Ngā Tohu He Unicorn Koe I Roto I Te Hononga Polyamorous

He rite tonu te whanaungatanga Unicorn ki tētahi hononga whai hua, whai hua hoki, i te mea e mōhio ana koe ki tāu e hiahia ana. Tērā pea ka rite te unicorn ngaro i roto i te whanaungatanga maha ki tētahi atu i ētahi wā, ā, koia pea te kare ā-roto i tae mai ai koe ki tēnei tuhinga. 

Ki te mea kei roto koe i tētahi tokorua unicorn i raro i te whakapae he whanaungatanga maha, tera pea kāore tō wheako e rite ki tāu i moemoeā ai i te wā i whakaaro ai koe kua kitea tō hoa. 

Ahakoa he wheako whakamiharo te whanaungatanga maha-unicorn, he mea āwhina kia mōhio koe mēnā ko koe te unicorn i roto i tētahi whanaungatanga maha-unicorn. Ki te roa koe e tuku ana i te koretake ki te karapoti i ō tapanga, ka uaua ake te noho makona. Me titiro tātou ki ngā mea katoa e hiahia ana koe ki te mōhio mō ēnei momo whanaungatanga, me te mea kua kitea koe i roto i tētahi, kāore i te mōhiotia. 

He Whakamārama mō te Unicorn Polyamory

I mua i tō mōhio mēnā kua kitea koe e rite ana ki te unikōna i roto i te whanaungatanga maha me ō hoa, me whakarite tātou kei te whārangi kotahi tātou mō te aha te tokorua unikōna.

Ko te "hononga unicorn" he hononga e hono ana te hoa tuatoru ki tētahi hononga o te tokorua, mō ngā take moepuku, mō ngā take kare ā-roto rānei. Ko te tohu matua i konei ko te hononga o te tangata tuatoru ki te tokorua tuatahi, kaua ki tētahi o rāua anake. 

Ko te tikanga, he whanaungatanga maha-aroha. Tērā pea i uru mai te tuatoru o ngā tāngata mō te whakatutuki i ngā kare ā-roto, te makona i te moepuku, te whakapau kaha mō te wā roa, mō te wā poto rānei, te aha atu rānei e tumanakohia ana e rātou i roto i tēnei whanaungatanga. 

Ko ngā āhuatanga me ngā ture o te whanaungatanga unicorn e whakawhirinaki ana ki te hunga e whai wāhi ana, i te mea he nui te whakaute tetahi ki tetahi i roto i te whanaungatanga kia mōhio ai te katoa e rangona ana, e maiohatia ana hoki. 

A "unikōna" i roto i te polyamory he tangata e hiahia ana ki te whakauru atu ki tētahi tokorua hei mema tuatoru, ā, kei te rapu pea ia i tētahi mea mai i tētahi pō o te ahuareka o te moepuku ki tētahi herenga aroha mō te wā roa. 

Ko te take i karangatia ai rātou ko ngā "unikorana" he uaua rawa te kimi. E ai ki whakatau tataes, tata ki te 4–5% noa iho o te taupori o Amerika e whakamahi ana i te polyamory. Kia taea ai e koe te whakatau mena kei roto koe i te ao polyunicorn, me mārama koe ki te whakamāramatanga tuku iho o taua mea. 

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I te nuinga o te wā, ko te kupu "unicorn" i roto i te polyamory e whakamahia ana hei tohu i tētahi wahine takatāpui e hiahia ana ki te whakauru ki tētahi whanaungatanga mō ngā take moepuku anake. E mārama ana kāore te unicorn e rite te mana ki te tokorua, ā, kāore rāua e tino whai wāhi ki te whakatau i te ahunga o te whanaungatanga. 

Ki te whakaaro koe kei te whakaarohia koe he unikōne i roto i te mea i whakaarohia e koe he polydynamic, tera pea kua tae mai me tana wāhanga tika o te taha taha. Me titiro tātou ki ngā tohu he unikōne koe i roto i te polyamory, kia taea ai e koe te whakatau whai whakaaro mō te mea e hiahia ana koe ki te mahi (nā te mea e kore e kōrero mai ngā tāngata e noho tahi ana koe ki a koe). 

Ngā Tohu He Unicorn Koe I Roto I Te Hononga Polyamorous

I te ao o te whanaungatanga maha, ka raru pea ngā tapanga. Ko te kore-mono-tikanga matatika, ko ngā whanaungatanga vee, ko te whanaungatanga takitahi, me te maha atu o ngā mea. Heoi, ki te kite koe kei te whakaarohia koe pērā i te "tuatoru," kāore e tino whakahihiri. 

I pā anō tētahi mea rite ki a Geremy, nāna i whakamārama te tīmatanga o tana mahi te noho mokemoke i roto i tana whanaungatanga"I rapua e au ngā tohu he maha āu hoa aroha i runga i te Google, ā, i kitea e au ngā mea katoa e tika ana. I whakatau ahau ki te tīmata mā te whai wāhi atu ki a Jason, kua noho kē ia i roto i tētahi hononga, ā, i whakamana mai tana hoa, a Maya, he maha āu hoa aroha anō hoki." 

"I whakaaro ahau kei roto māua i tētahi hononga matua ko Jason, ā, ka tuwhera ahau ki ētahi atu wheako i te taha. Engari i kitea e au he tino piripono ahau ki a Jason rāua ko tana hoa, ko Maya, tae noa ki te wā i rite māua ki tētahi tokorua." 

Ahakoa i uru atu ahau, i rite anō hoki ahau ki te haere tahi noa iho, kāore he mana whakahaere mō ngā huringa o tēnei waka hurihuri. I te nui rawa atu, ka mutu taku mahi, ā, ko te mea anake i mahue iho i ahau ko te hinengaro pōhēhē.”

Ahakoa kāore ia i tūtaki ki te hunga i noho tahi rāua, tera pea kua kitea e Geremy ia e whai wāhi ana ki tētahi whanaungatanga tuwhera a te unicorn. I rite ia ki te tangata "tuatoru" i whakauru te whanaungatanga, ehara i te tangata i uru nui ki roto. 

Ki te whakaaro koe kei te pāngia koe e tētahi mea ōrite, me titiro tātou ki ngā tohu katoa e tohu ana ko koe te unikōna. 

1. I uru atu koe ki tētahi tokorua kua roa e whai mana ana

Ko tētahi o ngā āhuatanga nui e wehewehe ana i te tokorua unicorn ko te mea e whai ana te takirua ki te whakauru i tētahi tuatoru ki roto i ō rāua whanaungatanga. Ki te mea kei te whakaaro koe mēnā ko koe te unicorn i roto i tētahi whanaungatanga maha, pātai atu ki a koe anō mēnā he hītori tahi kē tō te hunga e noho tahi ana koe.

Mena i rapu rāua i a kōrua hei hoa rangatira – ina koa mō ngā take moepuku noa iho – tera pea ka whakaarohia kōrua e rāua ko te unikōne i roto i tētahi hononga maha-ira. 

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2. Kei te tīmata noa rātou ki te whanaungatanga maha 

Mena he roa rawa te wā e noho tahi ana rāua, he takirua takatāpui, he takirua takitahi, ā, e hiahia ana rāua ki te whakanui ake i te hiahia, he tohu mārama tēnei kāore rāua e hoatu ki a koe te whakaute tahi ka hoatu e rātou tetahi ki tetahi. 

Kāore he hē o te tīmata noa ki te whanaungatanga maha-ira, engari ko te mea pono kei te rapu noa rāua i tētahi unicorn i roto i te whanaungatanga maha-ira hei wheako moepuku mā rāua. Mena i whakatūria e rāua ētahi ture me te reo raruraru pēnei i te "tāpiri i tētahi ki tō māua whanaungatanga" kaua ki te "rapu hononga ki tētahi tuatoru", he tohu tēnā he tokorua unicorn kōrua. 

3. He kōrero noa iho tā rātou mō te moepuku ki a koe 

Heoi anō, kei te kaha tonu tā rāua mahi moepuku tetahi ki tetahi, engari i ia wā ka mahi tahi kōrua, me noho tonu he mahi takirua. Ā, ki te kore kōrua e mahi tahi ana, me te mea ko te taha moepuku anake o tō kōrua whanaungatanga te mea e kōrerohia ana e kōrua tokotoru. 

Ko te whanaungatanga tuwhera o te unicorn, i te iti rawa i ngā wā o mua, he whanaungatanga moepuku noa iho. Koinei anō te mea i tupu ki a Trish, e whakapuaki mai ana i tana kōrero unicorn ki a tātou. "Ina kōrero koe mō ngā tohu he polyamorous koe, kei roto hoki i a koe te kaha ki te whai hononga kare ā-roto aroha ki te neke atu i te kotahi te tangata." 

"Koinei taku i tumanako ai i taku whakatau ki te whakauru atu ki tētahi tokorua i muri i te tīmatanga o te inu waipiro tokotoru. Ko taku i tumanako ai he oranga ngākau me te oranga tinana i puta ko te moepuku anake. I kite ahau i tēnei i taku kitenga ka tukuna mai e rāua he karere kuputuhi ina noho tahi rāua, e hiahia ana ki te moepuku."

4. Kāore rātou e tuwhera ki a koe 

Ki te mea kei te ahua kāore he hononga kare ā-roto I waenganui i a kōrua ko ō hoa, tera pea kei te mahi rātou i tēnei hei ngana ki te "tiaki" i tō rāua whanaungatanga. Mēnā kāore te unicorn i roto i te polyamory e kitea hei tangata hei whai wāhi atu mā rāua i roto i tētahi whanaungatanga roa, ka noho katia te tokorua, ā, ka aukati i a rāua anō ki te whakapuaki i ō rāua whakaaro ki a koe. 

Me te mea nei kei te ngana rātou ki te whakawhāiti i te whanaungatanga kare ā-roto e whakatūria ana e rātou ki a koe; ka kite koe i a rātou e hoki whakamuri ana mō tētahi wā mēnā ka tukuna e rātou a rātou anō. He maha ngā mea whakamiharo o te takirua unicorn, engari ki te titiro te tokorua o te tokotoru hei huarahi ki te whakatutuki i ā rātou wawata moepuku, kaua ki tētahi atu mea, e kore rātou e whakangao nui i ngā kare ā-roto ki roto.

5. He piripono rātou tetahi ki tetahi, ā, he rerekē ki a koe 

Ki te kite koe i a rāua e tino tiaki ana tetahi i tetahi, ā, ki te mea ko rāua te momo tokorua e kore e tuku tetahi i tetahi ina puta ki waho i te marea, kua kitea e koe ētahi tāngata e kore rawa e atawhai tetahi i tetahi i a koe pērā i tā rāua atawhai tetahi i tetahi. 

E ai ki tā mātou i kōrero ai, ka rerekē te manaaki i te unicorn i roto i te polyamory (ina koa kāore ia i te mōhio he unicorn rāua) i te manaaki a ngā mema matua e rua tetahi ki tetahi. Arā, ka rite rāua ki te tokorua, ā, tera pea ka rite koe ki te tangata whenua. 

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6. E rite ana koe ki tētahi atu mea hei tāpiri atu ki tā rāua whanaungatanga 

Ki te mea kua kitea koe i roto i tētahi āhuatanga kāore koe i te tino mōhio mēnā ko koe te unikōne i roto i tētahi hononga maha-tāne, kāore koe e whakaaro kei a koe te tikanga mō te ahunga whakamua o tēnei hononga. Ka rite koe ki tētahi tāpiri, ki tētahi tāpiri ki te hononga o nāianei, engari ehara i te mea he wāhanga nui o taua hononga. 

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Mena kua whakapono koe ko koe te unikōna i roto i tēnei āhuatanga nā te pānui i ngā tohu kua whakarārangihia e mātou, kāore e tika ana kia kīia ko tō kua mutu te whanaungatangaAhakoa kei roto koe i tēnei āhuatanga, ehara i te mea kei roto koe i te teka me te tinihanga mō ētahi marama, engari tera pea ka huri hei hononga whai hua. 

Heoi, kia tutuki ai tēnā, me whakarite koe mēnā ka whakautehia koe e te tangata. Kaua koe e whakaaro he mea whakapaipai koe, engari me whakaaro koe he wāhanga nui o te ao. Kaua koe e haere tahi i te nohoanga o muri, engari me whakatau anō hoki koe i te mana whakahaere. 

Me whakaute hoki ō rohe, ō hiahia, me ō wawata. Ko te noho hei unicorn i roto i te polyamory ehara i te mea ka whakamahia noa koe mō te whai rawa moepuku. Ki te mea kei te whakamahia noa koe mō te whakahari i te moepuku i a koe e rapu ana i tētahi atu mea, whakapuakina tō riri. Ki te kore koe e tae ki tētahi otinga, he pai ake te wehe atu. 

Ahakoa he aha tāu e hiahia ana, mā te whakawhitiwhiti kōrero koe e ārahi ki reira. Kōrerohia kia mārama ki ō hoa, kia mōhio ai mēnā e hangai ana tā rātou e hiahia ana ki tāu e hiahia ana, ā, mēnā hoki e whakawhirinaki ana koe ki a rātou kia mau ki tā rātou kupu. 

Mā te āwhina o ngā tohu ka taea e koe te rite ki te unikōne kua whakarārangihia e mātou, ko te tumanako kua mārama ake koe ki tāu e whai wāhi atu nei. Kia maumahara ki te whakatakoto i a koe anō ki mua, kaua hoki e tukua kia nui ake ngā kare ā-roto o ētahi atu i ōu ake. 

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