"Ndikufuna Chidwi ndi Mwamuna Wanga" - Katswiri Anamuuza Zoyenera Kuchita

Ria, mkazi wokongola wazaka 38 zakubadwa anandiimbira foni m’maŵa woŵala m’chilimwe, kundipempha kuti tionane. “Ndimadzimva wopanda chimwemwe, wopanda pake, wopsinjika maganizo ndiponso woipidwa ndi moyo nthaŵi zambiri. Chilichonse chili chabwino m’moyo wanga. Palibe cholakwika chilichonse. Ndili ndi banja lokongola, ana aŵiri kusukulu ya pulayimale ndi mwamuna wanzeru ndi wachipambano amene amandipatsa zotonthoza zonse. Koma mwamuna wanga samandisamalira. Ndikufuna chisamaliro cha mwamuna wanga.”

Iye anati: “Ndimaona ngati ndife anthu okhala m’chipinda chimodzi

“Mwamuna wanga amayendayenda kwambiri chifukwa cha ntchito ndipo ndimaona kuti sindikupeza chisamaliro chimene ndikufuna kwa iye, ndimayesetsa kulankhula naye ndipo ndinamupempha kuti azikhala nane nthawi yambiri, koma amangonyalanyaza.

Masiku ano ngakhale akakhala pafupi, timangokhalira kukangana kapena kukhala chete . Nthawi zina ndimamva ngati tili m'chipinda chimodzi kapena alendo ku hotelo, aliyense ali ndi zochita zake payekha. Mwamuna wanga sandiona ndipo ndimamva ngati sindili komweko. Mwamuna wanga amandinyalanyaza m'maganizo ndipo safuna kuchita chilichonse ndi ine.

Anali wotanganidwa ndi moyo wake

Kodi mungatani kuti mwamuna wanu azikuonani? Izi ndi zomwe zinali m'maganizo mwake ndimaganiza. “Ndimafuna chisamaliro cha mwamuna wanga koma sikuti ndimadalira iye pa chilichonse.

“Ndimakhala ndi ndandanda yokwanira tsiku lililonse.

“Ndimakhala wotopa, wosungulumwa, wonyong’onyeka komanso wotopa masiku ambiri, ndimaganiza kuti mwina ndi mahomoni koma kukaonana ndi amayi ndi kuyezetsa zili bwino.

Mnzanga wina anandiuza kuti ndipemphe uphungu. Mwina izi zingathandize kuthetsa vuto langa, choncho ndinakuyimbirani foni.” Tinakonza nthawi yokumana ndipo tinakumananso m'masabata angapo otsatira nthawi zonse kuti tichepetse zizindikiro zake ndikupeza njira yothetsera mavuto ake amisala.

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Iye ankadzipangira yekha mavuto

Pamene ndinamva Ria m'magawo angapo otsatira omwe ndidawona, kumvetsera ndikutsimikizira kuti panali zifukwa zingapo zomwe zidamupangitsa kukhala wosasangalala. Chimodzi mwa izo chinali chakuti ankakhulupirira kuti anali ndi chisoni chifukwa cha kupanda chidwi kwa mnzake. “Ndimafuna chisamaliro cha mwamuna wanga,” anatero mlongo wakeyo.

Asanayambe chithandizo chake, maganizo ake onse anali pa khalidwe ndi zizolowezi za wokondedwa wake popanda kutenga kamphindi kuti aganizire momwe akuthandizira kuti avutike.

Iye ankangofuna kuti mwamuna wake amuthandize koma sankadziwa chifukwa chimene ankamvera choncho.

Anali ndi vuto lodzidalira'

Anazindikira kuti kwa zaka zambiri, anasiya kugwira ntchito yopindulitsa ndipo nthawi zambiri sankachita chilichonse kuti akule bwino maganizo ndi uzimu, zomwe zikanamuthandiza kumanga ubale wanzeru ndi mwamuna wake.

Chotero, iye anayamba kutaya chidaliro mwa iye mwini, mwapang’onopang’ono ndi mokhazikika. Komanso, kusadziyimira pawokha pazachuma kumabweretsa mantha ena ndi kudzikwiyira.

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Zifukwa zomwe zinapangitsa kuti akhale wopanda chimwemwe

Zina mwa zinthu zomwe zinkamulepheretsa kukhala wosangalala ndi kusadzidalira, kusalankhulana, kuopa kutaya chibwenzi komanso kusowa cholinga m’moyo.

Ndondomeko ya chithandizo cha Ria inaphatikizapo kuphunzira kuganizira zomwe angathe kuchita, kugwira ntchito yopindulitsa komanso kupeza tanthauzo komanso kuphunzira momwe angalankhulire bwino ndi wokondedwa wake. Nthawi ina, adayamba kumasuka pakhungu lake, zizindikiro zake zidatha.

Anasiya kunena kuti: Ndikufuna chisamaliro kuchokera kwa mwamuna wanga. Anasiya kundisamalira. Mwamuna wanga sakundizindikira. Mwamuna wanga amandinyalanyaza m'maganizo. Mwamuna wanga amanyalanyaza mafoni ndi mauthenga anga. Mwamuna wanga safuna kuchita nane chilichonse.

Imeneyi inali sitepe yoyamba ya kukhala ndi maganizo abwino chifukwa anayamba kudzichitira yekha m’malo moika maganizo ake onse pa mwamunayo.

Mwamuna wake anayamba kumvetsera

Pamene khalidwe lake ndi momwe amachitira zinthu zinasintha, mwamuna wake anayamba kumumvera bwino ndipo anavomera kufunafuna thandizo pa mavuto ena omwe anachititsa kuti ubale wawo ukhale wovuta. Uphungu wa mabanja unathandiza kulimbitsanso ubale wawo.

Nkhani ya Ria siili yokha. Nkhani zaubwenzi, kusowa chidwi ndi moyo watsiku ndi tsiku, kusungulumwa, kukwiya komanso kusachita zinthu mosaganizira bwino zimasautsa anthu ambiri masiku ano.

Izi zimachitika chifukwa anthu amakonda kuyang'ana chimwemwe chawo chonse mwa okondedwa awo. Sizingatheke kuti mnzawo aziwapatsa chisamaliro cha 100% nthawi zonse chifukwa atha kukhala otanganidwa ndi ntchito, kukhala opsinjika. Ngati mkazi nthawi zonse amayang’ana kufunika kwa mwamuna wake akhoza kuvutika maganizo ngati mmene Ria anachitira.

Ngati nthawi zonse mumati, “Mwamuna wanga wasiya kundisamalira,” ndiye kuti mukukakamiza kwambiri munthu wosaukayo. Mukumaliza kukhala mkazi wodandaula kumuuza nthawi zonse kuti sakusamalani.

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Kusazindikira kufunika kothana ndi mavuto amisala munthawi yake kumawonjezera vutoli. Nthawi zambiri, kufunafuna thandizo kwa katswiri wodziwa zamaganizo kumapindula kwambiri ndipo kumabweretsa chisangalalo ndi chisangalalo kwa anthu ambiri.

Ria sakunenanso kuti, “Ndikufuna chisamaliro cha mwamuna wanga” ndipo mwamuna wake wamvetsetsanso mmene manja osavuta ndi kusonyeza chikondi n’zofunika kwambiri kuti pakhale ubwenzi wolimba.

Zimandisangalatsa kuwaona akusangalala. Nthawi zina kugwedezeka pang'ono m'njira yoyenera ndizo zonse zomwe mukufunikira kuti mubweretse kusintha kwa ubale wanu. Ndine wokondwa kuti Ria adabwera kwa ine ndipo nditha kubweretsa kusintha kwabwino pamoyo wake.

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