Ngati mwakhala mukulandila kusakhulupirika, mungakhale mukuzolowerana ndi nkhonya yogogoda m'matumbo pomwe vumbulutso lachinyengo lingamve ngati. Ngakhale kuti kusokoneza koyambirira kwa mnzanu amene akupereka chidaliro chanu kumatsimikiziridwa bwino, ndi bwino kuganizira momwe kuberedwera kukusinthirani.
Palibe zochitika zachinyengo zomwe zimakhala zosavuta kuzidutsa. Ndipotu, zikhoza kusokoneza tsogolo la ubale wanu. Kwa anthu ambiri, kupezekako kumakhala kowawa kwambiri kuti adutse, kuwapangitsa kuti athetse chibwenzicho ndikupita patsogolo. Nthaŵi zambiri, okwatirana amayesa kukhala pamodzi ndi kuyanjana pambuyo pa kusakhulupirika.
M'zochitika zonsezi, zotsatira za kunyengedwa zimamveka kwambiri. Ngati mwaganiza zothetsa chibwenzicho, mukhoza kulimbana ndi kusungulumwa pambuyo ponamizidwa. Ngati mungaganize zokhala limodzi, zomwe zachitikazi zikuyandikira ubale wanu wachikondi ngati Lupanga la Damocles, ndikuwopseza kuti mulekanitse ubale wanu pakangolakwika pang'ono.
Zotsatira za nthawi yayitali za kunyengedwa nthawi zambiri zimakhala zovuta komanso zovuta kuzikonza kusiyana ndi kugwedezeka koyamba, kupweteka ndi mkwiyo. Ichi ndichifukwa chake kumakhala kofunikira kwambiri kumvetsetsa momwe kubereredwa kumakusinthirani. Tiyeni tiyese ndi kumvetsa maganizo pambuyo kunyengedwa.
Kodi Kuberedwa Kungakusintheni?
M'ndandanda wazopezekamo
Kusakhulupirika muubwenzi kumaonedwa ngati njira yaikulu kwambiri yopatukana muubwenzi wodzipereka, wokhala ndi mkazi mmodzi. Kumaonedwa ngati chinthu chimodzi chomwe chingathetse malonjezo onse omwe ubale umakhala nawo kwa onse awiri. Koma makamaka kwa amene ananyengedwa. Kwa nthawi yayitali, chithunzi chopangidwa cha mnzanu wanu ali pabedi ndi munthu wina chimasungidwa m'maganizo mwanu.
Simungasiye kubwereza mobwerezabwereza. Monga momwe zilili ndi malingaliro aumunthu, chithunzichi - chomwe chili chongoyerekeza - chikuyenera kukhala chowonekera kwambiri kuposa zomwe zidatsikira m'moyo weniweni. M'kupita kwa nthawi, chithunzichi chikhoza kuyamba kuzimiririka, koma zotsatira za nthawi yaitali za kunyengedwa zikhoza kupitirirabe.
Mwina mukudzifunsa kuti, “Kodi kunyengedwa kungasinthe inu?” Akutipatsa mayankho, ndi katswiri wa zamaganizo komanso mkulu wa SAATH: Suicide Prevention Centre, Nishim Marshall , yemwe akuti, “Mungakhale ndi moyo wokhutira bwino, kuyamikira mnzanu, ubale wanu komanso momwe zinthu zakuyenderani bwino. Mu mkhalidwe wotere, kupeza kuti mwanyengedwa kungakhale kodabwitsa kwambiri.
“Choyamba, zimakugwetsani m’zidutswa za mafunso osatha ponena za inu mwini, kudziona kukhala wofunika, kudzidalira, kudzidalira, ndi kudzidalira.
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Chifukwa chiyani kunyengedwa pakusintha inu?
Chifukwa chake kuberedwa kumapweteka kwambiri ndikukusinthani chifukwa anthu ambiri amamangirira chinyengo ndi kudzidalira kwawo. Kodi sindinali bwino mokwanira? Ndinasowa pati? Kodi winayo ali ndi chiyani chomwe ndikusowa? Kaŵirikaŵiri mafunso onga ameneŵa amavutitsa maganizo a munthu amene anaberedwa.
Mofananamo, mukayesa kufufuza chifukwa cha chinyengo muubwenzi , mumayang'ana kwambiri zinthu monga kusasangalala, moyo wosakhutira wa kugonana, mavuto muubwenzi ndi zina zotero. Umu ndi momwe anthu ambiri omwe anyengedwa amadziwira izi. Modziwa kapena mosadziwa.
Komabe, chinyengo nthawi zambiri chimakhala chotsatira cha umunthu wa wachinyengo ndipo sikungakhale kokhudzana ndi mnzawo kapena chibwenzi. Zingakhale zotsatira za ulendo wa munthu ndi zisonkhezero zoyamba monga kuchitira umboni zachinyengo muubwenzi wa kholo lawo kapena kukulira m’banja losayenda bwino. Itha kukhalanso njira yobisala, kuthamanga kapena kupirira.
Kuvomereza izi ndikudzilekanitsa nokha ndi chiyani, chifukwa chiyani komanso momwe mukuonera ndi njira yokhayo yodziwira zotsatira za kuperekedwa kwa ubongo.
Njira 11 Zonamizidwa Zimakusinthani
Pambuyo pa chinyengo, cholinga chiyenera kukhala kuganizira chifukwa chake cholakwacho chinachitikira osati zomwe zinachitika pakati pa mnzanuyo ndi munthu wina m'moyo wawo. Kaya mukufuna kupita patsogolo pambuyo kunyengedwa kapena kukhala pamodzi ndi kupanga ubale ntchito, iyi ndi njira yokhayo moona kuchiritsa ku kubera.
Komabe, okwatirana ambiri alibe zida zokwanira kukwaniritsa cholinga chimenechi. Osachepera paokha, ndipo popanda thandizo ndi chitsogozo cha mlangizi kapena wochiritsa. Zotsatira zake, zotsatira za nthawi yayitali za kuberedwa zimayamba kugwira ntchito.
Kodi zotsatira za nthawi yayitali ndi zotani? Nanga kuberedwa kumakusintha bwanji? Nishim amagawana izi 11 zokhuza kusakhulupirika ndi kusakhulupirika zomwe mungakumane nazo ngati munaberedwa:
1. Mumakulitsa nkhani zodalirika
Iye anati: “Chidaliro chonse chomwe munali nacho mwa mnzanu chimatha nthawi yomweyo.” Chifukwa cha zimenezi, mungakhale ndi mavuto aakulu okhulupirirana omwe amakhudza kwambiri ubale wanu.
Myra, amene ananyengedwa ndi bwenzi lake kwanthaŵi yaitali, anakumana ndi zimenezi poyamba. “Ndinabwerako kuchokera ku msonkhano usanachitike nthaŵi imene ndinakonzekera ndipo ndinabwerera kunyumba ndili wosangalala kwambiri kukadabwa ndi mnzangayo. Akutero, ali ndi chotupa pakhosi.
“Ndikudziwa kuti iyi ndi njira imodzi yodziŵira kuti mnzanuyo wakhala akukuseŵerani, koma ndi mmene zinakhalira.” Ngakhale kuti ndinathetsa chibwenzi nthaŵi yomweyo, sindikuganiza kuti ndinachira m’mavutowo.
Tsopano Myra ndi wokwatiwa koma mbali ina ya mavuto ake akukhulupirira mwamuna wake. Ndimayang'ana foni yake mozemba, ndikutsimikizira komwe ali, chifukwa sindingathe kuyankha kuti nayenso andipereka chidaliro changa.
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2. Mumadzifananiza nokha ndi munthu ENA
“Kugwa kwinanso kofala chifukwa choberedwa ndiko chizolowezi chodziyerekezera ndi munthu wina.” Amuna amene anaberedwapo zinthu zina amakumana ndi vuto ngati mmene amachitira akazi, n’chifukwa chakuti nthaŵi zonse zolakwa za mnzanuyo zimachititsa kuti musamadziderere.
Chifukwa chake, mumadzipeza mukuvutikira mwamuna kapena mkazi wina pawailesi yakanema kapena kupanga mndandanda wamaganizidwe amomwe aliri bwino kuposa inu kapena mosemphanitsa. Umu ndi momwe kubereredwa kumakusinthirani - kumawononga kudzikonda kwanu," akutero Nishim.
Malingana ngati mukukhala ndi malingaliro osokonekera odzidalira komanso odziona ngati ndinu ofunika, simungadzitsimikizire nokha mu ubale wanu womwe ulipo kapena kupanga mayanjano abwino m'tsogolomu.
3. Kufuna kubwezera
Njira ina yofunika kwambiri yonyengera zinthu pakusintha kwanu ndi kukulimbikitsani chilakolako chofuna kubwezera mnzanuyo. "Mukufuna kusonyeza mnzanuyo kuti inunso muli ndi mphamvu zokwanira zokhala ndi chibwenzi, kukwatirana kapena kugona usiku umodzi kunja kwa ubale wanu," akutero Nishim.
Ichi ndi chimodzi mwazochita zapamwamba kwambiri za momwe kubereredwa kumakhudzira mwamuna. Zitha kuchitika ngakhale kwa anthu omwe nthawi zonse amayamikira kwambiri kukhulupirika mu maubwenzi; iwo sanawonepo ngakhale pang'ono kuti wina ayang'ane kachiwiri, chifukwa iwo anali mu ubale wodzipereka. Kuphwanya kukhulupirirana kungakugwetseni panjira ya chiwerewere, ngati kungowonetsa munthu winayo.
Izi ndizochita mwamphamvu momwe kunyengereredwa kumasinthira kwamuyaya.
4. Kuberedwa kumakukwiyitsani
Azimayi ndi amuna omwe adaberedwa angasinthenso umunthu wawo. “Kumva kuwawidwa mtima, kupsa mtima, ndi kupsa mtima ndi zina mwa zotsatirapo zomwe zimachitika chifukwa cha kusakhulupirika.
Nishmin anati: “Kunamiziridwa kumapweteka kwambiri moti kumabweretsa mavuto aakulu mwa inu.” Kuzindikira kuti munthu amene mumam’konda kwambiri wapondaponda chifukwa cha chikondi chimene munali kum’konda komanso kumudalira kumapweteka kwambiri.
Pokhapokha mutapeza njira yothetsera ndi kuwongolera maganizo oipawa, kusintha kwa umunthu komwe kumayambitsidwa ndi chinyengo kungakhale kosatha.
5. Mumalimbana ndi malingaliro oipa
Nishim akufotokoza zimenezi monga kusakanizika kwa malingaliro a liwongo, nsanje, kusatetezeka, manyazi ndi manyazi. Ngakhale nsanje ndi kusatetezeka ndizogwirizana kwambiri pambuyo pa kubera, okondedwa ambiri amalimbananso ndi liwongo, manyazi ndi manyazi.
Izi zimawonekera kwambiri momwe kunyengedwa kumakhudzira mkazi, koma kuthekera kwa amuna kukhala ndi malingaliro ofanana sikungatheke kukanidwa. Nkhani ya Henrietta imatiwonetsa momwe kudzimva kukhala ndi mlandu kunayambira. Iye akuti, " Mwamuna wanga ananyengedwa koma ndinadzimva kukhala ndi mlandu chifukwa sindinathe kuchotsa malingaliro ovutitsa akuti ntchito yanga ndi yomwe inapanga mipata muukwati, ndikupatsa malo munthu wachitatu kuti alowe."
Anandikweza pantchito ndipo ndinasamukira mumzinda wina kuti ndikakhazikitse ofesi ina. Inali gig yazaka 1, ndipo ndidayamba kuganiza kuti titha kuyendetsa. Koma kenako, mwamuna wanga adatha kukhala ndi chibwenzi miyezi isanu ndi umodzi mukusintha uku. Kufikira lerolino, mbali ina ya ine ikuimba mlandu chosankha changa cha kupanga ukwati wathu wakutali chifukwa cha kulakwa kwake.”
6. Zimakupangitsani kukayikira ubale wanu wonse
Suzanne anali ndi pakati pa mwana wake woyamba pamene adagwira mwamuna wake akutumizirana zolaula. “Apa ndinali nditanyamula mwana wake, osagona tulo usiku wonse, thupi langa linasintha moti sindinkadziwika, ndipo anali kuchitapo kanthu pa munthu wachinyengo.” Choipa kwambiri n’chakuti tinali pabedi limodzi pamene iye anali kugawana nkhani zachisembwere ndi mkazi wake wakale.
"Analumbira kuti sanagone naye kapena kukumana ndi munthu wake, ndipo anati ndi kutulutsidwa kwa testosterone kosavulaza. M'malo mopepesa, anasintha mfundo yakuti ' kutumizirana zolaula '."
Iye anati: “Sizochita zake zokha, komanso zimene anachita atagwidwa chigololo zinandichititsa kuti ndiyambe kukayikira mfundo zonse za m’banja lathu.
Kwa Suzanna, kuberedwa kunamupweteka kwambiri moti sakanathanso kuuonanso chimodzimodzi. Kuchokera pamenepo, zinthu zinasintha mofulumira kwambiri.
7. Kupusitsidwa kumakupangitsani kukhala otetezedwa kwambiri
Zimatengera mtima wochuluka - ndikudalira munthu winayo - kuti muchepetse zofooka zanu poyera. Momwe kunyengereredwa pakusintha kwa inu ndikuti kumakupangitsani kukhala otetezedwa.
Osati kokha mu ubale wanu wamakono kapena wamtsogolo koma monga munthu. Ngati mukuganiza ngati kuberedwa kumakusinthani mpaka kalekale, iyi ndi nkhani yakale kwambiri. Monga munthu amene wapulumuka kusakhulupirika, simungathe kugawana nawo zakuya, mantha, ziyembekezo ndi maloto anu, ngakhale ndi omwe ali pafupi kwambiri ndi inu.
Izi zikuphatikizapo abwenzi, banja, makolo ndi ana. Chikhulupiliro chosweka chimakupangitsani kuti mutsekere mbali yanu kwamuyaya.
8. Ikhoza kukulepheretsani maubwenzi
Tully, yemwe ndi wochita bwino kupanga zinthu, akuvomereza kuti kusamala za maubwenzi odzipatulira ndi chimodzi mwazotsatira zoyipa zomwe zimakhalapo nthawi yayitali chifukwa choberedwa. Anali ndi zaka za m'ma 20 pamene wokondedwa wake waku koleji adapereka chikhulupiriro chake.
“Kwa nthawi yaitali kwambiri, ndinalumbirira amuna.” Kwa zaka zambiri, ndakhala ndikuchita zinthu zosemphana maganizo, usiku umodzi wokha, ngakhalenso kuyesa kugonana kwanga, koma sindikanathanso kumangidwanso ndi munthu wina.
“Mantha oti angachite zomwezo n’ngosagwedezeka kwambiri.” Chinachake chimene ngakhale zaka 10 za chithandizo chamankhwala sichinachirikize. Koma chosangalatsa n’chakuti yandiphunzitsa kukhala ndi mtendere ndi zosankha pamoyo wanga,” iye akutero.
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9. Mumaumitsidwa kwambiri
Chris, mwamuna wakuda, wachiwerewere, yemwe adakalamba m'zaka za m'ma 80, anali kale ndi moyo wovuta kwambiri. Sakanatha kulankhula ndi achibale ake kapena mabwenzi, ndipo moyo wachiphamaso unali kumuvutitsa. Anakumana ndi munthu wokongola kwambiri ndipo adamukonda.
Zinkaoneka ngati ulendo wake ukhala wosavuta apa, koma mnzake sanali wosamala kwambiri za lingaliro la kukhala ndi mkazi mmodzi kapena kudzipereka. "Moyo unali utavuta kale ndipo kundinyenga kwake kunali ngati msomali womaliza m'bokosi. Zinandipangitsa kukhala munthu wokayikira, wokwiya, yemwe sakanatha kuzindikira malingaliro ake kapena kuwagawana ndi ena."
"Zovala zasiliva zinali kuti mtundu wowuma wa ine ndinali wokonzeka kuchita chilichonse chomwe chingandichitikire." Izi zidakhala maziko a moyo wabwino komanso wotukuka - ngakhale kusungulumwa - moyo, "akutero.
10. Kubera kungakupatseni kulimba mtima kuti mupitirizebe
Akatswiri amavomereza kuti kubera ndi chizindikiro osati chifukwa choyambitsa mavuto paubwenzi. Mfundo yakuti munthu wachitatu atha kubwera muubwenzi wanu imasonyeza ming'alu yomwe ilipo ndi mipata.
Nthawi zambiri, okwatirana amangokhalira kusesa nkhani zawo pansi pa kapeti mpaka amaphulika pankhope zawo. Mkhalidwe umenewu ukhoza kuyambitsa kusakhulupirika. Momwemonso, nthawi zambiri, okwatirana amakhala pamodzi, kuyesera kukokera ubale umene wakhalapo kwa nthawi yaitali, chifukwa chakuti ndi wodziwika bwino komanso wotonthoza.
Zikatero, kusungulumwa pambuyo pa kunyengedwa kungakhale kofunikira komaliza kuti mupitirize ndi kubwezeretsanso moyo wanu.
11. Ikhoza kukutulutsani chatsopano
Inde, kunyengedwa kumakusinthani, koma sikuti nthawi zonse kumakhala kolakwika. “Mukakumana ndi vuto laukali, kupwetekedwa mtima ndi ululu, mukhoza kuyamba kuchira.” Kuzindikira kuti ndiwe woposa bwenzi la munthu wina kungakuthandizeni kuti muyambenso kudziona kuti ndinu munthu wofunika, wosadzidalira komanso kuti musamadzilemekeze.
"Ndi izo zimabwera mphamvu ndi chikhulupiriro. Liwu lanu lamkati, chidziwitso chanu chimayamba kulankhula ndi inu. Kusintha kumeneku kumayamba kupatsa mphamvu mtima wanu wosweka ndikuwulimbitsa, pang'onopang'ono koma mokhazikika kuti WOSATHETSEDWA.
“Palibe amene angalepheretse ulendo wanu wodzidalira, wolimbikitsidwa kuti apite kumalo ena.” Mumayamba kudziona ngati munthu wokongola, wamtengo wapatali komanso woyenerera, amene sachita manyazi kuvomereza zenizeni,” akutero Nishim.
Tsopano popeza mukumvetsetsa bwino za kuwonongeka kwamaganizidwe komwe munthu akunyengereredwa, funso limakhala "Kodi ndingapitirire bwanji nditaberedwa?"
Mmene Mungapulumukire Kunyengedwa
Kuwerenga za momwe kunyengereredwa pakusintha kwanthawi zonse kutha kukhala ndi nkhawa pang'ono ndi zomwe zikukusungirani. Ngakhale, ndi kulingalira pang'ono, mutha kusintha kuwonongeka kwamalingaliro komwe mukubera.
N’zoona kuti sizingakhale zophweka koma palibe chaphindu chimene chili chophweka ngati mutaziganizira. Tiye tikambirane zinthu zingapo zomwe mungachite kuti mutsimikizire kuti zomwe mukumva mutakunyengedwa sizikutanthauza kuti ndinu ndani.
1. Pezani nthawi yopuma
Ziribe kanthu momwe mulili stoic, zomverera pambuyo pa kunyengedwa zidzakugwetsani inu nthawi imodzi kapena ina. Mudzakhala opsinjika maganizo kwakanthawi popeza kamvuluvulu wamalingaliro omwe akudutsa m'maganizo mwanu sangakhale ovuta kuthana nawo.
Mu mkhalidwe wotere, kutenga nthawi yopuma pa maubwenzi, ntchito, kapena maudindo kungakhale kothandiza. Tengani nthawi yoti muganizire momwe mungapitirire patsogolo . Komabe, samalani kuti musalole kuti vutoli lipitirire kwa nthawi yayitali kuposa momwe liyenera kukhalira. Onani nthawi yopuma ngati njira yothawirako kwakanthawi, osati ngati moyo. Mukayambiranso kuyenda bwino mutatha kupumula, mutha kusintha momwe kunyengedwa kumakhudzira maubwenzi amtsogolo.
2. Kuthetsa "kodi ili linali vuto langa?"
Chimodzi mwa zinthu zowononga kwambiri mungachite pambuyo kunyengedwa pa mlandu nokha chifukwa cha kusakhulupirika mnzako. Wokondedwa wanu anabera, podziwa zotsatira zake ndikudziwa izo zingakupangitseni kumva chisoni. Ngati mukuganiza kuti panali vuto lomwe lidawapangitsa kuti azibera, chabwino, kubera si momwe munthu amachitira ndi mavuto. Wokondedwa wanu ayenera kuti analankhula nanu, osati kuchita chibwenzi.
Kudziimba mlandu nthawi zambiri ndi zomwe chinyengo chimachitira mkazi. Pochotsa maganizo onga akuti, “Kodi ili linali vuto langa? Kodi ndinalakwa?” muyenera kukhala ndi cholinga chothetsa kudzikayikira kulikonse. Zomverera pambuyo pa kunyengedwa zidzakhala zosavuta kuthana nazo mukangochita.
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3. Musalole mkwiyo kukulamulirani
Sitikunena kuti musakwiye, chifukwa kupsa mtima ndi chimodzi mwazinthu zomwe zimakupangitsani kuti mupusitsidwe. Mosakayikira, aliyense adzakwiya nthawi ina. Komabe, chomwe chimawononga ndi pamene mulola mkwiyo kukhudza mbali zina za moyo wanu, monga ntchito yanu kapena mabwenzi anu.
Pamene mukupuma, vomerezani kuti zimenezi zinachitika ndipo m’malo mokhala m’mbuyo, ganizirani zimene zidzachitike. Ngati mukuganiza kuti kunyengeredwa kumakhudza bwanji mwamuna, kukwiya ndi chimodzi mwazofunikira kwambiri.
4. Dziwani kuti mudzapezanso chikondi
Pamene maganizo anu ali mu chipwirikiti maganizo pambuyo kunyengedwa, n'zosavuta kuyamba kukhulupirira zinthu monga, “Sindidzapezanso chikondi, ine ndidzafa wosakwatiwa”, kapena “Sindingakhulupirirenso aliyense”. Zitha kuwoneka ngati sizikuyenda bwino kwa inu pakadali pano, koma posachedwa mudzazindikira kuti nthawi imachiritsa mabala onse.
Kudera nkhawa zam'tsogolo ndi zomwe chinyengo chimachitira mkazi. M'malo mokhulupirira kuti kunyengedwa kumakusinthani kwamuyaya, sankhani njira yochiritsira ndikuyamba kukhulupirira kuti nthawi ikuthandizani kuthana ndi mavuto anu onse. Mudzapezanso chikondi.
5. Funsani thandizo la akatswiri
Kufunsana ndi dokotala ndi njira imodzi yothandiza kwambiri yomwe ingakuthandizeni kuthana ndi zomwe mukumva mutapusitsidwa. Mudzatha kumvetsetsa chifukwa chake mukumvera momwe muliri komanso momwe muyenera kuchitira ndi malingaliro amenewo.
Kodi kunyengedwa kumakhudza bwanji mwamuna pamene amuna akukana chithandizo? Ndicho chifukwa chake nthawi zambiri zimawatengera nthawi yaitali kuti athetse mavuto awo. Popeza satha kulankhula za mavuto awo, samawathetsa. Mukafuna thandizo la akatswiri, mudzatha kumvetsetsa zomwe zili zabwino kwa inu ndikupeza chidziwitso chanu pamene muli pamavuto. Ngati panopa mukuvutika kuthana ndi kunyengedwa, Bonobology ili ndi akatswiri ambiri odziwa bwino ntchito kuti akuthandizeni kuthana ndi nthawi yovutayi m'moyo wanu.
Momwe kunyengereredwa pakusintha kumatengera momwe mumaonera moyo, momwe mumaganizira, thanzi la ubale wanu, komanso zomwe mudakhala nazo kapena zomwe mudagawana nazo. "Moyo umakufunsani za kukhulupirirana, kukhulupirika, ndi chikhulupiriro. Tonse timapatsidwa zosankha m'moyo, pambuyo pa kunyengedwa pa munthu akhoza kukhala wokhazikika komanso wodziimira payekha kapena kukhala munthu wowawa, woipa. Chosankha ndi chanu," Nishim akumaliza.
Ibibazo
Kunyenga kumawononga maziko awiri a ubale - kudalirana ndi ulemu. Popanda zinthu zofunika izi, simungayembekezere kukhala ndi ubale wolimba komanso wathanzi.
Palibe nthawi yeniyeni yoti mupewe kubedwa. Ndi chithandizo cha akatswiri ndi chithandizo, mutha kuziyika kumbuyo kwanu pakapita nthawi. Komabe, muzochitika zambiri, zotsatira za kuberedwa zimatha kukhala ndi inu kosatha.
Ngati munanamizidwa ndipo simunathe kukonza ndikuthetsa nkhaniyo, mutha kubweretsa nkhani zodalirika, kusatetezeka, nsanje ndi kukhumudwa mu ubale wanu wamtsogolo.
Ayi, kubera sikuli bwino. Osati ngakhale atachitidwa kuti abwererenso kwa mnzanu wonyenga. Ngati mwapusitsidwa, muli ndi njira ziwiri zokha zomwe mungasankhe - kuthetsa chibwenzicho ndikupitiriza, kapena khalani ndikuyesera kuwombera kwina.
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