He aha te Unicorn i roto i te whanaungatanga? Te tikanga, ngā ture, me pēhea te noho i roto i te "whanaungatanga Unicorn"

Ko te unicorn i roto i te whanaungatanga, arā, ko te hono atu o tētahi atu tangata ki tō whanaungatanga o nāianei, ahakoa he moepuku, he kare ā-roto rānei, ka arahi pea ki tētahi wheako whakahihiri. Kia kitea angitu koe i roto i tēnei āhuatanga maha, ka whiua koe e koe anō, ka miharo he aha koe i kore ai e mahi i tēnei i mua atu. 

Heoi, ehara i te mea ngāwari te kimi i tētahi whanaungatanga me te unikōna (nō reira te kupu "unikōna"). He maha ngā mea hei kōrero, ētahi aratohu taketake hei whakatū, me ngā unikōna hei whai.

Ahakoa kei te rapu koe i tētahi, kei te rapu rānei koe me pēhea te noho hei unikōna tino pai i roto i te whanaungatanga, kua tae mai koe ki te wāhi tika. Kia whakautua ō pātai nui katoa, kia kitea ai e koe te kūmene hei whakakapi i tō ranunga tote me te pepa. 

Te Mārama ki te Unicorn i roto i te Hononga

Ko te "unikōna" i roto i tētahi whanaungatanga he tangata tuatoru e hono atu ana ki tētahi whanaungatanga kua whakatūria mō ngā take moepuku, kare ā-roto rānei, mō ngā take e rua rānei. Ka taea e te unikōna te tumanako kia noho motuhake ki te tokorua kua uru atu rātou, ka taea rānei e rātou te whai mana ki te tūhura huri noa i tā rātou e hiahia ai.

Tērā pea kei te rapu tēnei tangata i tētahi pō mōrearea, kei te rapu rānei i tētahi hononga roa ki tētahi tokorua. He takirua, he takatāpui, he takatāpui rānei. Ko te whakaaro nui, kua kiia rātou he "unikōna" i roto i tētahi whanaungatanga nā te mea kei te rapu rātou ki te whai wāhi atu ki tētahi tokorua kua whakapumautia, ehara i te mea nā ō rātou hiahia moepuku, hiahia rānei ki te hono atu. 

Te mauri o a whanaungatanga maha-aroha Ko te take, ka taea hoki e ngā hoa e whai wāhi ana ki tēnei whanaungatanga te whai wāhi tahi me ngā tāngata i waho o tā rātou whanaungatanga matua — te moepuku, te kare ā-roto, ngā mea e rua rānei. 

Nō reira, ko te whanaungatanga unicorn, i roto i te tikanga, ka huri hei momo whanaungatanga maha-ira. I te nuinga o te wā, ko te "unicorn" i roto i te whanaungatanga maha-ira he wahine takatāpui e uru atu ana ki tētahi tokorua takatāpui mō ngā hiahia moepuku, engari koinā tonu te āhua o te wā. Ko ngā āhuatanga o tēnei momo whanaungatanga e whakawhirinaki ana ki ngā mea e whakatūria ana e te tokorua (te unicorn rānei) me tā rātou e rapu ana. 

Ki te mea kei te whakaaro koe he aha i huaina ai rātou he unicorn, he uaua ki te kitea. E ai ki tata, tata ki te 4–5% noa iho o te tangata e mahi kaha ana i te whanaungatanga maha i Amerika, nō reira he uaua ki te kimi i tēnei tuatoru o ngā mea ngaro e noho nei tōna ngākau aroha hei momo pakiwaitara i roto i ngā whanaungatanga.

Kia whakarāpopoto tātou. Ko te hononga unicorn he hononga e uru atu ai te tuatoru o ngā tāngata ki tētahi tokorua kua roa nei e noho tahi ana mō ngā take moepuku, ngā take kare ā-roto, ngā take e rua rānei. Ko te "unicorn" he tangata e hiahia ana ki te whakauru atu ki tētahi tokorua. 

Nā te mea kua mōhio koe ki te whakautu ki te pātai he aha te whanaungatanga o te unikōne, me titiro tātou me pēhea te kimi i tāu ake mea hanga pakiwaitara, me pēhea hoki te kōrero ina kitea e koe tētahi. 

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Me pēhea te whakatata atu ki tētahi Unicorn 

Ahakoa te āhua nei kāore e taea te tūtaki ki tētahi atu tangata e hiahia ana ki te whakauru atu ki a koe i roto i te kupu, kua wareware kē tātou ki ngā mana whakamiharo o te ipurangi? He torutoru noa ngā pāwhiri hei kimi i tō hoa e whai ake nei, me te mea he maha ngā momo tautuhinga hoahoa ko te tikanga kei reira tonu ngā wāhi ka kitea e koe tāu ake kararehe pūrākau e rere ana.

Mā te āwhina o ngā hapori pāpāho pāpori me ngā taupānga whakaipoipo e aro ana ki ngā tāne takatāpui, ka taea e koe te whakapai ake i tō tūponotanga ki te noho i roto i te whanaungatanga unicorn. Kia kitea rā anō tētahi e whakahihiri ana i a kōrua, he mea nui kia mōhio koe me pēhea te whakatata atu ki tēnei tangata, kei kaha rawa tō haere mai, ā, kei mataku rātou. Me titiro tātou ki ētahi mea hei maumahara: 

1. Tukua ngā tumanakohanga katoa 

I mua i tō whakatata atu ki tētahi, kia tino tukua e koe ō tumanakohanga katoa. Kāore pea te unikōne i te ira tāne, ira wahine rānei, nō reira, kāore ia e hiahia ki te moe tahi me tētahi o kōrua (mēnā he tokorua takatāpui kōrua).

Kāore pea te unikōne e rapu ana i tētahi herenga mō te wā roa. Kāore pea rātou e rapu ana i tētahi mea moepuku, kāore rānei rātou e mōhio ki ngā ture o te whanaungatanga unikōne, mēnā rānei he ture.

Koinā tonu te mahi a Jason rāua ko Molina i te wā i whakatau ai rāua ki te rapu i tētahi atu. Ahakoa i tīmata rāua ki te rapu i tētahi wahine takatāpui mō tētahi pumau mo te wa roa Ko wai ka pai ki te tāpiri i te tuawhā i ia wā, i ia wā, ka kite rātou ehara i te mea koinei te huarahi. Ko te whai rārangi arowhai he whakarite noa iho mō te pouri.

Me te hinengaro tuwhera, ka tirotiro haere rātou, ā, ka tūtaki ki a Geremy, he wahine atawhai, he wahine ruarua, e 21 tau te pakeke. I tō rātou whakaae he unikōne ia i roto i tētahi whanaungatanga maha-tāne, ka mōhio rātou ko ngā whakaaro o aua whanaungatanga he aratohu, ehara i te ture me whai. 

2. Kia pono

Ko ngā ture o te whanaungatanga unicorn kei a koe, koia te mea nui kia mōhio te hoa tuatoru ki tāu e rapu ana. Ko te wawe o tō whakamōhio atu ki a rātou ko te whanaungatanga unicorn takirua aroha kore-ira tāu e rapu nei, ko te pai ake mō te hunga katoa e whai wāhi ana. 

Heoi, kaua e whakamātautau i a rātou ki te whanaungatanga pēnei i te unicorn, me kōrero noa ki a rātou mō tāu e hiahia ana me tā rātou e rapu ana. 

3. Kia tangata pai 

He aha ngā mea me mātua whakarite e koe i mua i tō whakatata atu ki tētahi? Kia tangata tika koe; kia whakaute, kia atawhai, kia pono hoki. Kei te rapu koe i tētahi atu tangata hei whakauru atu ki tō whanaungatanga. Me whakaute koe i a rātou e tika ana. 

Pātai atu ki ā rātou tumanakohanga, kia rongohia rātou, kia mōhio hoki kei te whakautehia rātou. Ko te whakautu ki te whanaungatanga unicorn ehara i te whanaungatanga e kore e aro ki te hoa tuatoru, engari he whanaungatanga e whiwhi ai te katoa i tā rātou e hiahia ana i te wā e... te whakaute i roto i tō whanaungatanga e pupurihia ana.

4. Whakatūria ngā aratohu i te wā e taea ai

Kua whakatakotoria ngā "ture" o te whanaungatanga kotahi-kāne, ā, e mōhio ana te katoa he aha te tinihanga. Engari mō te whanaungatanga kotahi-kāne, ko te mea e whakaaetia ana, ko te mea kāore e whakaaetia, kei te hunga e whai wāhi ana. Nō reira, he mea nui kia whakatūria ngā aratohu i te wā e taea ai. Anei ētahi mea hei maumahara māu ina tūtaki koe ki tō kotahi-kāne i roto i tētahi whanaungatanga, ā, me whakatau koe he aha te mea e pai ana, he aha te mea kāore e pai ana:

• Kia tino mōhio koe ki ngā mea e hiahiatia ana e te katoa mai i te ao hurihuri, me pēhea hoki te whakarite kia harikoa te katoa.
• Kōrerohia ō ake rohe. Mā te tere o tō mahi, ka tere ake tō whakarite kia kore tetahi e rongo kua takahia, kua whakamahia rānei. 
• Ko te whakawhitiwhiti kōrero tuwhera, whai hua, me te pono te mea nui. Mēnā he mea kei te whakararuraru i a koe, whakamōhio atu ki ō hoa mahi. Kia tino whakapai ake i te whakawhitiwhiti kōrero i roto i tō whanaungatanga hou. 
• Pērā i roto i ngā whanaungatanga katoa, he pai te kōwhiri kia kaua e uru atu ahakoa he aha te take 
• Kōrerohia ngā mea whakamā: Ko wai kei te noho tahi me wai? He tangata kei te hae? Ko wai kei te waiho i ngā paraihe niho ki te whare o wai? 
• Kia whakautehia te katoa, ā, kia tū rangatira hoki koutou ki mua i a koutou anō

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He ture anō kei roto mō te noho hei Unicorn i roto i te whanaungatanga?

Ki te mea kei te rapu koe i ngā ture hei noho hei unicorn i roto i tētahi whanaungatanga, anei ēnei: ​​kia tino whakanuia koe. Ko te whakaaro nui, kei a koe ngā ture, ā, kaua rawa koe e whakaaro kāore koe i te whakaute, kāore i te whai mana, kāore i te mamae, kāore rānei i tukinotia i te taha hinengaro.

Hei tauira pai i roto i te whanaungatanga, he mea nui kia whakapuakina e koe tāu e rapu ana, me te ngana ki te kimi mēnā he pai tēnei āhuatanga mōu. Kia mōhio te tokorua ki ō hiahia me ō wawata, kia mōhio rātou ki ō rohe, kia whakaute hoki i a rātou, ā, he hunga rātou ka taea e koe te whakawhirinaki. 

Ki te whakaarohia e koe, he mea katoa ēnei hei whakaaroaro māu i mua i tētahi atu whanaungatanga, ki te pono. "Kua whakaritea e au tētahi whakamātautau whanaungatanga iti, he rite ki te unicorn, hei whakamātautau mā te tokorua i mua i taku urunga atu ki tētahi o rātou," te kī a Annie ki a mātou. 

"He tokorua pai rāua? Kua kōrerohia e rāua ngā mea pēnei i ngā rohe, ā, kei te whakaae rāua ki tētahi hononga unicorn? Kāore e taea te kī atu te maha o ngā wā kua tūtaki ahau ki ngā wāhine i kī mai ka pai ki a rāua engari i kino ki ahau i te wā i haere tahi ai māua i te rā tuatahi," tāna tāpiri.

Pērā i a Annie, me whakarite koe ka taea e koe te whakawhirinaki ki te hunga ka noho tahi koe, me te tino mohio hoki rātou koinei tā rātou e hiahia ana. 

Ngā Whakaaro Hē mō ngā Unicorn 

I te mea he hou rawa ngā whanaungatanga i waenganui i te unicorn, ā, nā te mea kāore anō kia tino mau ngā ture o te whanaungatanga unicorn pērā i ngā rohe o ngā tāne me ngā wāhine takitahi, tera pea he whakaaro hē. Me arotake e tātou ētahi o aua mea i konei: 

1. Whakaaro hē: He wahine takatāpui ngā Unicorn 

Kāore, ka taea e rātou ahakoa ko wai e hiahia ana ki te whakauru atu ki tētahi tokorua. E ai ki tā mātou i kōrero ai i mua, ko te kupu unicorn he mea whakamahi noa hei whakaahua i tētahi e hiahia ana ki te whakauru atu ki tētahi kua whakatūria kētia, ā, hononga hauora.

2. Whakaaro hē: Ka "tāpiri" ngā Unicorn ki te tokorua 

E ai ki tā mātou i kōrero ai i mua, he mea āwhina te tuku i ō tumanakohanga katoa mō ngā whanaungatanga me te unicorn. Tērā pea kāore te unicorn e hiahia kia rite te tūnga o tō hoa ki tō unicorn, engari tera pea ka hiahia te unicorn kia rite te whakaute ki a ia. Anō, ko ngā āhuatanga rerekē ka whakawhirinaki katoa ki te hunga e whai wāhi ana.

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3. He whakaaro hē: Ko ngā unicorn anake e whakamahia ana mō te moepuku 

Ahakoa he pono he pō whakangahau anake te mea e rapua ana e te nuinga o ngā unikōne, ehara i te mea pērā mō rātou katoa. Tērā pea kei te rapu rātou i tētahi mea mō te wā roa, i tētahi mea e mau ana mō ngā marama e rua, i tētahi mea kāore e pā ki te ira tangata, i tētahi mea rānei e pā ana ki te moepuku engari he kakara.

4. Whakaaro hē: Me takirua ngā ira tāne me ngā ira wahine o te Unicorn 

Kāo! Kāore he "me" he mea noa iho te ūnikone i roto i te whanaungatanga. Kāore he pānga o te ūnikone ki tōna ira tangata, ki tōna iwi, ki tōna ira tangata rānei. Tērā pea kei te rapu noa rātou i tētahi mea kāore e pā ana ki te ira tangata. 

5. Whakaaro hē: Kāore rawa ngā Unicorn e hiahia ana ki te motuhaketanga 

Kua mārama pea koe ināianei, kāore? Ko ngā ture mō te whanaungatanga ki te unikōne e whakawhirinaki ana ki te hunga e whai wāhi ana. Nō reira, ko te hiahia o te unikōne ki te whai i te motuhaketanga, ki te tūhura rānei i ngā kōwhiringa, he mea whakawhirinaki ki a ia. 

Nā te mea kua mōhio koe ki ngā mea katoa e pā ana ki ngā whanaungatanga unicorn, ko te tumanako kei te tata atu koe ki te kimi i ngā mea e hiahiatia ana e koe hei whakatutuki i te taurite tino pai i roto i tō whanaungatanga. Mā wai e mōhio, tera pea ka whiwhi koe i te wheako pai rawa atu o tō ao. Kia pai te rapu!

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