23 Ngā Tauira Whakamihi a te Ringa Whakamuri i te Ao o Ia Rā, He Whakakino Tuturu

Ko ngā mihi a-ringa, e mōhiotia ana ko ngā mihi a-ringa maui, ngā mihi rūpahu, te whakakore rānei, he momo whakawhitiwhiti kōrero e whakakotahi ana i te mihi me te tawai i roto i te huarahi ngawari, ā-kore rānei. He kōrero ēnei e ahua ana he mihi i te tīmatanga engari kei roto ko te whakahē ngawari, te tinihanga rānei.

Ko te tangata e tuku ana i ēnei mihi he hoa, he hoa mahi rānei nō tātou. Ka waiho te kaiwhiwhi kia kore e tino mōhio ki ngā whakaaro pono o te kaituku. rangahau e kī ana, "E matapaetia ana e mātou ahakoa ko ngā mihi ā-ringa i hangaia hei whakaputa i te pai me te whakaatu i te mana, kāore e puta tetahi o ēnei, nā te mea ko te hunga e tuku ana i ngā mihi ā-ringa i kitea he rautaki, ā, he nui rawa te āwangawanga ki te whakahaere i te whakaaro."

He mea noa te whakautu ohorere ina puta mai ngā kupu whakatoi huna ki a koe, engari me ako koe i ētahi kupu whakahoki mohio mō ngā mihi whakamihi. Mā ēnei koe e āwhina ki te tū atu me te kore e tino kino.

He aha ngā mihi a te ringa whakamuri?

Ka mamae ngā kare ā-roto o te tangata i ngā mihi whakamihi. Tērā pea ka whakaaro te tangata kei te mihi rātou ki ō pūkenga, ki ō whakatutukitanga rānei, engari ko te mea pono, he whakapehapeha, he whakaute kore tā rātou e kōrero nei. E hiahia ana rānei rātou ki te kōrero kino ki a koe, engari ka mutu, ka rite ki te mihi whakamihi, ā, ka pōhēhē koe i te mutunga.

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• He maha ngā āhua o ngā mihi whakamihi, pērā i te whakaiti i te tangata hei mihi, te kōrero pukuriri, te whakataurite huna rānei.
• He maha ngā wā ka whakamahia ēnei kupu whakamihi whakaiti hei huna i te māharahara i roto i ngā kōrero hei whakaiti mārire i te maia o te tangata, kiritau-whaiaro, ngā whakatutukitanga rānei, me te pupuri tonu i te āhua o te ngākau māhaki
• Ka taea te whakamahi āta whakaarohia, kāore rānei i te āta whakaarohia, ā, e whakamahia whānuitia ana i roto i ngā horopaki pāpori, i ētahi wā hei huarahi ki te whakaatu i te mana, engari he kupu reka tonu te whakapuaki. Kei te noho tātou i roto i tētahi hapori e kiia nei he hunga whakaute.
• Ko ēnei mihi whakaiti, rūpahu rānei, he mea pea mō tetahi mea, pērā i tō taumaha kua piki ake, kua heke rānei, tō tau, tō makawe, tō āhua, tō oranga, tō mahi, tō whakaaro pakihi, ō kākahu rānei.
• Hei tauira, ko te kī "Ka tino ātaahua ake koe i tō makawe hou," "Ka ātaahua ake koe ina tika ō makawe" me "Koinei te hāte tino kino rawa atu kua kitea e au; ko koe anake te mea i taea te hanga kia ātaahua" he mihi whakamihi nā te mea e tohu ana i te whakaiti, i te kore whakapono rānei ki ngā kōwhiringa, ki te āhua rānei o te tangata.
• Ko tētahi atu tauira, ina whakamāmāhia tātou e te whakahōutanga a tētahi i runga i te Instagram, ā, ka ngana tātou ki te whakaiti i a rātou mā te tuku mihi pēnei i te "He pai ki ahau te nui o tō wā i te rā ki te tuku i ēnei pou whakamiharo ki runga i te Instagram"
• Ko tētahi momo mihi whakamuri ko 'te whakakorekore"He momo tinihanga kare ā-roto noa iho tēnei, e whakamāramatia ana he kupu whakaiti iti hei whakaiti i te whakapono ki a ia anō, kia ngāwari ake ai ia ki ō mahi whakamātau."

Hei kaiwhiwhi, he mea nui kia mōhio tātou ki ēnei whakahāwea huna, ā, kia kaha hoki te whakautu. Hei kaituku, me whakapau kaha tātou ki te tuku mihi pono hei whakamana, hei whakaara ake, kaua e whakaiti i ētahi atu. E whakaatu ana ēnei kōrero i ngā āhuatanga uaua o te whakawhitiwhiti kōrero tangata, ā, e whakaatu ana i te hiranga o te mōhio ki a ia anō me te aroha.

23 Ngā Tauira Whakamihi a te Ringa Whakamuri i te Ao o Ia Rā

Kei raro nei ētahi mihi whakamihi ā-ringa i te mahi, kia taea ai e koe te whakahē i tō hoa mahi me te kaha, me te ngaio hoki. He tohu ngawari ēnei o whanonga pukuriri-kore ā, tāpirihia hoki ngā tauira mihi whakamuri mai i ngā mema o te whānau e taea ai e tātou katoa te hono atu ki a rātou. Mena he tangata koe e pā mai ana ō kare ā-roto i te wā e tawai ana tetahi ki a koe, he whakautu anō tā mātou mō ngā mihi whakamuri.

I te pātai atu me pēhea te mahi tahi me ēnei tāngata, ka pātai a Quora kaiwhakamahi i mea atu, "Me te ataata. Kaua e tukua kia whakararuraru i a koe. He mahi tino pukumahi-whakaeke tēnei." Tētahi atu Quora kaiwhakamahi i kōrero mō ngā kupu whakatoi e huna ana hei kupu whakamihi, "Ka whakaaro ahau kāore au e kite i te taha o te ringa whakamuri, ā, ka whakautu me te mea he kupu whakamihi pono – he ahua hihiri ake pea. Mā tēnā ka waiho te tangata ki te kōwhiringa ki te whakamārama ehara i te kupu whakamihi (e āhua ana rātou he tangata wairangi), ki te whakaaro rānei he kupu whakamihi pono (e āhua ana rātou he tangata wairangi)."

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Ki tā mātou whakaaro he mea nui te whakautu ina tīmata ngā kupu whakatoi huna ki te whakahaere i te kōrero. Ka nui ake te ataahua ina noho humarie koe, ā, ka noho mārire i a koe e whakautu ana ki ēnei tāngata. Me titiro tātou ki ēnei kupu whakamihi kua whakarārangihia i raro nei, ā, me pēhea te whakautu ki ratou.

1. "He tino ataahua tō āhua mō te tangata kāore e mau meki-kanohi"

Koinei tētahi o ngā tauira nui o te mihi whakamuri mō te kōtiro. Ko te hē o tēnei 'whakamihi' he tohu tēnei kāore te āhua tūturu o te tangata i te ātaahua. Ko te kaiwhakapuaki he āhua ... te whakamihi me te whakararuraru i tō oranga i roto i te rerenga kotahi.

urupare"E mihi ana ahau ki te mihi, engari ki taku whakaaro he ataahua te āhua o te katoa, ahakoa he meke, kāore rānei he meke"

2. "He ātaahua tō āhua, kāore he hiahia mō te whakapaipai katoa"

Ko tētahi o ngā tauira o te mihi a-ringa e tino kitea ana, ā, e kīia pinepinetia ana ki ngā wāhine. Kei te kī te kaikōrero he mea koretake, he tinihanga rānei te hanga kanohi, ā, ko te whakamahi noa i te kanohi hei ngana kia ātaahua.

urupare"He momo whakaaturanga whaiaro te meikitanga; e mau ana ahau nā te mea e pai ana ki ahau."

3. "He tino mārama tō kōrero mō tētahi tangata o tō whakapapa"

Koinei tētahi o ngā tauira o ngā mihi whakamihi ringa whakamuri tino pukuriri. E whakaatu ana tēnei i te miharo ka taea e te tangata te kōrero pai ahakoa tōna 'pāpāho', e whakaiti ana i te tangata me tōna iwi, whenua, karaehe, kāwai, whakapono rānei.

urupare"He tino matatau te iwi nō ngā momo papamuri, ā, e mōhio ana pea rātou ki ngā reo maha atu i te kotahi. Tokohia āu e matatau ana ki te kōrero?"

4. “He tino pai rawa tāu mahi i tō whakaaturanga; kāore au i tumanako ki tēnā mai i a koe”

Ina kōrero tātou mō ngā tauira mihi whakamihi i te mahi, koinei pea te mea tino noa. Kua rongo pea koe i ngā hoa mahi, i ngā rangatira rānei e whakamahi ana i tēnei. E tohu ana tēnei i te iti o ngā tumanakohanga mai i te tangata, ā, e whakaiti ana i ōna pūkenga. I ētahi wā ka taea tēnei te kī e te rangatira e ngana ana ki te whakaipoipo me te whakatū i tētahi... aroha tari.

urupare"Ngā mihi. He tino whakahīhī ahau ki taku whakaaturanga. I mōhio ahau ka eke panuku ahau. He aha rā tāu i tumanako ai?"

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5. “He tino māia koe; āe, me i taea e au te noho pōrangi pērā i a koe”

Ko te mihi a te ringa whakamuri e tohu ana kei te whakaarohia te maia o te tangata he mangere, he nui rawa rānei.

urupare"Ngā mihi! Ka puta te māia i te māia ki a koe anō, te marino, me te whakaaro pai."

6. "He tino kaha koe mō tētahi kōtiro"

Ko tētahi atu tauira tēnei o ngā mihi whakamihi mō te kōtiro. E whakaatu ana tēnei he ngoikore ake ngā wāhine, ā, ka whakaiti i tō rātou kaha. Ko te mutunga iho, te iti o te whakaaro ki a ia anō i roto i te tini o ngā wāhine.

urupare"Kāore te kaha e pā ana ki te ira tangata; ka ngoikore ake te tinana o ngā tāne i ngā wāhine, ā, ka kaha ake ngā wāhine i ngā tāne."

7. "He tino waimarie koe kua kitea he hoa ahakoa ō āhuatanga rerekē"

Ko te mea e hē ai tēnei kōrero i roto i ngā āhuatanga maha, ko te kī he mea tika kia kore e pai te noho o te tangata nā ōna āhuatanga rerekē, he mea kino rānei te noho o ōna āhuatanga rerekē me tōna ahurei. Ā, he nui te kawenga kei te pikau a te hoa o te tangata.

urupare"Koinei te mea e tupu ana i roto i ngā whanaungatanga. Ka whakaae, ka aroha hoki tāua ki ngā āhuatanga rerekē o tētahi ki tētahi. Kei a koe anō tētahi tangata pērā i roto i tō koiora?"

8. “Kāore koe i rite ki ētahi atu rōia; he tino ngahau koe ki te noho tahi”

Ko tēnei kōrero mō te mahi a te tangata tētahi o ngā tauira maha o te mihi whakamihi i te mahi. E whakaatu ana i te āhua whakahāwea mō ngā rōia, he mea whakarihariha, he mea kore hoa. Ka kitea ngā kōrero pēnei i roto i ngā mahi katoa, pērā i te "He tino māmā koe hei kaiwhakaari" me te "Kāore koe i te tino hoha pērā i ētahi atu o te ao hangarau mōhiohio."

urupare"Ehara te mahi rōia i te mea e tautuhi ana i te āhua katoa o te tangata. E mōhio ana koe ki tēnā, tika?"

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9. "Mā te whakahou iti i tō whare, ka pai ake te āhua o tō wāhi"

Kāore tēnei kōrero i te whai whakaaro pai, nā te mea e tohu ana me whakahou tō whare kia tino pai. He kōrero whakahihi, ā, he manuhiri kino, he hoa rānei tēnei tangata.

urupare"Kāore au i te rapu urupare. Ā, ki taku whakaaro, ina rite te whare ki te kāinga, he nui tēnā mō te tangata."

10. "He tino pai tō kōrero mō tētahi kāore i te whiwhi tohu whare wānanga"

Mā te kōrero pēnei, e mārama ana kei te whakaititia e rātou te mātauranga o te tangata nā runga i tōna mātauranga.

urupare"Kāore te mātauranga e whakatau i te kaha o te tangata ki te kōrero whai hua, ki te aroha rānei. Inaa, he maha ngā tāngata whai tohu whare wānanga e kōrero ana i tā rātou e pai ai ahakoa te ahua kuware o tā rātou kōrero."

11. “He toa koe ki te mau i tēnā; kāore rawa e taea e au te tango atu”

Ko tēnei kōrero rua he tohu kei te māia rawa te kākahu o te tangata, kei te rerekē rawa rānei, ā, kei te whakahengia rātou mō tēnā.

urupare"Ngā mihi! He aha ahau i toa ai? Kāore au i mārama. He kākahu noa iho."

12. "He māmā pai koe ahakoa te aro nui ki te mahi"

E kī ana rātou kāore e taea e ngā wāhine e aro nui ana ki te mahi te noho hei mātua pai, kāore rānei e taea e te wahine te noho hei mātua pai.

urupare"Ki taku whakaaro he mea ka taea te whakatutuki i te noho hei māmā pono, hei tohunga ngaio hoki."

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13. “He tino āta whakahaere koe i tāu kai; ka pouri ahau ki te kai pēnā”

Ko te kupu whakamihi tēnei e tohu ana he pūtake o te mamae ngā tikanga kai hauora a te tangata, ā, me tino kino puku rātou ki tōna āhua noho.

urupare"He pai ki ahau te kai i ngā kai totika; he pai ki ahau! Me whakamātau koe."

14. “He tino pai koe ki te tākaro. Nā te mea pea i waimarie koe ki te whiwhi i tētahi tinana hākinakina”

Ko te mea e kī ana tēnei kōrero nā te waimarie te whakatutukitanga o te tangata i roto i ngā hākinakina, ehara i te mahi uaua me te taranata anake, he mea whakaiti tēnei i te kaiwhiwhi.

urupare"Kua kaha taku mahi kia eke ki te taumata teitei i roto i taku hākinakina, ā, e whakahīhī ana ahau ki taku ahunga whakamua."

15. “He tino whakarite koe; he mea miharo tēnei mō tētahi tama”

E ai ki tēnei kitenga, ko te hunga o tētahi ira tangata he hunga pōrearea. E tino pā ana tēnei ki ngā tāne nā te mea e kitea ana rātou he hunga kore kawenga, he mangere rānei, engari ko ngā wāhine ia e kitea ana he hunga e hiahia ana kia noho rite tonu, nā te mea ko tā rātou mahi he whakarite kia tika ngā mea katoa.

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16. “He tino mātau koe mō tētahi wahine nō tōu uri”

E tohu ana tēnei kōrero ko te mātauranga e whakawhirinaki ana ki tō ira tangata me tō iwi. Ā, ko te hinengaro, te wahinetanga, me ētahi iwi he iti iho hototahiMe rongo ngā wāhine o te ao katoa i ēnei momo kōrero, inā koa ko te hunga ehara i te Pākehā, pērā i ngā wāhine parauri me ngā wāhine mangu.

urupare"He kōrero kuware rawa tēnei mō te tangata mā. Kāore te ira tangata me te iwi e whakatau i te kaha o te tangata ki te ako me te tipu."

17. "He tohunga toi tino pai koe, ina whakaarohia te iti o ō rauemi"

E kī ana tēnei kōrero pōhewa, he mea whakamiharo te mahi a te kaitoi nā ōna herenga anake, ehara i te mea nā ōna pūkenga. Tērā pea kāore te kaitoi e kite he iti noa iho āna rauemi, engari e tino whakaaro ana te kaikorero he iti noa iho.

urupare"Ka tito toi ngā kaitoi i te ngākau, ahakoa te nui o ā rātou rauemi."

18. “He tino manawanui koe ki tāu tamaiti hauā; ka porangi ahau i roto i ō hu”

Ko te tikanga o tēnei kīanga, he kawenga te tamariki hauā. He whakahē i te hunga kaha, ā, e whakanui ana i te whakaaro kino ki te hunga hauā.

urupare: "tamariki He wero anō hoki, engari e tino whakanuia ana e au ia wā me aku tamariki. Ehara i te mea tino māharahara te hiahia ki tētahi momo tamaiti motuhake.”

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19. "He ataata ataahua tōu ahakoa kāore ō niho i te tū tika"

Kei te whakaaro hē tēnei tangata he ātaahua anake te ataata mēnā he tino tika te tūnga o ō niho. He mea whakakatakata te kitenga atu i ngā niho, kātahi ka whakaaro he pai ki te tohu atu he hapa. Engari, me ngana tonu te tangata ki te kia menemene ētahi atu.

urupare"Kāore au i mārama. Kāore he pānga o te tūnga o ngā niho ki te ataata ataahua."

20. “He tino angitu koe ahakoa te uaua o tō whakatipuranga”

E ai ki tēnei kōrero, kāore e tika ana kia tumanakohia te whakatutukitanga i runga i te whanaketanga o te tangata. Ahakoa he kōrero pono tēnei i tētahi atu horopaki, kaua rawa tetahi e whakahua i ngā mamae o te tamarikitanga ina hiahia ana rātou ki te mihi ki tō rātou angitu.

urupare"Nā tōku whakatipuranga ahau i hanga, engari kāore e tautuhi i tōku angitu."

21. “He tino pai koe ki te whakarongo ki tētahi tangata he nui āna kōrero”

E tohu ana te kōrero nei, ko te āhua kōrero a te tangata ka whakararu i tōna kaha ki te whakarongo, kāore rānei e taea te whakarongo i ngā mea e rua i te wā kotahi. Waihoki, e mārama ana kāore te kaikōrero e maioha ki ngā kōrero a tetahi, ā, i whakaaro koinei te huarahi pai ki te kōrero atu ki a rātou.

urupare"E whakapono ana ahau ki te whakawhitiwhiti kōrero taurite; he mea nui te kōrero me te whakarongo."

22. “He kaiwaiata pūkenga koe, inā koa mō te tangata kāore i te whai mātauranga ōkawa”

Kei te whakaititia ngā pūkenga puoro me te mahi uaua a te tangata kē, ā, kei te pai ake te mātauranga ōkawa kāore e taea te uru atu..

urupare"He ngākau nui te puoro, ā, kua whakakoi ahau i aku pūkenga mā te whakapau kaha me te mahi. Pērā i te tini o ngā kaiwaiata."

23. “He kaiārahi pai koe mō te tangata e noho mārire ana”

He hē te kīanga nei, e tohu ana he maha ngā wā kāore te hunga whakama i te whai hua hei kaiārahi.

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urupare"Ko te hunga e hiahia ana ki te mōhio ki te tangata, ka tino angitu rātou i roto i ngā tūranga kaiārahi mā te whakamahi i ō rātou kaha ahurei. Kāore te kaiārahi e pā ki ētahi momo tuakiri."

Hei whakautu i ngā mihi whakamihi, he mea nui kia mau tonu te māia me te kaha. Ka taea e koe te whakaae ki te taha o te mihi, ki te hiahia koe, me te aro atu ki te take matua, ki te whakaaro hē rānei i runga i te ngākau māhaki. Mā tēnei ka āwhina i te tangata ki te ako, ā, ka akiaki hoki i te whakawhitiwhiti kōrero whakaute.

Ko te āhua tūturu o ngā mihi he whakaara ake i te whakaaro nui ki a koe anō, he whakatenatena, he mea hoki kia pai ai te wairua o te tangata nā tō pono, engari ko ngā mihi whakamāori he rerekē te mahi. Kua tirohia e tātou ngā āhuatanga ngaro o ēnei hoari kōrero mata rua. He āhua pai te whakaaro engari he whakaiti huna. Mā te whakamārama i tō rātou āhua, ka taea e tātou te whai kia pai ake ngā taunekeneke i roto i ō tātou oranga whaiaro me te ao mahi, me te whakatipu i te whanaungatanga. whanaungatanga hauora.

Ehara i te mea he mahi tātari reo noa iho te mārama ki ngā mihi ā-ringa; he haerenga ki roto i ngā āhuatanga uaua o te hinengaro tangata me te whakawhitiwhiti kōrero. Mā te whakaaro nui me te aroha, me whakatipu tātou i tētahi ahurea o te maioha pono, e noho ai ngā kupu hei taputapu tautoko, kaua hei patu whakahē.

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