Te whānautanga o te pēpi i te wā e tukuna ana te tāne ki te ope taua

He tangata atawhai, he tangata aroha a Gerald. He mea noa ki a ia te noho hei pāpā pai, hei tāne manaaki hoki. I ngā wā katoa e taea ai e ia te noho tahi me taku tamaiti, ka mahia e ia ngā mea katoa hei kaitiaki pai mō māua ko taku tamaiti. Koia ahau i hiahia ai ki te whakamahara i tēnei kōrero mō te whānautanga o tētahi pēpi i a taku tāne e noho tawhiti ana. Ahakoa i taua wā, i a ia e tawhiti ana i ahau, i taea e au te rongo i tōna kaha nui mā te waea i ngā wā katoa, ā, i rite tonu ki te mea kei reira tonu ia i tōku taha.

Ahakoa i tutuki taku moemoeā kia moe i tētahi tāne e mahi ana i roto i te Ope Taua o Amerika, ko te roa o ngā wehenga, ngā kaupapa rerekē, me te kore e taea te kōrero ki a ia i runga waea i a ia e ngaro ana i runga i ngā mahi i te mara, i pā kino ki ahau. I tohe tonu ahau ko tōna whenua tana aroha tuatahi ahakoa i tohe ia ahakoa ko tana mahi tana hiahia nui, ko ahau tōna oranga.

"Kei te takaro noa koe i ngā kupu, e Gerald?" I whakapae anō ahau i a ia e haere ana ki te whare o ōku mātua i Minnesota, i a ia e anga atu ana ki te turanga hōia i Arkansas. Kua whakaritea kia whānau ahau i tētahi rā me tā māua tamaiti tuarua. Ahakoa te nui o taku amuamu mō tōna korenga i konei, kāore rawa i taea e au te amuamu. I mōhio ahau e hiahia ana hoki ia ki te noho tahi me ahau i tēnei wā uaua engari kāore e taea e ia.

Ā, ka tīmata te raruraru tonu, arā, ko te ara i ora ai mātou. E pā ana tēnei kōrero ki taku haerenga o e hapu ana i te wā e tukuna ana te tāne.

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Te whānautanga o te pēpi i te wā e mahi ana te tāne

Ahakoa i noho marino ahau, i a au e tatari ana mō te taenga mai o te hōiho hou, i mahi a Gerald i tana mahi tino pai — te ārahi i tētahi tīma hōia me te mahi pai ki tōna whenua. Kāore au i te mōhio ki ngā āhuatanga motuhake o tana mahi nā te mea kua tino whakaitihia te āhua o tana mahi i mua i te taenga mai ki ōku taringa.

I tētahi ahiahi pai, ka tīmata te mamae. I whakamōhio atu ōku mātua ki a Gerald kei te haria ahau ki te whare tiaki kaumātua, engari he kupu kotahi āna i whakahoki mai ai. He mea rerekē tēnei, engari, i te mea he uaua te taiao e noho ana ia me te āhua ngawari o tana mahi, i mārama rātou, ā, kāore i pātai atu ki a ia.

"He whakamātautau i te kaha, te aroha, me te manawanui te whānautanga mai o te tamaiti i te wā e ngaro atu ana tō hoa."

I pā mai te raruraru ki ahau, ā, kua nui taku uaua ki tēnā. Ehara i te mea he tamāhine amuamu noa iho ahau ki a rātou i taua rā, engari he wahine a tētahi e hapu ana i te wā e tukuna ana tāne! Nā tēnā i piki ake ai te ahotea mō rātou i a rātou e ngana ana ki te rapu huarahi. me pēhea te atawhai i te wahine hapu nāna i porangi!

"Kāore koe i pātai mai mōku, e Gerald? Kua hoha ahau ki te noho hei tangata e mārama tonu ana! Mō te whānautanga o tā tāua pēpi tēnei, mō te aroha ki a te Atua!" i amuamu ahau i a au e tohe ana i te mea ka wiri ahau i tētahi atu ngaru mamae whānau. "Me noho koe ki konei, e pupuri ana i tōku ringa," i karanga anō ahau i roto i te ringa o tētahi atu mamae e pupuhi ana.

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Kei te ngaro ahau i taku tāne kua tukuna engari i reira ia i tōku taha wairua

Heoi, i roto i te haora i muri i taku whakaurunga ki te hōhipera, ka tīmata te waea mai a Gerald, i ia 20 meneti pea. Ka kōrero ia ki te tākuta kia mōhio ai ia ki te āhua o taku whānautanga, ka pātai rānei ki ōku mātua mēnā kei te tino pāngia ahau e te mamae, engari ko te nuinga o te wā ka tono ia kia kōrero ki ahau.

Ahakoa kāore i neke atu i te meneti, e rua rānei, i tino āwhina ia i ahau ki te māia ki aua haora 36 whakamataku, i ētahi wā ka kōrero pōhewa mai mea reka ki ahau, ngā kōrero o mua, ā, i ētahi wā, e whakatenatena ana i ahau me te kī, "He kaha koe, e hine. Ka taea e tātou tēnei."

I hiahia ahau ki tētahi kōtiro i taku tamarikitanga, ā, i roto i tētahi o āna waeatanga, i mea ia, 'E taku kuīni, kua tatauhia ō rā, i muri i te taenga mai o taku pirinihi ka tino ko ia taku Numero Uno!'

I mahara ahau he tino hapa te whatunga, ā, i ētahi wā ka iti haere te mamae, ka pātai atu ahau mēnā kei te ua i reira. Ka karohia e ia te take, ka tukuna te kōrero ki taku wāhi o te ao.

I muri i ngā haora 36 o te whānautanga uaua, me te tata ki te kotahi rau ngā waeatanga mai i a ia, i mihia ia mō te noho hei matua whakahīhī o tana tamahine rangatira.

"I kī atu ahau ki a koe ka manaakitia tātou e Ihu ki tētahi pēpi kōtiro ataahua," tana karanga me te mea he matua whakahīhī.

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Taku Wheako Hei Wahine Hōia Hapū

I rongo ahau i te whakahīhī me te harikoa i roto i tōna reo, ā, i tino hiahia ahau kia noho ia ki konei me ahau, ā, ināianei, māua. Nā te mea kua piki ake tō mātou whānau mā te kotahi! Ahakoa ko au te tangata i puta mai i te pēpi tino rahi i roto i tōku tinana, he kaha ake ia i ahau. He tāne kaha e āwhina ana i te wahine ki te whānau.

Me te mea nei i te rongo i ōku whakaaro, ka mea ohorere mai ia, "I hiahia nui ahau ki te noho ki reira me koe, e pēpi. Aroha mai kāore au i tae mai. Engari e mōhio ana koe kei konei tonu ahau, e aroha ana ki a koe mai i tawhiti"I mōhio ahau he pono tana kōrero. Kāore he tangata e hiahia ki te ngaro i te whānautanga o tā rātou pēpi.

I te aonga ake ka mōhio ahau ehara te 'Whakararuraru' i runga waea i te ua; engari ko te haruru o ngā pū me ngā matā. Kāore a Gerald i Arkansas. I anga atu ia ki Īrāki engari kāore i pai ki te kōrero mai ki a mātou i te wā e pāngia ana ahau e te ahotea mō te noho hei wahine hōia e hapu ana, ā, kua ngaro atu tana tāne.

I a ia e ārahi ana i tētahi mahi i reira i mate ai ngā kaiwhakatuma tokoono i huna i roto i te whare o tētahi tāngata whenua. E 36 hāora te roa o tana mahi. I whakawhiwhia taku toa a Gerald ki te tohu Gallantry mō tēnei mahi.

I rere ia ki Minnesota i ngā wā katoa e taea ana e ia. I tētahi ahiahi ka pātai atu ahau ki a ia, "Kua mārama ahau ki a Gerald, ahakoa kāore koe i waea mai. I roto koe i tētahi āhuatanga uaua engari kāore he aha, ka taea e au te uaua ki a koe anō hoki."

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I mea ia, "E tama, kei te whakahaeretia te āhua o reira. I whakaritea katoatia aku nekehanga, ā, he pai ngā hua. I hiahia ahau kia mōhio mō taku hoa rangatira, mēnā kei te pai te tangata tino nui o tōku ao! Ko koe taku te aroha mau ā, ko koe tonu te mea nui rawa atu.”

Nā, he aha taku i kōrero ai i mua mō te oranga o te ope taua e pāngia ana e te mate? Tēnā koa, whakakorea katoatia. Ahakoa me whakatau kotahi rau ngā wā, ka whakaae noa ahau ki a Gerald.

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He wero ahurei te whānau mai o tētahi pēpi i te wā e tukuna ana tō hoa rangatira, engari kāore koe i te mokemoke. Ahakoa mā te whānau, mā ngā hapori hoa rangatira hōia, mā te tautoko ngaio rānei, he huarahi hei whakatere i tēnei haerenga me te kaha me te aroha. Hono atu ki ā mātou tohunga e mārama ana ki ngā wero o te whānau hōia.

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