25 Ngā Tohu Whakatūpato kei te Tinihanga tō Wahine: He aha te Tikanga me te Mea hei Mahi

He haerenga e kapi ana i ngā pikinga me ngā hekenga te marena, engari he iti noa ngā wā pōrearea e rite ana ki te whiu o te kore whakapono. Ahakoa rā, kāore te tinihanga i te horapa whānui pērā i tā te ahurea rongonui e whakapono ai koe. E ai ki ngā tatauranga ko te maha o ngā tinihanga i roto i ngā whanaungatanga pumau e tata ana ki te 20%. He kotahi tonu tēnā i roto i te rima o ngā tāne me ngā wāhine. Ki te kore e taea e koe te whakakore i te whakaaro kāore tō hoa rangatira i te pono, he pai ki te rapu i ngā tohu o te wahine tinihanga kia taea ai e koe te whakaū, te whakakore rānei i ō whakapae i mua i te horomia koe.

Heoi anō, he tino mamae te noho i roto i te whakaaro "Kei te whakapae ahau kei te tinihanga taku wahine engari kāore āku taunakitanga". Kei waho te whakaari kei te pai katoa. Kei roto koe i te pātai ki a koe anō, me te pātai anō, "Kei te tinihanga ia?" Mēnā he mōhio koe ki tēnā, kei konei mātou hei āwhina.

Me titiro tātou ki ngā tohu e tinihanga ana tāu wahine, me te kōrero tahi me te kaiwhakaora hinengaro a Tākuta Aman Bhonsle, e mahi tahi ana me ngā tāne me ngā wāhine e anga whakamua ana i muri i te puremu, me te kaiako whakawhitiwhiti kōrero me te whanaungatanga a Swaty Prakash , he tekau tau ōna wheako ki te āwhina i ngā tāngata ki te whakahaere i ō rātou hauora kare ā-roto.

Me hono e koe ngā huringa o tana whanonga ki ngā meka hinengaro mō te tinihanga , nā te mea he maha o ēnei tohu ka whai whakamārama harakore ina puta ko rātou anake. Ko te tauira te mea nui.

He aha te tikanga o te tinihanga i roto i te marena?

Ko te tinihanga, ko te puremu rānei i roto i te marena, ko te wā e uru atu ai te hoa rangatira ki tētahi hononga kare ā-roto, ki tētahi atu i waho o te marena, me te kore e mōhio, e whakaae rānei tōna hoa rangatira. He mea nui tēnei whakamāramatanga nā te mea kāore te puremu e herea noa ki ngā mahi ā-tinana. Ko te wahine e whakawhirinaki ana ki tētahi atu tāne, e whakapuaki ana i tōna oranga ā-roto ki a ia, e whakatairanga ana i tana hoa i tōu ake, he puremu ia, ahakoa kāore he mea ā-tinana i puta. Ka kiia he tinihanga te mahi ā-roto? He āe te nuinga o ngā tohunga whanaungatanga, ā, e tautoko ana ngā rangahau i tēnā. He mea nui tēnei mō te āhua o tāu pānui i ngā tohu i raro nei. Ko ētahi he ā-tinana. Ko ētahi he matihiko. Ko ētahi he ā-hinengaro. Ko ēnei katoa, i te whakakotahitanga, ka whakaahua i tētahi pikitia.

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25 Ngā Tohu o te Wahine Tinihanga

Nō reira, kāore e taea e koe te whakakore i te whakaaro, "Ki taku whakaaro kei te tinihanga ia i ahau." Tērā pea kua kite koe i ngā huringa o āna whanonga, i ētahi tauira hou, i tētahi tuhinga i kitea noatia, i ngā hapa rānei i roto i āna tauākī pūkete peeke. Engari me pēhea koe e mōhio ai? Me pēhea koe e mōhio ai mēnā ko te whanonga tinihanga te mea e kitea ana e koe, ehara i te mea nā te ahotea i te mahi, te pēhanga mātua, ngā huringa uaua rānei o te tinana pērā i te paheketanga? Ki te titiro pai koe, ka kitea e koe he maha ngā tohu kare ā-roto me te tinana kei te tinihanga tō wahine. Anei ngā tohu e 25, kua whakarōpūtia kia rite ki te kāwai, kia mōhio ai koe ki ngā mea hei tirotiro māu.

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Ahakoa te mārama o te whakaaro o te tangata kei te whakahaere ia i tōna oranga takirua i te wā e tinihanga ana ia i tana hoa rangatira, ka turuturu tonu ngā whanonga. Kia kitea ai ngā tohu tino tika kei te tinihanga tō wahine i a koe, me titiro koe ki ngā rōpū tauira, kaua e aro ki ngā mea rerekē takitahi. "Nā te mea ka puta te māramatanga mai i ngā tauira, ā, ka kitea ngā tauira ina titiro koe ki te pikitia whānui," te kī a Tākuta Bhonsle.

Ae, he māmā ake te kōrero i te mahi ina kei te raru koe i te wehi kei pakaru tō oranga katoa i te pono, engari koinei anake te huarahi hei whiwhi māramatanga, ahakoa pēhea, nō reira kia kaha ki te mahi. Anei ngā tohu kare ā-roto me ngā tohu whanonga o te wahine tinihanga me aro atu koe ki:

1. Ka tīmata ia ki te mahi tawhiti

Ki te mea kei te rapu huarahi koe ki te mōhio kei te tinihanga tō wahine, ko tōna āhua i tō taha te mea tuatahi hei aro atu. Kei te ahua "kē" tetahi mea? Kei te noho tinana ia engari kei te tirotirohia tōna hinengaro? Kei te ahua makariri, kei te tawhiti hoki ia, ā, ka rite tō wahine ki tētahi tangata tauhou? Kua mutu tana hiahia ki te haere ki ngā huihuinga pāpori, whānau rānei me koe? Kua mutu tana ngana ki te kōrero?

E ai ki a Swaty, ko ēnei huringa he tohu pea nō te hara tinihanga , nō te kore rānei o te ngākau māhaki ki te marena. "Ko te huringa o te āhua, kāore pea i te tino kitea o te tinihanga, engari hei hoa rangatira mōna, ka rongo koe i tētahi panonitanga i roto i tana whanonga i a koe. Hei tauira, tera pea ia e āhua harikoa ake ana engari kāore he pānga o taua harikoa ki a koe. Tērā pea ka tīmata ia ki te rapu take hei noho tawhiti atu i a koe. Tērā pea ka kite koe kua noho puku, kua tawhiti hoki tō wahine kōrero nui, ā, he wahine kōrero nui. Kāore ia e hiahia ki te kōrero mō tōna oranga i waho o te kāinga ki a koe. Ahakoa he āhua huna, he tohu katoa ēnei hei whakaatu i te āhua o te tinihanga o tō wahine," tāna tāpiri.

2. E rapu ana ia i ngā take hei whawhai ki a koe

Kāore i te tino kitea ngā tohu o te moe tāne me te wahine pērā i te paru o te meikitanga me te makawe paru. Tērā pea he ngawari ake ngā tohu o te kore whakapono o tō wahine. Ko te āhua ohorere ki te amuamu, ki te totohe, me te hanga take mō te pakanga tētahi o ngā tohu tino iti te aro ki te hoa tinihanga.

"Ehara i te mea onge te taenga atu o ngā hoa aroha ki tētahi wā ka tīmata rātou ki te kimi hapa tetahi i tetahi. He tukanga āta haere tēnei i te nuinga o te wā. Engari ki te puta mai he tangata hou i roto i te oranga o tō hoa rangatira, tera pea ka hoki mai anō tēnei wā o te whanaungatanga. Ka heke te paepae manawanui o tō hoa rangatira, ā, tera pea ka kitea e koe he poto tonu tana mahi ki a koe. Ahakoa ngā mea i kitea e ia he ātaahua i mua, ka tino whakapataritari i a ia ināianei."

—Ko ta Dr. Aman Bhonsle, te tohunga hinengaro

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3. Te āhua nei kāore ia i te harikoa i roto i te marena

"E whakapae ana ahau kei te tinihanga taku wahine, engari kāore āku taunakitanga." Tērā pea ka hokihoki tonu koe ki tēnei whakaaro nā te mea ka kite koe kāore tō wahine i te harikoa i roto i te marena. Tērā pea kua whakatau ia kia noho tonu ki a koe, engari kāore tōna ngākau i roto i tēnā. 

• Ka karohia e ia ngā kōrero tūturu
• Ko ia tonu tōna āhua noa ki ētahi atu tāngata, engari kāore e taea e ia te hono atu ki a koe
• He ahua pōuri tōna tirohanga ki te marena
• Kei te piki haere tonu te rārangi amuamu, engari te āhua nei kāore ia e hiahia ki te mahi i tana wāhanga hei whakapai ake i ngā mea.

E mea ana a Swaty, "Ko te huarahi e kōrero ai tātou e whakaatu ana i te nui o ō tātou kare ā-roto. Ina tinihanga te hoa, ko te kōrero te mea tuatahi e pāngia ana. Ka heke ohorere te wā e noho tahi ana, e whakaatu ana i ō koutou ngākau tetahi ki tetahi, e kōrero ana rānei mō ngā āhuatanga hoha o tō rā me te hihiri."

4. Te āhua nei kāore tō wahine e pai ki te noho ki te kāinga

He wāhi haumaru te kāinga. He wāhi e taea ai e te tangata te noho ko ia anake. Tērā pea kua rerekē anō hoki tāu wahine i tēnei āhuatanga. E kī ana a Swaty, "E hiahia ana te wahine tinihanga ki te noho ko ia anake, ā, kāore hoki e whai wāhi ki ngā kare ā-roto ina ngana koe ki te kōrero ki a ia." Tērā pea nā te mea kei te tohe tonu ia ki tōna wehi kei mau ia, me tōna hiahia ki te noho tahi me tana hoa hou. He iti ake tōna wā e noho tahi ana me koe, engari he nui ake tōna wā ki te mahi i āna ake mea ahakoa kei te kāinga kōrua. Ko te wā kounga i arohaina i mua ka whakararuraru i a ia inaianei.

5. He maha ngā huringa o ōna kare ā-roto

He aha ngā tohu o te wahine e tinihanga ana i a koe? E rua ngā kupu: te hurihanga o te kare ā-roto. Mā te ahotea me te raruraru o roto e puta mai ana i te puremu ka uaua ki te wahine kua moe tāne te pupuri i ōna kare ā-roto. Tērā pea ka kite koe i tōna kare ā-roto e huri haere ana ki ngā taumata teitei rawa, me te kore e taea te tautuhi i ngā take e puta ai.

• I ngā rā harikoa, ka aro nui ia ki a koe, ā, te āhua nei kei te whakapau kaha ia ki te mahi
• Kātahi ka puta ohorere mai ia, ka tangi, ka tīmata te totohe mō tētahi mea noa iho.

"Tērā pea nā te whakama mō te tinihanga me ōna kare ā-roto mō tana hoa moepuku e whakahaere ana i tōna hinengaro te take o ēnei huringa nui o tōna āhua kare ā-roto," te whakamārama a Swaty.

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6. Te āhua nei kāore ia e hiahia ana ki te whakarite mahere mō te heke mai

Ki te tinihanga tāu wahine, tera pea ka ngaro ohorere tana hiahia ki te whakarite mahere mō āpōpō māua. Ko ngā moemoeā roa kua whāngaihia e kōrua hei tokorua, pērā i te hoko whare hou, te whānau tamariki, te tango kararehe rānei, te āhua nei kua mukua atu i roto i tōna hinengaro. Me ētahi atu tohu anō hoki, he mea tika kia aro nui ki tēnei.

7. Nōnahea te wā whakamutunga i kī atu ai ia e aroha ana ia ki a koe?

Tērā pea kua roa tō kōrua whanaungatanga e pāngia ana e te raruraru. Engari he iti noa ngā mea i mau tonu. Ko tana kī "Aroha ana ahau ki a koe" i mua i tana haerenga ki te mahi. Te whakakī i tētahi pihikete anō ki roto i tō tina. Te kihi i a koe i mua i te moe. Tae noa ki tēnei wā. Ināianei, ehara i te mea ko kōrua anake kei te whawhai tonu, engari kua mutu hoki tana mahi i aua mahi iti, whakaaro nui. Ka taea e koe te tatau i tēnei hei tohu pono o te tinihanga. Ina tinihanga ngā wāhine, ka mutu tā rātou whakapau kaha ki roto i ō rātou whanaungatanga me ā rātou tāne.

8. He nui ake tana amuamu mō te marena i mua

Ko te mea i mua ko "Kāore au i te whakapono kua wareware koe ki te horoi i ngā rīhi!" kua huri hei "Kāore au i te whakaaro he hototahi tāua." Ko ngā take iti rawa ka huri hei whakahē whānui mō tō kōrua marena. Tērā pea kei te rapu pakanga ia hei whakatenatena i a ia anō me koe kāore e taea te whakatika i te marena. Mena he pai te marena o tāu wahine hei whakataurite ki a ia, ā, kei te kite tonu ia i a ia anō e whakarārangi ana i ngā hapa, kia aro atu.

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I tēnei ao matihiko, kei te hurihia te whakaaro o te pono i roto i te marena e ngā mahi moepuku ipurangi . Kāore he hiahia mō ngā rūma hōtēra, te ngaro roa rānei mō tētahi mahi moepuku i ēnei rā. Ka taea te noho noa iho i runga i te mata waea. Ki te mea kei te ngana koe ki te rapu i ngā tohu e tinihanga ana tō wahine, koinei te wāhi hei tirotiro tuatahi.

9. Kia aro ki ana whanonga waea pūkoro

Me i reira he pukapuka mō ngā tohu tinihanga a te wahine, kua puta he upoko katoa mō ngā whanonga waea me te puremu. Ko ētahi o ngā tohu ārai hei tirotiro māu:

• He maha tonu ngā wā e pukumahi ana tana waea, ahakoa i ngā hāora rerekē kāore koe i reira.
• Kei te tuku karere tonu ia ki tētahi
• Kua tīmata ia ki te whakatakoto i tana waea ki raro
• Kei te noho puku tonu tana waea
• Ka haria e ia tana waea pūkoro ki ngā wāhi katoa, tae atu ki te wharepaku

Ka tāpiri atu a Swaty, "Ko tētahi atu tohu e kitea ana kei te tinihanga te wahine i te waea, ko tana pukumahi tonu i te nuinga o te wā, ā, he tino huna ia mō te tangata e kōrero ana ki a ia. Ki te pātai atu koe ki a ia i tētahi pātai māmā pēnei i te 'Ko wai ia?', ka whakahāweatia e ia mā te kī 'Āe, he mahi noa iho' ka riri rānei ia ki a koe mō te kore e tuku wāhi ki a ia."

10. Ka oho ia i ia wā e tata ana koe ki tana waea

Ehara i te mea ko tana whanaungatanga ki tana waea pūkoro anake kua rerekē, engari kua rerekē hoki tana tauhohenga ina tata koe ki a ia.

• Kua tāuta e ia ngā tautuhinga kupuhipa matatau ki tana waea. 
• Ehara i te mea ko te mata kāinga anake engari ko ngā taupānga takitahi, tae atu ki a WhatsApp, kua raka inaianei. Tērā pea kāore ia e hiahia kia kite koe i a ia anō. ngā waehere karere kuputuhi a te hoa tinihanga
• Ka huripokitia ia, ka noho pōrearea hoki ina tata koe ki tana waea pūkoro
• Ki te tono koe kia tangohia mai mō te rima meneti, ka kitea e ia he take hei whakakahore
• Ki te tukuna e ia, kua rite ia ki te tango mai i taua mea i tētahi wā tonu

Ko te tangata e whakamahi ana i tana waea pūkoro hei kōrero ki tana hoa moepuku, ka mataku noa ia ki te whakapuaki atu.

11. Te huna a ngā kaipahua i ō rātou ara: te muku i te hītori tirotiro

Ka kite koe i tō wahine e whakapau ana i te nuinga o tōna wā ki tana waea pūkoro, ki tana rorohiko rānei, engari ina tirohia e koe tana hītori tirotiro, ka kitea kua horoia katoatia. Tirohia anō i muri i ētahi rā. Kei te mukua tonu. Koinei tētahi o ngā tohu tino kitea kei te huna e tō wahine tetahi mea i a koe. Ka mukua e ia ana mahi katoa, ā, ka takiuru atu i ia pūkete. Ko te mea kāore ia e hiahia kia mōhio koe ki ana mahi ipurangi, he tohu nui anō tēnei. Mena he tino mārama tana huna i ana mahi, me pānui pea koe i ētahi huarahi mohio hei hopu i tō wahine tinihanga.

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Ka taea e te moe tāne te whakarerekē i te whakaaro o tāu wahine mōna anō. Mā taua aro hou me te whakamana katoa ka tāpiri atu he puna hou, he mārama ki tana hikoi, ā, ka kitea i roto i tana whakaaturanga i a ia ki te ao. Kāore e kore, ko te maero tāpiri ka mahia e ia hei miharo i tana hoa hou ki ōna āhua. Ka waiho e tēnei he toenga o ngā whanonga e puta ai te whakaaro, "Kei te hē tetahi mea", he kare ā-roto i roto i a koe e whakaoho ana i tō puku. 

12. Kua tīmata ia ki te whakakakahu me te hoko kākahu hou

Kia mutu te wā marena hou , ka noho puku ngā hoa tokorua ki te taha o tētahi, ka kakahu noa iho. Nō reira, ki te mea kei te kakahu tō wahine i te āhua o tana kakahu i ngā rā tuatahi, kei te kakahu ia hei miharo i tētahi. Ā, ehara pea i a koe. Ehara i te mea he tohu kino te haumi ki te tiaki i a ia anō. Engari ki te mea kei te whakapau kaha ia me te kore e aro ki ō urupare, he mārama kei tētahi atu wāhi te aronga o te mahi. E kī ana a Swaty, "Ahakoa tō tātou hinengaro huna e mahi ana ki te hanga i a tātou kia ātaahua ake i te taha o tētahi e pai ana ki a tātou. Koia te take ko te aro ohorere ki te āhua o te wahine he tohu pea e kitea wawetia ana o tētahi hoa tinihanga."

13. He rerekē tetahi mea mōna

Ko tētahi o ngā tohu tino iti nei te aro ki tētahi mahi moepuku, ko te rerekētanga o tētahi mea i roto i tō wahine. Me te mea nei kei reira tētahi wāhanga o ia kāore e taea e koe te kite atu. Kua rerekē tana āhua. Kua rerekē tana whanonga ki a koe. Kua iti ake te harikoa, ā, kua pā mai tētahi āhuatanga kino ki tō kōrua marena. I ia wā ka rerekē tana whanonga, ka pātai mai tētahi reo i roto i tōu mahunga, "Kei te tinihanga ia?"

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14. He panonitanga nui o te āhua

Ko tētahi o ngā āhuatanga o te wahine tinihanga ko tana whakapau kaha kia ātaahua ake tōna āhua, kia ātaahua ake rānei, i roto i ngā huarahi ka kitea he āhua kino, he āhua rerekē rānei. Te whiwhi i tētahi momo makawe hou. Te huri i ōna kākahu ki ngā kākahu e whakanui ana i tōna āhua. Te whiwhi i ngā tae kanapa e ātaahua ana te kanohi. Te whakanui ake i te whakaiti i aua pauna. Mena kei te piki haere te auau o aua huringa kāore i te tika, tera pea he raruraru waenga-ora. Tērā pea he tāne kei roto i tōna ao. Tērā pea e rua.

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E hiahia ana te tangata ki te wā me te aro o ngā mahi ā-whare. Ki te mea kei te aro atu tō wahine ki tētahi atu tāne, me pau te wā me te aro kua rāhuitia mōu. Ā, me pēhea e ia te mahi i tēnā? Mā te rapu tonu i ngā take me ngā whakamārama kia kore ai ia e noho tawhiti atu, kia kore ai rānei e taea e koe ahakoa kei reira ia. Anei ētahi tohu ārai hei aro atu:

15. Kua tino 'tūpono rawa' tōna ao pāpori

Ehara i te mea he tohu kino te noho tahi me ngā hoa. Engari, ki te mea ko tāu wahine, he tangata noho kāinga tonu , kua tīmata kē te haere tahi me "ngā kōtiro" i ia wiki, ā, ko te nuinga o āna mahere kāore koe e uru ana ki te nuinga o ana mahere, he nui ngā take e hiahia ana koe ki te mōhio. Tērā pea kei te mahi koe me tētahi wahine e whakamahi ana i ana hoa hei huna i tētahi hononga ki waho o te marena.

I pērā tonu te mahi a Edward, he hoa nōku, i tana whakapae kei te teka tana wahine, a Tracy. I tētahi pō, ka waea atu ia ki te hoa e kīia ana kei te haere tahi rāua ko Tracy, ka mea kāore i taea e ia te whakapā atu ki a ia mā tana waea pūkoro, ā, ka tono kia kōrero ki a ia. I ngana tana hoa ki te huna, engari i te mutunga ka whakaae ia kāore ia i te mōhio kei hea a Tracy. Koinei te huarahi i hurahia ai e ia te pono.

16. Kua whiwhi ia i tētahi 'hoa hou'

Tīmata ki te aro nui ki te mōhio mehemea kei reira tetahi e kōrero tonu ana ia mōna. Tērā pea kua kōrero ia ki a koe mō tana hoa hou, mō tōna ataahua, mō te roa o te wā e noho tahi ana rāua. Engari kāore anō kia whakamōhiotia koe ki tēnei Michelle. Whakaarohia te take. Tērā pea nā te mea ko Michael tonu te tangata i aroha ai ia, ehara i a Michelle? He take rānei kei te hiahia tetahi wahine ki tētahi atu wahine ? Kia tino mōhio, me kī atu kia tūtaki koe ki taua hoa. Ki te whakautu kaha mai tāu wahine me te kore, he tohu tēnā ki a koe.

17. Kāore te tawhiti o tana waka e ōrite ana ki ana kōrero

E kōrero ana a Robert, 44 tau te pakeke, nō Philadelphia, i whakaaro ia he pōrangi ia i te tīmatanga o tana aroturuki i ngā maero o te motuka a tana hoa. "Kei te tinihanga taku wahine ki ahau" i takaro tonu i roto i tōna mahunga tae noa ki te tīmatanga o tana aroturuki i ngā taipitopito. "I tana kīnga mai i noho ia i te ahiahi i tētahi wāhi mirimiri e waru poraka te tawhiti atu i tō mātou whare engari kua roa rawa te taraiwa o tana motuka, ka tūtaki atu ahau ki a ia, ā, ka whaki ia," tana kī. Kāore ia i rite ki te tāne koretake e kapi ana i te whakapae. I a ia te pono, ahakoa te mamae.

18. Kua whanakehia e ia ngā tikanga me ngā hiahia hou

Ina noho tahi ngā tāngata tokorua, ka ako noa iho rāua i ngā tikanga me ngā hiahia o tētahi ki tētahi. He hiahia hou anō tā tō wahine kāore anō kia kitea e koe i mua? 

• Tērā pea i huri ia ki te wīski moro kotahi nā te mea he pai ake ki te tāne hou o tōna ao. 
• I tīmata ia ki te piki toka nā te mea koinā tana mahi
• I whakawhanakehia he hiahia mō te anime, te jazz hou rānei
• Mena kei roto ia i tētahi te āhua o te wahine pakeke, te tāne taitamariki i waho o te marena, ka kitea nuitia ake ōna hiahia e pā ana ki a ia

19. He nui rawa ngā āhuatanga ohorere o te mahi

Kua tīmata te mahi ki te whakanui ake i ngā mea katoa o te ao o tō wahine? Mena he tangata mahi tonu ia, kāore pea he tikanga o tēnei. Engari ki te mea he mea hou tēnei whakapau kaha ohorere ki tana mahi, koinei pea tētahi o ngā tohu tinihanga tino kitea o te wahine. Ko te mahi pō te mea ngāwari ki te huna i te moepuku. Mena kua noho ia ki te tari i te pō, kua tīmata rānei te haereere mō te mahi, tera pea kei te moe tahi ia i te tari , kei te whakamahi rānei i te mahi hei ārai i tana hoa aroha.

20. E rapu ana ia i ngā take hei puta atu i te whare

Ko tētahi o ngā tohu tino mārama o te puremu ko te wahine e kitea ohorere ana he take hei wehe atu i te kāinga. 

• Ko te wahine i ngenge rawa, kāore i aro ki te pau o āu hua manu, inaianei kua oma ki te toa hoko kai i te 10 i te pō.
• Ka tūao ia ki te mahi i ngā mahi i karohia e ia i mua
• Ka whakapau ia i ngā wiki mutunga ki te tuhi i tētahi rārangi mahi i waho o te whare.

Kotahi te tikanga o taua huringa nui o te whanonga: kei te aro atu tētahi atu mea ki a ia, ehara i tana rārangi mahi.

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Ka pā te pakanga o roto o te haehae i waenganui i ngā tāne e rua ki te āhua o te hononga o tō wahine ki a koe i ngā wā tino piripono. Kia tūpato mēnā:

21. Kua moe tō oranga moepuku

Tērā pea ka pāngia te whanaungatanga o tō wahine e te kore whakapono. Mena kei te moe tahi ia me tētahi atu, tērā pea kāore ia e hiahia ki te moe tahi me koe, ā, ka kitea e ia he take hei karo i te whanaungatanga . Tērā pea kāore ia e aro nui ana ki a koe. Tērā pea ko te hara o te tinihanga te mea e ārai ana. E kī ana a Swati, "Ko te hekenga o te whanaungatanga tinana tētahi o ngā tohu e whakaatu ana kei te moe tahi tō wahine. Ko tana kore hiahia ki te noho tahi me koe he hua pea nō te kore e aro nui, te aro nui rānei ki tana hoa moe tahi."

22. Ahakoa kei tawhiti koe i a ia i roto i ō wā piripono, kei tawhiti ia i a koe

E mea ana a Tākuta Bhonsle, "Tērā pea ka tawhiti atu ia i te taha kare ā-roto, ka momotu atu hoki i a koe i ngā wā onge ka moe ai kōrua." Mena kei te whakaaro koe kei te moe aroha tō wahine ki a koe, ahakoa i roto i ō wā moe tāne, kei a koe tōna tinana engari kei hea atu tōna hinengaro. Tērā pea koinei tētahi o ngā tohu kei te moe tāne tō wahine. Ko te memeha haere o te whanaungatanga, ahakoa he tinana, he kare ā-roto, he moe tāne rānei, tētahi o ngā pānga kino o te wahine tinihanga.

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23. Kāore ia e titiro kanohi ki a koe

Koinei tētahi o ngā tohu ā-tinana e kore e kitea e tō wahine e tinihanga ana. Tērā pea ka ngana tō wahine ki te karo i te titiro kanohi ki a koe i a ia e kōrero ana ki a koe. E whakaatu ana tōna reo tinana kei te whakama ia, kei te māharahara hoki i a ia e noho tahi ana me koe. E mataku ana ia kei rongo koe i ngā kare ā-roto o te hara e whawhai nei ia ki a ia.

24. Kei te kī mai tō wairua

E whakaatu ana ngā rangahau he nui atu i te kare ā-roto te pūmanawa hinengaro. He "mōhiohio ngaro i roto i tō tātou tinana, i tō tātou roro rānei hei ārahi i a tātou i te ao." Nō reira, ki te kore e taea e koe te whakamutu i te whakaaro "kei te moe tāne taku wahine", kia aro mai. Ehara i te paranoia. He hua tēnei o te hopu a tō hinengaro ngaro i ngā tohu ngawari, uaua ki te whakahua kāore anō kia tino mārama tō hinengaro mohio.

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Ngā Tohu Pūtea o te Wahine Tinihanga

Ko ngā hapa pūtea tētahi o ngā tohu tino warewarehia o te puremu i roto i te marena. I kitea i roto i tētahi rangahau mō ngā tukanga o te puremu i roto i te marena , ko ngā raruraru pūtea me te huna pūtea ngā tohu matua o te puremu i roto i te marena, hei take, hei hua hoki. Mena kei te moe tāne tō wahine, ka kitea i mua i te kitenga o tētahi atu mea mā te ara moni.

25. Kua piki ake āna whakapaunga

Kei te whakaaro koe me pēhea te kite i ngā tohu o te wahine tinihanga? Tērā pea kei roto i ngā taipitopito pūtea te raruraru. Tirohia marietia ana tauākī pūkete putea. Tērā pea ka kite koe i te pikinga nui o ngā whakapaunga: 

• Ruma hotera
• Kaarei
• Ngā kākahu hou, ngā kākahu o roto rānei
• Ngā tango moni kāore e rite ana ki ngā mea i kōrerotia e ia ki a koe

Ko ēnei whakapaunga ngaro pea te tohu kei te tinihanga te wahine i tana tāne, ā, e tika ana kia kōrerohia, ahakoa ka arahi ki ngā tautohe uaua i roto i te whanaungatanga.

Ko ētahi tohu pūtea motuhake hei tirotiro māu:

• Ngā tango moni kāore i te whakamāramahia, inā koa i roto i ngā tatauranga porowhita
• Ngā tauākī kāri nama hou kāore ia e hiahia ki te whakapuaki
• Ka utua e te hōtēra, e Airbnb rānei ngā utu mō ngā rā kāore e ōrite ki tōna wāhi kua whakahuatia
• Ngā hoko mai i ngā waitohu kakahu o roto, i ngā wharekai rānei kāore anō kia haere tahi kōrua • Te pikinga ake o ngā mahi Uber, ngā mahi tiritiri waka rānei i ngā hāora rerekē

Ngā Tohu kei te Whai Wahine koe i tētahi Whakaipoipo Kare ā-roto

"Ehara i te mea ko te moepuku anake te momo whanoke me tūpato koe. Ko te moepuku kare ā-roto, ina hanga e tō wahine he hononga kare ā-roto hohonu ki tētahi atu tāne, engari kāore e moepuku, ka rite tonu te kino ki te marena. I ētahi wā, he uaua ake te tautuhi nā te mea kāore he tohu tinana e kitea ana. Ko tāna he tango i te kaha kare ā-roto i a koe, ka tukuna ki tētahi atu," te kī a Tākuta Bhonsle. 

He mea tika kia mōhiotia motuhake ngā tohu o te moepuku ā-roto i te tinihanga ā-tinana, nā te mea he rerekē te āhua o ngā tohu e rua. Anei te āhua o te moepuku ā-roto i roto i te wahine:

• Kāore i te ōrite tana tiaki i tētahi hoa tāne. Ki te piki ake tō tukemata, ka noho ia hei kaitiaki, hei whakapae rānei, he nui atu i tā te hoahoa e tika ana.
• Ka kōrero ia ki a ia i ngā mea i kōrerotia e ia ki a koe i mua. Ko ia te tangata tuatahi ka waea atu ia ina pai te haere o tētahi mea. Ko ia te tangata ka puta tōna riri ina hē te haere o tētahi mea.
• Ka whakarite ia i a koe ki a ia, i ētahi wā ka whakaaturia noa atu. "He aha koe te kore ai e taea te kōrero ohorere ake?" he tohu pea kei a ia tētahi hei whakarite i a koe.
• Kei te mau tonu te aroha ā-tinana, engari kua ngaro te whanaungatanga ā-hinengaro. Kei te moe tonu kōrua i te moenga kotahi, engari kāore ia i reira. • He huna tana kōrero ki tēnei tangata. Ka neke atu ia ki te whakautu waea, ka tahuri atu tana mata i a koe, ka kōrero noa rānei mōna i tētahi rā, kātahi ka kore anō.

He maha ngā wā ka tīmata ngā hononga kare ā-roto hei hoahoa e whiti haere ana i te rārangi kāore tetahi o te tokorua e hiahia ana ki te whiti i te tīmatanga. Ko te mea e tino kino ai, ko te whakapono pono o te hoa tinihanga kāore rāua e mahi he i tetahi mea hē, nā te mea kāore he whakapā tinana. Engari ko te haumi kare ā-roto, te huna, me te whakatairanga i taua whanaungatanga i runga ake i te marena he momo tinihanga katoa. I te wā e uru mai ai te taha tinana, kua maha ngā marama e haere tonu ana te hononga kare ā-roto.

Takuta Aman Bhonsle, Kairangahau Hinengaro

E ai ki ngā rangahau, he nui te wāhanga o ngā tohu o te tinihanga kare ā-roto kāore e kitea mō te wā roa atu i te tinihanga tinana, nā te mea he ngāwari ake ki te hoa tinihanga te whakamārama i te whanaungatanga ki a ia anō.

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He aha te take e whakapae ai te wahine tinihanga i a koe mō te tinihanga

Koinei tētahi o ngā tohu tino miharo, ā, e pūrongohia whānuitia ana, o te tinihanga. Ko tāu wahine, te tangata e moe tahi ana, ka tīmata ohorere te whakapae i a koe mō te tinihanga. Ka tino mataara rānei ia mō tō wāhi noho, tō waea, ō hoa. Ehara tēnei i te mea tūpono noa. Ko te hinengaro o te hara e takaro ana i te wā tūturu.

Ka karangatia tēnei e ngā tohunga hinengaro he whakaaturanga. Ina mahi tetahi i tētahi mea e mōhio ana rātou he hē, i ētahi wā ka whakapaetia e rātou taua whanonga e ētahi atu hei whakaiti i ō rātou ake raruraru hinengaro, te mamae hinengaro o te pupuri i ngā whakapono taupatupatu e rua i te wā kotahi: "He tangata pai ahau" me "Kei te tinihanga ahau i taku hoa rangatira." Ko te whakapae i a koe mō te tinihanga he huarahi hei whakataurite i te mara i roto i tōna ake hinengaro.

Ina tīmata te tangata tinihanga ki te whakapae i tana hoa mō te kore whakapono, he tohu hara me te whakaatu noa iho tēnei, ehara i te whakapae pono. Kei te mahi rātou ki tana hoa i ngā mea e mōhio ana rātou ka taea e rātou. Ko te whakahē nui, te tikanga ohorere o te rapu hapa i ngā mea katoa e mahia ana e koe, he whakaaturanga anō tēnei o taua tukanga hinengaro. Mā te hanga i a koe hei raruraru, ka taea e te hoa tinihanga te whakatenatena i a rātou anō mō ​​tētahi wā poto he tika tā rātou mahi tahi.

Takuta Aman Bhonsle, Kairangahau Hinengaro

Koinei ētahi o ngā tohu o te tinihanga e kore e kitea e te nuinga o ngā tāne nā te mea te āhua nei kei te anga kē atu te whanonga i tā rātou wahine, kaua ki a ia. Mēnā kua tīmata te whakapae a tō wahine i a koe i ngā wā tata nei, kāore he take e taea e koe te tautuhi, he take pea tēnā hei tirotiro atu i tana mahi.

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Me aha koe mēnā kei te whakaaro koe kei te tinihanga tō wahine

Mena ka taea e koe te hono atu ki te nuinga o ēnei tohu, tera pea ka huri tō whakapae hei tata whakaū. He mea whakapouri tēnā. He pono te raruraru o te kare ā-roto kei roto koe i tēnei wā. Engari he mea nui rawa te marena hei whanaungatanga kia kaua e whakarērea i roto i te riri, ā, ko te whakatau i mahia i roto i te mamae me te riri kāore i te tika. Anei me pēhea te whakahaere i tēnei taahiraa i ia taahiraa.

1. Kaua e aro atu ki te hiahia ohorere

Ko te mea kino rawa atu ka taea e koe ko te aro atu ki tāu wahine i te wā tonu ka mārama ai tō whakapae. Ko ngā tautohetohe i puta mai i te kare ā-roto, kaua i te taunakitanga, ka mutu i te nuinga o te wā ki te whakakorekore, ki te whakapae anō, me te whakapakeke i ngā tūnga. Hoatu he wā ki a koe anō ki te tukatuka i ō kare ā-roto. Kōrero ki tētahi hoa pono, ki tētahi kaiwhakaora hinengaro rānei. Kia tika ō whakaaro i mua i te kōrero ki a ia.

2. Rapua he tauira, kaua he mea kotahi

Ehara i te tauira te whanonga kua rerekē. E rua, e toru rānei ngā whanonga kua rerekē i roto i ētahi wiki. I mua i te tīmatanga o tētahi kōrero, hoatu he wā ki a koe anō ki te mātakitaki. Ko tāu e rapu ana ko te ōritetanga: ko ngā tohu ōrite e puta pinepine ana, ehara i te mea he wā kotahi e kore e kitea he whakamārama harakore.

3. Kōrero mārire

Kia rite koe, whiriwhiria he wā marino, tūmataiti. Me whakatata atu ki tēnei hei kōrero, kaua hei uiui. Kōrerohia ngā mea kua kitea e koe: ngā whanonga motuhake, kaua hei whakapae. Tohe atu ki a ia kia whakapuakina. Ki te mea he taunakitanga āu, koinei te wā tika hei whakaatu. Āraia te hiahia ki te riri, ā, tukua kia whai wāhi ia ki te whakapuaki i tana taha o te kōrero.

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4. Arotakehia tana urupare me te āta

Kei te tino pouri ia? Kei te rite ia ki te whakaae i te kawenga? Kei te tahuri kē rānei ia, kei te rapu huarahi hei whakapae i a koe? Mena he pono tana pouri, ā, kei te mau tonu tō whakaaro ki te marena, me whakaaro pea koe ki te whakatika i tō marena, kaua e whakamutu tonu.

5. Rapua he tautoko ngaio

Ahakoa whakatau koe ki te noho, ki te wehe atu rānei, ka taea e te ratonga tohutohu mō ngā tāne me ngā wāhine te āwhina i a koe ki te whakaoti i ngā raruraru i roto i te huarahi whai hanganga me te tautoko. Kei konei ngā kaiwhakaora hinengaro mohio me ngā kaiwhakaora raihana i roto i te rōpū tohutohu a Bonobology hei āwhina i a koe. He rite tonu te hiranga o te whakaora takitahi. Me whai wāhi koe ki te tukatuka i tō ake pouri, i tō riri, me tō pōhēhētanga, ahakoa te aha ka pā ki te marena.

6. Kia mōhio he kōwhiringa tika te haere atu

Ehara i te mea ka taea, ka tika rānei kia ora tonu ngā marena katoa i te kore whakapono. Mēnā kāore tana pouri, mēnā kua pakaru rawa tō whakawhirinaki, mēnā kāore koe e kite i te ara whakamua. He whakatau tika rawa te wehe atu. Kāore koe i te herenga ki te hanga anō i te mea i whiriwhiria e tētahi atu kia whakangaromia.

Thoughts Final

He mea whakapouri te kitenga kua whiriwhiria e te tangata i whiriwhiria e koe hei aroha, hei hoa hoki, te tuku i tō whakawhirinakitanga. Ahakoa kei hea koe e haere atu ana i konei, ahakoa kei te noho tahi kōrua, kei te mahi tahi rānei, kei te wehe rānei i te ara, kia mōhio koe ehara i te mea ngāwari te huarahi kei mua. Heoi, mā te wā me te whakapau kaha pono, ka memeha te mamae, ā, ka tīmata kōrua te ora. Ahakoa ka ora te marena, ka ora tonu rānei. Ko te tumanako ka kitea e koe te marino i muri i tēnei awha.

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He aha ngā mea hei tumanako atu ina aroha koe ki tētahi tāne he iti te whakaaro ki a ia anō

Ehara tō takoha i te koha aroha . Mā tēnei ka taea e Bonobology te kawe tonu mai i ngā mōhiotanga hou me ngā mōhiotanga hou ki a koe i roto i tā mātou whainga ki te āwhina i te tangata o te ao ki te ako me pēhea te mahi i tetahi mea.