He aha ngā tohu e whakaatu ana kei te aroha te tāne kua mārena ki a koe? Tērā pea ko tana reo tinana i a koe, ko te hanga hononga kare ā-roto, ko te whakaatu rānei i ngā kare ā-roto aroha. Ko te wero, kei te pai koe ki te aroha ki te tāne kua mārena? He maha ngā pātai hei whakaaroaro, nō reira, me tūhuratia tēnei kaupapa o ngā tohu e aroha ana te tāne kua mārena ki a koe.
He aha ngā tāne kua marenatia e takahuri ai ki ētahi atu wāhine?
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Ina taupatupatu ngā tāne kua moe i ngā kawenga nunui o te marena, ā, kāore e taea e rātou te aro atu, ka rapu huarahi mawhiti rātou, ā, ka mutu pea ka aroha ki tētahi atu wahine.
He maha ngā take e tinihanga ai ngā tāne kua marenatia .
- Tērā pea ka noho motumotu ō rātou kare ā-roto mai i ā rātou wāhine, ā, ka rapu rātou i te makona o te kare ā-roto i tētahi atu wāhi.
- Ko te tāne e rapu ana i tētahi hononga aroha i waho o tana marena, ehara i te mea mō ōna hiahia kāore anō kia tutuki, mō te whakaata rānei i tana whanaungatanga ki tana wahine.
- Ko ētahi tāne e hiahia ana kia arohia rātou, ā, e hiahia ana kia ea ō rātou hiahia nui mā te whai wāhi atu ki tētahi atu wahine.
Engari i roto i ēnei āhuatanga, he rite tonu te papaku o ō rātou kare ā-roto ki te wahine kē atu ki ō rātou hiahia, ā, he onge te wā ka aroha rātou ki a ia. Mēnā kei te aroha te tāne kua moe tāne ki a koe, tera pea nā tētahi o ēnei take:
- Tērā pea kei a koe ngā āhuatanga kāore i a tana wahine
- Tērā pea kei te meinga ia e koe kia tino ora anō
- Tērā pea kua whakahokia mai e koe tōna whakapono ki te aroha
- Tērā pea i tautoko koe i a ia i ōna wā uaua
- He hiahia kāore anō kia tutuki i a ia i roto i tana marena
- Tērā pea kei te rapu ia i tētahi tuakiri hou māu
Me whakahoki atu rānei koe i ōna kare ā-roto?
Ahakoa he aha ngā take, me pātai koe ki a koe anō ina aroha koe ki tētahi tāne kua mārenatia . Ae, kāore e taea e koe te whakahaere i te tangata e arohaina ana e koe, engari me mōhio koe ki tāu e uru atu ana.
- Ko te whakahoki i ōna kare ā-roto he whakarite i a koe anō mō ngā raruraru
- Ka tae mai ngā tāne kua moe tāne me ā rātou tueke nā tētahi atu wahine me te whānau i roto i te pikitia.
- Me aro atu koe ki te hara, ā, e kore e noho haumaru tonu koe i roto i te whanaungatanga
- Whakaarohia hoki ngā pānga matatika o āu mahi me te taumaha matatika o te "kaipahua kāinga"
- Tērā pea ka pāngia tō ingoa pāpori mēnā ka puta tēnei whanaungatanga.
Ki te mea ka whakararuraru i a koe, ina koa mēnā he tohu mārama kei te hiahia te tāne kua moe tāne ki a koe, me whakamārama atu ki a ia mai i te tīmatanga. Ahakoa kei te aroha ia ki a koe, ehara i te mea me whakaae koe ki a ia i tētahi ara mēnā kāore koe e hiahia ana. He mea nui te tū pakari i roto i ēnei āhuatanga uaua.
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Ka taea e te tāne kua moe te aroha ki tētahi atu wahine?
"Kei te aroha ahau ki tētahi tāne kua mārenatia, ā, kei te whakaaro ahau mēnā ka taea e ia te aroha ki ahau." Mena koinei te raruraru e raru ana koe, ko te whakautu poto ko te āe, ka taea e te tāne kua mārenatia te aroha ki tētahi atu wahine. Mō ngā take aroha, ehara i te mea pango me te mā tonu ngā mea. Ā, ka taea e te tangata te aroha ki tētahi atu tangata ina harikoa te marena.
E ai ki ngā tohunga, he kare ā-roto uaua te aroha, kāore e whai i te tūnga o te whanaungatanga, i ngā tikanga pāpori rānei. Ko te whanaketanga o ngā kare ā-roto aroha i waho o te marena, tērā pea nā ēnei mea:
- Nga take hototahi
- Te hononga kare ā-roto ki tētahi atu
- Te kore o te kare ā-roto i roto i te āhuatanga o nāianei
- He wahine kua kore e marenatia
- Te kukume ki tētahi atu wahine
- Te harikoa o te aroha hou
- Ngā hiahia, ngā wheako rānei e rite ana
Ahakoa te aroha ki tētahi atu wahine, kāore pea e tūpono te marena ki te kore ia e mahi i runga i ōna kare ā-roto. Engari he uaua tēnei nā te mea, he tangata, kei reira tonu te tūponotanga o te whakamatautauranga.
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12 Ngā Tohu e Aroha Ana Te Tāne Kua Mārena Ki A Koe
Tērā pea ka uaua ki te tāne kua mārena te whakapuaki i tōna aroha ki a koe nā te uaua o te āhuatanga, me te mōrearea pea o te whakapuaki i ōna kare ā-roto ki a ia, ka tūpono ia ki te pakaru o te marena . Ki te mea ia "Aroha ana ahau ki a koe", ko te tikanga kei te tino mōhio ia ki ōna kare ā-roto mōu, ā, e hiahia ana ia kia noho koe i roto i tōna ao. Engari tera pea ka roa pea ia ka tae ki te wā e taea ai e ia te kōrero pono mō ōna kare ā-roto.
Ki te mea kei te raru koe i te raruraru "Kei te aroha mai tētahi tāne kua moe tāne ki ahau, kei te nui rawa rānei taku whakaaro ki te āhuatanga?", anei ngā tohu 12 hei āwhina i a koe ki te mārama ki ngā mea e puta ana i roto i tōna hinengaro, me ōna kare ā-roto pono mōu.
1. Ka mihi ohorere atu ia ki a koe
Ko tētahi o ngā tohu e hiahia ana te tāne kua moe tāne ki a koe ko te nui o tana mihi ki a koe.
- He pai āna kōrero mō tō ātaahua
- Ka kitea hoki e ia ngā mea pēnei i tō āhua, tō ataahua, tō āhua kakahu, me ērā atu mea, inā koa i te wā kāore koe i te tino whakaaro.
- Ko tōna tikanga kei te aro nui ia ki a koe, ā, e hiahia ana kia mōhio koe ki tēnā
Ahakoa he ngawari noa iho ēnei mihi i te tīmatanga, ka āta haere pea ia ki te whakapuaki i ana mihi. Ā, ki te kite koe ko koe anake e whakamoemititia ana, me nui atu i te atawhai noa iho. Ko te tangata kua moe tāne e takaro ana ki a ia he tohu mārama anō hoki o te aroha ki a koe.
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2. He pai ki a ia te kōrero ki a koe
Ko te tāne kua mārenatia e pai ana ki a koe, e kore rawa ia e waiho i tētahi whai wāhi ki te kōrero ki a koe.
- Mai i ngā kiriata ki ngā mahi tōrangapū me ngā mea katoa i waenganui, te āhua nei kei te hiahia ia ki te tīmata kōrero mō ngā kaupapa maha.
- Ka ngana ia ki te tīmata kōrero mā te tuhinga i roto rānei i tō porowhita pāpori, i te mahi rānei
- Ka whakapau kaha ia ki te pupuri i tō aro ina tata koe ki a ia
E ai ki a Nora, he tohunga 28-tau te pakeke nō te umanga whakaputa pukapuka, koinei te huarahi i mōhio ai ia he aroha tō tētahi hoa mahi kua mārena ki a ia. "He tāne mārena e aroha ana ki ahau? I te tīmatanga he ahua koretake, ā, i wareware tonu ahau ki ngā tohu o te hiahia i waenganui i a māua tae noa ki tana tīmatanga ki te tono kia rapua ahau, kia rapu take hoki kia roa ake ai te wā e noho tahi ai māua. I te mutunga, ka uru māua ki tētahi whanaungatanga. Ina whaia koe e tētahi tāne mārena, ka kore e whai kiko tōna tūnga whanaungatanga. Heoi anō, ka kitea e koe he aroha hou i ngā wāhi tino rerekē," tana kī.
3. E ngana ana ia ki te aroturuki i tō oranga aroha
Ko tētahi o ngā tohu e aroha ana te tāne kua moe tāne ki a koe ko tana aro ki tōu ake oranga, inā koa tōu oranga aroha. Ko te āhua o tō whanaungatanga pea te mea tino nui ki a ia.
- Tērā pea kei te ngana ia ki te kimi i te wā tika hei whakapuaki i ōna kare ā-roto ki a koe
- Kei te hiahia rānei koe ki te aromatawai mēnā he wāhi kei a koe mōna i roto i tō ngākau me tō ao
- Mena kua whai tangata kē koe i roto i tō ao, tera pea ia hae ahakoa ehara ia i tō hoa rangatira
Ahakoa he rerekē ngā āhuatanga, ki te aroha tetahi tāne kua moe tāne ki a koe, ko ngā kōrero mō ō wheako whakaipoipo me te oranga aroha te mea nui o roto i ō taunekeneke ki a ia.
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4. Ka whakapuaki ia i ngā kōrero mō tōna oranga marena, ka mutu rānei tana mahi pera
Ka taea e koe te hura i ngā tohu e aroha ana te tāne kua mārena ki a koe mā te aro ki te āhua o tana kōrero mō tana marena.
- Tērā pea ka kōrero kino ia mō tana marena, kāore rānei e kōrero i tetahi mea
- Tērā pea ka kite koe kāore ia e mau ana i tana mowhiti marena ki a koe. Ko te tikanga o tēnei kei te whakaatu ia i tētahi tohu ki a koe kāore ia i te harikoa i roto i tōna oranga marena
- Kāore ia i te tino kawe i tana hoa rangatira ki ngā porowhita pāpori, ki ngā pāti tari, me ngā huihuinga.
- Ki te karo ia i te whakapuaki i ngā kōrero mō tōna oranga marena, tera pea kua taupokina ia e te hara, ā, e hiahia ana ia ki te wareware i te meka kua marena ia kia noho tahi ai ia me koe.
5. Ka whakapau kaha ia ki te āwhina i a koe
Ka taea hoki te huna i ngā tohu e aroha ana te tāne kua mārena ki a koe i roto i tana hiahia ki te āwhina. Kia puta ake ōna kare ā-roto mōu, ka puta tōna wairua toa . Ka whakapau kaha ia ki te āwhina i a koe ina pāngia koe e te raruraru. Ko te wairua toa e akiaki ana i a ia ki te mahi i ngā mea katoa hei āwhina i a koe, ko tētahi o ngā tohu e kitea ana he aroha tō te tāne kua mārena ki a koe.
6. E ngana ana ia ki te whakaatu i ngā āhuatanga ōrite i waenganui i a kōrua
Ko ētahi tohu e aroha ana te tāne kua moe tāne ki a koe ko tana tohu ko koe te momo kotiro e pai ana ki a ia, ā, he maha ngā āhuatanga ōrite o kōrua.
- Ki te ngana ia ki te kimi i ngā mea e pai ana ki a koe, e tino aroha ana ia ki a koe
- Ka whakatauritea e ia tēnei ki te meka kāore rawa he hononga o tana wahine ki a ia.
- Ehara i te mea ka ngana noa ia ki te mōhio ki ngā mea e pai ana ki a koe, engari tera pea ka aro atu ia ki ngā mea e ngākau nui ana koe ki ai.
Mā te kitenga atu i a ia e whakapau kaha ana, tera pea ka miharo koe. I mua i tō hinganga, me whakamahara atu mātou he uaua, he pōrearea hoki te haerenga o te moe tahi me te tāne kua mārenatia.
7. He tohu nui tōna reo tinana mō tōna aroha
Ki te aroha tetahi tāne kua moe tāne ki a koe, kāore pea ia e whakaae tika i ōna kare ā-roto engari mā tana reo tinana e whakaatu. Ko ngā tohu o te reo tinana e whakaatu ana i te hiahia ko:
- Kia mataku koe i tō taha
- Anga atu ki a koe i a koe e kōrero ana ki a koe
- Tohe kia titiro kanohi koe ki a koe
- Ataata mai ki a koe me te mea he mea nui koe ki a ia
- Ka whakapā atu ia ki te tinana i ngā wā katoa e taea ana e ia
He tohu anō hoki ēnei e hiahia ana te tāne kua moe tāne ki a koe.
8. Ka whakawātea ia i te wā māu
Ki te aroha mai tētahi tāne kua mārena ki a koe, ka hiahia ia kia noho tahi me koe.
- Mena kei te whakawātea ia i te wā māu i ngā wiki mutunga, i ngā hararei rānei, he mea nui koe ki a ia
- Ka taea e ia te whakarērea āna wānanga, āna hui ki tāwāhi, tana wā rānei ki te pae inu hei hoa mōu.
- Ina noho tahi ia me koe, ka whakapau kaha ia ki te whakarite kia noho humarie, kia harikoa hoki koe
"Nui rawa te piripono o taku hononga ki tētahi hoa mahi, ā, i kīia ahau e te katoa o te tari ko tana wahine mahi . Ka kī mai ētahi atu o aku hoa i te tari he kuware ahau ki te kore e kite i ngā tohu e whakaatu ana kei te aroha ia ki ahau. Kātahi, i tētahi rā, ka waea atu ahau mō te mate. Nō reira, ka haere ia i waenganui o te tāone, ka whiriwhiri kia ora i te whakamātautau o te waka o Niu Ioka i roto i te ua nui, kia kite noa i ahau. I taua wā, kāore e taea e au te wareware i te pono o tētahi tāne kua mārenatia e aroha ana ki ahau," te kī a Sophie, he kaimahi peeke.
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9. E ngana ana ia ki te whakapā atu ki a koe i ngā wā katoa
Ko tētahi o ngā tohu e aroha ana te tāne kua moe tāne ki a koe ko āna mahi ki te kōrero.
- Mā te whai wā ki te whakapā atu mā te karere kuputuhi, mā te waea rānei, e tohu ana he mea nui koe ki a ia, ā, e hiahia ana ia kia kitea tōna aroaro i roto i tō koiora.
- Ā, e tumanako ana ia kia whakahoki mai koe i tēnā
- Ki te kore koe e pena, tera pea ia e pouri, e mamae rānei mō taua mea
He tohu mārama tēnei e kitea ana e ia tō hiahia kia kaua e āwangawanga. Ina ngaro atu ia, tera pea ka tukuna atu e ia he koha hei kī atu kei te ngaro ia i a koe. Ina kī mai te tāne kua moe tāne kei te ngaro ia i a koe, he tohu mārire tana e hiahia ana kia noho tahi me koe.
10. E whakanuia ana e ia ō whakaaro
He nui te whakaute o te tāne kua moe tāne e pai ana ki a koe ki ō whakaaro. E hiahia ana ia ki te mōhio me te mārama ki ō tirohanga ki ngā mea, ā, koia pea koe ka kite ai kei te rapu ia i ō whakaaro mō ngā āhuatanga rerekē o tōna ao. I taua wā anō, ka ngana pea ia ki te aromatawai i ō tirohanga mō ngā kaupapa pēnei i te marena, te tinihanga, me te aroha, kia kite ai mēnā ka taea e te kare ā-roto kua puritia e ia mōu te arahi ki tētahi mea nui ake i waenganui i a kōrua.
11. He tino pai tana whanonga i a ia e tata ana ki a koe
Ka kitea ngā tohu e aroha ana te tāne kua moe tāne ki a koe i roto i ana whanonga i a koe e noho tahi ana me ia.
- He tangata rangatira tino tika ia mōu? E ngana ana ia ki te whakaatu i tōna ataahua, i tōna toa hoki?
- Ka whakapau kaha ia ki te whakakata i a koe? Mena āe, koinei ngā tohu mārama e hiahia ana ia ki te miharo koe
- Ka meatia tēnei e ia kia kite ai koe i a ia he tangata whakamere, ahurei hoki, kaua hei tangata kua moe tāne, kua moe wahine hoki.
Mena kei te whakapau kaha ia ki te whakaatu i tōna taha pai ki a koe, ka taea e koe te tatau i tēnei hei tohu e aroha ana te tāne kua moe tāne ki a koe. Kāore he take kē atu māna e whakapau kaha ai ki te waiho i tōna ingoa ki tō aroaro, ina kī tonu ana mahi me ana kawenga kāinga.
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12. He kaha tō whakaaro mō tōna aroha
I roto i tō ngākau, he kaha te whakaaro kei te aroha te tāne kua mārena ki a koe. Ka taea e koe te tinihanga tonu i a koe anō mā te kī he aroha noa ia ki a koe nā te mea he hoa koe nāna, engari ko te mea pono he pai ia ki a koe, ā, e kore e taea e koe te whakakahore tonu. He uaua tēnei nā te mea kāore he aratohu whakatau hoa mō te tāne kua mārena.
Heoi, ki te whakaaro koe ki te whakamātau i tētahi hononga, me mahi haumaru, ka whakaipoipo i tētahi tāne kua mārenatia, kaua e whara . Ka taea e te tāne kua mārenatia te aroha nui ki a koe, engari he uaua te whanaungatanga ki a ia.
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Mā te mōhio kei te aroha pea tētahi tāne kua mārenatia ki a koe ka ara ake ngā kare ā-roto kaha pērā i te whakamana, te pōhēhē, te tumanako, te hara, tae noa ki te wehi. He ngāwari te whakaware i a koe ki te whakamārama i ngā tohu, engari ko te mea tino nui ko te āhua o tāu whakautu. Ko ngā mahi e whai ake nei me mātua pakeke ngā kare ā-roto, te māramatanga, me te mōhio ki ngā tikanga matatika.
1. Whakaroahia te tere, ā, tirohia te āhuatanga me te kore whakaaro nui
Ka taea e ngā kare ā-roto kaha te whakapohehe i te tirohanga. I mua i te whakaaro aroha, hoki whakamuri, ka arotake i te tauira o tana whanonga.
- Rapua te pumau i roto i te wā, kaua te kaha i ngā wā takitahi. He pumau te aroha, ā, he mea e taea te matapae, ehara i te mea he wā poto, he wā ā-wā rānei.
- Pātai atu ki a koe anō mēnā he whakaata pono tana whanonga whakawhanaungatanga kare-a-roto he rapu whakamarie noa iho rānei i te wā uaua o tana marena
- Mātakitaki mēnā ka piki ake tōna hiahia ina pōuri ia, ina mokemoke, ina kore rānei e makona i te kāinga; he tohu pea tēnei i te whakawhirinakitanga kare ā-roto, kaua i te aroha.
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2. Kia mārama ki ō ake rohe kare ā-roto i te tuatahi
I mua i te kōrero ki a ia, i te whakatau rānei, me mārama koe i roto i a koe anō.
- Pātai atu ki a koe anō he aha tāu e tino tumanako ana; he piripono ā-hinengaro, he whanaungatanga ā muri ake nei, he whakamanatanga, he hoa noa iho rānei
- Whakaarohia mēnā kei te whakaae koe ki te koretake o te whakaaro nā te mea he ahua koretake te tū atu ki te pono
- Kia pono ki tōu kore-whakawhitiwhiti: mā te huna, te tatari roa, te noho tuarua rānei i ngā kare ā-roto ka taea te whakaiti i te mana o te tangata
Ina tautuhia e koe ō rohe ā-roto, he iti ake te tūponotanga ka toia koe ki roto i tētahi āhuatanga e whakararu haere ana i tō hauora kare ā-roto.
3. Aromatawai mēnā he kawenga ā-hinengaro tōna
Ko tētahi o ngā tohu matatika tino mārama ko te whakaae ia ki te kawenga mō āna whiringa oranga. Ko ētahi o ngā tohu hauora ko:
- E whakaae ana ia ki tana marena me te kore e whakaiti, e whakamārama rānei i te piripono o te ngākau ki a koe
- Ka karo ia i te whakaatu i a ia anō he patunga nā ngā āhuatanga, nā tana hoa rangatira rānei
- Kāore ia e whakawhirinaki ana ki a koe kia tūtaki ai hiahia aronganui kāore ia i kōrero i roto i tana marena
I tetahi atu taha, koinei ētahi o ngā tohu āwangawanga:
- Ka whakamahia e ia te whanaungatanga piripono hei mawhiti, kaua hei whakatau i tōna ao tūturu
- E kōrero ana ia mō te aroha, engari kāore e whakatau ana i ngā whakataunga e whakaata ana i te kawenga
- Ka pēhi mārire ia i a koe kia "mārama" kia "tatari" rānei
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4. Whakatauhia mēnā he mea tika kia kōrero tika
Mena kei te pāngia koe e te āhua o te nekehanga hinengaro, he mea nui te māramatanga. Me whai kōrero whakaaroaro pea hei whakatakoto i ngā rohe kare ā-roto , hei whakapuaki hoki i ō tumanakohanga.
- Ka taea e koe te kōrero mārie me pēhea te pānga o te āhuatanga ki a koe
- Ka taea e koe te whakamārama he aha koe, he aha hoki ngā mea kāore e pai ana ki a koe kia haere tonu
- Ka taea e koe te tono kia mārama, kāore he whakahau whakamutunga
Kia tino aro ki tana whakautu. Ko te whakarongo me te whakaute, te pakeketanga o ngā kare ā-roto, me te whakaae ki ngā rohe he mea nui ake i ngā kupu aroha.
5. Whakaarohia ngā pānga matatika
Ahakoa he pono ngā kare ā-roto, he mea nui tonu te horopaki.
- He herenga tō te marena, he oranga tahi, ā, he maha ngā wā ka puta he tamariki, ahakoa te taumahatanga.
- Hononga aronganui i waho o te marena ka pā he kino nui, he maha ngā wā kāore e kitea
- E tika ana kia whiwhi koe i tētahi whanaungatanga e tūwhera ana, kāore he mea huna, he hara, he taupatupatu matatika rānei.
6. Tiakina koe i te raruraru o ngā kare ā-roto
He tokomaha te hunga kāore e hiahia ana ki te whai wāhi nui atu, engari ka taea e te piriponotanga o ngā kare ā-roto te tipu mārire. Hei tiaki i a koe anō:
- Kaua e waiho hei pūnaha tautoko kare ā-roto matua māna
- Whakaitihia ngā kōrerorero whaiaro hohonu i te pō, e whakapiki ana i te hononga kare ā-roto
- Kia mau tonu ki ō ake hoahoa, ki ō mahinga, me ō tumanakohanga aroha
Ki te tīmata tō oranga ngākau ki te whakawhirinaki ki tōna wātea mai, ki tōna wairua rānei, he tohu tēnā kua kino haere te āhua.
7. Kia mōhio ko tehea te kōwhiringa hauora mō te wehe atu
- E whakapuaki ana ia i ngā kare ā-roto kaha engari e karo ana i te whakatau i ngā whakataunga o te ao tūturu
- Kei te huna koe, kei te manukanuka, kei te noho puku rānei tō hinengaro
- Ka whakaroahia tonutia ō hiahia "kia huri rā anō ngā mea"
| Waitohu | He aha pea te tikanga | He aha te mahi |
| 1. Ka mihi ohorere atu ia ki a koe | E kite ana ia i a koe i tua atu i te āhua hoa noa, ā, tērā pea ka kukumea ia e tō aroaro. Tērā pea ka tīmata ngā mihi mārie, ka huri hei mea tika ake. | • Mātakitaki i te horopaki: He rite tonu ngā mihi, he wā rānei e pāngia ana ia e te kare ā-roto? Pupuri rohe: Whakaaetia me te ngākau māhaki engari kaua e akiaki i te whakamoemiti whaiaro rawa Tirohia te whāinga: Kaua ngā mihi e whakakapi i te whakawhitiwhiti kōrero whai kiko |
| 2. He pai ki a ia te kōrero ki a koe | Mā te kōrero pinepine, mā te tuku karere kuputuhi, mā te kanohi ki te kanohi, mā te whai pānga rānei, ka taea te tohu i te hiahia nui ake. | • Taurite pānui: Ko koe, ko ia rānei te mea e kōrero ana ia mōu anake? Aratakihia ngā kōrero ki ngā kaupapa whānui: Kaua e tukua kia taumaha rawa te kare ā-roto• Kia mau ki te mōhio ki a koe anō: Ngā kōrero ā-hinengaro e whakapakari ake ana i te piripono |
| 3. Ka aroturukihia e ia tō oranga aroha | Kei te ine pea ia i tō wātea, i tō hiahia rānei, he tohu pea tēnei i te hiahia aroha. | • Kia mārama tō tūnga: Ki te mea he hoa tāu, me whakapuaki wawe mai• Kaua e nui rawa te tohatoha: Tiakina tō tūmataitinga whaiaro me tō tūmataitinga kare ā-roto |
| 4. Ka whakapuaki ia i ngā kōrero mō tōna oranga marena, ka karo rānei i aua kōrero | Mā te nui rawa o te whakapuaki whakaaro ka tohu pea i te kore makona; mā te karo ka tohu pea i te hara, i te wehewehe rānei. | • Kia mārama: Āta karohia ngā āhuatanga e whakaitihia ana, e pehia ana rānei te marena• Whakahauhia te pono: Pātai tika engari mārire mō tōna oranga me āna herenga |
| 5. Ka whakapau kaha ia ki te āwhina i a koe | He tautoko pea ngā whanonga āwhina, engari i roto i te horopaki, tera pea he tohu i te haumitanga kare ā-roto hohonu ake. | • Te wehewehe i te āwhina me te tuku mahi ki waho mō ngā kare ā-roto: Kaua te tautoko e whakakapi i ngā otinga o te ao tūturu• Kia mau tonu te tauutuutu: Kia kaua te āwhina e taha kotahi, e pau rānei i te kare ā-roto |
| 6. E whakaatu ana ia i ngā āhuatanga ōrite i waenganui i a kōrua | Ko te tohu i ngā hiahia ōrite he huarahi pea hei whakatipu i te piripono o ngā kare ā-roto. | • Kia tūpato ki te whai i ngā whakaaro whānui: He mea noa ngā hiahia ōrite i roto i ngā whakahoahoa, engari kaua e whakanui wawe i te whanaungatanga• Tautuhia ngā kaupapa: Kia taurite ngā taunekeneke, kaua e noho piripono noa iho ki ngā kare ā-roto |
| 7. E whakaatu ana tōna reo tinana i te kukume | Ko te manukanuka, te piko atu, te titiro kanohi roa, te menemene pinepine, te pā atu rānei, he tohu pea tēnei i te hiahia aroha, i te hiahia ā-ira tangata rānei. | • Kia āta mātakitaki i ngā tohu kore-waha: Ka taea e te reo tinana te whakaatu i te kukume engari i te manukanuka, i te ngākau māhaki rānei Whakautuhia kia tika: Kia noho whakamarie ngā taunekeneke engari kia noho koretake mēnā kei te hiahia koe ki te whakawhāiti i te koretake |
| 8. Ka whakawātea ia i te wā māu | Ko te whiriwhiri ki te noho tahi me koe i te wā waatea e tohu ana i te hiahia nui atu i te herenga. | • Ngā tauira pānui: He rite tonu ngā mahere, he wā rānei e wātea ana ki a ia? Tiakina tō kaupapa: Kia mau ki ō ake mahinga me tō oranga pāpori |
| 9. Ka ngana ia ki te noho whakapā atu i ngā wā katoa | Mā te maha o ngā karere/waea ka tohu pea kei te hiahia ia kia noho hono tonu ngā kare ā-roto. | • Aroturuki i te auau me te oro: Kaua te wātea o ngā kare ā-roto e whakawhirinaki ki āna urupare• Ngā rohe whakawhitiwhiti kōrero: Whakatauritehia te urupare ki ō rohe |
| 10. E whakanuia ana e ia ō whakaaro | Ko te rapu whakaaro mō ngā whakataunga o te ao, mō ngā kare ā-roto rānei, he whakaatu i te haumi ki ngā kare ā-roto, engari ka taea hoki te tinihanga. | • Arotakehia te pono: He tino hiahia ia ki ō whakaaro, he ngana rānei ki te āwhina i a koe? Kia mau tonu: Tukuna mai ō whakaaro me te kore e nui rawa te whakapau kaha ki te taha kare ā-roto |
| 11. He tino pai tana whanonga i a koe e noho tahi ana me ia | Ko te ngana ki te miharo, tera pea he whakaata i te kukume. Tērā pea he mahi, ehara i te pono. | • Te wehewehe i te ataahua mai i te matū: Kei roto i te hononga pono te ngoikore, ehara i te mea ko ngā wā tino tika anake• Kia mau tonu ngā tumanakohanga ki te ao tūturu: Ka whakaatu te tangata i a rātou anō i te tuatahi; kia mau tonu te auau i roto i te wā |
| 12. He kaha tō whakaaro mō tōna aroha | Tērā pea ka whakatūpatohia koe e te pūmanawa ā-roto ki ngā tauira ngaro, engari ka taea hoki e te hiahia, te tumanako rānei te awe. | • Whakamanahia te wairua mā roto i ngā meka: Tirohia ngā au whanonga, kaua ko ngā kare ā-roto anake• Tikina he tirohanga: Kōrero ki ngā hoa pono, ki tētahi kaiako rānei hei whakamātautau i ō whakamāramatanga |
FAQs
He maha ngā tohu e whakaatu ana i te hiahia ka taea e koe te kite ngāwari mēnā he pai ki a koe te tāne. Ka pā anō ēnei tohu ina hiahia te tāne kua mārena ki a koe. Ko ngā tohu rongonui ko te titiro mai ki a koe i ia wā, te titiro kanohi roa, me te whakapau kaha ki te āwhina i a koe.
Tāne, wāhine rānei - e hiahia ana te katoa ki te aroha me te ngākau aroha. Ka taea e te tāne kua moe tāne te kukume ki tētahi atu wahine, ā, he mea maori noa iho. Heoi, ka raru pea ngā āhuatanga mena ka tīmata te kukume ki te pā ki te tapu o te whanaungatanga, o te marena rānei. I ētahi wā, ka huri tēnei kukume hei aroha - ahakoa i tīmata katoa i te takaro noa i whakakahangia e te hiahia. Ko te koretake o te marena o nāianei ka meinga te tāne kua moe tāne kia aroha ki tētahi atu wahine.
Kua ngana koe ki te pātai ki a ia he aha tā kōrua e kōrero tahi ana? Kei te karo ia i te pātai? Kei te kino ia ki te noho tahi me ō hoa, ā, kāore anō ia kia kī mai ko ia tana hoa wahine? Kei te kite koe i a koe anō i roto i āna mahere ā muri ake nei, he moepuku anake rānei āna mahere ki a koe? Kei a koe āu whakautu.
Tohutohu Matua
- Ko tētahi o ngā tohu e hiahia ana te tāne kua mārena ki a koe ko te whakamihi tonu mō tō āhua. Ko te tāne kua mārena e takaro ana, e titiro kanohi ana, me te ngana tonu ki te whakapā atu ki te tinana, ko ētahi atu tohu anō hoki.
- Kia tūpato ina kī mai te tāne kua mārenatia "Kei te aroha ahau ki a koe". He uaua te aroha ki te tāne kua mārenatia, inā koa mēnā he hononga kare ā-roto tō kōrua, he kaha rawa rānei ō kare ā-roto. Me whiriwhiri tika, nā te mea kāore koe e hiahia kia whakama koe nā te mea ko koe te take o te korenga o te marena.
- Ko te aratohu mō tētahi tāne kua mārenatia e whakaipoipo ana ki tētahi atu wahine me whai kōrero pono, kōrero tuwhera, me te ngākau pono. Me whai whakaaro koe ki te oranga o ngā rōpū katoa e whai wāhi ana.
- Mena kei te uaua ki a koe te mahi tahi me tētahi tāne kua mārenatia, rapua he āwhina ngaio mai i tētahi kaiako whanaungatanga whaimana.
Thoughts Final
Ka taea e te tāne kua mārena te aroha ki tētahi atu wahine. Hei wahine, ka taea hoki te whakawhanake i ngā kare ā-roto ki tētahi tāne kua mārena. Mai i ōku ake wheako, he mea whakahihiri tonu te aroha hou, engari kāore i te tika i ngā wā katoa. He uaua pea te whakatere i te whanaungatanga nā te mea kāore he aratohu ki te ngākau, ki te oranga rānei o tētahi tāne kua mārena. He rōpū kē atu kei roto, ā, he mea nui kia whai whakaaro ki a rātou. Kāore hoki he kupu whakaari mō tētahi whanaungatanga roa nā te mea kei reira tētahi atu kei roto i te āhuatanga o nāianei. Me kōrero pono, tuwhera hoki ki a koe anō i mua i te neke.
Me pēhea te wareware i tētahi tāne kua mārenatia e hiahia ana ahau ki a ia?
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Ki te hiahia koe ki te pānui i te tuhinga i ētahi atu reo, pāwhiritia ki konei hei tūhura i ngā tuhinga e tukuna ana i te reo Turkish.
Ehara tō takoha i te koha aroha . Mā tēnei ka taea e Bonobology te kawe tonu mai i ngā mōhiotanga hou me ngā mōhiotanga hou ki a koe i roto i tā mātou whainga ki te āwhina i te tangata o te ao ki te ako me pēhea te mahi i tetahi mea.
Me whai wāhi ngā tāne marena whakahihi, ā-roto hoki ki tētahi "haram" o ngā wāhine hei whāngai i ō rātou whakapehapeha ngoikore. Tērā pea ehara ko koe anake te wahine e mahi tahi ana rāua. Tērā pea kei te whakapā atu ia ki tētahi i aroha ai ia ki a ia i te kura tuarua. Ko tana wahine tana kaiwhakarato matua, ā, i whiriwhiria ia e ia hei wahine māna nā te mea he nui tonu te aroha, te whakawhirinaki, me te tautoko i a ia. Ko koe, te hoa taha, te pūtake tārua. He rite koe ki tētahi kai paramanawa, he tere, he makona mō te wā poto, ā, ko tana wahine te kai mīti, ā, ka noho tonu. He tere, he watea hoki koe, pērā i tētahi toa taraiwa-ā-roto, i tētahi toa hokomaha rānei. Tērā pea ka toro atu ia ki a koe i ngā wā katoa, engari he iti tō uara, he nui te uara o tana wahine. I moe ia i ngā wāhine utu nui, ā, i whakamahi i ngā wāhine utu iti. Kia mōhio koe ki tō uara, kia kore ai he tāne e kore e taea te mea kāore koe e tika. Tirohia tō utu, kaua e whakaatu i a koe anō he wahine whakaheke utu.
Āe, e koa ana ahau i kōrero ahau i aku rohe. He nui te rerekētanga i puta, i whiwhi ahau i ngā mihi, engari kāore ia i pera me tētahi atu i te taha, ā, i pā tonu ia ki tōku ringa i ngā wā katoa. He onge hoki tana whakautu mai i aku karere ahakoa he ngaio.
He uaua, engari he mea tika kia kōrerotia ōku rohe, ā, me mahi tēnei mea, ki te kore kua haere tonu.
He pono ngā tohu katoa kua pānuihia e au i konei. Ko te tāne kua moe tāne, ā, he moe tāne kei waho o te marena, he tohu kei te hapa tetahi mea i roto i tana marena. Me hiahia ngā tāne ki taua hononga kare ā-roto, ā-tinana hoki. E hiahia ana hoki rātou kia pārekareka ki ō rātou whakapehapeha kia rite ai rātou ki te tāne. Ahakoa kua moe tāne, ahakoa kāore, he rite tonu ngā hiahia o te tāne ki te wahine. Ina kitea e te tāne kua moe tāne tētahi e whakarongo pono ana ki āna kōrero, e kata ana ki āna katakata, e rite ana rānei ki tēnei tangata, ka pai tōna ngākau. Ka hiahia ia kia pai ake tana mōhio ki a ia.
I tīmata taku wheako me tētahi tāne kua mārenatia i ngā tau 12 ki muri. He takakau ahau, ā, kāore au i te harikoa ki ngā tāne kua noho tahi māua.. Tae noa ki tētahi rā ka tūtaki ahau ki 'tēnei tangata'. Tekau mā ono tau te pakeke ake i ahau. I a māua e kōrero ana, i kī mai ia kua mārenatia ia, ā, kāore rāua ko tana wahine i roa e piripono ana tetahi ki tetahi, nā te mea he pakeke ake ia i a ia. Kāore au i te mōhio me pēhea te whakaaro, nō reira, ka whakatau māua kia tūtaki. He rangatira tino pai ia, i whakatuwherahia e ia te tatau mōku, ā, i homai e ia ki ahau he tekau mā rua ngā rōhi roa. I tino miharo ahau. I kai māua i tētahi wharekai pai, i te tīmatanga he ahua whakamā, engari i te mutunga ka tīmata māua he kōrero, ā, ka puta tētahi mea ki tētahi atu. Ko ia anake te tāne i atawhai i ahau me te whakaute... mai i taua rā ka whakatau māua kia kite tetahi i tetahi. Tekau mā rua tau i muri mai, kei te kite tonu māua. Kua tipu tō māua whanaungatanga hei mea nui atu i te taatai noa iho... i aroha māua!
Kāore au e tono ana kia whakarērea e ia tana wahine nā te mea ehara tēnā i te kōwhiringa. Ko te mea pai mō tēnei whanaungatanga ko te noho motuhake i waenganui i a tātou. Kei a au te kōwhiringa ki te kite i ētahi atu tāngata, engari kāore au e pai ki te mahi pēnā. He pai ia ki ahau mai anō i te rā tuatahi, ā, e makona ana ahau ki tēnei āhuatanga. Kāore au e aro ki ngā whakaaro, ki ngā kōrero rānei a te tangata (ngā wāhine) mōku. Kei te harikoa ahau, ā, koinā anake te mea nui.
E hiahia tonu ana ngā wāhine ki te whakapono kei te aroha nui ā rātou tāne ki a rātou nā te mea kua moe rāua, engari ko te pono, he nui ake te aroha o te nuinga o ngā tāne ki ā rātou hoa rangatira i ā rātou wāhine. Nā te mea, ki ā rātou hoa rangatira, ko rātou tonu ō rātou āhua tūturu. He marino ake rātou, he nui ake hoki ō rātou whakaaro. Me i ōrite ngā mea katoa, he tokomaha ngā tāne ka whakarērea ā rātou wāhine mō ā rātou hoa rangatira i roto i te wā poto.
E whakaae ana ahau ki a kōrua mō tēnei mea!!
Kei te whai hoa ahau me tētahi tāne kua mārenatia, e kore nei e whakarērea tana wahine engari kāore e hiahia kia mutu tā māua noho hoa. He āwhina tonu ia i ahau ki ngā mahi o te whare me te māra, e whakarongo ana ki aku raruraru me te wā e pouri ana ahau. Kua ngaro ōna kare ā-roto ki ahau nā taku hae pōhēhē, engari kāore au e kite he aha ia e hiahia tonu ana ki ahau hei hoa piripono i roto i tōna ao? Kāore hoki he whanaungatanga piripono. Kei te pupuri tonu ahau i te tumanako ka rerekē ngā mea i waenganui i a māua, e mōhio ana ahau kāore e rerekē i muri i te tau kotahi o tā māua mōhiotanga tetahi ki tetahi. Kāore au i mutu te whakaipoipo, engari kāore au i te rapu kaha, ki te mea he tika tēnei?
Inaianei kei te tatari ahau mō te mauahara katoa ki ahau.
Tēnā, ko te huarahi anake e mōhio ai koe e aroha ana te tāne kua moe tāne ki a koe ko te whakarērea e ia tana wahine mōu, te hanga i a koe hei wahine, ā, ka mahi tonu i ngā mea katoa māu i roto i te tuhinga 10 tau ki muri. Mēnā ka taea e koe te noho hei wahine mō te tekau tau, te whānau i āna tamariki, te horoi i tōna whare, te tunu kai māna, te horoi i ōna kākahu i a ia e haereere ana me taua ataata reka, harikoa kei a koe i nāianei, ā, ka whai wā tonu ia māu, ā, ka manaaki i a koe pērā i te rangatira wahine, i a koe e mōhio ana koe e aroha ana ia ki a koe. Kia tae rā anō ki taua wā, ko koe te hoa wahine taha, ehara i te mea uaua ki te pupuri i te harikoa o te hoa wahine taha????????????
Ko te ritenga kē. He māmā noa iho te pupuri i te harikoa o te wahine, ehara i te mea ngāwari ki te taha o ētahi atu wāhine.