Kodi anthu opanga zinthu angakhale ndi maubwenzi opambana?

Om Puri anali m'modzi mwa ochita masewera olimbitsa thupi aku India komanso zisudzo. Anali m'modzi mwa ochita masewera oyambilira, omwe ndi omwe amakonda Naseeruddin Shah ndi Shabana Azmi, adapanga kanema waku India kukhala wopikisana nawo kuti adziwike padziko lonse lapansi. Shah nthawi zambiri amakumbukira momwe, kuchokera kwa wachinyamata wachinyamata wowoneka bwino, wokhala ndi maso anjala ndi chitsulo, akukhala mukhonde ndi chitofu, poto ndi mabuku angapo, adasandulika kukhala wofunikira, wovuta komanso wochita bwino kwambiri pamasewera apadziko lonse lapansi. Ulendo umenewu sunali ulendo wokha umene anayenda.

Pomwe ntchito yake yochita sewero idakwera ndikufika pachimake, kumenyera bata kwake maubale achikondi sizinkawoneka kuti zikufika kumapiri ake. Mayendedwe ake amiyala adapitilirabe, mosasamala kanthu za amene Puri anali naye.

Chikondi kuposa ukwati

Kukondana kunali bwino pomwe Om Puri ndi Seema Kapoor anali pachibwenzi pafupifupi zaka khumi. Koma atakwatirana, zidangotengera miyezi isanu ndi itatu kuti Nandita Puri alowe m'chipinda cha hotelo ya Om Puri panthawi yowombera ndipo kenako Seema adapeza zovala zamkati za Nandita m'kabati ya Om. Chovuta kwambiri chinabwera pamene mbiri yake, yolembedwa ndi mkazi wake wapanthaŵiyo, Nandita, inatuluka. Sizinangotengera nkhani ya Om Puri kuchokera ku nsanza kupita ku chuma koma zidawulula zapaunyamata wake - chibwenzi chake ndi wantchito wawo wapakhomo komanso kugonana kwake ndi mkazi wotchedwa Laxmi. Izi zidadzetsa kugwa kwakukulu pakati pa Puri ndi mkazi wake, popeza Puri adawona izi ngati kuphwanya moyo wake wamseri. Pambuyo pake Nandita adapereka mlandu wa nkhanza motsutsana ndi Om, ndipo posakhalitsa adasudzulana.

Ichi ndi chimodzi mwa zitsanzo zambiri za maubwenzi ovuta m'moyo wa wojambula. Kuyang'ana mbiri yakale, ndipo palibe kusowa kwa maanja osiyanasiyana otchuka ochokera m'mafilimu, zaluso, kapena zolemba, omwe akhala ndi maubwenzi oyipa komanso ovuta - nthawi zina amadzipangitsa kudzipha. Khalani munthu wodziwika ngati Sylvia Plath akumenyana naye kuvutika maganizo kwake ndi matenda a m'maganizo pamene akuyesera kupeza bwino mu ubale wake ndi ndakatulo mwamuna, Ted Hughes, kapena ziwerengero zamakono zamalonda Indian cinema, monga Rakhee Gulzar amene nthawizonse wanzeru ndi chete za ubale wake analephera ndi ndakatulo ndi lyricist mwamuna, Gulzar.

Ndiye pali Jean Paul Sartre ndi Simone de Beauvoir, kapena Shashi Tharoor ndi Tilottama Mukherjee, Frida Kahlo ndi Diego Rivera, Joan Baez ndi Bob Dylan; kapenanso Virginia Woolf ndi Leonard Woolf (ngakhale kuti analibe vuto lenileni m'banja lawo, Virginia mu kulimbana kwake ndi matenda ochititsa munthu kusinthasintha zochitika sakanatha kukonda Leonard motengeka mtima kapena motengeka mtima. Anamukonda kwambiri komanso pafupifupi mwachidwi, zomwe zimatchulidwa m’mawu ake odzipha: “Sindikuganiza kuti anthu aŵiri akanakhala osangalala kuposa mmene takhalira.”)

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Ngakhale malingaliro opanga amafunafuna 'kuthamangira' kapena 'kuthamanga' mkati mwawo komwe kumawalimbikitsa kulemba, kuchita, kujambula kapena kusewera, kuthamangira komweko kumayamba ngati kuchitapo kanthu mwamphamvu zikafika chikondi chachikondi. Kulimba uku nthawi zambiri kumazimiririka ndi nthawi, chifukwa sayansi idzatiuzanso kuti monotony sigwira ntchito bwino ndi malingaliro opanga.

The kulenga chidwi

Nthawi zonse pamakhala chizoloŵezi chofuna chinthu china kapenanso chidwi chofuna kudziwa kunja kwa zomwe akudziwa kale. Izi zimapangitsa ambiri mwa malingaliro awa kukhala opupuluma. Kwa ubale wokhazikika, izi sizingakhale njira yabwino. Monga psychotherapist, ndapeza kuti chiwerewere ndi chiwerewere imapezeka paliponse mwa ojambula ndi olemba. Ngati winayo sachokera kumalo ovomerezeka, ndiye kuti maubwenzi otere sangayende bwino. Malingaliro opanga amakhala mukufufuza kosalekeza kapena kwakanthawi mumsewu wawo, kapena zinthu zomwe zimawalimbikitsa. Kufunafuna zokonda zakuya zachikondi, kuchokera pamalingaliro amenewo, kumakhala manyowa a zokolola zawo.

Koma ndiye, malingaliro oterowo amakhala olimba kuti aganizire mozama ndikudzipereka pakuwunika mozama, zomwe sizimangobweretsa kunyong'onyeka komanso kusakhutira kwathunthu, komanso zimawapangitsa kukhala tcheru ku matenda osiyanasiyana amisala. Chofunika kwambiri, malingaliro opanga amadziwa bwino za kusakhutira kwawo ndi zilakolako zosakwaniritsidwa. Ichi ndichifukwa chake ambiri aiwo akugwa. Zomwe ziyenera kuchitika muzochitika zotere mwina zimasiyana malinga ndi zochitika, koma mwina tikhoza kungovomereza kuti awa ndi malingaliro omwe timawakonda, ndipo tikudziwa chifukwa chake.

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Maganizo Final

Anthu opanga amatha kukhala ndi ubale wabwino. Mfungulo ndiyo kulemekezana, kumvetsetsana, ndi kuyamikira umunthu wa wina ndi mnzake. Othandizana nawo akazindikira ndikuthandizira mikhalidwe yapadera yomwe imabweretsa, maubwenzi amatha kuyenda bwino, kupereka kudzoza, kukhudzika, ndi kuya. Kukumbatira zaluso monga gawo la ubale m'malo moziwona ngati zovuta kungayambitse kulumikizana kwakukulu kwamalingaliro ndikugawana nawo kukula.

Ngati mukuyang'ana zochitika zaubwenzi wopanga, ganizirani zofufuza uphungu kapena kuphunzitsa maubwenzi kulimbitsa kulumikizana ndi kumvetsetsa. Ubale wopambana sikutanthauza kusokoneza zilakolako zanu; kumatanthauza kupeza kugwirizana ndi munthu amene amawayamikira ndi kuwachirikiza.

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