17 Ngā Tohu kei te noho tahi koe me tētahi Wahine Kāore i te Pakeke te Wairua

Kei roto koe i tētahi hononga ki tētahi wahine kāore i te pakari te ngākau? He pātai uaua tēnei ki te whakautu nā te mea he mea kāore e taea te huna te pakeketanga o te ngākau, te kore rānei o taua pakeketanga ki te nuinga. Heoi, ehara i te mea pērā. I roto i te ao hinengaro, he mārama te tautuhi i te kore pakari o te ngākau. Inaa, e whakamārama ana te American Psychological Association i te kore pakari o te ngākau ko "te āhua ki te whakapuaki i ngā kare ā-roto me te kore here, te kore rānei e taurite ki te āhuatanga". He uaua te whakahaere i te kore pakari o te ngākau i roto i tētahi āhuatanga, engari ka rua ake te uaua mena kei roto koe i tētahi hononga ki tētahi hoa kāore i te pakari te ngākau.

Ko te uaua ki te kōrero, ki te whakapuaki i ngā kare ā-roto, me te whakahaere i ngā āhuatanga pāpori he torutoru noa iho o ngā raruraru ka pā ki a koe ina noho koe i roto i tētahi whanaungatanga koretake. Ko ngā wāhine koretake kare ā-roto ka uaua ki te whakatū whanaungatanga hauora – he rite tonu hoki mō ngā tāne koretake kare ā-roto, engari nā te mea he rerekē ngā āhuatanga, i roto i tēnei tuhinga ka arotahi noa mātou ki te āhua o te whanaungatanga ki tētahi wahine kāore i te tino pakari kare ā-roto. Me te kore e whakaroa, ka whakaaturia atu e mātou ki a koe ngā tohu 17 kei te noho koe me tētahi wahine koretake kare ā-roto, me pēhea te whakahaere i tēnei āhuatanga.

17 Ngā Tohu kei te noho tahi koe me tētahi Wahine Kāore i te Pakeke te Wairua

I mua i tā tātou urunga atu ki ngā tohu o te koretake o te kare ā-roto, me titiro tātou ki ngā tohu o te pakeketanga o te kare ā-roto. Ka taea e te tangata kua pakeke te kare ā-roto te:

• Whakaatuhia te ngoikore
• Kia aroha ki te tangata
• Whakaae ki ā rātou hapa
• Whakatakotoria he rohe hauora

Ko te tangata kāore anō kia tino whanake te kare ā-roto, ka raru ia i ēnei āhuatanga katoa. Ahakoa kāore i te mārama ngā rangahau he aha te tino take o te koretake o te kare ā-roto, ko te mea kotahi e kitea ana i roto i ngā take katoa ko te tukino, te tukino rānei i a ia e tamariki ana. E ai ki tētahi rangahau , ka pā te tukino me te kore aro ki te hinengaro pāpori o ngā tamariki, ā, ka aukati i te urutau pāpori. Nā tēnei ka kore e taea e te tamaiti te whakahaere i ōna kare ā-roto, ka tipu ai rātou hei pakeke koretake o te kare ā-roto. Kāore rātou i te mōhio he aha te āhua o te whanaungatanga pakeke .

Ki te mea kei te ngana koe ki te tautuhi mēnā he wahine koretake te hinengaro o tō hoa, anei ētahi āhuatanga whanonga hei whakamārama ake:

• Ka whakapae ia i ētahi atu mō ngā mea hē e puta ana
• He tikanga tāna ki te teka hei karo i ngā āhuatanga, i ngā kōrero rānei e kore e pai ana
• He mangere ia, ā, kāore e taea e ia te whakahaere i ōna kare ā-roto
• Ka tukino ia i ētahi atu kia whiwhi ai i tāna e hiahia ana
• He tere tana tangi, he tere tana riri, ā, ka riri nui ina kore e tutuki tana i pai ai
• E herea ana tōna mana ake ki te whanaungatanga

Mena he āhuatanga ēnei whanonga o tō hoa wahine/wahine i ngā wā katoa, me aro koe ki ngā tohu whakatūpato i mua i te kore e taea e koe te whakahaere i ngā mea. Hei whakatutuki i tēnā, anei ngā tohu 17 e tino kitea ana kei te noho tahi koe me tētahi wahine kāore anō kia pakari ō kare ā-roto:

1. Kāore e taea e ia te kōrero mō ngā mea whakamā

Ko tētahi o ngā tohu tino kitea o te koretake o te kare ā-roto ko te kore e taea te kōrero mō ngā kare ā-roto e kore e pai. Mā te koretake o te kare ā-roto ka kore e mārama te tangata ki ō rātou kare ā-roto me ō rātou kare ā-roto. Ko te kore e taea te tukatuka, te whakamārama rānei i ngā kare ā-roto uaua he tohu whakatūpato nui kei te koretake te kare ā-roto o tō hoa. Mā tēnei korenga o te kaha ki te whakapuaki tika i ōna kare ā-roto ka arahi pea ki te whakawhitiwhiti kōrero kino i roto i te whanaungatanga , ka puta pea i roto i ngā huarahi maha:

• Kāore e taea e ia te kōrero mō ōna kare ā-roto me te kore e tiaki i a ia anō
• Kāore e taea e ia te whakapuaki i ōna kare ā-roto ki ngā kupu
• Ka whiriwhiri ia ki te mahi i ngā mahi whakangaro

Ki te mea he huarahi hei karo i te kōrero mō ōna kare ā-roto, me whakapono koe ka kitea e ia. Mā te kore e taea te kōrero mō ngā mea whakararuraru ka tino aukati i te tipu o tō kōrua whanaungatanga.

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2. Me te mea kāore ia i wehe i te kura tuarua

E mōhio ana tātou katoa ki te iti rawa i te kotahi te tangata kāore i pakeke. Ā, ki te noho tahi koe me tētahi wahine kāore anō kia pakari te hinengaro, ka rite pea ki te mea kāore i mutu te kura tuarua. Mā tana whanonga ka kitea kāore ia i pakeke ake i tua atu i ōna tau kura tuarua. Kāore tonu ia e mutu te whakaaro, te kōrero rānei mō āna hononga o mua, kei te hiahia tonu rānei ia ki te "noho pai".

Ki te mea kei te whakaatu tonu ia kei te ngana ia kia ataahua ake i ētahi atu, ā, kei te whakahawea ki te hunga katoa e kiia ana e ia he 'nerd', ka taea e koe te kī kei te anga atu ia ki tētahi pakarukaru tereina.

3. He tino pukumahi ia

Ko te hunga kāore i te pakeke te hinengaro, he tino pukumahi. He maha ngā tamariki e whakaatu ana i tēnei āhuatanga nā te mea kāore anō kia ako ki te whakahaere i ō rātou kare ā-roto. He mea nui kia tere te whakahaere. whakamanatanga aronganui i roto i ngā whanaungatanga katoa.
• Te kōrero i waho o te wā
• Te pā atu ki ngā mea e tika ana kia waihotia
• Te kōrero i ngā mea me te kore e whakaaro ki tōna pānga ki ētahi atu

Ahakoa te nuinga o ngā tamariki e ako ana ki te whakamutu i ēnei mahi i roto i te wā, ka tipu ake ētahi hei pakeke kāore anō kia pakari te hinengaro, kāore anō kia ako ki te pehi i ō rātou kare ā-roto. Ki te mea kei te taha koe o tētahi wahine kāore anō kia pakari te hinengaro, he tohu whakatūpato nui tēnei. Ka anga ia ki te mahi i roto i ngā huarahi e kore e taea te matapae, e kore rānei e pai ki te pāpori, ka raru pea koe.

4. Ko ana hiahia anake te mea nui

Ko te hunga kāore i te pakari te hinengaro, ka aro nui ki a rātou anō, ā, ka whakaaro noa ki a rātou anō. Kāore rātou i ako kāore e taea e rātou te whiwhi i ngā mea katoa e hiahiatia ana e rātou i te ao, ā, ka kitea tēnei i roto i ā rātou whanonga. Kāore tō hoa kāore i te pakari te hinengaro e aro ki tētahi mea engari ko te whakatutuki i ana hiahia.

Ki te whakaaro koe he tangata hiahia nui ia, he tangata whai rawa hoki, ā, he uaua ki a ia te mārama ki te āhua o te ao, he tohu nui tēnā. Ka rite te noho tahi me tētahi hoa pēnei ki te āhua "māku ake huarahi, māku ake huarahi rānei". Te teka, te whakapae , te riri – kāore he arai kia tutuki rā anō ōna hiahia.

5. He pai ake ki a ia te oma i te whakahaere i te ahotea

Ko te koretake o te kare ā-roto ka puta ko te karo – te oma atu i ngā āhuatanga taumaha, kaua e aro atu ki aua āhuatanga. He pai ake ki a ia te wehe i te whanaungatanga i te rapu huarahi hei whakahou i te whanaungatanga. Kaua rawa e tukua kia puta he raruraru iti, ka wehe atu ia i mua i te taea e kōrua te kī he whanaungatanga! Ka taea e tēnei te waiho i a kōrua kia mauheretia i roto i tētahi whanaungatanga kino, he whanaungatanga kino, he whanaungatanga kino.

He māmā noa iho te whakatau i tēnei take, engari ko tēnei whanonga e tohu ana i ana pūkenga whakahaere i te ahotea. Tērā pea kāore i a ia ngā huarahi e ranea ana ki te whakahaere i te ahotea, kua maha rānei ngā āhuatanga ahotea kua pā ki a ia i roto i tōna ao me te kore he tikanga whakahaere tika. Koinei pea te take e whakaatu ana ia i ngā raruraru mārama. I konei, ko te manawanui me te whakawhitiwhiti kōrero te kī ki te ārai i te piki haere o ngā raruraru iti rawa.

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6. Ko te pukuriri kore mahi anake te reo e kōrerohia ana e ia

Ko tētahi atu mea ka kitea e koe i roto i te wahine kāore i te tino pakari te hinengaro ko tana āhua ki te whakaatu i ōna kare ā-roto, kaua ki te kōrero mō aua kare ā-roto. Kāore he tangata e pai ki te wetewete i ngā kupu ngaro, engari koinā tonu te mea ka kitea e koe mēnā kei roto koe i tētahi hononga ki tētahi wahine kāore anō kia tino pakari te hinengaro.

Ko ngā mea anake i akohia e ia ko te whakawhitiwhiti kōrero i roto i ngā huarahi kore-whakaeke, pērā i:

• Ngā tatau e pāorooro ana
• Te tuku i a koe kia noho puku
• Te titiro matatau atu ki a koe, kāore he take
• Te aue nui kia pātai atu koe ki a ia mō te raruraru, kaua e kōrero tika atu

Nō reira, ki te mea i ngā wā pakanga anake ka whanonga pukuriri tō hoa wahine , he tohu nui tēnā.

7. E hiahia ana ia kia aro tonu ki a ia

Pērā i ngā tamariki ka hoha ina mutu te aro o te tangata ki a rātou, ka pērā anō hoki ngā pakeke koretake. Ki te noho tahi koe me tētahi wahine koretake o te kare ā-roto, ka mahia e ia ngā mea katoa kia hoki mai ai te aro ki a ia anō, tae atu ki te mahi i ngā mahi kino.
• Tērā pea ka uru atu ia ki ngā kōrero kāore i te tika kia uru atu ia
• Ka kōrero whakakatakata kore tika hei kukume i te aro ki a ia anō.

Ka pā tōna whakaaro nui ki a ia anō, nā reira ka whakapau kaha ia kia aro tonu ki a ia anō. Te āhua nei kua oati ia kāore ia e warewarehia ahakoa pēhea. Ko tētahi o ngā tohu whakatūpato he nui rawa te kaha o ōna kare ā-roto, ā, kāore anō ia kia ako ki te whakahaere i aua kare ā-roto.

8. Ka kite koe i ngā tohu o te whakapehapeha

Ko te pakeketanga me whai whakaaro anō hoki ki ētahi atu. Engari he uaua ki te hunga kore pakeke te whakatakoto i ngā hiahia o ētahi atu ki runga ake i ō rātou ake, ā, ko rātou anake e aro nui ana ki a rātou anō. Koia te take he tino aro nui ēnei tāngata ki a rātou anō.

Ki te mea kei te whakaipoipo koe i tētahi wahine kāore anō kia tino pakari ōna kare ā-roto, tera pea ka whakaatu ia i ngā āhuatanga o te whakapehapeha, koinei tētahi o ngā tohu whakatūpato nui māu. E kore rawa ia e aro ki ō mea e pai ana ki a koe, ō mea e kore e pai ki a koe, me ō manakohanga, ā, ka ngana tonu ia ki te whakatutuki i tana e pai ai. Ā, i te wā e harikoa ana ia, ka wareware katoa ia ki a koe.

9. E tumanako ana ia kia tiaki koe i a ia i te wā katoa

He rite tonu te āhua o te whanaungatanga o te wahine kāore i te tino pakari ki te ngana tonu ki te tinei i te ahi. Tērā pea ka kite koe he tangata whakawhirinaki ia ki a ia anō, kaua ki a ia anō. Nā te mea e herea ana tōna mana me tōna whakapono ki a ia anō ki te whanaungatanga, ka ako ia ki te whakawhanake i ngā hononga hauora kore, me te kore e waiho he wāhi mō te whakawhitiwhiti kōrero, ngā rohe rānei.

Nō reira, ka tumanako ia kia whakatutukihia e koe ōna hiahia kare ā-roto katoa , kia tiakina hoki ia e koe i te wā katoa. Te āhua nei kāore ia e mārama kei a koe tō ake oranga me ō kawenga. Nā te mea kua nui tōna pakeketanga ki te mārama ko koe te mea pakeke i roto i te whanaungatanga, ka waiho e ia ngā mea katoa ki a koe, ā, ka kitea koe i roto i te tūranga o te kaitiaki.

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10. Kei te kaha rawa atu ōna kare ā-roto

Ko ngā wāhine kāore i te pakari te hinengaro, he nui rawa atu hoki ō rātou kare ā-roto, ā, he tamariki tonu ā rātou tauhohenga ina whakaohokia. Nā te mea kāore e taea e ngā pakeke kāore i te pakari te hinengaro te whakahaere i ō rātou kare ā-roto, ā, ka tere tonu te riri, te āhua nei kei te kaha rawa atu ō rātou kare ā-roto. Ki te kore ia e pai ki a rātou, ka mōhio te katoa i tōna taha.

Me tango he āhuatanga i konei. I hiahia ia ki tētahi kōne tiakarete gelato engari ko te toa anake e hiahia ana ia ko te kore o te reka tiakarete. Engari i te whiriwhiri i tētahi atu reka, i whiriwhiria e ia te hamama ki te kaimahi mō te take i kore ai e pai ki a ia te reka tino pai. He mea mōhio tēnei? Kei te hikoi tonu koe i runga i ngā anga hua manu i tōna taha, ā, kei te manukanuka koe mō te mea ka whakaoho i a ia i muri mai.

11. E mōhio ana ia ki te pēhi i ō pātene katoa

He mea kei te katoa e whakaohooho ana i a rātou, ahakoa te aha. Ā, tera pea e rite ana ki te mea e ngana ana ia ki te pēhi i ō pātene hei whakapataritari i a koe. He pai ki a ia te mahi i tēnei hei whakapataritari i a koe nā te mea kāore e taea e ia te aro atu ki ōna kare ā-roto mō tētahi mea i whakahaerea e koe i runga i te whakaaro pakeke.

Ahakoa he mahi tinihanga, he mahi tinihanga rānei i roto i te whanaungatanga , ka taea te kī he tukino. Ahakoa pēhea, he tohu nui tēnei kaua e warewarehia, ā, he tohu whakatūpato nui hoki kei tawhiti rawa atu tēnei whanaungatanga i te hauora, ā, kāore pea e tika kia whaia.

12. Kāore koe e rongo i tētahi hononga kare ā-roto ki a ia

Ko tētahi o ngā tohu tino whakarihariha kei a koe me tētahi wahine kāore anō kia pakari te hinengaro, ko te kore e kitea he hononga hohonu ki a ia. Nā te mea he uaua ki ngā wāhine kāore anō kia pakari te hinengaro te whakahaere i ō rātou ake kare ā-roto, he uaua hoki ki a rātou te hanga hononga hohonu, whai tikanga ki ētahi atu. Ka kitea anō hoki e koe ngā tohu o ngā raruraru here i roto i āna whanonga. Ka rite ki te mea kei te pupuri tonu ia i tētahi mea, kei te whiriwhiri rānei ia kia kaua e piripono ki a koe. Mā tēnei tawhiti kare ā-roto ka uaua ai te whai hononga angitu mā kōrua.

Ki te kite koe i tēnei tohu, ka whakaaro koe me pēhea te angitu i roto i tētahi whanaungatanga me tētahi wahine kāore anō kia tino pakari te hinengaro. Ko tētahi kōwhiringa ko te whakamātau i te tohutohu a ngā tāne me ngā wāhine, engari ka whai hua anake mēnā ka pai ia ki te mahi i a ia anō. Heoi, kotahi te mea e tino mārama ana, mā tēnei tawhiti kare ā-roto koe e noho motumotu, e pouri, e paku mokemoke hoki i roto i tō whanaungatanga.

13. Kāore ia e whakaae ana i tana he

Ko te pakeketanga o te ngākau te wā e taea ai e te tangata te whakaae ki ā rātou hapa. Engari ki te mea kei te mahi koe me tētahi wahine kāore anō kia pakari te ngākau, ka kite koe kāore ia e whakaae, e whakaae rānei ki tana he. Kāore ia e hē, āe, kāore i te rite ki tāna.

He uaua ki a ia te whakaae i hē ia, ā, kāore e taea e ia te whakapāha mōna. Ā, ki te taea e koe te tono whakapāha ki a ia, kāore he tikanga, kāore hoki he pono. He pai ake ki a ia te whakamutu i tana kōrero, te pahū rānei i te whakaae i hē ia. Ā, wareware ki tana whakatikatika i ana hapa – ka taea e koe te tatari kia koroheke koe, kia hina hoki, engari e kore rawa taua whakapāha me aua whakatikatika e tae mai!

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14. He mea nui ngā mea katoa

Ko ngā wāhine kāore i te tino pakari te hinengaro, ka whakaaro rātou ko rātou anake te pūtake o ngā mea katoa. Ā, ka mutu, ka tangohia e rātou ngā mea iti katoa hei mea whaiaro māna. Ka nui te pānga o ngā mea katoa ki a ia, ā, mā ngā mea iti ka nui hei whakapahū i a ia pērā i te puia.

Tērā pea koe e whakaaro ana ehara i te mea nui te wareware ki te waea atu ki a ia i tētahi pō. Engari ka tangohia e ia te āhua whaiaro, ka whakakino nui i te āhua, kaua e mārama he hapa te tangata. Ka nui rawa tana tauhohe ki ngā mea katoa, ā, ka tino hoha koe ki te whakatere i ngā pikinga me ngā hekenga o ōna kare ā-roto. Ā, ko te wehenga atu i tētahi wahine kāore anō kia pakari te kare ā-roto ka uaua ake mō tēnei take.

15. He piri rawa ia

He rārangi angiangi kei waenganui i te hiahia kia arohaina, me te piripono koretake, te hiahia rānei. Ā, ki te whakaaro koe kua whiti tō hoa i te ara tika, ka tino raruraru pea tēnei mō te whanaungatanga. Ki te whakaaro koe me whakamanawanui tō hoa, kāore he take, ka tono rānei i ia hēkona o tō wā, ka tere tonu te whakamomori. Anei ētahi tohu e whakaatu ana kei te piripono tō hoa i roto i te whanaungatanga:

• Ka hae wawe ia
• Me whakamanawa tonu ia e aroha ana koe ki a ia, ā, e kore koe e whakarērea ia ia
• E hiahia tonu ana ia ki te mōhio kei hea koe, me tāu mahi hoki
• Ka whakakorea e ia āna mahere kia roa ake ai te wā e noho tahi ana me koe

Ahakoa te āhua ātaahua o ēnei whanonga katoa i te tīmatanga, ka tere tonu te whakamomori. Ko te take e whakaatu ai tō wahine i ēnei whanonga he iti pea tōna whakapono ki a ia anō, he raruraru rānei tōna whakaute ki a ia anō. Ahakoa he whakapono ki a ia anō, he kore rānei, ka ārai tēnei whanonga i tō kaha ki te hanga hononga hauora ki a ia. Nā te mea, ko ngā whanaungatanga angitu ka hangaia i runga i te whakawhirinaki, te whakaute, me te wāhi kia tupu ai te tuakiri o ia hoa.

16. Kāore te kupu whakaae i te tīariari mōna

Ki te mea kei te whakaaro koe ko koe te tangata e whakatau ana i ngā whakataunga katoa i roto i te whanaungatanga , he tohu kino tēnā. E kore rawa te wahine kāore anō kia pakari te hinengaro e whakatau, me te mea kāore te kupu whakatau i roto i tana papakupu! Ā, he mea tauhou ki a ia te whakaaro o te whakanoho i a ia anō ki roto i ngā huānga o ētahi atu. Kāore tōna whakaaro he tika ia e whakaatu ana me tīmata ia ki te tūtaki ki a koe i waenganui, i runga i ētahi mea rānei, kia pai ai te whanaungatanga.

Me whai taurite hauora ngā whanaungatanga aroha, tae atu ki te whakaae ki ngā mea i ētahi wā. Engari ki te rongo koe i tēnei whakaaro "māku ake, māku ake rānei" i a ia mō ngā mea katoa, he tohu kino tēnei ka hoki mai anō ki te whai i a koe. Nā tēnei whanonga kua mutu ētahi whanaungatanga angitu, ā, ka pakaru anō hoki ōu ake.

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17. He hītori ōna mō ngā whanaungatanga tino whakahihiri

Ko te hunga kāore anō kia pakari te kare ā-roto, he maha ngā wā ka huri haere ō rātou whanaungatanga, ahakoa i roto i ō rātou whanaungatanga aroha, i roto rānei i ngā whanaungatanga whakapati. Ki te rapu koe i ngā tohu o te kore pakari o te kare ā-roto, me kimi e koe mēnā he whanaungatanga tino uaua tōna.

Mena he raruraru kei roto i ōna whanaungatanga whānau me tōna hoahoa, tera pea nā te mea kāore ia i ako ki te whakahaere i te raruraru , ki te kōrero mārire rānei. Ko ia kōrero e kōrerotia ana e ia ki a koe e whakaatu ana i te koretake o te kare ā-roto. Nā tōna korenga ki te aro atu ki ōna kare ā-roto ka waiho e ia he maha ngā whanaungatanga whakaari. He tohu kino tēnei kaua rawa e warewarehia.

Me pēhea te whakatau i tētahi wahine kāore i te pakari te hinengaro

He iti noa iho te whakamarie i te mōhio kei te pakeke haere tō hoa i roto i te whanaungatanga, nā te mea ko te nui o te kaha e hiahiatia ana e koe hei pupuri i tēnei whanaungatanga ka pāngia pea koe e te ngenge. Ki te whakaaro koe kei te whakaipoipo koe i tētahi wahine kāore anō kia pakeke haere, whakaarohia te nui o te pānga me te mōhio tonu ia ki tana whanonga, ā, e hiahia ana hoki ki te mahi i tēnā. Ki te kore e tutuki pai ngā āhuatanga e rua, me arotake e koe ō kōwhiringa katoa, ā, me whakatau whai whakaaro mō te wehe atu. Whakamahia tēnei rārangi o ngā tohu o te wahine kāore anō kia pakeke hei mahi i tēnā.

Ki te mea kei roto koe i tētahi hononga ki tētahi wahine kāore anō kia pakari te hinengaro, ā, e hiahia ana ki te whakapakari i a ia anō, ki te whanake hoki, tera pea ka puta koe i tēnei poka kua keria e koe. Hei āwhina i a koe i tēnei haerenga, kei konei mātou hei hoatu i ētahi tohutohu mō te angitu i roto i tētahi hononga ki tētahi wahine kāore anō kia pakari te hinengaro.

1. Tīmatahia he kōrero

Noho tahi kōrua ko tō hoa, ka kōrero mārama ki a ia mō te kino o tana whanonga ki tō kōrua whanaungatanga me te pānga kino ki a kōrua. Kia aro tonu ki a koe anō, kaua ki ana whanonga kino, kia kore ai ia e whakaaro kei te whakaeke koe i a ia. Ko ngā whanaungatanga aroha hauora me mārama te kōrero, ā, ki te kore e taea e kōrua te pakeke ki te kōrero mārama i ō hiahia, kaua e tatari kia whakahokia mai e ia.

2. Whakamātauria te tohutohu mō ngā tāne me ngā wāhine

Tērā pea kei te whakaaro koe ko tana raruraru te take matua, engari ehara – he raruraru whanaungatanga . Ka mutu, ka pakaru tō hononga mēnā ka waiho kia pirau. He mea nui te tango i te kawenga, ā, ki te kore ia e pakeke ki te whakahaere, me mahi koe. Haere ki tētahi wānanga tohutohu mō ngā tāne me ngā wāhine, ka ngana ki te whakatau i te raruraru. Kia rite koe ki te mahi, ā, tera pea ka ako koe i ētahi mea mōu ake i roto i te tukanga.

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3. Hoki whakamuri mēnā e tika ana

He wā anō kei te whawhai, he wā anō kei te whakaae me tuku koe. Kāore he tangata e whakapae i a koe mēnā kei te hiahia koe ki te hoki whakamuri i tēnei kotiro tiaki nui , ka manawa. Kia mārama ko te hoki whakamuri te tikanga kei te tiaki koe i a koe anō. Nō reira, ki te mea kua pau katoa ngā huarahi e taea ana e koe, ā, kāore anō kia pai ngā mea katoa, kua tae pea te wā ki te tapahi i te taura. Ehara i te hara te tākai i ō peke me te haere atu mēnā ka tīmata te whanaungatanga ki te rite ki te rohe pakanga. Kia mau ki tō hauora hinengaro me tō hauora tinana, ka haere atu i te papa pakanga.

He mea uaua te whakatau i te koretake o te kare ā-roto, inā koa he āhuatanga e whakaatuhia ana e tō hoa. Ko te mea nui ki te katoa ko ngā whanaungatanga hauora, kaua ki te whakatau i tētahi hoa koretake o te kare ā-roto. Ā, ki te mea kei te taha koe o tētahi wahine koretake o te kare ā-roto, ka uaua ake te whakatau i te whanonga. I roto i tēnei tuhinga, e 17 ngā tohu e whakaatu ana kei te taha koe o tētahi wahine koretake o te kare ā-roto. Ki te mea ko koe te wahine koretake o te kare ā-roto i roto i te whanaungatanga, ngana ki te rapu āwhina kia māmā ake ai ngā mea mā kōrua. Ā, ki te mea kei konei koe nā te mea kei te whakatau koe, kei te rapu rānei i te huarahi tika hei wehe i tētahi tāne koretake o te kare ā-roto, ka āwhina tēnei tuhinga. Ngāna ki te kimi i ngā tohu, me te whakatau i aua tohu i te wā tika kia kore ai e piki haere ngā mea.

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