Kodi Ubale Waubwenzi Wama Benefits Umagwiradi Ntchito?

Masiku angapo, mnzanga Shikha akupita kutchuthi ku Goa ndi mnyamata yemwe wakhala akugona naye kwa zaka zisanu ndi chimodzi, koma yemwe sanamutchulepo chibwenzi chake. Ali ndi abwenzi omwe ali ndi ubale wabwino. Amakhala m’mizinda yosiyanasiyana, koma mosapeŵeka, kangapo m’mwezi umodzi, amapezana penapake pakati, amakhala ndi masiku awo oŵerengeka achikondi, ndiyeno amapita kosiyana.

Patapita nthawi, Shikha ndi mnyamatayo adagwirizana kwambiri. Ali wapamtima, ndipo komabe ali opanda chilichonse katundu wa nsanje ndi umwini. Amakhala omasuka kukhuthulirana matumbo awo chifukwa amaona kuti palibe chomwe angataye. Amagawana maubale awo akale, zongopeka, zosweka mtima. “Nthaŵi ina anandiuza za chibwenzi chachitali ndi chovuta chimene anali nacho ndi mnansi wake ndipo ine ndekha ndikudziwa zimenezo,” anatero Shikha. Iye ankaikonda nkhani imeneyi chifukwa inamupatsa chidwi kuti adziwe za iye zomwe palibe wina aliyense amene anachita. Nthawi zina zimamveka ngati ndife oona mtima kwambiri mu ubale wathu wa 'mabwenzi opindula' kuposa momwe timachitira ndi okwatirana.

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M'modzi mwa magawo a Men misala, Betty akunyengerera Don kumsasa wachilimwe wa Bobby, atangokwatirananso. Pambuyo pa kuthaŵa nkhalango, pamene akugona pamodzi pakama, Betty akuuza Don ponena za mkazi wake watsopano, “Mtsikana wosauka uja. Zoyipa koma zoona. Nthawi zina mabwenzi okondana kapena mabwenzi opindula angakupatseni mtundu wa ubwenzi umene ngakhale maubwenzi apamtima sangathe.

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Timapeza ambiri otizungulira akuchita nawo makonzedwe a ‘mabwenzi opindula’ ameneŵa. Zokonzekera izi zimatchedwanso maubwenzi achikondi, kapena f&*k buddy, kapenanso ubale ndi 'popanda zoyembekezako.' Chabwino, tiyeni tikhale enieni apa: Nthawi zonse pamakhala zingwe zochepa, sichoncho? Bonobology zopereka Ayushmaan Chatterjee akufunsa ngati kuli koyenera kuti wina akhale paubwenzi wa 'abwenzi opindula'.

Komanso, kodi ndi zomveka bwanji kugonana ndi munthu wina koma n'kutuluka kugwirizana maganizo? Ndipo, bwanji ngati m'modzi mwa okwatiranawo ayamba kukondana ndi mnzakeyo?

Ubwenzi wokhala ndi maubwino ndizovuta kwambiri. Mutha kuyamba ndi kusangalala ndi kugonana koma kukondana mobwerezabwereza kumakhala ndi chizolowezi chokakamiza anthu kuti azigwirizana. Vuto limakhalapo pamene wina wayamba kukondana kwambiri ndipo winayo satero. Ndiye pali kuthekera kwa kupwetekedwa mtima.

Kuti timvetse mabwenzi ndi ubwino ubale tiyenera mwakhama mfundo zochepa.

• Palibe kudzipereka: Simungayembekezere kudzipereka kulikonse, osati pano, ayi. Chifukwa chake mukakhala paubwenzi ndi inu bwenzi lanu la FWB litha kudzipereka kwa wina. Izo ndi zotheka mwangwiro.
• Muyenera kuvomereza izi: Simungangolowa muubwenzi wokhala ndi ubale wabwino popanda kulingalira. Lankhulani za dongosolo lanu lopanda zingwe ndipo pitirirani nazo patsogolo.
• Pewani zovuta zamtsogolo: Mutha kukopeka ndi wina ndipo munthuyo amangofuna FWB. Musayende mu dongosolo poganiza kuti pamapeto pake adzakugwerani. Izi zingakhale zoopsa kwambiri kusokoneza zinthu.
• Atha kukhala mu ma FWB ena: Anthu amatha kukhala ndi abwenzi ambiri omwe ali ndi maubwenzi abwino. Onani ngati izo zikugwira ntchito kwa inu. Ngati mwakhumudwa, chokani mu dongosolo la FWB.

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Kodi abwenzi omwe ali ndi maubwenzi abwino angagwire ntchito?

“Ndithu n’zanzeru,” akutero Vaidi. “Kodi sindiwo unansi wabwino ndi anthu abwino koposa onse aŵiri padziko lapansi?

Kugwirizana kwamtima kumatha kuchitika ndipo ndipamene makonzedwewo amasokonekera ngati onse sali pa tsamba limodzi kapena amasintha kukhala banja ngati onse akuwona kuti zili bwino. Meghna akuwona kuti ndikofunikira kuti onse awiri akhale pa tsamba limodzi 'ubale' usanachitike komanso pambuyo pake. Pokhapokha chirichonse chingakhale mu dongosolo.

Palibe chopanda nzeru pakuchita mabwenzi omwe ali ndi ubale wabwino, bola ngati onse awiri akuwonekera bwino, akumva. Vivek.

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Kugonana ndi kufunikira kwa thupi ndipo sikofunikira kuti pakhale zomverera kuti zitsimikizire kuti ndizosangalatsa. Ngati m'modzi mwa okwatiranawo ayamba kukhudzika ndi mnzake, ndi nthawi yoti muyimbire foni - kaya akhale kapena achoke - ndipo izi zimachitika nthawi zambiri. "Chinthu chabwino kwambiri choti muchite ndi kukhala womasuka pankhaniyi ndikukambirana. Ngati simukuyembekezera kuti munthu ameneyo akulimbikitseni, auzeni kuti. Ngati mukuganiza kuti mutha kuchita izi, auzeni. Awa ndi abwenzi a Vivek omwe ali ndi upangiri waubwenzi wabwino.

Ndi ubale wa 'abwenzi omwe ali ndi phindu', palibe chinyengo chokhudza kugonana kwanu kotero kuti mutha kulankhula za izo. Ndi ubwenzi umene anthu awiri amakondana ndi kulemekezana komanso amakonda kugonana. Muli kukongola ndi ufulu ndi kusewera mu kukhulupirika kumeneko. Mbali yabwino ndikuti simukuweruzidwa.

Onse omwe ali muubwenzi wa 'abwenzi opindula' amapeza zabwino zonse zokhudzana ndi kukhala paubwenzi - kukumbatirana, kugonana kwachipongwe, zinsinsi zowutsa mudyo - osachita zinthu zotopetsa zomwe zimabwera ngati phukusi lodzipereka, monga kupirira ndi PMS ya bwenzi lanu kapena kuthandiza bwenzi lanu kuchapa zovala kumapeto kwa sabata.

Ndiye kodi bwenzi ndi phindu ubale ntchito ndiye? Makonzedwe a 'abwenzi opindula' amagwira ntchito pokhapokha ngati gawo la 'bwenzi' likupitirizabe. Ngati musintha machitidwe ake kukhala ubale weniweni, ndiye kuti masewera osewerera sangawonekere achigololo.

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Kodi ubale wa FWB umatenga nthawi yayitali bwanji?

Timakhulupirira kuti mabwenzi omwe ali ndi maubwenzi opindula ayenera kukhalapo malinga ngati ziyembekezo sizimakula. Kotero izo zikhoza kukhala masabata angapo kapena mwezi kuti chisangalalo chitatha. kapena ingakhale zaka 6, monga momwe zinalili ndi Shikha.

Iyenera kukhala nthawi yonse yomwe mukupeza kukhutitsidwa kwakukulu kwakuthupi kuchokera mmenemo, kusangalala pabedi, mukhoza kulankhula za chirichonse pansi pa dzuwa ndi kusangalala njira yonse.

Pakhala pali anthu omwe akhala mabwenzi opindula, adakwatirana kuti alekanitse anthu koma adabwerera kumoyo wa FWB chifukwa adasowa. chemistry yakuthupi ndi abwenzi awo. Izi zitha kusokoneza zinthu komanso kuchuluka ukathyali. Chifukwa chake ndikofunikira kudziwa nthawi yomwe muyenera kusiya anzanu ndi maubwenzi opindulitsa. Si bwino kupitiriza kukhala mabwenzi opindula mukakhala pachibwenzi. Zingabweretse mavuto ambiri.

Kodi abwenzi omwe ali ndi phindu amawonana kangati?

Ubale wa FWB ndi wosiyana kwambiri ndi chibwenzi chifukwa mukakhala pachibwenzi ndi munthu mukufuna zachikondi, ubwenzi wapamtima komanso ubale. Ngati mumvera anzathu ndi ubwino ubwenzi malangizo ndiye chinthu chabwino kuchita za mtundu uwu wa ubwenzi ndi kukumana kokha pamene inu mukhoza kupeza thupi wapamtima.

Kupanda kutero mutha kupeza maphwando kapena mukamacheza ndi zigawenga koma kukumana ndi cuppa ndi kukambirana sikofunikira kwenikweni muubwenzi wa FWB.

Inde, mukhoza kukambirana mukakhala pamodzi. Mabwenzi omwe ali ndi ubwino nthawi zambiri amagawana zinsinsi wina ndi mzake chifukwa palibe kuthekera kwa chiweruzo.

Ndiye ngati mukufunsa kuti abwenzi omwe ali ndi phindu ayenera kuwonana kangati? Yankho lathu likanakhala kuti akumane akamagonana. Zimenezo zikhoza kukhala kangapo pamlungu mpaka kangapo pamwezi ndipo ngakhale kangapo pachaka ngati akukhala m’malo osiyanasiyana.

Koma timakhulupirira kuti pali abwenzi ena omwe ali ndi malamulo opindulitsa kwa anyamata. Ayenera kuwonetsetsa kuti akugwiritsa ntchito chitetezo, kupanga malingaliro malire ndipo asayembekezere kuti mnzake wa FWB amukhazikitse bwino zovala zake kapena kumusamalira akadwala chimfine. Akadachita kale ngati bwenzi koma mukakhala paubwenzi wa FWB dulani mbali yamalingaliro.

Kodi mabwenzi omwe ali ndi phindu amagwira ntchito bwanji? Pa!! kwa ena zimagwira ntchito yogonana kwambiri koma ena amatengeka mtima pakapita nthawi. Pakhala pali zochitika pamene ubale wa FWB watsogolera ku ukwati koma nthawi zambiri umabweretsa kusweka mtima pamene kutengeka kumabwera. Choncho samalani momwe mumachitira nazo.

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