha ia. Ka kitea e ia ō mahi, ā, ka pērā anō hoki ia.
18. Āraia ngā pokanoa o waho
Ko te mea e tino aroha ai te tāne ki te wahine ko te nui o tana karo i ngā pokanoa o waho ki te whanaungatanga. Ae, me whai tautoko kaha koe engari he mea nui anō hoki kia iti te whai wāhi mai o te hunga tuatoru, ahakoa... te noho mokemoke i roto i te whanaungatangaHe tokomaha ngā wāhine ka oma ki ngā hoa piri, ki ngā hoa ōrite, ki te whānau rānei ki te amuamu mō ō rātou whanaungatanga.
E ai ki te kaiwhakaora whānau me te kaitohutohu whanaungatanga, Manjari Saboo "Ahakoa he aha tāu e mahi ai, kaua e tukua kia horahia ō kakahu paru ki te aroaro o te marea. Ko te tāne e arohaina ana e koe, me te tangata e rapua ana e koe tōna aroha, ko ia te tangata hei tautoko i a koe mō ngā mea katoa e pā ana ki tō whanaungatanga - ahakoa kei te haere tonu, kei te haere tonu rānei." Āta karohia hoki te kōrero pakiwaitara mō tō tāne ki ētahi atu wāhine, ki ngā tāne rānei.
19. Whakapaua he wā kounga tahi, ā, kia pai ai te pō whakatā
Waihangahia he wā hei noho tahi. Ae, he pukumahi tā tātou noho. Engari kia mahara hoki ka whai wā tātou mō ngā mea nui. Kāore e hiahiatia kia nui. Ahakoa he 20 meneti ia rā hei kōrero tahi, he mea pai tonu. He tino tikanga tēnā mō te whanaungatanga roa. Ā, kei reira anō hoki ngā whakaaro whakamīharo mō te pō whakaipoipo, nō reira kia auaha.
Kāore e taea e koe te akiaki i taku hoa ki te whakapau kaha ki tetahi mea i ngā Rāhoroi tuatahi me ngā Rāhoroi whakamutunga o ia marama. Ko tā rāua pō whakatau tēnā, ā, ki te kore he āhuatanga ohorere, kāore he mea e whakararuraru i tēnā. Me atawhai ngā whanaungatanga tangata, ā, ko te whakapau kaha te huarahi pai ki te whakatutuki i tēnā.
Tautoko Ridhi Korekāha (Masters in Psychology) e whakamārama ana i te kukume kare ā-roto hei kare hōhonu o te hononga ki te hinengaro, ki te āhua o te tangata, ki tōna tuakiri rānei. "Kāore he pānga ki ō kare ā-roto mō ngā āhuatanga tinana, ki tōna āhua rānei. Nō reira, ina kitea e koe he tangata e ātaahua ana ki te kare ā-roto, e kore e rite ki te pupuhi nui, ki te pūrerehua rānei i roto i te puku e pā ana ki te aroha. Ko te kare ā-roto ia o te whai hononga hōhonu ake, tata atu hoki ki tētahi," tana whakamārama.
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20. Kia tupato koe
Ko te tohutohu whakamutunga ka taea e au te hoatu hei ārahi i te aroha o tētahi tāne ki a koe, ko te aro nui ki a koe anō. He huarahi nui te tiaki i a koe anō hei kukume i tētahi tāne. Kaua e tinihanga i a koe anō ki te whakaaro kāore he mea nui te kukume tinana i roto i tētahi whanaungatanga roa. Ka tiaki te wahine atamai i tōna hauora me tōna ataahua tinana, ā, ka whakaatu tonu i te putanga pai rawa atu o ia anō. Ko te āhua pai tētahi o ngā mea nui. ngā āhuatanga ā-tinana e tino kukume ana i ngā tāne.
Ko tāku tumanako ka kite koe he mea taea te kukume i te aroha o tētahi tāne ki a koe. Mā ngā tohutohu kua tohaina e au ka whakanui ake i tō hiahia, ā, ka āwhina i a koe ki te hanga hononga kare ā-roto ki tō hoa, ki tētahi hiahia aroha rānei. Tukua ahau kia kōrero anō i tētahi kōrero: he mea hanga noa ngā tāne. Mā ngā mea ngāwari e mahi ai koe ka mau tonu tōna aroha ki a koe. Waihoki, ko ngā mea hei kōrero hei kukume i a ia ko ngā kupu whakaū, te kī atu ki a ia tōna hiranga, me ngā kupu whakamihi. Whakamātauria ēnei tinihanga ngāwari, ā, ka kite koe i te puāwaitanga o tō oranga aroha.
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Kei roto i te hinengaro me te hinengaro te whakautu ki tēnei pātai, me pēhea te whakapouri i te tāne. Ka tino aroha te tāne ki tētahi wahine e mea ana kia motuhake ia, kia whakanuia, kia manaakitia, kia maioha hoki, mā roto i āna kupu me āna mahi.
He māmā noa iho te hinengaro o ngā tāne e aroha ana. Ki te mea ko koe te mea nui mā te tāne, ki te whakaute i ō whakaaro, ki te whakanui i ō kare ā-roto me ō kare ā-roto, kei reira tonu ia hei tautoko i a koe, ā, ko ia te hunga tautoko nui rawa atu i ngā wā pai, i ngā wā kino, ka taea e koe te tino mohio kei te aroha nui ia ki a koe.
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