Me i pātai atu mātou ki a koe he aha te mea i pupuri i a koe kia noho pūmau, kia tau hoki i roto i ngā tau, e rua rānei kua pahure ake nei, ko te nuinga o koutou ka mea pea i kitea e koe ō koutou kaha nui i roto i ngā whanaungatanga tata kei a koutou. Ko ō tātou whanaungatanga ki ō tātou hoa, ki ō tātou whānau me ō tātou hoa rangatira te take o ētahi wā harikoa kua tahaetia kua kore e maha i tēnei mate urutā.
Ahakoa ngā whanaungatanga pai rawa atu ka pakaru, ka whakaroa, ā, me āwhina pea i ētahi wā. Ahakoa kāore he he o tēnā, he wāhi tonu hei whakapakari i tō whanaungatanga. Ā, he aha te huarahi pai ake hei rapu huarahi hou hei whakapai ake i ō hononga tino piripono i te whakamahi i ngā tohutohu kei roto i ngā whārangi o ētahi o ngā pukapuka whanaungatanga pai rawa atu!
Ā, i te mea he hunga aroha mātou ki ngā whanaungatanga, i rapu mātou i Bonobology i ā mātou pukapuka aroha ki te pukapuka hei kawe mai i ētahi o ngā pukapuka whanaungatanga pai rawa atu hei pānui māu. Mā ēnei ka āwhina i ō whanaungatanga kia neke ake i te 'pai' ki te 'pai ake'.
21 o ngā pukapuka whanaungatanga pai rawa atu hei pānui
Ripanga o Ihirangi
Mā ēnei pukapuka whanaungatanga pai rawa atu e 21 koe e āwhina ki te whakatere i roto i ngā whanaungatanga hou kua tīmatahia e koe, ā, ka tukuna atu hoki he māramatanga hou mō ō whanaungatanga pumau. Ki taku whakaaro ko ēnei ngā pukapuka whanaungatanga pai rawa atu nā te mea e toru ngā āhuatanga noa e tukuna ana:
- He maarama ki te raruraru hononga kua tūtaki koe ki
- He whakamārama me te ruku hohonu ki a koe mō te aha, te wāhi rānei i hē ai
- He otinga whakaora hei ārahi i a koe i roto i tō haerenga pumau
Ehara i te mea ko te hunga anake e pāngia ana e ngā raruraru whanaungatanga, e ngā whanaungatanga aroha rānei ēnei pukapuka. Mā te pānui i ēnei pukapuka ka āwhina pea ki te whakapakari i tētahi whanaungatanga hauora, me ngā whakahoahoa anō hoki.
1. Te Whiwhi i te Aroha e Hiahiatia ana e Koe Nā Harville Hendrix
Mena kei te noho pūmau kōrua ko tō hoa rangatira ki te whakaaro me pēhea kōrua noho tahi, me pēhea hoki te tauhohe tetahi ki tetahi, māu tēnei pukapuka rongonui mō ngā aratohu whanaungatanga. Neke atu i te 30 tau te wheako o ngā kaiwhakaako me ngā kaiwhakaora whanaungatanga a Tākuta Harville Hendrix rāua ko Tākuta Helen Lakely Hunt ki te ārahi i ngā tāne me ngā wāhine me te tuhituhi mō ngā whanaungatanga, ā, e kitea ana!
Ka rukuhia e tēnei pukapuka ngā āhuatanga e pā kino ana ki ngā whanaungatanga, ka whakamāramahia te hinengaro o te aroha, ā, ka whakamāramahia hoki me pēhea te tirotiro me te whakatau i ngā āhuatanga aroha uaua i roto i ā tātou ake huarahi ahurei, kaua e noho pōuri noa ki ngā mea e tika ana kia pērā.
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Ahakoa me pānui e koe tēnei pukapuka mēnā kei te raru tō kōrua whanaungatanga, ehara i te mea ko ngā whanaungatanga pōrearea anake te kaupapa o tēnei pukapuka. Ko tētahi hoki tēnei o ngā pukapuka pai hei pānui hei mārama ki ngā pūtake o tētahi whanaungatanga pai, ā, ka āwhina i a kōrua ko tō hoa ki te mārama ake ki tō kōrua whanaungatanga. E tino taunaki ana mātou i tēnei pukapuka hei tētahi o ngā pukapuka tohutohu whanaungatanga pai rawa atu hei pānui ngātahi mā ngā tokorua katoa kia pai ake ai te hono atu tetahi ki tetahi.
2. Āpitihia: Te Pūtaiao Hou o te Piritanga Pakeke me te Āwhina i a Koe ki te Kimi—me te Pupuri—i te Aroha Nā Amir Levine & Rachel SF Heller
Kua rongo katoa tātou i te kōrero mō te piripono. Engari i mōhio koe he rerekē ngā momo momo piripono, ā, he pānga ēnei ki te āhua o tō aroha ki tētahi? E whakamārama ana tēnei pukapuka i te take i waenga i te piripono manawa pā, te piripono karo, te piripono kore whakaritenga, me te piripono haumaru, kātahi ka ruku hohonu ki te pānga o ia o ēnei ki ō tātou whanonga i roto i ngā whanaungatanga aroha me te whanaungatanga aroha. Arā, ka aro atu ki te pātai mō... te pānga o tō momo piri ki ngā whanaungatanga.
He pukapuka pai tēnei mō ngā whanaungatanga e whakamārama ana i ngā āwangawanga maha e pā ana ki ngā whanaungatanga, ahakoa he whanaungatanga aroha, he whanaungatanga kē atu rānei. Mena kua noho mokemoke koe i roto i ō āwangawanga, ki te hiahia koe ki te hanga whanaungatanga pai ake, whai tikanga ake, ki te hiahia noa rānei koe ki te hinengaro o te aroha, māu tēnei pukapuka.
I te mea he tirohanga ki ngā mahi o roto o tō hinengaro, me te whakaatu hoki i ngā pūtake o ō tauira i roto i ngā hononga aroha, ko tētahi o ngā pukapuka whanaungatanga pai rawa atu mā te hunga takakau me te hunga i roto i ngā whanaungatanga.
3. Ngā Mea Katoa mō te Aroha Nā Bell Hooks
Ki te rapu pukapuka whanaungatanga pai rawa atu i roto i tā rātou rārangi pukapuka, kāore e taea te wareware ki tēnei. Nā te mea kāore he tangata e tuhituhi ana mō te aroha pērā i te pou whakaipoipo wahine a Bell Hooks. Mai i ngā akoranga aroha i akohia e tātou i a tātou e tamariki ana, ki ngā whakaaturanga ahurea o te aroha, ki ngā kōrero whaiaro hohonu, ka kawea mai e tēnei pukapuka he tikanga hou ki te huarahi e mārama ai tātou ki te aroha.
He uaua ki te kī he pukapuka whanaungatanga tēnei nā te mea he nui atu ngā mea kei roto. Ka kōrero a Hooks mō te hononga o tō tātou oranga aroha ki a aroha-whaiaro, me te hiranga o te wetewete i ngā akoranga tawhito i a tātou e ako ana i ngā akoranga hou. Mena kei te ngana koe ki te whakawhānui i te toi me te mahi o te aroha ki te tangata, me koe anō, koinei te pukapuka pai rawa atu māu.
4. Puritia Ahau kia Mau: Ngā Kōrerorero e Whitu mō te Aroha mō te Ao Katoa Nā Sue Johnson
Ko wai o tātou kāore e pāngia e ngā raruraru whanaungatanga, tika? Ā, he maha ngā wā ka uaua te whai kōrero tuwhera, whakaora hoki ki ō tātou hoa me ō tātou whanaunga nā tēnei raruraru. Kaua e manukanuka, ka tae mai a Tākuta Sue Johnson hei awhina i a koe. Kei roto i tēnei pukapuka te ariā o te Whakaora Hinengaro, i whakaurua mai e Tākuta Johnson.
I roto i tēnei pukapuka, ka whakahokia tātou e ia ki ngā wā kāore i te harikoa o ngā whanaungatanga, ā, ka meinga tātou kia mātaki i aua wā mā roto i ngā tirohanga hou mā te pātai i ēnei pātai whakaora e whitu, kia pai ake ai tō tātou tirohanga ki tō tātou whanaungatanga, me te pēhea me te wāhi e hē ai tātou.
Ki te mea kei a koe ngā kare ā-roto kāore anō kia whakatauhia, ā, kei te whakararu i te whanaungatanga, tangohia tēnei pukapuka whanaungatanga pai rawa atu. Nā te mea, ka tīmata ngā otinga katoa i tētahi kōrero tuwhera, pono hoki. E tino taunaki ana mātou i tēnei hei tētahi o ngā pukapuka whanaungatanga pai rawa atu mā ngā tāne, nā te mea kua akohia rātou kia pakari mai i tō rātou tamarikitanga, he maha ngā wā kāore rātou e ako ki te whakarongo ki ō rātou kare ā-roto. Nā tēnā ka noho tawhiti, ka noho wehe hoki rātou i roto i ā rātou whanaungatanga pakeke.
5. Ngā Mātāpono e Whitu hei Whakapūmau i te Marenatanga Nā John Gottman
E mōhiotia ana a Tākuta John M. Gottman ko ia te tohunga whanaungatanga matua o Amerika, ā, e kitea ana āna rangahau hei te tihi o ngā aratohu mō te whakatika me te pupuri i te marena.
Ki te mea kua hoha koe ki ngā pukapuka whanaungatanga kāore i te mārama, he maha rawa rānei ngā kōrero whakahihiri, koinei te pukapuka māu. Ka homai e Gottman ngā rautaki pūtaiao me ngā rauemi mārama mō ngā mea e whai hua ana i roto i te marena me ngā mea ka pakaru ai. Hei whakamutunga, kei te kaipānui te whakatau ko tēhea ara me whai e rātou.
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E whakaaro ana ngā tohunga mātauranga ko tēnei tetahi o ngā pukapuka whanaungatanga pai rawa atu mā te hunga e tīmata ana ki te whakarite hononga, me te hunga kua whakarite kē i a rātou anō, e titiro whakamua ana ki tētahi ao rangimārie, whai hua hoki.
6. Ngā Reo Aroha e 5: Te Mea Ngaro ki te Aroha e Pumau Ana Nā Gary Chapman
Nō reira, e pai ana koe ki te kawe mai i tō tiakarete me ngā putiputi, ā, kāore ia e whakahoki mai i te tohu. Heoi, he tino pai ia ki te tuku i te maha o ngā awhi me ngā kihi. Te āhua nei he rerekē ō reo aroha. Ehara i te mea ngaro he ahurei te aroha, ā, he rerekē ngā huarahi e rongo ai, e hoatu ai, e whiwhi ai te katoa i te aroha.
Engari he uaua i roto i te whanaungatanga ina kore e rite te whakapuakitanga o tō aroha. Ko te pukapuka rongonui a Gary Chapman mō ngā reo aroha e tautoko ana, e awhi ana i tēnei ahurei, ā, e whakamārama ana me pēhea te whakakotahi i ēnei momo aroha. Nō reira, ki te mea kei te pāngia koe e ngā raruraru whakawhitiwhiti kōrero i roto i te whanaungatanga, anei ētahi āwhina.
He pai tēnei pukapuka whanaungatanga mō te hunga e ngana ana ki te mārama ki ngā take e raru ai ō koutou whanaungatanga. E whakaae ana koutou kei te aroha koutou tetahi ki tetahi, engari kāore e pai. Pānuihia tēnei pukapuka ngātahi, ā, tera pea ka pai ake te whakarongo tetahi ki tetahi.
7. Ngā Tauira: Te Whakatenatena i ngā Wahine Mā te Pono Nā Mark Manson
He tāpiri pai anō tēnei ki te kohinga o ngā pukapuka whanaungatanga pai rawa atu mā ngā tāne. E ngā rangatira, hikitia ake ō koutou tōkena ka kakahuria ō koutou mōhiti pānui. E mōhiotia ana a Mark Manson mō tōna pono, he pono whakahauora, ā, kāore tēnei pukapuka i rerekē. Ko tāna whakaaro, ehara te whakawai i te mea mō te miharo, engari mō te hono atu. Arā, me mau mai tō pūkenga pai ina takaro koe, engari kia pono, kia mātau hoki.
I roto i te wāhanga o te 'pukapuka whanaungatanga pai rawa atu,' he tino rongonui tēnei pukapuka, nā te mea e tohutohu ana kia iti ake te aroha ki a koe. te koretake o te hinengaro i mua i te ngana ki te tiki i tāu hoa wahine. Ko te nuinga o te pukapuka e aro ana ki ngā tāne e hiahia ana ki te whakaipoipo i ngā wāhine, engari ki tā mātou whakaaro ko te pakeketanga o ngā kare ā-roto me te hononga pono he mea ka taea e tātou katoa te whakamahi i roto i ō tātou oranga aroha.
Nō reira, ki te mea kei te tīmata koe ki te kēmu, ā, kāore koe i te tino mōhio ki ngā ture, tikina tēnei pukapuka hei āwhina i a koe ki te puta atu i roto i tōu ake hinengaro, ki roto hoki i te ngākau o tētahi atu.
8. Ngāwari noa: Te Mahi Hinengaro, Ngā Wahine, Me Te Huarahi Whakamua Nā Gemma Hartley
Ae, e mōhio ana mātou kāore tēnei i te rite ki tētahi pukapuka whanaungatanga. Engari kia pono tātou: Ko ngā whanaungatanga pai rawa atu, ko ngā whare tino ma, ko ngā tari tino whai hua, he nui ngā mahi kare ā-roto e hiahiatia ana, ā, ko te nuinga o aua mea ka riro i ngā wāhine. Ā, kāore tēnā e hanga i tētahi hononga ōrite, ahakoa he aha tō whanaungatanga. Whakauruhia tēnei ki roto i ngā pukapuka mō te aroha me ngā whanaungatanga me pānui e koe. tautuhi anō i ngā tūranga ira tangata i roto i tō whārite, ā, kia ōrite te whai hua o tō kōrua hononga.
Ki te kore koe e tino mōhio he aha te mahi mamae o te ngākau, anei tētahi rārangi o te pukapuka e tino paingia ana e mātou:
'Mō ia mahi e puta ai he hua e kitea ana, he maha ngā
ngā hikoinga hinengaro i muri iho kāore e kitea. E kitea nuitia ana aua hikoinga,
i whaia, ā, i whakamatea e ngā wāhine.
He tirohanga poto tēnei pukapuka nā te kairīpoata a Gemma Hartley ki tēnei take whānui me ngā taumahatanga kare ā-roto e mau ana i ngā wāhine, i roto i ō rātou oranga tūmatanui me ō rātou oranga tūmataiti. Ahakoa he nui te pānga o te mahi kare ā-roto ki ngā wāhine, ehara i te mea he 'take wāhine' noa iho. Mena kei te rapu koe kia noho hei hoa pai ake, hei hoa, hei tirotiro rānei i te pānga o te mahi kare ā-roto ki ngā whanaungatanga, ka tūtohu mātou kia pānuihia e koe tēnei pukapuka.
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9. Te Hoahoa Nui: Me Pēhea Tātou e Noho Tata ai tetahi ki tetahi Nā Aminatou Sow & Ann Friedman
He nui ā tātou kōrero mō te aroha hei taumata teitei rawa atu o te arawhata whanaungatanga. Engari, me pēhea te whakahoahoa? Mehemea ko te whakahoahoa te whanaungatanga tino nui? Koinei te kaupapa matua o te Hoahoa Nui: Me pēhea te pupuri i te whanaungatanga tata.
Ka tuhia e Aminatou Sow rāua ko Ann Friedman tō rāua hoahoa tekau tau te roa me te whakakatakata me te ngākau aroha, ka kōrero mō te mahi tahi, me pēhea tā rāua whakatere i te iwi i roto i tō rāua hoahoa iwi-maha, te mahi tahi me tētahi hoa piripono, me te maha atu anō.
Ki te mea he tangata koe e whakanui ana i te whanaungatanga ki runga ake i ngā mea katoa, ā, ki tō whakaaro kāore e nui te mihi ki a koe, tikina tēnei pukapuka, tētahi o ngā pukapuka whanaungatanga pai rawa atu. He tohu tēnei tuhinga pai kāore ngā pukapuka whanaungatanga pai rawa atu e aro ki ngā kaupapa o te aroha aroha. Ka tukuna he tirohanga hou mō te hiranga o ētahi atu whārite i roto i ō tātou oranga, ā, he mea whakahauora tēnā.
10. Me pēhea te hinga ki te aroha ki tētahi: He whakamaharatanga i roto i ngā tuhinga nā Mandy Len Catron
E whakamahi ana te pukapuka whakamaharatanga a Mandy Len Catron i te hītori, te koiora, te ariā tuhituhi me te pūtaiao hei tirohanga tata atu ki te aroha. He kōrerorero piripono tēnei me te kaituhi mō te āhua o te aroha e taea ai te tuku tirohanga whakamuri mō te tikanga o te aroha ki a koe anō, ki ētahi atu rānei, kia arohaina, me te āhua o tā tātou whakaatu i tēnei aroha ki te ao.
Ka pātai, ka whakautu hoki i ngā pātai mō he aha te mea e mau ai te aroha me ngā whanaungatangaE mōhiotia ana a Len Catron mō tētahi tuhinga rongonui i tuhia e ia mō te pou Modern Love o The New York Times mō tētahi whakamātautau i whakahaerehia e ia – te hanga whanaungatanga i waenga i ngā tāngata tauhou mā te whakamahi i tētahi raupapa pātai e 36. He maha ngā huarahi, he whakawhānui tēnei pukapuka i te pou i tuhia e ia.
Koinei tētahi o ngā pukapuka whanaungatanga pai rawa atu nā te mea e whakautua ana ngā pātai whaiaro mō te tikanga o te aroha, me pēhea hoki te pupuri i taua aroha mō te wā roa.
11. Te Enneagram i roto i te Aroha Nā Stephanie Barron Hall
Mā tēnei pukapuka whanaungatanga pai rawa atu hei aratohu māu, ka taea e koe te ako mō te tūhuratanga whaiaro, me te aroha me tōna tikanga. Ka whakamahia e tēnei pukapuka he pūnaha tuakiri e ahu mai ana i te hihiri hei āwhina i a koe ki te hanga hononga aroha, whai tikanga hoki.
Ko te Enneagram in Love e aro ana ki ngā whanaungatanga aroha, engari he mea hanga māu mēnā kei te rapu āwhina koe i a koe anō, me te whakapai ake i tō whanaungatanga ki ētahi atu, ahakoa he hoa aroha, he hoa, he tangata kē atu rānei. Ko te mea pai rawa atu, ehara i te mea mā ngā tāne me ngā wāhine anake.
Koinei tētahi o ngā pukapuka whanaungatanga pai rawa atu mā te hunga takakau e rapu huarahi ana ki te whakatipu hononga whai tikanga ki ngā hoa rangatira pea, tae atu ki te hunga e hiahia ana ki te whakapai ake i te oranga me te whai hua o ngā whanaungatanga rerekē.
12. Me pēhea te noho hei pakeke i roto i ngā whanaungatanga: Ngā kī e rima ki te aroha me te aro nui Nā David Richo
"E whakaaro ana te nuinga o te tangata he kare ā-roto te aroha," te kī a David Richo, "engari ehara te aroha i te kare ā-roto engari he huarahi noho." I roto i tēnei pukapuka whanaungatanga pai rawa atu, ka homai e Richo he tirohanga hou ki a tātou mō te aroha me te āhua o te hanganga o ngā whanaungatanga, me te homai hoki i te tikanga ki tō tātou ao.
I runga i te ariā Buddhist o te aroātahi, e rima ngā karakia nui o tēnei pukapuka hei āwhina i te angitu o te whanaungatanga. He pai tēnei pukapuka mō te hunga e hiahia ana ki te whakapakari i te whanaungatanga, ki te hunga rānei e raru ana ki te whanaungatanga, ā, e hiahia ana kia mau te rangimārie o te whanaungatanga.
Tērā pea tētahi o ngā pukapuka whanaungatanga pai rawa atu tēnei mā ngā tāne e hiahia ana ki te whakapau kaha ki te mutu te noho hei tamaiti tāne i roto i tā rātou whanaungatanga.
13. Te Māia Nui: Me pēhea te whakarerekētanga o te māia ki te noho ngoikore i te āhua o tō tātou noho, te aroha, te mātua, me te ārahi nā Brené Brown
He wā kei roto i tō tātou whanaungatanga ka rongo tātou katoa i te ngoikore, ā, he maha ngā wā ka akona tātou ko te ngoikore he tohu o te ngoikore. He rongonui mō tana Ted Talk, Te Mana o te Whakaraerae, ka hurihia e Brown te kōrero i konei, ka kōrero mō te ngoikore i roto i te aroha he mahi toa.
E whakanui ana te pukapuka he pai te noho ngoikore me te wehi kei whara, ā, te whakahē i roto i tētahi whanaungatangaKoinei tētahi o ngā take matua e kore ai e oti tēnei kohinga o ngā pukapuka whanaungatanga pai rawa atu me te kore Maia NuiHe akoranga onge tā te pukapuka nei mō te kaua e wehi, e pana atu rānei i ō kare ā-roto, engari me whakaae ki aua kare ā-roto.
Ko te mea e pai ai tēnei pukapuka whanaungatanga, he mea whakaako i ngā kaipānui me pēhea te noho ngoikore me te kaha. Kei te ngoikore ngātahi te mana ki te hanga hononga kaha, whai tikanga, ā, he pukapuka pai te pukapuka a Brown mō tēnei.
14. Te Aroha me te Toa Nā Alexandra H. Solomon
Mena kua pātai koe ki a koe anō mēnā kei roto koe i tētahi whanaungatanga, he pukapuka pai tēnei māu. Ka āwhina tēnei pukapuka i a koe i tō haerenga ki te kimi i a koe anō, ā, ka whakaratohia hoki he rārangi arowhai o ngā āhuatanga e tohu ana i tō rite ki te noho hei hoa piripono.
Mā tēnei pukapuka āwhina-whaiaro koe e ārahi ki te tiaki i a koe anō kia pai ai tō whanaungatanga. Me kī atu ko tēnei tetahi o ngā pukapuka tohutohu whanaungatanga pai rawa atu mēnā kei te hiahia koe ki te mōhio ki te toi o te aroha ki a koe anō, nā te mea kāore e taea e koe te ringihia mai i tētahi kapu kau.
He mea pai tēnei mō te hunga e hiahia ana ki te whanake i roto i tā rātou whanaungatanga, kia noho hei tangata pai ake, hei hoa pai ake hoki. Pānuihia. E tino whakapono ana mātou ka mihi atu tō hoa ki a koe!
15. Kōrerohia tō tikanga: He Huarahi Whaiaro ki te Whakawhitiwhiti Kōrero Kore-Tukino Nā Oren Jay Sofer
He pai koe ki te kōrero? Ko te kōrero pai tētahi o ngā pou o te whanaungatanga hauora, engari ehara i te mea ngāwari te kōrero i ngā mea katoa ki tētahi e arohaina ana e koe. Mā tēnei pukapuka whanaungatanga pai rawa atu koe e ako ki te whakapai ake i a koe.
He raruraru te whakawhitiwhiti kōrero i ētahi wā i roto i ngā whanaungatanga katoa. Ahakoa kei te hiahia koe ki te kī atu ki tō hoa kāore i te pai tā rāua tunu kai, kei te hiahia rānei koe ki te kōrero mō te moni (haunga!), he mea nui te āhua o tō whakapuakitanga i a koe.
He pukapuka tēnei mā te hunga katoa e raru ana ki te kōrero nui ki ō rātou hoa, e whakaaro ana rānei me pēhea te whakarongo pai ake. Ki te hiahia koe ki te whakamutu i te huringa hoha o te 'he aha te raru?' 'kāore he mea' 'kei te pai koe?' 'āe, kei te pai ahau', tāpirihia tēnei pukapuka ki tō rārangi pānui, me tā tō hoa. Ā, akohia te kī i te tikanga o tō whakaaro.
16. Me pēhea te noho hei tangata i te ao nā Heather Havrilesky
Ko Heather Havrilesky te kaituhi o Ask Polly, te pou tohutohu i te New York Magazine's The Cut. Mena he kaipānui auau koe i te pou, e mōhio ana koe he pūkenga tōna ki te ārahi i ngā wairua i roto i ngā wai pōrearea o ngā whanaungatanga, ngā raruraru mahi, ngā āwangawanga whānau, me ērā atu.
Ko Me Pēhea te Noho hei Tangata i te Ao he kohinga o ngā Pātai me ngā Whakautu hou hei āwhina i a koe ki te whakatere i roto i ngā ngaru o te whanaungatanga o ēnei rā ki te takutai o te māramatanga tino nui, ki te wāhi e noho harikoa ai kōrua ko tō hoa rangatira ā ake ake.
Kei roto i tēnei kohinga ngā pātai me ngā reta i tuhia ki a Ask Polly, e pātai ana mō ngā mea katoa mai i te mahi ki te marena ki te aroha. Me pēhea hoki te whakahaere i te marena me te aroha kia angitu.
Koinei ētahi o ngā pukapuka whanaungatanga pai rawa atu mā te hunga e pai ana ki tētahi tirohanga koi, whakakatakata hoki ki ngā raruraru o te ao.
17. Te Arero Here: Te Wetewete i te Whakawhitiwhiti Kōrero i roto i te Ira Tangata, te Kink, me ngā Hononga Nā Stella Harris
Nā, kia pēhea te roa o tō huna i te hinu kakara i roto i te pouaka o tō moenga nā te mea ehara i te mea e hiahia ana koe ki te kōrero ki tō hoa? E mārama ana mātou. He uaua ki te whakaara ake i ngā moemoeā moepuku me ngā mahi whakararuraru. Mō te whakawhitiwhiti kōrero i roto i ngā whanaungatanga, ko tētahi o ngā arai nui i muri i ngā kōrero uaua mō ngā take me ngā raruraru ko ngā kōrero pono mō ngā hiahia me ngā moemoeā. Kaua e manukanuka, kei a mātou tō tuara.
Te pānui e pā ana: Te Hiranga me te Āhua o te Ira Tangata i roto i te Hononga
Ki te raru koe ki te whakapuaki i ō hiahia me ō matea ki tō hoa, kua tae pea te wā ki te pānui i ngā kōrero a te kaiwhakaako moepuku a Stella Harris. Ka tuku tohutohu pono a Kaiako Harris mō te tono i tāu e hiahia ana me te whakatau i ō āwangawanga. He tohutohu whai hua anō hoki hei whakatere i te whakama, te koretake, me te whakama i roto i ēnei kōrerorero.
Nā te mea he tangata hiahia tātou katoa, ka tūtohu mātou i a Tongue Tied hei pukapuka tohutohu whanaungatanga pai rawa atu mā te hunga e uaua ana ki te whakapuaki i ō rātou hiahia ki ō rātou hoa. Kia maumahara, e whakaaetia ana koe kia hiahia ki tāu e hiahia ana, ā, kia pai tō mahi!
18. Te Toi o te Whakaaturanga Nā Rachel Wilkerson Miller
Ko te whakaatu i te tangata he pou o ngā whanaungatanga angitu katoa, tae atu ki te whanaungatanga kei a koe ki a koe anō. E kiia ana ko "The Art of Showing Up" tētahi o ngā pukapuka whanaungatanga pai rawa atu e ngā tohunga. He mantra māmā noa iho tōna. Hei tiaki i tō whanaungatanga i te tuatahi, me tiaki koe i a koe anō.
He māmā noa iho te tangi, tika? Āe, i ētahi wā kāore, ā, ko te wāhi tēnei e whai wāhi mai ai tēnei pukapuka. Nā te kore o te wā, nā ngā āhuatanga ka pōrearea tātou, ā, ka mutu ka wareware tātou ki ngā wā whakarite, ka ngaro ngā huihuinga, ā, ka mutu te haere mai ki te āwhina i ō tātou iwi.
Ko tēnei pukapuka whanaungatanga mā te hunga katoa e hiahia ana kia noho hei hoa pai mō rātou anō me ētahi atu i ngā wā uaua, ahakoa he ngāwari.
19. Te Whakaipoipo i te Herehere: Te Whakahou i te Hinengaro me te Ā-Whare Nā Esther Perel
He tohunga rongonui a Esther Perel, he kaiwhakaora takirua, mō te mātauranga moepuku. Kāore, ehara tēnei i te mea e pā ana ki te kimi mātauranga moepuku. Engari, e kī ana a Perel i roto i tēnei pukapuka he mātauranga te hiahia moepuku, ā, ka taea te pupuri i roto i ngā whanaungatanga roa mena ka whakamahia te mātauranga.
Ki te mea kei roto koe i te kore ngākau nui, i te whanaungatanga kore-ira ā, kei te whakaaro koe ki te kimi i ō hiahia ki tētahi atu wāhi, tera pea ka taea e koe te pānui i tēnei pukapuka i te tuatahi. Ka puta te rangahau 20 tau a Perel i a ia e kōrero ana mō te whakahoki mai i te harikoa me te ngahau ki te hiahia moepuku mō te wā roa, me pēhea te pupuri i te hihiri me te hihiri. Mō ngā tāne me ngā wāhine e rapu ana i ngā pukapuka mō te aroha me ngā whanaungatanga hei whakaoho anō i te mura, he mea tika kia pānuihia tēnei pukapuka.
20. Aroha me te Whakaute: Te Aroha e Tino Hiahiatia ana e Ia; Te Whakaute e Tino Hiahiatia ana e Ia Nā Emerson Eggerichs
He aha ngā mea e hiahiatia ana e te katoa i roto i te whanaungatanga? He tino māmā noa iho – te aroha me te whakaute. Engari, kia tutuki ai ēnei? Kāore i te tino māmā. He tohutohu tā Tākuta Emerson Eggerichs māu. E whakamārama ana tēnei pukapuka me pēhea te pupuri i te aroha me te whakaute i roto i tō whanaungatanga ahakoa kua maha ngā tau o te whakaipoipo me te noho tahi. Arā, me pēhea te pupuri i te mura o te aroha.
Koinei te pukapuka whanaungatanga pai rawa atu, ā, me tino whakauru atu ki tō rārangi pānui mēnā kei te ngana koe ki te mārama ki tō whanaungatanga pōrearea, kāore rānei i te tino pōrearea, ā, e hiahia ana kia hurihia hei mea whai tikanga ake.
21. Te Mārenatanga Katoa-Kāore-Rānei-Kāore: Te Mahi a ngā Mārenatanga Pai Rawa
Nā Eli J. Finkel
E mea ana tētahi arotake o tēnei pukapuka, "Ka whakakitea te hanganga o ngā marena angitu o ēnei rā i roto i tēnei tirohanga hou whakahihiri, whai hua hoki mō te whanaungatanga tino nui ka taea e te tangata te whai."
He take pai tēnei kupu whakataki hei whakamārama i te take e kiia ai e ngā tohunga ko tētahi o ngā pukapuka whanaungatanga pai rawa atu.
Te pānui e pā ana: 15 Ngā Tohutohu mō te Marena Angitu
E kī ana a Eli J. Finkel, ahakoa ko te kaupapa matua o te marena o mua ko te tiaki me te pumau, he rerekē ngā whāinga o te marena o ēnei rā, arā, ko te hura i a tātou anō me te tipu ake o te tangata. Me pēhea rā tātou e whakatere ai i ēnei whāinga hou i roto i tētahi ao hou, me te ako tonu i ngā marena o mua?
Ko te Marena Katoa-Kāore-Kāore he mea mā te hunga kua moe tāne, e hiahia ana rānei kia moe tāne, kia moe tāne rānei i mua. Pērā i ngā mea katoa, kei te huri haere te marena, ā, he maha ngā tohutohu pai a Finkel mō tēnei ao hou.
He uaua te ako mō te aroha mai i ngā pukapuka, engari ko te tumanako ka āwhina ēnei i a koe ki te aroha pai ake, me te mārama ake ki ngā uauatanga o ngā whanaungatanga o ēnei rā me te hohonu ake. Ehara te aroha i te mea ngāwari, ā, kāore he aratohu mōna, engari, me whiwhi tātou i te āwhina katoa e taea ana e tātou.
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