Sikophweka kupeza chikondi. Ndipo mukatero, sikophweka kuyesetsa kupanga ubale wolimba ndi munthu amene amakhala kutali. Lero, tikambirana mfundo zitatu zovuta zokhudzana ndi maubwenzi akutali. Ndipo ngakhale zingamve ngati vuto lalikulu pa moyo wanu pakali pano chifukwa cha momwe zimakhudzira malingaliro nthawi zina chifukwa chosowa kulumikizana, pali njira zoyendetsera ma curveballs omwe amaponyedwa pa inu.
Ma LDR akuchulukirachulukira chifukwa dziko lapansi lakhala losavuta kulipeza kuposa kale lonse. Ena amadabwa kuti, “Kodi maubwenzi akutali ndi abwino, poganizira kuti anthu ambiri amafunikira malo awo masiku ano?” Sakulakwitsa. Deta ya OkCupid ya 2019 imati 46% ya akazi ndi 45% ya amuna ali otseguka paubwenzi wakutali ndi munthu woyenera. Koma monga momwe tiwonere mtsogolo, ubale wakutali umafuna zambiri osati kungocheza pavidiyo ndi kutumizirana mphatso.
3 Zovuta Zokhudza Maubwenzi Atalitali
M'ndandanda wazopezekamo
Ponena za ubale wa anthu akutali ndi apakati, pali mafunso omwe amabwera m'maganizo mwathu, monga: Kodi ubale wakutali ungakhalepo nthawi yayitali popanda kuonana? Kapena momwe mungabwezeretsere chikondi ndi kuwala pamene mukumva kutopa ndi ubale wakutali? Ndipo momwe mungakhalire ndi ubale wabwino wakutali ndi mavuto azachuma komanso kulekana kwakuthupi komwe kumakubweretserani mavuto?
Eya, mavuto a maubwenzi apatali ndi ambiri, ndipo masiku ambiri amamva nkhanza kwambiri. Choncho, tiyeni tione mfundo zingapo zoonekeratu za iwo. Pano pali kuyesa mwachidule mwachidule kuti ndikubweretsereni zoona zenizeni za momwe ubale wachikondi uwu ungamvere ndi mfundo zitatu zowawa zokhudzana ndi maubwenzi akutali.
1. Kukhoza kuwononga ndalama
Ngakhale mutasokoneza zinthu zofunika monga kupeza njira zogwiritsira ntchito nthawi yabwino, kulankhulana momasuka komanso moona mtima ndi mnzanu wapamtunda wautali, ndi kusunga ubwenzi wapamtima, chinthu chimodzi chomwe chidzakuvutitsani ndi kuchuluka kwa ubalewu kudzadya ndalama zanu. Popeza mu LDRs mwapatukana, zimakhala zovuta kwambiri masabata, miyezi, ndipo nthawi zina, chaka kapena kuposerapo, osawonana ndi mnzanu kapena kukhudza thupi. Mwachibadwa, izi ndi zomwe zidzatengere maganizo anu:
- Ndalama zoyendera kukakumana ndi okondedwa wanu pafupipafupi zidzatenga gawo lalikulu la malipiro anu
- Muyenera kuganizira za matikiti, basi kapena sitima kapena ndege, bajeti ya chakudya mukamayenda, kukhala ku hotelo ngati sakukhala paokha, ndi ndalama zina zoyendera. Izi zitha kukhala zovuta pambuyo pa mfundo
- Muyenera kupeza njira zopangira zosungira nthawi zonse ndikutenga masamba pantchito kuti mukhale ndi nthawi yabwino ndi mnzanu
Izi ndi mfundo zitatu zovuta zokhudza ubale wakutali. Zingakhale zodula ndipo izi ndi zomwe muyenera kudziwa musanayambe ubale wakutali ndi wokondedwa wanu. Michael, wowerenga wathu wochokera ku London yemwe wakhala pachibwenzi kwa miyezi pafupifupi isanu ndi umodzi tsopano, akutiuza kuti, "Zinali zovuta kwambiri kusamalira ndalama zanga, pamodzi ndi koleji yanga, kuti ndikumane ndi mnzanga. Nthawi ina, tinayambana kwambiri chifukwa ndinalibe ndalama zoti ndizipita kukacheza ndi munthu wina. Zinali zovuta. Kupeza ubwenzi ndi chikondi cha wokondedwa wanga kunali kowawa kwambiri."
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2. Mumasungulumwa ndipo mungafune kusiya
Kudzimva kukhala pafupi ndi wokondedwa wanu ndi gawo lofunikira pakumukonda komanso kukhala pachibwenzi. Komabe, popeza izi ndizovuta kwambiri muubwenzi wautali, ndikosavuta kuti kusungulumwa kumangobwera chifukwa chosowa kukhudza thupi. Kugwiritsa ntchito Lachisanu kunyumba, komanso kukhala nokha paphwando zingakhale zovuta kupirira pamene mnzanuyo ali kutali kwambiri ndi inu.
Ndikofunikira kudziwa kuti ndi zachibadwa komanso zabwino kumva motere za ubale wanu wamaganizo womwe ukukutopetsani, chifukwa cha khama lomwe muyenera kuchita kuti mukhalebe ogwirizana nawo. Ichi ndi chimodzi mwa zinthu zovuta zomwe zimachitika nthawi zina chifukwa cha LDR. Koma kodi ndi zovuta mpaka kufika poganiza kuti ubalewo ndi woyenera kusungidwa ? Tidzadziwa.
Monga momwe Sylvia, yemwe wakhala muzochitika zamphamvu zotere kwa zaka ziwiri tsopano, akunenera, "Masiku ena, ndikulumbira, ndinkangofuna kulira popanda kalikonse koma iye m'chipindamo. Sindinkafuna zowonetsera, opanda malo omvetsetsa, kapena kuika maganizo awiri pamodzi. Kungodziwa kuti ali pambali panga ndikundigwira pamene ndikulira. Koma ndithudi, izo sizikanatha kutayika pa nthawi imodzi, ndinafuna kuti ndikhale ndi chibwenzi. munthu amene ndimamukonda kuti ndikhale wosangalala.”

3. Kuopa zam'tsogolo ndi chimodzi mwazovuta zazikulu za ubale wautali
Zikukhala zofala kwambiri kuti anthu okwatirana ayambe kugwirizana kwambiri masiku ano, pamene ena anayamba kudabwa kuti, “Kodi maubwenzi otalikirana ndi abwino kuposa amene mwamuna ndi mkaziyo amakhala moyandikana?” Ubale wakutali umafuna mtundu wosiyana, womwe si aliyense ali nawo. Ndipo ndicho chomaliza cha 3 mfundo zovuta zokhudzana ndi maubwenzi akutali.
Mungakhale ndi ubale wolimba, mungakonde kulankhulana momasuka komanso moona mtima, ndipo palinso ulemu waukulu pakati panu. Koma nthawi zina, izi sizili zofunika chifukwa kukhala kutali ndi mnzanu kwa nthawi yayitali kumakhudza inu ndi ubale wanu. Musanalowe mu LDR, nthawi zambiri ndi bwino kuwunika izi:
- Kodi mungathe kuchita zomwe zimafunika kuti ubale wanu ugwire ntchito?
- Kodi mungapangire nthawi yochuluka bwanji yocheza?
- Kodi ndinu munthu yemwe amakhumudwitsidwa mosavuta ndi kulumikizana koyipa kwa Wi-Fi?
- Komanso, ndi zochuluka bwanji zomwe mungachite popanda kukhudzana?
Palibe kuchuluka kwa macheza amakanema ndi madeti apa intaneti omwe angachepetse mantha anu pazomwe zingachitike. Kuti mukhale ubale wopambana, inu ndi mnzanuyo mudzakhala nthawi zonse m'mphepete momwe mungapangire ntchito zaka zisanu kapena khumi zikubwerazi pamene inu awiri mudzagwirizana. Mudzadzifunsabe kuti, "Kodi tidzasonkhanitsa bwanji maiko athu?" Chofunika kwambiri pakupanga ubale wautali ntchito ndi kukhala ndi dongosolo lamasewera la tsogolo lanu, lomwe nthawi zonse limakhala m'malingaliro anu. Uwu ndi ulendo wamalingaliro ovuta kwambiri.
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Tsopano popeza takambirana mfundo zitatu zokhwima zokhudza maubwenzi otalikirana, tiyeni tikambirane zimene tingachite kuti tithane ndi vuto lotopetsa.
Mtundu uliwonse wa ubale uli ndi mavuto akeake. Sikuti umangokhudza mavutowo koma umangokhudza kuwathetsa. Kodi mudamvapo za 'kukonza' ndi 'kusweka'? Kusweka ndi kusweka kwa ubale pakati pa anthu awiri komwe kungayambitsidwe ndi kupweteka, mtunda, kapena mkwiyo muubwenzi . Kusweka ndi gawo lachibadwa la ubale wabwino uliwonse.
Komabe, kusweka mobwerezabwereza kukachitika popanda kukonzanso, ubwenziwo umayamba kukhala ngati njerwa zapakhoma — Zopanda Moyo. Chikondi chimaloŵedwa m’malo ndi kuwawidwa mtima, kupangitsa ubwenziwo kutha. Kukonza ndikubwezeretsanso kulumikizana komwe kudatayika panthawi yosweka. Kukonza ndi njira yakufikitsirani pafupi ndi mnzanuyo.
Izi zimabwera ndikuzindikira kuti ubalewu ndi wofunika kwambiri kuposa vuto. Cholinga chake ndi kumvetsa pamene zinthu zinalakwika ndi mmene tingagonjetsere izo. M'munsimu muli njira zingapo zomwe mungakonzere ubale wanu wautali ngakhale kusweka kusanachitike.
1. Kulankhulana ndikofunikira mukakhala kutali
Kulankhulana ndi chimodzi mwa zinthu zofunika kwambiri kuti ubale uliwonse wa anthu awiri kapena wa mkazi mmodzi ugwire ntchito. Apa sitikutanthauza kungoyimba foni pavidiyo kapena kutumizirana mauthenga ndi mnzanu wakutali kuti mulumikizane naye. Umu ndi momwe mungatsimikizire kuti muli paubwenzi ndi wokondedwa wanu:
- Gwiritsani ntchito luso lanu lolankhula kuti mukwaniritse zosowa zanu ndi za mnzanu muubwenzi
- Khalani ndi zokambirana zabwino kuti mupange maziko olimba a moyo wanu pamodzi
- Lankhulani ndi wokondedwa wanu za momwe mukumvera pa dongosololi, zomwe mukufuna mosiyana, kapena momwe mukufuna kuti wokondedwa wanu akuthandizeni.
- Kodi mumayembekezera kuti akusonyezeni chikondi m'njira zina ziti?
- Kodi pali zovuta zilizonse zomwe mukukumana nazo?
- Kodi mukuchita bwanji kusiyana kwa nthawi komanso kasamalidwe ka nthawi?
Sikophweka kufotokozera zachiwopsezo chanu pafoni kapena pakompyuta popanda kukhudzana ndi thupi ndikutsimikiziranso chimodzimodzi. Koma pakapita nthawi, mumakhala osamala kwambiri pozindikira kusagwirizana kwa mawu mu LDR. Mumadziŵa bwino lomwe mmene amamvekera akakhala achimwemwe, mmene amamvekera atatopa, kapena pamene akudumpha mosangalala, kapena pamene akuvutika maganizo.
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2. Nthawi zonse tcherani khutu kuzinthu zazing'ono
Mukayamba kumvetsera bwino, mumayamba kuganizira zazing'ono za mnzanu wapamtunda wautali. Mumadziwa akakhala opanda mphamvu, ngati sakhala odekha monga momwe amachitira nthawi zambiri, ngati ali aulesi kapena otopa, komanso njira zapadera zomwe mnzanuyo amafotokozera.
Zinthu zazing'onozi ndizofunikira kwambiri ngati mukufuna kulankhulana bwino muubwenzi wanu. Mukawona zinthu zovutazi za mnzanu wanu, simumangowauza kuti mumamvetsera zomwe akunena kapena kuchita, komanso mumawauzanso momwe mumayamikirira zomwe nonse muli nazo. Izi zitha kukhala zosangalatsa kwambiri kwa maanja omwe akumva kutali kwambiri.
Chimodzi mwazinthu 3 zovuta zokhudzana ndi maubwenzi otalikirana ndikuti ndizotopetsa kuti LDR igwire ntchito nthawi zina. Tikhulupirireni, kuyesayesa kwanu kudzachepetsedwa mukamasamalira zinthu zazing'ono kuyambira pachiyambi ndikukhala bwino pozindikira zakukhosi kwa wina ndi mnzake. Ndi chimodzi mwazinthu zofunika kwambiri kuti kulumikizana kwanu kukhale kolimba. Chidzakhala chizolowezi ndipo sichidzakhalanso ntchito mukangowona momwe zimakhalira zopindulitsa pa ubale wozama, ndi momwe zimakuchiritsirani nonse.
3. Osaganiza kalikonse pamene mukuyenda patali ndi patali
Ngati sitikudziwa zonse, timalumikiza mfundozo ndi kuzipanga kukhala zangwiro. Ndi chizolowezi chachibadwa cha anthu kuchita zimenezo. Ndicho chimene timachitanso muubwenzi. Koma musaganize chilichonse ngakhale mutayesedwa. Ngakhale malingalirowo akukufikirani mosavuta pamene mukuyembekezera mayankho a mnzanu, ngakhale akukupangitsani nkhawa paubwenzi.
Zolingalira zimabweretsa kuphulika kwakukulu, kukonzanso komwe kumatenga nthawi yayitali. Mukakumana m'moyo weniweni, maubwenzi amatha kukhala osavuta kuchira. Koma maubwenzi apatali amakumana ndi zovuta zina. Zimakhala zovuta kwambiri kupitiliza kulumikizana, osasiya kufunafuna chithandizo ndikukhala otetezeka wina ndi mnzake. N’chifukwa chake mbali yofunika kwambiri yopangitsa kuti ubwenzi ukhale wolimba kwa anthu amene amakhala kutali ndi kuphunzira kulankhulana bwino komanso mwachikondi. Malangizo ochepa kwa inu pankhaniyi:
- Lankhulani nawo za malingaliro osokoneza omwe akukweza ma siren m'mutu mwanu
- Khalani omasuka pa izi, mwayi ndi wakuti nawonso ali ndi malingaliro awo
- Mukachotsa zinthu, mumachepetsa nkhawa zomwe zingawonekere muubwenzi wanu
- Khazikitsani njira zoyankhulirana zomveka bwino pomwe mulibe malo oti mungoganizira
- Chilichonse chimene chimabwera m’maganizo mwanu, lankhulani m’malo mochilola kuti chisokoneze inu nonse
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4. Musalole kuti zikhale zotopetsa, ndipo khalani ogwirizana
Chifukwa chiyani maubwenzi apatali ali ovuta? Chifukwa nthawi zambiri amaona kuti ndi otopetsa kwambiri. Popeza mulibe moyo wocheza ndi munthu uyu, kukhala wokonda kwambiri foni yanu ndikudikirira mameseji awo tsiku lonse kumatha kukhala kosangalatsa kwambiri.
Musalole kuti ubale wanu ukhale wamba monga kudzuka, kugwetsa meseji kwa mnzanu, kupita tsiku lanu, mwina kuyimbira foni mnzanu, kenako kukagona. Spice ndi jazi zimakupangitsani kuti mukhale ndi nthawi yabwino kwambiri ndi iwo. Chitani zinthu zomwe mukanachita nonse mukanakhala pamodzi - Ingochitani zonsezo ndikuyendetsa bwino nthawi kuti mukhale ndi chizoloŵezi chabwino. Pezani mwayi pazosintha zonse zaukadaulo monga izi:
- Tulukani pamasiku enieni a chakudya
- Konzani masiku a kanema
- Yambitsani chiwonetsero chatsopano cha Netflix chomwe nonse mungathe kuwonera limodzi
- Tumizanani zotumizira modzidzimutsa
- Konzani zoyendera modzidzimutsa ngati mungakwanitse
- Tumizanani malemba okoma mtima kuti muchepetse kusakhudzana mwakuthupi
- Khalani achikondi pafoni: Khalani ndi zogonana zambiri pafoni kapena kugonana kwina kulikonse mutakhala otetezeka (ndithudi)
Musalole kuti zikhale zodziwikiratu kapena kulola kusungulumwa kukulamulireni. Maubwenzi apatali amafuna kuti mupite patsogolo. Choncho musadzimve kukhala opereŵera chifukwa chakuti nonse munalekana ndi mtunda. Pali zambiri zomwe nonse mungathe kuchita.
5. Ikani patsogolo zinthu zina kuti mupewe kutheratu paubwenzi
Osatengeka kwambiri ndikuyenda maulendo ataliatali, kotero kuti mumayiwala zonse zamagulu anu ena komanso moyo womwe mwamanga motalikirana ndi bwenzi lanu lakutali. Mabanja otalikirana amakonda kuyika ubale wawo patsogolo pawokha, chomwe ndi cholakwika chachikulu, chifukwa amasungulumwa posachedwa. Choncho, kumbukirani:
- Lankhulani ndi anthu, ndipo pangani maubwenzi olimba ndi anzanu ndi achibale anu
- Pangani dongosolo lolimba lothandizira nokha, ndikukhala ndi anthu ena okhudzidwa ndi moyo wanu m'njira yopindulitsa
- Pangani ndondomeko yanu ndi ndondomeko zomwe sizikuzungulira mnzanuyo
- Dzikhazikitseni zolinga zanu nokha ndikupanga dongosolo la momwe mungakwaniritsire
- Pitani ku masewera olimbitsa thupi, kapena kuchita yoga, kapena yendani kokayenda, ndikugwira ntchito yolimbitsa thupi ndi maganizo anu
- Pezani nthawi yokhala nokha
Ngakhale si chinthu choipa kuyika nthawi yowonjezera ndi khama muubwenzi wanu, pali njira zina zodzipangitsa kukhala wosangalala ndikusunga moyo wanu. Musaiwale momwe zimakhalira kukhala ndi moyo weniweni pafupi ndi munthu weniweni. Lingaliro ndilakuti mukukula muubwenziwo m'lingaliro lathunthu, ndipo ubale wanu udzakula nanu. Ndinali pachibwenzi chaufupi chakutali. Ine ndi mnzanga tinali pachibwenzi kwa zaka ziwiri zisanachitike zimenezo mpaka pamene adapita ku pulogalamu yosinthana zinthu ku Europe.
Ndinasowa chilichonse chokhudza iye, kuyambira pa thupi lake, nkhope yake mpaka kuseka kwake. Ngakhale kuti kukhudza thupi sikunali kokwanira, sitinade nkhawa ndi kuyesa kukulitsa chidaliro kapena luso lolankhulana. Ngakhale kuti ndinali pamalo otetezeka chonchi, ndinavutika kuti ndidziwe pamene iye anali atapita. Ndinasiya kupita ku makalasi anga a tennis ndipo ndinadumphanso chakudya cham'mawa ndi anzanga akuntchito chifukwa ndinkafuna kumuimbira foni m'malo mwake. Ndidazindikira pambuyo pake kuti gawo lofunikira popereka zabwino kwambiri muubwenzi wanu ndikukhala nokha.
6. Khalani ndi tsiku lotha ntchito mtunda
Kuwononga nthawi pa intaneti ndikuyimba foni tsiku lonse kudutsa magawo anthawi kumatha kukhala kosangalatsa kwakanthawi. Koma zidzatha posachedwa. Ndikosavuta kukhala olumikizidwa koma zovuta kuti kulumikizanaku kukhale kokhalitsa. Ndipo njira yokhayo yopangitsa kuti ikhale yokhalitsa ndiyo kukhala ndi lingaliro lolimba la pamene inu nonse mudzagwirizana m’moyo weniweni.
Zokambirana zanu ziphatikizepo kukambirana za tsiku lotha ntchito yaubwenzi wautali (ngati ndi zomwe nonse mukufuna). Musaope kukonzekera pamene nonse mudzakhala pamodzi mumzinda umodzi, kapena ngakhale nyumba imodzi. Mukufuna kukonda wokondedwa wanu ngati munthu weniweni osati munthu amene mumamuwona pazenera.
Monga momwe Charles Dickens adalembera mu The Life and Adventures of Nicholas Nickleby , "Kupweteka kwa kulekana sikutanthauza chisangalalo chokumananso." Koma vuto limodzi lachilendo kwambiri la ubale wautali ndikuphunzira kuyenda moyo wanu pamene simulinso kutali. Pamene LDR itha, nonse mudzalowa mu gawo latsopano la ubale wanu ndipo mudzafunika nthawi yoti muzolowere chizolowezi chatsopano chokhala limodzi, kapena mumzinda womwewo. Muyenera kusiya kuphunzira ndikuphunziranso zinthu zatsopano zokhudza wina ndi mnzake ndikuchita chikondi chambiri. Uwu ndi mtundu wa kukonzanso komwe kumatha kulimbitsa ubale wanu.
Buku la Nicholas Sparks lakuti The Notebook lili ndi mawu abwino kwambiri omwe amakumbutsa anthu kuti azitha kusankha zinthu zomwe angasankhe tokha: “Sizidzakhala zophweka. Zidzakhala zovuta kwambiri. Ndipo tidzayenera kugwira ntchito pa izi tsiku lililonse, koma ndikufuna kuchita zimenezo chifukwa ndikufuna inu. Ndikufuna nonsenu, kwamuyaya, inu ndi ine.”
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Ngakhale kuti simukukhudzana kwa nthawi yaitali, kuyesa kusunga ndalama mwezi uliwonse kuti mukumane ndi wokondedwa wanu, ndikuyang'ana nkhani za intaneti ndi kusiyana kwa nthawi kuti muyimbire foni ndi zinthu zina zomwe maanja ena angapirire - Osadzipsera nokha ngati simuli m'modzi wa iwo. Mwinamwake inu nonse ndinu ophunzira aku koleji mukuganizirabe zinthu kapena ndinu ammutu kwambiri pantchito yanu pakali pano kuti mupereke zambiri ku ubale wovuta.
Ngakhale kuti mtunda uwu ungakupangitseni kukhala wosangalatsa kwambiri, ungakupangitseninso kukhala wotopa kwambiri. Kuthera nthawi yambiri tsiku lanu mukuchita zinthu ndi munthu wina pamene simukutha kudzisamalira nokha si chinthu chomwe aliyense angalole kuchita. M'malo mosunga mkwiyo ndikuyambitsa mavuto ena olankhulana, ndi bwino kukhazikitsa ziyembekezo zomveka bwino kwa wina ndi mnzake za momwe mukufunira kuti ubale wanu waukuluwu ugwire ntchito.
Ikani moyo wanu patsogolo, mvetsetsani kufunikira kwa kukhudza kwakuthupi m'moyo wanu, ndipo ganizirani ubale wautali ngati muli ndi maganizo oyenera. Ngati mukudzipusitsa kuti mukhalebe ogwirizana ndi munthuyu, ndiye mungatani kuti muyambe kumukhulupirira?
Mlongo wanga sanathe kupitiriza ndi chibwenzi chake cha LDR. Chibwenzi chake chinkakhala ku Netherlands ndipo iye anali ku US Ngakhale awiriwa anali okondana kwambiri ngati kuti anangotuluka mufilimu, kusowa kukhudzana thupi ndi kukhudza thupi sikunali koyenera kwa iwo. Analibe ndalama zoyendera pafupipafupi ndipo anali ndi nthawi yovuta yosiyana. Nthawi ina anandiuza kuti, "Ndimakonda Nikolaj, ndimamukondabe, koma ubale wautali ndi wongotaya nthawi kwa munthu ngati ine. Ndilibe maganizo abwino pa izi ndipo ndimamva kuti ndilibe naye chibwenzi ngakhale titayesetsa bwanji. Ndikuganiza kuti ndingapeze chisangalalo chomwecho kapena chochulukirapo mwa kungokhala wosakwatiwa mosangalala m'malo mwake."
Mulimonsemo, kaya mumasankha kutsatira ndi LDR yanu kapena ayi, yesetsani kukhala owona mtima momwe mungakhalire ndi yemwe mumamukonda. Padzakhala zovuta zambiri panjira yanu koma sizingatheke kuwoloka. Pakali pano, ngati mwaganiza zokhala paubwenzi umenewu, pezani njira zoupanga kukhala wosangalatsa ndi weniweni, ndipo pangitsa mnzanuyo kumva kukhala wosungika. Ndipo ngati muli bwino popanda wina, ndiye kuti ndizomveka. Osadzikoka nokha kupyola chinthu chomwe simungathe kudzipereka.
Ibibazo
Kupanda ubwenzi wapamtima ndi chimodzi mwa mfundo zitatu zowawa pa maubwenzi akutali. Anthu ena amafuna kugwirana chanza, kukumbatirana, ndi kukumbatirana mu maubwenzi kuposa ena. Izi zili choncho chifukwa ubwenzi ndi chimodzi mwa zilankhulo zawo zachikondi. Ndipo kusungulumwa muubwenzi wakutali sikosangalatsa. A phunziro 2018 amavomereza. 66% ya omwe adafunsidwa adanena kuti chovuta kwambiri chokhala paubwenzi wautali chinali kusowa kwa ubwenzi wapamtima womwe umachititsa kuti ukhale wosungulumwa, ndipo 31% adanena kuti kusowa kwa kugonana kunali kovuta kwambiri.
Ndithudi izo zikhoza. Momwemonso phunziro 2018 adapeza kuti 58% ya maubwenzi akutali ku America adagwira ntchito ndikupulumuka. Anthu 55 pa 100 aliwonse a ku America ananena kuti nthawi imene amakhala kutali inawapangitsa kuti azimva kukhala oyandikana kwambiri ndi mnzawo m’kupita kwa nthawi, pamene 69 peresenti ananena kuti amalankhulana kwambiri ndi mnzawoyo nthawi imene anali kutali. Osachepetsa khalidwe lililonse lovuta la mnzanuyo ndipo samalani ndi khalidwe lolamulira, monga momwe mungachitire muzochitika zilizonse.
Kusalankhulana kothandiza kumapha ubale uliwonse, kuphatikizapo ubale wautali. Kulankhulana patali sikumangophatikizapo kuyankhula, koma kumangomvetsera - Mwachifundo komanso molingalira. Zikutanthauza kuti mumamvera zomwe mnzanuyo akunena pamene mukulemba zomwe mukufuna kunena mwaulemu. Zikutanthauzanso kuti mukhoza kufotokoza maganizo awo pamene mukuwapatsa anu.
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