Kodi Kusakwatira Kumatanthauza Chiyani Komanso Kukhala Opanda Kugonana?

Ndife mitundu yokhayo yomwe imagonana chifukwa chosangalala. Kugonana konse ndi chiwonetsero cha malingaliro amati ena ophunzira anzeru - koma ndikupempha kuti ndisiyane. Pali zaka zogonana zapakati pa unyamata mpaka zaka makumi asanu pamene thupi limabedwa ndi mphamvu ya mahomoni kuti ifike pogonana. N’zachibadwa kuti pafupifupi zamoyo zonse zimagwirizana pa nthawi yoikidwiratu. Momwemonso anthu, komabe tikuwoneka kuti timakonda kugonana mosasamala kanthu za zofunikira zogonana komanso chaka chonse. Ndife mitundu yokhayo yomwe imagonana chifukwa chosangalala. Apa ndipamene gawo lalikulu la malingaliro limabwera.

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Tanthauzo la dikishonale la kusakwatiwa ndi kusakwatiwa ndi kugonana. Monga “wansembe amene anachita lumbiro la kusakwatira”. Koma nthawi zonse funso limakhala lakuti 'ndidzilerenji?' Nchifukwa chiyani mukufuna kukana thupi kuti likhale lokongola? Mwachionekere ndi wabwino kwa thanzi lakuthupi ndi lamaganizo. Nanga n’cifukwa ciani?

Pali maanja amene asankha dala kukhala osakwatiwa. Kafukufuku wina wasonyeza kuti mabanja angapo achichepere m’boma la Gujarat asankha kusakwatira m’banja. Atafunsidwa kuti n’chifukwa chiyani anasankha kukhala limodzi, yankho linali lakuti amasangalala kukhala ndi ubwenzi komanso kuti ndalama ziziyenda bwino. Ndi zitsanzo za mmene tingakhalire osakwatira ndi osangalala. Ndiye kodi amaletsa zofuna zawo zakugonana kapena ndi kuchepa kwachilengedwe kwa zilakolako zakugonana? Ngakhale sindingathe kuyankha funsoli nditha kugawana zifukwa zanga zosankha kusakwatira.

Ubwino wa kusakwatira

Mungadabwe kuti ubwino wa kusakwatira ndi wotani kwenikweni pamene kulikonse ubale wabwino wogonana umaonedwa ngati gwero la chisangalalo m'banja. Ndipotu, pali anthu ambiri omwe amasankha kusakwatira atatha kugonana. Mayi wina amene anasankha kusakwatira kwa zaka zisanu ndi chimodzi atatha kuganizira zinthu zosiyanasiyana zokhudza kugonana komanso chizolowezi chogonana analemba mu blog yake kuti zinamuthandiza kwambiri chifukwa zinamupatsa chidwi kwambiri, anagwiritsa ntchito mphamvu zake zogonana kuti azitha kupanga zinthu zatsopano, panalibe mantha otenga matenda ogonana ndipo anamva kuti ali ndi luso lotha kugwiritsa ntchito mfundozo ndikugwiritsa ntchito bwino.

Kusiyana pakati pa kusakwatira ndi kudziletsa ndikuti anthu amasiya mpaka atakwatirana kapena mpaka atapeza munthu woyenera kugonana naye. Koma kusakwatira ndi chisankho chachikulu, chokhalitsa ndipo akakwatirana anthu awiri ayenera kukhala ofanana. Ngati okwatirana ali osakwatira zimathandiza kumvetsetsa bwino mgwirizano wamaganizo komwe kugonana sikuloledwa ndipo mwina pali chikondi chochulukirapo chomwe chimakhudzana ndi kukumbatirana ndi kupsompsonana komwe sikutha ndi kugonana kolowera. Kudziseweretsa maliseche kumaloledwa mu kusakwatira, ngakhale anthu awiri akhoza kuchita nthawi imodzi koma sipangakhale kugonana kulikonse ngati mukudzitcha nokha kuti ndinu okwatirana osakwatira.

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Momwe Moyo Wanga Unakhalira Wopanda Kugonana

Ndinkadziona ngati mkazi wokonda kwambiri kugonana. Ndinkaganiza zogonana mosalekeza monga momwe amuna ambiri amachitira. Komanso sindinali ndi ulamuliro wachipembedzo kapena chikhalidwe kuti ndichepetse malingaliro oipa. Chifukwa chake ndinali ngati mbalame yomasuka m'maganizo mwanga. Komabe, ndinakhalanso mkati mwa malire ndipo sindinalowe nawo msasa wa Osho womwe unali pamtunda wa makilomita 10 kuchokera kunyumba kwanga ku Pune. Ndinasunga bwino zomwe ndikufuna komanso zomwe ndingachite - moyenera. Sindinali munthu wokonda kugonana - wolima dimba kapena woyendetsa basi sakanatha kundiyambitsa, ndimafunikira kulumikizana ndi anthu anzeru ndisanasiye kudziletsa kapena zovala zanga. Komanso, ndimafunikira kukhala pachikondi. Chimenecho ndi chipata chachikulu cholowera.

Ndinataya unamwali wanga ndili ndi zaka 18

Ndinayamba ulendo wanga wogonana ndili ndi zaka 18 ndipo ndasankha bwino okwatirana nawo kapena m'malo mwake ndinapeza zovuta kupeza munthu woyenera ndipo ndinakhala nthawi yayitali osagonana. Ndikanakhala kuti ndinabadwira m'badwo uno ndikuganiza kuti ndikanatha kuthetsa vutoli mwa kukhala ndi chibwenzi cha usiku umodzi. M'nthawi yanga anthu ambiri ankayembekezera njira zovomerezeka zomangira ukwati wawo ndi kugonana.

Imeneyo inali njira yomwe inali yosatheka kwa ine pazifukwa ziwiri, ndinali wotsutsa kwambiri kupereka malowolo, ndipo mchimwene wanga anali kulimbana ndi vuto la maganizo lomwe linali loipa kwambiri m'dera lathu. Chifukwa cha mantha akulu ndinadzipatsa ufulu wofufuza za kugonana ndisanakwatiwe . Chifukwa chake, zaka makumi atatu zapitazi ndinakumana ndi zovuta zambiri zokhudzana ndi kugonana. Ngakhale kuti amuna anga anali anayi okha, anali okwanira kundigawa m'zigawo chikwi, m'maganizo ndi m'maganizo.

Zomwe ndinkafuna kwenikweni

Kenako pafupifupi zaka 8 zapitazo pamene ndinakwanitsa zaka 50, ndinasinkhasinkha zomwe ndimafunadi. Ndinali ndi ana awiri akuluakulu ndipo ndinalibe mwamuna kapena wokondedwa. Ndinkafuna kubwerera kwa mwana wazaka 14 uja, yemwe anali wangwiro, wathunthu komanso wathunthu. Anali wokonda popanda mwamuna, anali wosangalala; anali wogwirizana ndi chilengedwe komanso chilengedwe. Ndinkafuna kukhala mtsikana wamng'ono ameneyo. Ndinayamba kusinkhasinkha zaka 20 zapitazo ndipo ndinapeza mayankho anga kuchokera ku mawu anga amkati kapena kuchokera ku gwero la Mulungu, kudzera mu kusinkhasinkha kapena m'maloto anga. Ndipo pamenepo ndinaganiza kuti nditha kukhala bwino popanda izi - kugonana. Kodi ndimafuna kugonana? Mwina. Koma amunawo anali ataika malire apamwamba kwambiri. Onse anali okongola kwambiri komanso abwino kwambiri pabedi. Ndinasangalala ndi kugonana kwa tantric komanso moyo wanga wonse wogonana nthawi zambiri. Ndikanapemphanso chiyani china? Choncho ndinaganiza zongokhala wosakwatira nditachita zogonana kwa nthawi yayitali ndikusangalala nazo mokwanira.

Kodi ndili ndi nkhawa pa chisankho chofuna kukhala wosakwatira?

Palibe! Ndili bata, wokhutira ndipo ndimachita maliseche kuti ndisamalire dziko la Netherlands. Mkazi aliyense ayenera kutero, kuti chiberekero chake chikhale pamalo ake komanso kuti minofu ya m'chiuno ikhale yathanzi. Kodi ndimakopekabe ndi amuna? Ayi. Sindikumvanso choncho kwa akale anga. Kodi chinasintha n'chiyani? Mtendere ndi bata zomwe zimadzaza m'maganizo mwanga, komanso kukhala ndekha komwe kumandipangitsa kukhala wanzeru, kutali ndi zovuta ndi zowawa zomwe maubwenzi ogonana amabweretsa.

Ndipo ngati tikukamba za zotsatira za kusakwatira kwa amayi. Ndikayang'ana mkati mwanga ndikukhazika mtima pansi. Palibe nkhawa, zowawa kapena nsanje zomwe zimabwera chifukwa cha maubwenzi ogonana. Ndili ndi anzanga, banja kwenikweni, amene analowa dongosolo lachipembedzo ndi

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