Mukalowa muubwenzi, kuthekera kwakuti mwina sikungayende bwino sikumatenga malo aliwonse m'malingaliro anu. Ngakhale pamene ubale ukupita patsogolo ndipo pakuyamba kuwonekera kusiyana ndi mikangano, inu simuli okonzeka kuti kutha mpaka izo nsalu zotchinga - kulekana chitika. N'chifukwa chake mmene kupambana wakale wanu kumbuyo kungakhale kwambiri lalikulu ganizo m'maganizo mwanu pamene ubwenzi akuthamanga njira yake.
Mumkhalidwe woterowo, mukamasokonezeka, kupwetekedwa mtima, kugwedezeka pansi pakumva kutaya ndi chisoni, zonsezi zimakupangitsani kuti mukhale otopa kwambiri, kuganiza kuti njira yoyenera ingakhale yovuta. Mukufunadi ex wanu abwerere? Kapena kodi chikhumbo chimenechi chikuchokera ku vuto limene kutha kwakhala likuyambitsa m’moyo wanu?
Kutalikirana pang'ono ndi malingaliro oyenera ndi zomwe muyenera kusankha ngati kuyambiranso chibwenzi chakale ndi zomwe mukufunadi. Pokhapokha mutakonzekera ndikuchita magawo osiyanasiyana obwererana ndi wakale wa T. Tiyeni tikuthandizeni kuchita zimenezo, ndi malingaliro achidule ochokera kwa katswiri wa zamaganizo Juhi Pandey (MA, Psychology), yemwe ndi katswiri wa zamaganizo, uphungu wa chibwenzi musanakwatirane, ndi kusudzulana, ndi katswiri wa zamaganizo Gopa Khan, yemwe ndi katswiri wa zamaganizo wa mabanja ndi nkhani zaumoyo wamaganizo.
18 Njira Kuti Mupindule Nawo Ex Wanu
M'ndandanda wazopezekamo
Kutha kwa chibwenzi sikuti nthawi zonse kumachitika chifukwa cha anthu awiri kusiya chikondi kapena kusagwirizana monga okwatirana. Nthawi zina, zinthu zingakupangitseni kuti musankhe chinthu chomwe simunkachifuna kwenikweni.
Zikatero, kufuna kubwezera bwenzi lanu lakale - kapena bwenzi lakale pankhaniyi - sichosankha chodzaza ndi mbendera zofiira. Ngati mukuganiza kuti munachita zinthu mopupuluma kapena mukunong’oneza bondo chifukwa cha kupatukanako, ndi bwino kuti muyambenso kusonyezana chikondi. Kupatula apo, kuli bwino kuyesako m'malo momangokhalira kudabwa kuti zikanatheka bwanji.
Ngakhale zili choncho, m'pofunika kudziwa kuti kuwina wakale kubwerera si zophweka monga kutumiza "Hei" njira yawo. Inu kupempherera yankho, ndipo wakale wanu adzakhala akudabwa momwe ngakhale kuyankha 'Hei' ndi kuiwala za izo pamaso ngakhale kuika foni yawo pansi. Mosataya mtima, ngati mukuganiza "Kodi mungapambane ndi wakale kubwerera?", Mukhoza, koma muyenera kuyandikira nkhaniyi moyenera.
Ngati ndi komwe muli pambuyo pakutha, nazi njira 18 zotsimikizirika kuti mupindulenso wakale wanu ndikuwapangitsa kukhala kosatha:
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1. Osalankhulana ndi wakale wanu kwakanthawi
Mukafuna kubwezera bwenzi lanu lakale kapena kubwererananso ndi bwenzi lanu lakale, kutenga foni ndi kuwombera mameseji kungakhale chinthu chovuta kwambiri. Komabe, ngati mukufuna kudziwa momwe mungapindulire wakale wanu ndikupangitsa kuti zigwire ntchito kwa nthawi yayitali, yankho lagona pakudzipatula kwa iwo mutangotha kumene.
Izi zimadziwika kuti No Contact Rule , zomwe zingathandize kwambiri pakubweretsa pamodzi okwatirana akale, chifukwa zimawathandiza kuwona bwino ubale wawo.
Gopa akuti, "Kukumana ndi vuto losalumikizana pambuyo pa kutha kwa banja ndikofunikira kuti mupewe kukodwa muubwenzi womwe ukuzungulira - pomwe okwatirana amakumana ndi vuto loti atha kutha ndi kubwererana.
2. Unikani ubale wanu
Mu nthawi yomwe simunalumikizane, tengani nthawi yoti mudzifufuze nokha ndikuwunika ubale wanu moyenera. Kodi nonse awiri munakondana? Kodi mumamvabe chimodzimodzi ndi iwo? Nanga bwanji iwo? Kodi unali ubale wabwino ? Kodi munali okondwadi ndi wina ndi mnzake? N’chiyani chinakulekanitsani?
Kodi mungathane ndi kusiyana kumeneku? Kodi ex wanu adzakhala wokonzeka kuyesetsa kusintha zinthu pamapeto awo? Kodi muli ndi chidaliro kuti mutha kuswa machitidwe akale omwe mwina adathandizira kutha?
Khalani oona mtima poyankha mafunso amenewa. Mayankho anu adzakupatsani inu momveka bwino ngati mukufuna kupambana wakale wanu kubwerera kapena ayi. Ngati inde, mukhoza kuyamba kukonzekera mmene kupambana wakale wanu kubwerera pambuyo palibe kukhudzana. Podzifunsa mafunso awa, mungakhale mukuyankha mosadziwa "momwe mungadziwire ngati muyenera kubwereranso ndi wakale wanu kapena ayi".
Ngati pa nthawi yopuma munazindikira chimene inu kwenikweni ankakonda anali lingaliro la ubwenzi osati kwenikweni mnzanuyo mu uthunthu wawo, inu basi anayankha funso nokha.
3. Dziwani ngati akadali ndi malo ofewa kwa inu
Maria anathetsa chibwenzi ndi mnyamata yemwe anali naye pachibwenzi koma anazindikira kuti chibwenzicho chinali chinthu chabwino kwambiri chomwe chinamuchitikira kwa nthawi yaitali. Iye anakankhira kutali maganizo amenewa kwa chaka chimodzi, koma iwo anangobwerera amphamvu. Nthawi zina ankadzifunsa kuti, “N’chifukwa chiyani ndimamusowa kwambiri mkazi wanga wakale ngakhale kuti ndinamusiya?” Panthawi ina, adaganiza zogwira ntchito yobwezera bwenzi lake lakale.
“Funso londiyang’ana pankhope linali lakuti: “Kodi mungam’bwezere bwanji wakale wanu wakale pambuyo pa chaka?
Iye anati: “Ndinangoyamba kucheza ndi anzanga, n’kumacheza ndi anthu, n’kumamupatsa moni pa malo ochezera a pa Intaneti, n’kumawafunsa wamba kuti awone mmene akuchitira.”
Maria anaona izi ngati chizindikiro choti asamuke. Ngati inunso mukufuna kubwezera chibwenzi chanu chakale ndipo simukudziwa momwe angachitire, kudziwa ngati akukukondanibe ndi malo abwino oyambira. Kupeza chibwenzi chatsopano kumafuna njira zosiyanasiyana kutengera zomwe zikuchitika. Zambiri zomwe mungasonkhanitse musanasamuke zidzakuthandizani kuti mupambane.
4. Gwirani ntchito nokha
Musanafikire kwa wakale wanuyo, kufuna kuyambiranso pomwe mudasiyira, khalani ndi nthawi yodzichitira nokha. Ngati chibwenzicho sichinayende bwino nthawi yoyamba, muyenera kuti munathandizirapo mwanjira ina. Kuchotsa zokhumudwitsa zing'onozing'onozo zimakhala ndi chinsinsi cha momwe mungapambanitsire wakale wanu kuti abwerere bwino. Mukayambiranso ngati anthu omwewo omwe sanathe kuti agwire ntchito nthawi yoyamba, mudzakhala ndi zotsatira zomwezo.
Apanso, mudzapeza kuti mukuyenda panjira yoterera ya ndewu ndi mikangano yomwe imawononga ubale wanu. Mwachitsanzo, ngati simunali wotetezeka kwambiri kapena muli ndi nsanje pachibwenzi, fikani pamizu ya zizolowezizi ndikuzithetsa musanapange zipolopolo kuti mubwezerenso wakale wanu.
Kuti muwone zoyesayesa zanu zikupereka zotsatira, zifukwa zanu ziyenera kukhala zolondola. Chitani izi kuti mukhale munthu wabwinoko, osati ndi cholinga chokhacho chobwezera wakale wanu. Ngati mukuyesera kuyankha "Kodi mungayesere kupambana wakale wanu?" yankho ndi wokongola kwambiri ayi, ngati zikutanthauza kuti inu kugwa mmbuyo ku njira zowononga kuti kamodzi kuvulaza ubwenzi wanu mpaka kutha.
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5. Pangani kudzidalira kwanu
Juhi Pandey akuti kudziona ngati wosafunika kungakhale chifukwa chachikulu cha mavuto ambiri omwe angakuwonongereni ubale wanu. "Ngati munadzimva kuti mulibe chitetezo muubwenzi wanu kapena munachita zinthu chifukwa cha nsanje koyamba, kudziona ngati wosafunika kungakhale chifukwa cha zimenezi."
"Njira yabwino yothetsera vutoli ndi kuyika ndalama pakudzisamalira." Kusintha kwa moyo waung'ono monga kukhalabe otanganidwa, kuchita zinthu zolimbitsa thupi kumachita zakudya zabwino ndi kugona kungasinthe momwe mumaonera nokha, komanso momwe mumakhalira ndi maubwenzi," akutero.
Ngati mnzanu ndiye amene anathetsa chibwenzi chanu, kutha kwa chibwenzi chanu kungakulepheretseni kudziona kuti ndinu wofunika kwambiri. Izi zimapangitsa kuti muyambe kudzidalira musanaganize momwe mungabwezeretsere chibwenzi chanu chakale kapena kubweretsa chibwenzi chanu chakale kuti chikhale nanu. Pakapita nthawi, mungazindikire kuti kukhala ndi vuto lodzidalira kungakhale chimodzi mwa zifukwa zomwe simuli pabanja.
Mukakhumudwa, mutha kuganiza kuti kubwereranso pachibwenzi ndi wakale wanu ndiyo njira yokhayo yodzipezera kudzidalira, chifukwa munthu wina amakupatsani chidaliro. Ndikofunika kumvetsetsa kuti simuyenera kufunafuna chilimbikitso kapena chitsimikiziro kuchokera kwa wina aliyense koma inu nokha. Ngati mukunena kuti, “Ndimamusowa kwambiri mkazi wanga wakale moti zimandiwawa”, yesetsani kuona chifukwa chake zimandipweteka kwambiri musanayese kumubwezera.
6. Muziganizira kwambiri zinthu zina pa moyo wanu
Inde, tikudziwa kuti mwina mukuganiza kuti kuyang'ana mbali zina za moyo kungakuthandizeni bwanji kupambana wakale wanu. Chabwino, mwina si nthawi yomweyo kutengera inu pansi njira ya zigamba zinthu ndi mnzanu wakale, koma ndithu kukuthandizani kukhala otanganidwa wotanganidwa pamene inu pokonza pambuyo-kusweka maganizo anu ndi kumvetsa zimene mukufunadi.
Zikhale ntchito, zomwe mumakonda komanso zokonda zanu, kukulitsa ubale wanu ndi anzanu komanso abale, chitani zinthu zomwe zimakusangalatsani kuti musachite zinthu mwachangu kapena mopupuluma. Kuonjezera apo, izi zidzakuthandizani kusintha umunthu wanu, kukupangani kukhala wozungulira bwino komanso wofunika kwambiri.
Khalani munthu wakale wanu sadzatha kukana mukapanga ziwopsezo kuti muwapambanenso. Mukangoyang'ana kwambiri pakusintha chidwi chanu ku zinthu zomwe zingakupangitseni kukhala athanzi, mudzakhalanso mukubweza chidaliro chilichonse kapena chisangalalo chomwe mwataya panjira. Kodi ex wanu anganenedi kuti ayi kwa inu ngati mukuyaka nthawi ina akadzakuwonani?
Zitha kuwoneka ngati zosemphana poyamba, koma kupambana kwa wakale kumafuna kuti mudziyese nokha musanasamuke. Chifukwa chake tulutsani ma dumbbells, kapena yambani kutola ntchito zokhutiritsa.
7. Yesetsani kuyang'ana maonekedwe anu
Kodi mumafunikira kuyang'ana kwambiri mawonekedwe anu kuti mupindulenso bwenzi lanu lakale kapena kuti bwenzi lanu lakale lisangalale? Chabwino, mwina sizingabweretse wakale wanu akuthamangira kwa inu koma zidzawapangitsa kukhala tsonga ndikuzindikira. Mwina, ngakhale kukuwonani mwanjira ina.
Stacey akuti adasintha kwambiri atasudzulana ndi mwamuna wake. Ngakhale kuti ankamulakalaka kwambiri mkazi wake wakale ngakhale miyezi ingapo atasudzulana, iye analibe mtima wofuna kumulankhula atasudzulana. Kenako, adayika zithunzi zingapo za ulendo womwe adapita ndi gulu lake la atsikana.
Tawonani, iye adachitapo kanthu ndi zithunzi zake mkati mwa mphindi zochepa atazilemba. Patatha milungu ingapo akusiya zokonda, pamapeto pake adalowa mu DM yake poyankha nkhani ya Insta. Zimenezi zinam’patsa mwayi woti ayambitsenso chibwenzi ndi bwenzi lake lakale.
Ngati mwayamba kale kusintha masewera olimbitsa thupi pambuyo pa kutha, mwakweza kale mwayi wanu wakale wobwerera kwa inu. Masiku amenewo akayamba kulipira, mudzakhala ndi uthenga kuchokera pameseji yanu musanayankhe kuti "muyenera kuyesa kupambana wanu wakale?"
8. Osamunyoza ex wanu
Ichi ndi chimodzi mwa zolakwa tingachipeze powerenga kupewa pamene wanu wakale kubwerera. Ngati mukumva kuwawa pambuyo pa kutha kwa banja, n’kwachibadwa kufuna kutulutsa mawu. Koma kuchita zimenezi pamaso pa anzanu kapena pa malo ochezera a pa Intaneti kungachepetse mwayi wanu woti mupindule wakale wanu.
Ndicho chifukwa chake ndi bwino kuti bwalo lanu likhale lolimba. Gawani zakukhosi kwanu - ngakhale zitakhala zosaphika kapena zosasangalatsa - ndi anzanu ochepa odalirika m'malo mopita nawo kutawuni. Mwanjira imeneyo, ngati mwaganiza zobwererana nawo, mawu onenedwa mu kutentha kwa mphindi sangakuimitseni.
Tikukulangizani kuti muchepetse zakumwa. Magalasi angapo avinyo atha kukulimbikitsani kutumiza mawu oti "I hate u" kwa wakale wanu. Mosafunikira kunena, m'mawa wotsatira mudzakhala mu Googling "momwe mungapindulire wina mutamupweteka".
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9. Osachita mosimidwa
Kubwererana ndi wakale wanu kungakhale chinthu chokhacho m'maganizo mwanu, koma musalole kuti izi zikupangitseni kuchita zinthu kuchokera kumalo osimidwa. Kuyika foni yawo ndi mameseji ambiri kapena kupanga mameseji oledzera 2 koloko ndikuwayimbira kuti akubwezereni ndi vuto lalikulu ayi.
Mumausiku omwe muli osungulumwa, mutha kumangoganiza kuti, "Ndikufuna wakale wanga kuti abwerere mopweteka kwambiri", koma sizikutanthauza kuti mutha kuwatchula nthawi yomweyo. Izi ndizofunikira makamaka ngati mukufuna kupambana wakale wanu akakumana ndi wina. Patrick ankafuna kuti abwezerenso ubale wake wakale koma ex wake anali atabwerera kale pachibwenzi. Anangoona munthu watsopano.
“Anzanga onse anandifunsa funso lofananalo: “Kodi mungamubwezere bwanji bwenzi lanu lakale pamene akuwoneka kuti akupita patsogolo?” Zingaoneke ngati zopusa kwa ena, koma ndinali ndi chidaliro chakuti zaka ziŵiri zimene ndinakhala naye zikanakhala zolemera kwambiri kuposa kuthawa kwa milungu ingapo.
“Kupatula apo, kulekana kwathu kunali kusamvana kwakukulu, ndipo sindinkafuna kukhala ndi chisoni chifukwa chakuti sindinayesere mokwanira.” Chotero, pang’onopang’ono ndinabwerera m’moyo wake ndipo ndinampangitsa kuwona kuti ndikakhala naye kwa iye zivute zitani.
10. Afunseni mwachisawawa
Kaya mukufuna kudziwa momwe mungabwezeretsere wakale wanu pakatha chaka kapena pakangopita miyezi ingapo, chinsinsi ndichakuti musawazembere. M'malo mwake, khalani omasuka m'moyo wawo pokhudza maziko, kukhala ndi nthawi yogwira, ndiyeno, mosasamala kuganiza kuti muchite chinachake pamodzi.
Onetsetsani kuti chilichonse chomwe munganene ndichosadzipereka komanso chosagwirizana. Mwachitsanzo, mutha kuwauza za malo odyera atsopano kapena malo ogulitsira atsopano omwe abwera pafupi ndi inu, ndikuwafunsa ngati angafune kukaona nanu. Kapena mungawaitane kuti adzamwe zakumwa limodzi ndi anzanu kumapeto kwa mlungu.
Chilichonse chomwe sichingachititse kuti wakale wanu amve ngati akukopeka ndi chibwenzi chanu nthawi yomweyo ndi malo abwino oyambira. Komanso, ngati mukuyesera kudziwa momwe mungadziwire ngati muyenera kubwererana ndi wakale wanu kapena ayi, momwe amachitira akamacheza komanso thupi lawo mukakumana zidzakuuzani zonse zomwe muyenera kudziwa. Ndani ankadziwa kuti akazindikira momwe amachitira zinthu nanu adzakuuzani ngati mungathe kupeza wakale wanu kapena ayi?
11. Chitani ngati tsiku lanu loyamba
Poganizira kuti nonse mwakhala paubwenzi ndiyeno mwapatukana, payenera kukhala chithokomiro chamalingaliro chothana nacho. Ikangokhala nthawi yoti mwalumikizananso ndi wakale wanu si nthawi yoti mukambirane. Ndikofunikira kudutsa magawo osiyanasiyana obwererana ndi munthu wakale, sitepe imodzi ndi imodzi, kupeŵa kugunda chotchinga msewu.
Musanafike poyambitsa nkhani zakale, muyenera kuphunzira kukhala m'chipinda chimodzi osamva kusweka mtima kwanu. Kenako, m’pamene mumaphunzira kusangalala pocheza ngakhale kuti mumasiyana. Pokhapokha mutadutsa magawo awa ndi omwe mungathe kukambirana moona mtima zam'mbuyo ndi zam'tsogolo.
Kuti mukafike kumeneko, muyenera kuchitira izi wamba, sanali kudzipereka kokacheza ndi wakale wanu ngati inu bwenzi aliyense woyamba. Sungani mafunso anu kukhala osangalatsa komanso osangalatsa, koma musamavutike kwambiri. Mutha kufa kudziwa ngati adagona ndi wina kuyambira pomwe adasudzulana kapena ngati adakhala pachibwenzi pakanthawi kochepa. Kanizani chiyeso chimenecho.
M'malo mwake, afunseni za ntchito yawo, anzawo, zosangalatsa zawo, banja lawo, ndi zina zotero. "Ndiye, kodi mukusewerabe gofu ndi Joseph?", ndi funso loyenera kwambiri kuposa lakuti, "Kodi pomaliza pake munagona ndi wantchito mnzanu amene munali naye pachibwenzi?"
12. Sewerani pang'ono
Wina wa zolakwa wamba kupewa pamene kubweza wanu wakale ndi kuyesa rein mu kukangana kugonana mukakumana nawo kwa nthawi yoyamba mutatha kutha. Kuchita zimenezi kungakulowetseni ku friendzone mwamsanga. Woyamba wanu angaganize molakwika kuti mumafuna kuti mukhale mabwenzi pambuyo pa kutha.
Choncho, yesetsani kukopana pang'ono, osasiya kukayikira za zolinga zanu. Ngakhale simuzinena m'mawu ambiri, amamvetsetsa zomwe mukufuna. Komabe, muyenera kusamala pang'ono ndi izi. Ngati mukuyesera kuti mupindule wina mutamupweteka, mwina sangayamikire kuti mukukopana naye nthawi yomweyo. Werengani m'chipindacho, lowetsani mukukopana ndikuwona momwe akuyankhira.
13. Osagona nawo pakali pano
Kukopana ndi wakale yemwe mukufuna kuti mupindulenso ndi chinthu chimodzi, kulowa nawo m'thumba ndi chinthu china. Chotsiriziracho ndi malo otsetsereka omwe angakufikitseni pamalo osokoneza omwe simuli pamodzi kapena kusweka. Kubwerera kuchokera pamenepo ndikumanganso ubale kungakhale kovuta.
Suzie, yemwe ankakondana kwambiri ndi mwamuna wake wakale wakale, anaganiza zokumana naye kuti akakambirane zimene zinalakwika komanso ngati akanatha kusonyezana chikondi.
"Kuti tithane ndi vuto la kukhala limodzi kwa nthawi yoyamba chilekanitseni, tonse awiri tinawombera mopitirira pang'ono. Ndisanalankhule maganizo anga, milomo yathu inali yotsekedwa. Tinalipira mwamsanga cheke ndikubwerera kumalo ake ndipo tinamaliza kupanga chikondi cholimba, chachikondi kwa wina ndi mzake.
"M'mawa wotsatira, zokambirana zomwe ndinali nazo m'maganizo zimawoneka ngati zopanda pake. Sindinafunse zomwe ndimafuna, sananene kuti tibwererane. Tsopano, tagwidwa muubwenzi wamtundu wa bwenzi. Timalumikizana mlungu uliwonse kapena kupitilira apo kuti tigwirizane ndipo ndizomwezo, "akunyoza.
Zinthu ngati zimenezi zingakupwetekeni kwambiri, mobwerezabwereza. Popanda kukambirana moona mtima komanso momasuka, simudzatha kuuza wakale wanu zomwe mukufuna ndipo mudzakhala mumkhalidwe wovuta wa anzanu omwe ali ndi phindu lalikulu. Musanadziwe, mudzadzipeza mukunena kuti, “Ndikufuna kuti wakale wanga abwererenso kwambiri moti zimapweteka kwambiri” kachiwiri.
14. Kambiranani za m'tsogolo
Nonse mukakhala omasuka ndi wina ndi mzake ndipo mwakhala mukukumana ndi kukambirana kawirikawiri, mukhoza kufotokoza mutu wa kubwererana. Muuzeni wakale wanu kuti mukufuna kupatsa chibwenzi chinanso, ndiyeno mulole kuti ayankhe.
Mayankho awo oyambirira angakhale kapena sangakhale monga munkayembekezera. Popeza munapatukana, kukumana ndi munthu wokayikira kapena wosatsimikiza kuti mubwererane n’kwachibadwa. Kumbukirani, kuti mwakhala mukuganiza za momwe kupambana wakale wanu kubwerera kwa nthawi yaitali tsopano.
Komano wanu wakale, mwina sanasangalale ndi lingalirolo mwatsatanetsatane. Nthawi yoyamba mukafunsa funso, patsani wakale wanu nthawi yokonza, kuganiza ndi kuyankha. Ndi bwino ngati akufuna kugona kapena kuganiza za izo asanapange chisankho.
Osachita mantha kapena kuyamba kuganiza za zinthu zoyipa kwambiri m'mutu mwanu.
15. Lankhulani ndi njovu mchipindamo
Cholakwika china chomwe muyenera kupewa mukabwezeretsa chibwenzi chanu chakale ndikuyambanso chibwenzi chanu popanda kuthetsa mavuto omwe adakupangitsani kuti mulekanitse chibwenzi chanu. Mwachitsanzo, ngati mukuyesera kubwezera chibwenzi chanu chakale mutachita zachinyengo , ndikofunikira kukambirana momwe mungabwezeretsere kusowa kwa chidaliro.
Tengani chitsanzo cha Eliana ndi Steve. Eliana adachoka pachibwezi ndi nyumba yomwe adagawana ndi Steve atazindikira kuti amamupusitsa. Steve ananong'oneza bondo kuti analakwitsa, anafuna kukonzetsa ndikuyambanso.
Ngakhale kuti mbali ina ya Eliana nayenso ankafuna kukhala ndi Steve, sanathe kudziletsa kuti adutse chigololocho. Kotero, iwo anapita ku chithandizo cha banja ndikugwira ntchito kuti ayambitsenso kukhulupirirana muubwenzi asanabwererenso pamodzi moona mtima.
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16. Kambiranani momwe mungapangire ubale 2.0 kukhala wabwino
Mfundo yoti inu ndi wakale wanu munasiyana ndi umboni wakuti pali chinachake sichikuyenda bwino pakati panu. Mwinamwake, mmodzi wa inu anali wosatetezeka kwambiri kapena wansanje mu chiyanjano. Kapena mwina panali mikangano yosalekeza yokhuza mnzawo m'modzi yemwe amafunikira malo muubwenzi pomwe winayo samakwaniritsa zosowazo.
Popeza mwakhala mukukumana ndi zovuta zonse, muyenera kupeza njira yothetsera nkhaniyi ndikupanga ubale wanu kukhala wabwino kuposa kale. Pokhapokha mutachita zimenezo, ino sikhala nthawi yotsiriza kuti musiyane ndi kubwererananso.
Chizoloŵezi chobwereranso chimakula msanga kukhala chizoloŵezi chapoizoni chomwe sichili bwino kwa okondedwa awo.
17. Siyani zakale
Mukathana ndi mavuto anu, madandaulo ndi madandaulo anu, mutathana ndi mavuto anu, siyani zakale. Ngati mukufunadi osati kupambana wakale wanu kubwerera komanso kuwapangitsa kukhala kosatha, izi n'zosatheka negotiable.
Dziperekeni kuchitira mgwirizano wanu watsopano monga momwe mungachitire ndi ubale wina uliwonse. Palibe kubweretsa zolakwa zakale mpaka pano ndi mtsogolo.
Mwachitsanzo, mukamaliza kuchita bwino kuti mubwezeretse chibwenzi chanu chakale mutachita chigololo, pewani chizolowezi chokayikira nthawi zonse. Musayang'ane foni yawo mwachinsinsi kapena kuwafunsa mafunso mobwerezabwereza za komwe ali.
Nthawi zonse mukamatero, mumatumiza chizindikiro kuti simukuwakhulupirira. Zikatero, mafupa akale omwe ali m'chipindamo amatuluka posachedwa ndikugonjetsa ubale wanu.
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18. Dumphani
Tsopano popeza mwadutsa magawo onse obwererana ndi munthu wakale, chomwe chatsala ndi kungodumphadumpha ndikuyambanso chibwenzi. Tengani masitepe amwana ndikumanganso ubale wanu m'malo moyambira pomwe mudasiyira nthawi yomaliza.
Kumene inu nonse mudzagawana mlingo wa chitonthozo ndi ubwenzi kukhala mu ubale pamaso. Izi zitha kukuthandizani mukayambiranso ubale wanu. Ngakhale zili choncho, khalani omasuka kuti mubwererenso pamene munali pa nthawi imene munasudzulana.
Mwachitsanzo, ngati munali kukhalira limodzi pamene banja linatha, musalonge katundu wanu ndi kubwereranso mukangoganiza zopatsanso chibwenzi. Dikirani pang'ono, onani momwe zinthu zikuyendera, ndipo tengani chosankha pamene nonse mwakonzekera.
Momwe mungapambanire wakale wanu kumbuyo sikophweka kapena mwachangu, makamaka ngati mukufuna kuti chibwenzicho chikhale chokhalitsa. Komabe, ngati moleza mtima mudutsa njira yopangira mtunda ndikukhala nokha kwakanthawi musanakonze milatho ndi mnzanu wakale, mutha kuyigwira.
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