Mwamwambo, maunansi okwatirana asanakwatirane anali kunyozedwa ndi kusavomerezedwa, makamaka m’chitaganya cha Amwenye. Anthu ankayembekezeredwa kuti adzipulumutse kaamba ka ukwati, ndipo maunansi a ukwati asanakwane analingaliridwa kukhala ndi zotsatirapo zoipa kwa anthu oloŵetsedwamo. Komabe, m’kupita kwa nthaŵi lingaliro limenelo lasintha kwambiri.
Pamene anthu ochulukirachulukira akukhala ndi maubwenzi okondana kwanthaŵi yaitali ndi ukwati umakhala chosankha choposa cholinga cha moyo chimene munthu ayenera kuchikwaniritsa, kufunika kokhala waubwenzi wakuthupi ndi bwenzi lako kwayamba kuvomerezedwa kwambiri. Ngakhale kuti ubwenzi wapakati pa anthu aŵiri paubwenzi ukhoza kukhala wovuta kuukana, umabwera ndi katundu wake ndi mbuna.
Kudziwa kuopsa kogonana musanalowe m’banja kumakuthandizani kusankha mwanzeru pankhaniyi. Ngati zinthu sizikuyenda momwe mumayembekezera, upangiri ungakuthandizeni kukonza bwino kwambiri.
Kodi Ziwerengero Zimati Chiyani Pankhani Yogonana Musanalowe M'banja?
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Ngakhale kuti maubwenzi asanakwatirane amaonedwa kuti ndi oletsedwa, achinyamata aku India amachita zachiwerewere asanakwatirane zomwe nthawi zambiri zimadziwika ndi kusagwiritsa ntchito njira zolerera, kukhala ndi chikakamizo komanso kukhala ndi zibwenzi zambiri . 1. Kafukufuku wa Achinyamata a HT-MaRS 2 adavumbulutsa kuti 61% ya anthu aku India amakana zachiwerewere asanakwatirane ndipo 63% yokha ya anthuwa amafuna anthu okwatirana omwe sanakwatirane.
Nazi mfundo zina ndi ziwerengero zomwe zikuwonetsa momwe kugonana musanalowe m'banja kumawonedwera m'dera lathu 3 :
- 33% ya anthu aku India amagonana asanalowe m'banja, pomwe 50% amakana kukhala ndi maubwenzi otero
- Mwa mizinda yonse yayikulu monga Kolkata, Delhi, Mumbai, ndi zina zotero, ndi Chennai yomwe ili pamwamba pamndandanda wamizindayo potengera kuchuluka kwa kugonana asanalowe m'banja (60% ya anthu omwe amachita izi). Kumbali ina, Bangalore ndi yotsika kwambiri pamndandanda
- Kugonana musanalowe m'banja nthawi zambiri kumachitika azaka zapakati pa 20-30
- Anthu omwe amakumana nawo asanakwatirane amakhala oyandikana nawo, achibale ndi zibwenzi kapena zibwenzi
- 10% ya atsikana achichepere ndi 15-30% ya anyamata achichepere adanenanso kuti adagonana asanalowe m'banja mu kafukufuku wopangidwa ndi Population Council. 4
Ziwerengerozi zikuwonetseratu zochitika ziwiri zazikulu - unamwali kapena namwali akwatibwi ndi chinthu cham'mbuyo. Kukhala namwali sichofunikiranso kuti mukhale ndi moyo wachimwemwe m’banja, ndipo anthu sadandaula kugonana ndi okondedwa awo ngakhale ngati palibe chitsimikizo cha ukwati m’tsogolo.
Komabe, kodi kuchita chigololo musanakwatirane n’kotetezeka ? Ndipo n’chiyani chingachitike kuti ngati chibwenzi sichikuyenda bwino, kugonana pakati pa okwatirana kusakhale ndi zotsatirapo zoipa zakuthupi, zamaganizo kapena zamaganizo. Kuopsa kwa chibwenzi musanakwatirane sikungatheke, makamaka kwa achinyamata omwe nthawi zambiri amanyalanyaza ndipo akhoza kunyalanyaza njira zogonana zotetezeka nthawi yomweyo.
15: Kuopsa kwa Maubwenzi Asanakwatirane
Ngakhale kuti kuvomereza za maubwenzi asanakwatirane ku India kukukulirakulira, zoopsa ndi zovuta zokhudzana ndi maubwenzi otere sizinganyalanyazidwe kotheratu. Nkhani iyi ya mtsikana wachinyamata yemwe anagwiriridwa ndi chibwenzi chake chifukwa choti sanali wokonzeka kugonana ikupereka umboni wamphamvu woti pakhale kukambirana moona mtima za zoopsa zambiri komanso zotsatira zake za nthawi yayitali za maubwenzi asanakwatirane.
Kuipa kwa maubwenzi osakwatirana ndi ambiri komanso okwanira kukupangitsani kuganizira za nkhaniyi kawiri. Tiyeni tione kuopsa 15 kwa maubwenzi osakwatirana kuti tikuthandizeni kupanga chisankho mwanzeru pankhaniyi:
1. Mmodzi amakonda kutaya chidwi ndi bwenzi lake
Kugonana musanalowe m’banja kumatanthauza kukhala pachibwenzi ndi munthu amene simunakwatirane naye. Ubwenzi umenewu umakupatsani inu nonse mwayi wofufuza zilakolako zanu zogonana mwanjira iliyonse yomwe mungathe. Pali mwayi woti zomwe mumakumana nazo pogonana ndi okondedwa wanu zitha kukhala zosiyana kwambiri ndi zomwe mumayembekezera komanso mosemphanitsa.
Izi zimawonjezera mwayi woti mmodzi kapena nonse awiri mutaye chidwi ndi mnzanu wina, ndipo zitha kuwononga mwayi wokhala ndi ubale wotetezeka komanso wokhazikika kwa nthawi yayitali. Palinso funso lakale kwambiri loti nchifukwa chiyani amuna amatalikirana akakhala pachibwenzi ? Chifukwa chake ichi ndi chachikulu kwambiri pankhani ya chifukwa chake. Chifukwa chake chimodzi mwa zoopsa za ubale waukwati musanakwatirane ndikutenga chiopsezo choti mnzanuyo atha kutaya chidwi chanu.
2. Kuthekera kwakukulu kwa kupatukana
Ngati wina amakonda kutaya chidwi ndi mnzanuyo kapena akumva kusakhutira ndi kugonana muubwenzi, mwayi wothetsa banja umakwera. Kusamvana kungachititse kuti chibwenzi chonsecho chiwonongeke, ndipo wokhumudwayo angasankhe kusiya zonsezo.
Rohan (dzina losinthidwa), katswiri wa IT wazaka 31, amakumbukira kuti anali mutu wachikondi ndi wokondedwa wake wa kusukulu ya sekondale. Pamene adachoka kumudzi kwawo kupita ku koleji, adaganiza zopititsa patsogolo zinthu. Atagonana kangapo, chibwenzi chakecho chinayamba kudzipatula.
Tsiku lina anathetsa chibwenzicho mwadzidzidzi. Iye anati: “Ndinkangofuna kudziwa zambiri. Rohan akunena kuti mawuwa adamuvutitsa kwa zaka zambiri, ndipo adapeza kuti sangathenso kukonda wina mpaka atakumana ndi mkazi wake ali ndi zaka 28.
3. Kugonana musanalowe m’banja kumasokoneza maubwenzi ena
Chimodzi mwa zifukwa zomwe simuyenera kugonana musanalowe m'banja chomwe chili choyenera kuganizira ndichakuti muyenera kudziika pamavuto ambiri kuti mukhale ndi moyo wabwino wogonana . Ngati mumachita zogonana musanalowe m'banja, mwina mukuchitapo kanthu mobisa. Monga mabanja ambiri aku India, pali kubisa kwambiri lingaliro la atsikana kapena chikondi musanalowe m'banja.
Izi zikutanthauza kunamiza banja lanu za komwe muli mukatuluka kukakumana naye. Zinsinsi zonsezi ndi chizolowezi chonama zingayambe kusokoneza ubale wanu ndi banja lanu ndi anzanu; ndipo mwina angakulekanitseni kwa anthu omwe akhala akukuthandizani kwambiri.
4. Mutha kukhala munthu wamiseche
Ngati mukulephera kusunga zogonana zanu mobisa, mukhoza kupeza kuti muli m'zachipongwe zonyoza, miseche ndi zongopeka. Mosasamala kanthu za momwe kuvomereza anthu amadzinenera kuti ali nazo, zaka zokhazikika zimawalepheretsa kukhala omasuka ndi lingaliro lakugonana pakati pa anthu osakwatirana.
Kuopsa kwa kugonana musanalowe m’banja kumayamba kukhala zenizeni kuyambira pamenepa. Miseche yonseyi ndi 'mbiri yoipa' ikhoza kusokoneza banja lanu, zomwe zidzakhudzanso mtendere wanu wamaganizo. Kodi ndizoyenera?
5. Ubwenzi usanalowe m’banja ungasokoneze maganizo anu
Ubwenzi usanalowe m’banja umadetsa nkhaŵa kwambiri ndipo ukhoza kuyambitsa kupsinjika maganizo. Zotsatira zoyipa za kugonana musanalowe m'banja zimaphatikizaponso kusokoneza maganizo anu. Kudziimba mlandu kosunga zinsinsi kwa achibale anu ndi anzanu, mantha osalekeza a mimba zapathengo, chiwopsezo cha matenda opatsirana pogonana, zonse zingapangitse kupsinjika maganizo.
Kafukufuku akusonyeza kuti kupsinjika maganizo komwe kumachitika chifukwa cha kutha kwa ubale pakati pa okwatirana omwe anali pachibwenzi chogonana kungayambitse kuvutika maganizo. Timakonda kumva kuti tili pafupi kwambiri ndi munthu amene tinakhala naye pachibwenzi. Kenako akachoka, zimakhala zovuta kwambiri kuyesa kuthetsa vutoli. Kawirikawiri, kugonana musanalowe m'banja kungasokoneze thanzi lanu la maganizo.
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6. Kupwetekedwa mtima ngati mimba yapathengo
Nthawi ina ndinali ndi mnzanga yemwe ankakonda kucheza ndi mnzanga nthawi zonse. Ngakhale kuti anali ndi chidwi kwambiri ndi mnyamatayo, iye sanadziperekebe pa ubalewo. Komabe, nthaŵi ndi nthaŵi, amathera pabedi limodzi. Pambuyo pa miyezi isanu ndi umodzi ya izi, iye anatenga mimba, ndipo mnyamatayo anangonyamuka ndikuzimiririka.
Anazimitsa foni yake atamva nkhaniyi ndipo sanathe kupezeka kwa masiku ambiri. Anayenera kuchotsa mimba yekha ndipo sanauze aliyense za vutoli kwa miyezi ingapo pambuyo pake. N’zosachita kufunsa kuti zomwe zinachitikazo zinamupweteka kwambiri. Choipitsitsa n’chakuti, kuchotsa mimbako kunamupangitsa kukhala wosabereka, chinthu chomwe akanayenera kupitiriza nacho kwamuyaya.
Kodi n'kulakwa kugona ndi chibwenzi chanu musanalowe m'banja? Si malo athu kuti tikusankhireni zimenezo. koma popeza kuti kugonana musanalowe m’banja ndi malo oterera, tikufuna kuti muganizire za zotheka zimenezi musanapange chochita chilichonse chokhumudwitsa. N’chifukwa chake ngakhale mutagonana musanalowe m’banja, muyenera kusamala kwambiri.
Mimba yapathengo ikhoza kukhala ndi zotsatirapo zowononga. Ngati mnzanuyo sakukuthandizani pa nthawi yovutayi, mwatsala pang'ono kudzisamalira nokha panthawi yomwe simungakhale ndi mphamvu zamaganizo ndi zachuma kuti muthane ndi vutoli. Ngakhale kuchotsa mimba kungakhale koyenera, kumatha kubwera ndi zotsatira zamoyo zonse zakuthupi ndi zamaganizo. Momwemonso, kugonana musanalowe m'banja mosadziteteza ndikutulutsa mapiritsi olerera pambuyo pake kumatha kukhala ndi zotsatira zoyipa.
7. Kuopsa kwa matenda opatsirana pogonana
Mahomoni akuthamanga, pali zowawa zowuluka ndi kutengeka kwakukulu pamasewera. Zinthu zonsezi zimatha kuyambitsa chilakolako chosakhutitsidwa ndipo panthawiyo, zonse zomwe mukuwona ndi zabwino za kugonana musanalowe m'banja ndipo zonse zomwe tanena pamwambapa mwina sizingakumbukike.
Komanso, lingaliro logwiritsa ntchito chitetezo silingaganizidwe nkomwe kapena lingawoneke ngati losafunika pamene mukukonzekera. Komabe, ngati muli ndi zibwenzi zambiri kapena mukugonana ndi munthu amene mbiri yake yogonana simukudziwa, mumadziika pachiwopsezo cha matenda opatsirana pogonana (STDs).
Kaya ndi kuyabwa, kutentha, totupa kumaliseche kapena china chake chowopsa monga herpes kapena HIV, thanzi lanu logonana ndi ubereki likhoza kusokonezedwa kwambiri. Kupatula apo, pa nthawi imeneyo m'moyo wanu, simungakhale ndi zida kapena chidziwitso chothana ndi zovuta zachipatala zotere panokha.
8. Kugonana kumasintha thupi lanu
Mukataya unamwali wanu , thupi lanu limasinthasintha mwakuthupi komanso m'maganizo. Zimakhala ngati mukukhala munthu watsopano amene amaoneka mosiyana ndipo ali ndi malingaliro osintha pa chilichonse. Mabere anu amatupa, chiuno chanu chimamveka chachikulu, mutha kukhala ndi chilakolako chogonana mwadzidzidzi - zonsezi zingakhale zovuta kuzithetsa, makamaka ngati muyamba kugonana muli aang'ono.
9. Mulowa m'banja mwanu muli ndi katundu wamaganizo
Kugonana si kungochita zinthu pakati pa matupi awiri okha, komanso ndi kugwirizana kwa maganizo ndi malingaliro. Ubale umenewo sungatheke pakapita nthawi, mumayenda ndi kukwatirana ndi wina koma zimakhala zovuta kusiya kwathunthu katundu wamaganizo kuchokera m'mbuyomu.
Chimodzi mwa zifukwa zomwe simumagonana musanalowe m'banja ndikusunga malo anu oyera pamene mukudikirira bwenzi loyenera kukhala nalo m'moyo wanu. Mkwiyo, kusakhulupirika kapenanso chikondi chotsalira kuchokera ku ubale wanu wakale wogonana zitha kusokoneza kuthekera kwanu koyambitsa ubale watsopano ndi malingaliro abwino komanso kukonzekera kuyesetsa kudzipereka kwanu kwa moyo wanu wonse.
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10. Mmodzi amakonda kumutenga bwenzi lake mosasamala
Nthawi zambiri kukondana kwenikweni kumaonedwa ngati kudzipereka kwa nthawi yayitali ku ubalewu. Mukangokondana ndi mnzanu, n'zotheka kuti amadzidalira kwambiri za tsogolo lawo ndipo amasiya kuchita khama kwambiri mu ubalewu monga kale. Kukhala ndi chidziwitso chakuti akunyalanyazidwa kungakhale chifukwa chachikulu cha kusagwirizana, zomwe zimapangitsa kuti pakhale mikangano ndi ndewu nthawi zonse.
11. Kukhala ndi chibwenzi musanalowe m’banja kungachititse munthu kuchita chigololo
Kugawana ubwenzi wapamtima ndi munthu kungawonjezere mwayi wochita chigololo chibwenzi chitatha. Nenani kuti inu ndi mnzanuyo mumasiyana, ndipo mumapitilira ndi munthu wina. Komabe, penapake m'munsimu, moto wakale uwu umabwereranso m'moyo wanu. Apa ndipamene zotsatira zoipa za kugonana musanalowe m’banja zimayamba.
Zikatero, mwayi wobera mnzanu wapano ukuwonjezeka chifukwa mumagawana kale chitonthozo ndi munthu wina wakale wakale, kotero kukhala nawo kumakhala kodziwika bwino komanso kotonthoza osati zachibadwa kapena zolakwika.
12. Kugonana musanalowe m’banja kungasinthe mmene mumaonera chikondi
Izi zimachitika mukapeza ubwenzi wakuthupi ndikutsatiridwa ndi kusweka mtima. Munali okhudzidwa mwakuthupi ndi m'malingaliro muubwenzi. Mwina, munali wachichepere ndipo ichi chinali chimodzi mwazachikondi za nthano zomwe mumangoganizira mosangalala mpaka kalekale. Kenako, mnzanuyo amagwa m’chikondi ndi kupitirira, ndipo chowonadi chankhanza cha moyo chimafika kunyumba.
Izi zingasinthe maganizo anu pa chikondi ndipo mukhoza kuyamba kukayikira aliyense. Zotsatira zake, mutha kukankhira kutali ngakhale munthu weniweni ndikuvutikira kukhazikitsanso ubale wabwino.
13. Munthu angafunike kukumana ndi kusiyidwa
Mtsikana wina amene ndimamudziwa analolera kuti chibwenzi chake chipitirize kuumirira kugonana. Anali wopenga m'chikondi, ndipo anali atakhala limodzi kwa zaka ziwiri. Iye analibe chifukwa chokayikira kuti chibwenzi chakecho chikumukhudza. Mchitidwewo utachitika, adagubuduzika pambali, ndikuyankha monyoza kuti, 'O, ndiye kuti unali namwali.' Pambuyo pokumana naye, adayamba kumupewa kwambiri, ndipo pamapeto pake adathetsa chibwenzicho pafoni popanda kufotokoza zambiri.
Choncho, ndikofunikira kudziwa zomwe mukulembetsa musanavomereze kukhala pachibwenzi musanalowe m'banja. Kodi ndinu omasuka kuchita zogonana ndi wokondedwa wanu? Kodi ali mmenemo chifukwa cha kugonana? Ngati inde, ndinu omasuka ndi equation imeneyo? Kodi ndinu okonzeka kuthana ndi ubale womwe sukuyenda bwino m'tsogolomu?
Dzifunseni mafunso awa, ndipo ngati yankho lanu silili 'inde', dziwani kuti muli ndi ufulu wokana kugonana nthawi iliyonse. Ngakhale mutakhala pabedi ndi mnzanu, muyenera kugonana naye. Izi ndizofunikira kwambiri kwa achinyamata, omwe nthawi zambiri amagonja ku zovuta kuchokera kwa chibwenzi chawo komanso anzawo ndipo amakana kugonana asanakonzekere.
14. Kudzidalira kumatengera kugunda
Mungakhale odziimba mlandu kwambiri pankhani ya chibwenzi musanalowe m’banja, makamaka ngati zinthu sizikuyenda bwino pakati pa inu ndi mnzanuyo, moti zingawononge kudzidalira kwanu. Kuopsa kokhudzana ndi kuopsa kwa maubwenzi osakwatirana m'kupita kwa nthawi kudzakula kwambiri m'moyo wanu watsiku ndi tsiku komanso momwe mumadzionera. Nkhani za maonekedwe a thupi, kudzifunsa kuti ndinu wofunika komanso luso lanu, zonse ndi nsonga chabe.
Kupatula apo, ngati mawu onena za kuthawitsidwa kwanu pakugonana atuluka ndipo mulibe mphamvu zokwanira kuthana ndi vutolo, zotsatira zake zitha kukhala zovulaza kwambiri. Pakhoza kukhala miseche, mawu opweteka kapena chiweruzo kuchokera kwa anzanu ndi achibale ozungulira inu. Izi zitha kusokoneza momwe munthu amadziwonera yekha ndikuyambitsa zovuta zina zamaganizidwe.
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15. Mumaika pangozi kuwonongeka kwauzimu
Kayendetsedwe ka chipembedzo ndi zikhulupiriro ndi chikoka chachikulu pa chikhalidwe cha munthu ndi kaganizidwe kake. Zipembedzo zambiri zimalangiza zoletsa kugonana kwa anthu amene asanalowe m’banja. Ngati munakulira m’banja lachipembedzo kapena lauzimu, ubwenzi wakuthupi umene uli pakati pa inu ndi mnzanuyo ungakukhudzeni mwauzimu. Mungakupeze kukhala kovuta kugwirizana ndi ‘Mulungu wanu’ monga momwe munachitira poyamba, ndipo zimenezo zingakhale ndi ziyambukiro zazikulu pa moyo wanu wam’tsogolo popeza kuti chipembedzo chili ndi mbali yofunika kwambiri m’moyo wa anthu ambiri.
Tikukhulupirira kuti mudzaganizira zoopsa ndi zotsatira zake mukasankha ngati mungatenge chibwenzi muukwati musanakwatirane. Ngakhale sitikukana ubwino wa chibwenzi musanakwatirane, tikukulangizani kuti muyesere zoopsa zake pankhaniyi. Pamapeto pake, chisankho choyenera chimadalira zomwe zimagwirira ntchito kwa inu nokha komanso monga banja. Koma ngati mukuchita izi chifukwa cha kupsinjika maganizo kapena chifukwa choopa kutaya wokondedwa wanu, tikukulangizani kuti musachite izi pokhapokha ngati mukufuna.
N’chifukwa chiyani amabisa ubwenzi wathu ndi anzathu komanso anzathu?
Sanavomere kugonana musanalowe m’banja, choncho ndinamunyengerera
Chopereka chanu sichikutanthauza chopereka chachifundo . Chidzalola Bonobology kupitiliza kukubweretserani chidziwitso chatsopano komanso chaposachedwa poyesetsa kuthandiza aliyense padziko lonse lapansi kuphunzira momwe angachitire chilichonse.
Nkhani yabwino kwambiri. Kodi nchifukwa ninji nkhani zonga zimenezi, zodzaza ndi phindu lothandiza, sizipereka zambiri kwa achichepere ndi osakhazikika amene amawopsyeza chenjezo lonse?
Ndi nkhani yabwino kwambiri. Kupatula pazifukwa zomwe tazitchula pamwambapa, chinthu china ndi pamene wina agonana asanalowe m’banja ndi kukwatirana ndi wina, kupatula kunyamula katundu wamalingaliro ndi kudziimba mlandu, amataya chisangalalo chogonana ndi wokondedwa watsopano monga momwe adachitira kale komanso zimatsogolera kuweruza mnzako ndikuyerekeza momwe mwamuna kapena mkaziyo amagonana ndi munthu yemwe adagonanapo kale asanalowe m'banja. Izi zingapangitse munthu kukhala ndi chibwenzi kunja kapena kusakhutira ndi moyo.
Ngati munthu ali ndi makhalidwe abwino/makhalidwe & amakhulupirira za makhalidwe abwino, ayenera kuulula za ulendo asanalowe m'banja momwe angathere kuti akwatiwe asanamalize kumanga banja. Ndi kulakwa kwakukulu kuti munthu amene amagonana asanalowe m’banja ndi kukwatirana ndi munthu wina kumusunga mumdima ndipo alibe ufulu wochita zimenezo. Izi zidzangowononga zonse pamene choonadi chidzatuluka. Munthawi yaukadaulo yamakono aliyense ali wolumikizidwa kwinakwake ndipo chowonadi chidzadziwika posachedwa.
Nthawi zonse ndibwino kupewa kugonana musanalowe m'banja pokhapokha mutalowa m'banja. Ngati pambuyo pamavuto / kubera kwapezeka ndipo sikungathe kuthetsedwa mwanjira ina iliyonse yolekanitsa monga momwe ingakhalire.
Monga mlembi amatuluka bwino, kuchokera ku mbali ya uzimu nakonso sizolondola. Ndizomvetsa chisoni kuti mosasamala kanthu za kukhala ndi chidziwitso cholemera chauzimu ndi kukhala Veda bhumi, tikubwera pansi pa chikoka chakumadzulo chimene kugogomezera kwake kwakukulu kumangokhala moyo wokonda chuma ndi zinyama.
Ndikuvomereza kuti pali zoopsa zina zokhudzana ndi kugonana musanalowe m'banja koma ndili ndi malingaliro ena pa izo.
Malingaliro omwe amapangitsa anthu kukhulupirira kuti pali chinthu chonga "kuyera" pakugonana kungayambitsenso kusokonezeka pambuyo paukwati ndi kugonana.
Mavuto ogonana monga kutulutsa umuna msanga, kulephera kukokoloka, kapena pangakhale zovuta zina zilizonse, ndiye simukuona kuti ndibwino kuthana ndi izi musanalowe m'banja?
Iyi ndi nkhani yabwino kwambiri yomwe ndikuwerenga patapita nthawi yayitali. Izi ndimatha kuzidziwitsa kwa ana anga. Zina mwa zotsatira za kugonana musanalowe m’banja sitingathe kuzifotokoza. Ndinakonda kwambiri mbali imene munafotokoza kuti mkazi amene wataya unamwali ndi munthu wina amene si mwamuna wake woyembekezera angakhale wodetsedwa.
Chilichonse chomwe chilipo, malamulowo ayenera kugwira ntchito mofanana kwa amuna ndi akazi.
Zikomo chifukwa cha nkhani yabwino.