Te Pūkenga Toa i roto i ngā Tāne: 15 Ngā Huarahi hei Whakaoho, me ngā Tauira

Ko te āhua toa o ngā tāne e hopu ana i tō rātou hiahia koiora kia rongo i te hiahia o tā rātou hoa. E pai ana ki a rātou te ahua e hiahiatia ana rātou e te wahine tika. He rite tēnei ki te moemoeā o te toa-i-roto-i-te-pakaru, i reira ka whakaora te tangata i te rā ko ia anake, ā, ka whakaaro he mea nui rātou ki tā rātou hoa.

Kua whakaritea te tāne ki te whāngai i tana hoa rangatira; ka whiwhi ia i te tikanga me te whakatutukitanga mā te tiaki i tana hoa rangatira. E whakaaro ana te tāne kei te whai wāhi ia ki te oranga o tana hoa rangatira, ā, he mahi nui tāna e whai wāhi ana ki roto. Nō reira, ka taea e tātou te whakarāpopoto i tēnei āhua o te tāne hei hiahia ki te āwhina i tana hoa rangatira me te tiaki i a ia i te kino.

Kāore tēnei e pā ana ki ngā mahi whakahirahira. Ko tētahi o ngā tauira māmā o te wairua toa ko te whakatuwhera i tētahi ipu pīkara kikī mō tā rātou hoa. Ko te karere matua ko "Tukua ahau kia mahi i tēnei māu." Ki te kitea e te tāne tētahi huarahi hauora hei whakatutuki i tēnei wairua, ka kite ia i te ngākau māhaki me te harikoa i roto i te whanaungatanga. Ā, koinā tonu tā mātou whāinga i tēnei rā, kia hoatu ki a koe ngā waehere tinihanga hei whakaoho i tēnei wairua i roto i tō tāne kia taea ai e koe te mātakitaki i te whakarerekētanga o tō hononga.

He aha te Āhua o te Toa?

He aha i kī tonu ai ā tātou kiriata i tētahi tangata e ngana ana ki te whakaora i tētahi taupori mai i ngā manene, tētahi atu tangata e hinga ana i tētahi mea hanga nui, tētahi atu anō e whakangaro ana i ngā tāngata kino katoa o te ao hei whakaora i tētahi tamaiti, tētahi rānei e whakatau ana ki te aro atu ki ngā raruraru ōhanga hei pupuri i tōna whānau kia ora? Ko te wairua toa o ngā tāne e hokona ana ki te hunga whakarongo whānui, ahakoa kāore tēnei wairua i te ira tangata. He wairua taketake ki te tiaki me te manaaki i ngā whanaunga, ki te whakaaro he mea e hiahiatia ana, ki te whakaaro kua hanga e koe he rerekētanga ki tētahi mea i tua atu i a koe anō. Tērā pea he mea pēnei i te noho ki reira mō tētahi hoa, te kata i tētahi kōtiro, te hanga tī rānei mā tētahi.

He pēhea te pānga o te wairua toa o ngā tāne ki tō oranga? Titiro mai, kāore ngā tāne e hiahia kia noho hei Piriniha Ataahua māu, engari e hiahia ana rātou kia noho hei wāhanga tūturu o te whakahaeretanga o tō oranga whānui. Ko tō mana motuhake me tō whakapuakitanga i te nui o tō whakaaro nui ki te tāne i roto i tō oranga — ko te haere i tēnei rārangi angiangi te mea e whai tikanga ai ia, ā, e hanga hononga hohonu ake ai i waenganui i a kōrua. E kīia ana ko te mārama, te mōhio, me te whakatutuki i tēnei wairua mō tō hoa, i ia wā, ka pumau ai te whanaungatanga.

Ka ea te wairua toa o te tāne mēnā he 'āe' ngā whakautu ki ngā pātai e whai ake nei:

• Ka taea e au te tiaki i tēnei tangata?
• Ka taea e au te tiaki i a rātou i te ara e hiahiatia ana e rātou?
• Ka taea e au te āwhina i a rātou i roto i tēnei raruraru?
• Ka taea e au te mea kia pai, kia haumaru hoki ō rātou ngākau?
• He mea nui ahau ki te hunga e arohaina ana e au?

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Nā wai i whakaputa te kupu 'hero instinct'?

Ka taea e tātou te whai i tēnei ia o ngā tāne ki tētahi pukapuka i tapaina ko Tona Mahi Kaha nā James Bauer, he kaiako whanaungatanga, ko tōna tohungatanga kei te whakaora i ngā hononga. Ka tūhuratia e tēnei aratohu whakamataku ngā āhuatanga o te hinengaro tāne i roto i te whanaungatanga. E ai ki a Bauer, e hiahia ana te tāne ki te manaaki me te tiaki i tana hoa rangatira. Ko tēnei āhua toa i roto i ngā tāne he hiahia taketake, koinei te kī ki te whakatuwhera i te pūmanawa o tō whanaungatanga me te mārama ake ki te hinengaro whanaungatanga.

He aha tatou i aroha ai Tona Mahi Kaha me ngā mea katoa e tukuna ana e ana kōwae 17? Ngā ariā o attraction whaiāipo i te nuinga o te wā ka tono mai kia whakarerekē tātou i a tātou anō, tae atu ki tō tātou kāhua, kōrero, reo tinana, me ērā atu. Engari ko te hinengaro o te wairua toa ka tono noa mai kia pānui tātou i ngā tohu me te urupare atu ki aua tohu. E hiahia ana a Bauer kia ako tātou i te toi o te whakawhitiwhiti kōrero hei oranga mō ngā whanaungatanga roa, hauora hoki.

I tēnei rā, ka kōrero tātou mō te whakaoho i tō tāne kia arohaina, kia hiahiatia hoki mā te whakaoho i tōna wairua toa. Mā te whakamahi i ngā mahi a Bauer hei papa whakarewa, kua hangaia e mātou he rautaki ngāwari tekau hei āwhina i a koe ki te whakaoho i tēnei wairua i roto i ngā tāne. Ka miharo koe ki te whai huatanga o aua rautaki. Kāore mātou e whakaroa i a koe; anei te whakaaturanga i haere mai ai koe.

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15 Ngā Tohutohu hei Whakaoho i te Pūmanawa Toa o te Tāne, me ngā Tauira

Ko te tuku i tāu tāne kia 'whakarato' i a koe, ehara i te mea ka mutu tāu mahi ki te tiaki i te whare, ki te horoi hoki i ana kakahu. Ehara hoki te tuku i a ia kia 'tiaki' i a koe i te mea ka noho koe hei patunga. He tino whakaitiiti ēnei tirohanga ina tae mai ki ngā whanaungatanga aroha. E whakapono ana mātou ki te whai i tētahi tirohanga whānui ake ina tae mai ki te whakaputa i tēnei wairua i roto i a ia. Kotahi te whāinga e hiahia ana mātou ki te kōrero mōna, arā, kia whakaaro ia kei te whai wāhi ia ki tō oranga i roto i te huarahi whai tikanga - ā, kua whakatau mātou ki te whakatutuki i tēnā mā te mea kia whakaaro ia he toa pono ia.

Anei ngā huarahi tino pono e 10 hei whakaoho i tēnei kare ā-roto i roto i te tāne kia taea ai e kōrua te whakawhanake i te whanaungatanga kare ā-roto. Tērā pea ka kitea e koe tētahi mea i roto i tā mātou kohinga e pārekareka ana ki a koe. Kaua e whakakorekore tonu i tētahi whakaaro. Whakaarohia rātou nā te mea he whai hua ētahi o ēnei. Ka kōrerohia e mātou ngā mea katoa e hiahia ana koe ki te mōhio mō te take e hiahia ana te nuinga o ngā tāne kia rite ki te toa.

1. Kia whakawhetai ki a ia

Whakaaturia tō whakawhetai ina mahi ia i ngā mea iti māu. Me mōhio ia kāore āna mahi e ngaro ana, e kore rānei e maiohatia. Ahakoa kāore e tika ana te whakawhirinaki ki ngā puna whakamana o waho i ngā wā katoa, ka taea e te whakaae ā-wā mai i tō hoa te āwhina nui i te tangata. Ka piki ake te whakaaro nui o tō hoa ki a ia anō mā roto i ō kupu whakamoemiti. Ka rongo ia he mea nui ia ina mihi koe ki a ia. Haunga te huarahi pai ki te whakaoho i te āhua toa i roto i te tangata, ko te whakawhetai tētahi o ngā mea nui rawa atu. ngā āhuatanga o tētahi whanaungatanga hauoraMe hoatu e mātou ētahi tauira o ngā tuhinga kupu-12 mō te hero instinct:

• Mā te kī atu, "Ngā mihi nui ki a koe mō te tango i te wā ki te tiki i ahau i te mahi!" ka nui te painga.
• Mea atu ki a ia "He pai ki ahau te huarahi i kōrero ai koe ki a Māmā i tēnei rā. Kua pārekareka ahau ki a koe."
• Kia maioha ki tana mahi uaua. Me kī atu, "E tino miharo ana ahau ki ngā mea katoa kua tutuki i a koe. E kite ana ahau i a koe."

2. Tonoa ngā manaakitanga iti

Ki te hiahia koe ki te mōhio me pēhea te whakaoho i te wairua toa i roto i te tāne, kia aro nui ki tēnei. Ehara i te hiahia o te tāne kia hinga koe, engari kia tautoko, kia āwhina i a koe. Tērā pea ka taea e ia te whakawhiti i tō potae, te āwhina rānei i a koe ki te here i te kākahu hei taonga iti hei āwhina i a koe i te roanga o te rā. Tērā pea ka taea e ia te āwhina i te hapa hangarau o tō pona, te āwhina rānei i a koe e horoi ana i te kāpata. Ko ngā mea iti noa iho pēnei ka taea te... whakakaha i to whanaungatanga ma te pekepeke.

He aha te wairua toa o te wahine? E kī ana a Lina, he kaimahi inu pia 41-tau te pakeke, ki ā mātou kaipānui wahine, "Mā te haere mai ki te āwhina i a koe ka whai hua ai tō tāne. Ehara i te mea ka whakawhirinaki koe, ka kore rānei e āwhina. Ina tono tētahi wahine whai mana pērā i a koe ki a ia kia āwhina i a ia, ka harikoa ia ki te āwhina i a ia. He mea whakaharikoa te mahi ki a koe."

3. Tautokohia āna mahi kia rite ia ki tō toa

He mea nui te tautoko, te pou here o te aroha, kia mārama ai koe ki tēnei āhua o te tāne me ngā hiahia o tō rātou kaha tāne. Tautokohia āna mahi, me te whakaatu ki a ia kei te whakapono koe ki a ia. Mā te whakaaro kei te tautoko koe i a ia ka tino whakapiki ake i tōna whakapono ki a ia anō.

He kupu ā-toa hei whakamahi māu hei tuku tonu i te akiaki e hiahiatia ana e ia. "He tika koe mō ngā mea katoa" me "Kei te tino harikoa ahau mō tēnei upoko hou o tō ao" ētahi o ngā mea ka taea e koe te kī atu ki a ia hei whakaatu kei te tautoko tonu koe i a ia. Tukua atu ki a ia ngā mea katoa e hiahiatia ana e koe. ngā kaupapa matua o te tautoko.

4. Tukua ia kia tiaki i a koe

Ko te arotahi a ngā tāne me ngā wāhine o te ao hou ki te whakataurite i te mana motuhake i roto i te whanaungatanga. Engari ehara tēnei i te kī he noho mokemoke koe i mua i ngā raruraru. Ki te mea kei te taumaha koe i te mahi, kei te pōuri rānei, kaua e mataku kei manaakitia koe. Tukua ia kia hanga koe hei wahine harikoa māna, hei hoa wahine rānei māna.

Me āwhina tātou katoa i ētahi wā, ā, mā te tiaki i a koe ka whai hua ia. Ka tupu te whanaungatanga ina whakawhirinaki ngā hoa ki a rātou anō i ngā wā raruraru. A te wā ka uaua te āhua, tukua tō hoa tāne kia noho hei hoa mōu. He tauira pai o te wairua toa, he tuhinga kupu 12 mō tēnei: ​​"Kei te pouri ahau. Tēnā koa, me tiaki e koe aku mahi kāinga?" He mea pono. mā te hoa rangatira koe e āwhina ki te whakatau i te pouri.

• I ētahi wā, ina pāngia koe e te mate, ko te mea iti rawa e taea e ia ko te hanga i tētahi kapu koko
• Ki te ngenge koe i muri i te mahi, tukua ia kia mirimiri i a koe mō ētahi meneti noa iho i te rā.
• Tukua ia kia hoko koha māu i ētahi wā. Kāore e hiahiatia he utu nui. Ka taea e ia te hoko noa i te rama e hiahia ana koe mō tētahi wā, i tētahi poroporo rānei i tino pai ki a koe.

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5. Me pēhea te whakaoho i te wairua toa o te tāne: Tukua ngā mihi pono

Ahakoa te kore whakaaro, i kōrero mai a James Munroe, te Matua Whakaū me te Perehitini o Amerika, he aha te hiranga o ngā kīanga mō te toa. I mea ia, "Mā te iti o te whakapatipati ka tautoko i te tangata i roto i te ngenge nui." Kāore he kore o nga mihi mo nga tane ā, me whakamahi nui koe i ēnei hei whakakatakata i te kanohi o tāu tāne. E hono ana ngā mihi ki te whakaute me te whakamoemiti, ā, ka taea hoki te whakamahi hei whakaatu i te whakawhetai mō tōna aroha ki a koe. Me hiahia koe ki ētahi tauira tuhinga kupu-12 e pā ana ki te wairua toa? A te wā e whai ake nei, ngana ki ēnei:

• "He tino marino, he ātaahua hoki tō whakarongo. Ka meinga te iwi kia noho haumaru."
• "E kore rawa e kore tō āhua e ātaahua ki ahau!"

Ko te whakaaro he whakaute koe tētahi o ngā kaupapa matua o te whakamana i a ia kia whakaaro he mea nui ia. Nō reira, i a koe e noho tahi ana me te hoa, kia noho hei kaiwhakahauhau, hei wāhi haumaru hoki mōna. Kāore rawa e whakaaetia te whakahē me te tawai i te aroaro o te marea. Me whakanui ngā hoa i a rātou anō, kaua e whakaiti tetahi i tetahi.

6. Kaua e aukati i ana mahi tāne

Ahakoa he kino te whakahāwea i ngā tāne, kāore he he o tana hiahia kia rite ki te 'tāne' mena kāore e waiho hei take tāne paitini. Me whakaatu e te katoa ō rātou ira tangata ki tā rātou e pai ai. Mō tāu tāne, tera pea ka uru atu ki ngā mahi tāne noa. Ngā hākinakina, te puni, te hī ika, te inu me ōna hoa, ngā pō tākaro, me ērā atu mea. Mena koinei te oranga o tāu tāne, kia pērā tonu.

Kaua e whakakorekore i ēnei mahi, he mea nui hoki ki te whakaaro o te tangata ki a ia anō. Koinei anō te tikanga o te wairua toa, ahakoa he mea nui te whai hua. Ki te mea ka tutuki tēnei hiahia mā te tāne, he aha te kino?

7. Whakaaturia tō aroha kia rongo ai ia e hiahiatia ana ia

He mea tino nui ngā whakapuakitanga o te aroha hei whakaoho i tēnei āhua i roto i ngā tāne. I ia wā, i ia wā, kia tino whakapuaki i tōna hiranga ki a koe. Kia mārama ki te reo aroha o tō hoa, ā, ngana ki te whakapau i te wā kounga ki a ia. Ka taea tēnei mā te whakaū, te whakapuakitanga, ngā nekehanga aroha onge, ngā momo mahi rerekē. ngā momo whanaungatanga, Me ētahi atu

Mā te whakaū i te karere "Nāku koe, nāu ahau" ka taea te whakakā anō i te mura o te ngākau aroha i roto i ngā whanaungatanga roa, ā, ka meinga te tāne kia aroha nui ki a koe i ia rā, i ia rā. Kia rongo tō hoa rangatira e arohaina ana, e motuhake ana, e atawhaitia ana hoki i tāu ake ara.

• Whakamaherehia he rā noho-ki-te-kāinga māua ko ia, ka tunu kai ai kōrua, ka mātaki kiriata ai, ka hanga waina rānei
• Whakaritea he hararei mutunga wiki, he hararei roa rānei mō te tokorua
• Kimihia te tai i kitea e ia i roto i te toa i mua, kua roa nei ia e rapu ana. He huinga PJ hou rānei. Whakaohokia ia!

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8. Kia hou tonu ngā mea

He tikanga pai te tūpato o ngā tāne me ngā wāhine i roto i ngā whanaungatanga hauora, ahakoa kua tīmata noa te whakaipoipo. Āraia te noho pōturi me te noho noa o ngā mahi o ia rā. Hei ārai i te hoha, whakauruhia he āhuatanga ohorere ki roto i tō hononga. Kia mataara tonu tāu tāne, kia kite me pēhea ia e ara ake ai ki te kaupapa. Kei te matenui tōna toa o roto ki tēnā.

Hei tauira, ka taea e kōrua te tīmata i tētahi mahi whakangahau ahurei, ka whakapau kaha ki te mahi. Ahakoa he whakarite noa i ngā whakamātautau waina i ngā pō Rāhoroi katoa. Kaua e hoha, kaua hoki e tukua ia kia hoha i roto i tēnei whanaungatanga.

9. Ko te mea pai rawa atu māu e hiahia ana ki tāu tāne, nō reira whakarongo ki āna tohutohu

Ko te huarahi māmā ki te whakaatu i tō hoa tāne e hiahiatia ana koe ko te pātai atu ki a ia mō ngā mea e whai tikanga ana ki a koe, kia pai ai tōna whakaaro mōna anō, kia tino āwhina ai hoki. He maha ngā wā ka homai e ō tātou hoa he tirohanga ahurei e rerekē ai tā tātou tirohanga ki ngā mea. He mea nui te rapu tohutohu mai i tētahi me te whakapono ki a rātou. ngā āhuatanga o te whakawhanake i te whakaute i roto i te whanaungatanga.

Ngā tohutohu hei whakaoho i te wairua toa i roto i te tangata e arohaina ana e koe, mā te tuku i a ia kia whai wāhi ki tō oranga:

• Ko tētahi huarahi ko te tuku i a ia ki te whakamārama i ana whakaaro mō te whakatau i tētahi tautohe me tō whaea.
• Tukua ōna whakaaro ki te whakatau i a koe ina pāngia koe e te ahotea mō ō pūtea. He pai ki ngā tāne tēnā.
• Ka maioha ia ki a koe mēnā ka tukuna e koe he wāhi nui ake ki a ia i roto i tō koiora. He mea pai tonu kia whai wāhi ia ki ngā kōwhiringa ka mahia e koe, ahakoa kāore kōrua i te tino mārama i ngā wā katoa.

10. Whakawāteahia he wāhi mō te toa kia mahi ai te wairua toa

He pai ki te katoa te mahi i ngā mahi āwhina mō tā rātou hoa rangatira. Ki ētahi, he reo aroha tēnei e kitea ana i roto i te hoko taonga maha, te aro nui ki a rātou, te mahi tonu rānei i ngā mahi mā tā rātou hoa rangatira. Nō reira, ina whakatuwherahia e tāu tāne te tatau māu, tirohia te manaaki me te whakaaro kei muri i tana mahi. Kaua e whakahawea ki aua mea. tohu whaiāipo ā, kia noho haumaru koe.

Ahakoa he maha ngā mahi iti, ngā mahi whanonga rānei ka taea te whakamahi hei ako i te whakaoho i te wairua toa o te tāne, ka kitea e te tāne tōna uara i roto i te oranga o tana wahine ina kōrerotia ki a ia. Ko te hiahia o ngā tāne ki te manaaki i ō rātou hoa ehara i te mea kia manakohia, kia mōhiotia rānei, engari me maioha. Kia tino whai hua ai te wairua toa, anei ētahi tohutohu hei āwhina i a ia kia whai hua i roto i tō oranga:

• Ahakoa te kukume i tō tūru ki te tēpu, te kawe i tō putea, te āwhina rānei i a koe ki te kakahu i tō koti, kāore ēnei tohu aroha ki a koe e whakaiti i a koe hei wahine kaha. Ka meinga noa ia hei tāne whai mana. Nō reira, tukua ia kia mahi i ēnei mea.
• Tukua ia kia taraiwa i a koe mēnā ka tohe ia; kaua e whakaaro he mea akiaki koe ki te taraiwa i a ia, ki te eke rānei i te tekisi i te wā kāore ia i reira. Ki te hiahia ia ki te tiki i a koe i tētahi wāhi tawhiti, tukua ia i ētahi wā.
• He tokomaha pea ngā painga hinengaro o ngā wāhine e tono ana ki ngā tāne, engari ki te mea ko ia te tangata e hiahia ana ki te mahi, tukua ia kia whakamahere i te tono. Ka maumahara tonu ia ki ō whiringa me ō hiahia.

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11. Mā te tuwhera ki a ia ka puta he merekara

Mena ka puta he mea rerekē i te mahi, ka tūtaki rānei koe ki tētahi hoa tawhito i te huarahi — āe, waea atu ki ō hoa wahine ki te kōrero atu ki a rātou mō taua mea. Engari e hiahia ana hoki te tāne kia noho tahi me tana wahine. Ngāna ki te kōrero ki tō hoa mō ngā mea katoa ka kōrerotia e koe ki ō hoa, ahakoa he kuware rātou. Me whakamārama e mātou mā roto i ētahi tauira karere kuputuhi e whakaatu ana i te wairua toa i raro nei.

Tukua he karere kuputuhi ki a ia mō te whakapōrearea a te wharekai i tāu huamata i ota ai mō te tina, mō tō harikoa rānei mō te kiriata hou ka puta ki te whare pikitia. Whakamātauria rānei tēnei i te wā e whai ake nei: "I kite ahau i te tōnga o te rā tino ataahua i taku hokinga ki te kāinga, kei te marino ahau ahakoa inaianei." Kaua e rāhuitia ēnei ngā kaupapa kōrero hōhonu mō ō hoa rangatira anake — Koinei tā mātou tohutohu mō te mea kia rite ia ki tētahi toa i roto i tō koiora. Kia pono koe ki tō hoa rangatira, ā, mātakitaki i a ia e whakanui ana i a ia i roto i tō koiora.

12. Kia tūpato i te wā pōuri

A, no te tamata ki whakatau i te pakangaKaua e whakahē i ana kōrero katoa ki a koe. Ahakoa kāore koe e whakaae, ngana ki te mārama ki tana taha. Ā, ko te mea nui, whakaaturia ki a ia kei te hiahia koe ki te mahi mō tēnei whanaungatanga, kaua hoki e takahi noa i ō waewae nā te mea kāore ngā mea e pai ana ki a koe. Me whakaatu ki a ia he rōpū kōrua.

Tērā pea kei te riri koe, ā, he tika tēnā, engari me whakapau kaha tonu koe ki te tautoko i a koe anō kia pai ai te whanaungatanga. Ki te whakaaro ia he tino motuhake koe, ā, kāore ia e aro nui ki a koe, tērā pea ka ngaro katoa tōna hiahia nā te mea te āhua nei kāore koe e aro ki a ia.

13. Kia tino mōhiotia ana wikitoria

Ina aroha ia ki a koe, e hiahia ana ia kia pai mōu. Engari ki te wareware koe ki tana ngana ki te tiaho kanapa, ka memeha tōna māramatanga. Hei whakatipu i tētahi whanaungatanga tino whai tikanga, me mahi tahi kōrua ko tō hoa ki te whakapakari i a rāua anō. He maha ngā mea ngā mea ka taea e koe te kōrero hei whakamarie i tō hoa rangatira, kia pai ai tōna wairua, kia harikoa ai hoki.

He kaitoi pakiwaituhi nō Brooklyn a Talia, e kōrero ana mō ōna whanaungatanga o mua, me te āhua o te kitea o tēnei āhua i roto i te tini o ngā tāne, "Ki te angitu ia i tētahi whakaaturanga i te mahi, kia tino kōrerohia i te tina. Ki te mea i whakaritea e ia tētahi hui huritau nui mō tōna tuahine, me whakamōhio atu ki a ia te mīharo o taua hui. Ko te whakaatu i te hiahia ki āna wikitoria he huarahi ngāwari ki te whakamīharo i a ia. Ko te hiahia noa kia mōhiotia ia e koe!"

14. Whakangawari atu ki a ia kia rite ia ki tētahi toa

He tuhinga kupu 12-kupu whakahirahira tā mātou māu: "Me pā mai ō ringaringa ki tōku kiri. He aha koe i tawhiti ai?" Whakaarohia te pānga o tēnā ki tōna whakapono ki a ia anō! Ehara i te mea ko te tākaro kēmu, ko te mea rānei kia mōhiotia tō tāne e hiahiatia ana. te tākaro uaua ki te tiki kia taea ai e ia te whai i a koe. Ko te mea nui ko te whakatoi i a ia i ia wā, i ia wā, engari me te whakamanawa atu kei a ia tonu koe.

Tukuna atu ētahi karere kuputuhi whakarihariha ki a ia i te awatea, engari kaua e waiho kia haurangi, kia maroke. Kawea ia ki waho i taua ahiahi kia mōhio ai ia he motuhake ia, kia pai ai hoki te wā ki a ia kia rongo ai ia he mea nui koe ki a ia.

15. Kaua e piri rawa

Ahakoa i kī mātou me hoatu e koe ki a ia ngā kōrero maha mō tō rā, me ngana koe ki te whakatakoto i te rohe mō te wā ka taea ai e ia te taumaha rawa atu. E hiahia ana ia kia noho hei hoa mōu, engari kāore e taea e ia te mahi i ngā mea katoa māu. Me noho motuhake koe i waho atu i a ia. Ehara tēnei ariā i te mea mō te wahine e whakawhirinaki ana ki tētahi tāne. He rite tonu te āhua.

Kaua e waea nui atu ki a ia ina haere ia me ngā tama, kaua hoki e riri ki a ia mō te kore whakautu mai i ana karere i a ia e mahi ana, me te whakapae kei te noho tahi kōrua me tētahi atu wahine. Whakapono mai kei roto kōrua i tētahi hononga aroha, pumau, ā, kia mau tō kōrua marino.

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Ka whakapai ake rānei te āhua o te toa i te whanaungatanga?

Āe, tino pono. E mōhio ana tātou inaianei me pēhea te whakaputa i te pūmanawa o tēnei wairua, engari e hia te tawhiti e taea ai e ia te whakapai ake i tō whanaungatanga whānui? He aha te painga o te wairua toa? Me titiro poto tātou.

• He ariā pai tēnei e aro nui ana ki ngā matea kare ā-roto o ngā hoa tāne i roto i ngā whanaungatanga.
• Mā tēnei ka mōhio ngā wāhine ki ngā mea ka taea e rātou te mahi hei kawe mai i te ngākau māhaki me te harikoa ki te oranga o ā rātou tāne, ahakoa i te tirohanga tuatahi he rite ki ngā wā tawhito, ki ngā huarahi rānei hei whakamātau i te whakapehapeha o te tāne.
• Ka tupu te hononga ina taea e ngā tāngata e rua te hoatu i ngā mea e hiahiatia ana e tētahi, ki te kore ka noho hei hononga taha kotahi noa iho.
• Te whakaoho i tēnei āhua o te tangata whakapai ake i te whakawhitiwhiti korero ngā tikanga me te whakaaro nui i waenga i ngā hoa. Ka hanga hoki i te whakawhirinaki, te tautoko, me te whakaute tetahi ki tetahi mā te haere tonu
• Ka ako te wahine ki te maioha me te whakanui i tana hoa, i a ia e mihi ana ki ana mahi me tana whakaaro. Ahakoa te 50% o te hinengaro toa e whakaurua ana ki roto, ka whai hua ki tō hononga kare ā-roto.

Ō mātou whakaaro whakamutunga: Kua ngaro ngā rā i ako ai ngā tāne anake ki te te kukume i ngā hoa wahine ā, i mahi nui ki te 'pupuri i a rātou kia harikoa' mō te oranga harikoa. I ēnei rā, he rite tonu te kaha o ngā wāhine ki te kawe mai i te harikoa ki ā rātou hoa. Akohia me pēhea te whakatutuki i te wairua toa o ngā tāne, ā, ka puta mai i a koe te āhua pai rawa atu o tō tāne. Kōrero mai ki a mātou ō whakaaro mō tā mātou hikoi ki tēnei huarahi hou — e pai ana mātou ki te whakarongo ki ō kōrero!

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