(Monga adauza Pulkit Vasudha)
Osati tsopano, wokondedwa, adatero
M'ndandanda wazopezekamo
Ndinamva chisangalalo chodziwika bwino pamene ndinakulunga manja anga m'chiuno mwake ndikugwedeza milomo yanga pakhosi pake. Anandiyang'ana m'maso mwanga mwachisoni, nandiyang'ana modzisunga ndikutembenuka.
Masiku amene thupi langa lonse linkavutitsidwa ndi chilakolako chogonana anali atapita kale. Pambuyo pa zaka zisanu ndi ziŵiri m’chibwenzi chosagonana mosagonana, ndinali nditaimirira. Ndinkamukondabe, ndinkamulakalaka, ndipo ndinkamulakalaka monga mmene ndinkachitira poyamba tinkakondana. Patangotha milungu ingapo titayamba chibwenzi, moyo wathu wogonana unayamba kuchepa, mpaka miyezi itatu, ndinali kumupempha kuti azikondana nane, kuti andigwire monga momwe amafunira. Tsopano, tinkagonana movuta kamodzi kapena kawiri pachaka.
Tinkakondana kwambiri
Banja lathu linali lopanda chikondi, lopanda kugonana. Anandisangalatsa m'njira zambiri koma kusagonana kowawa kunandikulira. Ndinakhala masiku akudabwa chifukwa chomwe samandipeza ndili wachigololo. Ndinachita chiyani kuti ndizimitse? Kodi anali kuona wina? Kodi anali gay mobisa kapena kuvala mobisa kapena kumangokhalira kuonera zolaula? Ndikanatani kuti ndilumikizane nayenso?
Ndidayesa kulankhula naye nthawi zambiri za zokhumba zake, malingaliro ake, moyo wake wakale wakugonana, ziyembekezo zake pa zathu - kuyesa kopanda pake kuthana ndi phompho laubwenzi m'miyoyo yathu. Ankakhala ndi mutu wake m’manja, akudzigwetsera m’manja mwa kukhumudwa kwake. Ananena kuti amafuna kuti tizikondana, tizikondana kwambiri. Ndipo ndimafuna kuti ndimukhulupirire, ndinkafunitsitsa nditamukhulupirira, koma mwakuthupi tinakhala alendo kwa wina ndi mzake. Ndinaona kuwawa m'maso mwake, "Zakhala nthawi yayitali, sindikudziwa kuti ndingakugwire bwanji, kuti ndikugwirenso."
Kudziko, tinali banja losangalala
Tinali ndi ana awiri okongola. Kudziko, tinali otanganidwa m'chipinda chogona koma kunena zoona, ukwati wathu unali wodzala ndi zowawa ndi mikangano yokhudza kugonana. Lingaliro loti tisiyane lidabwera m’mutu mwanga, koma chikondi chathu chinali champhamvu kwambiri moti sitikanachitaya.
Ndidatsitsa Tinder koma palibe m'modzi mwa anyamata okondana omwe adandilimbikitsa kuti ndisunthe kumanja. Ndinkaganiziranso za gigolos - omwe ankadziwa kuti ndizochuluka komanso zopezeka! Koma ndinazindikira kuti ndinali naye kale mwamuna yemwe ndinkamufuna - chifukwa chiyani sanandifune?
Mabulogu ndi magazini adatsindika kuti chikondi chimakhalapo nthawi yayitali kugonana kwatha, koma palibe amene adalankhula za kusowa kwa kugonana kuyambira pachiyambi cha ubale waukulu. Zinali zodabwitsa kuti anzanga ambiri anali m’maukwati opanda kugonana ofananawo. Wina anali ndi ubale womwe unatsikira ku kusinthana kwa mphatso zogulidwa m'makiosks a ndege. Wina anali ndi tchuthi chosangalatsa chazaka zinayi asanasamalire ana komanso kupsinjika kwaukadaulo kupha moyo wake wogonana. Njira inanso muubwenzi wozunza wazaka 15 ndipo wina wake anali kumunyengerera. Kugawana nkhani zathu, zowawa ndi nthabwala zopanda pake zokhudzana ndi moyo wosagonana ndi zibwenzi zinali zowopsa.
Patapita miyezi ingapo titayamba chibwenzi, ndinapempha mwamuna wanga kuti akaone dokotala wa zamaganizo. Iye anati: “Sindifunika kuonana ndi munthu aliyense. Pomaliza, patatha zaka zisanu, nditamuwopseza kuti ndichoka, adapita kukaonana ndi mlangizi wogonana, kenako tinapita limodzi kukalangizidwa zaukwati. Ngakhale kuti sizinagwire ntchito ndipo mwamuna wanga sankatha kufotokozabe kuti alibe chidwi ndi kugonana, ndinaona kuti anali wofunitsitsa kulankhula.
Patapita miyezi ingapo, tinali kupanga mindandanda ya zochita mu kope pamene ine ndinamuyang'ana iye mwamasewera, mobisa ndikuyembekeza kuti izi sizikanabweretsanso mkangano wina ndi maola akukhala chete.
Zinthu tsopano zikuyenda bwino
Ndinamupempha kuti alembe zinthu zina zimene anaphonya zokhudza kugonana. Anali ndi mphindi zisanu.
Ankawoneka wosatsimikizika koma analemba '1. Tsikira pa iye'. "Chabwino, pitirizani." Atamaliza zisanu ndi ziwiri, ndinalemba zinthu zisanu ndi ziwiri zomwe ndinaphonya. Lembanso zisanu ndi ziwiri, ndidatero. Panopa tinali titasiya zinthu zimene tinaphonya ndipo tinali kukambirana za zinthu zimene timafuna. Tinayamba kugwirira ntchito limodzi, kuthandizana, kupanga malingaliro, kufunsa mafunso. Titamaliza tinali ndi mndandanda wa nambala 31. Mwezi wathu wogonana. Tinali ndi nthawi yokonzekera.
Tsiku lotsatira, kuyembekezera kunali kuwonetseratu kokwanira. Kumverera kokhumbidwa ndi kusangalala kunali kosangalatsa ndipo kunakhazikitsa kamvekedwe ka mwezi wotsatira. Nthaŵi zina tinkadikirira mpaka ana atagona, koma nthaŵi zambiri tinkazembera panthaŵi yake kuti tichite ntchitoyo masana. Panali masiku otopa ndikungocheza koma zinalibe kanthu. Ndinali ndi mwamuna wanga ndipo tidapezanso mojo wathu.
Ukwati wopanda kugonana - Kodi pali chiyembekezo chilichonse?
Pewani kwambiri maganizo odzipha pamene akukanidwa m’chikondi
Chopereka chanu sichikutanthauza chopereka chachifundo . Chidzalola Bonobology kupitiliza kukubweretserani chidziwitso chatsopano komanso chaposachedwa poyesetsa kuthandiza aliyense padziko lonse lapansi kuphunzira momwe angachitire chilichonse.
Zabwino kwambiri. Khama lalikulu la mkazi pakumvetsetsa & kutembenuza zinthu. Iye anadikira moleza mtima, ndipo anachititsa mwamunayo kulankhula ndi kukonza zinthu zolimbikitsa. Ndi kudzoza kwa maanja ambiri. Masiku ano, akazi ena amakonda kubera amuna awo m'malo moti apeze njira zothetsera mavuto m'banja. Komanso pali akazi ena ngakhale osakambirana ziyembekezo zawo kapena mavuto ndi mwamuna ngakhale kukhala ndi ubwenzi wabwino mu ubwenzi koma kugona ndi munthu wachitatu ndi kufufuza zosiyanasiyana pansi usiku umodzi maimidwe kapena nkhani ndi chilakolako ndi kudzikonda ndi kunena kuti amakonda mwamuna wawo. Iyi ndi nthano yachikale momwe mkazi wachikondi amachitira ndi vuto m'malo mosokera pachibwenzi.
Ichi ndi chidutswa chabwino kwambiri chomwe ndachiwerenga kwa nthawi yayitali chokhudza maukwati. Amapereka chiyembekezo chochuluka kwa maanja ena omwe ali mumikhalidwe yofanana. Kulankhulana, koyenda bwino komanso kopita patsogolo ndiye fungulo lomwe ndimakhulupirira kuti lidathandizira kuthetsa vutoli…Wosangalala kuwona kuti zathetsedwa.