Te wehenga o ngā hoa tino pai

Ko te aroha i mua i kore e taea te whati ka taea i ētahi wā memeha—ehara i te mea nā te wā nui kotahi, engari nā ngā panonitanga iti i roto i te wā. He maha ngā tāne me ngā wāhine e tīmata ana hei hoa pai, hei hoa wairua, hei hoa aroha rānei, e ahua kore e taea te wehe, engari he āta haere, ka whakakapia te hononga e te tawhiti.

Nā, he aha i pēnei ai? Ā, he mea nui ake, ka taea te ārai, te whakatika rānei? Kia tūhuratia ngā tohu, ngā take, me ngā otinga.

Kāore he mea nui, he mea tino hē rānei i roto i taku marena, engari he mea 'kāore i te tika'. I pau katoa tōku kaha, ā, i waiho ahau kia rapu i tōku māia me tōku tuakiri. I motuhia ngā hononga kia kitea ai ahau!

Te Whakangaromanga Pōturi o te Hononga Ā-hinengaro

Ko Urmi Chowdhury ahau, ā, koinei taku kōrero.

E rua tekau tau ki muri, i aro atu ahau ki tēnei tangata ataahua taitamarikiI aroha māua i a māua e mahi ana i tētahi hōtera whetu rima papai. He hoa pai māua, ā, i moe māua; he moemoeā!

Heoi, i tīmata wawe te puta mai o ngā pakaru. I a mātou e tamariki ana, he pukumahi mātou. te whakataurite i te mahi me te oranga ā, he maha ngā tautohetohe i paraitia ki raro i te whāriki. I neke mātou ki ngā wāhi katoa i haria ai mātou e tana mahi – Calcutta, Bangalore, Hyderabad, ngā Philippines. I tipu haere ia i roto i tana mahi. I whiriwhiria e au kia kaua e tipu ake i roto i taku mahi. He tamāhine tā māua, ā, i hiahia ahau ki te manaaki i a ia. I kaha tana mahi, kātahi ka kaha ake; he maha atu ngā hāora i noho tawhiti atu i te kāinga. Ko te nuinga o te wā ko te wā whānau i te toa hokohoko, i te wharekai rānei. He iti haere te kōrero a mātou tetahi ki tetahi, engari i te wā e tīmata ai mātou i te whawhai.

Pānui e pā ana: E ono ngā huarahi e taea ai e ngā tāne me ngā wāhine te whakatutuki i te taurite mahi-ora

I tīmata rātou i runga i ngā mea koretake, ā, tata tonu te rite o ngā take tae noa ki te mutunga. Engari i nui haere ngā tautohetohe. Ā, i nui haere te riri. E tino mohio ana ahau, kua taea e mātou te whakahaere pai i tēnei mea me i whai wāhi atu mātou ki ētahi atu mea.

Engari ko te mea pono, kua mutu noa iho tā māua kōrero, ā, kua wehe kē. Kāore he raruraru nui, kāore he tutu, he tukino rānei, engari he mea tino huna, he mea huna. Tērā pea kua ngaro te hiahia tetahi ki tetahi, he rua rānei ngā pito rerekē o te aukume, ā, ka pōturi te ngokingoki mai o ēnei mea katoa ki a māua, ā, kāore māua i tino mōhio ki te mea e tupu ana. Kāore i taea e taku tāne pukumahi te mahi ki te whakaora i ōku 'pōuri noho-ki-te-kāinga'. Ka huri hei marena tuku iho - ko ia anake, ko au te kaiwhakahaere o te kāinga.

Pānui e pā ana: Me pēhea te kī atu ki tō hoa e hiahia ana koe ki te wāhi ina pouri koe

He tino atawhai ia, kāore i te kino, i tētahi atu mea rānei. Ka taea e au te whakapau i taku e pai ai, engari i tino ngoikore ahau me te kore he mahi. Mena kei a koe he wahine mahi, kāore koe i te tino harikoa ki te kai tina me te hokohoko.

Ā, i haere tonu ngā pakanga! I kino haere tonu. Nō reira, i pāngia ai māua e ēnei kare ā-roto me te whanaungatanga tinana. I tino pouri māua ināianei. Tae noa ki i toro atu ki tētahi kaitohutohu e rua ngā wā. Kāore i āwhina. Kāore i taea e māua te kōrero tetahi ki tetahi. Nāwai ā, ka tawhiti rawa atu māua.

Ko taku tāne hoki taku hoa pai rawa atu. I tino aroha ahau ki a ia, ā, i whakapono tonu ahau he marena pakiwaitara tēnei. Tae noa ki tēnei rā, ina rongo te iwi kua kore māua e noho tahi, ka ohorere tonu rātou, me kī atu rānei, ka ohorere. He pono, kāore au i te whakaaro he i whakaaro noa iho ahau he hē tetahi mea kei roto i tā māua marena.

Ina hoki, kāore au i te mōhio he aha te mea i hē. Tērā pea he nui rawa tōku wairua herekore ki te herea pēnei; tērā pea i mutu taku tipu i a ia e rere ana. Kāore au i riri ki tana angitu ahakoa mō tētahi wā poto, kāore i mua, kāore i nāianei. Engari i mōhio ahau kāore e taea e au te noho tahi me ia i ēnei rā. Nā ngā pakanga i kai tōku ngākau.

Ehara i te mea koinei taku i whakaaro ai mō taku marena. Kei a koe kua haumi ki tētahi whanaungatanga; e tumanako ana kōrua ka koroheke tahi.

Te pānui e pā ana: Ngā Uara Whānau 10 hei Āwhina i a Koe Ake Tonu i te Ao

Engari, i muri tata i te rua tekau tau o te marena, me tīmata anō koe i te ao hou. He maha rawa ngā ngoikoretanga. He manukanuka; ka whakaaro koe mēnā he tangata hei whakawhirinaki atu māu.

Ki te kite koe kei te hē tetahi mea i roto i tō marena, me mahi i ngā mea katoa hei whakatika. Kaua e tinihanga i a koe anō ka pai ake ngā mea. Me mahi koe i aua take, pērā i te whakatika i ngā paipa pakaru, nō reira me mahi i te tohu tuatahi!

Tērā pea kua taea te whakatika i tā māua marena. Tērā pea i waiho e māua kia roa rawa. Tērā pea nā Karmic, ā, kua whakatauhia e māua ō māua 'raruraru'. Mā wai e mōhio? Kei roto ahau i tētahi wāhi pai ake inaianei, ā, ko taku inoi anake kia kitea e ia tōna rangimārie.

(E ai ki ngā kōrero ki a Madhuri Maitra)

Thoughts Final

Kāore ngā whanaungatanga e rahua i roto i te pō kotahi—ka memeha haere ina ngaro te kaha. Ehara te aroha i te kimi noa i te tangata tika, engari ko te whiriwhiri tonu me te atawhai i te hononga. Ki te mea kei te piki haere tō tawhiti, kaua e tatari kia roa rawa te wā ki te whakatika. Ā mātou ratonga tohutohu āwhina i ngā tāne me ngā wāhine ki te hoki anō ki te whanaungatanga piripono, te whakawhitiwhiti kōrero, me te aroha.

Me pēhea te whakamutu i te tautohe i roto i te whanaungatanga - 11 ngā tohutohu e tino whai hua ana!

21 Ngā Tohutohu mō te Taurite Pai ake i waenganui i te Mahi me te Oranga mō ngā Wahine

20 nga huarahi e aroha ai to tane ki a koe

Kāore tō koha e kiia he kaupapa aroha takohaMā tēnei ka taea e Bonobology te kawe mai i ngā mōhiotanga hou me ngā mōhiotanga hou ki a koe i roto i tā mātou whainga ki te āwhina i te tangata katoa o te ao ki te ako me pēhea te mahi i tetahi mea.

Tirohia ta maatau Tukanga Etita

Tutaki ki ta maatau Poari Arotake

Tiri Urupare

He aha ō urupare?

×

āwhina Pūrongohia he Hapa He mea anō (kōrerohia mai he aha te horopaki)

Tuku