Sanavomere Kugonana Asanalowe M'banja, Choncho Ndinamunyenga

(Maina asinthidwa kuti ateteze zidziwitso)

Chikondi chilibe malire. Komabe takhazikitsa malire ake. Chofunika kwambiri ndi kugonana ndi mkazi mmodzi yekha . Pakhoza kukhala miyambo yotsutsana ndi mitala, maubwenzi otseguka , ndi zina zotero. Koma kwa anthu ambiri, chikondi chachikondi chimakhalabe chogwirizana ndi kukhulupirika pa kugonana. Kodi munthu ali pati ndiye, ngati chikondi sichikupereka zosowa zake zogonana? M'malamulo aku India, kukana ufulu waukwati kwa munthu m'modzi kungakhale chifukwa chosudzulana. Khoti Lalikulu la India lagamula kuti kukana kugonana ndi mwamuna kapena mkazi , popanda zifukwa zomveka, ndi nkhanza zamaganizo.

Si nkhani yaying'ono - kuletsa zosowa za kugonana za mnzanu. Nanga bwanji kugonana musanakwatirane ? Kodi kuvomereza zimenezo sikokwanira kukakamiza wina kuti afune kugonana kunja? Palinso chigamulo cha Khoti chomwe chimaletsa kugwiritsa ntchito lonjezo labodza la ukwati kuti ayambe kugonana ndi mkazi, ngati kugwiririra. Kodi kufunika kogonana kumakhala kokwanira bwanji kuti ndithetse chikondi? Awa anali mafunso omwe ankandizungulira mutu nditamva nkhaniyi koyamba. Ulendo wopita ku mzinda wa ubwana wanga, Kolkata, ndi umene unandipatsa mwayi wopeza mayankho maso ndi maso.

Kuwerenga Kofanana: Ananyenga chibwenzi chake ndi ine. Tsopano chiyani?

 Osati Ukwati, Koma Kugonana?

Aman anadzifunsa mafunso amenewa kangapo. Anadziwa kuti anali pa chibwenzi - anali atakwatirana kwa zaka zoposa zitatu. Analinso pachibwenzi. Ubwenziwo unasokonekera pamene mkaziyo anafunsa kuti - 'Titani?'

Iye sanali wokonzeka kukwatiwa ndipo mkaziyo anali pansi pa mavuto ambiri ochokera kunyumba . Kusudzulana kunatsatiridwa ndi miyezi ina yovuta kwambiri m'moyo wake. Sikuti iye sankafuna kukwatira - koma nkhani yoti adzakhala liti.

"Banja langa silikanatha kulipira ukwati. Ndinkafunika kukhala wokhazikika kuntchito, kusunga ndalama, kenako n’kupita kukatenga mtsikana wochokera ku fuko lina kupita kwa makolo anga."

Patatha miyezi ingapo kuchokera pamene Aman anasudzulana , Aman anadziwa kuti sangakhale popanda iye. Choncho anavomera zonse zomwe ankafuna ndipo anabwererana. Komabe, panali vuto - palibe kugonana mpaka atakwatirana. Tsopano mkhalidwe wa Aman sunasinthe kwambiri, kotero anayamba kugwiritsa ntchito njira zomuchedwetsa kuti amulepheretse . Ndipo zonse zikanakhala bwino, koma chifukwa cha lamulo loletsa kugonana. "Poyamba sindinaganizire kwambiri za izi. Komabe, pakapita nthawi, zinakhala zovuta. Makamaka pamene tinasamukira limodzi . Ndinkaganiza kuti adzasungunuka posachedwa, koma kutsimikiza mtima kwake kunali kolimba. Choncho ndinayamba kukhala nthawi yayitali tsiku langa ndikudandaula za kusagonana kwanga. "

 Ingochitani Izi, Bambo!

Pambuyo pake, abwenzi achimuna a Aman, atatopa ndi kudandaula kwake, adalowa.

"Ukufuna kumukwatira?"

"Inde".

"Ndiye pita ukagone, bambo!"

“Kodi sizingakhale…”

" Ayi, sizingatero. Sikoyenera ngati mukumanidwa kugonana popanda chifukwa chanu. Choncho mumapeza izi kunja kwa chibwenzi. Palibe amene ayenera kudziwa, ndipo mukamakwatirana, zonse zimakhala zakale."

Zinkaoneka ngati zomveka! Chilengedwe chinamukonzera chiwembu mkazi wa mnzake atabwera kudzagogoda. "Sindinakonzekerepo. Koma tonse tinkacheza kunyumba kwawo, pamene mwamuna wake anali kunja kwa mzinda. Nyumba yawo inali ngati malo athu ochitira phwando. Mmodzi ndi mmodzi, aliyense anachoka, ine ndinatsala. Ndipo zinthu zinachitika kuyambira pamenepo. Sanali bwenzi langa lapamtima, koma ndinali ndi mantha kuti izi ziwululidwe poyera, chifukwa chibwenzi changa chinkacheza nafe nthawi zambiri. Komabe, sizinatilepheretse kwa miyezi ingapo," akukumbukira Aman.

Kenako Anakwatirana

Chaka chapitacho, Aman ndi chikondi chake cha moyo anakwatirana. Unali ukwati wosavuta, koma ndani anati nthano sizingakhale zodabwitsa? Pali chikondi chokwanira, ndi kugonana kokwanira kuti zichitike tsopano. Kodi chinachitika ndi chiyani kwa chibwenzi chimenecho, ndinafunsa. "Chabwino, mwamuna wake anayamba kukayikira ndipo inenso ndinazindikira kuti ndinkasambira naye m'madzi oopsa. Panalinso mayesero angapo ogonana ndi ndalama. Kenako zinthu zinasintha kunyumba, ndipo ndinatha kupitiriza kukonzekera ukwati." " Mukuganiza kuti mkazi wanu ayenera kudziwa? " Ndinafunsa, ndili pachiwopsezo chothetsa kuyankhulana.

"Chabwino, mukudziwa, sindikumva ngati ndine wolakwa. Ndinaikidwa pamalo enaake ndipo ndinayankha kuti ndikwaniritse zosowa zina zofunika za anthu. Sikuti sindinayese kulankhula naye, kumuchonderera. Tsopano zonse zachitika kale ndipo sindikuona chifukwa chofotokozera nkhaniyi. Ndingakonde kuyang'ana kwambiri pa moyo wathu wamtsogolo. Kukhala mwamuna wabwino ndikugwira ntchito yoti ndikhale bambo wabwino. " Nditatero, foni ya bambo woyembekezera inalira. Mkazi wosangalala anafunsa kuti mwamuna wake abwerere liti.

Kuwerenga Kofanana: Ananyengedwa Ndipo Ana Ake Anatengedwa

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Maganizo Final

mkhalidwe wovuta wa chikondi, kukhulupirika, ndi zosoŵa zaumwini zingakhale zovuta. Nkhani ya Aman ikuwonetsa kukhazikika pakati pa kulumikizana kwamalingaliro ndi zilakolako zakuthupi, komanso momwe zosowa zosakwanira zingatsogolere zisankho zovuta. Funso lakuti ngati kusakhulupirika kwa m'mbuyomu kuyenera kuwululidwa m'banja likuwonjezera zovuta zina. Pamapeto pake, ubale uliwonse ndi wapadera, ndipo zomwe zimagwira ntchito kwa banja limodzi sizingagwire ntchito kwa wina. Kulankhulana momasuka, kuwona mtima, ndi kumvetsetsa ndizofunikira kuti mukhalebe ndi ubale wabwino ndi wokhutiritsa, ngakhale mutakumana ndi zosankha zovuta.

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