Zinthu 11 Zochita Chibwenzi ndi Tomboy Ndi Momwe Mungapangire Kuti Zigwire Ntchito

Mukawona tomboy mu jeans wosweka, mahedifoni akuluakulu atalendewera pakhosi pake, ndi ponytail yake yosokoneza ikuwonetsa zizindikiro zonse zocheperako mpaka kulephera, lingaliro loyamba lomwe limabwera m'maganizo mwanu ndi liti? Watentha kwambiri! - mwina. "Ndikufuna kukhala mkazi wake" - mwina sizingasokoneze khumi anu apamwamba. M'malo moganiza zopanga chibwenzi ndi tomboy, amuna ambiri angakonde kumutsutsa padziwe lozungulira. Ndipo pali mwayi wabwino kuti angakuwonongeni pamenepo! 

Ndicho chenicheni cha atsikana a tomboy, makamaka. Anthu ambiri samvetsa bwino ndipo nthawi zambiri amanyalanyaza pankhani yokhazikitsa maubwenzi achikondi. Chifukwa chake, ngati muli pano kuti mupeze malangizo okhudza chibwenzi cha tomboy, malangizo athu oyamba ndi akuti muyankhe mwachifundo kwambiri paubwenzi wachikondiwu. Kodi zimenezo zikutanthauza chiyani, mukufunsa? Tikukuthandizani kudziwa zovuta zomwe zimachitika pochita chibwenzi ndi tomboy, pogwiritsa ntchito nzeru kuchokera kwa katswiri wa zamaganizo Dhriti Bhavsar (M.Sc, Clinical Psychology), yemwe ndi katswiri paubwenzi, kutha kwa chibwenzi, ndi uphungu wa LGBTQ.

Kodi Atsikana a Tomboy Ndi Otani? 

Muyenera kudziwa kale kuti kukhala tomboy si umunthu wa munthu. Ndi njira ya moyo yomwe imatanthauzidwa ndi makhalidwe a munthu - momwe amachitira, kulankhula, kucheza, ndi kavalidwe. Popeza kuti makhalidwe amenewa amawaona ngati amuna, atsikana amene amawasonyeza amawatcha kuti ndi anyamata. Mbuti mbotukonzya kuzumanana kuba acilongwe ciyumu a Leza?

Dhriti akufotokoza kuti, “ Maudindo a amuna ndi akazi amakhala ndi gawo lalikulu m'maganizo a mtsikana wachiwerewere. Nthawi zambiri, zimaonekera mwa kupandukira malamulo okhwima okhudza amuna ndi akazi. Izi nthawi zambiri zimaonekera mwa atsikana omwe mabanja awo amakhala ndi malamulo okhwima kwambiri okhudza momwe mtsikana ayenera kuonekera ndi kuchita zinthu, ndipo nthawi zambiri amaletsa, kulanga, kapena kudzudzula mtsikana wachiwerewere chifukwa cha zomwe amakonda ngati mnyamata. Izi zingamupangitse kuti apitirize kuchita zinthu zomwe amakondadi.

“Ena amakana ukazi chifukwa chosoŵa akazi achitsanzo abwino omwe angatengereko.” Ana amakula n’kuyamba kutengera khalidwe la amuna kapena akazi okhaokha chifukwa chakuti amalemekeza kholo lawo.

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Tisanafufuze za nitty-gritty ya chibwenzi ndi tomboy, nayi ena mwamakhalidwe omwe ma tomboys ambiri amatsatira:

• Amakhulupirira pakhungu lawo ndi luso lawo 
• Nthawi zonse amakhala m'modzi mwa anyamata chifukwa ndi sewero lochepa 
• Ndiwongofuna kuchitapo kanthu ndi mtima wofuna kupita ndipo amalankhula molunjika kuchokera paphewa
• Mosiyana ndi atsikana ena, amadana ndi chirichonse cha pinki, chovala chachikazi kapena nsapato zazitali, ndipo ndithudi, zodzoladzola
• Ndiwokonda zamasewera komanso mowa kuposa zikwama za Hello Kitty ndi Chanel 
• Mphatso za Tsiku la Valentine, ma prom mausiku, ukwati, kulera — mwai ndi tomboy sangakhale mu chirichonse cha izi 

Zinthu 11 Zochita Chibwenzi ndi Tomboy

Sikuti tomboy iliyonse imawoneka ngati 'yokopa' poyang'ana koyamba chifukwa alibe zikhalidwe zachikazi zomwe amuna amapangidwa kuti aziwoneka okongola. Choncho, zonse zimatengera nthawi yomwe mumathera kuti mumudziwe. Chifukwa mnyamata oh mnyamata, ukangotero, palibe kubwerera mmbuyo!

Malinga ndi Dhriti, pali zifukwa zingapo zomwe amuna amakondera anyamata achichepere. "Mudzakhala ndi zinthu zambiri zomwe mungakonde. Atsikana achichepere nthawi zambiri amakhala aluso pothana ndi mavuto. Osati kuti akazi okonda akazi okhaokha si aluso, koma anyamata achichepere safuna kuoneka ngati olankhula mofatsa kapena okoma mtima. Amatha kudzisamalira, ndipo adzakhala aluso pomenyera nkhondo iyeyo ndi inunso," akutero. Zikumveka zosangalatsa? Tiyeni tipitirize kukambirana ndi kukambirana za ubwino 11 wochita chibwenzi ndi mnyamata wachichepere:

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1. Amakonzekera mwachangu kwambiri 

Ukufuna kupita kukachita zinthu zina. Chibwenzi chako chikuyankha kuti, “Hei, ndidzakhala wokonzeka patatha masiku asanu.” Ndipo tangoganizani, iye akuchitadi zimenezo! Kodi si maloto a mwamuna aliyense? Sadzatenga theka la ola kuti asankhe zovala zoyenera komanso theka lina la zodzoladzola ndi zowonjezera. Valani jinzi ndi shati lalikulu ndipo ali okonzeka. Kodi mungatani kuti musakopeke ndi mtsikanayu?

2. Palibe kunamizira — iye ali chimene iye ali

Kuona mtima ndi gawo la zomwe ali nazo. Azimayi awa ali ndi chidaliro kwambiri pakhungu lawo, akuchita zofuna zawo, alibe chidwi ndi dziko lapansi. Angalowe mu lesitilanti yapamwamba atavala zovala zake wamba osayang'ana nkhope yonse koma n'kupangitsabe chidwi. Dziwani izi, akhoza kungonyambita pepala la brownie yomwe mudamupatsa ngati ndicho chomwe amakonda. Mukakhala naye, mumapeza munthu weniweni 100%. Popeza sakufuna kutsimikiziridwa ndi amuna , kapena wina aliyense, alibe chobisa.

3. Iye ndi wosasamalira bwino 

Izi zingakukondeni ngati muli omasuka pa njira yanu yopezera chibwenzi - nthawi zonse simuyenera kuchita khama. Atsikana a Tomboy safuna chisamaliro chambiri kapena kusamalidwa kuti amve kukhutira komanso kusangalala muubwenzi . Palibe chifukwa chokonzekera masiku ochezera aubwenzi kapena kuwononga ndalama zambiri pa mphatso zodula. Mukonzeni ndi ramen kunyumba, muyike kanema wake wokondedwa, ndikusunga masewera angapo apakanema pafupi, ndipo adzakhala ndi nthawi yabwino kwambiri.

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4. Msungwana wachikondi kuchotsa sewero

O, ndikutsimikiza kuti amuna nonsenu mukuvutika ndi nkhani ya chibwenzi. Tsiku lina, mnzanga Justin anabwera kudzadandaula za mtsikana wake kwa ola limodzi. (Tikulankhula za kudandaula, eti?) Zikuoneka kuti Julia anadzitsekera m'chipinda chake ndipo sanatuluke, sakufuna ngakhale kudya. Atatsala pang'ono kusiya kufunsa kuti, "Chavuta ndi chiyani?", adaulula kuti usiku watha, adakhumudwa ataonera filimu ndipo sanamukumbatire . Tikulonjeza, mnzanu wanu wa tomboy sangakulowetseni mu sewero la Justin ndi Julia.

5. Akhoza kukudabwitsani pa nkhani zachikondi

Mwina, mukuganiza kuti chifukwa ndi tomboy, sadziwa chilichonse chokhudza chikondi. Chabwino, gwirani mahatchi anu, bwenzi langa. Sangakhale wokonda 'maluwa ndi chakudya chamadzulo chachikondi'. Koma adzakhala masiku ambiri akufunafuna buku loyamba lomwe mumakonda ndikupeza buku losainidwa pa tsiku lanu lobadwa. Pa tsiku loti mupite naye ku malo abwino kwambiri mumzinda omwe amakonda ndikubweretsa pikiniki yokhala ndi masangweji ndi mowa wopangidwa kunyumba. Kodi zikumveka ngati muphonya chibwenzi mukadzayamba chibwenzi ndi tomboy? Sitinkaganiza choncho.

6. Tomboys ndi otentha - nthawi iliyonse akaganiza kubweretsa izo

Osapusitsidwa ndi kapu yake tomboy ndi Crocs. Amatha kuyeretsa bwino ndipo akatero, muyenera kunyamula nsagwada zanu pansi. Khalidwe lake lolimba losakanikirana ndi kukongola kosaphika liyenera kuyatsa pansi. Ingodikirani mpaka ataganiza zomubweretsera A-masewera ndipo mungafune kumuwonera mpaka kalekale.   

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7. Palibe nthawi yayitali, yotopetsa yogula 

Mukakhala ndi tomboy, samakukokerani ku Home Depot kuti mutenge mphika ndikuchoka pakatha maola atatu ndikutulutsa ma kirediti kadi anu onse. Kugula naye zovala sikudzakhala kovuta kuposa ulendo waufupi wopita ku Macy's kapena Target. Dziwani kuti, ma shenanigans ogulira siwonyada kapena okhometsa msonkho ndi mtsikana wamanyazi. 

8. Amakumvetsetsani bwino

Akhoza kukhala mtsikana koma ali ndi mphatso yachibadwa yolumikizana ndi amuna. Mtsikana wachikondi angakwiye ngati mukukonzekera usiku wa anyamata kumapeto kwa sabata awiri motsatizana kapena kukwiya ngati muiwala tsiku lanu lobadwa . Koma mtsikana wachikondi ali ndi luso lanzeru lomvetsa momwe mwamuna amaonera zinthu. Angamvetse kufunika kwa magulu a anthu ngakhale mutakhala pachibwenzi ndipo angakupatseni mpata wokwanira wopumira.

9. Nthabwala zake n'zabwino zedi

Kunena zoona, nthabwala zake zimakhala zofanana ndi za mwamuna. Pamodzi mutha kuseka bwino ndi mawu abodza a munthu wina. Sadzakhumudwa ndi nthabwala za amuna wamba. Ndipo ma meme omwe amakutumizirani ndi oseketsa kwambiri. Chenjezo ndilakuti, iye ndi mfumukazi ya nthabwala. Adzakusekani kwambiri koma inde, akhozanso kumenyedwa ngati masewera. Chifukwa chake, kuti museke ndikusekedwa, pitani ndi munthu wokonda kugonana naye.

10. Onerani kapena sewera - ndiye bwenzi lanu lamasewera

Tangoganizirani izi - masewera a Rangers akuchitika usikuuno (ndipo simungaphonye) koma muyenera kucheza ndi chibwenzi chanu. Tsopano zimenezo ndi zovuta! Muzochitika zina zilizonse, tikukulangizani kuti musunge mapulani anu ndi mtsikana wanu, onani zigoli pafoni yanu, ndikusiya pamenepo. Koma ndi tomboy, vutoli silingakhalepo. Tikukhulupirira kuti akukayikiranso kukuuzani kuti nayenso akufuna kusewera masewerawa. Ingolankhulani ndikukonza zinthu naye. Ngati pali chilichonse, adzakukondani kwambiri pambuyo pake. Tikukuuzani, kaya ndi kuonera masewera kapena kusewera Minecraft, simudzapeza mnzanu wabwino kuposa chibwenzi cha tomboy.

11. Mumapeza bwenzi lodabwitsa mwa iye

Atsikana awa ndi ofatsa kwambiri, odzichepetsa, komanso osavuta kulumikizana nawo. Mutha kulankhula zakukhosi kwanu popanda kuda nkhawa kuti, “Nanga bwanji ngati sakundiona ngati wopusa?” Komanso, adzakhala wotchuka pakati pa anzanu achichepere. Momwe tomboy angayambitsire chibwenzi n’zosadabwitsa. Musanadziwe, adzakhala 'm'bale' ndipo mudzalandira madalitso a anzanu chifukwa chocheza ndi mtsikana wodabwitsa uyu.

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Kodi amuna amakonda tomboys? INDE! Mtsikana wamanyazi akhoza kukhala bwenzi lapamtima, bwenzi labwino kwambiri lowonera naye masewera. Ndipo amuna ambiri amaganiza kuti tomboys ndi otentha. Koma zikakhala nkhani ya pamtima, anyamata amazengereza asanasamuke. Nthawi zina amawopsezedwa ndi chidaliro cha mtsikanayo; nthawi zina amakhala osatsimikiza za zilakolako zake zachikondi chifukwa tomboys nthawi zambiri safuna amuna kuwakonda.

Komabe, sizikutanthauza kuti sakufuna kapena sakufuna kudziwa ngati chibwenzi chingayambe kukhazikika. Munthu wina wogwiritsa ntchito Quora anati, “Monga tomboy, ndimakonda amuna achikazi komanso amuna olemekezeka. Ndimakonda kuyang'ana zinthu zokongola. Ndikufuna mwamuna wodzisamalira bwino komanso wodziwa bwino ntchito yake. Ndimakonda kukumbutsidwa za ukazi wanga komanso kuphunzira momwe ndingachitire zinthu bwino komanso ndili naye.”

Dhriti akuti, “N’zotheka kuti sanazolowere anthu kumuchitira zinthu kapena kumusamalira. Kumuganizira kungathandize kwambiri. Khalani ndi nthabwala zabwino , musaope kumuseka koma khalani okonzeka kusekedwa mtsogolo.” Chifukwa chake, chifundo ndi kumvetsetsa — ndicho chimene muyenera kuti mukope tomboy. O dikirani, tili ndi malingaliro ena angapo oti mugawane:

• Kuti mutenge chidwi cha tomboy, muyenera kumuyamikira ndikumusilira momwe alili. Muuzeni momwe amawonekera mu bulu wosokonekera ndi chovala chamchimwene wake wamkulu!
• Pangani ubale ndi iye musanagwetse mawu a L. Poganizira zokonda zake zonse ndi njinga, masewera, kukwera maulendo, nyimbo za rock, kapena china chake chokhudza izi, tikutsimikiza kuti simudzayenera kuyesetsa kwambiri kuti mupeze zomwe mumakonda.
• Dziwani - palibe chomwe chimapangitsa munthu kukhala ndi chidwi kwambiri kuposa kukambirana kwanzeru, kosangalatsa
• Musadzisinthe nokha kuti mugwirizane ndi 'chibwenzi' chake. Mukakhala nonse chifukwa cha kuwona mtima kwake, muyenera kudziwonetseranso chimodzimodzi 

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Poyankha funso lakuti, “Kodi amuna amakonda ma tomboy?”, Dhriti anati, “Zimene anthu amaona kuti n’zokongola kwambiri zimakhala zochokera m’maganizo mwawo ndipo zimadalira zinthu zambiri monga zokonda zawo, zomwe adakumana nazo kale, kulumikizana kwa maganizo , kusonkhezeredwa kwa nzeru, komanso majini. Ma Tomboy ali ndi zinthu zawozawo, ndipo chibwenzi chimodzi chimatenga mwamuna amene ali ndi chitetezo pakhungu lake.”

Pachifukwa chimenecho, Dhriti akugawana malingaliro angapo kuchokera kwa owerenga athu omwe akuyesera kupeza momwe angachitire chibwenzi chawo cha tomboy moyenera. "Mtsikana wanu akhoza kukhala ndi zinthu zina zoti aphunzire ndikusiya pankhani ya maudindo a amuna ndi akazi komanso umunthu wawo. Khalani oleza mtima naye, ndipo khalani malo ake otetezeka posayembekezera kuti akhale mwanjira inayake. Akhozanso kuvutika kufotokoza momveka bwino momwe akumvera. Mungafunike kuyesetsa kulimbikitsa kulankhulana momasuka komanso moona mtima , makamaka za malingaliro. Pali chinthu chomwe muyenera kukumbukira: kufooka kumalimbikitsa kufooka." Kuphatikiza pa izi, nazi malangizo ena omwe muyenera kuwaganizira kuti mukhale katswiri wochita chibwenzi cha tomboy:

1. Kumbukirani kuti iye si mtsikana wamavuto 

Mosiyana ndi mtsikana, chibwenzi chanu cha tomboy sichidzadumphadumpha m'nyumba chikawona mphemvu kapena kukupemphani kuti mubwere kudzamuthandiza kukonza pompopompo yake yakukhitchini. Ndi wolimba mtima komanso wodziyimira pawokha kuti athe kuthana ndi vuto lililonse laling'ono kapena lalikulu yekha. Ngati mukanakhala kuti mukuyembekezera kulowa ngati msilikali wake atavala zida zonyezimira, mukanakhumudwa nthawi zambiri kuposa momwe mumaganizira. Dhriti akukulangizani kuti muphunzire kuzindikira kuti kukhala kwake wolimba mtima komanso wodzidalira si vuto kwa umuna wanu. Ndi momwe alili.

2. Osamuganizira

Chifukwa chakuti anthu ambiri okonda masewera ndi zida zamagetsi amakonda masewera, ndi lingaliro loti angafune kuonera Super Bowls nanu pogwiritsa ntchito sewero la pa TV la atsikana. Ndipo sikungakhale kolondola ngati inu mungamuuze nkhani inayake popanda kukambirana zambiri za zomwe amakonda ndi zomwe sakonda. Kukhala tomboy sikumuletsa kusamba ndi kuonera Gossip Girl . Chifukwa chake, Dhriti akuti, "Khalani ndi maganizo otseguka ndipo musamuchititse manyazi chifukwa cha zomwe amakonda - zachimuna kapena zachikazi."

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3. Musamapitirize kumuuza kuti asinthe khalidwe lake 

Kunena zoona apa. Kodi simunamukonde pamene anakumenyani kwambiri mu masewera a arcade? Nonse munayenda mtunda wautali limodzi mumvula, muli matope ndi fungo la nkhalango. Munapitanso kukasodza pamodzi. Munali ndi zidutswa zonse za puzzle kuti mumuwone bwino. Tsopano popeza ndi chibwenzi chanu, simungamupemphe kuti asinthe kukhala mkazi wodzikuza. Kumbukirani, simungapange ubale wautali pokhapokha nonse mutawonekera mu umunthu wanu weniweni.

4. Kulitsani chikhalidwe chake champikisano

Mpikisano ndi dzina lapakati la pafupifupi mtsikana aliyense wa tomboy. Kuchokera pakumenya zigoli zanu zapamwamba ku Mario Kart mpaka kukankha zochulukirapo kuposa momwe mumachitira masewera olimbitsa thupi, amakusungani zala zanu. Mukakhala pachibwenzi ndi tomboy, dzikumbutseni kuti mutenge zovuta izi m'njira yolimbikitsa. Pamapeto pake, muli mu gulu lomwelo ndipo simungalole kuti mayesero opusawa atsogolere ubale wanu. 

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5. Vomerezani kuti amangogwirizana ndi anyamata 

Ngati muli pachibwenzi ndi tomboy kapena mukuganiza zoyamba chibwenzi, muyenera kuletsa nsanje yanu. Padzakhala anyamata ena pafupi naye chifukwa atsikana a tomboy amawonedwa akucheza ndi anzawo a anyamata nthawi zambiri. Ngati muchita nsanje kapena mukamupempha kuti adule ubale ndi bwenzi lanu labwino, mukumukakamiza kuti akhale munthu amene sali. Chifukwa chake, chinyengo apa ndikukhala bwenzi la gulu lake ndikukhala nawo pa zokambirana zawo. Mudzaona kuti palibe chomwe chingakuopsezeni.

6. Mchitireni momwe inu mukanachitira ndi mtsikana wachichepere pa chibwenzi

Tomboy akadali mtsikana wofunika kwambiri ndipo sadzadandaula kuchitiridwa ngati mfumukazi. Sadzalimbana ndi lingaliro la chakudya chamadzulo cha makandulo kapena kupatsana maluwa nthawi ndi nthawi. Ndipotu, mutha kuchita zambiri ndikuchita chifaniziro chachikondi kuti mumuchotse. Ngakhale, tiyenera kukuchenjezani, musachite chionetsero pamaso pa anzake kapena anzake kapena ogwira nawo ntchito kapena simudzamva mapeto ake.

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7. Yesetsani kumvetsa chinenero chake chachikondi 

Mawu achikondi, kukumbatirana, ndi kupsompsonana sikophweka kwa atsikana okondana. Chifukwa chake, tikuyembekeza kuti muyang'ane kwambiri nkhope yake ndi zochita zake. Mudzawona chikondi m'maso mwake ngakhale atapanda kuchifotokoza m'mawu ambiri. Sangapange ma scrapbook okongola ndi zithunzi zanu koma adzakukonzerani kompyuta yanu yosweka kapena kukonzanso zolemba zanu malinga ndi mtundu wake. Muyenera kungomvera chifukwa amalankhula chilankhulo cha 'machitidwe otumikira' akamakuwonetsani chikondi.

Zabwino zonse, tsopano mukudziwa mayadi asanu ndi anayi a chibwenzi ndi tomboy. Tisanasiyane, nayi nsonga yabwino: ngati mumakopeka ndi mtsikana wa pixie m'kalasi mwanu yemwe sadziwa kuti mulipo, musataye mtima musanayese. Pangani njira yanu m'moyo wake, ndipo mupatse iye ndi inu mwayi wodziwana wina ndi mnzake. Ndi chilengedwe chomwe chili pakona yanu, sangathe kukana kukongola kwanu ndi zoyesayesa zanu zonse. Akatero, mpirawo umabwerera ku bwalo lanu. Ndipo inu mukudziwa bwino mmene mungapangire mtsikanayo kumva kuwonedwa, kukondedwa, ndi kuyamikiridwa. 

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