He nui ngā kōrero kua ringihia mō te noho hei "wahine kē" rongonui i roto i te marena. He maha ngā kiriata me ngā pukapuka kua whakaatu i tōna kaha ki te whakawai me te ātaahua. Ahakoa he rerekē tēnei i te pono, ko te nuinga o ngā mahi tūturu me ngā mahi whakakatakata ka mutu i te whakarērea o te wahine rangatira, me te karanga pouri, "Kāore ia i whakarērea tana wahine mōku!"
Ka pakaru rānei te whānau o tētahi tāne mō tētahi atu wahine? Tērā pea ka pērā ia. Mēnā kei te whai hoa koe me tētahi tāne kua mārenatia, kaua e tukua kia pōuri koe i ngā kōrero a te tangata. Mēnā he pono te hononga, ā, he pakari ngā whakaaro, ka kite koe i ngā tohu ka whakarērea e ia tana wahine mōu. Kāore tēnei e tino tupu pinepine, engari tera pea ko koe te mea rerekē.
Heoi, i mua i tō tīmatanga ki te kite i ngā tohu ka whakarērea e ia tana wahine māu, me mōhio koe ki ēnā tohu i te tuatahi. Ae, ka hokona e ia he koha māu, ā, ka noho tahi ia me koe mō ētahi rā o te wiki, engari he tikanga tūturu tēnā ka poroporoaki ia ki tana wahine i tētahi rā? ture wahine kua moe tāne? Me titiro tātou ki ngā tohu katoa me te take e whakatau ai te tāne ki te whai i tēnei ara i te tuatahi.
He aha te mea ka whakarerea e te tangata tana wahine mo tetahi atu wahine?
Ripanga o Ihirangi
He tino māmā noa iho te tautuhi i ngā āhuatanga e ārahi ana i te tāne kia mawehe atu i te ara pono. Engari he rerekē rawa te whakarērea o tana wahine (me āna tamariki). Ā, he onge te kite i tēnei āhuatanga nā te mea he roa te hītori o te tāne me te wahine; kua roa rāua e mōhio ana tetahi ki tetahi, kua noho tahi i roto i ngā wā pai me ngā wā pouri o tetahi ki tetahi, kua tīmata he whānau, kua hanga he oranga, me ērā atu mea.
Ko te mea anake e tino akiaki ana ka hua ake te whakatau mohio a te tāne kua moe tāne ki te wehe atu i tōna whānau. Koia te take he maha ngā "wāhine kē" ka whakaaro pēnei, "Ka whakarērea e ia tana wahine mōku, kāore rānei he wā e moumou ana ahau?"
I a koe e ngana ana ki te whakaaro me pēhea tēnei te moe tāne i waho o te marena ka puta te hua, tera pea ētahi e kī atu ki a koe mēnā e aroha ana ia ki a koe, ka whakarērea e ia tana wahine. Ko te pono, ehara i te mea ngāwari pērā. Me titiro tātou ki ngā take e whakarērea ai e te tāne tana wahine:
1. He marena kore harikoa
He maha ngā take ka puta ai te pouri i roto i te marena. He maha ngā wā ka rerekē te āhua o te tangata i roto i te wā. Tērā pea ehara te hoa rangatira o tō hoa i te tangata i arohaina e ia i ngā tau kua pahure ake nei, kāore rānei ia i te tangata i aroha ki te wahine i moe ai ia. Ina wehe te tāne me te wahine, ka puta he... te kore o te aroha me te whanaungatanga i roto i tā rātou here.
Ka noho te marena hei tikanga noa iho, ā, ka ngana noa rāua ki te pupuri i te āhua o te tinana. Arā, kia whakatau rā anō tētahi o rāua kua ranea. Kia pēhea te roa ka taea e te tangata te noho i roto i te taiao e pōrearea ana te hinengaro? Nō reira, ko te marena kāore e taea te tipu, te harikoa rānei, ka whakarērea e te tāne tana wahine mō tētahi atu wahine. Ko tana tumanako ka tīmata anō me te tirohanga hou me te wairua hou.
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2. He marena tukino – he tohu ka whakarērea e ia tana wahine mōu
Ka roa te wā e mamae puku ana ngā tāne i pāngia e te tukino i mua i te wehenga atu i ō rātou hoa. Ka taea e te tāne te whakarērea tana wahine tukino mō tētahi atu wahine nā te mea e hiahia ana ia kia rite te āhua ki a ia i roto i te whanaungatanga. Ka rerekē ngā āhua o tēnei tukino; kare ā-roto, ā-tinana, ā-ōhanga, ā-hinengaro rānei.
Ka taea e tēnei marena kino, kino hoki te akiaki i a ia ki te rapu whakamarie me te whakaora i tētahi atu tangata hauora. He āhuatanga tino nui te whakaute me te mana e hiahiatia ana e te tangata katoa. Ko te whanaungatanga e whakarato ana i te taua ka nui ake i te marena kino.
3. Ngā kawenga maha o te whānau
Mena ko te tāne te kaiwhāngai matua o tōna kāinga, tera pea ka pāngia ia e te ahotea o te pupuri i te pai o ngā mea. Tērā pea ka rite ia ki te ATM mō tana wahine me tōna whānau. I a ia e whakahaere ana i ngā utunga pūtea, ngā nama, ngā mahi mātua me ngā herenga pāpori, tera pea ka rite te tāne ki te ngaro i a ia anō. I taua wā anō, ka ngokingoki te hoha ki roto i te whanaungatanga kia kino rawa atu ai te āhua.
I te hiahia o te tāne kua mārena kia mawhiti atu i te raruraru o te wā waenga-ora, ka kitea anō e ia tōna āhua me tētahi atu wahine. Tērā pea ka ārahi te wairua o te whakaoranga me te hou ki te rapu whakarere. Kāore he kōrero mō te āhua matatika (te pumau rānei) o tēnei.
Koinei ngā take matua e toru e kitea ana ina wehe te tāne i tana wahine, engari ehara i te mea koinei te take anake e toru ngā take. He ahurei ia tangata, ia tangata, ā, ko ngā āhuatanga e akiaki ana i ana whakatau he ahurei pea ki a ia. Tērā pea ka hiahia ia ki te puta atu i tēnei marena ka uru ki ngā ringa o tētahi hoa aroha nā te mea kāore ia i hiahia ki te noho i roto i te marena.
Ahakoa te whakahihiri o tēnā, kāore anō kia tino mārama. Nō reira, me pēhea te mōhio mēnā ka whakarērea e ia tana wahine māu? Kī tonu te ao i ngā kupu whakaari koretake… Ā, kia pēhea te roa e tatari ai kia whakarērea e te tāne kua mārenatia? Me aro atu tātou ki ēnei mea katoa me ētahi atu tohu anō hoki mā roto i ngā tohu 11 ka whakarērea e ia tana wahine māu.
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te Tirohanga Hapori Whanui e ai ki ngā pūrongo he nui ake te tūponotanga o ngā tāne ki te tinihanga i ngā wāhine. (He nui ake te tūponotanga o ēnei tāne ki te moe tāne anō hoki.) Hei tāpiri atu ki tēnei, he ako nā YouGovAmerica i whakaatu tētahi mea tino whakamīharo; he nui ake te tūponotanga o ngā tāne ki te kī he koretake te oranga moepuku o te tāne. Te āhua nei ko te moepuku te mea nui mō ngā tāne ina tae mai ki te puremu.
Ahakoa kāore he tatauranga tika mō te tokomaha o ngā tāne e whakarē ana i ā rātou wāhine mō ngā hoa moepuku, kāore ngā rangahau kua whakahuatia i konei e tino homai ana i te tumanako. Heoi, ehara i te mea kāore e taea e te moepuku i waho o te marena te waiho hei tīmatanga mō te harikoa-ā-muri-ake-ā-muri mōu.
Neke atu i te tau a Cassandra e noho tahi ana me Mark. I tūtaki rāua i tētahi pae inu, ā, i tere tonu te pai o te whanaungatanga. Ahakoa kua moe wahine a Mark rāua ko tana wahine, kāore i tino harikoa ki tā rāua marena. I mārama pukutia ka whakarērea e ia tana hoa rangatira, ka hanga he whare hou. te ora i muri i te wehenga rāua ko Cassandra. Engari i pēhia tonutia ngā mea mō tētahi take, mō tētahi take rānei.
I tīmata tēnei ki te āwangawanga i a Cassandra. "Kia pēhea te roa o te tatari kia wehe atu te tāne kua mārenatia i mua i te whakarērea?" i whakaaro ia. Hei whakamutunga, ka kōrero tika atu ia ki a Mark. I whakaae ia ki ōna āwangawanga, ā, ka oati ki te mahi i tētahi mahi whakatau. I muri i ētahi wiki, ka hoki mai ia me ngā pepa tuatahi. Kei te haere tonu ngā mahi mō tana whakarere..
Kei te tatari anō hoki koe kia tutuki i tō hoa rangatira a Mark āna kupu whakaari? Tērā pea kei te whakararuraru koe i te tatari roa. Ahakoa kāore e taea e mātou te kī atu ki a koe he aha tāna e mahi ai, ka taea e mātou te āwhina i a koe ki te whakatau i tētahi whakatau whai whakaaro i runga i ēnei tohu ka whakarērea e ia tana wahine māu. Pānuihia tonu kia kitea ai:
1. Kāore he whakamāramatanga
Me pēhea te mōhio mēnā ka whakarērea e ia tana wahine māu? Mā te tirotiro i ana whanonga. Ki te kore tō tāne e pai ki ngā whakamārama koretake me ngā whakamārama iti noa iho, ka taea e koe te whakawhirinaki ki a ia. E kore rawa ia e pupuri i a koe i a ia e ngana ana ki te whakahaere i te marena. Ehara tēnei i te mea he whanaungatanga hoa-kōtiro ki a ia, ā, ehara rawa te noho hei kaitākaro i tana momo mahi.
I tētahi atu taha, ki te mea ko tāu tāne te momo tangata e whakakore tonu ana i te rā tahi me koe nā runga i ngā "raruraru whānau," me tūpato pea koe. Ahakoa e oati tonu ana ia mō te heke mai ki a koe, ka kite koe i ētahi tohu kei te moe tonu ia me tana wahine. Ahakoa e kī tonu ana ia kei te tata te whakarere, kāore koe e kite i tetahi mea e tutuki ana. I te mutunga o te rā, ka waiho koe e whakaaro ana, "Me pēhea ia e whakarērea ai tana wahine?"
Ko te tāne kua moe tāne, e hiahia ana ki te whakamutu i ngā mea, e kore e akiaki tonu i ngā whakataunga uaua. Ka rite tonu ngā mea ki te rārangi, ā, e kore rawa koe e rongo i a ia e kī ana, "Kua mau rawa ahau ki te tirotiro i tēnei mea, e hine."."Kia mahara ki ngā kupu a Benjamin Franklin: "Ko te tangata e pai ana ki te rapu whakamārama, kāore i te pai mō tetahi atu mea."
2. Te raruraru tonu i roto i te pararaiha (rūpahu)
Ki te kore ngā āhuatanga o te whare e pai haere ana, tera pea kua tae te marena ki tōna mutunga tūturu. Kāore ia e ngana ana ki te takaro i tana wahine me koe i te wā kotahi. Ā, ko te raruraru, ehara i te mea ko ngā kōrero tuarua mō ngā raruraru kua rongo koe i a ia. Kua kite koe i a ia e tautohetohe ana i runga waea, e moe ana ia i runga i tō tūru, kei te whai wāhi ngā rōia, me ērā atu mea.
Ko ēnei pūmau ka puta te kino o ngā tautohetohe mō te whanaungatanga Ka tohaina e ia ki tana wahine. Kei te whakaoti rāua i te pāti. Nui atu tōna harikoa (kāore hoki i te ahotea) me koe i konei. Ka kite koe i te marena pouri e mahi ana, ā, he tohu katoa ēnei ka whakarērea e ia tana wahine mōu.
3. Ngā kaupapa matua mārama
Mena ko te oranga o tō hoa tāne te mea nui rawa atu (kaua ko te oranga o tana wahine), kāore he take e manukanuka ai koe. I tuhituhi tētahi kaiwhakamahi Instagram nō Dallas, "I kī tonu mai te iwi ki ahau kāore he mea e whakarērea ai e te tangata tana wahine. Engari i mōhio ahau he nui tana aroha ki ahau mai i te rā tuatahi. Mena he taupatupatu i waenga i tētahi mea me mahi e ia mā tana wahine (o mua) me tētahi mea māku, ko au te mea tika."
"Kāore rawa au i whakapono ki te hoatu i tētahi ultimatum ki tētahi tāne kua mārenatia, ā, kāore rawa au i hiahia ki te takaro i ngā kēmu hinengaro ki a ia. Mō māua, i pai ngā mea katoa. Ki te pono tana kōrero ki a koe, ka kite koe i ngā tohu katoa ka whakarērea e ia tana wahine māu, ahakoa kāore ia e ngana."
Kei te kite koe i tāna e kī nei? Ki te mea me hoki wawe ia ki te kāinga i runga i te tono iti a tana wahine, me whakaaroaro nui koe ki tō kōrua tūnga. Tērā pea ka waiho koe e ia kia noho mangere, kia kore e kōrero.
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4. Ngā mahere raima
He tino ātaahua te tangata whai mahere. Ā, he tangata pono ia. Ina rapu koe i ngā tohu ka whakarērea e ia tana wahine māu, arotahi ki ngā mahere e mahia ana e ia mā kōrua. Kāore au e kōrero ana mō ngā mahere tina. He aha tana tirohanga roa? Kei hea ia e kite ana i a kōrua e haere ana? He aha ētahi? tohu hononga kua whakatakotoria e ia?
Tērā pea kei te kōrero ia mō te hoko whare tahi, te hoko rānei i tētahi mōkai. Mēnā kei te tino harikoa ia mō tō kōrua heke mai, he tohu pai tēnei. E whakaatu ana tēnei kei te piripono ia ki te whanaungatanga me koe. Mā tēnei huarahi pai rawa atu ka mōhio ia mēnā ka whakarērea e ia tana wahine mōu.
5. He nui atu i te taatai noa iho
Ko ngā tatauranga e pā ana ki te tokomaha o ngā tāne i whakarērea ā rātou wāhine e tohu ana i ngā mahi moepuku noa iho. Mena he nui ake te whanaungatanga o tō hoa rangatira ki te tāne kua mārenatia i te whanaungatanga tinana, ka taea e koe te okioki. Ka kitea tana haumi kare ā-roto i roto i ana mahi me ana whanonga. Ko ngā tohu whakaaro nui, te tautoko me ētahi atu āhuatanga hauora ka noho hei mea noa i ia rā.
Heoi, kia waiho te kōrero a tēnei kaipānui hei whakatūpato: "I tino whakaaro ahau kei te pirangi ia ki ahau nā te mea he tawhiti rawa atu i te whanaungatanga kore hereI whakaaro hē ahau ka piri ia. Engari kāore ia i whakarērea tana wahine māku. Kei te noho tahi tonu rāua. E pouri ana ahau mō taku moe tahi me ia, me te tumanako tonu ki te huringa.
Kia mārama koe ki te rerekētanga i waenga i te whanaungatanga moepuku noa me te whanaungatanga e hipa ana i te hiahia nui. Kaua e rite ki te hunga e karanga ana, "I a māua e moe ana, ka mea ia ka whakarērea e ia tana wahine māku, engari kāore e whai ake i tana kōrero!" He mea nui kia mārama koe ki tōna aroha ki a koe, kia puta ai te whakautu ki a koe, "Ka whakarērea rānei e ia tana wahine māku?"
6. Ko wai te mea ngaro? Ehara i a koe, he pono
Anei tētahi o ngā tohu nui rawa atu ka whakarērea e ia tana wahine māu. I ngā wāhanga tuatahi o te moe tāne, ka noho puku ngā mea nā te wehi kei mau. Engari ina tino hiahia ia ki tō kōrua whanaungatanga, ka nui ake tōna ngākau māhaki ki te whakapuaki i tōna whakaaro. Tērā pea kua whakamōhiotia koe ki ōna hoa, ki ōna hoa mahi rānei.
I ētahi wā, e mōhio ana te wahine ki te hoa moe tāne. He mārama te āhua o tēnei katoa: kei te tuku ia i te iwi kia taunga ki te titiro ki a kōrua hei tokorua. He rite tonu tēnei ki te whakatakoto i te turanga i mua i te wehenga. Tērā pea ka puta ngā kōrero mōna, engari kāore ia e aro ki tētahi atu mea engari ko tō kōrua whanaungatanga anake. Tērā pea ko tētahi o ngā tohu kei roto kōrua i tētahi āhua pōuri. whanaungatanga nui.
I te mea ka memeha haere te whakawhitiwhiti kōrero ki tana wahine, ā, kua wehe kē rāua ināianei, ka maia ake ia ki te kitea i te aroaro o te marea me koe. Ae, i ētahi wā, mā te mahi pera ka whakararu pea i te tukanga whakarere, engari ka kite koe i a ia e tango ana i ngā mōrearea nui atu i te nuinga o te wā. Ki te tupu tēnei, kāore koe e hiahia ki te rapu i ētahi atu tohu ka whakarērea e ia tana wahine mōu.
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7. Te pono me te ngākau pono
He ataahua te tuhituhi a Brigham Young, "Ka puta ngā mahi pono i roto i ngā ngākau pono." He manaakitanga nā te Atua te hoa e pai ana te kōrero. Ka noho pono tāu tāne ki a koe mēnā he pono ia ki a koe. Ka mōhio tonu koe ki ngā mahi o tana marena me ētahi atu āhuatanga o te ao. Kāore ia e huna i ngā kōrero i a koe nā te mea he mea nui te mārama ki te hoa aroha.
Ko ngā whakaaro pēnei i te, "Ka whakarērea e ia tana wahine māku?", "E mea ana ia ka whakarērea e ia tana wahine māku, engari ka taea e au te whakawhirinaki ki a ia?" e kore e puta i roto i tō hinengaro mēnā he pono tonu ia ki a koe mō āna e hiahia ana. Ka whakapuaki mārama tō tāne i ōna kare ā-roto, ā, ko ia tonu tōna tino tangata pono i a koe. Kāore he tinihanga, kāore he kōrero teka.
Māna e kōrero ki a koe tōna aroha ki a koe, me āna mahere; he aha tāna e wehi ai, me ngā mea e kore e taea e ia te tatari ki te mahi tahi me koe. E kore rawa koe e rongo te koretake o te whanaungatanga mō tō tūranga rānei i roto i tōna ao. Ki te kore ēnei e tohu ka whakarērea e ia tana wahine mōu, he aha rā?
8. Te take tamariki
E ai ki te whakaaro tika, he nui ake te tūponotanga ka whakarērea e te tāne tana wahine mēnā kāore ā rāua tamariki. Ka piki ake ngā whakaaro kare ā-roto i te rau ngā wā ina he tamaiti kei roto i te pikitia. Kāore he mātua e hiahia ana ki te tuku i tā rāua tamaiti ki roto i tēnei raruraru; ka pā te whakarere ki ngā tamariki i roto i ngā huarahi maha e mau tonu ana. Ehara i te mea ngāwari te tapahi i ngā here ina he pāpā koe.
Engari, ki te whakatau tō tāne ki te whakataurite i ngā tūranga o te matua pai me te hoa pai (ki a koe), tera pea ka whakaurua koe e ia ki tana tamaiti. Koinei te tohu pai rawa atu mō tōna hiranga ki te whanaungatanga. Ae, me taunga pea koe ki ētahi mea, engari kāore koe e manukanuka ki te hoatu i tētahi kupu whakamutunga ki te tāne kua marenatia mēnā kua whakaurua koe e ia ki tana tamaiti.
9. Whakatūpato hoa paitini
Ka tino peia e te hoa rangatira e kore e manawanui tāu tāne i roto i tana marena. Kāore e pumau te whanaungatanga e tukino ana tetahi i tetahi, e whakahaere ana, e whakakino ana i tetahi atu. Mena kei te pāngia tāu tāne e te raruraru tonu, me te te amuamu a tana wahine i ia rā, i ia rā, ka momotu wawe ia i ngā hononga katoa. Tērā pea ka ngenge rawa te tangata, tika?
He rerekē, ka āhua hauora ake, ka ōrite, ka aroha hoki te whanaungatanga o kōrua. Tērā pea ka puta ake tēnei whakataurite ki tōna hinengaro i tētahi wā. Ka nui ake tōna whakaute ki a koe i ia rā, i ia rā. I ētahi wā, nā te kino o te noho kāinga ka whakarērea e te tāne tana wahine.
Ki te mea kei roto koe i tētahi āhuatanga e kite ana koe he tino kino te riri o tana hoa ki a ia, kaua e mau tonu ki ngā whakaaro pēnei i te, "Ka whakarērea e ia tana wahine mōku?" me te, "Me pēhea te mea kia whakarērea e ia tana wahine mōku?" Ko tāu noa he tuku i tētahi ara ki a ia, ā, ki te kore ia e hanga i tētahi whanaungatanga whakawhirinaki-tahi kino ki a ia, ka tino kite ia he pai te tūhura i te tarutaru i tērā taha.
10. Kaua e whakapuru i te mowhiti ki runga
Kei roto i ngā taipitopito katoa. Ina mutu te whakapau kaha a te tāne ki te mahi i ngā mea iti rawa (tohu), kua mutu tana marena. Ko tētahi o ngā tohu tino nui e whakarērea ana e ia tana wahine mōu ko te kore e mau i te mowhiti marena. Kua rite ia ki te neke whakamua i roto i tōna ao, ā, kāore te ao o mua e whakahaere ana i a ia. Kua herea ia e te hinengaro me te kare ā-roto i tana marena - kāore e aukati i a ia.
Ki te tirohia ngā tohu kei te moe tonu ia me tana wahine, ko te tango i tana mowhiti marena he ritenga kē atu tēnā. Ka taea e koe te pātai atu ki a ia he aha i tangohia ai e ia, ā, ki te whai ia i te pito whitu o tēnei tuhinga, ka whakamārama tika ia i te tikanga o tēnei tohu.
11. Tūtaki ki ngā mātua
He tohu pono o te whakapau kaha te whakamōhio i tō hoa aroha ki ō mātuaMena kua mōhio kē tō tāne ki ōna mātua, he tino nui tōna aroha ki a kōrua hei tokorua. Kua riro i a kōrua te mana o tana hoa rangatira mā te tūtaki ki te whānau. Kei te ahu whakamua ia ki tana wehenga, ā, kei te mōhio haere koe ki tana porowhita i tēnei wā.
He tohu raruraru kei te ngana rātou ki te huna i a koe i ngā kanohi o te ao. Engari he mahi pai te whakaatu i a koe hei hoa. He 10/10 rawa atu!
I te mutunga iho, kāore e tino whai hua ngā kupu tohutohu pēnei i te, "Ki te aroha ia ki a koe, ka whakarērea e ia tana wahine". Me taea e koe te kite i ngā tohu tūturu pēnei i ngā mea kua whakarārangihia i runga ake nei, ko reira anake ka taea ai e koe te okioki.
I pēhea koe i haere ai? Ki te mea kei te taha koe i ngā pauna, kei te hiahia mātou kia pai rawa atu tō oranga me ia. Koinei te wā ka whakaaro pea koe, "Āe, i whakarērea e ia tana wahine mōku, engari ka roa rānei?" Whakamarietia tō hinengaro tere nā te mea he kōrero anō tēnā mō tētahi atu rā.
Ki te mea kua kite koe kāore pea ia e whakarērea tana wahine mōu, manawa hōhonu. Ka pai koe. I ngā āhuatanga e rua, kia mahara ki te whakaaro nui ki ō hiahia me tō oranga tinana. Kia mau ki ngā rohe hauora ā, kaua e tukua kia whakahaerehia tō ao e tētahi whanaungatanga.
Kei a koe ngā tohu katoa e pā ana ki te whakarērea e ia tana wahine māu. Kāore he tangata hei whakakatakata i a koe, hei takaro rānei i a koe. Ko te mātauranga te mana, ā, he wahine whakamiharo koe.
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He tawhito ngā wheako o te tāne ki tana hoa rangatira, ā, he tino rerekē te momo whanaungatanga kei a ia ki tana wahine rangatira i te hononga e tohaina ana e ia ki tana wahine. Ahakoa e aroha ana ia ki a rāua tokorua, e kore rawa e taea e ia te aroha ki a rāua "rite". Ka rerekē te ahua o te aroha, te kaha rānei. Ko te rerekētanga kei ia tangata me ngā taurangi e pā ana.
Kia pono ki a ia mō ō tumanakohanga, ā, whakatenatenahia ia kia pono hoki ki āna e hiahia ana. Ki te mea kei te pēhia tonutia koe, kua tae pea te wā ki te wehe atu. Engari ki te mea kei te whai tonu ia i āna mahere, ā, kei te whakahaere i te āhuatanga, tukua kia haere tonu ngā mea. Pērā i te nuinga o ngā take i roto i tō horopaki, kāore he whakautu tuturu i konei. Tukua tō puku kia ārahi i te ara!
Ki te whakamahia koe e te tāne kua moe tāne, ka mōhio koe mēnā ehara i te mea parakore āna whakaaro ki a koe. He hononga moepuku anake tāna ki a koe, ā, e kore rawa ia e whakaraerae ki a koe. E kore ia e hiahia ki te hanga hononga kare ā-roto, ā, e kore rawa ia e kōrero mō te heke mai ki a koe.
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